Toddler Tantrums For some parents, having a child is the greatest moment of their lives.

From waking up in the middle of the night to taking their first steps, most parents feel blessed to spend every moment with their children. Its a love that no one can express. Currently, I am a single mother who is undergoing some changes in son, liver. liver will be turning two in !ovember and I have lately been struggling with how to deal with calming him during temper tantrums. "lthough I am madly in love with my son, I find that it is very difficult to discipline him without hurting his feelings. #y getting a better understanding of this unfamiliar stage of terrible twos it will help provide a successful method of dealing with my toddlers tantrums. "ccording to $r. %enelope &each in 'Taming the Terrible Twos( children show positive signs of growing up through displays of negative behaviors )&each, *++,-. '.nderstanding your child/s defiant behavior is the first step to knowing how to handle it,( $r. &each states )&each, *++,-. This demonstrates that there are many behaviors that children will undergo as they change from infants to toddlers and so on and so forth. .nderstanding that children are going through a ma0or transition is difficult for some, but $r. &each feels that, 'Its an important period in your childs development( )&each, *++,-. This establishes that not only are parenting methods changing, but the welfare of your child is in your hands. %atience, communication, time, and effort are all 1ualities that you must possess in order to get the ideal outcome of this new stage )&each, *++,-. 'Toddlers want parents to please with them so they can feel safe and pleased with themselves,( $r. &each mentions )&each, *++,-. This clearly shows that children are 0ust as venerable and unsure with their independence as parents are. In an article written by $ana 2ullivan from a parenting expertise website, she clarifies what you do as parents during temper tantrums by using developmental techni1ues help your child during the toddler stage )2ullivan, *+3,-. From personal experience, I know the process of having your child throw a horrible temper tantrum. 4owever, the best advice is to 'keep your cool, stay close to your child, and let him release his feelings( )2ullivan, *+3,-. Time5out is a ma0or techni1ue used that can be very effective until your child knows the rules and can follow them )2ullivan, *+3,-. This shows that spanking and yelling will only result in the opposite effect and may cause more damage to your child. "cknowledging that your child is growing up demonstrates that they know what is expected of them and how they should behave. &ately, I have noticed my son throwing himself to the floor and crying when he does not get what he wants. This shows that he is trying to see what he can get away with and 'have enough power to get it( )2ullivan, *+3,-. In this situation, letting him throw a fit is usually the best solution. !aturally at two years old, toddlers 'get into everything( and 'is the first time youve 6a parent7 had to set limits( ) nderko, *+33-. "ccording to %arenting.com it is important to praise your child as often as possible ) nderko, *+33-. 2omething parents fail to reali8e is that children are under 0ust as much stress as adults and can feel every emotion you do. It extremely vital to have a strong communication barrier between a parent and child so that it is easier for you to learn how to discipline your child ) nderko, *+33-. 9ost children thing their emotions with 'outbursts and irrational displays of emotion,( and ultimately staying calm and collected is the best way to resolve the

problem ) nderko, *+33-. ne techni1ue I use fre1uently is generally ignoring them. ':ust as kids can 1uickly slip into anger and sadness, so can they slip out of them,( which demonstrates that children are very easy to have a horrible tantrum but gradually get back to playing ) nderko, *+33-. In conclusion, there is no preventing a toddlers temper tantrum; however, there are ways to minimi8e the situation and techni1ues to help better improve a childs outbursts. From time5out to soothing them, each parent must find the best solution for each child. "lthough you can always talk to your childs about this, I do not feel that spanking or yelling at your child is the right way to discipline your child during a tantrum. From what I have noticed, children mimic everything you do as an adult. 9y son liver points the remote to the television to change channels or grabs my cell phone and repeatedly says '$addy.( In any situation, you should always recogni8e that your child is learning and watching what you are doing. &ately I have been using the time5out method, which has been effectively working. I sit him down with him for a minute at a time and explain to him calmly that what he did was wrong. .nfortunately, this is 0ust the beginning of a long 0ourney with how to tame your child, but no matter what I believe love is the key to overcome anything. "s long as your child knows you love them, they will always try to please you because you are someone they love.

<eferences &each, %. )*++,, "pril-. Taming the terrible twos. Parents Magazine. http=>>www.parents.com>toddlers5preschoolers>development>social>terrible5twos>? page@A nderko, %. )*+33-. Why toddlers throw temper tantrums. http=>>www.parenting.com>article>toddler5temper5 tantrums? src@synBdom@cnnlivingBlnk@emb 2ullivan, $. )*+3,-. Cour *+5month5old/s social and emotional development= Terrible twos preview. http=>>www.babycenter.com>+Dyour5 *+5month5olds5social5 and5emotional5development5terribleD3*E,,*3.bc