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    Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia: The Marriage of Sex, Love and God
    Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia: The Marriage of Sex, Love and God
    Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia: The Marriage of Sex, Love and God
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    Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia: The Marriage of Sex, Love and God

    By Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

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    God was in one corner, sex in the other. They were segregated, separated, split off. The two were as distantly related as the east is from the west, as night from day. They had nothing in common.


    As for God, well, God wasGod! And what could be better than that? Being God was everything that represented good, including, of course, sex.


    And sex? Well, sex was just sex. It was fun. But mostly it was an essential procreative aspect of life. Under appropriate terms, and in specific settings, it could be a fairly wondrous thing, to explore, to appreciate, but the terms were usually, and most relevantly, within the strict context of marriage, or, at the very least, in that of a deeply committed relationship.


    Further terms included appropriateness of time and consumption, adherence to specific sexual patterns, restrictions in sexual thought, and much more. After all terms are met, one might then feel free to break off a little for himself, from time to time.


    Okay.


    All of that was in a past life that I used to live.


    No more.


    I had practiced what one might call oops, excuse me sex most of my young life, and deeply into my middle adult life too. Having recognized that I did not seem to possess the virtues and attributes of a priest, or a monk, I subtly took care of my sexual needs and expressions in the quickest and most expedient fashion possible, so that I could and I might add, with rapidity get back to put more important matters back in hand.


    No idea whatsoever was given to the fact that the celebration of sexual expression was an integral feature of those important matters.


    But, hey wait a minute! Sex is of the utmost importance to most every one of us! Where would we be, in fact, without it? We need it. We not only need it, we want it. Its good for us. Is this not true?


    So, here you have a different kind of perspective on certain things in life. As you read the book, see how it compares with what you think!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAuthorHouse
    Release dateJun 2, 2004
    ISBN9781418454012
    Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia: The Marriage of Sex, Love and God
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    Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

    Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut is a philosopher/writer on issues such as worldview, philosophy, personal memoir, spirituality, science, psychology, and many other general life issues. He is the author of 36 published and unpublished books, most written while residing in various locations between Central America and Indianapolis, Indiana. Michael now resides in Indianapolis with his wonderful wife, Tanya, their two German Shepherd’s, Teddy and The Bear, along with a large number of other animal, botanical, and biological life.

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      Loving Sensual Exchange the Encyclopedia - Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

      © 2004 Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

      All Rights Reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

      First published by AuthorHouse 05/21/04

      ISBN: 1-4184-5401-X (e)

      ISBN: 1-4184-5400-1 (sc)

      ISBN: 1-4184-5399-4 (dj)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2004093776

      Printed in the United States of America

      Bloomington, Indiana

      Intermixt Press International

      San Jose - Indianapolis

      IPI

      Some of the writings of:

      Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

      Life Notes

      Summer Letters

      Earth Dwelling

      Survival Thoughts for the Continually Depressed

      A Quiet Stream

      I Was Thinking

      How Long Have You Been Standing Here, God?

      Living the Waking Dream

      Loving Sensual Exchange

      My World: The First 50 Years

      San Juan: Glimpses in Time

      The Inquisition

      Forty Songs

      Bricks in the Wall

      Keeping it Real in an Unreal World

      Mountain Peaks: Elevated Glimpses into the High Life

      How Did We Get To Here?

      Worldview 101

      Remaking Michael

      Other Works in Progress:

      My Twelve Steps to Freedom

      Suckers: Surviving Life on an Insane Planet

      To Cuba, With Love

      In grateful acknowledgement of an invisible co-writer –

      a mysterious Phantom Woman, who’s personal

      Loving Sensual Exchanges continually kept me stirred…

      …Is it possible that sometimes our ghosts, so far from us,

      and so distant to us in our dreams, ever materialize,

      in some three-dimensional way, before our eyes?

      WARNING-DISCLAIMER

      This book is designed to provide basic information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher and author are not engaged in rendering legal, consultative or other professional services. If such expert assistance is required, the services of competent professionals should be sought.

      It is not the purpose of this book to reprint information that is otherwise available to the author/publisher or reader, but rather to compliment, amplify and supplement other texts. The reader is urged to read all the available material, and learn as much as is possible about life, tailoring the information to the individual path.

      Every effort has been made to make this book as accurate as possible. However, there may be mistakes both typographical and in content. Therefore, the text should be used only as a general guide, and not as the ultimate source of information related to these topics. Furthermore, this book contains information that may no longer be either relevant or accurate, as much as we all would like to think our words and thoughts are timeless.

      The primary purpose of this book is to educate and entertain. The author and publisher shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or indirectly by the information contained here.

