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Why Are Narcissists Are So Dangerous?

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As youll read below, every survivor describes narcissists in
*DANGEROUS* terms. Each person thats been victimized personally by a
narcissist will warn you and serve as a cautionary tale that if you
welcome a narcissist into your life, youre dancing with the devil;
welcoming them in to do one thing and one thing only to you: use, abuse
and destroy you.
Many onlookers or those who havent experienced the narcissist in an
unmasked state have a hard time believing that the people we describe
and the horrendous acts of abuse committed on us were done by the very
people they have a different opinion of. They dont understand the
disordereds modus operandi. They dont understand that their belief
that the narcissist is a likeable or admirable character is evidence
that the danger has already started, theyre manipulated by the
narcissists mask and theyre in complete denial of reality.
There are two main traits of a narcissist that most all other
symptomology stems from: Delusional reality and lack of empathy.
*DELUSIONAL REALITY*
The first reason a narcissist is dangerous to others is because they are
in complete denial of reality.
Here are a few of the delusions that are always present in a
narcissists psyche:
*/Delusion of Grandeur/ * This denial of reality comes in the form of
the narcissist having the belief about themselves that they just deserve
more. Theyre larger than life, a celebrity in their own minds, entitled
to take from people without having to give anything back. Statements
that reflect delusions of grandeur go something like this Dont you
know who I am? I had to wait in line for an hour! I wont be spending
MY money here again, if this is the service I get.
According to the DSM-IV TR grandiose-type symptoms include grossly
exaggerated beliefs of ones own:
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self-worth
power
knowledge
identity
exceptional relationship to a divinity or famous person.
/*Perfect Image* /Anyone who thinks that perfection is obtainable and

struggles to feel /worthy /without achieving perfection is not in
touch with reality. Reality dictates that we are fallable. We make
mistakes, we fail, we fumble, we screw up; this is a fact of life,
nature, the universe. For the narcissist, they possess the delusion that
if they or the people around them achieve an image of being perfect
that they will finally feel ok. Theyre striving for something outside
of themselves to feel good inside; this will NEVER happen.
*/Entitlement Others exist to serve them/* Narcissists hold the
delusional thought that other human beings are objects that only exist
to serve their needs. They view others in an inhumane way which allows
them to act out on us with no empathy because they dont believe we have
rights of our own that the narcissist needs to pay any attention to.
This complete and utter disregard for the rights of others, stems from
their delusional thoughts that only ONE person benefits (wins) and that
is the narcissist themselves. Narcissists view that everyone owes them
is not in any way, shape, and/or form realistic.
/*Boundaries dont exist
*/Not being aware of the boundaries that
exist between two people is a denial of reality. The reality is that two
people have separate identities, with separate thoughts, feelings,
motivations, dreams, ideas, goals and rights. When a narcissist treats
others as if they have the right to order, control, push and dictate
anothers behavior (even if its manipulatively disguised as helpful
advice), they are more driven by their desire for power than they are
the right of the person theyre controlling to think, feel or act for
themselves and are blinded from reality by that desire for power.
/*Non-Identity = Non-Accountability */Because a narcissist has a
flexible, chameleon like identity, they have no solid foundation of self
other than being that of a manipulative, changing being. They have no
sense of self from which certain expectations and rules of conduct will
flow. Their modus operandi is whatever works. Since they hold no code
of ethics, their behaviors are categorized to them as either effective
or non effective. Effective behaviors will be repeated regardless of the
consequences to others. Since a narcissist has no boundaries, they
dont see the impact to others, because they dont see them as others.
A narcissists construct literally goes like this:
Narcissist pounds your thumb with a hammer.
You scream in pain and yell, what did you do that for!!??
A narcissist will be able to say, Do What??!! Believing they did
NOTHING, because they didnt feel any pain whatsoever in their thumb.
If you insist on getting the narcissist to see the error of this whacky
exchange, you will be told, Well, you shouldnt have had your hand on
the table.
The subject will be dropped and you will spend your time feeling
bewildered and perplexed by the insanity of all, until it happens again,
then youll focus on that atrocity and wont be able to see that this
has been the pattern all along.
