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    Whole Man: Unleashing the Potential of the Modern Man
    Whole Man: Unleashing the Potential of the Modern Man
    Whole Man: Unleashing the Potential of the Modern Man
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    Whole Man: Unleashing the Potential of the Modern Man

    By Martin Costigan

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    This book will change how you see yourself as a man. Reading it has the power to transform the way in which you relate to yourself, others and the world at large.

    There are many books on the market for women providing guidance for holistic living. For men however, this can often be a much-neglected area. While there are numerous books highlighting mens issues and problems, there is a void of writing which deals with holistic living for men from a comprehensive and practical perspective.

    Whole Man fills that gap in mens self help literature. Whole Man is a practical guide for men who either wish to embark on a journey towards wholeness, or who have already begun to walk that road and need more guidance, knowledge and resources. Writing in simple, user-friendly language the author, Martin Costigan, provides insight and knowledge into the field of male wellbeing, coupled with practical ideas for achieving wholeness.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBalboa Press
    Release dateFeb 21, 2012
    ISBN9781452537955
    Whole Man: Unleashing the Potential of the Modern Man
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    Martin Costigan

    Martin Costigan is qualified in both Medical Science and Homeopathic Medicine. He treats people in his clinic in Brisbane, Australia, as well as nationally and internationally through his website www.livingwater.net.au He also lectures in Homeopathy. Martin has written and facilitated numerous retreats on personal growth. His passion is empowering others to achieve balance and wholeness in their lives.

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      Whole Man - Martin Costigan

      Contents

      DEDICATION

      EPIGRAPH

      PREFACE

      ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

      INTRODUCTION

      PART 1

      CHAPTER 1: SPIRITUAL

      CHAPTER 2: MENTAL

      CHAPTER 3: EMOTIONAL

      CHAPTER 4: PHYSICAL

      CHAPTER 5: SEXUAL

      CHAPTER 6: SOCIAL

      CHAPTER 7: HISTORY

      PART 2

      AT WAR WITH SELF

      THE FRUIT OF NOT LIVING AS A WHOLE MAN

      PART 3

      WHOLE MAN

      PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

      REFERENCES

      APPENDIX 1

      DEDICATION

      For my parents, Kevin and Margaret. You raised me in love and taught me simplicity. I accept with open and grateful hands all that you have given me. Thank you.

      EPIGRAPH

      It is very sad for a man to make himself servant to a single thing; his manhood all taken out of him by the hydraulic pressure of excessive business.

      — Theodore Parker

      PREFACE

      I felt called to write this book in response to the confusion, lack of connection and silent suffering that many men endure. Society often conditions us to be ‘strong’, hold the show up and not show our emotions. This is reflected in phrases such as ‘real men don’t cry’ or ‘you need to stay strong to support your family’. If we do that, we are fulfilling our purpose in the eyes of society. If we don’t, then we can often feel a sense of failure.

      This conditioning can begin very early. I have treated many male patients in my practice who lack confidence and a sense of connection with themselves and others, due to lack of nurturing and positive reinforcement when they were children. This is especially the case when these were not received from their fathers…so no one teaches them directly, or by example, what a whole man is.

      Historically, indigenous cultures didn’t have this issue. A young boy could still grow into a ‘warrior’, while embracing his wound. Spirituality was at the centre of his, and his culture’s existence. In modern society, ‘spiritual stuff’ and expressing emotions can be seen by many men as a sign of weakness. To make matters worse, such beliefs are often reinforced amongst men. So emotions are suppressed and the inner wound of such men grows deeper.

      From the outset it was my intention to write this book from a positive perspective, not a negative one. Much has been written on what is ‘wrong’ with men, but I wanted to write about manhood and what a gift it can be to others and society in general. My hope is that men will read this book from that perspective.

      May the words that follow, open up a door for you that will allow light to shine on parts long kept in darkness.

      Peace and blessings,

      Martin Costigan

      Brisbane

      1st February, 2012

      ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

      I wish to acknowledge and thank all those who helped to write this book.

      First and foremost, my beautiful wife and soulmate, Anne. Her undying support and faith in all that I embark on allows me the space to explore and live my purpose. Thank you my love.

      Thanks to four dear friends who proof-read the transcript and offered many helpful suggestions, many of which I incorporated into the book; Peter Sultana, Kerry Drysdale, Mary Fletcher and Mark Straughair.

      Many thanks also to my two kids, Charles and Matilda, and my four step-kids, Paul, Rebecca, Kristie and Tennille. They are amongst the greatest teachers in my life, always challenging me (without even realising it!) to move out of myself and consider the needs and viewpoints of others. I love you guys.

      There are also many others who have journeyed with me at different points in my life. Through there friendship, mentoring, humour and wisdom, I have come to recognise the innate sacredness within all people. Thanks to you all.

      INTRODUCTION

      It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings.

      — Theodore Roosevelt

      There is nothing noble in being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.

      — Hindu Proverb

      You have one life. One shot. The average life span of an Australian male is 75. At the time of writing this book I am 47 years old. Statistically my life on earth is already half over.

      I don’t want to just SURVIVE in life. I want to THRIVE! I want to use all the gifts I have been given to reach my full potential. I want to be able to love myself and others unconditionally. Rather than using all my energy to just get through each day, I want to excel and reach greater and higher places. It was for these reasons you were created. Your destiny is to live life happy and fulfilled as a man.

      I have written this book to help other men. To help them see that manhood is a gift to our world. It is exciting, fulfilling and unique. It is life-giving.

      In an article written by Adele Horin for The Melbourne Age newspaper (July 10, 2002), the author refers to a study undertaken by Deakin University in Melbourne, which shows that on the happiness scale Australian men fall significantly below women regardless of their state in life i.e. single, married, have children or not. Why? Hopefully, as we journey together for a while in these pages, you will find some answers to this question.

      Men need to embrace fully their manhood to live happy fulfilled lives. Our world needs men that are complete. Men need men who are complete.

      Stand in front of a mirror. Look at yourself. Be honest and describe what you see and how you feel about this person staring back at you. You may wish to write these feelings down. Your relationship with this person is the most important human relationship you will ever have. From this relationship stems all others. If you don’t like yourself you will find it difficult to like other people. If you hate your self you will tend to hate other people. If you judge yourself you will be judgmental of others. If you don’t love and accept yourself unconditionally, then in your heart you will believe in a spiritual source, or God, that doesn’t love or accept you unconditionally either.

      If, however, you love yourself and accept yourself as you are, your capacity to love and accept others will be great.

      As Theodore Roosevelt points out in the quote above, your purpose on earth isn’t to live a perfect or mistake-free life; it is to keep growing towards wholeness and the only way to do that is to embrace life in the ‘arena’. Yes, you will get your hands and face dirty from time to time. Yes, you will be criticized by others who think they understand you, or your situation, better than you do. But in the long run, these things aren’t important. It’s how you respond to them that matters. These seemingly negative things may actually contain within them the seeds of new and exciting growth. Remember, pruning a plant is essential to maximize its production of

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