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    How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years
    How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years
    How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years
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    How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years

    By Darren Darrell Smith

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    If you are a married Christian and want to remain in holy matrimony forever, the enclosed revelation will empower you with the knowledge to combat each possible scenario that leads to divorce. Through this new revelation, the true definition of divorce, the damage of role reversal, and the dangers of children remaining within the home past their expiration date are just a few examples from this God-guided manual. These scenarios are demonstrated through the Biblical couples who entered marital conflict and, with agape love, overcame every obstacle. Though cleverly hidden within the scriptures, these true masters of Gods sacred covenant will guide you to an endless and happy marriage.
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    Release dateNov 29, 2012
    ISBN9781477293560
    How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years
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    Darren Darrell Smith

    Darren Darrell Smith was born in Atlanta, Georgia, in 1973. At the age of eighteen, he enlisted in the US Army Reserve. One year later, he enlisted full-time as an active-duty sailor in the US Navy, giving sixteen years of his life to the United States of America. Desiring to continue his dedication to his country, he made the choice to become a government contractor, working as a system administrator for the Department of Defense. Darren is a genuine believer in the value of continued education. He holds an MBA in Business Management and a Master’s Degree in Information Systems from Strayer University. Darren is a dedicated husband, father, son, brother, friend, grandfather, and servant of God. Although education, career, finances, and family are highly important to Darren, none of them holds a more superior position in his life than Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Darren was inspired by God to write this book when a close friend began to have questions about scriptures regarding divorce. As Darren begin to examine scriptures, God revealed to him a deeper meaning within the text. The more Darren and his wife explored the scriptures, the clearer it became that there are unseen biblical lessons about marriage. Darren, along with his wife, Cynthia, began spreading these revelations to their friends and family members. They also began to incorporate these lessons within the marriage ministry in which they have been assigned leadership by their Appostle James (Rumsey) Sheets and Pastor-Prophet Kimberly Sheets. Their previous dedicated place of worship for a period of eleven - (11) years, both Darren & Cynthia grew within there understanding and appreciation of their relationships with God. Stepping into position took place at East of Bethel Christian Center and Rehoboth Ministries, located in Accokeek, Maryland. This was there Biblical Home. As we all know when you go through the growing process of Baby of Christ to walking within your Sonship with God your Father, changes are required. It was time for Darren & Cynthia to leave the nest and experience new and exciting things so since 2014 Darren & Cynthia have become faithful members of New Life located in LaPlated, MD. Darren has never before authored a book, but he accepted God’s assignment to write about the deeper meaning within the Bible regarding marriage.

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      How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years - Darren Darrell Smith

      Chapter 1

      Mamma’s Boys and Daddy’s Little Girls

      Information for the Men

      Proverbs 31:10 gives an example of what God considers to be a virtuous woman. This is a hint from Him of what a man should be looking for in a wife. So what causes a woman not to be virtuous? Most likely, her upbringing has allowed her to expect the treatment of what the world has identified as a diva. All of her life, she has received whatever she desired. If she didn’t, a habit of pouting developed. Shopping became the center of her teenage life as credit became her language. She became very familiar with spending and learned very little about saving. In my opinion, this is not a good thing. A woman who carries the title of Daddy’s little girl is great at receiving and not so great at giving. Submission is not something someone with this mentality could get used to. This section is not trying to inform you of who you should or shouldn’t marry. This is just a heads-up on what could be problematic if you expect this type of person to have a hot meal ready for you upon your arrival home from a hard day’s work. If you have purchased this book and you are just finding out that your wife is a diva instead of a virtuous woman, continue to read and discover how to reverse your wife’s expectations of you.

      Information for the Women

      One of the greatest examples that the Bible gives us of what to expect a man to be is in Genesis 3:17-19. It lets you know the minimum of what a man should be doing before he introduces himself to you. The first question you should not be ashamed to ask is, Where do you live and where do you work? If the answer you receive is basically, I am between jobs and I live with my mother right now to save up for a house, cease the conversation no matter how gorgeous he may be. This is an obvious sign that he is a Mamma’s boy. This type of man has received the royal treatment from his mother. She has cleaned his room, folded his laundry, spoon-fed him, and groomed him to depend solely on her, all because he was the only man in her life. In a marriage, this man will accept no lesser treatment from his wife. If you have purchased this book and you are just finding out your husband is a Mamma’s boy, continue to read and discover how to reverse your husband’s motherly expectations of you.

