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    Notes to Jacqui: A Polio Survivor's Thoughts to His Daughter
    Notes to Jacqui: A Polio Survivor's Thoughts to His Daughter
    Notes to Jacqui: A Polio Survivor's Thoughts to His Daughter
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    Notes to Jacqui: A Polio Survivor's Thoughts to His Daughter

    By Ronald A. Tomo BS MPA CCP CNA

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    For years I have wanted to immortalize my thoughts as a handbook for my loving daughter Jacqui. A true testament to humanity and the ability to overcome challenges. Having been a polio survivor being stricken in 1953 at 7 months old, I had to learn much about survival, caring, adapting, loving, leading, and so much more. As one of the younger survivors of polio (vaccine came out a few months after I contracted this deadly and crippling disease) I naturally learned quickly about "odds" and statistics; which is to say they're meaningless if you are the one who falls on the wrong side of probability!!!

    I have survived many things in life and have achieved many things in life (polio survivors are known to be over achievers ... statistically of course). I have learned much along the way with both my successes and failures. The main thing I learned is how to beat the odds which turned out to be very simple; NEVER GIVE UP.

    This book is a compilation of various notes I want my daughter Jacqui to remember even when I'm long gone. My style of writing is free flowing for easy reading and understanding. The chapters in the book have no particular order be it chronological or otherwise. Instead they are in the order of my mood and inspiration at the time I sat down at my keyboard. I write from the heart as I approach all things in my life. My brain shows me the options but my heart makes the decision. This has proved to be a very effective approach and has made me successful in many ways. I live by a concept that I always knew but the great motivator Anthony Robbins coined or immortalized the best phrase that describes it all: "Live with Passion."

    So, buckle your seatbelts; put on your reading glasses; relax and enjoy. I waited and thought about this project for a long time so I hope you learn something and to my daughter, this is what I leave to you as the history of your dad and the "guide to life according to Pops."

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAuthorHouse
    Release dateDec 21, 2011
    ISBN9781467873949
    Notes to Jacqui: A Polio Survivor's Thoughts to His Daughter
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    Ronald A. Tomo BS MPA CCP CNA

    Mr. Tomo has a lifetime of experiences that uniquely qualify him to write such a guide to life for his daughter, Jacqui, yet applicable to everyone. He survived a debillitating disease, Polio, which he contracted at 7 months of age and worked his way back from near death to become a rather talented and successful leader in the Healthcare IT Field. Along the way, Mr. Tomo studied at C.W. Post College where he received both a BS degree in Management and an MPA in Healthcare Administration. He also has certifications from NYU as a Systems Programmer and Analyst, LIU as a Paralegal, and Harvard where he studied Integrated Delivery Systems. Among the numerous accomplishments and paths Ron has been on, he has been a Rock 'n Roll Lead Vocalist, an ambulance driver, a college Adjunct Professor, held several positions in healthcare IT including his current position as Vice President and Chief Information Officer at a major Long Island Hospital. He also serves on the Advisory Board for the Computer Science Department of SUNY Farmingdale. He delivered one of the Keynote Addresses at their COCID Conference. Mr. Tomo speaks at various Radio Clubs and Professional Organizations. Mr. Tomo also is a ham radio operator (KE2UK) first licensed in 1967 and an expert in Disaster Communications. He was the recipient of the American Radio Relay League's (ARRL) 2010 International Humanitarian of the Year Award because of a lifetime of efforts in helping others through ham radio culminating in his Disaster Relief Mission to Haiti right after the 2010 deadly earthquake where Mr. Tomo set up emergency communications to several tent hospitals and helped operate the tent hospital at Bojeux Parc in Port-au-Prince. He also set up Digital Communications while in Haiti back to the US ARMY by running a WL2K PACTOR III HF Radio Station. Ron is also a Commander in the United States Coast Guard Auxiliary where he also works in communications, public affairs, member training, and more. He has survived multiple surgeries including emergency spinal surgery in 2005 and has learned much about life through the countless diverse situations life has lead him to over the years. Ron lives in North Bellmore, NY with his wife, Cari, and his Mini Dachshund Emma. He has one child, Jacquelyn (Jacqui) to whom this book was written for in the hope that she finds it useful in her life's journey.

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      Notes to Jacqui - Ronald A. Tomo BS MPA CCP CNA

      Contents

      Dedications:

      Preface

      Note #1

      We’ll Start at the Very Beginning

      Note #2

      Early Childhood Fear

      Note #3

      School Can Be Cruel

      Note #4

      Love Is A High Priority

      Note # 5

      Public Speaking is Critical to Success

      Note #6

      In 1967 I Found It

      Note #7

      A Little Help When You Need It

      Note #8

      Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

      Note #9

      Humor As A Drug

      Note #10

      You Can Learn A Lot In A Disaster

      Note #11

      Share Your Gift

      Note #12

      Paying It Forward

      Note #13

      Management

      Note #14

      Politics

      Note #15

      Volunteer

      Note #16

      Ruff Ruff

      Note #17

      Marriage

      Note # 18

      Your Health

      Note #19

      Never Forget Your Roots

      Note #20

      A Mother Is…

      Note #21

      Thinking On Your Feet

      Note #22

      Writing

      Note #23

      Be Happy

      Note #24

      Negotiation

      NOTE #25

      Fear Not The Thought Of Death

      Note #26

      How Much Do They Like You?

