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EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
The Wolf in Sheeps Clothing
STINKY THINKING
This is when you tell yourself something
that is foolish or untrue.
Or
Those trashy SOBsare making fun of me
and they cant get away with it!!
GOOD THINKING
This is when you tell yourself something that is
truthful and makes sense.
OKAY EMOTIONS
These are feelings that fit the situation,
are of the appropriate intensity and
you are in control.
THUMBS UP BEHAVIOR
These are behaviors that make sense,
you are not trying to negatively manipulate
others and these behaviors are in
your best self-interest.
THE WHISPERERS
A Therapeutic Fable
EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
POTENTIAL VICTIM
5= Always True
1=Never True
POTENTIAL VICTIM
IF A CHILD
(The Wolf and Sheep)
If a child thinks they can't handle difficulties.... they won't.
If a child thinks that they should not care about others.... they won't.
If a child thinks that there is no point in being assertive.... it is.
If a child thinks that it is acceptable to belittle and ridicule others.... it is.
If a child thinks that doing anything to please others is okay.... they will.
If a child thinks that getting others to do foolish things is okay.... they will.
And as long as they think that way, you can't bribe, scare,
or punish them enough to keep it from happening.
TEACH THEM TO USE "GOOD THINKING"
POTENTIAL VICTIM
Childhood irrational beliefs can become
rigidly held beliefs of adulthood that
confirm their dependency tendencies
Childhood Belief
Adult Belief
Hunt
70
60
"Normal"
50
40
30
Sub
Abuse
20
Control
10
0
3(5&4)
3(3)
Childhood Belief
Hunt
70
60
Normal
50
40
30
Sub
Abuse
20
Control
10
0
2(5&4)
2(3)
POTENTIAL EMOTIONAL
MANIPULATOR
Childhood irrational beliefs can become
rigidly held beliefs of adulthood that confirm
their antisocial and paranoid tendencies
Childhood Belief
I must win.
Adult Belief
Hunt
80
70
Normal
60
50
Sub
Abuse
40
30
"Control"
20
10
0
1(5&4)
1(3)
Childhood Belief
70
60
"Normal"
50
40
Sub
Abuse
30
20
Control
10
0
7(5&4)
7(3)
Emotional Manipulators
Frequently have very high self-esteem
Seldom seek help for their problem
Are resistant to insight and change
Prone to relapse into EM and/or SA
Manipulators Talk
I was just kidding (playing, fooling around)
They misunderstood me (got it wrong)
They were asking for it
I did not do it
They just got upset, I dont know why
It is no big deal, they are whiners
EM Victims
Likely referred for various issues from
acting out to lack of participation
Are frequently described as having low
self-esteem
Seem to be withdrawn and anxious or
angry and the problem
Therapeutic Fable
The Collard Green Garden
Is available to you for free as
ebook (PDF) + audio
Guilt
Shame
Fear
Work Sheets
Worksheets that follow each story
explain and expand on the story theme
allowing for Cues to be used by adults
and the children themselves to modify
and change beliefs and behaviors.
The Young Girl was manipulated because she made herself feel guilty
when she had no real reason to do so. This as a common ploy some
people used to take advantage of others.
Just because someone wants you to feel guilty does not mean
that you must feel guilty.
There are those who would have you believe that they know everything
and that you must do as they say or seek their approval .
Use the Crow's statements or any of their own that challenge the Owl.
"What makes him so smart?" "If others can do it so can I."
EXERCISES
Skill Building
Role Playing
Desensitization
REFUSAL SKILLS
What do you say?
PARENT (PROFESSIONAL)
NOTES
QUESTIONS
or
SUGGUESTIONS
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Accept No Excuses
Judge Actions, Not Intentions
Set Personal Limits
Make Direct Requests
QUESTIONS
or
SUGGUESTIONS
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The End