      Requirements for Change

      The type of men and women mentioned above were bred to be selfish. The requirement to rearrange selfishness to selfish-less is fairly easy when choosing to follow a doctrine that doesn’t change. Our doctrine, the Holy Bible, instructs its followers to be transformed by renewing their mind, recognizing God’s order and expectations of a household, and living every word of His Word even when it doesn’t benefit their wants. This could be quite difficult for people who have a tendency to be all about themselves. That’s why they must choose to conform to God’s ways. People are used to their freedom and expect to have it while joining the Kingdom of God. His Kingdom, as harsh as it may sound, is a dictatorship, not a democracy. This means one unchanging king who has unchanging rules. A man who wants to follow God has to be within the guidelines of God’s Kingdom. This is no different from someone asking to move in with you and placing his feet on your table as he reclines back, drinking and spilling beer on your Italian leather sofa. In other words, people can’t come into your home and live by their rules. It’s the same way with God’s Kingdom: His Kingdom, His rules. A selfish person choosing to walk into God’s house must adjust to God’s ways. Of course, mistakes will happen, but constantly making the attempt to align your behavior to His rules should be accepted as constructive criticism.

      Chapter 2

      The Gravitational Pull of

      Being Unequally Yoked

      (King Solomon and His Wives)

      I remember my son being at an age where he believed nothing until he experienced it for himself. I would tell him how hot the stove was while his mother was cooking and advise him to stay away from the kitchen during this time. But because he was three years old, he found my frightened reaction amusing when he would slowly move his hand toward the hot stove and snatch it back when it was too close. I would warn him of what could happen if he continued to tease me and play in this way. One day, as he looked forward to teasing me while playing his little game, he mistakenly touched the stove, failing to realize how close his hand was to it. His losing that round in his game caused several unnecessary events to happen: I had to take time off from work, take him to the doctor, spend money for a co-pay, wait to be seen by a doctor, pick up some burn cream, change bandages, and so on. From that day forward, that was not his game of his choice. But all of that could have been prevented if he would have just followed my advice or yoked his thinking with mine from the first time I informed him of how dangerous the stove was. Yoke is used here to mean have the same frame of mind, thinking, or direction, in order to make the task easier for the ones involved.

      The worldly definitions of yoke are:

      • A frame designed to be carried across a person’s shoulders with equal loads suspended from each end.

      • A crossbar with two U-shaped pieces that encircle the necks of a pair of oxen or other draft animals working together.

      • To join two animals together by a device that divides the weight of a heavy load equally between them.

      The Bible uses this word to explain how a thought process or a way of life would be easy for those who choose to live the way Jesus has taught us to live (Matt. 11:28-30). Yoke is also used to describe the positions of the types of people believers should be in fellowship with (2 Cor. 6:14). When we don’t yoke with those who are like ourselves, we take the risk of changing our ways to match their ways.

      In the case of marriage, a similar problem forms when we choose a mate. Yoke is also used in the Bible when referring to marriages. God wants His people to be married, or yoked, to those who are yoked to Him. When we do not marry those who share our religion, the expectation of them following the ways of our God could lead us quickly to a divorce. I have witnessed an Islamic believer fall in love with a Christian believer. Although the sexual encounter between the two was explosive, the idea of marriage could not enter the hearts of either of them. They both refused to convert to the other’s beliefs. Needless to say, unbeknownst to either of them, their child was on his way into the world. I prefer not to speak the worst when it comes to the life of a child, but a house divided cannot stand (Mark 3:25). In this case, both houses, Islamic and Christian, are standing on one child. God warned us about these types of relationships in 1 Kings 11:1-3, which states the following:

      But King Solomon [defiantly] loved many foreign women—the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites. They were of the very nations of whom the Lord said to the Israelites, You shall not mingle with them, neither shall they mingle with you, for surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods. Yet Solomon clung to these in love. He had 700 wives, princesses, and 300 concubines, and his wives turned away his heart from God.

      Solomon was the wisest person to ever live (1 Kings 3:7-13). His wisdom allowed him to believe he could do what God warned him against. Marrying these women was not just for sport to him. Solomon had an agenda to take these women as wives for political reasons, but as we can see, it backfired on him. You cannot think that something God warned us against will change if we do it a different way, even if you are the smartest or wisest person living. Being equally yoked is vital in a marriage, because it has the power to bring a household to order.

      Like Solomon, most of us are intrigued by someone our parents warned us against. After we disregard their advice and make our own decision, a downward spiral of events begins to take place as we lose our footing trying to figure out, How did I get here? In a Christian household, the first rule that parents teach their children is to marry someone who is of the same religion as they are. This is one of the most important keys to being married for a hundred years, although that is not on a person’s mind when making a selection for a spouse. As unbelievable as

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