Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Men

Alexander Ermak

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Men

Ermak Alexander. Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Men. / Alexander Ermak. A.N.Publishing, 2019.

Publishing, 2019

© А. Ermak, 2019.

© A.N.Publishing, 2019

Abstract:

Men are very private beings. They rarely share what that they really care about. Such is the nature of men: to survive and protect their families, they need to be strong, and, in particular, to look strong. Therefore, they do not cry in public, do not tell their friends and girlfriends about their emotional dramas. Yet they really want to be understood without words, accepted such as they are, with all their strengths and weaknesses.

This book will help women understand men better, find the right approach to them, and be happy with them.

Table of contents

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN

What is a modern man?

Male and female symbolism

International men's day

Life expectancy for men

There are less men than women

The height of a man

A man’s weight

Men are aliens for women

A man is embedded into the hierarchical system of society since childhood.

How men grow up

How a man thinks

A man’s upbringing

A man needs friendship with other men

Men’s favorite fragrances

What a man wears at home

What a man wants at different times of his life

How men and women offer something

At what subjects men are more successful

How female and male behaviors differ

Men get lost in new social relations

More sanity and madness among men

Why there are more men than women among geniuses

Male and female emotions

Men are stronger in the rational field

Men keep emotions inside

Men worry as much as women

Men don't like to admit their mistakes

Men and women often do not understand each other

Men value trust

Male stress from haranguing

Important facts about women for men

Men purchase things less frequently than women

Men express their thoughts concisely

Men are not great at guessing

Men notice the big picture and not the details

Men and women have different priorities

Men lie more often than women

Men instinctively gaze at women passing by

Male loneliness

Men are worse at body language

Male and female touch

How men engage in conflict

Folk views of men and women

THE MAN NEXT TO THE WOMAN

How a man perceives a woman

Men know women's secrets

Men dress to impress

How much time a man spends on a woman

A man’s spare woman

Men overestimate the number of beautiful women

Beautiful women make men smarter

Beauty of other women undermines men’s loyalty to their mates

A man wants to be proud of his woman

Men’s views of an easy woman

Men often mistake friendliness for flirtation

Can a man and a woman be friends?

Men who were rejected

THE WOMAN NEXT TO THE MAN

How a woman should behave with a man

What not to do in a relationship with a man

A man should be reined in

A man should be criticized... with affection

How to make a man better

It is hard for a man to accept that a woman was right

Men do not understand girl talk

Men are scared by women’s drama

A man and the serious evening conversation

Men do not like uncertainty in a conversation

How men ponder their advice

One should not interrupt a speaking man

Feed a man, then talk to him

The bachelor over forty

If the man is older than the woman

HOW MEN AND WOMEN CHOOSE EACH OTHER

How women pick men

Common approaches to choosing a partner

Men's and women's values

How the color of clothes affects partner choice

The perfect woman

The real (perfect) man

Scars on the face attract women

Low-pitched male voice attracts women

How a man looks on a photo

Yes, women love with their ears

Which women do men pick?

Which women are rejected by men

How important is sex in men’s choice?

Modest women inspire better trust in men

How important is it for a man to be first?

MEN IN COURTSHIP

Men do not charge into the battle immediately

What a long gaze shows

Men’s romantic feelings

While dating, the man continues to review and analyze

The role that a man assigns to a woman when meeting her for the first time

Why a man does not invite a woman out for a date

How to have a successful date with a man

What a man hides during courtship

What happens to a man after he meets a woman

How to learn a man’s intentions

Does he love?

Men who want (and don't want) to marry

Five signs he will never marry you

When is a man ready to pop the question?

How long men can hold back

THE MAN AND SEX

Men can't stop thinking about sex

Buying clothes or sex?

Male puberty

The male sex drive is considerably stronger than the female one

A male erection does not always mean sexual arousal

Men and women see issues of sex differently

The first sexual experience

Men want to have more sexual partners than women do

Men separate sex from love

Sex is important work for a man

Why is a man silent during and after sex?

Men can do without foreplay

Men like spontaneous and fast sex more than women do.

For a man, sex can be a mere tool for emotional release

Male fetishes

Do men want experienced or inexperienced women?

Men love to please a woman

How many times are men ready to do it?

Lovemaking and age

Until what age is a man able?

How many sexual partners in a lifetime do men and women have?

Norms for intimate life of men and women

Men take refusal of sex from their partners very hard

Men are not particularly picky in sex

Men's erotica is rougher and more explicit

Male sexuality contains more elements of violence

What men dislike in sex

Men love oral sex

Men love anal sex

Men love partners who take initiative

Why does a man lose sexual interest in marriage?

