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    Not Fade Away: Staying Happy When You're Over 64
    Not Fade Away: Staying Happy When You're Over 64
    Not Fade Away: Staying Happy When You're Over 64
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    Not Fade Away: Staying Happy When You're Over 64

    By Alan Heeks

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    Not Fade Away: Staying happy when you're over 64! is the new book by resilience writer Alan Heeks, offering guidance to the baby boomer generation for enjoying their vintage years, and growing through the tough parts of getting older. Now 69, Alan is deeply engaged with the issues in this new book. Alan Heeks says: "The late sixties and beyond are a landmark: a good time to choose what you want from the years ahead, and take stock of the story so far. This short, practical book offers simple guidelines to find your bearings and make sense of the sixties and seventies. This is a time of big transition, potentially a time of new freedom. But it's also a time for facing challenges, which is why navigating your way forward skilfully at this age is so important. The book will also be a helpful guide for those in their fifties, offering inspiration and helpful foresight for the road ahead."

    With chapter titles named after iconic Sixties songs - from Good Vibrations and All Along the Watchtower to My Generation and Sunshine of Your Love - Not Fade Away is arranged in three main sections. 'Finding your Gifts' helps you appreciate the good things in your life, add to them, and make the best of your resources. With advice on silver dating, friendships, family dynamics and different kinds of communities and groups, it also shares advice on finding more meaning and purpose and provides ideas for creating fresh adventures. 'Digging the Challenges' contains guidance and resources for dealing with difficulties such as failing health, fears of growing older, and grieving lost loved ones, and shares positive ways to meet your financial needs. And finally, 'Fresh Maps', complete with advice from a range of role models, provides insights for changing unhelpful patterns and for becoming a 'wise elder', and shares useful hints, forecasts and opportunities for the decade ahead. All proceeds from the book will be donated to the charity Action for Happiness www.actionforhappiness.org/.

    Not Fade Away also explores what we can learn from the spirit of the Sixties. With so many music and movie stars from the era still vibrant and performing at 70 plus - from Mick Jagger and Judi Dench to Terence Stamp and Judy Collins - what can we learn from their journey through the decades, and how the Sixties shaped them? Alan Heeks says: "One benefit of these uncertain times we live in is that patterns and precedents are breaking down, so we're more free to suit ourselves. There are people starting families and big new projects in their seventies; there are people relishing a quieter, slower pace; and there are people facing death or major illness. Whatever you're facing, believe that you have more choices, more resources and more support than you imagine. Trust that life is inviting you to find your way. I hope you'll find Not Fade Away a useful resource in that process, shining a light on your best way forward."

    Julie Felix, the 1960's folk star, endorses Alan's book: "I feel lucky to have been part of the Sixties. I feel lucky to still be singing what Bob Marley calls "these songs of freedom". And in the autumn of my years I'm glad I can reach out and find a song to sing. Growing old is a challenge and Alan's book can make the journey less daunting and more fun."
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAlan Heeks
    Release dateApr 18, 2018
    ISBN9781912643110
    Not Fade Away: Staying Happy When You're Over 64

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      Not Fade Away - Alan Heeks

      Chapter One

      Rave On: finding your way in the vintage years

      HOW DO YOU FEEL about your late sixties, or being in your seventies? It’s a big transition: maybe a time of new freedom, but also a time for facing challenges. That’s why finding your way at this age matters: you’ll need to find the upsides for yourself!

      If you were born in the 1940s or 1950s, you probably grew up with the Biblical idea that three score years and ten is the normal life span. Back then, many people did die in their sixties or seventies. So to be alive and moderately healthy at 70 is a surprise – it gives a sense of being on borrowed time, or going off the map.

      The aim of this book is to offer you some simple, practical maps to find your bearings and make sense of the sixties and seventies. It’s an age that brings some new worries for most of us, but also an age when we have more choices and resources than we may realise.

      This book won’t tell you what to think or how to be. It will offer you new skills, new ways to understand your situation, and draw on experience from others. I’ve been leading personal development workshops, and taking part in them, for twenty-five years, so I’ve shared deeply in many people’s life stories, as well as exploring my own.

      I’m writing this book for myself as much as anyone. My seventieth birthday is only months away, and I’m apprehensive. Despite being an optimist at heart, there’s a lot about being this old that’s bothering me. So this book is a true exploration for me too, and I hope it enables us all to be truly happy at 70 and beyond.

