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    100 Couple Stories
    100 Couple Stories
    100 Couple Stories
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    100 Couple Stories

    By U. Hoviland

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    I dont want to be over-possessed
    I learned to accept the things I cannot change and to live by them
    He assumed I knew how he felt
    He was chronically thoughtless
    I couldnt understand her after all I did
    She withdraws at my sexual advances in the bedroom
    I thought saying I love you all the time will make it meaningless
    The mother-in-law
    We argued about unnecessary things
    My wife just started looking unattractive to me
    I realized I needed to work on my looks after some years with my hubby
    We were rarely making love
    He does not understand me
    And many more
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAuthorHouse UK
    Release dateAug 22, 2012
    ISBN9781477222911
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      100 Couple Stories - U. Hoviland

      100

      Couple

      Stories

      U. Hoviland

      US%26UKLogoB%26Wnew.ai

      AuthorHouse™

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      Phone: 1-800-839-8640

      © 2012 by U. Hoviland. All rights reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

      Published by AuthorHouse 08/16/2012

      ISBN: 978-1-4772-2290-4 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4772-2291-1 (e)

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models, and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      This book is printed on acid-free paper.

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Contents

      Introduction

      1 I Don’t Want To Be Over-Possessed

      2 Learnt To Accept The Things I Cannot Change And To Live By Them

      3 He Assumed I Knew How He Felt

      4 He Was Chronically Thoughtless

      5 I Couldn’t Understand Her After All I Did

      6 Whenever He Came Home, He Spent His Time Behind The Newspapers Or In Front Of The Tv

      7 She Found It Difficult To Express Herself

      8 She Withdraws At My Sexual Advances In The Bedroom

      9 I Thought Saying ‘I Love You’ All The Time Will Make It Meaningless

      10 He Was Suddenly Changing

      11 Was Only Focused On The Kids

      12 What I Never Expected

      13 Dared To Take Foolish Advice

      14 The Mother-In-Law

      15 Was Stuck To Old Life

      16 Home Management Problem

      17 We Were Fast Drifting Apart

      18 Fell And Picked

      19 Thought I Could Handle It

      20 Take A Second Look At Your Lifestyle

      21 She Did It

      22 I Gave Much Time To My Church

      As A Deacon

      23 We Argued About Unnecessary Things

      24 He Was Always Busy Playing Tennis, Golfing, Or Going Fishing

      25 He Left All The Responsibilities To Me Because I Had The Money

      26 He Took Care Of Himself More Than He Took Care Of Me, But For Years I’ve Managed Not To Notice

      27 He Was Always Losing His Job

      28 My Wife Just Started Looking

      Unattractive To Me

      29 I Realized I Needed To Work On My Looks After Some Years With My Hubby

      30 We Were Rarely Making Love

      31 My Inherited Trust Fund Didn’t Do It

      32 I Thought My Husband’s Natural Ineptitude Would Make Him Depend On Me

      33 Though He Brought Much Fun Home, Responsibility Was Not His Thing

      34 I Wanted Us To Sleep In Different Rooms Because I Was Always Too Tired

      35 Almost Separated Due To His Business Travels

      36 Her New Status Was A Challenge

      37 My Sweetie Came Home And Gave Me A Big Package

      38 I Was Beating My Wife

      39 We Attended Different Churches

      40 Our Religions Were Different

      41 He Does Not Understand Me

      42 She Kept Things To Herself

      43 Her Home Management Ability Was Poor

      44 He’s An Economical Shopper—To A Fault

      45 She Was Not Health-Conscious

      46 She Just Wants To Show Off

      47 I Lost Her Trust

      48 We Were Two Lonely, Competing Individuals

      49 We Had To Make A Good Marriage Happen

      50 After We Got Married, We Relaxed

      51 I Hit Her Once

      52 We Had A Mediocre Relationship Until We Found Christ

      53 Fatal Illness Resulted

      54 I Wasn’t Getting Enough Of His Love

      55 She Was Frigid

      56 Tiny Manhood

      57 Large Vaginal Walls

      58 Wasn’t Satisfied In Bed

      59 Took Time To Satisfy Her

      60 Had Quick Ejaculation

      61 I Loved Her Better When I Learnt How To Live A Better Life

      62 Her Love Was Conditional

      63 He Loved Me Conditionally

      64 Forgets Birthdays And Our Anniversary

      65 Never Fixes Anything Around The House

