Become The Super-Empowered Empath You Were Born To Be... Rediscover the Secret to Transform your Life!

I love to research and make new discoveries. So much so, for more than twenty years I have researched how we can live the best life and become the best version of ourselves. I put into practice all that I learn. Some things I found worked amazingly, others not so much. But what took me a long time to get to grips with was the law of attraction (LOA).

I knew the LOA worked, I could see evidence of it in my life and in the world around me, but why couldn’t I master it, what was I doing wrong? I came to discover that I wasn’t doing ‘anything wrong’. But being an Empath added challenges, which meant a change of approach…

To get to the basics of the law of attraction, we can say that if we are in a low-mood we attract more of this type of energy towards us. Likewise, if we are happy, grateful and positive, we attract situations to make us feel more of this. Because we receive back the same vibratory frequency as we emit, it is in our best interests to keep our intentions high and our emotional energy as clean as possible. Which, as you might now be thinking, is not always so easy. All energy is returned. And this includes the emotions and energy we pick up from others. For this reason, we will start by looking at how the energy of others impacts the way the law of attraction works for us as Empaths.

To ‘feel’ is what Empaths do. It is our most powerful and important gift. We feel deep empathy, experience powerful intuitive feelings, and understand others by the way they feel. Our ability to gauge the world by how it feels, helps us navigate through life. It also helps protect us from making bad choices and decisions. But it is what we don’t realize we pick up, that prevents us harnessing the true power of the law of attraction.

There is a famous Buddha quote that says:

‘What you think you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create.’

This sums up the law of attraction perfectly. It explains why so many Empaths struggle making the law work for them. Why? Because what an Empath thinks, feels and imagines is so big, that we cannot help but create it. We feel everything powerfully and have a high path of pain, we also have vivid imaginations and tend to indulge in repetitive thoughts. And because what we think and feel is so heavily influenced by the energy of people, the lives of others has a huge impact on our life.

‘We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are.’ - Wayne Dyer

The above quote, from the late great Wayne Dyer, relates to the law of attraction. It basically means what we are, will determine what we attract. But I would just like to add to that incredible quote with the Empath in mind… ‘We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are and whom we spend our time with!’

Every Empath quickly discovers of our ability to sense the emotional energy in others, but some struggle to distinguish these emotions from their own. Learning to differentiate between 'whose emotion belongs to whom' certainly proves to be a challenge. But when we learn to recognize any emotion that does not belong to us, it not only protects us from digesting this emotion, it also helps in the way the LOA works.

Getting the law of attraction to work for us, means recognizing whose emotion we are in. If we repeatedly allow someone else’s energy to bring us down, it shapes our life into something we do not want. As you, no doubt, already know, spending too much time around people can cause distress for an Empath. The more disagreeable the person, the more impact they have. That said, it does not have to be disagreeable people who negatively impact us. Anyone can. Even our nearest and dearest. The longer an Empath has known someone, the greater influence they can have. As you would imagine, this could be good or bad, depending on the relationship. This is why understanding how people affect us and knowing how to navigate relationships, not only serves in offering us a healthier and happier life, but it helps us work the law of attraction to our advantage.

Not understanding what other people's emotions represent is more common than you might think. When I was younger (teens and twenties), I was unaware that I could sense the emotions in others. I thought it was my own insecurities that made me feel uneasy when around certain people. If anyone carried hidden pain, negative energy or anger issues I felt it as a deep sense of discomfort, which I wrongly interpreted as being part of my own social hang-ups.

Before I had heard the term ‘Empath’ I was working on myself: mind, body and spirit.  But, unbeknownst to me, when I began developing a spiritual practice, as well as striving for balance, I began to feel other people’s energy and emotions more intensely.  And it did not feel good. I was later to discover that by developing a spiritual practice it effectively purifies an Empath and speeds up our vibration. So, anything of a lower vibration feels awful.

Lower vibrating energy feels heavy, sticky and dense. This type of energy can bring the Empath down fast. And, for this reason, places where we may have frequented without a problem, such as shopping centres, pubs or coffee shops, can become draining and difficult to be in. Even for a short period of time. (It also happens when one’s energy field has receded or if one is seriously out of balance, but more on that later.)

