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DOUBLE INCOME, NO
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GET AWAY, RECHARGE
HEALTH DIET FOOD
FOR THOUGHT
K. V. Venugopal
ARTICLES
LATEST GADGETS
FOR YOU
Anoop Verma
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MOTHER-LOVE WHEN
ETERNAL ELLORA DOES IT FIRST STRIKE
Rajib Sen Kasturi Rangachari
71 MONSOON
NECESSITATES REMOVAL OF
MOULD FROM HOMES LOST YOUR LIBIDO?
NK Pant GET IT BACK
Vikas Kumar Jain
74 A LIFT IN THE HOUSE
K. M. Sharma
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EXCELLENCE LAC ORNAMENTS
Subhra ARE AGAIN 46 A VEG-NON-VEG MIX
BECOMING POPULAR 48 FOR YOUR TASTE BUDS
96 THIS IS THE WAY IT WAS Kusum Mehta
Mango Pickle
glass
LIKE!
re. Pour into
●
room temperatu the lid on the jar.
put
2 tsp of haldi
powder bottles and days.
powder - hing sun for 8-10
11/2 tsp of asafoetida – aniseed Keep in the even a year if care
1 kg tomatoes weighing around for
powder Stays good Take out
1 green mango 2 tsp of saunf keep it clean.
is taken to of mango at
one
powder
300 gm powder only a few pieces Put
Tamatar Chutney
1/ tsp of haldi
powder 2 tsp of amchur powder a clean spoon. sun
●
2 rlic paste chilli time using in the
3-4 tsp of ginger-ga 2 tsp of red and keep it
salt back the lid aachar is
paste
3 tsp of tamarind paste 5-6 tsp of time. This
from time to has a fine
Sonam Agrawal
chilli spicy but
2 tsp of green oil METHOD green mangoes not very saunf . Tastes
1 cup of mustard Choose raw ly raw and aroma of hing and
absolute
salt to taste which are to ripen even
a
good with patties.
●
Put creativ pieces. Run
these pieces cloth and allow or even at room ENTS:
s a paste. in the sun so that INGREDI green
into your pickle
FOR YOUR
mixture to obtainquantity of the oil dry ure for 2 days is 200 gm
of very small
Heat half the rlic temperat Thai chillies
TASTE BUDS
the moisture chillies called cut into julienne
and enjoy these in a kadhai.
Add the ginger-gaMix most of
for a minute. d. a 1 cup of
ginger
throughout paste and stir-fry
pieces and
add salt evaporate the hing to obtain
Crush the saunf
pieces
Asafoetida
in the tomato with a lid and cook
FICTION
Also dry-grind
the year. to taste. Cover of the powder.
heat till most have to obtain a powder. of the Chillies
and ginger
in vinegar
●
powder mango
hard well paste and haldi and cooking on powder Mix in the
PICKLE
little. Choose well and salt. Keep
stirring 30 seconds. gently. Put off the
Wash these biryani. another 3-4
minutes, stir
mangoes. nch pieces. low fire for a time at
pieces and spices.
INGREDIENTS: mangoes cut into quarter-ihaldi powder oil a little at mix in the remaining
and adding the oil has heat, heat the remaining
1 kg of raw
green
Sprinkle salt steel Once all the another pan the
short intervals. and the aachar is In
in a clean
TAMATAR and pour over
oil
1 litre of mustard and keep with a muslin been used
up mustard oil
powder the heat. mango pieces. or
Cover dry, put off
Vinegar
2 tsp of haldi container .
CHUTNEY N 4 cups of vinegar
to
a powder – the mangoes more or less Put into spiced to cool to
1/ tsp of asafoetid cloth and allow or even at room temperature. for Allow enough to
Cool to room
WITH GREE
2
hing dry in the
sun
so that aachar is ready with cover the
for 2 days bottles. The 2 weeks Mango pickle
5-6 tsp of salt temperat ure stay good for chillies and
MANGOES
is
powder: the moisture use and will in the fridge.
asafoetida
For the spice most of without keeping ginger
powder – aniseed evaporated. of the kachories or
pakoras.
2 tsp of salt
2 tsp of saunf the quantity hing INGREDIENTS: Serve with
Heat half
●
powder METHOD
powder
2 tsp of amchur chillies mustard oil for stems only
allow to splutter Remove the
red powder and
MANGO
mango leave
20-25 dried seeds Mix in the and
jeera – onion 30 seconds. gently. Put off the from the chillies ginger and
1 tsp of kala
●
seeds mustard Place the gingerthe vinegar and 1
2 tsp of mustard remaining mango pieces.
over the spiced room INGREDIENTS: glass jar. Pour
METHOD could cool to 1 kg of raw
green
is spicy. You Allow to bottles 47
This aachar red chillies Put into glass
amount of temperature. on the jar. Keep in mangoes oil
reduce the firy. put the lid 1 litre of mustard (Second) 2009
if you want
it less ts for and Stays good Tamatar chutney
with
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the ingredien 8-10 days.
Dry-roast all the sun for is taken to green mangoes
Kasturi Rangachari
Cool to room for even a year if care only a few
Chillies
the spice powder. and grind to
a
it clean. Take out
keep
tempera ture aside.
mixer. Keep
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EDITORIAL
events like gay day and lesbian day, etc. Their actions
HOMOSEXUALITY COMMOTION seem to be directed at making mockery of the social
I
t is believed that Adam and Eve were living happily norms including the pious institution of marriage.
in the Garden of Eden until Adam, prompted by the Proponents of the gay rights hail Delhi High Court’s
Serpent, took a bite from the forbidden apple. And ruling declaring it a victory of their prolonged struggle.
thus began sexual relationship between them marking They argue that why should India still cling to the British
the commencement of sexual reproduction among period law while even our old masters have already
human race. scrapped it in England according homosexuality social
But no one knows when and how sexual relations as well as legal acceptance. Our Parliament is exactly
between the members of same sex began. It is, going to discuss this point. In the light of this, Delhi
however, certain that homosexuality and lesbianism High Court’s ruling has come somewhat in haste. Its
are as old as the human civilisation. And the gays and motive is also rather obscure.
lesbians, as the men and women having carnal Now something about the social implications of
relations are known respectively, had never taken a homosexuality. Without doubt, it is an outcome of
bite from any forbidden apple. But as a social perverted minds. The phenomenon perhaps is an
perversion, the phenomenon existed since time outcome of too many taboos put on boys and girls in a
immemorial. No one is sure what made the British society. Psychologists maintain that homosexual
rulers to bring a law (Section 377 of IPC) against behaviour takes its roots during the childhood years.
homosexuality in circa 1860, that is, Earlier, it is out of curiosity. But with
during the period when the British- time, it is corrected by itself. But if it
Indian forces were on an annexation continues among the adults then it is
drive. nothing but perversion. Sometimes,
Perhaps they might have seen it arises out of frustration among
that the soldiers, who were long adult men and women.
away from their homes and families, But it is by no means an excuse
were making relations with one to seek social and legal acceptance
another. So they (the British) for this perversion. There are many
enacted Section 377 of IPC making other creative ways to give vent to
homosexuality a cognisable crime. this frustration. Homos and lesbians
In independent India, Section 377 of IPC was must explore them. The society too ought to take a look
retained in our Constitution as it is and homosexuality at various taboos inflicting growing minds of young
continued to be treated as an outlawed behaviour if children and make sure that they grow with healthy
not as a crime. But there is hardly any incidence, when sexual outlook without facing any sexual risk.
any person, man or woman, has been punished for Moreover, at least male and female union is required
having homosexual relations. for the continuation of progeny. Any diversion from this
Recent ruling of Justices A.P. Shah and S. natural requirement would lead to social disorder. Even
Muralidharan of Delhi High Court in favour of the sexually reproducing animals don’t indulge in such
homosexuality puts a big question mark on the validity perversion as homosexuality. Therefore, homosexuality
of the said law. The justices have observed that this and lesbianism have no room in the society because
Section violates the fundamental right to freedom and their acts are against the natural laws though they talk
equality of an individual granted to him or her under the about the human rights.
various sections and sub-sections of our Constitution. In such a situation, sex education becomes all the
Meanwhile, the ruling that has come at a juncture more important. It is high time to start a fresh debate
when a debate was about to start in Parliament over about including it in school curriculum.
the issue has sent a wave of cheer among the gays Further, it must be asked if by legalising
and lesbians. At the same time, it has shocked various homosexuality will it lead to decline in sexual crimes
sections of society. Although, many nations, including against women and minor girls. No such decline is seen
the USA, the UK, and many western European and in societies where homosexuality is legalised. So what
Southeast Asian countries have now granted purpose would it serve in India to legalise
homosexuality a legal status, but it has not done any homosexuality? Perhaps nothing except some groups
good to the respective societies. On the contrary, it of gays and lesbians holding rallies, displaying placards
has emboldened the sexually perverted men and and rejoicing over their so-called victory.
women to observe and celebrate a number of awkward write to: letters@womansera.com We
A
with steadily rising bank
balance? Are you one of
those pairs who love to
take off to a late-night
movie without having worry
about kids? Do you get
jitters when you think of
having kids and prefer this
life instead? Then you are
one of those, leading a DINK lifestyle.
In today’s high-pressure lifestyle, This acronym appeared for the first
time in Pat Buchanan’s best-selling
does having children have a place? book The Death of the West. Short
for “Double Income, No Kids,” it
By Sudha Chandrasekaran refers to thousands of couples in
urban centres leading such a
DOUBLE INCOME,
lifestyle. It is a growing phenomenon.
Society is facing a culture shock
these days. Earlier, a couple was
?
expected to have a baby within
NO KIDS
almost a year of marriage. These
days, with higher pay packets and
both husband and wife working,
success is coming easily and they
can afford a pretty lavish lifestyle.
E
ago, Indians weren’t much thinking taken place? For many
into leisure travelling. Poor reasons. Economic reforms have
transport and communication opened up the country and let the
facilities, discomfort with new world in – and Indians out. Foreign
and strange surroundings, exchange restrictions have been
uneasiness with unfamiliar eased, liberalisation has created a
cuisines, guilt arising from new and large class of entrepreneurs
the conviction that trips, and lots of people have lots of
unless essential, were self- money. And so leisure travel has
indulgent and that the money spent taken off!
on them was better saved – these
and a host of other reasons kept Everyone can travel: Today most
Indians at home. But all that has people love to travel – and not just
changed, and today Indians, old and the young, adventurous and restless.
young,are all too ready to pack their Practically everyone has realised the
bags and take off the minute they advantages of travelling – of getting
have the time and the money! away from it all, of taking a break, of
GET AWAY,
RECHARGE
AND CREATE
MEMORIES! Why leisure travel is
good for you. By Kasturi Rangachari
is refreshing and revitalising. Today’s aging parents. No, I wanted to come
jobs are high-pressure, stressful ones back to India and do something that
TOUR OPERATORS and getting away for a complete would make a difference to people,”
OFTEN KEEP THEIR change has become a psychological
necessity.
he told me.
Tour operators often keep their
AGE IN MIND WHEN If you spend a weekend at home, age in mind when planning trips for
PLANNING TRIPS FOR you tend to brood about work senior citizens. But not all their clients
problems and even if you don’t, you like being told that they are too old
SENIOR CITIZENS. BUT sleep or eat too much as you try to to do it all! I remember my mother
NOT ALL THEIR get the energy to tackle postponed speaking to a tour planner who had
chores or to play with the kids. You told her that she would have just one
CLIENTS LIKE BEING then start the next week feeling stale, outing a day while in Bali.
TOLD THAT THEY ARE exhausted and low-spirited. “We don’t want to overdo things
But if you leave home and take off now, do we?” he asked coyly with a
TOO OLD for some getaway –- without taking benign smile.
TO DO IT ALL! your laptop with you! – everything My mother glared at him. “You
changes. You find yourself in a may not want to, but put everything
refreshingly unfamiliar place with new back into my programme!” she
things to see and do. The very air, ordered tartly. “I’m not going to Bali to
the ambience itself, is different. You count the clouds! I want to see it all,
cannot follow your usual routine, and do it all!”
have to think out what you want to My mother, unfortunately like too
do, see, eat, etc. few oldies, was determined to do
And you have choices. You can everything that she had always
decide to lie in the open in a lounger wanted to while she could still do it.
staring up at the sky, to go trekking, So, till illness made it impossible, she
to teach your five-year-old swimming took off once a year, with two like-
– your time, the commodity that is in minded friends, for regions unknown.
such short supply these days – is The threesome would go with a tour
your own to spend as you like! And if company which specialised in
you decide just to eat and sleep, for organising tours for pensioners. She
some reason, this doesn’t make you frequently told me that she was
feel heavy and drugged – it refreshes grateful for the fact that I never told
you! her that she was too old to go off like
that and that I would worry myself to
Experience the change: And – boy death if she did so.