      66 He Stopped Taking Me Out

      67 Won’t Get Up In The Morning

      68 Watches Television Up Till Late Night

      69 Lives Beyond Our Means And Addicted To Shopping

      70 Pays No Special Attention To The Kids

      71 He’s Not Home Enough

      72 Says Decent Words Only When He Wants Me

      73 Had Terrible Table Manners

      74 He Drives Like A Maniac

      75 Repeated Same Jokes

      76 He Bragged Too Much

      77 Was Bad With His Grammar

      78 Swears A Lot

      79 Eats Too Much

      80 He Was An Indecisive Person

      81 Too Domineering

      82 Expected My Husband To Do Something Drastic To Improve Our Finances

      83 Criticizing My Wife Got Me Nothing

      84 We Lived Under The Same Roof But Rarely Communicated

      85 She Was Just Too Jealous

      86 My Nagging Attitude Put Him Away

      87 My Nagging Drove My Husband And Son Away

      88 I Have Been Trying To Change Him For Fifteen Years

      89 Learnt To Guard My Manners And Tone Of Voice

      90 I Made References To The Past

      91 He Worked Compulsively

      92 He Comes Late From Work Without Calling

      93 Admired Him More

      94 Before We Got Married, We Had So Much To Talk About; Years After, Talking Became Difficult

      95 Embarrassed Me In Public

      96 Her Listening Attitude Was Frustrating Me

      97 I Don’t Want Things, But Attention

      98 She Was Not Nice To Come Home To

      99 Didn’t See Him As Worthy Of My Respect

      100 My Beautiful Wife Is A Kleptomaniac

      This book is dedicated to my mother

      Eunice A. Njoku

      INTRODUCTION

      There are too many solutions and too much advice on marriage and relationships today, yet we still see countless separation and divorce cases. My desire is to offer something in a different style—educational and fun to read.

      This book tries to communicate subtly. To those who are planning to get into the marriage institution, to those who are already in it, we say welcome to a new book for you.

      These are one hundred couple stories, put together in the language of the participants. You can read of their true-life experiences and maybe learn something from them.

      The stories have to do with all kinds of conflicts that arise in marriage, reasons for these conflicts, and how these couples successfully handled them.

      —U. Hoviland

      1

      I Don’t Want to Be Over-Possessed

      Genuine love is not possessive. Genuine love then affirms the uniqueness of the individual by marriage partners giving their mates a freedom to be themselves. It does not attempt to possess or manipulate others. It means that we will preserve our mate’s freedom to think his/her own thoughts, retain his/her own feelings, and make his/her decisions. It releases others to become their best selves according to how they perceive the picture.

      Such a love leaves room for others to have a variety of friends and interests beyond the marriage relationship, for we each need a certain amount of ‘space’ in which to develop our identities and potentialities. By not attempting to become the other’s entire life, we free him or her to enjoy the full range of life’s wondrous experiences.

      The above quote (from The Complete Marriage by Nancy Van Pelt.) was what I read to my husband when I could no longer take his overbearing, possessive attitude. He loves me so much that he wants me all to himself. He was almost apprehensive of everything I did outside the home—the people I befriended, my job, and so many more.

      I had to make him understand that that was not love. He must let me be as an individual, with a different perspective from his and a right to life and aspirations.

      2

      Learnt to Accept the Things I Cannot Change and to Live by Them

      During my engagement, I let everyone know that my husband-to-be was the perfect man for me, but soon the intimacy of marriage revealed faults and habits in my ‘perfect’ mate. Some of these habits or faults I found very irritating.

      I decided that during the course of our living together, I would help him to change to ‘my standard’. I believed achieving that would make our marriage more enjoyable for me. I began a very long try to change him, but it was all to no avail. He was still the person he was.

      While we made out time to attend a marriage seminar, I was able to learn better ways to live with my partner. He is an individual, and I must accept him as he is. Expecting him to be perfect by my own standard was not right. I am not to try to completely change him but to respect, like, and accept him as he is. Putting him under pressure to change his habits, personality, or preferences will definitely make him uncomfortable.

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