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    Loving Myself in Order to Love You
    Loving Myself in Order to Love You
    Loving Myself in Order to Love You
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    Loving Myself in Order to Love You

    By Sharon Annette Pollard

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    Many episodes of my life made me believe that I had actually found this unique and special love, but as before, it was an illusion. This love I wished for would be a love that I had never experience before. And I often wondered..."does this love even exist? And God answered that question for me and that answer was yes. It does exist, but it must start with me. In so many cases we as women are the ones that give our love so freely, so openly, and so honestly. But in return we accept the negativity of a relationship. We accept the name calling, the abuse whether its verbal or physical by the ones we have given our all. This is not the love that God has blessed us with, but the behavior that we have accepted and think it is love. Life is a lesson learned daily. The ups and the downs of relationships that we think are based on love are only stepping stones to a better understanding about love and how it is given and how it is accepted. But, first take a look in the mirror and admire the reflection you see looking back at you. Love her, respect her, and admire her beauty, her uniqueness. She is rare, one of a kind. There is no one like her and her values are beyond any wealth. It is only then when you began to love that person, and accept that person, you will learn what this unspeakable love is all about and how to receive and to give it without doubt.
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    Release dateAug 9, 2011
    ISBN9781463428747
    Loving Myself in Order to Love You
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    Sharon Annette Pollard

    ABOUT THE BOOK Many episodes of my life made me believe that I had actually found this unique and special love, but as before, it was an illusion. This love I wished for would be a love that I had never experience before. And I often wondered..."does this love even exist?” And God answered that question for me and that answer was yes. It does exist, but it must start with me. In so many cases we as women are the ones that give our love so freely, so openly, and so honestly. But in return we accept the negativity of a relationship. We accept the name calling, the abuse whether it’s verbal or physical by the ones we have given our all. This is not the love that God has blessed us with, but the behavior that we have accepted and think it is love. Life is a lesson learned daily. The ups and the downs of relationships that we think are based on love are only stepping stones to a better understanding about love and how it is given and how it is accepted. But, first take a look in the mirror and admire the reflection you see looking back at you. Love her, respect her, and admire her beauty, her uniqueness. She is rare, one of a kind. There is no one like her and her values are beyond any wealth. It is only then when you began to love that person, and accept that person, you will learn what this unspeakable love is all about and how to give it without doubt .AUTHOR BIOGRAPHY Sharon Annette Pollard is a native of Batesville, Mississippi. She is a single mother of three daughters. Sharon received her Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration to pursue a career in business or establish her own. Having a passion for healthcare, she later obtained her Master Degree in Healthcare Administration and a Masters in Leadership Management. She currently works at UT Medical Group, a healthcare facility in Memphis, Tennessee. She has been writing since she was ten. She wrote personal poems and inspirational thoughts to release stress and angry that she so often felt. Sharon's writing was a way to escape from the pain and hurt she would feel. Her writing was also a way to express deep thoughts of happiness or a time of joy. Her motivation to fulfill her dream of serious writing was encouraged by many wonderful and beautiful women that had encountered similar situations as she had. She hopes this book will let women from every walk of life know that they are unique, one of a kind, rare and a precious creature that was created by God. But in order for them to see their worthiness, they must first start the process of actually loving themselves.

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      Loving Myself in Order to Love You - Sharon Annette Pollard

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      AuthorHouse™

      1663 Liberty Drive

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      Phone: 1-800-839-8640

      © 2011 by Sharon Annette Pollard. All rights reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

      First published by AuthorHouse 08/04/2011

      ISBN: 978-1-4634-2875-4 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4634-2874-7 (ebk)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2011910722

      Printed in the United States of America

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      Contents

      You Have Come a Long Way Baby!

      Who Am I?

      Discovering Life

      What Does Love Feel Like?

      Growing Up

      A New Found Love

      A Forced Love

      Resenting Love

      Losing My Best Friend

      Trying To Love Again

      Fatherless

      Giving Love Invain

      My Past Comes Back

      Past Love, Present Chance

      A Second Chance for Love

      Old Love Same Games

      Finding Myself Again

      Dedication

      I dedicate this book to all the beautiful women

      that once lost the sight of their worthiness and their valuable essence to life. I want to assure them that their worth is priceless. Ladies lift your head high and walk with pride. Love yourself ultimately and in return you can give that love back unrestricted and with confidence. I pray that you find encouragement and hope in the reading of this book.

      Be blessed my sisters!

      Acknowledgements

      I first give all thanks and honor to God for giving me so many second chances and protecting me from evil seen and unseen. I shall forever praise and honor his holy name. To my lovely daughters, Jermeka, Shernina, and, Jasmine, I want to thank you for believing in your mom. I love you all with all my heart. Without you girls, it would be no me. I also want to thank you for letting me know I was beautiful inside and out and through you, I found the strength to see my worth and begin to love myself. I often felt that I had failed you as a mom, but you always removed that delusion from my thoughts. I am so proud of all of you! I want you girls to face the world with a smile knowing you are someone special. And that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to do. Continue to love yourself and make the best at whatever you strive to for in life.

