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    Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting!
    Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting!
    Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting!
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    Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting!

    By Sunday Adelaja

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    In this book, you’ll find out that:
    1. One who hardens his heart will never see the world as beautiful.
    2. Responsiveness allows us to regulate our mood and increase our vitality.
    3. We need to rush to do good to people, first of all, because our human essence manifests itself.
    4. Learn to analyze your negative emotions and find the true cause of irritation
    5. Patience and calmness are the opposite of irritation and inability to show restraint.
    6. The forces that people spend on irritation, discontent, confusion of feelings, can be used intelligently to assemble internally and make the right decision
    7. The resentment that has remained in the heart unresolved can take root, and then it becomes very dangerous not only for the offender but also for the offended.
    8. The best way to solve a problem is to talk honestly about your grievance with another person
    9. Recognizing the right of others to behave in one way or another, we do not allow resentment to settle in our heart.
    10. Do not remember past grievances. The truth is that these grievances are remembered only by you and no one else.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherGolden Truth
    Release dateOct 14, 2018
    ISBN9780463877449
    Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting!
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    Sunday Adelaja

    Sunday Adelaja is the founder and senior pastor of the Embassy of God in Kiev Ukraine and the author of more than 300 books which are translated in several languages including Chinese, German, French, Arabic, etc. A fatherless child from a 40 hut village in Nigeria, Sunday was recruited by communist Russia to ignite a revolution, instead he was saved just before leaving for the USSR where he secretly trained himself in the Bible while earning a Master’s degree in journalism. By age thirty-three he had built the largest church in Europe. Today, his church in Kiev has planted over a thousand daughter churches in over fifty countries of the world. Right now they plant four new churches every week. He is known to be the only person in the world pastoring a cross cultural church where 99% of his twenty five thousand members are white Caucasians. His work has been widely reported by world media outlets like Washington Post, The wall street Journal, Forbes, New York times, Associated Press, Reuters, CNN, BBC, German, Dutch, French National television, etc. Pastor Sunday had the opportunity to speak on a number of occasions in the United Nations. In 2007 he had the rare privilege of opening the United States Senate with prayers. He has spoken in the Israeli Knesset and the Japanese parliament along with several other countries. Pastor Sunday is known as an expert in national transformation through biblical principles and values. Pastor Sunday is happily married to his “princess’ Pastor Bose Adelaja. They are blessed with three children, Perez, Zoe and Pearl.

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      Book preview

      Don't Touch Me, I'm Hurting! - Sunday Adelaja

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      DON'T

      TOUCH ME, I’M HURTING!

      SUNDAY ADELAJA

      Sunday Adelaja

      Do not Touch Me, I’m Hurting!

      ©2018 Sunday Adelaja

      ISBN 978-1727775587

      Copyright © Golden Truth Publishing

      Kiev, Ukraine. All rights reserved

      www.goldentruth.pro

      This book or parts thereof may not be reproduced in any form, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form by any means - electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise - without prior written permission of the author.

      Cover design by Alexander Bondaruk

      Interior design by Olena Kotelnykova

      © Sunday Adelaja, 2018,

      Do not Touch Me, I’m Hurting! -

      Kiev, Ukraine:

      Golden Truth Publishing, 2018

      All rights reserved.

      TABLE OF CONTENTS

      FOREWORD 5

      CHAPTER 1: INDIFFERENCE 9

      My Hut is on the Edge 9

      What is the Indifference 16

      Types of Indifference 20

      Hurry to do Good 28

      What can’t a Man do Until He Gets Rid

      Of Indifference? 30

      CHAPTER 2: IRRITATION 35

      Causes of Irritation 35

      Irritation is a Sign of Weakness 39

      Do not Trigger Me, and All will be Normal 44

      The Expectations we Place on Others 47

      Patience is the Overcoming of Barriers 49

      CHAPTER 3: GREED 59

      Dog in the Manger 59

      Greed is Formed by the Distorted World-View 66

      Philosophy of Our Time 71

      Generosity is the Wealth of the Soul 76

      CHAPTER 4: GRIEVANCE 85

      Four Vectors of Resentment 92

      There are no Incurable Diseases 103

      CHAPTER 5: GOLD RULE TO CHANGE

      YOUR LIFE 115

      Three Conditions for Successful Sailing 115

      The Golden Rule of Life 117

      What will You Sow? 121

      Life Is a Boomerang 122

      Seeds Which are Sown in Your Heart 125

      CONCLUSION 135

      Foreword

      A man of the 21st century feels increasingly isolated and secluded from the people around him. Increasingly, he feels himself to be an insignificant cog in the wheel of global politics, economics, and processes occurring on the scale of the universe. In the light of global political and economic transformations, an individual and his inner world lose their paramount importance and importance in comparison with the interests of the state, region, organization or collective.

      Despite the fact that there are a lot of us, and it seems that we all know each other, the scientific studies conducted say otherwise. Almost a third of the population of civilized countries lives with the diagnosis of chronic loneliness, with a sense of alienation from the rest of the world. Loneliness and self-isolation are some of the most pressing problems of modern society.