Men mythologize their sexuality

Is the first time important for men?

How men get aroused

Male and female orgasms

Men's sexual gestures, postures and movements

Kisses in the lives of men and women

A man is not always able

Male and female partnership in sex

Men ascribe more value to their sexual activity than women do

A paramour has a higher chance to impregnate than a husband does

Men can also be infertile

Male and female sexual stress

Male homosexual sex is not inferior to the female kind

Homophobia

MAN AND THE FAMILY

Why does a woman need a man after mating?

What a fatherless life leads to

Both parents must be active in a family

Men's looks and success in marriage

Why a man marries

A man and the wedding

A man and his friends in family life

When a man starts to think about children

When a man becomes a true husband

Men spend their energy efficiently

What a man is ready and not ready to do for a woman

Marriage for men and women depends on the dominant parents

How to escape from house arrest by a man

The husband is not always the master of the house. And that is good.

Men often lose interest in family life because of problems at work

Life with a rich man is no bowl of cherries

How to keep a husband

Love does not disappear over time

A MAN AND ADULTERY

What men and women consider cheating

Why do men cheat?

Signs of infidelity

A man will not admit to adultery

In some places, men cheat less than women

Men do not want open relationships

THE MAN AND DIVORCE

The man and divorce

The man after divorce

A man prefers not to communicate with his ex after a breakup

MALE HEALTH

Male diseases

Male hygiene

How stress affects men

The man and the heart attack

A man and a woman get sick and recover in different ways

The man and suicide

MEN AT WORK

Men intimidate their subordinates

Men are not picky about methods in a competitive battle

Men do not like sexual manipulation

Men do not tolerate female leaders

A man in a team of women

MEN OF DIFFERENT TYPES

Mommy’s boys

Men who are pickup artists

Bad boys

Types of men for family life

International types of men

MEN OF DIFFERENT COUNTRIES AND CONTINENTS

Men of different latitudes

Hairiness in men of different peoples

The most handsome men in the world

Men with the longest penises in the world

The best and worst lovers in the world

Attitudes to romantic love in different countries

Men of different peoples

The pitfalls of mixed marriages

PROVERBS ABOUT MEN

MAXIMS ABOUT MEN

SAYINGS ABOUT MEN

What men say about men

What women say about men

THIRTY JOKES ABOUT MEN

INSTEAD OF AN EPILOGUE

The end

Differences Between A Man And A Woman

What is a modern man?

A man is a person of the male sex. The word man is usually used when referring to an adult. A child and a teenage boy are commonly referred to as a boy, lad, or guy.

In different countries people address a man in different ways:

- In English-speaking countries, usually as Mister (or Mr. in writing);

- In Germany, as Herr;

- In Spain, as Señor;

- In Western Slavic countries, as pan;

- In Russia, it is often used a mere name or name with a patronymic, while in other cases they use specific words for citizen, man, father, grandfather, comrade, commander, and so on. Sometimes words like grandfather are used figuratively, without an actual family relationship, A child might use words like Dad or Pop.

In many languages, including English, the same word (a man) designates a male human and a human being as such. This phenomenon is called androcentrism; men and a male are viewed as a norm against which the woman and the female are seen as a deviation.

The male body includes two different sex chromosomes, marked as X and Y. There are two X chromosomes in a female body. Active X chromosomes are a set that includes both maternal and paternal cells; therefore, women are more complicated genetically. The stronger sex gets the X chromosome from their mothers only. The Y chromosome contains less than 100 genes, while the X chromosome carries approximately 1500 genes. It is genetic predisposition that predetermines one’s sex.

Primary and secondary sex characteristics make men different from women anatomically and physiologically.

Primary sexual characteristics, formed during fetal development, become functionally active later as a result of puberty. Male genital organs are a part of the reproductive system. These include the penis, testicles, seminal duct and prostate. The task of the male reproductive system is the production of semen (seminal fluid containing spermatozoa), which, when delivered inside the female body, fertilizes an egg. Thus, the male reproductive system is involved in conception, but is not directly involved in the process of pregnancy.

Secondary sexual characteristics of the male organism develop during puberty. This process occurs under the influence of androgens, male sex hormones that are produced in the testes. Puberty in males usually begins at age 14, later than puberty in females.

Male secondary sex characteristics include a muscular system more developed than that of women, large hands and feet, narrow hips, broad shoulders, profuse hair growth on the face, groin, abdomen, chest and other parts of the body, a lower voice, and a protruding Adam's apple.

The biblical expression Adam's rib, the body part from which God has created woman, could, according to some scholars, originally have meant penis or more precisely the penile bone (baculum). All primates have this bone, except for humans and spider monkeys.

