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    Dear Social Media: Do's & Don'ts of Navigating Love in a Digital World of Likes, Lies & Stalking
    Dear Social Media: Do's & Don'ts of Navigating Love in a Digital World of Likes, Lies & Stalking
    Dear Social Media: Do's & Don'ts of Navigating Love in a Digital World of Likes, Lies & Stalking
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    Dear Social Media: Do's & Don'ts of Navigating Love in a Digital World of Likes, Lies & Stalking

    By Rahiel Dawit

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    Dear Social Media takes you through the stages of dating and love in a hyper-digital era, from stalking potential lovers online, the red flags that should be obvious to most girls yet missed or ignored by many, the awkwardness of confronting your lover after seeing something bad online, how to handle a breakup when you want nothing to do with that person but he or she still floats through your timeline, how to spot a good guy without doubting him and the dos and don'ts of social media when in a serious relationship. While we are all programmed to stalk someone online, and it's now customary and no longer considered taboo, we aren't necessarily equipped with the knowledge of what to look for beyond the surface and how to manage the emotions after we find something we don't like. Or not talk ourselves out of exploring something with potential because you think he's too good to be true.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateAug 31, 2018
    ISBN9781543946451
    Dear Social Media: Do's & Don'ts of Navigating Love in a Digital World of Likes, Lies & Stalking

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      Dear Social Media - Rahiel Dawit

      Copyright © 2018 Rahiel Dawit.

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. For permission requests, write to the publisher, addressed Attention: Permissions Coordinator, at the address below.

      Print ISBN 978-1-54394-644-4

      eBook ISBN 978-1-54394-645-1

      Any references to historical events, real people, or real places are used fictitiously. Names, characters, and places are products of the author’s imagination. Portions of this book are works of nonfiction. Certain names and identifying characteristics have been changed.

      Cover design by Laci Jordan

      www.solacilike.com

      Printed by Book Baby, Inc., in the United States of America.

      First printing edition 2018.

      Rahiel Dawit

      www.RahielDawit.com

      Contents

      INTRODUCTION

      WHAT YOU’RE DOING WRONG

      THE GUYS YOU DON’T WANT

      MAJOR RED FLAGS

      THE BASICS

      DON’T ACCEPT THE FRIEND REQUEST

      INTUITION CAME BEFORE NOTIFICATIONS

      WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU FIND SOMETHING?

      HOW TO CONFRONT HIM WITHOUT GOING CRAZY

      THE BULLSHIT, VOLUME 2

      THE GOOD GUYS

      THE BREAKUP

      DOS & DON’TS WHEN YOU’RE IN LOVE

      INTRODUCTION

      If I had a dollar for every time I overheard a woman say, I saw on his Instagram ..., He posted this picture I’m not so sure about, This girl keeps leaving comments on his photos, I would be rich, very rich. I hear it all the time in passing, at yoga, while shopping, the ladies room. It was becoming more and more evident that I needed to write this book to share my experiences and complexities I’ve found about the world of social media and dating, with more than my immediate group of friends and coworkers.

      I know, we’re all programmed to instantly try to find, stalk and analyze any man or woman we meet before going on a date. As soon as you mention you’ve met someone new to your friends, there’s always that one who grabs her phone and tries to look him up on any and all social platforms. She can tell you about his life, his momma’s book club, what church his grandma goes to and that his sister has recently remarried for the third time. Hi, my name is Rahiel, and I am THAT friend.

      But from experiences with friends, co-workers and conversations I overhear all the time, I think it’s safe to say a lot of people are going about it all wrong or don’t know how to handle all the information at their fingertips. Yeah, we all know how to Google and find people online but do you know what you’re looking for? How many of you are making up stories in your head about this person based on assumptions? Or are you completely ignoring all the red flags staring you right in the face? And when you think you’ve found something, how do you know when to ghost them or how to get the answers you want about that thing you saw that made you uncomfortable when he posted it five fucking years ago! Girl, chill out.

      I want to take some time to share a bit of my story with you and how I was inspired to write this book because you’re probably wondering why you should trust me, or who the hell I am telling you what to do. I’m just like you. I’ve dated. Dated a lot. I’ve fallen for guys I shouldn’t have and been disappointed many times. I’ve also been the one to disappoint many men. I’ve been vulnerable and given energy to men I shouldn’t have but learned from every mistake. Everything I say is coming from a real girl who has been through real shit just like you. I’m extremely passionate about social media etiquette and relationships. Although I finally found a man, I will always empathize with the single girls. I didn’t automatically forget what it’s like to be single once he put a ring on my finger. I will never forget what dating felt like and what I went through weaving in and out of relationships and situations.

      I grew up with social media and know what it’s like dating without it and with it. I am not claiming to be a dating expert, and I’m not a doctor or someone who learned about relationships through proper schooling. I learned through life, my own experiences and through my friend’s experiences, which is better than sitting in any class. I understand dating isn’t black and white and that social media leaves a lot of room for gray areas. I was stalking before it was a thing. You know, when people didn’t admit to doing it or felt shame, I was there doing it for them so they didn’t have to see it for themselves. I gave the thumbs up or the Ehhh, I don’t know girl, but still go out and see for yourself—which brings me to the catalyst for this book...

      I once met a guy I thought could potentially be The One. I told my friends that our first date was magical. Now I want to throw up just thinking about it. Like many men we think we want, on paper he was amazing, but in real life he was a coward. He felt the need to impress me all the time. I mean every damn one of his storylines had a celebrity, director or producer involved. I know we live in Los Angeles, but I’m not trying to be an actress, and it doesn’t benefit me so I don’t really care about that.

      It’s a great thing when a man wants to impress you, right? Well let’s give this some more thought. You have to pay attention to what he thinks will impress you. I grew up in Los Angeles and had become slightly jaded by the whole Hollywood scene. So if you think I get excited and pee my pants because you were at a party with a Kardashian then you are mistaken. I’ve also been to a party with a Kardashian there.

      The problem is he was what most girls dream of, handsome, Ivy-League

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