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    How to Stay Together: Whether You Want to or Not
    How to Stay Together: Whether You Want to or Not
    How to Stay Together: Whether You Want to or Not
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    How to Stay Together: Whether You Want to or Not

    By Dr. Anita Gadhia-Smith and Dr. Inge Guen

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    HOW TO STAY TOGETHER: WHETHER YOU WANT TO OR NOT

    The richness of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships. HOW TO STAY TOGETHER: WHETHER YOU WANT TO OR NOT is the ultimate relationship guide for all couples who want a thriving relationship that will endure the test of time. This book offers a wealth of practical and simple guidance to help navigate through life's many challenges as a couple and sustain lasting and fulfilling intimacy. From courtship through the stages of mature love, this book gives clear and concise direction to help the reader grow through intimacy towards the next phase of maturity in a long- term relationship.

    Ambivalence is a normal part of all human relationships, and we can move forward by learning to accept it instead of running away. If you want to learn a lifetime of relationship wisdom in just a few hours, read and apply the principles of this book to your relationship and your life. You will learn how to stay and evolve to your fullest potential through your relationship, instead of repeating cycles of self-defeating behavior. A loving relationship is by far one of the most rewarding fruits of a life well-lived. Give yourself the opportunity to learn to love, whether you want to or not. It is the most important thing you will ever do.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateSep 26, 2013
    ISBN9781491708194
    How to Stay Together: Whether You Want to or Not
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    Dr. Anita Gadhia-Smith

    Dr. Anita Gadhia-Smith is a psychotherapist in Washington, D.C., specializing in addictions, recovery, and relationship issues. She has served as a consultant to the United States Congress in parity legislation for substance abuse treatment. She has also spoken nationally and internationally on radio, television, and other media on addiction treatment.

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      How to Stay Together - Dr. Anita Gadhia-Smith

      HOW TO STAY

      TOGETHER

      WHETHER YOU WANT TO

      OR NOT

      DR. ANITA GADHIA-SMITH

      iUniverse LLC

      Bloomington

      How To Stay Together

      Whether You Want To Or Not

      Copyright © 2013 DR. ANITA GADHIA-SMITH.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

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      ISBN: 978-1-4917-0818-7 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4917-0819-4 (ebk)

      iUniverse rev. date: 09/20/2013

      CONTENTS

      FOREWORD

      INTRODUCTION

      CHAPTER 1       COURTSHIP

      CHAPTER 2       AMBIVALENCE

      CHAPTER 3       RESPONSIBILITY

      CHAPTER 4       COMMITMENT

      CHAPTER 5       CONFLICT

      CHAPTER 6       EROS

      CHAPTER 7       MONEY

      CHAPTER 8       FAMILY

      CHAPTER 9       ACCEPTANCE

      CHAPTER 10       INTIMACY

      CHAPTER 11       LOVE

      CHAPTER 12       GROWTH

      ABOUT THE AUTHOR

      THIS BOOK IS DEDICATED TO MY HUSBAND:

      RONALD E. SMITH, MD, PHD

      CAPTAIN, MEDICAL CORPS, UNITED STATES NAVY

      (THE LAST AMERICAN HERO)

      FOREWORD

      This new book by Dr. Anita Gadhia-Smith is a true teaching tool on relationships. It covers the complex element of the human experience from every angle and opens our eyes to issues we have never even considered. It is written in a very positive and fluid style, which makes one eager to move from one chapter to the next, realizing that one can learn from every step of the book.

      Dr. Anita is an experienced relationship therapist, and this is shown by her extraordinary insight on how to face and deal with inter-personal problems. She offers advice to redirect relationships that have gone wrong, and she gives us valuable guidelines for making good relationships even better. She delves deep into our souls and helps us realize that even if something has gone wrong in a relationship, one can reroute it to find great comfort and happiness.

      This book makes you aware that you have to be actively involved in making a meaningful life with your partner, and that it is up to you to create a loving and positive environment. Taking on this challenge personally, every day, will lead to a successful life together.

      Dr. Anita has done it again. This is a ‘good read’ with an incredible amount of clinical and practical advice for both the general public and her professional mental health colleagues. She demonstrates why she is such a good therapist. We all will learn a great deal from this book.

      Inge Guen, PsyD

      INTRODUCTION

      After 15 years of marriage and 51 years of life, I knew it was time to write this book. I married at the age of 36, have weathered many storms in my own marriage and have learned a tremendous amount that I want to share. I am a psychotherapist who specializes in relationship issues, as well as addiction issues, and have been working with individuals, couples, and families in my practice for fifteen years. I have extensive clinical training as well as first-hand experience in working with a vast array of relationship issues.

      My own marriage was extremely difficult in the beginning. Actually, that is an understatement. It was a nightmare. The amount, intensity, and frequency of unmanageable conflict were beyond my comprehension when I decided to marry. I had no idea what I was doing, and I am eternally grateful to my family, therapist, and friends who got me through those rough times. I had no clue that I was not good relationship material at the time of my marriage. I was self-centered, immature, and severely lacking in relationship skills. I have learned that the best way to learn how to do something is to actually do it. For me, this meant staying in a relationship long enough to learn how to have a good one.

      After exhausting myself by blaming my husband for several years and getting nowhere, I finally began to look at myself. This was the missing piece that unlocked the door to true progress and growth. I learned that there was much that I could not readily see about myself that I later came to understand after persevering in a sustained effort to grow. I learned about the meaning of love and how to put it into action.

      In my practice as a psychotherapist, I see many people give up on their relationships too quickly. This, in turn, affects their other relationships, their children, and society as a whole. We have become a disposable culture, ready to throw out what we have all too quickly in the hopes of finding something better. We are often lazy and entitled when it comes to getting what we want, when we want it, the way we want it.

      Many people want the other person to change but are slow to recognize their own shortcomings. This is very difficult to do on your own, but with help, can become a life-transforming practice. I was definitely in this category. I knew how to leave, but I did not know how to stay. I had to learn how to stay, as well as how to enjoy it!

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