– do you enjoy being in control even But how could I do anything other
if it is only for a couple of days! Your than check out her tour thoroughly,
batteries get recharged and you make sure that I had the phone
come back full of energy and vitality. number and address of every hotel
It has even been proved that regular that she’d be staying in and get her
breaks prevent early burnout in international phone cards for the
taxing jobs. countries she would be travelling to,
A getaway also gives you the when she came back each time
perfect opportunity to disconnect looking exhilarated and happy and 10
from your regular life. And when you years younger?
disconnecting and taking time off to do this, you get a new perspective on
smell the roses along the path of life. things. Broadening out: Travelling gives
In fact, leisure travel has become part An ex-student of mine told me that one tremendous opportunities for
of the routine lifestyle of many he had decided to give up his novelty, fun, adventure and
people. And all of them benefit from excellent job in Switzerland, move discovery. In fact, one cannot be a
it. back to India and start a micro- complete human being who has a full
Leisure travel is the greatest banking organisation while on a life unless one has travelled and
stress buster possible. Yes, even just much-needed holiday. “I suddenly seen the world. Travelling completes
a two-day weekend away from a realised that I did not want to spend one’s education and this was why, in
hectic work schedule (and who my life as I was spending it – moving the past, British aristocrats sent their
doesn’t have one now, even if one is from country to country, earning pots children for the “Grand Tour” after
a stay-at-home “unemployed” mum?) of money but being away from my they completed their studies. This
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with newly
unveiled Lenovo
products in New
How Napoleon died Delhi. Lenovo
launched several
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including a single-
unit desktop PC,
Lenovo (300 and
ultra-thin
notebooks Lenovo
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instrument factory in
Pinggu, on the
outskirts of Beijing.
The district has
become one of the
world’s centres of
violin production in
just 20 years.
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An intelligent robot
Green principles
Madonna’s nude images
Q&
With constant exposure to sun my case only a practitioner can evaluate
blemishes tend to show more. What after checking out the depth of the
can I do to make them lighten up? lines. Essentially, it freezes the
You have not mentioned your age. muscle of the area, so you cannot
However, you should take fresh frown any more.
carrot, grate it and use the liquid with
I had a patch of pink skin at the cotton on your blemishes. Dab it and
base of my neck at the back. The let it dry naturally. I want to know if there is a natural
doctor said it was Leucoderma. He Regular use will affect the way to bleach facial hair. I do not
was able to stop its spread but he blemishes. Also, consult a dermatolo- want to use chemical market
also forbade me from going out in gist to ensure there is no deep-set bleaches on my face.
sun. Will it get worse if I am in the reason for these blemishes. Natural bleach works slowly and
sun? the results are not dramatic. You can
Yes, the sun’s effect on skin which dry orange skin in winter and powder
in any case has less melanin can I want a quick-fix body exfoliator it, mix a teaspoon with milk and apply
make the problem worse. If you have which is soothing and effective in to your face for 20 minutes. This will
only one affected spot, it would be summer. What should I do which can also help with skin-conditioning and
better to take precautions than be be ready in a short time? lighten the hair.
sorry later. You have obviously con - Grind some almonds and keep
sulted the doctor well in time, and them ready – they should not be
so might as well get the full benefit powder but effective as exfoliation While everybody is complaining
A
of that and take all the needed material. Mix some fresh mint leaves about oily skin in summer, I still
precautions. and a teaspoon of honey. Apply on combat a very dry skin and do not
your body and leave on for a few know how to get rid of dry patches
minutes. Then rub it in with small around my forehead.
The skin on my knees and elbows circular movements and this will help Do check that it is dryness and not
seems very rough and dry. What can you get rid of dead skin as also boost dandruff. You can use the heavy
I do? blood circulation. cream that you get on milk and mix
We often ignore these areas of with ripe papaya mash. Add oatmeal
our body and they get neglected and powder, so it stays on your face and
rough skin builds up. Make a paste of My friends tell me that washing hair apply it thrice a week. Wash off after
one tsp milk powder, half an egg with beer makes it good but nobody 20 minutes.
white and half tsp lemon juice. Apply in my home drinks beer and I don’t
to the area and leave for a few want to buy beer just for my hair.
minutes before washing off. Also, you What do I do? I am 21 and my problem is the tan
can massage olive oil at night to In beer it is the glycerine and hops that summer invariably brings. I try to
soften the skin here. content that is good for the hair. You put sunblock but it wears off. How
can make an easy alternative with can I rid myself of this suntan on any
barley water. Add some lemon juice face and feet which is much worse?
I tend to get a film of oiliness on my to it and use it as a last rinse. Or you Make a mix of egg white and
face most of the time. I work from can make a mix of egg white, lemon honey and apply it to your face and
home and do not use much make-up, juice and some barley water and even feet. Leave it there for a 20
so I wonder how to combat this in the apply to your scalp. minutes before washing off. You
most natural way. Shampoo after half an hour and should apply a thicker coat of sun
Well, oiliness in the morning as then use barley water and lemon screen on your feet as they get
you wake up or after a few hours is juice for a last rinse. Do not put plain terribly tanned, as at least for the
not unhealthy as, when you sweat, water after that. face you have dark glasses, etc.
“N
andita called yesterday and face, her bewitching smile, her beautiful eyes and
congratulated me,” Kumar said casually her sweet voice – all of which were familiar to every
and I gave a slight start that he luckily art-loving, newspaper-and-magazine-reading, TV-
did not see. But he did see the surprise watching member of the public – and I glanced at
mixed with alarm that sprang into my Kumar, wondering how he had been able to come
eyes and he smiled in amusement. “Do to terms with while losing all that.
you find it strange that my ex-fiancee But the sight of him made me ask myself another
should ring me up and congratulate me on my question. Why would someone as good-looking,
engagement to you?” he asked, a teasing note in his urbane, successful, mature and wonderful as Kumar,
voice. want to marry a woman as prosaic and ordinary as I
We were having dinner in an elite multi-cuisine was? Marry a woman more than a dozen years
restaurant that was all the rage just then among the younger – he was 34 and I was 20 – and several
sophisticated crowd Kumar belonged to, and I light years less mature and knowledgeable about
stopped eating and stared at him nonplussed, not
knowing what to say. Was I surprised? Yes, I was.
Did I think it strange? Yes, I did. But could I tell him
that without him considering me immature and
unsophisticated? No, I couldn’t!
“There is one thing that you must understand,
Geeta,” he said, a little more seriously when it
became obvious that I wasn’t going to reply to his
question. “Nandita and I split up, but we are still
good friends. In fact, she is my best friend –
someone to whom I can tell anything and everything
– and I am probably her best friend too. Do you
mind?”
Did I mind? Did I mind that a fascinating,
beautiful, talented and captivating woman, a
woman who was fast making a name for herself as
a world-famous dancer was my husband’s best
friend? Of course I did!
“Of course not,” I said as heartily as I could.
“I understand.”
But the truth was that understanding the situation
was the last thing that I was capable of. For one
thing, I didn’t understand why any man in his right
senses would be ready to give up a woman like
Nandita. I thought of her statuesque figure, her
rounded hips, her deep breasts, her heart-shaped
anything and everything, than he was? Even my
name – Geeta – was one of the most common names
in the country!
Nandita brought life
into our rather staid
group that day. She was
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STORY
But these were questions I had never dared ask in high spirits and she laughed and joked
Kumar, even in the moments we were close and he with Kumar and his family and friends, all of
was tender. Not only did I constantly feel the age whom she of course knew. But my relatives
difference between us, but I was also incessantly and friends had shell-shocked looks on their
overwhelmed by the thought of my ignorance about faces and my parents stood protectively on
practically everything and my general inadequacy either side of me, trying to smile but looking
when compared to his experience, his sophistication what they were really feeling – outraged
and the scintillating conversation he was capable of that Nandita should have been so
on any topic under the sun. insensitive as to attend Kumar’s wedding
“Nandita also told me that she’ll be in Mumbai when they had been involved and had then
for a show tomorrow,” Kumar told me later, as he broken up. Luckily, neither Nandita nor
dropped me off at home. “I wonder how I missed the Kumar even noticed the tension that
announcement in the papers, but anyway I’m surrounded me.
meeting her after the performance for a late dinner. Oddly enough, I understood. These people
So I won’t be able to see you tomorrow.” belonged to a class of society that my family didn’t
“That’s all right,” I mumbled, wondering why he belong to. We were definitely conservative middle
wasn’t taking me along to meet his “best friend”. As class, with all the usual middle-class hang-ups about
usual, he read my mind. not wanting to make waves. But Kumar, Nandita
and their friends were part of the rich, to-the-manor-
I
smiled weakly and, jumping out of the born aristocracy and didn’t give a hoot
car, shut the door behind me. I I understood. about what people thought of them. I had
remembered to turn and wave when I These people somehow got involved with them and now
reached the verandah of my home, but I belonged to a class it was up to me to make myself acceptable
was on the verge of tears as I went in. of society that my to them.
Nandita, the famous dancer who attracted family didn’t We got through the formalities and
eyes wherever she went, was going to belong to. We Kumar and I were married. My father and
attend my marriage to her ex-fiance who were definitely uncle signed as witnesses for me and, as
was still her best friend! She and Kumar conservative Kumar’s parents were no more, a
and their upper-crust, sophisticated friends middle class, with
childhood friend of his, Alok Mehta,
might not find that strange, but my much all the usual
signed for him first. I watched tensely to
more ordinary parents, already in a daze middle-class
see who would be his second witness. He
about the marriage their only daughter was was quite capable of asking his “best
hang-ups about
going to enter into, would. In fact, I did friend” Nandita to sign for him and she
not wanting to
too! would be quite capable of agreeing to. But
make waves.
And Nandita did attend my wedding. At Kumar asked an aunt who was the oldest
Kumar’s insistence, we were having a member of his family to be a witness and
registered wedding attended only by close friends she happily agreed and signed the register.
and relatives and she swept in just as the clerk
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called us in. And, from that moment, I became a he start of my married life, my actual wedding,
nonentity at my own wedding! might not have been particularly pleasant, but
Nandita was wearing a gorgeous designer sari, life after that was absolutely blissful. For some
much more eye-catching than my own expensive, but reason I couldn’t really fathom, Kumar seemed to
sober Kancheepuram silk. Around her neck were a love me very much and he was kind and tender and,
number of long gold chains and she wore chunky above all, very patient with me. I blundered along,
bangles on her wrists. She had loads of mascara on learning to run his palatial home as efficiently as he
her eyes, a big red bindi on her forehead and long wanted, to manage his household help, to give good
strings of jasmine in her hair. parties, to entertain his friends and even to open my
She looked both dramatic and exquisite – just mouth without making a fool of myself.
right for the dancer that she was. People have Two years passed and we didn’t have a child, but
always said that I am pretty, but my prettiness is an neither of us minded too much. We were too happy
insipid kind of prettiness. Next to her I was like a to worry about anything and when the doctor told us
single jasmine flower put beside a flaming crimson that nothing was wrong and that children would
rose! come along when Nature decided that it was time
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The days that she was in town – never more than he was silent for long minutes and sat gazing
three or four – would be frantic. Though she would into the distance as she went back to those
stay at either the Taj or the Le Meredien, she would days.
spend all the time she could spare from rehearsals “I was an up-and-coming dancer in those days and
and performances with us – either both of us or with Kumar and I met in Delhi at a party given for the
just me because Kumar often had work that he could famous dancer Veena Vasudevan. It was love at first
not postpone. sight for both of us! We were a pair soon and we
When the three of us were together, I’d mostly both knew that some time in the future, when we
remain quiet because Kumar and Nandita would be were both ready, when Kumar had established
talking their heads off. I’d stare at her as she talked himself and I had made a name for myself as a
– she always talked very animatedly, waving her classical dancer, we’d get married. But there
hands about a great deal, various expressions seemed no hurry for that to happen. We were far
flitting, one after another, across her mobile face – too happy living each exciting day to the full, to
and I’d wonder about their break-up. And, while I bother too much about the future!
wondered, the green-eyed monster would eat into “Those were the days that Kumar had first started
me. riding high, getting promotion after promotion and I
“My father teaches in a college and my mother in had just joined Anandraj’s dance troupe. We were
a school,” I told her. “We’re very ordinary people. both doing well and we were both happy and busy.