/*Narcissists are in charge of reality*/ Power mongers. Control freaks
who cant recognize boundaries are the only people who can possibly
believe that what they think is the reality for EVERYONE. It becomes
very apparent that a narcissist believes themselves to be all knowing
when theyre insistent that they know what you think, what you are
really saying, who you really are or what your motivation really is.
Their entitlement and lack of boundaries allows them to play God;
theyre the writers of the script, the great puppeteers, the all knowing
Wizard of Oz.
Worn down targets find it easier to just roll over and fold. We realize
the narcissists ability to argue and fight surpasses our own, we arent
interested in winning just being heard, but there comes a point where
its just too exhausting to take the narcissist to task on these
frequent power plays.
Most realistic people have an awareness of when theyre acting in a
manipulative or coercive manner and feel a sense of responsibility to
back off, not cross that line or not offer unsolicited advice or
opinions. We respect the boundaries of others, because we are aware they
exist. Narcissists have NO CONCEPT of these lines and what constitutes
obtrusive behavior.
Rapists, child molesters, robbers and murderers have the same inhumane
view of people, viewing them as objects to exploit at will and have no
concept that it is wrong to violate or cross the demarcation lines of
anothers property, being or identity.
We as an enlightened society, KNOW that these types of people are
dangerous and frankly would be quite relieved committing these people to
institutions so that they cant harm society in these atrocious ways
again. If you can understand this danger, then you can understand why
former victims of narcissists view them with the same passionate concern
for safety of themselves and others.
*LACK OF EMPATHY *
Its my personal opinion that empathy is the one quality that makes all
of us true human beings. The ability to have a compassion for our fellow
man that causes us to behave in ways that do no harm to them is a
powerfully connecting emotion. Empathy is having the ability to step
into anothers experience, set yourself aside & allows you to honor
anothers feelings and needs in a way that enriches and edifies them. We
need each other to respond in empathetic ways to our pain, journey, and
joys through life; it connects us.
One of the key presenting traits of narcissists is their utter
incapability to empathize. When you see a pattern of human cruelty that
the narcissist commits on their loved ones or affiliates, you will see
the lack of empathy present in various ways:
Ignoring requests to cease behavior (like cheating , stealing, lying, etc.)
Name calling, criticizing, belittling, mean jokes, jabs and put downs
(verbal abuse)
Serial cheating
Arguments surrounding the same issues over and over

Turning around the partners concerns to blame them and block the
conversation
A frustrated partner who doesnt feel heard, listened to, understood
No closure no apologies, no accountability, no consequences, no change
A partner who suffers the consequences of the narcissists repetitive
pattern of poor / destructive choices
The bottom line to all these behaviors?
*THEY JUST DONT CARE. *
This bears repeating.
*THEY JUST DONT CARE. *
Narcissists are capable of inflicting physical and psychological harm on
others and are unmoved by the plight of those they hurt.
If you are trying to analyze a narcissists behavior and hear yourself
saying, But they SHOULD STOP RIGHT THERE. Whether or not a narcissist
should care, is irrelevant because it was built into them a very very
long time ago, that they CANT CARE. They dont have the built in
capacity to care: they lack EMPATHY.
When were discussing the insidious subtext to a narcissists dangerous
behavior, lets remember that on the SURFACE, the narcissist is still
pretending, charming, conning, manipulating, giving you some bones,
whatever behaviors work to get you to continue to stick around even
though the narcissist doesnt care and KNOWS THEY DONT truly care
will be the tools they use again and again to keep you around.
Confused?
This is what narcissistic survivors go through. At every moment, there
are two relationships occurring that is just out of the conscious
awareness of targets: The pretend relationship where the narcissist
uses words not actions to convince you that what you have is a loving
relationship, youre on the same page, your future is looking
bright.*IF *you could stop being imperfect, and doing the things the
narcissist is actually doing to prevent the relationship from working.
(Translation: if you can just be the constant receptacle of the negative
traits the narcissist discharges on you and never ask for anything for
yourself and dont question the twisted reality you live in, then things
will work out and youll get a version of what you want: their love
however conditional it is; and it is) This smoke and mirrors
relationship is the one where the talk is that the narcissist cares
about you. Its the reality we try to live in, because the other is just
too painful to bear.