      Contents

      WARNING-DISCLAIMER

      Huddle down here with me now…

      Let’s talk sex!

      Loving Sensual Exchange:

      Some more foreplay about the book…

      And finally, before we start:

      A word about the Phantom;

      just who is she?

      CHAPTER ONE BODY-MIND/MIND-BODY…

      Interval 1.1

      -Beauty and sex-

      The beauty of sexual union

      Interval 1.2

      -Beauty of women-

      Falling for beauty

      Interval 1.3

      -Body-

      The body test

      Interval 1.4

      -Body-

      The body sacred

      Interval 1.5

      -Body-

      Size matters

      Interval 1.6

      -Breasts-

      More on Breastesses’

      Interval 1.7

      -Dress and undress-

      Sexual dress (and undress)

      Interval 1.8

      -Perfection-

      The perfect 10

      Interval 1.9

      -Personal looks-

      She looked so good…

      Interval 1.10

      -Fantasy-

      Our deepest fantasies fulfilled…

      Interval 1.11

      -Higher consciousness-

      Towards the higher conscious state

      Interval 1.12

      -Illusions-

      A world full of illusion

      Interval 1.13

      -Inspiration and sex-

      Just as he was about to give up hope…

      Interval 1.14

      -Knowing verses believing-

      Personal knowings that guide relationships

      Interval 1.15

      -Labeling-

      On the inadequacy of a label

      Interval 1.16

      -Labeling-

      What is this?

      Interval 1.17

      -Limitlessness-

      Limits, limitlessness

      Interval 1.18

      -Mind-

      Creative space…

      Interval 1.19

      -Mind-

      Life on earth is a kaleidoscope

      Interval 1.20

      -Perspective and sex-

      The Song of Solomon

      Interval 1.21

      -Slow thoughts-

      Think slow…

      Interval 1.22

      -Spectrums-

      The spectrum range in our loving relationships

      Interval 1.23

      -Thoughts and sex-

      Today’s shocking headlines

      Interval 1.24

      -Thoughts and sex-

      Getting the big head

      Interval 1.25

      -Time and sex-

      The contest of time and space

      Interval 1.26

      -Words and meaning-

      The match of meaning

      CHAPTER TWO PAIN AND PROGRESS: OUCH! THE PAIN!

      Interval 2.1

      -Aloneness-

      Lone gunmen on the run

      Interval 2.2

      -Aloneness-

      I sometimes sit alone

      Interval 2.3

      -Facing fear-

      Please don’t leave me…

      Interval 2.4

      -Forever love-

      Nothing is forever – the temporary-ness of love

      Interval 2.5

      -Forever love-

      Forever isn’t…

      Interval 2.6

      -Jealousy-

      When is jealousy cool?

      Interval 2.7

      -Letting go-

      Gone…and forgotten

      Interval 2.8

      -Letting go-

      Getting over her…

      Interval 2.9

      -Living alone-

      Now that he lives alone…

      Interval 2.10

      -Loneliness-

      Mr. Lonely

      Interval 2.11

      -Loneliness-

      A glance down a lonely street…

      Interval 2.12

      -Loss of love-

      Losing our love

      Interval 2.13

      -Loss of love-

      Too-far-gone…

      Interval 2.14

      -Missing each other-

      Oh, baby, baby!

      Interval 2.15

      -Mistake repetition-

      Repeating the mistakes of our past…

      Interval 2.16

      -Pain and existence-

      Into one more painful night we go…

      Interval 2.17

      -Pain and love-

      The pain of love does not last forever

      Interval 2.18

      -Pain and love-

      Pain is not supposed to hurt

      Interval 2.19

      -Pain and sex-

      Pay to play: the intimate connection

      Interval 2.20

      -Pain and sex-

      The release of physical pain though the applications of sex

      Interval 2.21

      -Punishment and pleasure-

      The punishment of those whom we love

      Interval 2.22

      -Signals of love-

      Sending signals

      Interval 2.23

      -Violations of sex-

      A sexual violation…

      CHAPTER THREE

      PAIN AND PROGRESS: MAKING PROGRESS!

      Interval 3.1

      -Belonging-

      We all want to belong…

      Interval 3.2

      -Compromise-

      Compromise…or collide

      Interval 3.3

      -Conflict and resolution-

      Towards the resolution of conflict

      Interval 3.4

      -Differences-

      Celebrate! We’re different!

