Everand Logo

Welcome to Everand!

  • Discover millions of ebooks, audiobooks, and so much more with a free trial

    Only $11.99/month after trial. Cancel anytime.

    Love Between Fire and Ice: Different Scenes from Real Marital Lives
    Love Between Fire and Ice: Different Scenes from Real Marital Lives
    Love Between Fire and Ice: Different Scenes from Real Marital Lives
    Ebook151 pages2 hours

    Love Between Fire and Ice: Different Scenes from Real Marital Lives

    By Abdulellah M. Jadaa

    ()

    Read preview

    About this ebook

    Marriage is one of lifes great blessings. In Love between Fire and Ice, author Abdulellah M. Jadaa, writing from an Arabic point of view, provides a guide for couples contemplating the blessing of marriage to help them understand this relationship before moving into the marital home.

    In this compilation of previously published articles, Jadaa details the different styles of love, as well as how to choose a marriage partner and how to learn from the flaws of failed experiences. Love between Fire and Ice discusses the factors that help ignite love as well as the importance of harmony and unison in the success of love. It also talks about the realities of marital life and explores how to restore its warmth, how to successfully manage the differences between the spouses without disputes, and how to make the people around us happy.

    Describing the different types of romantic love and ways to make this delicious feeling last forever, Love between Fire and Ice shows the importance of balance in love to ensure it remains warm and vibrant. Real success is keeping love between fire and ice.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateJul 30, 2013
    ISBN9781475999181
    Love Between Fire and Ice: Different Scenes from Real Marital Lives
    Author

    Abdulellah M. Jadaa

    Abdulellah M. Jadaa earned a PhD in social sciences and is a poet and writer with several published volumes to his name. He is also a family counselor, professional certified trainer, and general director of public relations for Alshaden Advanced. Jadaa is married to Dr. Dania Al Ghalib and currently lives in Saudi Arabia.

    Related to Love Between Fire and Ice

    Related ebooks

    Relationships For You

    View More
    View More

    Related podcast episodes

    Related articles

    • Article

      FRIEND or FOE?

      Oct 25, 2022

      FRIEND or FOE?
      6 min read

    • Article

      Dear Ali…

      Aug 27, 2021

      Dear Ali…
      5 min read

    • Article

      Dear Ali…

      Apr 25, 2021

      Dear Ali…
      4 min read

    • Article

      Life-changing Conversations

      Nov 30, 2021

      Life-changing Conversations
      7 min read

    • Article

      Can I Learn To Love Myself?

      Apr 2, 2023

      Can I Learn To Love Myself?
      7 min read

    • Article

      For Better Or Verse

      Dec 5, 2016

      For Better Or Verse
      5 min read

    • Article

      For Better Or Verse

      Jul 3, 2017

      For Better Or Verse
      5 min read

    • Article

      Q & A

      Mar 15, 2022

      Q My best friend’s mother died early on in the pandemic and I know it’s still affecting her very badly – but she refuses to even consider going to grief counselling. She says that she doesn’t want to have a stranger digging around and making things w

      3 min read

    • Article

      For Better Or Verse

      Jul 3, 2017

      For Better Or Verse
      5 min read

    • Article

      BOOKMARK THIS read…listen…stream

      Feb 14, 2023

      How to Change What Power Sounds Like, Starting with You Samara Bay • Crown “To speak with the full wingspan of your voice requires some technical know-how as well as a certain flex of the permission muscle,” writes Samara Bay in this book that delive

      6 min read

    • Article

      The Good partner Test

      May 29, 2022

      The Good partner Test
      6 min read

    • Article

      Falling In Love … Again

      Dec 11, 2019

      Falling In Love … Again
      7 min read

    • Article

      Ask Ali

      Feb 24, 2023

      Ask Ali
      2 min read

    • Article

      In-laws – Or Outlaws?

      Sep 16, 2019

      In-laws – Or Outlaws?
      4 min read

    • Article

      Truth Be Told

      Oct 6, 2020

      Truth Be Told
      7 min read

    • Article

      PODCAST reviews

      Aug 16, 2022

      Christine Wamsler, Professor at Lund University Centre for Sustainability Studies, joins host Liane Stephan for a hopeful conversation on how mindsets (cognitive, emotional, and relational capacities) can support sustainable climate action. Why are m

      6 min read

    Related categories

    Reviews for Love Between Fire and Ice

    0 ratings

    0 ratings0 reviews

    What did you think?

