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    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?
    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?
    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?
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    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?

    By Sunday Adelaja

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    In this book you'll discover
    1. How to differentiate love from falling in love
    2. How to avoid mistakes while choosing a life partner
    3. How to choose a life partner
    4. Questions you need to ask before marriage
    5. 13 signs that you are ready for marriage.
    6. You need to be self-sufficient for marriage
    7. You must be ready not be a burden to your future husband.
    8. You must be ready to make sacrifices for your husband and future family
    9. For marriage, you and fiance should have similar values.
    10. You must be ready to detach from relatives and friends for the sake of my new family.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherGolden Truth
    Release dateJul 26, 2018
    ISBN9780463335840
    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?
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    Sunday Adelaja

    Sunday Adelaja is the founder and senior pastor of the Embassy of God in Kiev Ukraine and the author of more than 300 books which are translated in several languages including Chinese, German, French, Arabic, etc. A fatherless child from a 40 hut village in Nigeria, Sunday was recruited by communist Russia to ignite a revolution, instead he was saved just before leaving for the USSR where he secretly trained himself in the Bible while earning a Master’s degree in journalism. By age thirty-three he had built the largest church in Europe. Today, his church in Kiev has planted over a thousand daughter churches in over fifty countries of the world. Right now they plant four new churches every week. He is known to be the only person in the world pastoring a cross cultural church where 99% of his twenty five thousand members are white Caucasians. His work has been widely reported by world media outlets like Washington Post, The wall street Journal, Forbes, New York times, Associated Press, Reuters, CNN, BBC, German, Dutch, French National television, etc. Pastor Sunday had the opportunity to speak on a number of occasions in the United Nations. In 2007 he had the rare privilege of opening the United States Senate with prayers. He has spoken in the Israeli Knesset and the Japanese parliament along with several other countries. Pastor Sunday is known as an expert in national transformation through biblical principles and values. Pastor Sunday is happily married to his “princess’ Pastor Bose Adelaja. They are blessed with three children, Perez, Zoe and Pearl.

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    • 5/5
      Beautiful book. So much wisdom in there. A good number of questions I had have been answered in the simplest way possible. Thank you Sunday.
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      It is an awesome book. A lot of information to guide singles or anyone going into marriage or in a marriage.

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    Am I Ready to Become a Wife? - Sunday Adelaja

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    AM I READY TO BECOME A WIFE?

    SUNDAY ADELAJA

    Sunday Adelaja

    AM I READY TO BECOME A WIFE?

    ©2018 Sunday Adelaja

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    Copyright © Golden Truth Publishing

    Kiev, Ukraine. All rights reserved

    www.goldentruth.pro

    This book or parts thereof may not be reproduced in any form, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form by any means - electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise - without prior written permission of the author.

    Cover design by Alexander Bondaruk

    Interior design by Olena Kotelnykova

    © Sunday Adelaja, 2018,

    Am I Ready to Become a Wife?

    -

    Kiev, Ukraine:

    Golden Truth Publishing, 2018

    All rights reserved.

    TABLE OF CONTENTS

    PREFACE 5

    INTRODUCTION 7

    PART 1: HOW TO AVOID MISTAKES WHILE

    CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER 9

    PART 2: QUESTIONS YOU NEED TO ASK

    BEFORE MARRIAGE OR 13 SIGNS THAT YOU

    ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE 13

    CHAPTER ONE.

    Am I ready to detach from relatives and friends

    for the sake of my new family? 15

    CHAPTER TWO.

    I am not getting married for the sake of solving my

    problems or for the sake of having children 25

    CHAPTER THREE.

    I and my fiance have similar values 33

    CHAPTER FOUR.

    Am I ready to make sacrifices for my husband and

    family? 45

    CHAPTER FIVE.

    I will not be a burden to my husband 55

    CHAPTER SIX.

    I am self-sufficient 69

    CHAPTER SEVEN.