So, getting back to when I discovered I was an Empath, it was an incredible lightbulb moment. Everything I hadn't understood, about how I felt, now made sense. And the journey into differentiating energy began. Fast forward some years and the more I developed my intuition and life skills, the more I understood what I felt in others. But, although I became adept at differentiating the subtleties between my energy and that belonging to others’, I still did not enjoy the way it made me feel. People’s energy can leave us deflated, even when we know to whom the energy belongs. But most problems are caused when we mistake the emotions of others as our own. This has a major impact on how the law of attraction works for us.

I came to understand that what we pick up from others, we often interpret as the emotion we least enjoy, or we attach it to an issue within, that is unresolved. If we don’t know to whom it belongs, the energy of another can stoke up anger or irritation, even if the other is not themselves experiencing this emotion. And, if we dislike people in our ‘personal space’, we will not welcome their emotional energy either. Energy suddenly showing up, uninvited, can feel invasive and claustrophobic.

Also, just because we understand what we pick up, does not always mean we are able to prevent it from affecting us. There is a very big reason for this, which we will look at later on.

An Empath will always feel other people’s emotions at some level because we have what’s known as synaesthesia. It has been identified that the power to feel the emotions and physical sensations, and even pain of others as if it were your own, as a form of synaesthesia.

Synaesthesia is a bizarre neurological phenomenon where the senses are blurred, meaning that people ‘hear’ colours, ‘see’ sounds or ‘taste’ words. For an Empath, however, they feel other people’s emotions as if their own. The limbic system apparently has a significant influence on the synesthetic process, which again, we will get into later.

I must point out that it is important you do not punish yourself, or feel ashamed, if another person’s energy sparks a negative reaction. This only serves in further lowering your vibration, which in turn affects how the LOA works for you.

The good news is, when we work on ourselves, by building our Empath awareness, and take steps to re-balance, the way people's energy affects us changes in a big way. But, no matter how far we have come in our self-development, we are still human. And, no matter how evolved we are, we will always have days when others’ emotional energy brings us down. That said, remaining vigilant of whose energy we are in, is of utmost importance if we want the LOA to work for us. Part of this journey is about differentiating between our emotions and those belonging to others. Knowing this, helps us switch off to most external unpleasantness. Staying aware, when in public, helps us make this discernment.

So, how do we know whose emotion we are in?

Depending on what we are experiencing in life, should depend on how we feel. If we have been in a troubled or stressed place, it will obviously affect our emotions and thoughts. If life has been steady, with no particular ups and downs, and we experience a torrent of negativity, it should be easy to identify it as another person’s energy. Sounds simple enough. So why is it many Empaths misidentify with what they’re feeling? It’s because all emotional energy feels much the same, and tends to trigger the same response. Falsely identifying with another’s emotional energy is easy to do. We can get so wrapped up within the ‘feelings’, that we do not question their origin. The best way to determine whether an emotion does not belong to us is to speak to the emotions directly:

When you initially sense any type of overpowering emotion, say to yourself: ‘If these emotions are not mine, leave me now!’

If the emotions do not belong to you, and are coming from another, they promptly lose their grip and there is a definite shift in the way the emotion feels. It may be subtle, but you will feel the change. When you notice this subsidence, distract yourself, immediately. Why? Because negative emotions are powerful. They may have receded, but they can return swiftly and with a vengeance, especially if you allow your focus to return to them. Unpleasant emotions engage unpleasant repetitive thoughts, and once thoughts get wrapped up in the emotions, belonging to others, it becomes even harder to break away. If you are not sure how to distract yourself, use the five-second countdown (see Section 3). It is an excellent way to reset your brain and energy.

As you can see, the law of attraction might have been working against you, not because of what you’ve been doing, but because the emotions of others have impacted the way you feel. We attract not only what we think, but what we feel. If we experience a lot of negativity, that belongs to another, it can determine what we attract into our life.

Now, let’s take a look at how the fear belonging to another can influence us.

The Fear Belonging to Others

Just like picking up pained emotions, the Empath can pick up other people’s irrational fears and take them on as their own. Feeling fear is not always a bad thing, it is often a protecting force, but if it belongs to another, it may unnecessarily hold us back in life.

Fear is a controlling emotion. Because it is so potent, it is the emotion Empaths frequently acquire. Fear belonging to another, feels much the same as our own, unpleasant. We can use the same questioning technique, as above, to discover if the fear belongs to us or to another.

Say the words out loud or in your head: ‘If this fear is not mine leave me now!’ If it is not your fear, it starts to shift. And again, distract yourself from the emotion.