    Tap to rate

    Review must be at least 10 words

      Book preview

      Love Between Fire and Ice - Abdulellah M. Jadaa

      Copyright © 2013 Abdulellah M. Jadaa.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      iUniverse books may be ordered through booksellers or by contacting:

      iUniverse

      1663 Liberty Drive

      Bloomington, IN 47403

      www.iuniverse.com

      1-800-Authors (1-800-288-4677)

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models, and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      ISBN: 978-1-4759-9916-7 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4759-9917-4 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4759-9918-1 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2013912631

      iUniverse rev. date: 7/29/2013

      Contents

      Introduction

      Part 1 Issues of Love and Choice

      Love between Fire and Ice

      Can Love Be Lawful?

      Futile Experiences—Afflictions of Love (1)

      Futile Experiences—Afflictions of Love (2)

      Does Deprivation Kindle the Fire of Love?

      Harmony and Accordance in Love

      Romantic Love

      Laughter and Frolic and Earnest Love (1)

      Laughter and Frolic and Earnest Love (2)

      When Love Defeats

      Can Love Persist?

      When Dreams Fall Apart

      Fantasies of Love vs. Realities of Life

      Harmony in Marriage

      Part 2 Secrets of Marital Life

      You Are Responsible, Man

      Languor of Private Relations

      My Husband and My Friend (1)

      My Husband and My Friend (2)

      For the Sake of a Happy Marriage (1)

      For the Sake of a Happy Marriage (2)

      For the Sake of a Happy Marriage (3)

      The Shadow of Frustration in Marriage

      Vacations and Recovering Emotions

      Secret Remedies for Marital Perplexities

      Winning a Dispute with Your Husband

      Part 3 Obscure Natures of Men and Women

      Is Jealousy a Sign of Love? (1)

      Is Jealousy a Sign of Love? (2)

      What Inspires Poets?

      Differences between Men and Women

      Men’s Behavior in Marriage Relations

      Living in Peace with Each Other

      Are Women Moody in Their Love?

      Part 4 The Shadow of Divorce

      Guarding Marriage from Divorce (1)

      Guarding Marriage from Divorce (2)

      The Future Life of Divorcees

      References

      To all those people with noble souls,

      who are described in the following lines:

      Whilst souls with virtue flutter,

      Bodies with grief still suffer.

      Those souls whose hearts are filled with true love.

      Those who do not expect from their infinite generosity any thanks or anything in return. They do not mind burning in their interiors for the sake of illuminating the road for others. For all those, with my sincere love and respect.

      Introduction

      Marriage is one of life’s great blessings, and helping people find love and improve their relationships has been my life’s work.

      I have published articles in the Arabic magazine Kull Annas under the title On the Fence. I have intentionally chosen the first part of these articles, which deals with love, marriage, and marital affairs. In presenting these issues, I have depended solely on the background of my numerous readings and former writings in this important and vivid domain, and I have studied this field in getting my doctorate and conducted surveys in this regard.

      I have dealt with them from my own diligence, without pretending to be any expert or having any special skills in this field. In these articles, I have discussed matters based on my personal experience, readings, and opinions about problems presented to me by different social classes. It should remain clear, though, that the opinions expressed by writers and researchers are but individual perspectives, regardless of their specialization or experience.

      I have already published my first book in this realm, titled Secrets of Love and Marriage. It has achieved a tremendous success, much exceeding my expectations. The publisher had to issue three editions in a limited time. This furnished me with streams of enthusiasm and interest. Therefore, despite being very busy with my work and readings, I have focused on my published articles in the above-mentioned magazine. I have taken advantage of the vacations and my leisure for revising, changing, modifying, and adding to the articles. In addition to this, I have published four poetry books, such as a collection of poems titled I Love You and a collection of poems titled How Does the Heart Forget You?

      Many people agree that not all articles published in newspapers are suitable for books, often because those articles are usually associated with public occasions, issues, or particular problems. The articles accomplish their objectives only if they are published at a specific time. Some these topics and articles, however, relate to affairs and discuss ideas suitable for every place and time. Newspapers and magazines are only available to people who purchase or read them. To reach a broader audience, these stories were collected and published in this book.