    I am integral. I am a matured personality 83

    CHAPTER EIGHT.

    I love myself. I am satisfied by myself. I am proud

    of myself 99

    CHAPTER NINE.

    I am ready to give in marriage, and I do not aspire

    only to take. 107

    CHAPTER TEN.

    Your happiness is your responsibility. You are ready

    to make your spouse happy. You are ready to be a

    great blessing to him. 117

    CHAPTER ELEVEN.

    I have unique qualities which differentiates me

    from the other women. I have found my tinge,

    my spice, my flavor. I have advantages for which

    I am worth being taken as a wife. 131

    CHAPTER TWELVE.

    I have sufficient knowledge in men’s psychology.

    I know that their look at life and marriage is

    different from the woman's view. 141

    CHAPTER THIRTEEN.

    I have valuable qualities which will strengthen

    My marriage. I have special gifts. 159

    CHAPTER FOURTEEN.

    Questions before marriage 167

    PART 3: BASIC MISCONCEPTIONS OF

    CIVIL MARRIAGE 173

    CONCLUDING REMARKS 177

    PREFACE

    WHAT IS THIS BOOK ABOUT AND WHAT MAKES IT DIFFERENT FROM THE HUNDREDS OF OTHER BOOKS ON MARRIAGE?

    In the 20th century, American journalist Helen Rowland noted:

    When a girl marries she exchanges the attentions of many men for the inattention of one.

    Helen Rowland

    It is worth noting that even after 100 years, in the 21st century, this statement has not lost its relevance. Unfortunately, many girls and women, having married, face such a phenomenon as loneliness in marriage. This is a consequence of the husband's inattention, problems in communication between spouses and elementary unpreparedness of living together with the opposite sex. Let’s agree that, the need to find a common language with a person whose shortcomings are becoming more obvious every day is not an easy task. And if at the same time your spouse still puts forward counterclaims, then the family relationship becomes a serious test for a woman. That is why many girls and women find in marriage, not a quiet harbor and a safe haven, but a place where they each day have to fight with their own and other people's shortcomings. Often this battle ends in the fact that a couple prefers a divorce instead of a daily struggle for family happiness. Unfortunately, divorce does not solve the problem, because, according to sociological research, each subsequent marriage is less durable and is subject to a higher risk of divorce than the previous one. From this, it indicates that the dissolution of marriage does not make sense (unless of course, your life is in danger), because the next campaign in the registry office, church wedding or any kind of wedding, has even less chance of being successful.

    Introduction

    HOW TO DIFFERENTIATE LOVE FROM FALLING IN LOVE (INFATUATION)

    Love is the driving motive of marriage. However, the question arises: can you distinguish between love and falling in love? What exactly do you feel about your chosen one and your candidate for a husband?

    We suggest you test yourself using the following 8 points:

    8 Differences between love and falling in love:

    Love comes gradually, but falling in love happens overnight. To really love a person, you need time.

    Love does not arise due to an irresistible appearance, to good deeds, to beautiful words and gifts. True love comes to the person.

    In the center of falling in love, there is always only one person. Infatuation holds only one. Love can accommodate several, but really - not one.

    Love creates a person, but infatuation destroys. True love sees the future, builds plans and aims. Infatuation lives one day, it destroys. With infatuation, a mess sets in a person’s life, everything falls off the hands. Falling in love is dangerous because a man in his infatuation ceases to see reality and ceases to develop.

    Love should be compatible, but falling in love neglects compatibility. A truly loving person is interested in the values of the person he loves, and they have common goals.

    Love covers faults, but falling in love cannot bear them. If you see something very annoying in your loved one, something that you cannot accept and endure - know that this is just infatuation.

    Love is unselfish, but infatuation is selfish. A person who loves will do everything to serve another, even if in return he receives nothing. Infatuation only expects to get something from another. If your loved one is not interested in your destiny, your experiences and always speaks only about himself, he does not love you for real, run for your life.

