The Masculine Heart: What Makes Men Tick
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Emmanuel Hriso, MD Chairman, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health, Christ Hospital, Jersey City, NJ. Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry, UMDNJ, Robert Wood Johnson Medical School
A tour de force journey into the masculine heart. The undetected and behind the scene tragedies suffered by little boys and young men not only at home, but also in consumer culture, come to light. A holistic account of how men become wounded within the nest and outside of it. Distorted definitions of male success by corporate and media profits before people consciousness, sets the stage for this unraveling poetic tale of burned out, exploited and psychologically unsuccessful fathers and sons. In an uncommon and distinctive voice, Kandarjian invites the forces that perpetuate the development of the false male self to refl ect upon the massive damage and consider brotherly options. Ultimately, a contemporary male narrative about self-possession: possession of emotions, intuitive instincts, reason, and drive. Finally, a book that redefines male power for the 21st century and competently anchors it into the charitable heart.
Robert A. Kandarjian
Dr. Robert Kandarjian has been practicing integrative body-mind therapy since 1983. A Chiropractor and Healing Touch Practitioner, he employs holistic and spiritual approaches to healing and is a consultant to businesses that utilize his value-based stressmanagement principles. Nationwide, he conducts “The Masculine Heart” seminars for men, and teaches “Intuitive Energy Healing” to healthcare professionals. His two other books are: Sacred Intentions and Life and Afterlife, Q & A. www.drrobertheals.com
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The Masculine Heart - Robert A. Kandarjian
Contents
Acknowledgement
Preface: Father and son
Introduction
PART ONE
Lost
A letter from Joe
Note 1
Will # 1
Note 2
Will # 2
He Warrior
Note 3
Will # 3
Note 4
Will # 4
PART TWO
A letter from the boys
Note 5
Will # 5
Note 6
Will # 6
Note 7
Superhero
Will # 7
Note 8
The king who could not laugh
Will # 8
Found
Afterword: Resources
Acknowledgement
I am deeply grateful to all those patients, both men and women, whose stories and accounts about the male heart have expanded my awareness and understanding of men’s issues. I remain humbled by their personal conflicts and search for truth and regard them as my teachers.
I am grateful to the following colleagues and friends who have for years graciously afforded me invaluable discussions on the subject of men: Anthony Santore DC, Emmanuel Hriso MD, Meliné Karakashian, PhD., Mr. Karen Ambartsoumean, Sheila Pearl MSW, Diana Kalfayan MSW, Seta Shahinian, Amy Rozen LCH, Indira Darst R.N., Jean Marie Rosone MSW, Rachel Gates, Angela Vanario, Stephen Bryant, and of course my brother Vahe. From those discussions I’ve gained a deeper understanding about the challenges we men face, and on a personal note, a greater clarity about my personal healing process. I thank a trio of talent and power: Debbie Peterson for your inexhaustible support in moving this manuscript to print, Jennifer Comras for your laser beam focus and sage advice, and Deana Valente for your caring guidance and cheerleading enthusiasm.
I thank my childhood buddies who have taught me bravery, humility and joy. I want to especially acknowledge and thank my family for their enduring love, patience and support throughout my life; their consistent affection for me has been and remains the anchor from which I draw lessons, purpose, and joy.
Preface: Father and son
To any little kid growing up in one of the undesirable
neighborhoods of Beirut in the 50s and 60s, the stench of poverty and injustice was a detectable odor that hovered over the streets and permeated the soft faces of the innocent. It was all very loud, very boisterous, in your face, a take it or leave it quarter where most kids would inevitably abandon sweetness to some cursed dimension and reluctantly adjust to a daily rhythm of despair and violence. I never went back since I left that place at fourteen, and more often than I would like to admit, resented my father for not getting us all out of there sooner. I wanted him to rescue us, be my hero, but I did not know his story. I wanted so desperately to know his story but he buried it with him on a sunny October day in 1989. I wanted to know his story so we could feel something permanent, radiant, so I could anchor and construct my male story. Instead, what we inevitably constructed between us was a painfully recognized distance, a fracture.
He had physically survived the Armenian Genocide as a little boy but had not escaped the psychic wounds of that horror. He did his best as most fathers do, but he would not or could not tell his tale to his children. His tale was deeply buried and I believe he felt it must remain buried in order to protect his children from the dark forces that had killed his father, all the men in his family, and most of the Armenian inhabitants of his town. Lebanon was a lesser hell to him than his childhood town in Eastern Anatolia so why was I complaining? The mixture of feelings about the dangerous alleys of Beirut and an inaccessible father gradually evaporated my childhood bliss and stirred to surface my probing whys. Why the madness on the streets, the numbness, the silence, the fracture? Why became my comforter, redeemer and best friend. If I could answer the whys I can reclaim my aliveness, my father, my story, and thus move forward. But children can’t move forward when their storytellers have sealed their lips. Yes, many who knew my father would attest to his very few words, but when one paid careful attention, one could detect in his gentle and mild-mannered deeds the call to selfless action. His heart wanted the world to burst open and invite goodness and mercy because he had known and lived their opposites.
This book could not have materialized if it wasn’t for my Lebanese years and if I wasn’t the son of a silent storyteller. This book is his voice and perhaps the end of his silence, and I trust the end of our fracture as father and son. I thank my childhood alleys and streets and am eternally grateful to my Baba, who resides safely in the sanctuary of God’s grace.
Introduction
After much storytelling, guidance and training from his father, grandfathers and uncles, the male hero in legendary stories and myths leaves the nest of his loving mother and the comforts of his home to embark upon his journey into manhood. He tackles down beasts and overcomes challenges and through