The only thing special is that we have this rather We spent our free time going for shows and spending
dilapidated and old, but large bungalow on the hours chatting with friends and with each other.
seafront in central Mumbai that my father inherited “Then Kumar began to think of branching out on
from a distant relative. If it weren’t for that his own and, though I was all for it, it posed a
bungalow, I would never have even met Kumar – problem. He wanted to start business in Mumbai,
there is no chance that our paths would ever have but I was getting more and more involved with
crossed. But he bought a house near my home and Anandraj’s troupe and didn’t want to leave Delhi.
he liked going for walks along the seafront and I did “We discussed things and decided that, for the
too and we met...and I got lucky….” time being, Kumar would move to Mumbai and I
Nandita leaned forward and stroked my cheek. would stay on in Delhi. He’d test the waters in
“No, he got lucky,” she said softly. Mumbai and I too would see if I could move there.
I stared at her nonplussed. What sort of a woman “Kumar went to Mumbai and set up his
was this who could pay from-the-heart consultancy firm there. Business soon
compliments to the wife of a man she had picked up and he didn’t want to return to
once loved very much and whom she even What sort of a Delhi. But the dance troupe too began to
now loved very much as a friend? Was her woman was this do well. We began to give performances
large-heartedness the reason why Kumar who could pay all over the country and even abroad. I
was so drawn to her? from-the-heart was given solos too in our performances
compliments to and I didn’t want to give all that up and
O
ne day, she spontaneously answered move to Mumbai and start afresh.
the wife of a
the question I had been dying to “We went on like that for two years. We
ask her. man she had were young, we loved each other and we
“You wonder why Kumar and I broke once loved very were filled with energy. We were sure that
up, don’t you?” she asked while we were much and whom we could conquer the world – and that time
having lunch after a morning of hectic she even now and distance could not destroy our love for
shopping on one of her visits. I gave a start loved very much each other. We met for a few days every
and she laughed gaily and put her few months and we made those days
exquisitely manicured and bejewelled as a friend? memorable!
N
andita sighed and put her hand on mine. “I when he has been involved with you? I must seem
know that you will wonder what like a glass of milk after a glass of champagne! How
kind of woman I am to fall in and could he have forgotten you?”
out of love so easily. But Anandraj was “Oh my dear, are you blind?” Nandita asked.
my alter ego – he understood what I felt “What do you mean?”
without my telling him – he lived to “Don’t you see the passionate love in
dance, just as I did…and we both Kumar’s eyes whenever he looks at
realised that we were fated to be you?
together.
“I hadn’t told Kumar about my
feelings till then – not because I
wanted to hide things from him, but
because I was confused. But the
next time he came to Delhi I told
him – with great trepidation! He
looked at me with so much pain in
his eyes that I felt as if my heart was
breaking. Then he got up and walked
away.
“I thought that he would never want to see me
again and I felt lost and lonely. I then realised that,
though I needed Anandraj in one way, I needed
Kumar too, in another way and I was so unhappy. I gaped at
“A few days later, to my great joy, Kumar came her as she went
to see me again. And he told me that he understood. on, “And, as for
That he realised that Anandraj and I were made for milk and
each other in a way he and I weren’t, because of champagne, milk is
our common love for dance. And he told me that he wholesome and
needed me too – as a friend. I wept my heart out nourishing. Champagne
that day and from then we have been best friends. may be heady, but it leaves you
Do you understand that?” with a headache the next morning!”
I couldn’t understand that. Surely, Kumar would I laughed then, laughed with her, feeling as if a
have felt betrayed and heartbroken? But I didn’t say weight off my mind.
that and instead changed the subject. “Now tell me, are you happy?” she asked me
“And then you married Anandraj? And he again, this time with a smile and a teasing note in
understood your friendship with Kumar?” her voice.
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he also seemed to be falling ill often. In fact, nursing. And you are not going to!”
Anandraj too seemed to be falling ill frequently. For the first time since I had known him, Kumar
Nandita and Kumar still seemed to need each became angry with me. “I am going to Delhi,
other and he made several trips to Delhi to see her Geeta,” he said, his voice cold. “Just accept that.”
during this period. And then came another SOS, this “No, I won’t let you go!”
time because Anandraj was ill, and Kumar prepared As he watched me puzzled, I picked up the
to air-dash to Delhi again. phone and dialled Nandita’s number. When he
“Both Nandita and Anandraj seem to be falling ill realised what I was doing, he tried to grab the
very often,” I commented as I watched Kumar phone from me, but by that time Nandita had picked
throwing a few things into a bag, a frown of worry the receiver up.
on his face. “What is it this time?” “Nandita,” I said, “I’m Geeta speaking.”
“A bad cold that has gone to his chest and “Hi, Geeta! Is Kumar leaving today?” Nandita
become pneumonia.” Kumar hesitated as if he were sounded tired and weak.
wondering whether to say anything further or not. I hesitated and refused to meet Kumar’s eyes.
He then seemed to decide not to, because he turned “Nandita,” I said. “Kumar has just told me
away. about…about your illness.”
“What is it?” I asked. “I see.”
“Nothing.” “I’m very sorry. More sorry than I can
“No, there is something. Something say.”
about Anandraj. About Nandita. Don’t “How can “Yes.”
hide it from me.” he be happy, “But...I can’t let Kumar come there.”
Kumar sat down and looked at me with Nandita was silent and I went on, “I may
eyes filled with pain. “You had better sit really happy, be wrong, but I’m terrified that he will pick
down,” he said heavily and when I did so, with me, when up the...the infection.”
he went on. “Both Anandraj and Nandita he has been “I understand!” Nandita’s voice was
tested positive for HIV two years ago and involved with filled with affection. “It’s all right.”
now both have full-blown AIDS.” As I you? I must “I’m sorry…”
stared at him stunned, he went on softly, seem like a “Don’t be. I said I understand.”
“Anandraj picked up the infection through “Kumar is angry with me.”
a blood transfusion. But he initially did not glass of milk “Let me talk to him.”
know that he had the infection and he gave after a glass of I silently handed the receiver to my
it to Nandita.” champagne!” husband. He took it and listened for a long
My mouth fell open as terror filled my time as Nandita spoke to him. “All right,”
A
nd then one day, just around the time I had and, after the double tragedy that will hit her soon, it
begun to wonder what to do, Anandraj rang won’t be easy to make her feel secure and loved.
up and told Kumar that Nandita was dying. I And she has been brought up in a very different way
flicked on the speaker-phone so that I too could hear ... There will be clashes, problems.”
Anandraj’s words. “She’s desperate to tell you “There are no problems that love cannot solve. I
something,” Anandraj told Kumar. “She’s writing want her, Kumar!”
you a letter and I’ll send it as soon as she has “Then…I will bring her back with me. But I will
finished it. Only she is so weak that she is not able have to stay here till…the end.”
to write more than a few lines at a time...” “Of course.”
“Anandrajji,” I interrupted, my eyes on Kumar’s “Nandita said something else, Geeta. She told
pain-filled face, “Kumar will fly there and meet me to tell you to bring Mahima up to be like you.
Nandita. Please tell her that.” She said that there is nothing like a glass of
“Geeta…” nourishing milk. What did she mean?”
“Tell Nandita that I’m sorry my foolishness kept “I’ll tell you later. But you tell her that I would like
her from seeing her best friend during the time she Mahima to grow up to be like her – a loving and
probably needed him the most,” I said. “She needn’t giving person who follows her heart and lives life
write what she wants to tell him. She can tell him fully.”
what she wants in person.” “I’ll tell her that.”
“Then he should come quickly. I don’t know how I put down the phone. Yes, I would do my best to
much time she has.” bring Mahima up to become a woman like Nandita.
“He’ll be there this evening.” I was sad when I thought of what was happening in
I turned and looked at Kumar. He smiled and held Delhi, but I was also filled with dreams – dreams for
his arms open and I walked into them. my daughter, Mahima. We
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The Peculiar Man
Appearances can often be deceptive. By Leena Raj
I
t was my first day in office and I entered it with jumped out of my chair.
some trepidation. Back at college, I was He must have been around 35 having a medium
boisterous and this apprehension was quite height, medium complexion, a growing belly and a
alien to me. But this wasn’t college and neither receding hairline. What was more striking about
was I amongst my notorious gang. I glanced him was his dress. A dark green pants with a
around nervously. It was like any other designed rani pink shirt. (Goodness knows from
corporate office. Sophisticated, spick and span where he got the fabric!) My nose automatically
with plush interiors, wooden cabins, glass partitions wrinkled up in distaste.
and immaculately dressed young men at their desks. What a weird dress!
I looked around for ladies.There were quite a few of “Dying to know more about me? Well, let me
them dressed in elegant pant suits. have the pleasure of introducing myself. I
I looked at myself. Since I was not sure am Samuel, Sam in short – and sweet to all
about the dress code I had to debate about I headed for the my close ones, especially to you,” he
what I should wear. I didn’t want to be receptionist looked into my eyes and grinned at me. I
either too modern or too traditional. So I who directed could not utter a word, unable to come out
finally decided for a pair of jeans with a me to the of my shock.
decent, well-fitting long top. Luckily, I CEO. “Well, we have countless days ahead
wasn’t looking out of place. Must get a Contrary to and lots of fun to look forward to. Till then,
couple of pant suits, I resolved. my bye, dear.”
I headed for the receptionist who expectations, He left me gaping after him. I watched
directed me to the CEO. Contrary to my the CEO was him going around, exchanging a word or
expectations, the CEO was a smart and a smart and two with everyone, shaking hands with
suave young man with a no-nonsense suave young some and patting the shoulders of others.
attitude. With a brief “hi” and a warm man with a He scampered around for a while and
smile, he quickly glanced over my no-nonsense disappeared into the CEO’s cabin.
appointment letter and entrusted me to his attitude. I expected him to come out with a sullen
personal assistant. face as he was a good half an hour late
The PA escorted me to my cabin and introduced and I have heard that in a corporate office, every
me to those around. Everyone seemed to be minute counts. He came out after a while but as
amicable. The PA briefed me on my job assignment cheerful as before and disappeared again.
and asked me to get acquainted with the files and What a strange man! I could not help but say this
reports. My fears being assuaged, I settled down to myself. Amongst these sophisticated and amiable
comfortably in my chair. people, he seemed to be a misfit.
I switched on the system and began to go through It was lunchtime and I joined the others for lunch.
the files when I was scared out of my wits. There was only one common room for men and
“Hi gorgeous! I am delighted at this new addition women. I look out my lunch box doubtfully. I had to
to the existing bevy of beauties.” carry it to satisfy my mother. But I was relieved to
The voice sounded so near in my ear that I almost see that the others carried their lunch too. I opened
grabbed the tiffin box from my hand. mood to accept anything from him.
“I’m sure you have made a study of my likes and It was my birthday that day. It had
dislikes before you joined this office. Otherwise, always been my habit to treat my friends to
how would you know that I love parathas? Anyway, chocolates and home-made cake for which
thanks,” he began munching my parathas while I they all craved. So mom packed a large
fumed inside. box full of cake slices which I offered to my
colleagues. They showered me with wishes
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hat a mannerless fellow! How shameless to and relished the delicious chocolate cake.
eat my food without my offering it! And his “Hey, what’s going on here?”
audacity to say that I made a study of his Goodness! It was the pest, the last person
likes and dislikes! Why should I? To trap him? What on earth whom I would wish to see, at least
does he think of himself? Prince Charming? Forget today. I had no option but to offer him a
about falling for him, he doesn’t even deserve a slice.
second look! While I boiled inside, he gobbled up “Happy birthday, dear,” he popped the slice into
my parathas and disappeared within no time. his mouth. “Reminds me of my schooldays,” he
I thought the others would sympathise with me but chuckled.
nobody seemed to have noticed anything amiss. “Why?” I frowned.
They all offered me their boxes oblivious of my “Birthday party, celebration, cake, chocolates are
anger. After some time, the attendant came with a all a part of schooldays, you know!” he said.
plate of sandwiches and coffee and placed them “Why?” Don’t you celebrate your birthday?” I
before me. Seeing the questioning look on my face countered.
he informed, “Sir has sent this for you.” “If at all I have one. My illiterate parents were too
“Which sir?” ignorant to note down my date of birth. And the one
“Oh, it must be Sam, in return for your parathas,” recorded in my certificates is not the real one. So
said Divya. why bother? Saves money, doesn’t it?”
“But, surely, you must be celebrating your
children’s birthdays,” I stressed the word ‘children’. I
wanted him to know that his age was conspicuous.
“Oh yes, I surely do with pomp and gaiety,” he
stretched his arms wide.
Disgusting! It was not only impossible to talk to
him but also useless. And he spoilt my day. He was
getting on my nerves far too much. How I wished he
would vanish into thin air!
I
t looked like a bad day for me. I prepared a
project with great care but the corrections
suggested by the project manager meant redoing
the whole thing. The deadline being the next day, I
had no option but to stay back and redo it. I
prepared myself mentally. While all the others left by
their usual time, I sat down with my work.
“No intention of going home? Had a fight with
mom? Planning to run away from home?”
Oh, no! Not the odd man again to add to my
woes! “I have to complete my project,” I said
without taking my eyes off the computer.