The other relationship is the REAL ONE: the constant barrage of twisted
head games, the layers and levels of abuse, the syphoning off of your
soul and life force, the betrayals going on behind your back, the
manipulation, the control, the shaming and blame, the threats, the word
salads, the lies. This is the relationship that is evident in BEHAVIOR
that the narcissist truly does not care. While were in it, we keep
this reality at arms length.
The general populous will feel fear when a serial killers m.o. is
displayed on nightly television. Theyll see the lack of empathy quite
clearly and realize that there is something seriously wrong with those
people and be aghast over how heartless someone can behave towards
another human being.
Targets live this reality up close and personal every single day. We see
the danger firsthand, we live it.
We dont suddenly wake up one day and say, You know, Im going to be a
zealot about narcissism. I want to pick on these lovely people because
Im mad at them.
If someone is selling themselves this delusional bit of goods, they are
surely held captive by the narcissists delusions. We are zealous about
getting the word out there about this disorder and this abuse because
weve all been burnt by the danger of a narcissists disorder.
Not just touched with a match slightly burnt but our houses, our
lives, our souls, our identities, our relationships, our values, our
trust, our world views have been torched to the ground in an aggressive
act of intentional arson.
Although we are the star and credible witness to this crime and have the
information that will put this criminal away for years so that someone
else doesnt suffer the same atrocity, no one believes it or cares
enough that they step in to listen or help us.
Since we cannot hold a narcissist accountable, we can make good use of
our effort to enlighten and educate others who are vulnerable to this
abuse and be the support to other targets whose abuse has been ignored
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Its been said that more is learned about the narcissist through what
their former targets have to say about them than anything they could say
about themselves:
<https://www.facebook.com/christine.gato?fref=ufi>Christine: unrealistic
sense of entitlement very high ego superficial and vein no conscience no
empathy no sense of boundaries no guilt no remorse : terrible evil sick
twisted fucked up monsters, rude and very arrogant not human.starts
smears campaigns and spreads lies and half truths behind their victims
back and all those who stand in the way of their evil plans. the
narc/sociopath prince/princess.
Suzanna: Their ability to appear to others as the epitome of charm,
love, and compassion, and only their victims see the real side to them.
Hula: The Devil.
Lynne: They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. If they
dont achieve it, they will destroy everything in their path, even
children and family. They reinvent history to suit their needs and
destroy decent people.
Kaye: Cunning, insidious, remorseless, selfish, abusive, liar, phoney,

taker, manipulator, entitled, deranged, attention seeking,
Shallow
Doug: Insecure and filled with pain.
Ellen: Unconcerned about his trail of emotional wreckage,totally
self-absorbed with his own gratification, clueless and dismissive as to
the after-effects on those he discards
How Lynne: Empty they are empty bags of misery to themselves and
those around them. You can spend a life trying to fill them and enough
love and patience simply does not exist. They drag those around them
into their own private abyss and swear that darkness isnt dark.
Marinky: Toxic, everything he/she touches is destroyed, lack of
remorse, lack of responsibility, double even triple personalities,
pathological liar, manipulative and controlling, lack of boundaries and
empathy, too much self-absorbed and self-entitlement, backstabber, gossiper.
Holly: They believe their own lies. That makes them very believable to
others.
Jean: I trusted. I believed the charm. I was raised to be a perfect
victim. My soul was murdered. Manipulation, lies, greed etc all takes a
toll.
Heidi: They are dangerous because of the MASK they wear their charm
hides it so well leaving you stunned and immobile once he removes it and
you see the true personyou cant tell a narc from a decent human while
wearing it.very dangerous:(
<https://www.facebook.com/marilynhalbauer?fref=ufi>Marilyn: Predatorial.
Interpersonally exploitive. They arent the scary boogie man in the
bush. They are in your BED!! They bait the trap with LOVE. They use
happily ever after to draw you into striking distance.
They have NO compunction.there is NOTHING they wont say.NOTHING they
wont do to GET what they crave. They will fake cancer, euthanize pets.
put arsenic in your morning coffee and kiss you and tell you they love
you as they watch you drink it.
