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    The Many Parts of You: Understanding the Puzzle of Your Behaviour
    The Many Parts of You: Understanding the Puzzle of Your Behaviour
    The Many Parts of You: Understanding the Puzzle of Your Behaviour
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    The Many Parts of You: Understanding the Puzzle of Your Behaviour

    By Jan Sky

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    Clarity; Jans book and her unique skills can be summed in that single word; Clarity. Jans ability to help her clients, her friends and now with this book her readers, comes from her innate understanding of how to help us identify and remove blocks, both emotional and intellectual, to clear thinking, giving us the momentum to move

    forward, toward our goals.

    Jack Fraenkel

    Chief Motivational Officer, Motivatories

    Jan took me on a journey into myself and showed me how I make decisions. Since returning from that journey my understanding of myself has made even harder choices much easier.

    Gary Roberts

    Chief Engineer, Leading Sydney Hotel

    The implications in ones professional and personal life are huge. Reactionary? Proactionary? Knowing what ego states one has means freedom of choice of behaviour and emotions.

    Lyn MacIntosh

    Counsellor, Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner.

    With the Many Parts of You Jan Sky has opened the door to a simple and effective way to dealing with our own blocks to achieving what we want from life. Jans style and ease of writing give us an accessible tool that we can use whenever and wherever we choose. This book is a gift.

    Liz Cassidy

    Managing Director, Third Sigma International

    Jan uses ESI process with in-mates in prison with outstanding results. The in-mates feel empowered by their realization that there are more parts to their personalities than their criminal parts. They appear to grasp this concept and appear to use this in addressing their offending behaviour after attending her program

    Brenda Ambler

    Drug & Alcohol / Holistic Counsellor, Dept of Corrective Services

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBalboa Press AU
    Release dateNov 29, 2012
    ISBN9781452507675
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      The Many Parts of You - Jan Sky

      Copyright © 2012 Jan Sky

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      Balboa Press books may be ordered through booksellers or by contacting:

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      ISBN: 978-1-4525-0766-8 (sc)

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      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

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      Balboa Press rev. date: 10/23/2012

      Contents

      Foreword

      Preface

      Introduction

      Chapter One—Motivation and Mary

      Chapter Two—Identification of States

      Chapter Three—Mapping of States

      Chapter Four—ESI in the Workplace

      Chapter Five—Case Studies

      Julie

      Carla

      Daniel

      Rita

      Shayley

      Sam

      Bailey

      Tom

      Stepping Beyond the Resistance

      Summary

      About the author and Business Consultancy Services

      Dedication

      Dedicated to my friend of 51 years, Sandra,

      who disclosed, without realising, the many

      parts of her.

      Thank you.

      ESI%20logo.jpg        ESI is a psycho-analytical tool developed and trialled by Jan Sky since 2006 with outstanding results. These trials, primarily in prisons, continue as does her work today. ESI enables you to identify a map of who you are—your states—and to identify inhibiting states which are to be moved aside and replaced with states that promote success in the individual.

      Foreword

      Part of me would like to, but another part knows I had better not. How often have you said or heard something like that?

      We all know, intuitively, that our psyches are made up of different parts. Our parts are even common in our language, as we talk about our parts and the inner voices. One part of us can even like or love a person, while another part does not. It is not unusual for a person to reflect in their mind upon previous discussions between parts, when considering whether to stay with a partner, or leave. Even buying a pair of shoes or a new car can create a discussion between two of our parts. One part may say, I like it, and I want it while another part may say, It’s too expensive. I can’t afford it.

      Paul Federn was a contemporary of Freud but, unlike Freud who saw the personality as having only three parts—the Id, the Ego, and the Superego—Federn saw the personality as having a number of parts. He called the parts ‘ego states’, because as we switch from one state to another our ego identity goes with us. That is why when we are in the part that likes the new car we say to ourselves, "I like it, and while we are in the part that looks after the bank account we say to ourselves, I can’t afford it. While in each part—the hedonistic part that wants the car, or the accountant part that looks after the bank balance—we feel, this is me." Our ego identity goes with us into whichever part is executive, or whichever state we are in.

      Ego State Therapy is a relatively new and growing therapeutic orientation. World Congresses have been held about this subject in Germany (2003) and in South Africa (2006). It is interesting to note how the movement made its way into this new and creative book. During the first half of the 20th century psychoanalysis was the favoured psychotherapeutic orientation. It has long been the practice that to be a psychoanalyst the therapist needs to first go through psychoanalysis. An Italian man, Edoardo Weiss, in order to become a psychoanalyst himself, chose Paul Federn as his psychoanalyst. Weiss was fascinated with Federn’s ideas. He learned from Federn his ideas about ego states, and about how the personality is divided into distinct states that, when either comes into executive, enable an ego identity to be invested. His belief in these ideas resulted in his editing and publishing Federn’s writings (after Federn’s death) in the book, Ego Psychology and the Psychoses (Federn, 1952).

      Also in the 1950s, John Watkins entered psychoanalysis so he could become a psychoanalyst. Watkins had already published a book on War Neuroses (1949) and, after choosing Weiss as his analyst and learning about ego states from him, Watkins’ own body of work took on a new and clearer meaning. He realised that he had been working with ego states for a number of years, while helping soldiers who had returned from World War II. He had helped them resolve their traumatised ego states, thereby eliminating their hysteric symptoms. This was some of the first work conducted with ego states relating to trauma.

      John Watkins, together

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