Another quick way to discern between our fear and another’s, is to check if we had it prior to being in another person’s company. For example: We may be going on holiday and are super excited about the trip, that is until we sit next to a stranger on the plane who hates flying. When seated, we suddenly experience a wave of panic. We don’t question if it’s anyone else’s fear because it seems so real. And, because we don’t know of the fear the person who is sitting next to us has of flying, we don’t suspect it is coming from them. We now think of nothing else but this prevailing wave of fear. It wipes away the joy and excitement we previously felt, as we become traumatized by their fear. But the end of the flight is not the end of the trauma. As a form of protection, our brain stores this memory, ready for quick recall, when we are in the same position again. It is the brain’s protective way to alert us to a dangerous situation. The next time we get on a plane, or are in any other situation where we felt intense fear, that belonged to another, the brain may trigger the memory of the last time we experienced such fear. This then becomes a trauma trigger.

The above example could be used in many other scenarios, but it is a typical case of picking up the fear of others. The more it happens, through the course of our life, the more fearful we become and the more situations we attract that keep us in this same vibration. We do not have to be connected to a person to feel and take on their fear. All it takes is for us to be in their energy field. A phobia, caused by another person’s fear, wrongly holds us back in life, and through the LOA, attracts back more unpleasant situations. If we didn’t have fear about a situation, or event, before being in the company of another, we have to consider that it may not belong to us.

Fear creates negative emotions: negative emotions create lasting memories. If someone, or something caused, an intense fear or negative feeling, every time we are with them, or in a similar situation, the memory of the emotion will be reignited.

Getting the law of attraction to work for us, means recognizing whose emotion we are in and switching them off. Don’t forget that the LOA brings us back more of the same, so if we allow someone else’s energy to bring us down, it shapes our life into something we do not want.

Each person has their own unique frequency at which they vibrate. How individuals think, and the emotions they carry, affects the pulse rate of these frequencies, and how they will feel to an Empath. The healthier, happier and more positive the person, the faster and purer their vibration is. When someone is of ill-health, angry, bitter or resentful, the slower their vibrational frequency and the worse their energy feels. This is why spending time in a busy, peopled room is often draining, as we are pounded by the many different human vibrations.

Depending on a person’s vibration, will depend on what they attract back to them… For the Empath, however, it also depends on who they spend their time with. People’s energy can and does alter the course of our destiny. Humans are vibrationally based beings living in a vibrationally based world. There are things that speed up our vibration and things that slow it down. If we spend too much time around the wrong people, it impacts the way the LOA works for us.

All humans are sensory beings, but it is known the Empath’s senses are heightened. We receive sensory stimuli, like everyone else, but process much more information than the average person. We can also confuse the energy of others with our own. I am repeating this for the reason, I want to drum it into your head, just how much we are affected by the emotional energy of those around us and how it shapes our life.

Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies. The more in balance we are in the mind, body and spirit, the higher our frequency becomes and the more positive energy we attract. If we regularly expose ourselves to people or environments where the energy is considerably lower than our own, it can lower our vibration. This in turn means we attract back more low-level energy. It becomes a vicious cycle, but it is also a cycle that can be broken. The Empath’s ability to experience other peoples’ emotions, is a very real phenomenon. We are simply sensing an individual’s vibratory frequencies. Knowing when we are detecting another person’s energy means we can prevent ourself interpreting it as our own. But it doesn’t end there, we also have to be aware of how thoughts impact our life, which takes us to the next chapter.

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Thought Power

Have you ever heard of the saying: ‘What consumes your mind controls your life?’ It means our thoughts create our reality.

If the mind has been influenced and consumed by painful or stressful situations, thoughts often become dark and repetitive and our emotional life chaotic.

Every action is run by a habit of thought. Meaning, if our thoughts have been left to run the show, we are not living our best life. The great news is, we can break the pattern of negative and repetitive thoughts, quickly and quietly. But first, it helps if we know how our thoughts, and the thoughts of others, have weakened us and brought into our life things we don’t necessarily want.

Overthinking is a habit that needs addressing and gotten under control, especially when it comes to the law of attraction. What happens in our mind creates our reality. Therefore, we want to keep our thoughts and feelings as uplifted as possible. A busy mind has one thought after another flowing through. Thoughts keep us up at night and wake us in the morning. They take over our mind when driving (how often have you got somewhere without remembering the journey?) and distract us from life. Thoughts create emotions and emotions create thoughts. When the mind is in chaos, from overthinking, so will be our life.

It is said we have an average of forty thoughts per minute, that equates to thousands of thoughts per day. Negative thinking takes precedence in the mind.