Youd expect such treachery from an enemy.not a lover. The cognitive
dissonance of the cocktail of love and loathing makes you bleed out your
ears from trying to figure out whats happening to you.
I used to know a little developmentally disabled girl. She used look at
you with beautiful pleading blue eyes.reach her arms out to you for a
hug.her face would get sweet like puss n boots in a scene from SHREK.
It was almost impossible to say no. how could you say no?
Many hugged her unawares..only to find themselves suddenly locked in
the grip of her atsoundingly powerful arms with her sharp teeth buried
deep in the flesh of their shoulder.
Thats what a narc doesdraws you in as you expect something wonderful
and loving only to be blindsided by a bewildering attack. ROMANTIC AMBUSH!!
<https://www.facebook.com/lynn.connearney?fref=ufi>Gosselin: Selfish,
egotistical, evil, cruel, lying, abusive, tyrant!
Misa: insane
Dorie: Sneaky and calculating

Aire: That they can seem very emotional but they can only feel empathy
with themselves. Or someone distant they are talking about. Sometimes
they can seem to show support but only cause they Will need that person
later on or wants to build up a good reputation as the sweetest person
in the world.. When it really matters they can be cruel, so cruel you
wouldnt believe it when it happens.
Judith: predatory, vicous, narcissistic, bloodless Boneless, void of
any soul the Antichrist of all Demons
Lori: pure evil
Megs: Compulsive liar and a thief
Kim: Relentless.
Cinnamon: STAY~CLEAR!!! IT only gets WORSE!!!..4 YOU!!!~~~
Diana: Demon possessed scumbags.
Cathy: Self-absorbed
Lola: Mental abusers
Shawna: ALIEN!
Chris:
Zero Insight Zero Empathy, not a good combo
Rowena: Con artists x

Susan: Raging monster!
Carl: Credible, plausable, manipulative and to top it all off
superficially friendly, calm and decent. That makes them always look
like the innocent party and their victim as whatever they want to paint
them out to be until the mask comes off and then wait for the Im so
sorry we doubted you, we never guessed s/he could be like that from
those that initially thought you were just slagging him/her off or
exagerrating. The true enablers will simply refuse to see the truth in
front of them though no matter what, because they WANT to believe in the
narcissist.
Debbi: evil
Jacky: Diabolical predators!
<https://www.facebook.com/stephaniepowersday?fref=ufi>Stephanie:
Pathological liars, victims themselves, hollow eyed monsters, arrogant,
bore easily, always doing something radical (buying selling crap, change
of jobs), always find negative in everybody, backstabbers, suck in bed,
feel they earned the sense of entitlement to treat partners, kids,
friends etc. poorly, only think of themselves, will never admit their
wrong, try to isolate you, turn you away from your friends/family,
controlling, weak, and again pathological liars. Its kind of fun going
to Facebook pages because theyre easy to identify pictures of
themselves always posing, doing something exciting, rarely comment on
others post unless its sarcastic or over the top intellectual and
basically attention grabbing. They are hyenas because they are the most
toxic animal on the face of the planet. Toxic because they are fakes,
people dont see their true colors until they are eaten alive.
<https://www.facebook.com/susan.redwine.14?fref=ufi>Susan: Pathological
Planners with Destructive Intent
Chelsea: If you ever engage in an argument with them make sure its in
a safe place to do so. Like around others who will rally with you and
not against you.
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Kate Kate | April 11, 2016 at 7:37 AM
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I googled this site to help me understand my narcissistic sister, I
have finally come to the decision to end our relationship.
Everything I read hear today is so true. .Sad but all true. Thank
you for confirming a Narcissists personality traits
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Ella | March 23, 2016 at 7:31 PM
I was my boyfriends target for 11 years I was in LOVE..(maybe I
still am?) he was perfect
he lied to me, beat me, broke bones, cheated on me, belittled
me..every day..
All the while, telling me he loved me and if I could just work out
my issues we could be together foreverand why wouldnt I want
that?..,someone as ugly, dumb, slutty, poor as me could never find
someone as wealthy, good looking, all around nice as him, ever
again, he said.
