12 Ways Your Child Can Get The Best Out Of School
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For Australian children to achieve their full potential in a rapidly changing world, they need a high-quality education. However, experts and teachers can't do it alone. In fact, all the research shows that parents and carers have a big part to play.
In 12 Ways Your Child Can Get the Best Out of School, Professor Adrian Piccoli, Director of the Gonski Institute for Education and former NSW education minister, sets out clearly what you need to know to ensure your child receives the quality education they deserve. Jargon-free and easy to understand, this book will empower you with the knowledge and advice you need to make a difference, including:
- What to look for when choosing a school
- What questions to ask at parent-teacher interviews
- What is NAPLAN and does it matter
- Homework - why, why not, and how much
- Supporting children with special needs
- What does the ATAR really mean
- Setting high expectations and handling stress
- Managing screen time and the role of technology at school.
With clear and concise advice, case studies and more, 12 Ways Your Child Can Get the Best Out of School is for every parent and carer who wants to help their child flourish and do well. And, surely, that's all of us.
Adrian Piccoli
Adrian Piccoli served as a Member of NSW parliament for 19 years, and was the NSW Minister for Education for 6 years until 2017. Widely respected by the Australian education sector, he led the political campaign to reform school funding in Australia and has strengthened and enhanced the teaching profession in NSW through his 'Great Teaching, Inspired Learning' reforms. In 2017 Mr Piccoli was made a Professor of Practice in the School of Education at UNSW and a Fellow of the Australian Council for Educational Leaders. Mr Piccoli is currently the Director of UNSW's Gonski Institute for Education. He lives in Griffith with his wife and their two young children.
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12 Ways Your Child Can Get The Best Out Of School - Adrian Piccoli
Dedication
Dedicated to the two best teachers I ever had,
Mum and Dad.
And to Sonia and our two works-in-progress,
Finn and Jasper.
Contents
DEDICATION
INTRODUCTION
1. MAKE THE MOST OF EARLY CHILDHOOD
Children start learning from birth
Getting your child ready to start school
Education and care options prior to starting school
Don’t feel guilty about sending your child to day care or preschool
The impact of early childhood on schooling
2. BE YOUR CHILD’S BEST TEACHER
Your child loves you – they will value what you value
Three ways you can have a huge impact on your child’s education
3. DON’T START YOUR CHILD AT SCHOOL UNTIL THEY’RE READY
What your child should be capable of before starting school
What happens during the first few weeks of school
Do not stress about your child starting school
There is no need for tutoring before children start school
The impact on children of repeating a year
4. FIND THE RIGHT SCHOOL FOR YOUR CHILD
What are the options
What to look for when choosing a school
Factoring in NAPLAN results when choosing a school
The pros and cons of changing schools
Other factors to consider
5. PARTNER CLOSELY WITH YOUR CHILD’S SCHOOL
Develop a strong three-way partnership
How to be a great partner with the school
6. SEEK ADVICE IF YOUR CHILD HAS SPECIAL NEEDS
Seek assistance as soon as you can
Schooling options for children with special needs
Your child has a right to enrol at school
Starting, changing and leaving school for children with special needs
7. SET HIGH EXPECTATIONS FOR YOUR CHILD
The importance of setting high expectations for your child
How to set high expectations with your child
Using disappointment as a teaching moment
Don’t add to your child’s stress
Help your child learn how to handle stress
8. UNDERSTAND THE ROLE OF HOMEWORK
The connection between homework and academic results
The benefits of homework
What to look for in homework
How best to support your child with their homework
9. STAY INFORMED ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S PROGRESS
It’s important to know how your child is going at school
What you need to know about your child’s progress
How to talk to your child about school
Speak regularly with your child’s teacher
School reports
Parent–teacher interviews
Five questions to ask in parent–teacher interviews
Work samples and progressions
10. UNDERSTAND NAPLAN
Does NAPLAN matter?
