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    Out of the Darkness
    Out of the Darkness
    Out of the Darkness
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    Out of the Darkness

    By Delilah Morgan

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    A glad heart lights up the face, but by mental anguish the spirit is broken.
    Proverbs 15:13 (NAB)

    Out of the Darkness tells the intimate details of one woman's struggle through a 21 year verbally and emotionally abusive relationship.

    Just because someone seems to have the perfect marriage or life, doesn't always mean that's what their life really is like. Sometimes, those are the people who are hurting the most. Just as you don't know what goes on behind closed doors in their life, they don't know what's going on in yours.

    Insight is offered on how and when she realized it was time to get out of the relationship and what it took to walk out of the darkness; to overcome and move on to a new and amazing life.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAuthorHouse
    Release dateFeb 24, 2011
    ISBN9781456721404
    Out of the Darkness
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    Delilah Morgan

    Delilah Morgan was born in a small Pennsylvanian town in 1967 and is the youngest of eight children. Of all the various creative outlets she's had the opportunity to experience, writing stands out as her true passion. She currently resides in the Northeast.

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      Out of the Darkness - Delilah Morgan

      © 2011 Delilah Morgan. All rights reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

      First published by AuthorHouse 2/21/2011

      ISBN: 978-1-4567-2139-8 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4567-2140-4 (e)

      ISBN: 978-1-4567-2141-1 (hc)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2011902555

      Printed in the United States of America

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models,

      and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any Web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Contents

      What is it all about?

      Who am I?

      How it all Began

      Dating

      Marriage

      Animals

      I Began to See the Light

      Climbing Out of the Darkness

      Into the Light

      Suggested areas to seek help

      Dedicated to those who have suffered abuse

      and for those who are still going through it.

      You are not alone.

      Eternal Praise, Honor and Glory to God –

      for getting me out and putting me where I am today.

      "A joyful heart is the health of the body,

      but a depressed spirit dries up the bones."

      Proverbs 17:22 (NAB)

      Hope is the caress of God’s Hand on the face of desperation

      Chapter 1

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      What is it all about?

      How long would you stay with someone who physically or verbally abuses you? Why would anyone subject themselves to that type of relationship? I look back on it now and wonder the same thing. When you’re in this kind of relationship or after you’ve experienced a relationship like this, you can understand why people stay. It’s the one thread of hope you cling to thinking someday it will change, it will get better.

      Twenty-one years ago, I met someone who pulled me down into the abyss of an abusive relationship.

      I allowed him to hold me back, to accuse me of things I never did, and to make me uncomfortable when I attended work or social events with him. I had to be on constant guard because someone might do or say something he would interpret negatively. I put on a front so my family and friends wouldn’t know what the real situation was. Unfortunately, I was degraded at every possible opportunity and never given the respect I deserved.

      I’ve finally climbed out of that darkness. Writing about my experience is the closure to that part of my life. It’s my time to take one final look back at everything I allowed to happen and leave it behind me. Also, I hope to help someone else realize that if they are in a similar situation, they can find the courage to get out. I moved on the day I moved out. I will never allow myself to be pulled down into that type of relationship again. No second chances. It may seem harsh, but I refuse to waste anymore of my time on someone I know will never change.

      I’m divorced and happy. I have not felt this happy and relaxed since before I started dating Carl. God opened my eyes to see the only way I was ever going to be happy again was to get out of the relationship. If it meant leaving the house behind and giving up half of the monetary possessions and the majority of material possessions, so be it. I realized the day I left that I should have left a long time ago. I didn’t feel sad. I felt like a prisoner who was being released. It was freedom and it felt great! I didn’t realize how emotionally depressed I was until I was away from him.

      A verbally and emotionally abusive relationship parallels a physically abusive relationship. A physically abusive relationship goes beyond as it is much worse because it’s in addition to the verbal and emotional abuse. We (men and women alike) all share the shame of allowing it to happen, our belief that one day they will realize what they are doing and change, and the burden of keeping the truth from friends and family. They tell us how sorry they are for what they’ve done and they don’t know why they do it or they blame others for their behavior. They beg us to stay and give them one more chance. Yet, as the years go by we continue to give those chances, time after time, but the situation never changes. It is my belief it never will, unless they realize they have a problem and are willing to seek help for it. In my case, it took me all those years to finally realize he didn’t want to change or was afraid to.

      My hope is that by telling my story, I can help someone else going through a similar situation and give them guidance and hope. No one deserves to be treated the way I was. The sad part is there are people being abused every day and the people around them don’t even know it. Make the first step towards getting out of the relationship and keep taking those steps to get you to the final destination. That’s what will keep you going; knowing one day you’ll finally be away from them and that dreadful situation.

      I’m not saying unequivocally to just give up and leave. If you love this person and want to make it work, then exhaust all resources available to you before deciding to leave. If there is a possibility that counseling or a psychological evaluation would help or if that person agrees to do what it takes to help them figure out why they are acting the way they do and get help, then do it. However, if they refuse to seek help or go to counseling, then there isn’t much more you can do. They have to first accept they have a problem and then be willing to seek help for it. I begged Carl to go to counseling and he never would. He knew he had a problem. He always said we would work it out on our own; however, that simply turned into a revolving conversation in which Carl said he didn’t know why he treated me that way and promised it wouldn’t happen again. If you know this person isn’t going to change, then you need to ask yourself, How long am I willing to remain in this abusive relationship?

      I realize for some of you, getting out of the relationship seems impossible. Maybe you fear they will retaliate and your life and those you love will be put in danger. Maybe you fear the unknown of what you’ll have to do to get out or how you will make it on your own. I’m not an expert and I don’t pretend to be. I can’t tell you to leave, to get out, if you know you’re putting your life at risk. But then again, is your life at risk staying with them? You are the one who has to make the choice; all I can do is tell you what happened to me. The rest is up to you.

      My relationship with God, Jesus, family, and friends gave me the support necessary to get through the divorce process. I’ve become a much stronger person. You can’t keep picking yourself up time and time again and not become stronger.

      Abuse can happen to anyone. It isn’t selective. It happens to people in all walks of life. It doesn’t differentiate between race, religion, education, financial status or age. Abuse of all kinds is happening everyday and because it’s so shameful to admit it’s happening to them, people will keep it hidden. Some people are dealing with abuse which may have started when they were children and now it is infecting and affecting their adult relationships.

      If we haven’t dealt with abuse in our lives, maybe we don’t see it or if we do, we pretend it doesn’t exist. It’s there. We who have dealt with it or who are dealing with it know all too well it exists.

      Chapter 2

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