I should seek counseling to try to be good enough for him. Everyone
sees how good he is to meand they all feel sorry for him for
putting up with his crazy girlfriend. He says.
I have no idea of all the lies he told everyone about mebut whats
sad, is I began to believe them too.
He broke up with me yesterday.
Because I just had major surgeryand Im incapable of showing him
the love he deserves as I was recovering.
I stumbled across this site
And I am sick to my stomach reading these stories. So very just
No words.
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We must be sister, my Husband of 16 years continued his abusive,
narcissist, games, I got cancer and I survived. The physical and
mental abuse from him got even worse. I was and still think (
how dare him- double Dog. Nasty person anyone , especially
because he loved me , abuse a Cancer Survivor ! this even got
even worse from him, I had Cancer) He got so Angry that I lived.
Now he has to go through such a Nasty Divorce, explain this to
the Judge, and I will tell anyone and everyone. I AM A WARRIOR
SURVIVOR! All he ever said was for Me to stop playing a Victim!
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Matt | March 27, 2016 at 9:47 PM
Just wanted to let u know. I hurt like I have never hurt before.
Im not some, as people say, wussy!. I get sick to my stomach
almost daily. Like u said we will never know the full story. She
continues to attack myself and our young children. My whole
beautiful marriage gone in 24 hours. I sit here and think if
someone has no empathy, then when do they hit bottom and know
when to stop. I wish u the best of luck going through the
healing process. :)
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Margaret | March 23, 2016 at 1:59 PM
Narcissists are the twilight zone aliens from to serve man episode.
You dont know its a cookbook to your soul until you board their
alien ship. Awful alien lying bags of stink who just dont tell you
what they really are doing you have to decode it. Their abuse goes
on well past no contact period by proxy due to good neutral
people who believe their lies because narcissist can put on a show
and my truth seems far fetched . No one is that heartless callous or
cruel.
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CarolinaP Fan | March 7, 2016 at 3:04 PM
Hi, I need some advice!!!! My good friends husband is a malignant
narcissist. Nothing I mean nothing is ever his fault!!! Except he
manages to destroy other peoples lives, businesses, marriages, he
goes after single and married women while he is currently
married!!!!!! He lies to clients, creditors, friends, family. He
uses everyone else, especially $$$. He doesnt care if the blows
through $100k in a month or two. His attitude is do whatever
whenever to whomever as long as he comes out ahead somehow. But, the
reality is he always will be behind and taking everyone else down
the crapper shoot with him. He lies to all business partners and
uses all their money and then will just up and leave the business
after he frigging destroys it or causes people to go bankrupt or
insane. He blames younger women for being stupid enough to fall for
his lines of crap, he blames my good friend for being so pathetic to

put up with him, he blames his parents for not giving him everything
under the sun. He makes fun of everyone. Everyone is useless,
worthless, dumb, nave, too big, too small, makes fun of their
vehicles, houses, cars, clothes, teeth, hair, weight, education
levels. He will piss people off and laugh right in their faces. She
is going to lose her mind, her finances, her everything if she keeps
listening to all his crap. My question is things are already
starting to catch up to Mr. Above it All, but why is she choosing to
tolerate it? He is such a smooth talker and so good at spin
doctoring everything he would even have Satan questioning himself.
He has managed to destroy a couple businesses the past few years, a
couple marriages, a few clients lives, a few young gals lives, if
dealing with someone with a personality disorder that doesnt give a
crap about anyone other than numero uno how does anything ever sink
in or effect them? Any advice on this? Please!
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gratefulgirlck | February 13, 2016 at 10:48 PM
MY SUGGESTION IS From Abuser
DONT Fall for this one either !
