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    Not a Child by Any Means:: The Secret Pain of Infertility
    Not a Child by Any Means:: The Secret Pain of Infertility
    Not a Child by Any Means:: The Secret Pain of Infertility
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    Not a Child by Any Means:: The Secret Pain of Infertility

    By Taiwo Oluminu and Tim Oluminu

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    ABOUT THE BOOK

    The aim of this book is to share our experience and also encourage all couples who are still faithfully waiting on God for the gift of the fruit of the womb by encouraging them to continue to rely completely on God who is able to give joy and bring them (children), at a time when His name alone will be glorified. The author expresses the uneasiness and seriousness of childlessness, especially when you have given your life and your all to and have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior. There is no way there would not be some kind of decline from faith to doubt; and, from doubt to giving up completely. The encouragement that this book gives is that God is able, and abundantly able to do exceedingly above our imagination and thinking. This is the crux of the matter, especially to those who are believers in Christ. Faith in Jesus Christ is the ultimate as touching our expectation and contemplation.

    In Genesis Chapter One, God created the earth and all the things thereof [including human beings] and He was delighted in the work of His hands. Consequently, He pronounced the blessing of fruitfulness. However, despite this God people like Abraham and Sarah, Hannah and Elizabeth at one time or the other experiences delay in having children. However, history has shown that God allowed their delays for different reasons.

    We knew, for example, that in the Book of 1st Samuel, God allowed Hannah to pass through a period of delay before giving her baby Samuel. In fact, He allowed her to be subjected to ridicule by her mate Peninnah. But what we often fail to understand was the fact that while Hannah was passing through her childless period, God was at the same time giving the family of Prophet Eli time to amend their ways and repent and at the same time He was also watching to see whether Hannah will continue to be faithful in her coming for the yearly pilgrim to Shiloh to offer sacrifice despite her unanswered prayers and humiliations from her rival. He was observing whether because she had not seen any result from her previous comings to Shiloh, she will be discouraged and refuse to attend.

    In addition to the above, may be in Gods judgment, the Israelites were not yet ready to receive another prophet that would change the course of their nation. But when the time for all these came and the cup of the family of Eli was full, He sent Samuel to Hannah. One can, therefore, infer that Hannahs period of delay serves as a way of filling a vacuum that existed as a result of God giving room for Eli and his sons to repent from their sinful activities.

    Also in a reverse of fortune, when Samuel was eventually released to Hannah and he became the prophet at Shiloh, in place of Eli and his children; part of the people who might have been coming to him at Shiloh with their sacrifices and for consultations were Elikanah, Peninnah and her children. Maybe this door of opportunity might not have open for Hannah and her son if Samuel had been born earlier.

    In the New Testaments, God allowed Elizabeth to experience delay and shame before He gave her John the Baptist. God must have looked at the continued faithful service of Zachariah, Elizabeths husband, as priests despite the fact that his wife was not only barren but she had one with trumpet. The fact that the angel of God met Zachariah while he was performing his priestly duty is an indication that he did not allow his personal family challenge to hinder his services to God.

    The fact that the angel of God linked the birth of John the Baptist with the coming of Jesus Christ [see Luke 1: 17] can be taken as a pointer to the fact that God allowed the delay of childbearing in the life of Zachariah and Elizabeth because He knew that the time was not yet ripe for the birth and manifestation of Jesus Christ on earth. But at

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    PublisherXlibris UK
    Release dateAug 9, 2012
    ISBN9781477142851
    Not a Child by Any Means:: The Secret Pain of Infertility
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    Taiwo Oluminu

    Pastor Tim Oluminu is the Pastor of Ambassador Baptist Church [a member of Union Baptistas of Mozambique], Maputo, Mozambique. He holds MBA Degree in Marketing from Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomosho, Oyo state Nigeria. He was called into the deliverance ministry through the ministry of Rev. (Dr.) & Rev Mrs. G. F. Oyor of God-Will-Do It Ministries Inc., Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. Prior to his call, Tim worked in the banking industry for 13 years before retiring as a manager in 2005 and then went into private business. He established a Table Water producing company in Abuja, the Federal Capital of Nigeria, and a marketing/sales outlet dealing in office/household electronics and appliances in Nigeria. Pastor Oluminu is currently studying for Masters Degree in Divinity [M.Div.] at The Baptist Theological Seminary, Kaduna, Nigeria. Some of Tims other publications are Permissive Will: Dangerous Prayer and Not A Child By Any Means The Secret Pains of Infertility. He is married to his lovely wife, Taiwo Oluminu.

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      Not a Child by Any Means: - Taiwo Oluminu

      NOT A CHILD BY ANY MEANS:

      The Secret Pain of Infertility

      TIM & TAIWO OLUMINU

      Copyright © 2012 by Tim & Taiwo Oluminu.