      Interval 3.5

      -Disclosure-

      Outside me – Inside me

      Interval 3.6

      -Equality-

      Equality: the demise of the double standard

      Interval 3.7

      -Expectations-

      She gives so much…

      Interval 3.8

      -Freedom-

      Total freedom

      Interval 3.9

      -Journeys-

      Relationships are a journey

      Interval 3.10

      -Momentum-

      Ride the crest…

      Interval 3.11

      -Projection-

      The human mirror

      Interval 3.12

      - Push – Pull -

      Tractor – trailer

      Interval 3.13

      -Rebirth-

      New birth in each now moment

      Interval 3.14

      -Reciprocity-

      We have each paid our debt

      Interval 3.15

      -Renewal-

      What keeps us coming back?

      Interval 3.16

      -Respect-

      As we show our respect

      Interval 3.17

      -Reunion-

      Coming together again…

      Interval 3.18

      -Separate togetherness-

      The paradox of separate togetherness

      Interval 3.19

      -Separate togetherness-

      Down time

      Interval 3.20

      -Winning/losing in love-

      The game of love: not a win or lose thing

      CHAPTER FOUR

      MORAL/SOCIAL ISSUES…

      Interval 4.1

      -Androgyny-

      The wonders of androgyny

      Interval 4.2

      -Baby-making-

      How it all comes to pass…

      Interval 4.3

      -Breeding games-

      The breeding game

      Interval 4.4

      -Casual sex-

      Casual verves loving sex

      Interval 4.5

      -Celibacy-

      The celibate life…

      Interval 4.6

      -Culture, The curse of-

      Culture’s curse

      Interval 4.7

      -Falling in love-

      Over and over I fall in love

      Interval 4.8

      -Girl-watching-

      I’m a girl-watch-her…

      Interval 4.9

      -Interpreting sex-

      Sexual Interpretation

      Interval 4.10

      -Judgment-

      Judge me not

      Interval 4.11

      -Judgment-

      Criticize, but don’t judge

      Interval 4.12

      -Language and love-

      Turn me on baby!

      Interval 4.13

      -Loyalty-

      Loyalty to our beloved

      Interval 4.14

      -Marriage and divorce-

      She’s married…I’m not

      Interval 4.15

      -Marriage and divorce-

      A dramatization for your reading pleasure…

      Interval 4.16

      -Marriage and divorce-

      The magic (?) of marriage

      Interval 4.17

      -Monogamy-

      Torn between two…

      Interval 4.18

      -Music lyrics-

      Song lyrics…let’s don’t get me started!

      Interval 4.19

      -Normality-

      There is no normal

      Interval 4.20

      -Opinions of others-

      Filtering out the static

      Interval 4.21

      -Opinions of sex-

      What’s your problem?

      Interval 4.22

      -Particularity-

      You need to be, for me, distinct

      Interval 4.23

      -Players-

      Playa! Playa!

      Interval 4.24

      -Quantity of sex-

      How many is enough?

      Interval 4.25

      -Reasons for sex-

      Why sex?

      Interval 4.26

      -Religion and sex-

      Sex, and the Christian life

      Interval 4.27

      -Religion and sex-

      Chapter seven, First Corinthians

      Interval 4.28

      -Romantic love-

      Wandering romantic love

      Interval 4.29

      -Romantic love-

      Exorcizing the demons of romance

      Interval 4.30

      -Same-sex sex-

      The world colored gay

      Interval 4.31

      -Seeking sex-

      Sex-seekers Anonymous

      Interval 4.32

      -Socialization needs-

      The social animal

      Interval 4.33

      -Soul mates-

      The one that got away

      Interval 4.34

      -Touch-

      Taboos against personal touch

      Interval 4.35

      -Touch-

      Careful you don’t bounce me!

      Interval 4.36

      -Unlearning-

      The un-learning of culture’s lessons

      CHAPTER FIVE

      UNIVERSAL/SPIRITUAL ISSUES…

      Interval 5.1

      -China and love-

      She was a Chinese girl…

      Interval 5.2

      -Choice and love-

      What do we really have here?

      Interval 5.3

      -Dark-skinned women-

      The darker the berry…

      Interval 5.4

      -Death and sex-

      Loving to live

      Interval 5.5

      -Eternal love-

      Love ain’t forever

      Interval 5.6

      -Evil/ugly sex-

      When is sex evil? When is it ugly?

      Interval 5.7

      -God and sex-

      It is the same: God and sex

      Interval 5.8

      -God and sex-

      Oh! To be God!