      Note #27

      Regrets

      Note #28

      Enjoy The Ride

      Final Note To Jacqui

      Thank You

      Appendix 1

      Pictures You Should

      Always Remember Jacqui

      Appendix 2

      Quick Reference To All Notes

      Appendix 3

      Add Your Own Notes

      PHOTO 1.JPG

      Ron, Jacqui, & Cari Tomo

      PHOTO 2.jpg

      Cari & Jacqui in Rome

      Dedications:

      To my daughter Jacqui who inspired me to put these thoughts into words.

      To all those who shaped my life and helped me understand and adapt to a world that can be both a beautiful and cruel place.

      To my parents who saved my life.

      To my wife Cari who has put up with me through many trials, tribulations, and rights of passage and also helped me find all the photos and assist in editing.

      To Bob Laibach (RIP) who mentored me in the world of business.

      To my four Dachshunds who loved me unconditionally (Erik, Xena, Elly Mae, & Emma)!!!

      To my longtime friend and colleague Neil Brin whose untimely death at the age of only 59 was the final catalyst to get me to move on this project. Neil, I miss you every day and your quick wit and humor will never be forgotten.

      PHOTO 3.jpg

      Father and Daughter

      Dear Jacqui,

      From the moment you entered the world, you changed my life forever. I could never be more proud of who you are and what you have accomplished. I wrote this book so you would never forget the many life lessons I have learned and want you to remember. Although this is for you Jacqui, I am also hoping my words can help others who have people that love them but never found the time or resources to get their wisdom passed onto them. Also, for all those who are not as fortunate or lucky to have a parent to help them try to find their way through this crazy thing called life.

      There will come a point when I will be gone Jacqui although I am not planning on meeting my maker for quite some time. When that time comes, do not weep for me as I have had a full lifetime of amazing experiences and writing this book for you is so you can always keep my wisdom and ideas in your back pocket. I ask that if and when you have children, please pass this to them so they know who grandpa was and how much he loved you and wanted you to have these thoughts to live by and share.

      Remember that I will love you unconditionally until I take my final breath and will support you however I can for as long as my heart beats. Read this book carefully and between the lines as there is a large part of my life and who I am in this piece of work I proudly present to you.

      I wish you love, passion, and peace of mind throughout your life.

      Love you for eternity,

      Dad (aka Daddy, Pops, and at times $%^$$&@)

      PHOTO 4.jpg

      The many faces of Dad

      Preface

      For years I have wanted to immortalize my thoughts as a handbook for my loving daughter Jacqui. Having been a polio survivor being stricken in 1953 at 7 months old, I had to learn much about survival, caring, adapting, loving, leading, and so much more. As one of the younger survivors of polio (vaccine came out a few months after I contracted this deadly and crippling disease) I naturally learned quickly about odds and statistics; which is to say they’re meaningless if you are the one who falls on the wrong side of probability!!!

      I have survived many things in life and have achieved many things in life (polio survivors are known to be over achievers …. statistically of course). I have learned much along the way with both my successes and failures. The main thing I learned is how to beat the odds which turned out to be very simple; NEVER GIVE UP.

      This book is a compilation of various notes I want my daughter Jacqui to remember even when I’m long gone. My style of writing is free flowing for easy reading and understanding. The chapters in the book have no particular order be it chronological or otherwise. Instead they are in the order of my mood and inspiration at the time I sat down at my keyboard. I write from the heart as I approach all things in my life. My brain shows me the options but my heart makes the decision. This has proved to be a very effective approach and has made me successful in many ways. I live by a concept that I always knew but the great motivator Anthony Robbins coined or immortalized the best phrase that describes it all: Live with Passion.

      So, buckle your seatbelts; put on your reading glasses; relax and enjoy. I waited and thought about this project for a long time so I hope you learn something and to my daughter, this is what I leave to you as the history of your dad and the guide to life according to Pops.

      PHOTO 5.JPG

      Ron in brace from Polio (1961)

      Note #1

      We’ll Start at the Very Beginning

      They say that Love Birds were carriers of the disease known as polio. At 7 months of age, in 1953, my loving parents took my brother and me to a pet shop. I was an infant and they held me up next to the love birds’ cage. A week later I was fighting for my life. Back then, doctors came to the house. They insisted I had the flu yet ignored critical symptoms like inability to hold my head up; my right arm just dropping when

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