Supporting your child during NAPLAN tests
How to interpret NAPLAN results
The My School website
11. GUIDE YOUR CHILD THROUGH HIGH SCHOOL
Enjoy the experience
How to choose your child’s high school
Finding the ‘best fit’ for your child
Choosing elective subjects
Getting the most out of high school parent–teacher interviews
What happens in Years 11 and 12
What the ATAR means
12. MANAGE YOUR CHILD’S USE OF TECHNOLOGY
Why screens are so addictive for children (and adults!)
How much is too much screen time?
The impact of screen time on education and wellbeing
Tips on managing your child’s screen use
Why being bored is good for your child
Technology at school
FINAL THOUGHTS
GLOSSARY
ENDNOTES
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
INDEX
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
PRAISE
COPYRIGHT
Introduction
Having been through the joys and stresses of my two children’s baby and toddler years, I thought supporting my children through school would be a breeze, especially considering that I’d been a state Minister for Education for three years before my eldest child even started school. How hard could it be? I’d been involved with schools and education for years and I had 65,000 education professionals to call on for assistance.
When my wife and I rocked up to the midyear parent–teacher interview with my eldest son’s kindergarten teacher, I soon found out how wrong I was and how little I knew. She was your typical lovely, young, bright teacher who just loves teaching little kids. My wife and I sat down and started talking to her about our son, asking things like, ‘How’s he going? How’s his schoolwork? Is he making friends?’
At the end of the interview the teacher said, ‘He’s doing really well at reading. He’s at Level 12.’
To not look silly, I said, ‘That’s great, thanks very much for the great work you do.’
Afterwards, when we got back to the car, I sheepishly asked my wife if she knew what ‘Level 12’ meant because I had no idea. She didn’t know either and I was quietly embarrassed by my cluelessness.
The next day I made a quick phone call to one of the thousands of education department members I had access to in order to find the answer. I was told that the levels the teacher was referring to are on the ‘Reading Recovery’ scale, which is one of many measures used by schools to judge how well a child can read in Kindergarten, Year 1 and Year 2. This would have been handy to know before I went into that interview. Having not known, my wife and I had no clue if Level 12 was good or bad or indeed what to do with that information. We’d just played along to avoid looking silly.
Our son’s teacher had given my wife and me a really important piece of information but without a broader explanation of what it meant. Not knowing the context, we didn’t know the critical question to ask her: What can we do to help improve our son’s learning?
Ironically, I knew enough about schools to understand from that experience that I didn’t know enough about my own child’s education. My wife and I had joined the very long list of parents who don’t know enough about how schools operate, don’t understand the complex language and jargon teachers often use and don’t fully understand what we as parents can do to help our children learn.
If we knew to ask …
During the parent–teacher interview, if my wife and I had known what Reading Recovery levels were, we would have known to ask his teacher what level she was trying to get our child to reach and what we could do to help. Should he read Level 16 books at home, or is that too big a leap? Should it be Level 13 instead?
As you can see, like every other parent, my wife and I have struggled at times and questioned our own abilities as parents. Again, as we all do, we pick ourselves up and continue on this incredible journey – of being a parent.
Confession of an imperfect parent
I have screamed at my children to get them to stop screaming! I have ranted and raved at my children for ten minutes about something I was cranky about without realising that they had stopped listening nine and a half minutes ago.
I’m not an expert parent by any measure but during my time as a state Education Minister, I was in charge of the department responsible for the education of more than 1 million children. I had unique access to thousands of people who are experts in education and at preparing and supporting children at school. I have also had unique access to people who know a thing or two about what parents can do to help their child’s education, including parenting experts, teachers, academics, international experts, principals and students.
Most of these people agree that the best way to help a child get the most out of school is for their parents to become close and well-informed partners in that child’s education. Being a great parent is about establishing the right platform at home for your child to succeed and be happy, as well as being a great partner in their education and with their school.
Supporting your child during their time at school has become a lot more complicated over the years and it can be difficult to know where we can insert ourselves effectively as parents.
The reality is that parents are often the people who know least about what’s going on in their children’s education and as a result, we can often underestimate and undervalue our influence.