      Interval 5.9

      -Immanence of God-

      God’s indwelling

      Interval 5.10

      -Mind-body-spirit-

      The mind-body-spirit battle

      Interval 5.11

      -Oneness and sex-

      Oneness sex

      Interval 5.12

      -Oneness and sex-

      Sometimes love’s just like that…

      Interval 5.13

      -Prayer and love-

      Sending her my love…

      Interval 5.14

      -Racial purity-

      Racial purity and the act of love

      Interval 5.15

      -Sacred life-

      Every bit of it is sacred…

      Interval 5.16

      -Sacred sex-

      Deny not that which is sacred

      Interval 5.17

      -Sacred space-

      A space within…

      Interval 5.18

      -Spiritual sex appeal-

      Supercharged spiritual sex

      Interval 5.19

      -Spiritual testing-

      The ultimate relationship test

      CHAPTER SIX

      WORKING RELATIONSHIP ISSUES…

      Interval 6.1

      -Attitudes-

      Weakness and strength are attitudes

      Interval 6.2

      -Commonalities-

      Common ground…

      Interval 6.3

      -Communication-

      Talk to me baby…

      Interval 6.4

      -Communication-

      Tell her…

      Interval 6.5

      -Conditions of Love-

      No strings

      Interval 6.6

      -Conditions of Love-

      Product for service orientation

      Interval 6.7

      -Conditioning-

      The conditioning in the exchange

      Interval 6.8

      -Confidence-

      I ain’t trying to be everybody’s man!

      Interval 6.9

      -Control-

      Who’s here in charge?

      Interval 6.10

      -Cooperation-

      Working together works

      Interval 6.11

      -Effort and love-

      This should not be an effort

      Interval 6.12

      -Energy and love-

      Love energy

      Interval 6.13

      -Fighting-

      Opposite corners

      Interval 6.14

      -Harmony-

      Harmony, not victory

      Interval 6.15

      -Honesty and sex-

      Honesty – sexual and otherwise

      Interval 6.16

      -Honesty and sex-

      Playing games vs. keeping it real

      Interval 6.17

      -Limitations-

      Our limitations bring about the need for focus

      Interval 6.18

      -Negotiation-

      Hashing it out

      Interval 6.19

      -Openness

      Are you open? Are you closed?

      Interval 6.20

      -Ownership and sex-

      You don’t own me…

      Interval 6.21

      -Partnership-

      Partners in love

      Interval 6.22

      -Peace-

      An uneasy peace…

      Interval 6.23

      -Reasonableness-

      Checking unreasonableness

      Interval 6.24

      -Respect of time-

      Can you respect my time?

      Interval 6.25

      -Routine-

      Ritual and routine

      Interval 6.26

      -Self-expression-

      Let’s express ourselves!

      Interval 6.27

      -Will and sex-

      The link between sex and will

      CHAPTER SEVEN

      DEEP SEXUAL MATTERS…

      Interval 7.1

      -After the loving-

      The best part of making love…

      Interval 7.2

      -Arousal and sex-

      Sexual arousal

      Interval 7.3

      -Arousal and sex-

      I feed off her

      Interval 7.4

      -Cooking and sex-

      Microwave? Or slow cook?

      Interval 7.5

      -Ecstasy of sex-

      The heights of sexual love

      Interval 7.6

      -Exchanges of sex-

      Sex: the loving sensual exchange

      Interval 7.7

      -F and sex-

      It’s not about the f word

      Interval 7.8

      -Fire and ice-

      Ice goddess or hot flame?

      Interval 7.9

      -Fieldwork and sex-

      More fieldwork necessary…

      Interval 7.10

      -Food and sex-

      Sex is food

      Interval 7.11

      -Good sex-

      Good sex: the tender process

      Interval 7.12

      -Nature and sex-

      Born for sex?

      Interval 7.13

      -Nights of sex-

      A night of sexual love

      Interval 7.14

      -Oral pleasures-

      Making a meal of mama…

      Interval 7.15

      -Oral pleasures-

      Felecio and Cunnilingus: just Greek figureheads?

      Interval 7.16

      -Orgasm-

      How to live between orgasms

      Interval 7.17

      -Passion in sex-

      How much is too much?

      Interval 7.18

      -Perfecting sex-

      Perfectly natural; not naturally perfect

      Interval 7.19

      -Pleasures of sex-

      Sexing for pleasure

      Interval 7.20

      -Pornography-

      Does a little porny get you hot and horny?

      Interval 7.21

      -Positions of sex-

      Poised for sex

      Interval 7.22

      -Rhythm-

      Vary the stroke…

      Interval 7.23

      -Sessions of love-

      A sexual session

      Interval 7.24

      -Sexiness-

      Her sexiness

      Interval 7.25

      -Solitary sex-

      Sex for one

      Interval 7.26

      -Times and places for sex-

      The time and place for sexual expression

      CHAPTER EIGHT

      THE PERSONAL TOUCH…

      Interval 8.1

      -Bedtime-

      I’m tired just now…

      Interval 8.2

      -Care provision-

      Taking care of one other

      Interval 8.3

      -Cleanliness-

      Cleanliness, godliness, sex

      Interval 8.4

      -Comforts-

      Are you a chineado?