      Using this book

      This is a self-help book: it’s intended to help you to live more happily, and work through issues which are bothering you. The book has three main sections. First, Finding your Gifts, to help you appreciate the benefits in your life, add to them, and use your resources. Secondly, Digging the Challenges, which offers you ways to understand and work on difficulties. Lastly, Fresh Maps, which provides some new tools for understanding, and includes insights and advice from a range of people.

      My allocation of topics between gifts and challenges has to be a guess, and won’t fit for everyone. In any case, some parts of your life, such as family, may be both a boon and a problem. I’ve tried to address both upsides and downsides for all topics.

      There are many ways to use this book, including reading it right through, or diving into the topic that’s of most interest. However, if you’re reading this book to resolve a problem, I suggest spending some time looking at Finding your Gifts first. Appreciating positives about yourself and your life can give you better morale and confidence to dig into a challenge.

      You’ll find a number of self-help methods and checklists all through the book. It may be helpful to ask a friend to support you with some of these processes: a second perspective and help from someone else can make it easier. Keeping a journal of your insights and progress may also be useful.

      Using this book: if you’re not a Baby Boomer

      Although this book is focussed on readers age 64 to 75, much of it should be helpful for readers younger or older than this. Here are some tips on using the book for other age groups.

      Under 50: this book can help you understand and relate to parents, colleagues, friends who are from a quite different generation. You may just see the Baby Boomers as a privileged group who had State benefits you’ll never see: that may be true, but there’s a fuller picture which this book can show you. The other benefit could be a sense of what’s ahead for you, which could help shape your priorities.

      50-63: I see this as the midlife transition phase, which has some different issues from 64-75. However, some factors, like changing family dynamics, are similar. This age group may benefit a lot from appreciating the next life stage that’s coming towards them.

      75 plus: these days, there are many people in their seventies, eighties and beyond who are still healthy and active, and who will find a lot of this book relevant. While seventy may be a classic transition point, making the changes later is better than not at all!

      Landscapes of life: the 70 watershed

      One inspiration for this book was my 93-year-old mother telling me how she finds old age a good time for making sense of the landscapes of her life. Even at the younger stage of 70, this idea of looking back over your life like a series of landscapes feels helpful.

      The term watershed is often used for a big transition: literally, it means a ridge or high point in a landscape, from which rivers flow in opposite directions. Can you find a physical landscape image for how turning 70 feels for you? My image is from a favourite drive west of Salisbury, where the A354 climbs and curves up a small valley, out of the lowlands, until the road runs high along the chalk downs with views for miles, across valleys, towards far hills.

      What this image means for me is climbing out of complexity, and also leaving other people (the lowland villages) somewhat behind: emerging into a clear, wide space with few defining features, where I can see all round me: back to the past, ahead of me, and off to both sides.

      This is not a landscape where many people live: it’s beautiful, but bare and windswept up here. I believe that turning 70 offers us a chance to find this clear space, get more perspective, leave some baggage behind, and make some conscious choices about where we set our direction for the years ahead. This includes friendships, partnership, and our whole social network, which get more important at this age.

      The various chapter topics should help you in this process. And keep in mind the idea of finding your way forward. One benefit of these uncertain times is that patterns and precedents are breaking down, so we’re more free to suit ourselves. There are people starting families and big new projects in their seventies; there are people relishing a quieter, slower pace; and there are people facing death or major illness.

      Whatever you’re facing, believe that you have more choices, more resources, more support than you imagine. Trust that life is inviting you to find your way, whatever that may be.

      Self-help process 1: Three wishes

      Imagine there’s an Ageing Fairy who pops out of this book, and offers you three wishes: whatever you want that would help you at this life stage. Just write down what comes up for you:

      1.

      2.

      3.

      Use these three wishes to guide the way you use this book. Believe that magic can happen, your wishes may come true.

      RESOURCES

      You’ll find a guide to further resources at the end of most chapters. This is a short book, so it can’t cover topics in depth, but it can show you ways to do that.

      There are three books I recommend for a deeper overview:

      The Warmth of the Heart Prevents Your Body from Rusting: Ageing Without Growing Old

      by Marie de Hennezel. ISBN-13: 978-190574484-8

      One of the best books I’ve found on ageing: especially useful for the young-old, who, as Marie observes, are often terrified of being old-old. This is a positive, practical guide to enjoying life at any age beyond fifty.

      New Passages: Mapping Your Life Across Time

      by Gail Sheehy. ISBN-13: 978-000255619-4

      This is a brilliant overview of the sequence of life stages which most people go through, with the differences for men and women, and insights on how to face them more easily.

      Out of the Woods: A Guide to Life for Men Beyond

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