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Davonda Holloway
ENG 111
Ms. Kyesha Jennings
16 October 2014
An Inside Scoop of a Preacher's Kid
" Your father is a preacher!" "God is watching!." Oh ,you can't do this and that!"
"Preachers kids are the worst!" Truly, the list doesn't end there. However, many people have a
preconceived notion concerning preacher's kids. As a preacher's kid, I am human, I live a
regular life, and I have morals that do not compromise my upbringing.
Growing up as a preachers kid had its own advantages and disadvantages. An advantage
includes participating in church activities. By doing so, I discovered my gifts and talents in the
music ministry, my desire to save souls, and my yearn to have a relationship with God. I now
posses a greater knowledge of the bible and doctrine than other children. Disadvantages include
dealing with stereotypes and criticism from adults and other children. Somewhere along the
line, I became labeled as " Pks." Originally, a "Pk" was defined as a Preachers Kid; Society has
now defined it as preacher's kid who has indulged or committed sinful acts. As weird as it may
seem, we are humans, and we do make mistakes. Typically, I make the same mistakes as other
children, but because I am labeled, our mistakes reflect poorly on our family's reputation.
Society also seems to believe that I am never angry, never sick, and never have real life
problems. However, I face similar obstacles, problems, and mishaps just as any average person
encounters.

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One year in high school, I was involved in a quarrel with one of my best friends. He had
accused me of sending an anonymous email to his father concerning the bad behavior he was
beginning to indulge in. Being that he knew that I did not agree with his new behavior, he
automatically thought I sent the email. The next day in class he began to discuss the situation to
other classmates as if I wasn't present. Like any other individual, I expressed how I felt
Afterwards, everyone began to look at me as if I had done something wrong. I heard students
whisper things such as. " Oh, Ms. Holier than thou is mad I see." ,"Some preacher's kid", "Is she
even allowed to do that?" I felt different because although, I didn't curse, or use violent
language, I was being judged for expressing my feelings." At that moment, I realized that my
own peers stereotyped me. Apparently, they thought I was a heroic icon who doesn't get angry or
upset. Unfortunately, because of my label, they failed to realize that I have emotions too.
As an outsider looking in, most people believe that my parents, especially my father, are
very strict on me. In reality, I am able to do anything a normal teenager would, but there are set
standards in which I must abide. None of the less, I am able to hang out with friends, go to the
movies, and even make my own decisions concerning my personal life. For example, growing up
I was able to listen to different genres of music, attend parties, and determine my wardrobe .
Generally, when one thinks of a preacher's kid assumptions include, listening to only gospel
music, only attending bible study, and wearing long skirts and shirts to cover up. Anyone who
knows me knows that I love Beyonce, I love to have fun and I love the latest styles.. Because I
indulge in those activities this immediately means that I indulge in sin, I don't love God, and my
salvation is questioned. However those activities do not dictate my salvation or my walk with
God.

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Morality isn't something that is based on the status quo; however, it is an individuals'
personal values. In life, my father has instilled right from wrong into me. Regardless how society
views me as a preachers kid I have distinctive morals. For instance, pre-marital sex,
disobedience, and homosexuality are wrongful acts. According to the bible, all of the following
acts are labeled as sinful. Based on my morals, I believe that sex is reserved for marriage because
it is a sacred act. Disobedience is wrong because God requires us to obey those who rule over us.
Lastly, I disagree with a homosexual lifestyle because God deems it as an abomination.
Recently, my friends and I decided to go out to eat. When the waitress seated us, we
realized one of our friends hadn't arrived yet. After an hour had passed, he finally walked in but,
we all noticed that he had been crying. Apparently, he and his family had gotten into a heated
argument His exact words were, "I told my parents that I was gay." At that moment, my heart
stopped. I could not believe the words that had utter his lips. When he revealed the news, our
friends immediately began congratulating him. Unfortunately, I was not able to react in the same
manner. Yes, it was good that he trusted us enough to share his secrets, but, it was not okay that
he was gay. I wanted to be there for him, but it was so difficult because I did not believe in
homosexuality. At that moment, the only option I felt like I had was to leave; so I did. The next
day I called him and apologized for leaving so abruptly. I explained to him that he and I could
remain friends, but I did not agree with his behavior. Sadly, I lost a friend that day, he was no
longer willing to be friends anymore. Although I felt different for not agreeing with his decision,
at that very moment, I gained a sense of who I was. With that being said, morality plays a major
role in even a preacher's kids' life.
Hence, I have arrived to this current state in my life based upon the attributes mentioned.
I can proudly say that my name is Davonda Holloway, and I am a preacher's kid. Being a

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preacher's kid has influenced every aspect of my life. I have lived through the satisfactions and
challenges of growing up in a ministry family. As I've gotten older, I've come to realize that I am
what I am because of who I am. The exposure I have had to God at an intimate level obviously
creates invaluable opportunities in my life. So, now when you hear preacher's kid you don't have
to think obscured thoughts. However, one can no infer that preacher's kids are normal human
beings.