      Interval 8.5

      -Joy-

      What better joy?

      Interval 8.6

      -Kindness-

      Loving kindnesses

      Interval 8.7

      -Little things-

      It’s the little things that make the difference

      Interval 8.8

      -Love notes-

      Two-minute love-notes

      Interval 8.9

      -Massage-

      A body-rub

      Interval 8.10

      Meditation and relationships

      The meditation of our being

      Interval 8.11

      -Mystery-

      A loving balance…

      Interval 8.12

      -Play-

      Kids at play

      Interval 8.13

      -Privacy-

      Our private lives

      Interval 8.14

      -Sharing-

      When our cup runs over…

      Interval 8.15

      -Spooning-

      Lay this way with me…

      Interval 8.16

      -T.L.C.-

      In maintenance of tenderness

      Interval 8.17

      -Warmth and love-

      Under my blanket on a cold, cold night…

      CHAPTER NINE

      AT THE HEART OF LOVE…

      Interval 9.1

      -Acceptance-

      I need this woman’s acceptance

      Interval 9.2

      -Catharsis-

      She’s so often my cathartic release

      Interval 9.3

      -Companionship-

      Walk the road with me for a while…

      Interval 9.4

      -Forgiveness-

      Without forgiveness you cannot love

      Interval 9.5

      -Giving-

      Don’t take our love wrong…

      Interval 9.6

      -Handling love-

      Where to put this love?

      Interval 9.7

      -Hero’s-

      She says that I’m her hero…

      Interval 9.8

      -Hierarchy of love-

      Love in an ever-evolving hierarchy

      Interval 9.9

      -Loving sensual exchange-

      The cycles of sexual give and take

      Interval 9.10

      -Music of love-

      Love is a song

      Interval 9.11

      -Needing someone-

      Do you need you some lovin?

      Interval 9.12

      -Needing someone-

      Someone…

      Interval 9.13

      -Nurturance-

      Lactation and love…

      Interval 9.14

      -Plurality-

      She is the orchid in the middle of my bouquet

      Interval 9.15

      -Purpose and love-

      We are made for love

      Interval 9.16

      -Safety in love-

      A safe haven in which to dwell

      Interval 9.17

      -Self-love-

      Loving her first…

      Interval 9.18

      -Tranquility-

      The tranquility of deepened love

      Interval 9.19

      -Unity-

      We two are united

      Interval 9.20

      -Values and love-

      Our greatest treasure

      Interval 9.21

      -Wisdom of love-

      Sacred wisdom

      Interval 9.22

      -Wonderment-

      Wonderment, sex and love

      Internal 9.23

      -Youthful love-

      Our fountain of youth

      Interval 9.24

      -Phantoms-

      At home, at last, at the heart of the Phantom

      Interval 9.25

      -Phantoms-

      It was always her…

      Loving Sensual Exchange:

      Quickie Look-it-up Glossary:

      ABOUT THE AUTHOR

      Huddle down here with me now…

      Let’s talk sex!

      God was in one corner, sex in the other. They were segregated, separated, split off. The two were as distantly related as the east is from the west, as night from day. They had nothing in common.

      As for God, well, God was…God! And what could be better than that? Being God was everything that represented good, including, of course, sex.

      And sex? Well, sex was just sex. It was fun. But mostly it was an essential procreative aspect of life. Under appropriate terms, and in specific settings, it could be a fairly wondrous thing, to explore, to appreciate, but the terms were usually, and most relevantly, within the strict context of marriage, or, at the very least, in that of a deeply committed relationship.

      Further terms included appropriateness of time and consumption, adherence to specific sexual patterns, restrictions in sexual thought, and much more. After all terms are met, one might then feel free to break off a little for himself, from time to time.

      …Okay.

      All of that was in a past life that I used to live.

      No more.

      I am not that person any more. During those times, and generally speaking, God and sex, as is the case of, say, oil and water, didn’t much mix. It never dawned on me then, as it does now, to participate in things such as remaining in a prayerful state while having sex, or of openly thanking God while locked in sexual intercourse, or of meditating on spirituality while engaged in sexuality at the same time, or of being worshipful, in the midst of the sexual act; and why not?

      Because sex was something that was necessary to address in life, and then get beyond it, to more important matters lurking out there, like the business of God Himself, for example, and the business of trying to live for God.