“Need any help?”
“No, thanks,” I said curtly.
“Okay, as you wish,” saying so he
walked away. The thick-skinned man! No
shame to talk to me time and again being
fully aware that I hated him like hell. Anyway, I
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leep eluded me that night. What could be the we need to help Ramnath in his crisis.
intention of the peculiar man? Why did he hang “Why not? Sure, what do you think we should
around after everybody left? That too knowing do?”
that I was the only one around. Why did he offer me “Sir, we can all make some contribution which
a lift? To create an impression or with an evil will help him meet the hospital expenses.”
intention? If I had not insisted on getting down at the “Good idea! So you take the initiative and do the
auto stand where could he have taken me? needful.”
Our office was in the suburbs and there is no
I
dearth of lonely roads and dark places. I only went around asking for contributions. I was glad
thought of him as a foolish man but – who knows – that everyone contributed generously and
he might be a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I had to be willingly. Now there’s only one person left, the
careful with him. I decided to voice my doubts to odd man. Should I ask him or not? This is no time for
Divya. personal grudges, I reprimanded myself. I must do
“Yesterday, I was late in completing my project my part.
and as I came outside, I saw Mr Samuel waiting.” I approached him half-heartedly.
“Was he? Trust him for that. Whenever one of us “Mr Samuel, there is a tragedy in Ramnath’s
gets late, he always stays back to escort us home. house and we have decided to help him financially.
He feels that it is not safe for women to go alone at So, if you could kindly donate some money it would
night. So sweet of him.” be of great help to him.”
He was busily arranging the files in his cabin. I
was not sure if he had followed what I said. “Mr
Samuel, what about your contribution?”
“Later,” he said, without as much glancing at me.
He took his bike keys and rushed outside.
‘What a heartless man!’ No time to spare for a
noble cause, for a moment! He rushed out as if the
world had caught fire. At other times he would
be grinning and talking nonsense, but now,
when it came to money, he became silent.
What a hypocrite!’ I felt hurt. I should not
have asked him, after all. Anyway, I
collected a good amount and I proceeded to
reach it to Ramnath. Ramnath did not come
to office the next 2 days. He came on the
third day. There was relief on his face. We
surrounded him asking about his daughter.
“She is fine and recovering fast. She lost a
lot of blood and needed blood transfusion.
Fortunately, Samuel sir was there in time. He
donated his blood. He visited us with his He is always dependable and trustworthy.”
family and they brought us dinner one day. He was I was dumbfounded. I mused over the
He even offered to arrange money towards busily past events. I tried to remember and
the hospital bill but there was no need for arranging the recollect if he had ever tried to flirt with me.
that. You all have been so kind and files in his No, never. Then why did I detest him so
generous that I was able to clear the bill cabin. I was much? Maybe because of his appearance
without any difficulty,” he folded his hands not sure if he and his unusual behaviour and his ugly
with tears in his eyes. dress sense. But not all people have a
I was bewildered. ”Unbelievable!” the
had followed good sense of dress. And how did I forget
word came out of my mouth instantly. what I said. that appearances are deceptive? No doubt
“What?” it was Divya beside me. “Mr Samuel, his manners were queer but what’s the
“That the peculiar man has a humane what harm in that as long as there was no
side in him.” about your malice in him? And, while I gloated over
“The peculiar man? You mean. Sam? He contribution?” my little act of charity, he concealed his
has always been like that. One can rely on magnanimity.
him for any help.” “Dreaming about me, as usual?” It was
“But, the way he talks and acts...” I could no he.
longer control my apprehensions. “Yes,” I looked him in the face.
“Oh! By nature he is an outgoing, humorous “And what am I in your dreams?”
person. He believes in making people happy and “A warm friend, an affectionate brother and a
tension-free. He wants to enliven those around him. compassionate human being.”
So it is just harmless talk that he indulges in. Why, “Enough, I’m flattered, I’m elated. If you don’t put
he calls us dear and darling but he never an end to your eloquent speech, I may burst like a
misbehaves with us! So don’t take him seriously. You balloon!”
know, he has one son and he adopted a girl from For the first time, I joined in his laughter
an orphanage. And every year he celebrates his wholeheartedly. After all, the peculiar man had
kids’ birthdays with the children at the orphanage. helped me in understanding him. We
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days. I am worried about this delay that provoke your anger and it would I have a six-month-old boy who was
since her elder brother, who is now be best for all if they were avoided. If born prematurely at 30.5 weeks. He
three years old, erupted his first tooth they forget to abide by the rules set, has a slight squint in the left eye. Is it
at six months of age. Please tell me if you can give sharp commands that because of prematurity? Can it be
I need to consult a doctor. What is the they should obey. If this does not rectified?
right age for the first tooth to erupt? work, you will have to tell them to The squint may or may not be due
The first tooth usually erupts forgo something they enjoy, for to prematurity. There is nothing that
around the 6th month but there is a example a cartoon programme, if they can be done about it at the moment
wide variation. If all her other disobey you. On the other hand, though it is good to remain in touch
milestones are normal, sooner or reward them with praise, hugs and with an ophthalmologist. The squint
later her teeth will erupt especially kisses, if they have been good. Do may disappear on its own as the child
now that her gums have become not fall into the trap of rewarding them grows older. If this does not occur,
hard. Drooling could also signify the with materialistic gains (like the ophthalmologist will prescribe
onset of teething. chocolates) for good behaviour, for it some eye exercises to overcome the
A
On the other hand if her other will send the wrong signals. muscle weakness for that is the
milestones like neck holding, sitting commonest cause of a squint. These
up etc. too are delayed she needs to exercises have to be done diligently
be checked up thoroughly. Take her My six-year-old to preserve binocular vision. If
to a paediatrician to confirm or rule daughter has fine exercises fail, surgery might be of
out any problematic conditions. laugh lines. Vitamin help.
E oil was suggested. Children with a squint should be
How do I use it? Do operated upon early for delay in
I have two children, a six-year-old girl I apply it on the treatment could result in lifelong
and a four-year-old boy. I love them laugh lines only or monocular vision instead of the
both a lot but they are so naughty that on the whole face? normal binocular vision. This is
I am not able to control my anger. I The laugh lines your little because the brain will register only
beat them and then feel bad daughter has got are not the laugh the images sent by the straight eye
afterwards. Please give me tips on lines people get as a result of the and ignore those sent by the
anger management and also tell me ageing process. You do not have defective eye. If untreated, the eye
how to discipline them without having to worry about them or think of with the squint is eventually left with
to resort to violence. erasing them. First of all they will no useful vision.
Whatever the provocation one not go, secondly they need no Any correction done later than
should not beat one’s children. Either treatment. Vitamin E oil is per se eight years of age will only be for
they become rebellious and good for the skin. A few drops can cosmetic purposes. Your
aggressive or become suppressed be applied on the whole face as ophthalmologist is your best guide.
and develop a negative personality. routine daily skin care. – Dr Amrinder Bajaj, MD.
RICE AND
A VEG-NON-VEG MIX MUTTON mutton with this paste adding salt
to taste. Keep the meat aside for
FRANKFURTER PULAO 2 hours. Heat a thick-bottomed
pan and add the oil and allow the
SALAD INGREDIENTS:
700 gm of mutton
whole spices to splutter. Lower
the heat and add the marinated
INGREDIENTS:
1 cup of dahi mutton with the marinade and
1 cup of cooked, long-grained
3 tsp of ginger-garlic paste cook this on medium heat for 8-10
rice
2 tbsp of onion paste minutes, stirring all the time. Cook
3-4 frankfurters
2 tbsp of tomato paste till most of the juices in the mutton
2 tsp of olive oil
3 tbsp of oil have been soaked into the mutton
For the salad dressing: 1 inch piece of cinnamon pieces. Now add the rice and stir-
3 tsp of olive oil 3 cloves fry for 3-4 minutes. Add just
1 tsp of coarsely crushed red 2 cardamoms enough water for the rice to cook.
chillies 2 dried red chillies If there are any juices left from the
1/ tsp of oregano powder
2 2 cups of rice marinade, then you will need to
1 tsp of vinegar salt to taste add water accordingly. Cover with
2 tsp of sugar syrup a lid and cook on low fire till the
METHOD
1 tsp of spicy tomato sauce rice is tender and all the water is
Prepare a marinade by mixing
METHOD the dahi, ginger, garlic, onion, evaporated. Serve with raita.
Mix all the ingredients for the tomato pastes. Marinate the
salad dressing and prepare a
tangy dressing. RICE MOULDS
Heat the olive oil and fry the
INGREDIENTS:
frankfurters on medium heat
2 cups of rice
turning once or twice so that all
salt to taste
the sides are cooked. Allow to
1 tsp of oil
cool slightly and then cut into
half-inch pieces. For the first layer:
In a salad bowl mix the rice, 1/ cup of spinach puree
2
frankfurters and pour the salt to taste
dressing over it and toss gently. 1/ tsp of roasted jeera
2
Serve chilled as a salad. Mutton pulao powder
INGREDIENTS:
1 cup of cooked rice (you could
also use leftover cooked rice)
2 tsp of grated cheese
3 tsp of rice flour
1 tsp of corn flour
salt to taste
1/ cup of coconut milk
2
3 tsp of chopped coriander
leaves
Rice moulds chopped green chillies
oil for deep frying
For the second layer:
METHOD
1/
2 cup of tomato sauce Place all the ingredients in a EATING RICE
METHOD
Soak the rice in water for 2
mixing bowl and mix with your
fingers mashing some of the rice.
THE HEALTHY
hours. Drain out the water and
keep aside. Boil 4 and a quarter
Prepare a batter which is dry and WAY
the coconut milk is absorbed in it.
cups of water and add salt to INGREDIENTS:
You may need to add a few tsp
taste. Lower the heat and mix in 1 cup of rice
of water to ensure that the dough
the soaked rice. Mix gently and 1 cup of leafy vegetables – any
is of a binding consistency.
also add the oil at this stage. saag – spinach, sour spinach or
Heat oil for deep frying and
Cover with a lid and allow the rice even red saag
drop small portions of the batter in
to cook on low fire till all the water or any other saag available
hot oil and fry small crispy 1/ cup of chopped and peeled
is evaporated. The rice should pakoras. 2
remain slightly sticky. pumpkin
Remove from fire and salt to taste
Rice pakoras 1 tbsp of chana dal
divide the rice into two
portions. In one portion soaked in water for 15
mix in the spinach, salt minutes
and jeera powder and 1 tbsp of oil
mix gently and keep 1 red chilli
aside. In the second METHOD
portion mix in the Wash the saag well.
tomato sauce. Clean the rice and soak the
To assemble: take a rice in water and leave
mould and cover half aside for 1 hour. Heat the
the mould with the oil in a pan and add the red
spinach rice and top it chillies and allow to
with another layer of splutter. Add the soaked
tomato rice. Press the rice and dal and stir-fry for
mould tightly and then 3 minutes. Lower the heat
remove the mould and add the leaves and the
gently so that you have pumpkin and stir for
a double-layered mould. another 1-2 minutes. Add 2
Prepare all the moulds cups of water and add salt
in this way. These can to taste. Cover with a lid
be used to serve as and cook on low fire till all
starters or a side dish to the water has evaporated.
a main meal. Serve hot with aachar. We
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It is pickling time.
Put creativity
into your pickles Mango pickle
METHOD GREEN
Use thin long green
chillies. Wash these well CHILLIES
and make a slit half ways
in each of the green
WITH
chillies. Sprinkle salt and MUSTARD
keep aside for 2-3 hours.
Heat all the mustard oil till AND MINT
smoky. Keep half aside. INGREDIENTS:
The other half, pour into a 250 gm of thin green chillies
Chillies with jaggery
3 tsp of dry mustard powder
3 tsp of dry mint powder
4 tsp of lemon juice
3 cups of mustard oil
11/2 tsp of salt
METHOD
Divide the chillies into two
portion. One portion leave the
chillies whole and only make a slit
in each of the chillies and leave
aside. The other half of the chillies
crush coarsely and keep aside.
Heat 3 tbsp of the mustard oil and
fry both the crushed and the
whole chillies for 2 minutes. Put
off the heat and mix in the
Amra pickle
Cool
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femininity
Irresistible charm:
The dress adds up
to her glamour and
she looks strikingly
beautiful.
A romantic pose:
Her arresting
glance can make
many men swoon
around her.
Anyone there:
She is focusing on
someone special.
Ready for rhythmic step:
Undoubtedly, she is more
than alluring.
Eloquent eyes:
When romance
overflows words
become
superfluous.
A naughty intention:
Is she contemplating
some mischief?
Eastern beauty:
She looks culturally
advanced without
lacking sex appeal.