      Lost in the labyrinths of his soul, in the race for goods, a person does not pay attention to his inner feelings: Is he happy or not? Does he get joy from life or not? Is he satisfied with his life, or is there something missing in it?

      We often come across situations or attitudes of other people toward us, which seem undeserved and unfair to us. Each of us at least once in his life tried to answer the questions: Well, why am I not lucky? Why am I worse than others? Why is this situation happening to me again?

      Aggressive thoughts, irritation, resentment contribute to the hardening of our heart and often lead to unpredictable consequences. The person closes in himself, inside everything is covered with an icy crust of alienation and indifference to what is happening around. Indifference, resentment, irritation, which we carry in ourselves, is a conscious decision of a person to live with injury, harbor pain, and anger. What people call Psychological pain, often turns out to be restrained anger, unforgiven grudge, deep fear. And sometimes - just an invention to attract the attention of others. Many people suffer from the fact that their relatives behave selfishly and do not put their interests in the heart at all. However, those who are egoists feel the same.

      There are people who are in constant confrontation with the outside world. There are always questions before them: to stop a relationship with a person or to try to establish communication? Punish him for inflicting injury, revenge, declare to the whole world: I’M HURTING! Leave me alone! - or suppress hostile feelings in oneself, show understanding and self-control? Doctors of Sciences or psychologists, educators or medical doctors - we all take such decisions many times, often without giving them much importance, without delving into their meaning and the consequences that they entail. And this, perhaps, is the biggest trap of the modern world. All existing education systems teach a person to acquire knowledge, and there are no systems of education that teach people to think.

      Faced with insurmountable obstacles, we finally need to understand that if the old ways of behavior in life do not lead to the desired results, then they must be replaced by the directly opposite ones: selfishness - love, irritation - patience, indifference change for compassion, insult - For forgiveness. Only by learning to forgive people and accept them as they are, we will learn to forgive and accept ourselves. Having learned to see good in people, it will be easier for us to find the reasons for working for their own good. By helping other people by showing sincere respect for them, we will not only make their lives better. Over time, the good that we did will start to return to our lives too.

      You can choose what to think, how to react and what to feel for others. It depends on you what you will pay attention to focus on the good sides of people, which will make your life happier and meaningful, or look at their negative qualities, which will also give your results. After all, in fact, the world is how we see it.

      Once Mark Twain said: In the nineteenth century there were two great men: Napoleon Bonaparte and Helen Keller. Napoleon, under the feet of whom, lay almost the whole world, summed up his life with the words: In my life, there were hardly a few happy days. The words of the American writer Helen Keller were different: My life was so beautiful. She could not conquer the whole world, even if she wanted to, because immediately after birth completely lost sight and hearing.

      We create our own world and our reality. And when we understand that our reality does not depend on external circumstances, but on our internal state and interaction with the surrounding world, we will become much more serious about issues that previously were not hesitated to give automatic answers.

      Dear readers, our life can and should bring satisfaction and joy. All that is necessary for us is to follow certain principles and rules that will help us navigate, make the right decisions, get rid of pressing resentment, anger, and irritation and release an inexhaustible source of love and acceptance. After all, love is the main and only need of our soul.

      CHAPTER 1

      Indifference

      The worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them: that's the essence of inhumanity.

      George Bernard Shaw, public figure, one of the most famous Irish writers

      MY HUT IS ON THE EDGE

      The remarkable Polish and Russian writer Bruno Jasensky wrote in his novel The Conspiracy of Indifference : Do not be afraid of your friends; in the worst case, they can betray you; Do not be afraid of your enemies; in the worst case, they can kill you; be afraid of the indifferent - because with their tacit consent, treason and murder occur on the earth.

      Indifference goes along with selfishness and rationalism, self-confidence and narcissism. It is the first step towards cruelty and aggression. Indifference can cover all the mental and Psychological field of a man with a thick layer of dust and dirt that destroys any positive quality and can lead to complete moral and psychological degradation of the individual.

      Indifference is a state of a person in which he does not show the slightest interest in anything. Synonyms of the word: apathy, nonchalant, insensitivity, callousness, indifference, passivity.

      Dictionary gives the following definition: Indifference is a lack of interest to the questions of knowledge, morality, social life.

      Indifference is a state of apathy towards the surrounding world, people, phenomena, events, unwillingness to participate in changing one's life for the better, lack of concern for other people. Often, indifference is the consequences of Psychological pain, as a result of which a person closes himself to the outside world for fear of failing again and experiencing pain. From such people, you can usually hear: I do not care... It does not concern me... It does not interest me... Leave me alone... Do not touch me... Of all human conditions, indifference is the worst thing. How many people died from indifference - this is comparable to the scale of world wars. Someone was not helped in time; someone was left in trouble, passed by, did not say anything, did not hear, did not consider... Probably, many of us, showing indifference, found their explanations.

      When a person's soul dies, indifference appears. Perhaps, you will say, the modern world has become crueler than before, so indifferent, indifferent people become more and more. An indifferent person cannot see and feel. He cannot hear others, be sympathetic and compassionate. Dear reader, do not blame the world for being cruel and unfair to you. After all, the world was what it was, that's how it remained. Simply, we ourselves change - either for the

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