      I thus practiced what one might call oops, excuse me sex most of my young life, and deeply into my middle adult life too. Having recognized, right off the bat, that I did not seem to possess the virtues and attributes of a priest, or a monk, I subtly took care of my sexual needs and expressions in the quickest and most expedient fashion possible, so that I could – and I might add, with rapidity – get back to put more important matters back in hand.

      No idea whatsoever was given to the fact that the celebration of sexual expression was an integral feature of those important matters.

      But, hey wait a minute! Sex is of the utmost importance to most every one of us! Where would we be, in fact, without it? We need it. We not only need it, we want it. It’s good for us. Is this not true?

      As an arthritis sufferer for many years, I recognize the value of extended sexual play. It really does sooth our bodies; it really does alleviate the pain and aching of arthritic bones. It takes care of more than that, too! It relives tension-related stress. It improves the immune system.

      It is good physical fitness. It helps our overall mental heath.

      Those are all good things; is there even more of this good that might be hanging around from where these medical realities emerge from?

      I think so. Yes. Deep in our probing for it, we can find it – it’s there all right, and waiting for us to discover it.

      I am over five decades old. Upon examining the convictions and opinions and worldviews that had taken me up to this time and place, I saw that some serious renovation and remodeling was in order. Let’s face it. We don’t change enough. We are often stuck in patterns of thought and behavior that have, long ago, lost their usefulness in our present lives.

      Perhaps you disagree. Maybe you think that you will stick with what is tried and true. Those realities have, after all, taken you this far. Why shouldn’t they continue to sustain you?

      That may be good enough for you, I say. But for me, it’s not so easy. I tire easily of old attitudes and ideas about life; because old stuff doesn’t work very well – we need to keep perpetuating newness.

      I am always up for something new, something better, something more meaningful, purposeful, helpful. How about you?

      This means that I examine old versions of me, and, where appropriate, replace them, update them, with newer versions of me. I re-create myself in the process. I re-invent a new me in so doing. I find new purpose, relevance, meaning and love in my life as I go.

      And few areas of my life have required such major overhauling as in the area of my sexuality…

      There’s a certain amount of work to sex. It is, by no means, all play. How we see sex, how we respond to it, how we interpret it in our lives, how we manifest it: all of these areas result in the creation of me.

      I have to work at creating me. I am not content to just let me come out however it happens. I shape me. In the process of this shaping, I recognize my inseparable relationship to God.

      The Universe and I, in fact, are creating and re-creating me every moment, every second of every moment. The process of living is one of moving energy. My thoughts are that energy. What I think about in my life – including what I think about in my sexuality – will inevitably shape my being.

      So, I am thus warned. I am in control of what goes in and what gets left out. I am in charge, to do my part, in the part-nership I have, and maintain, with God.

      …There is no good reason to be shy with God about this matter of sex. What good would that do? Adam and Eve may have hidden in the garden when they first observed their nakedness, but I’m not about to hide from God now.

      Are you hiding out from the big Eye in the Sky? Why is that?

      I once slid, weeping and wailing, down the birth canal, in that birthday suit of mine, and to this day, I still enjoy wearing that particular suit around the house. It fits the best of all the clothes I have.

      We don’t have to hide from God. Why is that ever a good idea? Instead, we should get busy in this matter of working to define ourselves in the light of our being essentially spiritual in nature. Yes, that’s right. We are first off spiritual. To that fact, we can add our sexual-ness, and our sensuousness.

      I say we are – without a slight amount of doubt – sensual, and sexual too, and that it’s all a splendid aspect of our overall spirituality. That’s not bad news; it’s good news. That’s not a bad thing; it’s a good thing. So, I update and upgrade as to who and what I really am. I trade some negative for some positive, swap out bad for good, replace dirty with pure, evolve from my selfishness – all to reach a more pure place of love.

      …Right now I am at the bookstore. It’s a place I like to hang out when I am in the United States of my America. I read, write, drink coffee, think, socialize – all here at Ye Olde Border’s Book Shoppe. As I am writing this introduction to still another book about sex, I currently have the pleasure of enjoying a mighty fine harpist who is playing in the background. He is a very gifted man, and what a beautifully sensuous series of emissions is coming from his colorful harp.

      I can’t help but imagine that it would be wonderful music with which to make love. I think I will later check with him and see if he has a tape or a CD that I could buy; it would be of great use during the next time I have the opportunity to engage in loving sensual exchange.

      What a nice thing that would be; I thank God for the music of the harp; for the music of lovemaking; I thank God, too, for sex.

      Sensuality (like listening to harp music) may or may not lead to sexuality. And sexuality, if we choose for it to happen, can point us to God. It may require a drastically different way of choosing to see it all, but what reward waits for us when we do.