Sexciting:
There cannot be two
opinions about her
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Sex bomb:
She is out to
kindle
passionate
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Designed by:
Rohit Verma & Sanjeet Anand
Model: Mansi Tambade
Make-up: Meenakshi Namade
Photography: Hemant Kedar
or ages, references to the
F
Ajanta-Ellora caves have
been hyphenated. In fact, the
hyphen between these two
World Heritage sites covers
76 km. They have much in
common – and much more
that is different. The biggest
similarity is that both sets
have been hand-hewn out of
the volcanic basaltic formations of the
Sahyadri ranges of the Deccan trap –
a Scandinavian-derived term
referring to the step-like formation of
the volcanic deposits – and dated to
the Cretaceous era of the geological
time scale of some 65 million years
ago. One can actually glimpse the
channels near cave 32 through which
the volcanic lava once flowed. Due
to overheating, these channels have
a characteristic brownish-red colour.
ETERNAL ELLORA
Monumental marvels carved into the Deccan.
By Rajib Sen
The basaltic formation of the 5th and 10th centuries when the there. Thus, while the Ajanta works
Deccan is ideal for rock-hewing, the Chalukyas (553-753 AD) ruled the were purely inspired by Buddhism, at
technique widely understood during Deccan. Ellora there are not only 12 Buddhist
ancient times. Depending upon the Besides, the ones at Ajanta were caves (1-12), but also 17 of Hindu
nature and mineralogical content of “lost” after the 7th century (till their (caves 13-29) and five (30-34) of Jain
the lava flow, the rock formations discovery in 1819), unlike those at origin, built next to each other along a
also varied in character and texture, Ellora. That’s because, centuries roughly straight, two-km stretch of flat
giving rise to various qualities like ago, the site was situated on the land (unlike the hilly ravines of
coarse-grained and fine-grained ancient north-south trade route or the Ajanta), demonstrating the high level
formations. The ancient builders at dakshinapatha where the tiny of religious harmony prevalent at the
Ellora particularly chose the fine- mountain village of Verul was a well- time.
grained formations of the Deccan known stopover for traders, priests Again, unlike the 105+km ride to
trap since it was ideal for their and pilgrims who have plied the route Ajanta from Aurangabad, Ellora is
purpose. What’s more, they also to the western ports till today. Little just 28 km north of this district
traced the horizontal and vertical wonder then that, even now, the headquarters in the Marathwada
joints in the rock formation to caves are locally known as Verul Leni region of Maharashtra.
minimise their labour and time during – which was inevitably Anglicised to
excavation and rock splitting. Ellora. The Buddhist caves: Created
No less a similarity between the However, in addition to the between the fifth and seventh
work at Ajanta and Ellora is the fact sculpture-friendliness if the basaltic centuries, these mostly consist of
that the workers had nothing more character of the hillside, the ancient monasteries, some quite large, multi-
than rudimentary hammers and wayfarers’ familiarity with the region storeyed buildings carved into the
chisels to work with, and that they of Verul influenced their decision to mountain face, including separate
delved into virgin hillsides from the make their presence there more living and sleeping quarters, kitchens
top down and from the outside, in. lasting. That started with the and other rooms.
But there, the similarities end. excavation of Buddhist chaityas or Some of these monastery caves
The biggest difference is that halls of worship, and viharas or have shrines including carvings of the
there are almost no paintings in the monasteries. Soon, the area also Buddha, Bodhisatvas and saints. In
Ellora caves. The second is the time- found favour with missionaries of many of these caves, the skilled
differential. While the 30-odd Ajanta other faiths, and over the next five sculptors had even tried to give the
caves date back to 2 BC, the 34 centuries, Hindus and Jains also stone the look of wood as seen in
Ellora caves were built between the carved out their temples in the rocks cave 10.
D
should be aware of the cause this damp such as plastic,
formation of mould in one’s malady on walls and glass, metal and
home. Mould is the surface carpeted area in the counter tops by
growth of fungus on damp house. It must be scrubbing with a
matter. The knowledge and remembered that detergent. Some -
determination for its removal mould conditions times, it may not be
will benefit your and your mostly occur under possible to completely
family’s health, besides cabinets and inside remove mould from
giving an earthy and humid walls. Also, there is a porous surfaces such as
smell. Exposure to mould can cause likelihood that mould might paper and carpet padding,
cold-like symptoms, respiratory be growing unnoticed behind in which case such items should
problems at times leading to asthma, pieces of furniture, especially placed be discarded.
nasal and sinus congestion, watery next to an outside wall. After removal of the mould, the
eyes, sore throats, coughing and skin area should be disinfected using a
irritations. Hence, it is not safe from
the health point of view to live in
PREVENT MOULD bleach and water solution or another
disinfectant. We must provide ade-
houses with high mould levels. We GROWTH quate ventilation during disinfecting.
must therefore take urgent steps to Since mould grows on moist Use fans and dehumidifiers or natural
eradicate mouldy conditions from our materials, its growth is likely in areas ventilation that exchange inside air
household premises. made soggy by water leaks, flooding, with outside air. It may not be
The appearance of excessive humidity levels above about 70 per possible to eliminate all moulds and
moisture can give way to mould cent and condensation. Any water- mould spores in the indoor
growth in our household premises logged area that was not completely environment. However, mould growth
especially during the rainy spell. drained out and dried quickly is likely can be kept under check by
Moisture seeping through walls and to have mould. controlling moisture indoors. We
T
your body and in that words, there will be only an healthy a man might be he or she
rhythmic movement and ascending order and no descending can’t venture to climb even up to the
acceleration, the soul follows order whatsoever. Yet we see that a 10th floor by the staircase. There
simultaneously. Don’t you lift moves both upwards and have been many cases of people
feel that ‘lift’ be renamed as downward. In my humble opinion I collapsing on the stairs when
‘shift’ in consonance with its feel that ‘lift’ should be renamed as reaching the 7th or 8th floor unaware
exact function? When the ‘shift’ which involves movements both of the real strength of their hearts.
architects designed up and down, which appears to be The author of this article faced such a
multistory buildings for the more appropriate. terrible situation while climbing the
first time, they must have had in their Since its original design it has building of The Hindustan Times and
mind the limited scope of human seen various technological develop- was about to collapse when nearing
energy levels to reach higher floors of ments in its manufacturing and the 8th floor. Many times such
the buildings which, of course, were alterations in design and perfor - situations result in fatality.
provided with suitable staircases. So mance. In modern times high-rise The British provided lifts
the idea of having a lift in the house buildings – mostly commercial extensively in almost all their
came into being as an alternative to complexes and government offices – imposing buildings. In fact, the
the staircase for convenience and have more than 20 floors. In such concept of lift was invented during
comfort. buildings separate lifts are provided the industrial revolution and readily
But the nomenclature ‘lift’ given to floorwise – i.e., one lift up to the 3rd accepted universally by architects
such a new technological device or 4th floor, a second lift up to the and building contractors and became
does not seem to be appropriate. 10th floor, a third lift up to the 20th the hallmark of the British era.
Why the name ‘lift’? Lift literally floor and so on. In such buildings Prior to it – i.e. in the Hindu and
means to carry people or goods ‘dependence on a lift is a fait Muslim rule – no lift or any similar
FILMDOM
T he great news is that the two
month long stand-off between the
owners of multiplexes and the United
Emraan Hashmi loves different roles.
projects are in various stages of
script writing.
issue for the film’s child stars. He ome people have all the luck in
also attended a party at a 5-star
hotel. A couple of children may get a
S the world. Like film-maker
Aashwin Kumar, for instance his
roof over their head. debut feature film The Forest was
premiered at Cannes. How many
urning up of quite a few playback
T singers to greet Lata Didi when
film-makers can claim such a
distinction?
Aamir Khan.
Celina Jaitly in
‘Paying Guests’.
Sharmila
Tagore
looking cute
at 62.
Y
months of pregnancy and enduring than any when I was five months pregnant,
the trauma of childbirth for she didn’t believe me because my
the first time. How did you other in their lives! stomach was absolutely flat!”
feel during it all? It is Kavya had gone to stay at her
common for women to feel An eye-opener for mother’s place – which was in the
excited, curious, apprehen- same metropolis as her sasural –
sive, worried and even all women. when she was about eight months
afraid during pregnancy. pregnant, she continued to work till
They remain involved with By Kasturi Rangachari two days before giving birth. “I’d have
themselves and what is happening in gone to work the next day too, but I
their bodies. They are looked after be unbearable? Childbirth is began spotting and the doctor told
lovingly by their husbands, parents, supposed to be a rebirth – will they me to stay in bed,” she says a trifle
in-laws and even neighbours and survive it? boastfully!
friends. Labour starts, reaches a This young 25-year-old was in
As their delivery dates near, their crescendo and the baby is born. It’s a labour for only an hour and then her
excitement and apprehension grow. boy! It’s a girl! Everyone waiting son popped out, weighing a healthy
What will happen? Will they give birth anxiously, explodes with joy! You 31/2 kilos! “The pain stopped so
to a son or a daughter? Will the pain have become a mother! miraculously!” she remembers with a
* * * * * *
JOKES A young man selected an engagement
ring. When he was told the price he gave
Director: “Why did you engage that
man as cashier? He squints, has a
Principal to a three-year-old boy who a long, low whistle. “And how much is crooked nose and outstanding ears.”
was seeking admission in a convent: that?” he asked pointing to a second. Manager: “Of course, he will be so
Well done, my child. Now what are the “That one sir is two whistles.” easy to identify if he ever absconds.”
names of your parents?
Boy: Mummy and daddy. * * * * * *
Nirmala: How is it your hair is The nice old lady smiled at the little
* * * black while your sister’s is brown? girl who had been left in-charge of the
Customer: I can’t eat such a rotton Divya: Well, my sister was born confectioner’s shop.
fish. Call your manager. after my mother dyed her hair brown. “Don’t you sometimes feel tempted
Waiter: It’s no use, sir, he won’t eat to eat one of the nice cream chocolates,
it either. * * * my dear?”
Customer (In bookshop): Pardon The little girl was quite shocked.
* * * me, miss. I’m looking for a book “Of course not, that would be
Teacher: Now, Gopi, tell me frankly, named Man, the master of woman. stealing. I only lick them.”
do you say prayers before eating? Shop owner: Sir, the fiction depart-
Gopi: No, sir. I don’t have to. My ment is on the other side of the shop. * * *
mother is a good cook. Lawyer: “Well, if you want my
* * * honest opinion...”
* * * A woman rang up her insurance Client: “No, no. I want your
Politician: “Did your paper say I company and said she wanted to professional advice.”
was a liar and a scoundrel?” change the terms of her policy. “I’ve
Editor: “It did not.” just had twins,” she told the manager. * * *
Politician: “Well, some paper in The manager had difficulty in A film actress was applying for a
this town said so.” hearing her and asked, “Will you passport.
Editor: “It may have been another repeat that please?” “Unmarried?” asked the clerk.
newspaper down the street. We never “Not if I can help it,” the woman “Occasionally,” replied the actress.
print stale news.” shot back. — Ram Babu, Vijayawada.
J
magnitude that has perhaps
few parallels. It seems that
time-honoured for every part of the human
body a special ornament has
glory of lac to be provided. Primary
articles like black beads,
ornaments is items from shell, lac, conch
shells, iron or copper
making waves in bangles, floral jewellery which
are essential and considered a
today’s world. symbol of good omen, appear as
vestiges from a distant past .
By Kusum Mehta Outside of metals, lac is most
profusely and widely used for turning
out attractive ornaments which are
coveted also for their alleged power
She uses
EXCELLENCE
s a collegian, artist
A
technical expertise Sharmishtha Dutta
preferred to graduate in
to satisfy her applied arts from the
College of Art, Delhi. A 10-
creativity. year stint as a professional
By Subhra in an advertising agency
established Sharmishtha
as a promising executive
destined to reach
appreciable heights in her chosen
career graph. But all this while, a
niggling urge to paint egged her on to
take up the brush and put a few
strokes on the canvas. And when she
did so – voila! – the transformation
was dramatic.
Before long, Sharmishtha had
embarked on a parallel career as a
committed artist, using her technical
expertise to good use in satisfying
her creativity, as a fine-arts
practitioner. Today, Sharmishtha has
made waves in the art world and her
works have been used to illustrate learnt the technique of application of
coffee table books. She is currently colours and the other details of art
about to hold her first solo showing at creation already. Fine art was, in
one of Delhi’s prestigious galleries. addition, giving me a chance to
What were the factors that you express my creative side. It was this
considered when you decided to emotional connect that weighed
make the switch from applied art heavily on the side of fine art, and
to fine art? that is why I took the plunge.
First, of course, was the factor of
my individual preference for fine art What did you miss when you
and painting. Then I realised that the decided to take up painting as a
subject for both of them, that is serious option?
painting, was not so different. I had Though I was happy to be able to
Q
lubrication may be responsible.