    Love is long-suffering, but infatuation is always in a hurry. If you have a strong physical inclination, and this is the motive for you to get married quickly - this is not love, but just infatuation.

    Ukrainian TV presenter Yuri Gorbunov, after living happily with his wife of 16 years, in one of the interviews spoke about the theme of our chapter: I would have separated love from infatuation. Falling in love is insanity, crazy deeds, disturbances and nights without sleep, while love is a calm feeling. Though it is unclear what is better - stable love or windy infatuation. I'm probably for love.

    PART 1

    How To Avoid Mistakes While Choosing a Life Partner

    How can I be sure that I make the right choice in choosing that special one? Is there a way to verify this?

    The only Author and Creator of the family is God. It is not proper to let God into marriage after you have already said I do, you need to do this before the family is created. The wedding itself does not hold the marriage. Before making a fateful choice of a spouse, you need to turn to God for a clue. Without this, it is strongly advised not to marry, because subsequently, when problems come to the family (and they will come), it will be the confirmation you got initially, that your spouse was sent from God, and that will save you from divorce. That same confirmation will give you the courage to ask, receive help from Him and save your family.

    How To Choose A Life Partner

    In order to meet the person with whom you spend the rest of your life, you do not need to specifically look for him only because you have reached or have already crossed a certain age limit. Likewise, do not rush to go into marriage under the pressure of relatives or to avoid loneliness, etc. First of all, we must think about creating our future and family will follow definitely.

    Be friendly. You should have a lot of friends, communicate and surround yourself with people with the right values because our environment determines 50% of what or who we will be. It is better to choose a spouse from the circle of people with whom you work and communicate or do joint activities. This way, you are likely to know this person to some extent.

    So, you met this young man, and you like him, what recommendations can be made here?

    Try not to fall in love immediately, try to keep your emotions under control. Do not start creating the fantasies about this person. Keep your heart.

    Start observing the one you liked closely. What does he usually say? What are his values? How does he treat other people? Does he have such tender feelings to others as he has towards you? How responsible is he? Whom does he communicate with? Is he friendly? Answering all these questions will help you make the right choice.

    Do not rush to go from dates to engagement. Firstly, it is scientifically proven that the hormone testosterone, which is produced in large quantities when people are in love, does not allow them to resist sexual intercourse. The sexual passion is facilitated by dates and dinners for two. At the same time, no one gives you guarantees that this person will become your spouse. The outcome is promiscuous sexual relations and a high percentage of sexual diseases among young people. Secondly, there is a misconception: How will I know a person if I do not date him? In fact, the truth is that dating is not enough for you to truly know a person. During dating, everyone is perfect, no one shows their shortcomings, and even if they show up, the romantic mood will not allow you to notice them. Thirdly, sex and intimacy have little to do with real love. They are beautiful additions to true love in marriage, so it's better to wait and save yourself and your dignity before marriage.

    If you like someone, consult with your spiritual mentor, especially your parents, since they know you better than others, perhaps even better than you know yourself.

    How to understand that the person you like is destined for you? This can be said only if the answers to the following questions are positive:

    Am I ready to live with this person all my life (imagine your fiancé when he is 70 years old)?

    Am I ready to live with this person all my life, if he never changes and forever accepts his shortcomings?

    Am I ready to live with this person all my life if he becomes an invalid?

    Do I have enough love for him?

    Are you really ready to accept this person with all his shortcomings? Life happens, and you need to answer the following questions seriously: will I love this person if, for example, he gets fat and will never be able to lose weight all his life, if he cannot earn as much as before, etc.

    Do I get satisfaction from communicating with him?

    You should get satisfaction from communicating with your chosen one. If you are bored or he is uninteresting to communicate with, then he is not your man.

    Do I have a firm conviction that this person is meant for me by God?

    Well, with a choice of a life partner, we sorted it out, and here we come to the main theme of our book: how do you know that you are ready to marry? To do this, we bring 13 chapters

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