      I don’t know about you, but I desire that no space separate the Kosmos and me. I am, in fact, always working towards a one mind state with God as we speak. Can you think of a loftier notion than that? If so, let me in on it; my Internet address is somewhere in this book, and I would love to know just what it is.

      Just drop me a note and let me know what is more important than sharing the same mind as God. I’ll be waiting anxiously.

      …In the meantime, I continue to follow this dream of oneness. So far, it has revealed to me, among so much more, that I do not have to live in a separate world from God when it comes to the matter of sex. Now, we can pretend that we are hiding out from the Eye, but in reality we’re really not. We know we can’t hide from God; nor, in truth, do we even want to. The inevitable alternative is to crack open the door and let God – who is already there anyway – into the bedroom, into the bed, into the lovemaking process itself.

      Do you actually think you know a greater turn-on than that? When God (the great Universe) is in the midst of our sexuality, we tie all notions of sex, sensuality and the spiritual all together as one. I like to sum this notion up as an experience of sacred, spiritual, sensuous, sexual, loving exchange, or, in short, as a loving sensual exchange.

      I promise you, when you do that you connect with something more powerful than even your deepest sexual fantasies, your most personal sexual dreams, your wildest sexual longings and cravings.

      The Creator created this whole thing of sex in the first place. If anyone understands it, it’s Her. Work towards sharing the same mind as the Universe (as Her), and guess what? Your sex life as we are fond of calling it, will stand right up and take note.

      It is my honest contention that there is nothing more sexual, nothing more sensual, nothing more spiritual – than oneness with the Kosmos. Is that somewhat of a weird way of articulating it? For me, for most of my life, it was, too. That’s certainly not the case any more. I don’t claim to have it all down completely, but I have it figured out enough to say some things about it, and know they are true for me.

      So, here we go with another sex book. After all of these years of saying I was going to do it (i.e. write a sex book) here it is!

      …Could your whole view of sex use some closer scrutiny? Is it time for you to update some of your old thoughts for some new ones? Consider that there is such a thing as keeping the Universe in the middle of all of this.

      So, let’s move on now, to the body of the Loving Sensual Exchange idea. As the silly, serious whimsical notions come to you from me, please permit me (with the frequent help of a friend of mine I call the Phantom – more about her later) to share these important principles with you…

      Loving Sensual Exchange:

      Some more foreplay about the book…

      My chosen format for this book is unlike other formats I have previously used. This writing endeavor, done in the middle of a series that constitute a personal anthology of everyday philosophical thought, could be deemed a synthesis of alternative viewpoint and understanding. These books are written in varying styles, to reflect the contents of each book.

      Down through my time and space, I have reviewed thousands of books as to their organizational content. As a result, I can tell you this one thing for sure: There are unlimited and countless ways to slice and dice a book.

      In this particular book, I am presenting you these thoughts in the form of a series of short intervals. An interval, by synonym definition, is an intermission, a time or space intervention, a hiatus, a gap, a period or distance between something else…

      These intervals – there are well over two hundred of them to follow – have been rather loosely thrown into one of nine general chapters.

      I did not try to treat anything thoroughly; the subject matter involved is far too vast for that, covering too many areas of our existence. So, you may wish to do some supplemental reading to continue your pursuit of sexual thoughts and ideas.

      Each interval synapse surfaced from the creative spaces of this writer-mind of mine. They did not come from reviews of writers on similar subject matter. They are not based in expert logic (as I am not an expert in this) and the book is not professing to be a professional dissertation by any stretch. I chose to work from meditative/contemplative spaces within me, and not from compilation research.

      These spaces I refer to exist within all of us. They are the energy source of our entire unconscious thought world.

      Lots of people who don’t write books could actually write them if they wanted to. I have scribbled out many of them, and I know that most writers write books ceaselessly quoting other writers; there’s not a thing wrong with that. A plethora of great works, research oriented and scholarly, exist today, and are in abundance. They can be comprehensive in their coverage on all of the matters touched upon here. You can access them, of course, for an endless supplemental stream of thought on any of these vital areas.

      My book (like most of my books) just rambles on about things that I know, or that I think I know.

      Warning! To follow is the standard gender pronoun disclaimer!

      …If you don’t know me, you might have noted my name (Michael) suggests I am a male persuasion person. As a man, writing this book, I most often approach things from a male point of view. It’s not done to be sexist, or chauvinist or narcissistic. Rather, I do it to truly reflect the telling of the story through my senses, which happen to be the senses of a typical man.