Emotional stress and use of drugs
like antihistamines are also known to I am a 20-year-old student. First I
reduce the lubrication. You will have used to have rashes on my private
Q&
to consult your doctor who after parts but they disappeared after
examining you will be able to locate some time. Now, I have developed
the real cause and treat you. four-five boils at that area and these
Q
are persisting. I have a boyfriend and
I do have sex with him. Please help.
I am 30 years old and have repeated It appears you have got yourself
miscarriages. I am very much in trouble. It is quite likely that you
worried. Please advise. have developed some form of
I am 30 years old, and married for There are a number of causes sexually transmitted disease. I
the last five years. I have got my why a woman suffers from repeated suggest you consult your doctor who
periods regularly and though I am not miscarriages. These range from after examining you can treat you.
Q
using contraceptive methods, I have anatomical abnormalities of the
failed to conceive. Please help. genitalia, chronic systemic diseases
Having regular periods is no (diabetes, severe anemia, renal I am a 30-year-old housewife. When I
guarantee that you are fertile. Many disease) to STD, etc. In some women get up in the morning my eyes are
such women are infertile. There may emotional stress may be responsible. puffy and there are dark patches
be blockage of the fallopian tubes or You should consult your doctor who underneath. Please help.
their movements are restricted with can rule out any operative cause. If Puffiness of the eyes could be
the result that ovulation does not take no specific cause is found, do not either due to nutritional deficiency or
place. There are also other causes lose heart and go on trying for a renal pathology. Lack of sleep also
like endometerosis and chronic pelvic successful pregnancy. It is quite likely produces this. Poor blood circulation
infections. You should consult your that you will succeed. and anaemia further worsen it. You
A
doctor who after examining and should be investigated on these lines.
Q
investigating you will be able to
locate the cause and do the needful. I am the 40-year-old mother of two
daughters. Of late, I have noticed a I am 30 years old, unmarried and
sense of anxiety and restlessness. My working in a multinational. My
I am 28-year-old single woman. I menstrual blood flow is also scanty problem is that my breasts become
have developed vesicular eruption on and I am getting severe itching on my very painful a week or so before the
my private parts. Some time ago private parts. Please help. onset of my periods. This is very
while partying I had sex with a What you have is the approaching distressing. Please help.
gentleman. Please help. menopause. The scanty blood flow is Your problem is met commonly in
What you have got is probably a prelude to the complete stoppage some women, especially unmarried
genital herpes which develops after of menses. Itching on your private women or sterile women. It has
contact with an infected person. Your parts is the vasomotor manifestation nothing to do with inflammation of the
doctor will be able to take a swab of this period and so are emotional breasts but is due to hormonal
from the blister and confirm the disturbances like anxiety and restless- imbalance (excess of oestrogen).
diagnosis. You have committed the ness. Some women get ‘hot flushes’ Your discomfort will depend on your
mistake of having unprotected sex which are quite distressing at times. threshold of pain. Rest assured this is
and that too with a stranger. There is Do not worry. This is a passing phase a normal aberration and drugs do not
always an increased risk of HIV of life. Your doctor can prescribe the help. With passage of time you will
infection, the virus entering the blood required medicines to tide over the get adjusted to it.
stream via these sores. difficult period. — Dr S. N. Khosla, MD.
About the artist
Dharmendra Kumar
Born: 10.2.1984
Education: Bachelor of fine art THIS IS THE WAY
IT WAS LIKE!
(College of Art, Patna)
Participations:
Sanskar Bharti (2000)
Bihar Voluntary coordinating
agency (2003)
Prativest East and West
A painter who treats objects in such
Paryavaranshiksha Kendra 2000 a way as if they have human qualities.
Bihar state pollution control board
Patna 2004
By Sonam Agrawal
College of art Patna 2002-2007
his is the way it was Dharmendra, presently, has
“T
PSK Laxmi Nagar New Delhi 2008
like” seems to shifted his mind to another interesting
Work shops
Dharmendra Kumar to development – science, scientists
Hyderabad Varition (Painting work
be the highest kind of and a different scientific theory. He
shop) 2006
praise for painting a paints himself as an explorer
Variation Exhibition and work shop
canvas as he frames travelling from medieval innocent
2007 Patna
sombre glories of abandon to a modern quest for
Variation Exhibition and work shop
contemporary art to knowledge, control and power.
2007 (Lalit Kala Academy,
reflect the increasing In one of the paintings he
Chennai)
trend of human life – sketches Aryabhatt inhabiting the
Iocyata art gallery 2007
individuals turning into machines. world with his concept of zero while
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energy which have them own Titans in a very complimentary and
distinctive pain and passion and generous terms. He attempts to
different cycles of life. overturn all the accepted canons of
In a life, when human beings are modernism and totally immerses
turning increasingly into machines, in himself in his paintings.
Dharmendra’s canvas it is noteworthy The artist uses oil colours to
to appraise the nuts and bolts turning master his work of art and gives an
into more of individuals. He evokes ideal edge to his compositions. His
nuts and bolts in the form of a couple characters are nor portrayed with an
who is fantasising squeezing, their aim to armour fashion; on contrary,
love juices to perpetuate their they assert an aesthetic judgment.
existence into infinity. His observations are grounded in
themselves well and creditably too. has this time taken up a light-hearted
Bharathwaj’s music is a plus point. venture for her second film that
The script written and directed by boasts of a fun-filled title Kola Kolaya
Vaseegaran has a lot of twist and Mundirika. Mohan has assumed the
turns and is certain to sustain the responsibility for the script and
interest of the viewers. It is one more screenplay and it is needless to
feather in Prasanna’s cap who mention that it would be a runaway
despite being in the early stages of comedy. The film is being produced
his career, never ceases to by Thirisakthi Sundarraman and
experiment with characters. Nalini Sundarraman. The film has
Karthik Kumar and Shika in the lead
AKINA Productions Raghavan is a roles with an able supporting cast
riveting thriller in which new comer that consists of Jayaram, Anandraj,
Vijeeth depicts the title role that too Vasu Vikram, M.S. Bhaskar, T.M.
with natural ease. Another fresher Karthik, Kota Srinivasa Rao and
Radhika Malhotra does provide the Delhi Ganesh. It is a treasure hunt
glamour quotient for the film, which kind of story and the full-length
has a lot of intimate scenes. Rightly comedy will aim at making the
so, the film has been given an ‘A’ audience laugh repeatedly in two
certificate. The central theme focuses hours!
on the excessive and high-handed
behaviour of the I.T. professional who FEATHER Touch Entertainment’s
allegedly crosses the limits of Malai Malai’ is a big budget bonanza
decency and culture when it comes which has Arun Vijay in the lead role
to having relationship . Manoj K with Vedika playing his love-interest.
Jayam as the dedicated and Prabhu and Prakashraj appear in
disciplined cop is impressive. cameos and their characters are
going to be highly talked about,
opines a unit hand. Director, A.
Venkatesh who has churned out
several hits as Mahaprabhu,
Chocklet, Bhagavathi, Dum, Kuthu,
Yeh and Vathiyar, etc. has assumed
responsibility for the story and
direction. Kasthuri, former Miss
HAVING been under production for Paranthaman who has handled the
long, Manjal Veyyil has at last hit the story, screenplay, dialogue and
screens. The film is an intriguing love direction has done a fairly neat job.
– affair narrated through three Gangai Amaran’s music is passable.
characters but is not a triangular love
story! Prasanna Bala (of Anbu and WRITER-director Madhumita, who
Kadhal Kisukisu fame) and Kadhal took off to a flying start with her
Sandhya play the lead roles. Each maiden venture Vallamai Thaarayo,
Madras is also playing a vital role in
the film. The film is certain to
resurrect Arun Vijay’s fortunes in the
film industry.
ACIDITY
By Dietician and Sports Nutritionist
Deepshikha Agarwal
ave you experienced a sour enzymes like pepsin that break the ● Skipping meals/fasting.
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and sometimes bitter taste food particles down for easy Other causes of acidity or
in your mouth, or a burning digestion. A normal level of acid is heartburn are pregnancy, ageing,
sensation in the throat, required in the stomach for proper anxiety and insomnia, obesity,
chest or stomach? Well, digestion of the complex foods. When posture, erratic meal timings and bad
what you're suffering from is there is excess secretion of this eating habits.
acidity. Ignoring acidity can gastric acid, it gives rise to a Acidity is a problem that occurs
actually lead you to more condition known as acidity. It seems very commonly; so going in for
serious and complicated to be very simple but the damage it medications every time doesn't seem
problems like peptic ulcers. can cause in the body is hard to to be a very good thought. Some very
It is quite a simple problem when it imagine. simple, natural home remedies can
begins, but it can get out of hand Like its name, there are many be used to treat and prevent acidity.
easily if not taken seriously. causes of this acidity: ● Chew a few basil (tulsi) leaves
There are many names for acidity ● Stress is one of the main to get relief from burning, nausea and
like hyperacidity or acid dyspepsia or causes. gas. It is an effective home-remedy
acid reflux or gastroesopohageal ● Smoking and excess of alcohol for acidity. You can also have one tsp
reflux disease, or urdhva gata tends to weaken the nervous system, of tulsi juice every morning and
amalpitta in Ayurveda. Acidity refers as a result the mucus membrane and before going to sleep at night.
to a set of symptoms caused by an the stomach lining stops functioning ● Keep a small piece of jaggery
inequity. It is due to the excess properly. (gur) in your mouth and slowly suck
secretion of acid by the gastric ● High intakes of fatty and spicy it. Repeat it every hour till the acidity
glands of the stomach. The stomach foods, refined and fibreless foods, subsides.
secretes hydrochloric acid that is overeating and eating hurriedly are ● Drink coconut water 3-4 times
responsible for the proper functioning few causes that aggravate acidity. a day. It is a common natural remedy
of the digestive system. This acid ● Excessive intake of caffeine for acidity.
further secretes various digestive and nicotine. ● Have plenty of milk and milk
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the Luthras too were very blood cells do not form properly and
much in love and started a cannot carry sufficient oxygen. This Beta thalassemia major and
family. But they soon realised condition begins during childhood thalassemia intermedia are inherited
that their child was not and lasts throughout life. It is the in an autosomal recessive pattern,
looking as healthy as other most commonly inherited single gene which means two copies of the genes
children of his age. He did not disorder in the world. In this disease, in each cell are altered. Most often,
have much appetite and lack of blood (anaemia) and retarded parents of an individual with an
vomited often. He was not growth, decreases the survival autosomal recessive disorder are
looking like a healthy six- possibilities of the patient. The carriers of one copy of the altered
month-old. A blood test showed patient needs frequent blood genes but don’t show signs and
defective red cells. A repeat test from transfusion and costly treatment to symptoms of the disorder. For the
a premier institute confirmed that the avoid the side-effects of loaded iron couples affected with thalassemia
child had thalassemia major. It was a in the body. Thalassemia major, major is one in four. This is one of
shock at first. They started thinking which was considered a fatal the reasons for pre-marriage
of the prognosis of the disease. The disease, can now be effectively screening programmes. If both the
first transfusion for the child was a treated by regular blood transfusions partners have thalassemia minor, the
nightmare. Then the second one and and iron chelation. Many patients offspring can be born with features
the third one and it continued with this disease are now living in the of thalassemia major.
regularly. Parents became more used fourth decade of life, are married and The thalassemia trait is found in
to the trauma and they tried their best have children. people whose ancestors came from
to get the pricks for the child from the Thalassemia is the world’s most Cyprus, Greece, Italy, Turkey, the
most experienced medical personnel. common genetic disorder and it is Arabian peninsula and Asia including
Thalassemia is a haemoglobin rapidly rising. Seven per cent of the India, Pakistan, Southern China,
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screamed in her mind as railed. The smell of alcohol
Gaurav stumbled in drunk. emanating from his pores
I can’t take this anymore. nauseated her.
