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    Love on a Faultline
    Love on a Faultline
    Love on a Faultline
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    Love on a Faultline

    By Cecile Ravell

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    Why does an educated, talented, refined woman fall for the archetypal ‘bad boy’?

    Anne needs to understand her 20-year relationship with a self-sabotaging and psychologically abusive man who proved unable to reciprocate her love. She intimately reveals and enquires into her compulsion to love, care for and remain in the relationship.

    As a psychotherapist, I guided Anne through an exploration of the unconscious ties that may bind us in harmful relationships, and she discovers why she was rendered incapable of leaving.

    So why is it people stay in abusive relationships—stuck in a pattern of behaviour until it culminates in a spiritual cataclysm? This question was often in the back of my mind during my years as a psychotherapist.

    While working with Anne I sought to reconcile Nature and Nurture theories, so pursued a path of counselling that addressed the following questions:
    Are our patterns of behaviour predetermined as part of our hardwiring—governed by our dominant archetypes (both Light and Shadow)—and woven into our DNA, representing all the roles of our ancestors? Or are our behaviours learned and a product of innate personality temperament interacting with the environment to get our needs met?

    Anne, as the narrator, looks back on this period of her life where she relates a candid and insightful account of the relationship she struggled to end. By becoming aware of her role in her family of origin and understanding her governing archetypes, she was finally able to extricate herself from destructive patterns of behaviour.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTellwell Talent
    Release dateMar 3, 2019
    ISBN9781922261267
    Love on a Faultline
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    Cecile Ravell

    Cecile Ravell is a creative memoir writer who is inspired by her observations, as a psychotherapist, of human behaviour. She is a proponent of writing as therapy and has seen, first hand, how drawing on the strengths of Jungian Archetypes can help people move on from loss.Cecile is the author of Child: Magical; and Dilemmas of a Middle-aged Madonna. Excerpts from these stories have been published in two Anthologies - Literary Allsorts and Ties that Bind. Her fascination with innate personality temperament combined with her passion for travel, take her female protagonists on an internal as well as external journey of discovery.

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      Love on a Faultline - Cecile Ravell

      CECILE RAVELL

      This is an IndieMosh book

      brought to you by MoshPit Publishing

      an imprint of Mosher’s Business Support Pty Ltd

      PO BOX 147

      Hazelbrook NSW 2779

      https://www.indiemosh.com.au/

      Copyright 2019 © Cecile Ravell

      All rights reserved

      Licence Notes

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to your favourite ebook retailer and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author. All rights reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted by any person or entity, in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, scanning or by any information storage and retrieval system, without prior permission in writing from the author and publisher.

      Names, events and character occupations have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The author has made every effort to ensure that the information in this book was correct at the time of publication. However, the author and publisher accept no liability for any loss, damage or disruption incurred by the reader or any other person arising from any action taken or not taken based on the content of this book. The author recommends seeking third party advice and considering all options prior to making any decision or taking action in regard to the content of this book.

      ∞§∞

      From Sacred Contracts by Carolyn Myss. Copyright © Carolyn Myss, 2001 Published by Bantam Books. Reprinted by permission of Penguin Random House Australia Pty Ltd.

      From Anatomy of Spirit by Caroline Myss. Copyright © 1996 Caroline Myss. Reprinted by permission of Penguin Random House Australia Pty Ltd

      From The Thoughts of Nanushka, Vol 11: Gift of Love by Nan Witcomb. Copyright © Nan Witcomb 1985. Reprinted by permission of Nan Witcomb nanushka@senet.com.au

      From The Thoughts of Nanushka, Vol 12: Tears and Tenderness by Nan Witcomb. Copyright © Nan Witcomb 1985. Reprinted by permission of Nan Witcomb nanushka@senet.com.au

      From The Thoughts of Nanushka, Vol 5: Pocketful of Dreams by Nan Witcomb. Copyright © Nan Witcomb 1976. Reprinted by permission of Nan Witcomb nanushka@senet.com.au

      Foreword

      This book is an important contribution to our search for triumphant healing, and a retrospective understanding for those destructive relationships that can entrap us.

      Cecile seeks to understand the unconscious ties that may bind us in harmful relationships and explains why so many women seem to be rendered incapable of leaving.

      This is a beautifully constructed gift for so many women; those who have been entrapped, those who struggle to understand how these pairings could occur, and those who professionally accompany any­one who has endured. Thank goodness for intelli­gence in the little girl who was destined to survive and thrive.

      Such an important book—this work is clever, profound, moving, and will help so many people.

      Cecile’s writing keeps the reader intrigued and empathic as she explores the unconscious elements that assist us to comprehend the classic ‘bad boy’ material in this tale of tainted love.

      Cecile makes it easy for the reader to quickly connect and appreciate how intelligent, high func­tioning women can be seduced by a harmful man. Her writing is strong and real; a cautionary tale with a satisfying ending.

      Meredith Fuller, Psychologist

      Life Member Australian Association of Psychological Type

      Member College of Counselling Psychologists APS & Media Spokesperson

      Author’s Introduction –

      The Perennial Question

      Why is it people stay in abusive relationships—stuck in a pattern of behaviour until it culminates in a spiritual cataclysm? This question was often in the back of my mind during my years as a psychotherapist.

      While working with one such client—who I shall call Anne—I sought to reconcile Nature and Nurture theories, so pursued a path of counselling that addressed the following questions:

      Are our patterns of behaviour predetermined as part of our hardwiring—governed by our dominant archetypes (both Light and Shadow)[1]—and woven into our DNA, representing all the roles of our ancestors? Or are our behaviours learned and a product of innate personality temperament interacting with the environment to get our needs met?

      Love on a Faultline is a story that observes Anne’s desire to understand her twenty-year relationship with Raymond, a self-sabotaging and at times abusive man who ultimately proves unable to reciprocate her love. Throughout this narrative Anne intimately reveals and enquires into her compulsion to love, care for and remain in a relationship with a man whose childhood wounds have diminished his capacity to do anything but squander her love for him.

      Anne, as the narrator, looks back on this period of her life where she relates a candid and insightful account of the relationship she struggled to end.

      By becoming aware of her role in her family of origin and understanding her governing archetypes, she was finally able to extricate herself from destructive patterns of behaviour.

      Faultline definition: ‘a problem that may not be obvious and could cause something to fail.’

      Cambridge Advanced Learners Dictionary and Thesaurus. ©Cambridge University Press. 2008

      Prologue –

      Sacred Contract

      The essence of the fifth chakra is faith. Having faith in someone commits part of our energy to that person … As a result of our energy commitments we – our minds, hearts and lives – become woven in their consequences. Our faith and our power of choice are, in fact, the power of creation itself. We are the vessels through which energy becomes matter in this life.

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