      Completing this publication was not a simple task because of the shortage of time, not the burden of carrying it out. The motive I had for creating this book was to encourage readers—and in particular, women readers—to read about topics that soothe their hearts and relax their minds. Readers are the pulse that writers perceive in order to gauge the impact of their writing on the readers. Regardless of whether these reactions are positive or negative, when readers communicate, they encourage writers to enrich their discourse with themselves and their readers. Those are still more inducements for creating, writing, and discussing.

      This book is organized into five main sections: issues of love and choice, types of love, secrets of marital life, obscure natures, and the shadow of divorce. The sections cover concerns for all ages, starting with how we select our partners and how we fall in love, how love develops, and how to deal with our partner. I concentrated on romantic love and how we could judge and interpret it. Other topics include how marriage affects a relationship. I tried to illustrate the harmony in marriage because it is important for the success of love. I discuss the role of men and women in marriage and private relations. I collected ideas for encouraging a happy marriage, including how to avoid the frustration we face in marriage and the impact of the vacations to recover the emotions.

      I’ve included sections on the differences between men and women and particulars about the nature of each. For women, I included sections for learning to win a dispute with their husbands, based on the differences between male and female behavior, in order to live in peace with each other. No topic about marriage is complete with a discussion of saving it from divorce, so at the end, I focus on the shadow of divorce in order to guard marriage from it.

      I hope these stories instill some trust, enthusiasm, and encouragement into those troubled souls. Every person has inner capacities and immense strength within his or her mind and souls. We have to find these latent powers and use them, and doing that centers around hope and trust. But above all, have faith in God, praying and invoking His help alone. People should have serene trust in the Creator, who is capable of anything: Verily, when He intends a thing, His command is ‘Be,’ and it is. (Quran, Surat Yaseen, 36:82).

      After that, people should judge matters using their own opinion, learning from other people’s experiences and seeking their advice. Despair, frustration, and boredom are enemies of rational thinking. They drive people to more confusion yet. It is extremely important to have strong faith in God’s abilities, entreat Him, invoke Him with prayers, ask for His help, and to pray for guidance. The effectiveness is known to all those who have experienced God’s answers to such prayers.

      Part 1

      Issues of Love and Choice

      36654.jpg

      Love between Fire and Ice

      A woman once said to me, I can no longer describe the stage I have reached in the relationship with whom I love. Sometimes, I see things all mixed up, and I ask myself, ‘Does he still love me as I had known him when our love was born? Or is that ardent fire that used to glow so fervently extinguished?’ He no longer calls me every day or several times a day as he used to do. I no longer find in him the same yearning. I, in turn, have shifted my emotions accordingly; I grant him but little and ignore phoning him or answering his few calls. What do you think? Am I extravagant in my emotions? Or am I a romantic dreamer in my love?

      The problem she is complaining about is common. It may face any person involved in a relationship. It is the problem of most married couples, especially those whose marriage was based solely on love. Relationships go through different stages.

      The initial stage in any relationship is a phase characterized by carefully sailing across the other’s heart and emotions and creeping into their depths. It is a phase where each carries many inquiries for which he or she tries to find answers. Each one seeks a lot of information about the other. In order to obtain that, telephone calls to each other last for hours and hours without becoming boring or tedious. Why? Because there is a topic to talk about, motivation, questions waiting for answers, curiosity, eagerness, and longing. These are the reasons for our many calls.

      At the beginning of a relationship, the temperature of passions comes to the boiling point. If these passions are not balanced, and if they arise from adolescents who lack experience and art, the boiling will increase to where it will vaporize all the atoms of passion and emotion. There will be no boiling left, no fire, no warmth, and at the end, it will be frost and ice.

      In a mature stage of emotions and minds, however, in a stage of reason and experience, love is different. That is why people say that true love comes but once in a lifetime. If passions develop into love, and heat rises to boiling, what is needed, then, is balance to transform that boiling into continuous warmth. Continuous warmth is better than steam that is temporary. In this stage, the heat continues and saves the feelings from coldness and frost.

      In other words, the first love—the adolescent love—is a sudden case of increasing boil, where everything evaporates. Mature and logical love always glows with warmth. First love is like a dress, which a person can change whenever and with whatever one wishes, but mature love becomes our skin; it becomes part of us. Skin cannot be replaced, for man is not a serpent.

      When a relation has gone on for some time, one should not expect one’s partner to call the same number of times as in the early stages. Neither should this absence be interpreted as indifference or a change of feelings; it

      Enjoying the preview?
      Page 1 of 1