      Foreword By: Rev. Dr. Steve Ogunbode

      ISBN:          Softcover                                 978-1-4771-4284-4

                         Ebook                                      978-1-4771-4285-1

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.

      Miracle Communications Limited

      The views that were expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Unless otherwise indicated, all quoted Scriptures are from the New International Version [NIV] of the Bible.

      To order additional copies of this book, contact:

      Xlibris Corporation

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      Contents

      DEDICATION

      APPRECIATION

      FOREWORD

      INTRODUCTION

      CHAPTER ONE

      BACKGROUND

      THE BAD NEWS—MISCARRIAGE

      CHAPTER TWO

      THE FIRST LECTURE

      OUR INEXPERIENCE

      THE WAITING BEGINS

      THE SPIRITUAL APPROACH

      CHAPTER THREE

      FOR THE FIRST TIME, I WAS SAD—Tim

      CHAPTER FOUR

      SOME TACTICS OF SATAN

      CHAPTER FIVE

      THE WORK OF SATAN AND HIS AGENTS

      CHAPTER SIX

      OUR SHARE OF SATANIC ACTIVITIES—Taiwo

      CHAPTER SEVEN

      PERSONAL FAMILY INVESTIGATIONS—Tim

      CHAPTER EIGHT

      SATANIC PROPHESIES—Taiwo

      CHAPTER NINE

      MEDICAL EFFORTS

      CHAPTER TEN

      HOW WE HAVE BEEN AVOIDING PRESSURES

      CHAPTER ELEVEN

      HOW SOME PEOPLE REACTED TO THEIR DELAY IN CHILD BEARING IN THE BIBLE

      CHAPTER TWELVE

      CAUSES OF BARRENNESS

      Some cases of barrenness that were from God.

      Cases of barrenness that were induced by satan

      How to recognize the source of barrenness

      CHAPTER THIRTEEN

      OUR HOPE

      Have Thine Own Way, Lord

      CHAPTER FOURTEEN

      ADVICE FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL WAITING FAITHFULLY

      REFERENCES

      BIBLIOGRAPHY

      SUGGESTED BOOKS FOR FURTHER READING

      OTHER PUBLICATIONS BY TIM OLUMINU

      IN THE PRESS

      ABOUT THE AUTHORS

      DEDICATION

      This book is dedicated to all couples who are still faithfully waiting on God for the gift of the fruit of the womb. We know what you are passing through:

      -    We can feel your pains when you see people around you—juniors, seniors or mates, having their children around them.

      -    We can feel your pains when other couples are talking of taking their children out for a treat or picnic at parks or beaches during the weekends or on special occasions.

      -    We know how you feel when people around you are talking about buying Christmas clothes for their children.

      -    We know how you feel when people are talking about their children’s school fees or paying for school books and uniforms, and at times, even come to you asking for loan.

      -    We know what you feel when your mates’ children are graduating from schools while you still don’t know when you will be talking of buying baby foods or pampers.

      -    We know what you feel when people are complaining that their children are disturbing them whereas you are still asking God for one that will be disturbing you.

      -    We know what you feel when people come to you to talk about their children.

      -    We feel your anguish and pains during those lonely nights when tears wet your pillows.

      -    We are not unaware of your countless periods of fasting and praying not to talk of attendance of special programs.

      -    We also feel your anxieties during special programs when you say ‘this is it,’ ‘Yes, it’s my time now’ only to see nothing.

      -    We know how you feel when people come to you and say, we are praying along with you.

      This book is also dedicated to the following servants of God who have made it a burden to constantly cry to God for some of us, who are their spiritual children and who are still faithfully looking to God for the fruits of the womb. We can never forget what God has used you for in our lives:

      ▪    Baba Prophet Samuel Kayode Abiara

      ▪     Rev. Dr. and Mrs. Gomba Fortune Oyor

      ▪     Rev Dr and Mrs. Steve Ogunbode

      Your labor of prayer on us will not be in vain.

      APPRECIATION

      All Glory and Honor to DADDY, the Lord God Almighty, our God and Creator, who endowed us with faith, strength and grace to face the challenges that we are facing in our quest for the gift of the fruit of the womb. Without your grace, we would not have been able to cope.

      During our period of waiting, we have seen other couples that were having the same challenge but who handled it in different ways. You have even used our own challenge and reaction to it to witness and counsel other couples who are facing the same challenge. This is not by our own power or strength; it was by your grace and we are eternally grateful for this.

      We also want to thank;

      ▪     Baba Pastor S. K. Abiara for your concern and sacrifice for us. Sir, we will always remember that day when you had to wait for us in Abuja to deliver God’s message to us. You could have gone ahead with your itinerary when we told you that we had to travel to Lagos. After all, you did not know us before and we did not disclose our reason for going to Lagos to you. Yet you were not annoyed neither did you ask us to look for you. Baba, your labor on us will not be in vain.