      To the men that entered my life for reasons that were good or not, I want to say, thank you, because, through you, I have learned very valuable lessons in my life. I have learned to seek God more, respect and appreciate who I am in God. But my greatest milestone that brought so much pain and heartaches to my inner being was trying to love you. And in the process, I forgot who I was and stopped loving me. My faith allowed me to take a step back and look at a unique creature that God had created and with no duplications. We as women must know what we are about before we can make demands on what we want. How can we give love and expect it to come back to us if we never took the time out to actually love ourselves? I want to just say, I found myself and I love it! I know what I want in a relationship, the expectations, the exclusions, the good, and the bad. I would like to share this message with millions of females that feel that they are less than what they are worth. You are what you except yourself to be. You cannot love another, until you began loving yourself first.

      To F. M., all I can say is thank you, thank you, and thank you. I know that God placed you in my life for a special reason. It was you that actually showed me what caring without reservation truly meant. In you, I finally understood what loving from the heart was really all about. Through all of my bittersweet struggles, you were there to give me encouragement and support. In you unconditional was defined to me so clearly. Even though we did not have the love relationship that was desired, the relationship that transpired between us was special. You gave me a shoulder for support when I didn’t know which way to turn, and for this, you will always have a special place in my heart.

      To my friends, Charlotte Levy, (the book critic) and Miranda Allen, I know I worried you guys constantly with the problems I encountered writing this book. But yet you always gave me encouragement and I thank you for that. I want to also thank my family, and everyone that contributed to me actually taking a step back to realize my worthiness and my existence in this world and to share it in writing this book. I can’t leave this page until I give a huge thank you to my good friend Beverly Rowan for introducing me to an editor that I so desperately needed. Thank you Mr. Albert Langston, Jr. for saving me! I hope we have a successful relationship with future endowments in this world of writing.

      I would also like to take this opportunity to give my greatest thanks to my former pastor, Bishop E.M. Fondren and The Deliverance Tabernacle Pentecostal Church, Inc. Your teaching was not taught in vain.

      I give much love and respect to my pastor, Bishop J.W. Bracy and First Lady Helen Bracy, and the entire Union Grove Holiness Church family for praying for me and giving me the encouragement I needed to make a difference. I love you all with every fiber in my body!! Thank you!

       You Have Come a Long Way Baby!

      Sharon excitedly looked in the mirror as she applied the final touches to her makeup and lipstick. The reflection she saw starring back at her put a big smile upon her face she saw a beautiful, vibrate, caramel-skinned woman starring back at her. The smoothness of her skin and the silkiness of her thick, black hair made her smile with a sense of approval. She admired her figure standing in front of the floor length mirror. Nice work Sharon she thought to herself since she had worked so hard with her diet. The music of Donald Lawrence & Co was playing loud in the background . . . "Looking back on when I started, had a lot of sun and a lot of rain, I’ve had some joy and been broken hearted but now that doesn’t . . . mean a thing I’m living for the joy and laughter, I’m learning from my befores and afters . . ." and her mind began to travel back to when she was living a life of so much pain and heartaches. At the age to know what love was all about, Sharon wished for love, an unconditional love. If I could find someone to love me, I mean truly love me, it would be an answered prayer, she would so often say to herself. She applied her last stroke of lipstick to her lips, yet she continued to smile. She looked at the time and put a rush on her dressing. Her dinner date would soon be arriving. Freeman Miles was a very successful physician with the skill of treating cancer patients at the cancer center in Memphis, Tennessee. She definitely did not want to be late for an evening of dinner, laughter and wonderful conversation with such a courteous gentleman. She continues to complete the finishing touch to her makeup and hair. And once again, her thoughts drifted back to the questions she often asked herself as well as so many other females, why did I ever allow myself to feel less than what I was truly worth? She yet questions herself. Yes, she had worked really hard to slim down her weight, elevate her mind, but whatever caused me to have those feelings of low self-esteem in the first place? Why I didn’t love myself?" And then it happened. The reminiscing of the past started to flood her mind as a waterfall without an element to contain it. It consumed her thoughts completely. Her thoughts of the good and the bad relationships she had experienced in her life and she came to the conclusion that it wasn’t endorsed, but she accepted it for what it was worth. Those disappointments, broken hearts, and the millions of tears she had cried allowed her to be the woman she had now become. She was a woman that possesses an astonishing personality, great character, and her spirit was full of joy. She has found peace within. But the most important element that had been missing in her life was love. She lacked the ability to love and accept herself worthiness. She use to dream of being some famous individual who lived in a big city and no one knew of her past. Sharon never took the time to realize that she was unique, one of a kind and there would never be another such as her. She really didn’t know her worth.

      Sharon finished getting dress and reached for the phone to call her date. Hello baby, where are you? Sharon, I am so sorry, I have several meetings so I am running late. Will an eight o’ clock dinner be okay with you? Sure, that will be fine. Sharon knew that she really wasn’t ready to go at that time. She had too much on her mind. I will go and get a quick shower and I will be right there. Don’t you dare change your mind little lady! I have a surprise for you and I can’t wait until you see it! Sharon interest perked up a little bit as well as her curiosity. Don’t worry doc, I will be here waiting on you. Sharon said in an enticing voice. Baby, drive careful okay? Okay pretty lady, I will be there shortly. Sharon hung up the phone and begins to wonder what the surprise Freeman had for her. She was somewhat excited, but nervous as well. Her thoughts left her for a short moment and then she realized what she was about to do. She went into her closet

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