I have asked hundreds of parents how much they know about their children’s school. The vast majority of us have little understanding of reading levels,* how to help our children navigate the move from primary to high school and how best to support our children’s learning at home. [*There are several ways to measure reading levels, not just Reading Recovery levels. Ask the relevant person at your school to explain what method they use.] Most parents have no idea what deeper questions they should ask at a parent–teacher interview other than the superficial. Most parents know that excessive screen time is probably not great for their children but are not sure what impact it’s having on their education, who to ask or what to do about it.
Digging a bit deeper, I came to understand that parents are hungry for information and advice about how they can best support their children at school. There is a huge gap between what parents know about their children’s schooling and what they should know and want to know.
On the flip side, most teachers and principals want parents to be more active partners in their children’s education and with their school. They want parents to understand more about what schools and teachers do and what parents can do to assist them. Teachers may be uncertain about how much parents want to know and be reluctant to provide too much information.
Without understanding what’s required, it’s really hard to be a great partner in your child’s education. This book is about bridging this knowledge gap so all parents and carers of children can better understand how our children are going at school and, more importantly, how we can be more effective partners in helping our children flourish, develop and grow during their school years.
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It’s important to recognise and accept that there is no guaranteed formula for success at school. Being a parent who ‘does all the right things’ doesn’t guarantee success – however we might perceive success. Children are too complicated to be that predictable so, as parents, we should stop stressing about it.
This book is intended to ease the guilt and anxiety parents often feel about their roles as parents and about their children’s education. Many parents feel guilty about what they don’t do with and for their children and are anxious about what impact that may have on their children’s education and future. Parental anxiety isn’t helped when parents are constantly bombarded by the perfect parent myth in traditional media and on social media platforms, such as pictures of someone’s perfect baby, their perfect holiday with the kids, their kids winning awards at school. I can’t think of any other polite way of saying it than ‘Don’t believe it.’ No one gets parenting perfectly right.
Throughout this book I use the word ‘parent’ in its most general sense in the knowledge that there are lots of different people caring for school children – from biological parents to grandparents, foster parents, friends, carers and so on. When I use the word ‘parent’ I mean the people who are doing the parenting and caring – the people involved in connecting with school and the people involved in a child’s education at home.
I have structured this book to address the key questions parents have asked me about school and their children’s education. It’s not a parenting book, but rather a guidebook for parents to better understand their role in their children’s education, how influential they are and how they can more confidently connect with schools. You may want to read the book from cover to cover or jump to the sections or chapters that are most relevant to you at different stages of your child’s life.
However you use this book, just remember that most teachers get the biggest thrill in their job when their students do well and are happy. These also happen to be the main things that thrill parents, so teachers and parents have every reason to work together to get your child’s education right.
Sometimes you just need to know the right questions to ask.
Enjoy.
1
Make the Most of Early Childhood
Children start learning from birth
The first five years of a child’s life are critical in determining how they will do at school.
Most experts in early childhood development, most doctors and most teachers agree that a child’s future education is being influenced even before they are born. How a child is cared for during pregnancy and the experiences a child has from the day they are born all have a strong influence on a child’s education and their adult life.
A newborn child has most of the brain cells it will need through life but relatively few of the connections and circuits among the different cells.¹
Think of a newborn child’s brain like the box you bring home when you buy a piece of furniture from Ikea. Most of the bits are there but the critical part is to connect all the bits together. Unfortunately, children don’t come with instructions in 47 languages or an Allen Key.
Every day your baby’s brain is building connections between those brain cells. As a parent, you have the biggest single influence on how many of those connections are made and how they get made. You are the instructions and the Allen Key all wrapped into one. That’s why your role in these first few years is so critical.
‘The early years matter because, in the first few years of life, more than 1 million new neural connections are formed every second. Neural connections are formed through the interaction of genes and a baby’s environment and experiences, especially serve and return
interaction with adults … These are the connections that build brain architecture – the foundation upon which all later learning, behaviour and health depend.’²
– Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University
This is what starts setting a child’s brain up for life. The better this first bit goes, then the better placed the child is for school and their future.