Suman’s heart beat faster Gaurav fell onto their bed,
as the anger inside her without even changing his
bubbled up reaching the clothes and lapsed into a deep
point of explosion. drunken sleep. Suman cried
Grabbing his white button- herself to sleep again.
down shirt, Suman ripped Often, marriage can be a
it open and began beating on his difficult road. While most of us don't
chest with both fists screaming at expect it to be perfect all the time,
him, “Who do you think you are there are times when it is downright
treating me like this! You’re not the painful. For instance, if you're dealing
man I married.” with an alcoholic spouse – it can be
They married young and had one of the hardest things you've ever
2 children. During this time Gaurav had to deal with.
started a business, worked hard and When dealing with an alcoholic,
now had an extremely successful the problem is often kept a secret.
business. But this success came at a The alcoholic tries to hide the extent
high price. Through the years Gaurav of his drinking problem, and those
had developed the habit of drinking close to him or her often assist with
too much. Now, he spent more time that process. Bringing the problem
with his friends nursing a drink than out into the open is helpful for all
being with his family. Alcohol concerned. It does not mean,
controlled him. however, that the alcoholic is going to
Gaurav, so intoxicated, couldn’t agree that there is a problem.
even react to her outrage. He One of the worst things we can do
mumbled something about being is make excuses for our spouses
sorry. because we don't want to accept the
IS YOUR HUSBAND
AN ALCOHOLIC
IT IS ALSO USEFUL FOR
FAMILY AND FRIENDS
TO BE CLEAR ABOUT
HOW THE
ALCOHOLIC’S
BEHAVIOUR HAS
AFFECTED THEM,
BECAUSE IT CAN
GUIDE THEIR FUTURE
BEHAVIOUR. FOR
INSTANCE, IF THE WIFE
HAS BEEN CALLING
IN SICK FOR HER
HUSBAND AND SHE
FEELS GUILTY ABOUT
LYING TO HIS BOSS,
behaviour. It is important for family great things in your life and how
ACKNOWLEDGING and friends to take responsibility for much you love them. This will be the
THAT IS THE FIRST STEP their own behaviour and reactions to fuel they need to get through this and
the alcoholic’s behaviour. When they come out the other side as a clean
TOWARD CHANGING tell the alcoholic that they will no and sober person.
THAT BEHAVIOUR. longer support his or her drinking This is one of the most difficult
behaviour, the alcoholic will often parts of dealing with an alcoholic.
respond defensively. The alcoholic is almost certainly
affected others, but the alcoholic is This step can be difficult for family going to resist getting treatment.
often not in the right frame of mind and friends, as well. While it is critical While this is the point of the
to take that information in during the that they stop supporting the alcoholism intervention, unfortunately
alcoholism intervention. He or she is alcoholic’s behaviour for their own most interventions do not convince
often too busy denying that there is a mental health, they may find it hard to the alcoholics that they need
problem. It is also useful for family do so. For instance, the wife who treatment. However, some will agree
and friends to be clear about how the calls in sick for her husband may feel to get help just to satisfy their family
alcoholic’s behaviour has affected guilty if she refuses to do so. She and friends. Treatment is most
them, because it can guide their may feel she is abandoning her effective when the alcoholic goes
future behaviour. For instance, if the husband when he needs her help. because he or she wants to, not
wife has been calling in sick for her She may even feel responsible if he because he or she feels forced.
husband and she feels guilty about loses his job. However, when dealing with an
lying to his boss, acknowledging that alcoholic, sometimes you have to
is the first step toward changing that take what you can get. Once in
behaviour. SUPPORT YOUR SPOUSE treatment, the alcoholic may realise
Sometimes just having the Although sometimes this kind of he or she does indeed have a
opportunity to state how they feel situation requires a lot of tough love, problem and treatment may be
about things can be therapeutic for it's essential for you to support your successful.
family and friends. They should focus spouse at this time. Overcoming an Dealing with an alcoholic spouse
on using “I statements” and taking alcohol addiction is not easy at all. is very painful and difficult. Don't
responsibility for their own feelings Without your support, your spouse neglect yourself at this time! Find
and behaviour, though. could easily relapse, wonder why support so that you can stay strong
When dealing with an alcoholic, it they should even try or become enough to help your spouse get
is easy to get sucked into their discouraged. Remind them of the through this. We
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a great statesman, compliments." After all, WC also hurried on as if nothing had
Nobel Prize winner and stands for Winston Churchill, hence happened."
an artist. His speeches the jesting comment by him. His rivalry with Clement Atlee was
are world famous and To any sarcastic comment or also quite famous and Churchill
have played a great role question thrown at him he always never missed an opportunity to pay
in immortalising him in had an equally cutting response Atlee a back-handed compliment. He
the annals of history. As ready. One of the most famous once called Atlee "a sheep in sheep's
the late US President anecdotes where he demonstrates clothing" – and, on another occasion,
John F. Kennedy said in this quality involves George Bernard "a modest man, who has much to be
1963, while conferring upon him an Shaw. Shaw once sent Winston modest about."
honorary citizenship of the United Churchill a note inviting him to the
States, "He mobilised the English debut performance of his play Saint
language and sent it into battle." Joan: "One for yourself and one for a STRAIGHT FORWARD
One of the greatest qualities friend – if you have one." He Churchill was equally straight-
Churchill had in abundance was the enclosed two tickets: Unable to forward with members of the opposite
ability to laugh at himself. One day, attend, Churchill replied to express sex and loved to get the last word in
during World War II, he visited a his regrets and to ask whether he any argument. One day, Nancy Astor
naval base to observe the Asdik anti- might have tickets for the second was discussing women's rights with
submarine defence system in action. night – "if there is one." Winston Churchill, a man not noted
As Churchill watched, the system Churchill also knew how to deliver for his fondness for the subject. At
located a wreckage site and after a sarcastic comments with a straight the height of their disagreement,
huge underwater explosion, several face as if it was the most serious Lady Astor finally exclaimed,
pieces of wreckage were fished out. thing in the world to say. His rivalry "Winston, if I were married to you, I
Among them was a door emblazoned with fellow British Prime Minister would put poison in your coffee!"
with the letters “W C” (abbreviation Stanley Baldwin is well known. On "And if you were my wife," he dryly
for water closet which is how the one occasion Churchill said about replied, "I'd drink it."
English term their lavatory). "The Baldwin with perfect seriousness, “He On another occasion, Winston
navy always knew," Churchill later occasionally stumbled over the truth Churchill exchanged heated remarks
with a female MP at a dinner party deserted him even in moments of Advancing age could not wither
one evening. "Mr Churchill," the lady sadness or dejection. his repartee. Once, a photographer
finally snapped, "you are drunk." His capacity to see humour even present at Churchill's 80th birthday
"And you, madam, are ugly," in the gravest situation earned him expressed the hope that he might
Churchill responded. "But I shall be many fans. Once he was defeated in also photograph the great man on his
sober tomorrow." his bid for re-election as prime 100th birthday 20 years later. "I don't
He was also gracious in his minister. His wife tried to console him see why not, young man," Churchill
compliments to the fair sex. On a visit by saying that the defeat was really a replied. "You look reasonably fit to
to the USA one year, Winston blessing in disguise. "If so," Churchill me."
Churchill attended a buffet luncheon replied, "it (the blessing) is very Even when he was unwell
at which cold fried chicken was effectively disguised." Winston Churchill’s sense of humour
among the dishes served. Churchill, was at its peak. As he approached
delighted, returned for a second his 90th birthday, he was asked the
helping. secret of longevity. "Sport," he
"May I have some breast?" he replied. As people thought he meant
asked politely. "Mr Churchill," his that he had spent his entire life
hostess replied, "in this country we playing hectic sports which led to his
ask for white meat or dark meat." long life, he stumped them by saying,
Churchill apologised profusely and, “I never, ever got involved in sports.”
the following morning, sent the Upon his death in 1965, The
woman a magnificent orchid with an Guardian newspaper gave him a
accompanying note. "I would be most fitting obituary. It wrote, “In Winston
obliged," it read, "if you would pin this Churchill has died the greatest
on your white meat." Englishman of his time, full of years
Winston’s ready wit never and honour.” We
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a senior dietician with wide
experience in this profession
and attached to a renowned
hospital for the last two
years, is crystal clear in her
view that cucumber salad,
green sprouted gram mixed
vegetable, raw cabbage,
spring salad and corn salads
are a must especially for people, who
are over 45. Without mincing words,
Mrs Cauvery would suggest tomato,
dal , mixed vegetable soup,
mushroom and palak are the best
five soups for vegetarians and
corianders chicken, chicken, mutton,
sweet corn and palak chicken soups
are the five best for non-vegetarians.
As far as fruits are concerned, Mrs
Prabhakar would eat papaya salad,
mixed fruit, apple, guava and
pineapple.
When it comes to proteins,
vegetarians without any hesitation
can take vegetarian dal , sprouted
grams, paneer , mushrooms and
protein, whereas the non-vegetarians
according to her can opt for egg
white, chicken and fish.
HEALTH DIET
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Diverse views converge on
what comprises a healthy diet.
By K. V. Venugopal
Everything is all right, but what is on our preparation. For example,
her suggestion for people who are many people would prefer eating
above 45? “Papaya is the best fruit uppama, a famous south Indian dish
for elderly people and alternatively by preparing it in various ways like
they can take apple and guava,” she rice uppama, bread uppama and so
says and further asserts that a on. “Raita and sooji items would suit
balanced diet is important for people even people who are above 45,” says
who are above 45. Since life itself is she.
sedentary, exercise is a must for both As far as soups are concerned,
vegetarians and non-vegetarians. It Vanitha says she would suggest any
is wrongly perceived that one has to soup, but when asked to name the
take heavy food after every exercise. five best soups, she said tomato,
Most importantly, the non- vegetable, sweetcorn, sweetcorn
vegetarians must ensure that the skin chicken (for non-vegetarians), dal
is removed from the chicken. mahogani, green peas clear soup (for
What fish would she suggest for patients) and carrot, but would not
non-vegetarians? “Undoubtedly small suggest Maggie in the long run. She
fish is good and it is better to avoid also rules out fast foods.
fatty fish.” According to her, fried When it comes to proteins, animal
items are not required and curry, food would suit non-vegetarians. Can
steamed food, boiled vegetables and she name a few?
raw salads are good. She also Yes, she said and named fish and
suggests shunning carbonated eggs. “But, of late, people started
beverages. treating egg as a vegetarian item,”
she laughs and went on to add that
two types of fish, namely, preserved
DIETARY TIPS and fresh fish, would suit non-
What is her suggestion for juices? vegetarians and preserved fish,
“Always look for fresh juices,” she would ideally suit the people who are
reminds the readers. Can she name, over 45. She would, however, advise
the best five? ”Carrot, pomegranate, eggless cake for asthma patients.
apple, mixed fruit punch and Vanitha insists that people should
mosumbi juice,” she answers readily. opt for fresh food with an emphasis
What are the five milkshakes she on milk and milk products, as it
would suggest for our readers?
Coconut milk, pomegranate milk,
banana milk, milk, apple and soya
milk. Soya milk contains rich proteins,
which will suit people, who are over
45.
Vanitha Shekhar, a dietician, who
was associated with Naturopathy
Hospital for two years, opines when it
comes to salads, vegetables and
sprouted pulses are the best and it
should contain both green leaves and
tube roots. Raw carrots and carrot
cucumber are good but she would
not suggest carrots for diabetic
patients.
There are two categories of
vitamins: fat-soluble and water-
soluble. “Fat-soluble vitamins reduce
your fat,” says Vanitha and adds that
wheat items are generally good for
health. For instance, ragi can keep a
person healthy for 20 years. She is of
the opinion that everything depends
contains vitamins. working in a courier
Boiled vegetable company on a
augurs well and retainership basis,
“WE MANAGE keeping items for said even at this age he
hours together in the maintains a balanced
TO EAT AROUND fridge and boiling them diet and his 61-year-old
THE SAME BUT suddenly hampers one’s wife Rohini, follows in his
health. “Whether you like it footsteps in leading a
THE ONLY or lump it, you need to take at least healthy life. “I am a non-
DIFFERENCE IS eight glasses of water a day, but not vegetarian, but my wife is a strict
THAT I TAKE between meals, including for people
who are over 45.
vegetarian, but, despite our age, we
manage to remain fit,” says the man
CHICKEN SOUP When it comes to fruits, Vanitha with a sense of humour and adds that
AND SHE OPTS without battling an eyelid would
suggest apple, banana, orange,
the couple is fitness-savvy. He,
however, maintains that one has to
FOR TOMATO jackfruit, dates, kismiss and mango. be particular about the time factor.
SOUP.” For mango, it is better if people take
mangoshake than the fruit as it
Could he describe his and his wife’s
eating schedules? “We manage to
contains more vitamins. Likewise, eat around the same but the only
she would suggest the inside portion difference is that I take chicken soup
of jackfruit and the side portion of and she opts for tomato soup.”
orange. These fruits would ideally
suit people who are over 45.
67-year-old Bhatnagar, who is HEALTHY LIFE-STYLE
He went on to add that bread and
butter with salad for breakfast makes
them comfortable. What do they do
for lunch? “A mixture of rice and
wheat, a typical lunch with which
Maharashtrians whet their appetite.”
And what about their dinner? A roti-
dal -vegetable combination settles
them for a sound sleep.
Of course, they admit that for a
change they go for idlis or dosas for
breakfast and a sumptuous lunch
laced with oily stuff. But in general,
Bhatnagar said that they stick to their
normal food. “Without fruits after
dinner, it looks like a ship without a
rudder for us,” he laughs.