      ▪     Rev. Dr. and Rev. Mrs G. F. Oyor: Sir and Ma, words are not enough to express our heartfelt appreciation to you for what God has used you for in our lives over the decades.

          Rev. Dr. and Mrs. Steve Ogunbode: You have been wonderful friends to us over the years—since we met at the Ring Road Baptist Church, Ibadan. May God continue to prosper your ministry. We also appreciate your accepting to write the foreword to this book.

      Our appreciation also goes to the following ministers for their support Rev. Dr. Israel Akanji, Rev. S. K. Adeyefa, Rev. T. J. Ipinaiye, Deacon Dada, Mr & Mrs. Paul Babalola all of First Baptist Church, Garki, Abuja; Pastor Hopewell of The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Lagos; Pastor and Pastor Mrs. Kola Ogidi, Rev. Jide Adebayo, Rev. Oladipo Kings, Rev. Blessed Ijebor, Pastor Nnamdi, Pastor Aremu, Pastor Macauley and all other members of God-Will-Do-it Ministries Inc.; Rev. Dr. Odunayo Oke and members of The New Covenant Baptist Church, Agege, Lagos; Rev. H. O. T. Adebowale and members of Ebenezer Baptist Church, Igbajo and Pastor Mrs. Aluola. We thank you all for how you have supported us in one way or the other.

      We cannot but appreciate Deacon Sunny Okwudiashi and members of the Prayer Band of First Baptist Church, Garki, Abuja. Deacon, we appreciate that whole day that you spent with us in the house in prayer and fasting in fulfillment of the burden that you felt in your heart towards us.

      We wish to specifically thank members of God-Will-Do-It—Ministries, Abuja where we served with other servants of God as deliverance minister. Your faith in focusing only on the works of God in our hands rather than on our own physical change is appreciated. You did not allow our challenge to serve as a hindrance to your faith and ours. Together we have been calling on God and He has been confirming His words. To Deaconess Arogun, Deacons Moses, Jona and Jude, Mrs Osah and others, we say thank you.

      We also thank all the medical doctors and other medical personnel’s that have attended to us over the time. May God bless you for what He has used you for in our life.

      Our appreciation also goes to our editor, Pastor Philip Oluwole Ukanah and his team for the editorial and graphic works that make this book what it is today. May God continue to bless and prosper your ministry.

      Finally, we wish to thank our parents Deaconess Debroah Faminu, Mama Mary Ogundokun; brothers and sisters Baba Lekan, Baba Daniel, Mama Debo, Mama Tunde, Mama Ibro, Little Dupe and Laolu Osundina, Pastor Marlon and Susan Faminu—for your support. Your prayers and support, rather than creating additional pressure for us, is wonderful. We thank you and we will soon rejoice together.

      FOREWORD

      This book is a piece aimed at sharing experiences of an expectant couple who have been together for several years without the issue of the womb. The book is also to encourage those who might be in a similar situation, to rely completely on God who is able to give joy and bring them (children), at a time when His name alone will be glorified. The author expresses the uneasiness and seriousness of childlessness, especially when you have given your life and your all to and have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.

      There is no way there would not be some kind of decline from faith to doubt; and, from doubt to giving up completely. The encouragement that this book gives is that God is able, and abundantly able to do exceedingly above our imagination and thinking. This is the crux of the matter, especially to those who are believers in Christ. Faith in Jesus Christ is the ultimate as touching our expectation and contemplation.

      There is the need to constantly remind those who are in this situation that there is no new thing under the sun. Our life’s experiences are not new at all, although they are often posing a threat to our faith by making us to think that something completely new is happening to us. There is nothing that has not occurred in history. The stories are there for us to read from the Scriptures. Many people have gone through it and conquered it. People like Sarah, who later became the mother of nations. Hannah’s case is also there to build us up in faith. So many Bible characters have also gone through the experience and later rejoiced; a good example is Elizabeth the wife of Zechariah. At old age, the Lord blessed her with a son who turned out to be the pro-claimer of the Saviour.

      This book is a must read for all expectant women who are mothers of hope. Couples will find it interesting reading it together. It is also a book for all pastors as they engage in counseling those who are struggling with getting issue (the gift of the fruit of the womb). Parents, whose children are hoping and expecting can also read and offer useful information that are contained in this book for admonition and prayers. The authors’ style is simple and readable as they wrote from their pedigree. As an African, most of their ideas, which they skillfully presented, were drawn out of the African experience. They however write without any iota of prejudice. The reader of this book will find it fascinating and captivating, especially when

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