Unreconciled: The New Norm
By Paul S. Jeon
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Paul S. Jeon
PAUL S. JEON (PhD, Catholic University of America) is visiting professor of New Testament at Reformed Theological Seminary (DC), an ordained elder in the Presbyterian Church in America, and lead pastor of NewCity Church. He is also the author of two books published by Wipf & Stock: Introducing Romans (2010) and True Faith (2012).
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Unreconciled
The New Norm
Paul S. Jeon
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The New Norm
Copyright © 2018 Paul S. Jeon. All rights reserved. Except for brief quotations in critical publications or reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any manner without prior written permission from the publisher. Write: Permissions, Wipf and Stock Publishers, 199 W. 8th Ave., Suite 3, Eugene, OR 97401.
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Table of Contents
Title Page
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter 1: Identity
Chapter 2: Community
Chapter 3: Peacemaking
Epilogue
Appendix
Bibliography
To James Forsyth,
Preacher, Leader, Friend
Acknowledgments
First, I thank Brian Forman whose diligence and love for Jesus inspire many. Without his efforts, the production of this book would have been delayed indefinitely. Second, I thank Garret and Grace Djeu whose commitment to facilitate peace illustrates much of what I discuss in this book. Finally, I thank my wife who responds to all my inadequacies with love and grace.
Introduction
Though brief, Paul’s Letter to Philemon is rich in meaning, reminding Christians of the importance of reconciliation, mediation, and winsome persuasion. On the surface, the letter seems to lack much theological depth. But a more careful analysis reveals the inseparable tie between our relationship with God and with others: because God has embraced his enemies as family in Christ, so now we are to adopt a new, radical approach to our relationships.
For many, when we think about being a Christian, there is a sense in which we feel the need to do great things for a great God. If you have attended Christian conferences, you have probably heard the speaker say something along the lines of, Who wants to win this continent for the Lord? Who here will become the next Billy Graham?
and so forth. In the Bible, there are some people, like Jeremiah and the apostle Paul, who were called to do extraordinary things. But what’s interesting is that, on the whole, people in the Bible were called to live somewhat ordinary lives.¹ The Letter to Philemon is yet another reminder of this.
Philemon is an entire letter dedicated to making the point that Christians must embrace people, especially other Christians, whom they don’t particularly like. Such people are annoying, smell, talk too much, or talk too little. These are the people from whom we keep a safe distance and who seem to offer little, if anything at all, that would enhance our lives. It’s noteworthy that God would set apart an entire letter just to deal with this ordinary topic of connecting with people that we don’t want to connect with. Why? The reason seems straightforward. Before trying to accomplish wonderful things for God, God wants us to first change something far more basic—the way we engage people.
I think regularly about this point of prioritizing reconciliation for two reasons. First, human tendency is to remake God and Christianity in our own image. That is, we decide what’s really important even if God has told us otherwise. For example, in Matthew 5:21–24 Jesus says:
You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.
But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, You fool!
will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
This is an extraordinary command—to first be reconciled to your brother and then come and worship. Almost any Christian would agree that worship takes precedence over anything. In his book Let the Nations Be Glad!, John Piper makes the observation that someday the work of missions will cease but worship will flow into eternity.² Similarly, Luke ends his Gospel with the disciples meeting regularly to worship: And they worshiped him and returned to Jerusalem with great joy, and were continually in the temple blessing God
(Luke 24:52–53). Instead of engaging in a frenzy of evangelism, they worship the resurrected Jesus and thank God for the blessing of salvation.³ So, none can deny the importance—the priority—of worship in the life of believers. Yet, even with this reality, Jesus has the audacity to hit the pause button on worship and reorient his disciples toward the restoration of relationships. Jesus doesn’t even care if a believer is fine with the current state of affairs—rather, if "your brother has something against you," you must go and initiate reconciliation.
Given the priority that Jesus places on restored relationships, it is striking that many believers live with either a low view of reconciliation or an indifference toward it. A refusal to pursue reconciliation has become an acceptable sin.
⁴ Somehow we have convinced ourselves and others to believe that God is OK with a pervasive state of broken relationships, all the more if we are busying ourselves with good works. However, if we take a step back, a refusal to seriously consider this reconciliation mandate is analogous to approaching the throne of grace and saying to our king, "I know you’ve asked me for this, but I’ve brought you that instead. The prophet’s words are most fitting here:
Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice" (1 Sam 15:22).
Second, similar to the first reason for thinking about reconciliation, what I have experienced over the years among church leaders is a blatant refusal to take steps toward reconciliation. This is ironic and consequential given their position. On the one hand, they will regularly teach on the importance of reconciliation. They’ll exhort members of their congregation to pursue peace before they partake in the family meal of communion. They’ll mediate forgiveness between members. But when conflicts arise that concern them directly, they’ll refuse to initiate or accept overtures toward restored relationships. Not only is this hypocritical but it is also noticeable. Their members are not oblivious and—as is the case with children and parents—many members learn just as much, if not more, from the example of their leaders. The need to recover this lost mandate to go
and be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift
needs to be recovered, especially among those who have been called to lead others.
Years ago I wrote a book entitled True Faith. It’s a brief reflection on Paul’s Letter to Titus. I had written my dissertation on it, and so I had the opportunity to reflect on its main message—that saving faith must be accompanied by good works in hope of eternal life.⁵ The apostle Paul makes abundantly clear that a person is saved by faith, not by works (Titus 3:5). Yet the entire letter is preoccupied with the necessity of good works that demonstrate true faith. Paul makes the provocative statement that there are many who profess to know God, but they deny him by their works
(Titus 1:16), or to be specific, by their lack of good works. Along these lines, I wonder if a disregard to prioritize what God prioritizes should give us reason to pause and think deeply about the veracity of our faith. I wonder if someday when we stand before Jesus and say, "Lord, did I not do that for you? he will say,
But did you do this for me—did you heed my mandate to seek reconciliation?"
My main objective in this book is to help recover this lost mandate. I also address the related disciplines of mediation and winsome speech. All in all, my hope