Dr Parthasarathy cited the
example of the late C.
Rajagopalachari, affectionately called
Rajaji and the first governor-general
of India, whose brain America wanted
to experiment with after his death.
According to him, the elderly
statesman always cleaned the leaves
after having his rice items to ensure
that the subsequent sweet and fruit
items did not get spoiled.
The genius also commented that
every person has more or less the
capacity to choose the items which
he or she could cherish, but most of
them do not go according to their
preferences. We
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uneet looked at Pavithra and his eyes softened. felt pity for her and paid the fine myself. Then I
Pavithra was his subordinate in the human brought them home. My wife had already had a
resources department of an MNC located in paralytic attack. Pavithra was helpful in taking care
Chennai. He had been trying to catch her of her, so we adopted her legally since we were
attention for long, not as a boss, but in a very childless. I don’t know where she is from or what
personal sort of way. Pavithra looked a typical caste she belongs to. She requested me to put her in
South Indian girl regularly wearing a sari. The a good school since she had been studying in a
flower and garlands that she wore on her hair convent school before. Eventually, she did her MA
attracted him. However, Pavithra had not responded and MBA and went to work in the MNC where your
like any other girl would. Finally, he made his move.
“Pavithra, I would like to marry you.”
To which Pavithra replied, “My mother is a
paralytic patient. My life is dedicated to taking care
of her.”
“Will you stay unmarried all through your life for
your mother?”
She just smiled and left his cabin.
Being the MD, Puneet Purushottaman had access
to Pavithra Jayakanthan’s CV. He found out her
address and sent his parents with a marriage
proposal. He was confident that her parents would
accept his proposal.
When his parents reached Pavithra’s home, they
met her parents.
Pavithra’s father, Jayakanthan, introduced them to
his wife, who was sitting on her bed.
“We bring our son’s marriage proposal for your
daughter, Pavithra,” said Purushottaman. “My son
studied from the 8th grade in the USA living with his
uncle. But he missed Indian culture and would not
intermingle with the girls there. He did not like
their having affairs with any and every boy.
He liked Indian girls, so he got a transfer
back to Chennai.”
“Sir, if that is the case then you should
know a truth about Pavithra,”
Jayakanthan said. “She is not our child.
I met her when she was 14, about 10
years ago, as she landed in Chennai
Central Railway Station, without a
ticket with her eight-month-old brother,
Kunal. She was scared and crying. I
son came to work recently. Now we can
afford to have a nurse to take care of my
wife only because of Pavithra.”
mother and I
Being the MD, were thrown
out of our
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Puneet
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bed was when there was a becomes an issue.” appetite and it often can be very
heat wave. And the only It’s when there is a discrepancy in difficult to help someone acquire the
thing that gets turned on desire between the person and the taste for something or to
once the lights go out is the partner, or when people feel there’s acknowledge to themselves that they
alarm clock buzzer. Maybe something wrong with them because really do have a craving for some -
your spouse pesters you to they have a low level of desire. thing delightful. You can present
do the mattress dance more Everyone experiences peaks and tempting foods like a luscious dessert
than you want to. You may troughs in sexual desire, an ebb and but that won’t necessarily help
even oblige, but you don’t flow in libido, that could be caused someone who doesn’t feel like eating
really want to and don’t really enjoy it. by any number of factors, from a bad or who denies himself or herself the
Is there something wrong with you? childhood to a bad day to a bad pleasure of eating sweets. Here’s
Sex therapists don’t like to play a illness, from too much stress to too what therapists might suggest to
numbers game when talking about little time. Occasionally, a hormonal cultivate a sexy sweet tooth and put a
frequency of intercourse and what’s imbalance or prescription drug will lilt into your libido.
considered normal. They’re more help to sap your sex drive.
concerned with determining what’s And, of course, there’s a Sample from the sexual spice
right for a couple to maintain a difference between sexual drive and rack: For many couples, sex
healthy relationship. sexual function. You may be able to becomes as exciting as doping the
If you’re in a relationship and you become aroused and experience dishes because they do the same
make love one or two times a month orgasms yet have little or no interest thing all the time. Reading a sexual
or less, that might be considered low. in doing so. (That’s why seeking manual and trying new positions
But who’s to say what level of desire professional advice from your doctor or new techniques may add
is “more desirable”? Low libido or a qualified sex therapist is not a a renewed dash of
becomes a problem that should be bad idea if your problem persists). If zest to making
addressed only when it is perceived your lowered libido persists and you love.
as problem. Sex therapists say, perceive that you have a problem,
“It’s usually only in the what can you do about it?
Don’t forget to touch: People Let your fingers do the talking: Mind over sexual matters: In
with low libidos are often reluctant to Take the time and pleasure to know conjunction with sexual-enhancement
express any sort of affection towards your own body and your partner’s techniques, there are other kinds of
their mates. They may believe their without any pressure to have strategies to heighten a low libido.
gestures amount to teasing or will intercourse and orgasm. Focus on You can deal with the immediate
spark a debate over making love, but the leisurely exploration of each problem of techniques, but that might
the loss of touch makes their partners other’s bodies and share the joy and not help for ever or save a
feel unwanted and unloved. Couple intimacy of that alone. Touch each relationship.
should maintain or resume other, feel and caress each other’s
expressions of affection — a kiss on genitals, notice the sensations of
the cheek or lips, casual touches on your two bodies as they move about. MORE APPROACHES
the arm or shoulder, a brush of their Tell each other what feels good. Dig yourself out of the dumps:
hair. Both partners need to Depression can produce some very
demonstrate that they care, but with Don’t hesitate to help yourself: physical symptoms and is one of the
the understanding that the display of Sexual self-gratification is not dirty or most common causes of an inhibited
affection is not a signal for sex. wrong. In fact, a person with low sex drive. When you’re depressed,
libido can use masturbation to learn you have an interest in practically
Read something risque: You what feels good to his or her body, so
don’t have to don sunglasses and a that sex provides a positive instead of
raincoat and creep into an adult book a negative feedback. Practise first in
shop, but you could read some private where you won’t be self-
romance novels, love poems or erotic conscious, then broach the topic of
literature to try to nurture or enhance mutual masturbation with your
your own sensuality. partner.
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post. I visited her home for a At the age of 15 your body is still
weekend and was horrified how badly growing but if you feel your breasts
her husband treats her and does not are loose you should exercise. There
help out with any household chore are no creams or oils to make
When my younger brother declared and yet expects her to wait upon him. breasts firm and you really would be
that he was a homosexual our I don’t work and yet my husband wasting time and money on that. Get
household underwent a lot of tension. helps me in house work and baby yourself the right fit of the bra as well
Finally my parents accepted his care. How do I make my sister to give ample support to your
declaration and the fact that he will understand her husband is using breasts.
never marry. He now lives in another her?
city with his lover. My other sister is You are lucky if you have an
now getting married and my brother understanding husband who helps I am 25 years old and I am in love
says he will attend only if my parents you out in your home duties even with a Brahmin boy for the past 3
allow his ‘partner’ as well. He expects though you are at home and not years. His parents are not agreeing
my support but I don’t know what to working. Your sister obviously is to our marriage and he won’t go
do. smart enough to hold down a job that against his family. My parents have
Yes, you have a valid point pays her well. You can mention to now got me engaged to a guy from
because accepting your child’s my caste.
sexually different behaviour is one As I have dosha in my kundali and
thing for old parents but to see him I have 2 daughters it says I might never get married my
with his male partner while the family aged 5 and 2 1/2 parents have forced me into this
members are there is quite another. years. Please advise engagement. I never liked this guy
Tell your brother that he should not me on the healthy from day one and finding it difficult to
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either be so rigid as he might have food that I could give accept him. I hate it when he calls
‘come out of closet’ this family gathe- them. Is it okay for me and can’t stand him. There is still
ring is more about your youngest them to eat chocolates (I am very 5 months for our wedding. What shall
sister’s wedding and should be given strict about eating chocolates and I do?
due sanctity. also drinking cold water)? On the Whatever you do, don’t marry a
whole they are active but my man you absolutely hate. You have
younger one hasn't gained weight to face to the facts that your Brahmin
My girlfriend is 10 years older to me. as per her age. love has definitely decided not to
Can I marry her? We love each other While it is good to be a marry you.
very much. Her parents know about disciplinarian there is nothing to Don’t punish another man for that.
us. But mine don't. How shall I be gained by total denial. Let your Tell your parents that you cannot go
convince them? Please let me know. daughters eat chocolate but in through this marriage, you will regret
You have not mentioned your age moderation and always caring for it for the rest of your life.
but if you are of legally marriageable the teeth by brushing them Hopefully, you are a new
age then you can marry her. As for afterwards. If your younger generation girl and do not believe in
convincing your parents, it is not daughter seems too thin for her kundalis, etc. Do you feel confident of
going to be easy as 10 years age, it is best to consult a child finding somebody on your own later,
difference is rather a lot for parents to specialist. Every child is different if not, then see if you can
ignore. However, if you love the girl in their metabolism and maybe compromise with the man selected
and are sure of your maturity you can she is just built different to her by your parents. If you cannot stand
still go ahead, get married and hope elder sister, don’t worry about it him now, how will you make a family
that your parents will accept you. too much. life with him?
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MEIRA KUMAR, A future needs of the married couple.
FITTING CHOICE
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them pass marks. Kumar will model for of a theoretical
millions of per cent 90 per cent a good role is something whether
80 to 90 more than of present n Speaker ary politics,
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students created d parliament In this regard,
number of This has In Delhi in party-base
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growing. ed colleges. construct
may not
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soon to be
of seats more a press conference Kumar promised every
Your tribute to
developme in the last
he sought Such decision nt also. Ms Kumar
Secondly, was introduced to governme office her
Bill, which not be passed, due fate of a the dignified
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to
as a member She
Lok Sabha by the Left It
opposition in strength. years of experience and as a
minister.
of
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not do in to fair play. of the nation’s
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Let’s pray we can proudly and held by the CBI act as
due to various But who
will Only then, respected this, disclosure Ministry shouldnip this
foreign universitie in the Chair. women are truly In light of
JUDGED ON ITS
Entry of Indian students. indulged where by the Home tion to
in favour
of don’t get , a land lated issues released
also data principles for the administramay prove a
big
universities women-re as a
L PROBLEM
situation mechanism high esteem. , this problem at
these foreign regulatory time, other still being treated guiding may be put
ensure that ting only? Proper foreign At the same the the bud. Otherwise in future, when it is rampant.
before any They are violent crimes. AN ETERNA been said and written aboutEvery evil in the
in pick-pocke in place soil. be ignored. become target of for our countrywhere flesh tourism
feet on Indian
One more
is allowed also be checked
thing,
should
Their credibility for a large number
still means
convention
etc. No
of people,
al courses
higher
like BA,
courses
doubt, these USP is big way.
commodity
strong so
that
be educated,
They should they can participate
in nation-buil
has seen
many women
the country fields, but their numberent
is
M
disappear
problem of
year, thousands
of children
homes. Fortunate
from their by the police, which to their
are traced
among themepitome of passivity,
ones from
has now
and restored of these
par with such
TREATMENT OF
experts
produce Otherwise and of the hour, families. But are never
traced with Indian to get such marriages
declining. a CA commands entire few is the need
constantly an MBA or fact, the scale m We missing persons about their fate. Ashwini required d a big
engineer, In g. at mass indication. mansera.co bother by the CBI
Director
aspect of
statutorily are considereto marry
doctor, an our society? seems to
opinions and
money, in overhaulin
to positive write to: letters@wo
rather shocking the country. society, daughters wish
respect, and
complete
be able Recent disclosure in New In Indian s. Parents ble
system requiresMinister will
WOMEN
much sought make thorough
woman abuses. about 85 per abroad’ are fail to
child- and e boys in
reactions on
to the Director, to
are subjected the many parents prospectiv .
according victims n about the many constraints
the within investigatio to
cent of abuses abroad due are not
types of
The editorial, An
2007 shows. on and to India
be deserted married to so
Ministry for people were arrested 3220 could they are girls back
But only send such
total 9861 these missions in our
human trafficking. simply acquitted. places are
families. are treated
charges of with their such cases duped,
and rest were and pilgrimage If a reunitedno secret how about such to the
convicted even religious traffickers. It is babbling them
And now for the human nt along with People start girls often driving
safe havens
Eternal Problem on
Innocent they are What else Law Commissio The new Governmesuch laws at once
But salvation. time.
find solace. themselve s need and used
condoms opportune priority basis and
frame
with Indian
girls
salvers are empty liquor bottles Tirupati temple this issue
on
of NRIs’ marriages be saved
of
e of trust
managing to check registration of girls could
recovery
Who is going that law making a number unscrupul ous men,