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    The Many Facets of a Woman: The Value of Friendships and Mentoring
    The Many Facets of a Woman: The Value of Friendships and Mentoring
    The Many Facets of a Woman: The Value of Friendships and Mentoring
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    The Many Facets of a Woman: The Value of Friendships and Mentoring

    By Suzanne Hillegas

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    The Many Facets of a Woman was written to encourage women to cultivate friendships on the journey of life. Come explore friendship through the lens of a beautiful diamond. Discover new ways to engage friendship, learn more about yourself, and reflect the many facets of your own womanhood. Enjoy the narrative of twelve different friendships and mentors. As you travel through the peaks and valleys of my relationships, my hope is that you will be able to distinguish what kind of friend you are and what role you play in each of your friendships. Embrace the challenge to strengthen a friendship, pursue a new friendship, redefine an old friendship, or become a mentor to another woman. Enjoy the adventure of experiencing life with companionship and sisterly love.

    When a diamond is held up to the light, the observer is able to see the beautiful perspectives reflected through the many prisms and facets of the gem. May this book allow you to see the wonderful gem of your friendships and appreciate and cultivate the amazing women in your life.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateAug 7, 2013
    ISBN9781490802527
    The Many Facets of a Woman: The Value of Friendships and Mentoring
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    Suzanne Hillegas

    Suzanne Hillegas lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband. She enjoys reading, painting, and trying new recipes, but the best times are spent in local coffee shops with a close friend or a new acquaintance exchanging personal tales about life, love, and the pursuit of excellence.

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      The Many Facets of a Woman - Suzanne Hillegas

      Copyright © 2013 SUZANNE HILLEGAS.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      WestBow Press books may be ordered through booksellers or by contacting:

      WestBow Press

      A Division of Thomas Nelson

      1663 Liberty Drive

      Bloomington, IN 47403

      www.westbowpress.com

      1-(866) 928-1240

      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models, and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      ISBN: 978-1-4497-9821-5 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4908-0253-4 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4908-0252-7 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2013912975

      WestBow Press rev. date: 08/02/2013

      TABLE OF CONTENTS

      FOREWORD

      INTRODUCTION

      CHAPTER 1: DETERMINED DIANA

      CHAPTER 2: PARENTING PAM

      CHAPTER 3: THOUGHT-FULL TRACY

      CHAPTER 4: INVITING IRIS

      CHAPTER 5: ADVENTURESOME ADDIE

      CHAPTER 6: MIRROR MIRA

      CHAPTER 7: PRECISELY PRIVATE VIVIAN

      CHAPTER 8: PRAYER WARRIOR WENDY

      CHAPTER 9: GRIEF AND GRATITUDE GRETCHEN

      CHAPTER 10: FAST FRIENDS FELICITY AND FAITH

      CHAPTER 11: LOVER OF SOULS SOPHIE

      CHAPTER 12: MENTORING TOWARDS GOD, TOWARDS HOPE

      ENDNOTES

      DEDICATION

      To my amazingly loving parents Gary and Diana Smith who molded and crafted my creativity

      and determination.

      FOREWORD

      BY REBEKAH BARBOUR

      S uzy Smith Hillegas is one of my dearest friends. She is warm, kind, pleasant, organized, creative, courageous, artistic, confident; and though I could go on with my list, the thing that makes her so special is that she is a true friend. Not only does she choose her close friends with precision and purpose, she treats each one of them with that same care.

      We first became close because she pursued our friendship in a time when I had nothing to give in return. She scheduled times for us to meet for coffee. She lent me the use of her house when I needed a quiet refuge to think and pray. She called for 10-minute conversations, just to keep in touch despite a busy season.

      She has helped me celebrate some of my life’s greatest accomplishments, and has walked beside me through my deepest valleys. We have laughed till we have made spectacles of ourselves, gulping in air and grabbing our aching sides. We have talked for hours, conversations lasting over several days, wrestling with the great mysteries of life: God, work, family… men. She has been brutally and beautifully honest when I could not see the truth or wanted to ignore it.

      She reminds me of the disciple Andrew in the gospels. Every time he is mentioned, he is bringing someone to Jesus: his brother Peter, the boy with his lunch to be multiplied, and others that simply were curious about him. Suzy is like Andrew. The light inside of her, the joy she finds in her relationship with Jesus, is so contagious that I want to be with him too.

      It is seen in every conversation I have with Suzy. Whether full of laughter or of tears, whether she is giving me good counsel or keeping me accountable, I walk away feeling closer to God than when we began. She is my Andrew, consistently taking me once again to the presence of My Savior.

      That is not to say that everything has been all sunshine for Suzy. There have been times when life has dimmed her light and I wondered at the depth of the darkness to be able to quell the brightness of my friend. But she had her women. She had the strength of those of us that went to her, because she had come to us; those that picked up the phone at all hours day or night, because she had answered when we had called. Those relationships she had so carefully nurtured and developed, gathered around her proving strong enough to hold true till the light could shine again.

      When we all came together at her wedding, I saw this amazing picture of God’s family. People from all areas of one person’s life, each with a different story, yet each so excited and so ready to celebrate such a happy day. This has to be how God designed His family to work all along.

      This book is the family portrait up close. It is Suzy’s family, her women, that have walked with her at different times along the journey. In it, you will see the sunshine, the darkness, the laughter, and the tears. You will see how God moves in his people. You will see Jesus and Suzy will bring you to him.

      I am honored to be included in her book, but so much more, I have the pleasure of being in her circle of women and to call her my friend.

      INTRODUCTION

      T here is a scene in the middle of the movie 27 Dresses when the two sisters are finally having it out. They are each saying all the things that she believed the other woman thought of her all their lives. At the beginning of the fight they are yelling out these comments and then, as the absurdity of what one sister is saying to the other becomes evident, they begin to calm down. The conversation takes a more honest and personal turn. The older, more stable, sister sees her younger, freer sister as happier and luckier. The younger sister sees her settled sister’s life as the life she would like to have. Near the end of this revealing conversation the younger sister says, I was trying to be you. And the older sister responds with Why? Why would you want to be me, when you get to be you? ¹

      This is the cry of all women. We look at other women and think I just want to have her body or I just want to have her ease in the middle of a crowd. We struggle to be satisfied with what we have and, more importantly, who we are as women.

      How can this deep-rooted habit of wishing to be someone else be flipped around to be a positive help instead of detrimental disease? Mentoring. Choose a mentor, be a mentor, invade women’s lives to learn from them and grow. Find the traits that you have always longed for and discover that you have something to offer as well. We as women have so many facets. We are multi-dimensional. I set out to learn as much as I could from very specific women. Sometimes a relationship was thrust upon me, often I requested it.

      Having a woman mentor can help you see things about yourself that you did not even know were there. Mentoring creates a space to be not-okay and to examine why you are heading down a particular path. The truths and characteristics that you can learn from another woman are invaluable. For many years I thought I was the one taking. I had no idea I was also giving in these friendships. These women had much more experience and life understanding than I thought I ever

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