I always loved the look of fascination in my children’s eyes when they started to realise they could influence the world around them. I would hold my kids up to a light switch and as they flicked the switch they would watch the light go on and off. I could almost see the cogs in their brain turning and the sparks of learning flying – they’re making those brain cell connections. ‘I touch this button and the light magically appears – wow!’
The other critical area of early childhood development is a child’s ability to read people’s faces, especially their parents. Smiling and laughing with a child gets the laughing and smiling response from a child. All of these actions are building those brain cell connections, which are critical to preparing your child for school. This is why direct social interaction with family and friends is so important.
Children at this age are learning all the time and it is you who plays the most critical role in setting them up for their social, emotional and schooling future.
Your child’s brain is most sensitive to learning new things between that magic age from birth to five years old. As a result, it’s important to expose your child to as many positive new experiences, ideas and behaviours as possible.³ Because children’s brains are so sensitive during this crucial time, what you do at home – nurturing your child, helping them develop those essential brain connections through play and their interaction with you as parents – is critical.
‘A child’s brain develops rapidly in the early years, with around 85 to 90 per cent of brain development occurring in the first five years of life.’⁴
– Professor Deborah Brennan, University of NSW
Children’s brain sensitivity
Source: mitchellinstitute.org.au
But be warned. Even well-intentioned entertainment or educational programs on computer, tablet and smartphone screens can have a negative effect on a young child’s brain. Dr Aric Sigman, a Fellow at Britain’s Royal Society of Medicine, says when very young children get hooked on tablets and smartphones they can unintentionally cause permanent damage to their still-developing brains. Too much screen time too soon, he says, ‘is the very thing impeding the development of the abilities that parents are so eager to foster through the tablets. The ability to focus, to concentrate, to lend attention, to sense other people’s attitudes and communicate with them, to build a large vocabulary – all those abilities are harmed.’⁵
What makes screen time for little children so dangerous is that having ‘dozens of stimuli at your fingertips, and the ability to process multiple actions simultaneously is exactly what their little brains do not need.’⁶
‘Tablets are the ultimate shortcut tools: Unlike a mother reading a story to a child, for example, a smartphone-told story spoon-feeds images, words and pictures all at once to a young reader. Rather than having to take the time to process a mother’s voice into words, visualise complete pictures and exert a mental effort to follow a story line, kids who follow stories on their smartphones get lazy. The device does the thinking for them, and as a result, their own cognitive muscles remain weak.’⁷
– Dr Liraz Margalit, Psychologist, Head of Digital Behavioural Research, Clicktale, Tel Aviv
Getting your child ready to start school
While its natural and lovely to dote on your baby or young toddler, there are some specific and practical things you can do that have a particularly strong influence on your child’s future performance at school. Doing these things doesn’t guarantee a particular outcome, nor does not doing these things mean you are not a good parent. Parenting is not a science and there is no such thing as perfect parenting. Given all the pressures that parents and families are under, if you are doing your best then you’re being a great parent.
Research has shown a strong connection between the wealth and education of parents and how their children perform at school.⁸ The research suggests that the children of parents with higher incomes, who stayed at school longer and continued on to vocational training or university tend to do better at school ‘on average’.* [*Don’t get hung up on ‘averages’ because that’s all they are – just averages. Averages don’t predict how an individual child will do at school.]
When a child is born they have no idea who their parents are, how well their parents did at school or how much money they have. Yet, all of these factors relating to a child’s parents seem to have a strong influence on how the child does at school.
Given that our children don’t know any of this stuff about their parents when they’re born, why does income and education of the parents have such a strong impact ‘on average’? The answer is that it’s not the actual wealth or education level of a child’s parents that matters – these things are not genetic. Instead, the biggest influence on children are the different ways in which parents with these characteristics interact with their children and with their school.
A British study found that ‘[Low income] mothers with