      Using just a little imagination on your part, you can quickly gender-reverse the general concepts and narratives as they unfold, and thus maybe hear it told from the flip perspective. I really think that writers who are women should write more in their female gender, telling their stories from that place. Face it, this him/her, he/she stuff slows down the flow of thought, it’s impersonal and neutral, and it’s also flat-out cumbersome when we are reading a book.

      So, I hope that’s acceptable to you, the reader.

      As for more blobbedy, blobbedy to start, I also in this book offer a little quote, or quip, and then sign it, in some manner, prior to each section. You should know that the sex book writer, so often quoted at the beginning of each interval, happens to be me.

      I am telling you that to clear up any looming mystery; most of you would have quickly figured that out, but we don’t need any stragglers!

      For me, these intervals pretty much represent my personal convictions in the areas of the covered subject matter (here, being mostly things on love, sex, sensuality and God). They are formed out of my internal philosophy of being. I’ve write ceaselessly about philosophy and worldview; this is just some more of that.

      You may find many of them of great insightful interest, and embrace them as your personal view, too. At the same time, you will, no doubt, partially, or utterly, reject some ideas or attitudes contained herein. Either way, it’s good that you are thinking about it.

      The acceptance, or rejection, of the ideas, constitutes the point of book writing, and corresponding book reading. So, that’s all a good thing.

      …Why do we sometimes insist we all see things the same way? How boorish! One thing I believe is that we are all slowly moving up the overall scale of higher consciousness as we live. Life is undoubtedly about this, and this is why we read – to grow and learn. So, have fun with this, yet another sex book. Thanks for your interest in it, and know that my heart is filled with both love and gratitude towards you, the beloved reader.

      Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut

      And finally, before we start:

      A word about the Phantom;

      just who is she?

      We all have forces of influence working at us. As I wrote the contents of this book, I had a woman with me that I simply call the Phantom. She was in the back of my mind all along, and helped me form the ideas presented here.

      The Phantom visited me frequently during the furious writing pace I kept, and was in the thick of it with me, thinking love, sex, and God, thoughts both in San Jose, and in Indianapolis, during the many secluded days and nights of this writing.

      She was my constant friend and companion. If there was ever such a thing as an ideal loving sensual exchange, it is the one the Phantom and I kept during the assembly of this book, and, in fact, continue to keep.

      I may never find this phantom. Or, I might have her now, right under my nose, and not fully know it. I have come to see that this is the way with all phantoms?

      In either case, she is right here with me, in some uncanny fashion, and it pleases me always to feel, and sense, her gentle and constant touch upon my body, and my mind.

      Everyone ought to have themselves a phantom…

      CHAPTER ONE

      BODY-MIND/MIND-BODY…

      CHAPTER ONE BODY-MIND/MIND-BODY…

      Interval 1.1 -Beauty and sex- The beauty of sexual union    

      Interval 1.2 -Beauty of women- Falling for beauty    

      Interval 1.3 -Body- The body test    

      Interval 1.4 -Body- The body sacred    

      Interval 1.5 -Body-Size matters    

      Interval 1.6 -Breasts-More on Breastesses’    

      Interval 1.7-Dress and undress-Sexual dress (and undress)    

      Interval 1.8 -Perfection- The perfect 10    

      Interval 1.9 -Personal looks- She looked so good…    

      Interval 1.10 -Fantasy- Our deepest fantasies fulfilled…    

      Interval 1.11 -Higher consciousness- Towards the

      higher conscious state    

      Interval 1.12 -Illusions- A world full of illusion    

      Interval 1.13 -Inspiration and sex- Just as he was about

      to give up hope…    

      Interval 1.14 -Knowing verses believing- Personal

      knowings that guide relationships    

      Interval 1.15 -Labeling- On the inadequacy of a label    

      Interval 1.16 -Labeling- What is this?    

      Interval 1.17 -Limitlessness- Limits, limitlessness    

      Interval 1.18 -Mind- Creative space…    

      Interval 1.19 -Mind- Life on earth is a kaleidoscope    

      Interval 1.20 -Perspective and sex- The Song of Solomon    

      Interval 1.21 -Slow thoughts- Think slow…    

      Interval 1.22 -Spectrums- The spectrum range in

      our loving relationships    

      Interval 1.23 -Thoughts and sex- Today’s shocking headlines    

      Interval 1.24 -Thoughts and sex- Getting the big head    

      Interval 1.25 -Time and sex- The contest of time and space    

      Interval 1.26 -Words and meaning- The match of meaning    

      Interval 1.1

      -Beauty and sex-

      The beauty of sexual union

      "What is a more beautiful feeling than the union of two human souls when locked in the loving sexual embrace? I have known nothing on

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