When God removed the rib from Adam, a scar was left on the underside of the external male genitals; it is still visible today on all members of the stronger sex.

Certain areas of the frontal lobe and prefrontal cortex, controlling the ability to make decisions, are thicker in women than in men.

In the male body serotonin, which regulates emotions and mood, is synthesized at a rate 52% faster than in the female body.

Physical and behavioral differences between men and women:

- a woman is more involved in verbal interaction (more talkative);

- a man is more prepared for action and competition;

- it is easier for a woman to deal with time and for a man to deal with space;

- men’s vision is more developed;

- a woman is more sensitive, her sense of hearing is more developed, her sense of smell is more delicate, and she has ten times more tactile receptors of the skin (she needs touch).

All of these differences are determined by evolution:

- man has always been more suited to hunting, fighting, rivalry and long-distance chase;

- woman was engaged in rearing children and their education, remained in the enclosed space of the cave and therefore had to resort to talk and cooperation.

A woman can lovingly detail the flow of family life literally restlessly. But a man measures his biography in major events, abrupt changes, great achievements.

For men, unlike women, there is a taboo (unconscious ban) against being weak or requesting support.

It is important for a man that his position be adopted by his opponent. For a woman, her viewpoint is understood by the person she wants to influence. Accordingly, the fairer sex shows greater inclination towards dialogue.

It is easier for woman to submit to a man who is in a higher position in the workplace, while, on the contrary, it is hard for a man to submit to a woman. The stronger sex considers itself a leader both at work and at home.

Women commit crimes much less frequently than men. The majority of those of fairer sex who have committed violent acts did so out of desperation (for examples, wives kill husbands who have severely maltreated them for years).

According to gender stereotypes, men have a larger body mass and muscle strength compared to women but are less resilient. The stronger sex is considered more aggressive, dominating, self-confident, independent, courageous, tough, active, logical. In women, dependence, meekness, timidity, dreaminess, superstition, anxiety, sentimentality, propensity for empathy are seen as immanent.

In general, a greater number of positive traits is attributed to the stronger sex as opposed to the fairer sex. And yet often the typical features of both sexes acquire a negative connotation. So men are blamed for sharpness, authoritarianism, excessive rationalism, while women are accused of formalism, passivity, excessive emotional sensitivity...

Curiously, in one research project, when composing a verbal self-portrait, 25% of women used words more characteristic of descriptions of typical men, and the same number of men described themselves as typical women. But when describing a best friend, both men and women wanted to see a male friend matching the description of a typical man and a female friend matching the description or a typical woman.

In the mass view, a woman is perceived as a carrier of the aesthetic function: she is beautiful, charming, feminine. And a man must be strong, reliable, courageous.

According to scientists, the concept of male and female qualities often leads people astray, as oftentimes qualities society ascribes to men are found in a greater degree in women and vice versa. There is always something feminine in every man, and every woman has something masculine.

In terms of attractiveness, women are leaders in the public view. The man looks like a monster, despite his certain merits: he is cruel, brash, arrogant, unpolished, absurd, self-centered, lazy, boastful, thick-headed, overconfident, unkind. Compared to the man, the woman is simply an angel: she is tender-hearted, calm, attractive, submissive, kind, humane, democratic, she abhors violence, feels injustice acutely, she is more responsive to others' feelings, she is easier to educate. Though she also has such small feminine weakness as forgetfulness, hyperbole, hysteria, propensity towards depression, short temper, envy, and a loose tongue.

Scientists have noticed that among middle-aged men memory is much worse than that of their female peers. The trend towards deterioration of memory does occur in women over time, but in the post-menopause phase this process ceases and memory function is stabilized. Women begin to overtake men on memory level tests again.

According to modern gender stereotypes, men have qualities such as striving for leadership and risk, energy, initiative, belligerence and rationality. Society generally condemns the manifestation of weakness and emotionality by men. However, men, like women, often exhibit anger, sadness, and fear. And men are more likely to express anger and suppress other negative emotions, whereas women, on the contrary, suppress anger and express sadness and fear.

With gender inequality in a society, qualities stereotypically ascribed to men are traditionally valued higher than qualities ascribed to women. Gender stereotypes often harm men. In particular, they contribute to risky behavior and even to committing crimes; these stereotypes also prevent men from seeking help when they become victims of violent acts.

According to ancient social attitudes, a man is viewed as the provider and the wife as the homemaker. The woman, while sheltered, could regularly provide easily digestible food for a man. She hoped nevertheless for his patronage against encroachment on the