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mhon2boys <http://hondosite.wordpress.com/> | February 26, 2016
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On Feb 25, 2016 1:30 PM, After Narcissistic Abuse wrote:
> gratefulgirlck commented: MY SUGGESTION IS From Abuser
DONT Fall for > this one either ! >
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karen | February 11, 2016 at 10:17 PM
CAUSTIC, POISONOUS and TOXIC, is how they become when the target is
on to them. Thats what he became when I told him I knew he was lying
and cheating on me and that we should talk and an apology would be a
start. Then he went into some twisted tirade not even related to his
lies and betrayals over the past YEAR! I told him Since he didnt
have the capacity to be accountable, I never wanted to see him
again. THEN, It got really ugly and in the email he called me
poisonous and that my complaints were like being continously beat
over the head with a 24! Wtf ? The last thing he said was for me to
not send another poisonous email. Omg. INSANITY. I bit the bullet
and moved on but it was difficult. He really messed me up. His life
is an ongoing lie. And he irony of it is that He Is a Drug Rehab
Counselor. not a whisper of empathy. zero. OMG!!!(BEWARE of ERIC
ROSENDAHL!)
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desiderata4 <http://desiderata4.wordpress.com/> | March 27, 2016
at 1:59 PM
Mine also works in Mental Health. He has all the psychiatrists
fooled.
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Matt | December 4, 2015 at 1:50 AM
Reading these things really gives me the chills. I wish someone
could give me some direction to go for help. My soon to be ex wife
fits all these signs and it give me the chills reading this. She had
to know she has some form of narcissistic personality disorder
because I found some stuff she wrote. She has no empathy, she is
evil and is destroying our two young boys that have beautiful
hearts. 6 and 7. I need help bad. She planned things that has
destroyed our marriage and she doesnt even flinch. Just gone and I
dont even know her. Please for my kids.
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kare | February 11, 2016 at 10:27 PM
RUN! Gotta get away from her. She will poison the kids. Divorce
her, get the kids away from her asap. !! If you want your kids
to have normal loving relationships later in life, DO IT NOW!!
Do what you have within your power to do and do it asap. The
longer the kids are exposed to her the more they will learn to
become just like her.
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melinda <http://pinterest/> | October 28, 2015 at 12:54 PM
I have been in a LONG 7 year on again off again relationship with a
sick Narcissists man. This time when he left, he only put water in
my gas tank. And left me in debt up to my eye balls. I got off easy
this time. Hes the devil.
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karenvanderwerken@gmail.com <http://goggle/> | September 24, 2015 at
6:02 PM
i thought i could tell them right away.no way they think they are so
clever.yet,they get found out every time.and i run.karen
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Joanne <http://passengeroftheriad/> | September 6, 2015 at 6:32 AM
All true. My ex kept me spinning & apologising for too long. I was
dropped like a hot brick if he felt like it, often preceded by a
long silence. He never dropped me face to face which is cowardly.
Yet he wanted to be admired for his integrity and so on.
He quickly hoovered me up, whilst I was still upset after the sudden
discards, twice this happened with no conversation other than well
if we cant move past that..
The final discard was horrendous, I was humiliated, verbally abused
and emotionally raped.
He was with his new victim very soon afterward. There was no phone
call zero discard just a rage.

Currently he is back to me as if I have forgotten his behaviour or
am being petty by ignoring him. He went from sweet to accusational
in the space of 3 emails. Its as though Im expected to respond
kindly to him and not mention his rage.
Its very very frightening even from this distance and given that
Ive researched his personality I can see confronting him would
result badlylooking back i reinterpret his odd comments as his
actual beliefs. He once mentioned that he didnt trust women because
it would give them the power. Listen very carefully to your Gorgous
new boyfriend and ask questions early on before you let them exert
fear into your life.
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Andre | September 5, 2015 at 4:09 AM
Just minutes ago I had an epiphany many years in the making about
people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In past, I had two or
three love interests with NPD, a recent NPD girlfriend, a narc
therapist, and a buddy of 23 years who had NPD or close.
But the epiphany involved the recent (ex) girlfriend. (I am working
on my BPD arent we all working on something?) truth be told.
Anyways, we had a big dramatic breakup almost 2 years ago. I have
been no contact since, but we used to both be teachers at same
school until I transferred out thank God.
I am a photographer too and had many portrait sessions with ex
narcissistic girlfriend in beautiful nature settings when we dated.
I spent this summer vacation in the darkroom printing up her and her
friends films as a goodbye present since I knew I would not see her
again after my transfer and I still loved her. These are some
really nice professional photos any woman would love to have of
herself.
But something told me to check how she would receive them. Dont
assume. I consulted the Tarot (an avenue I do not like to take as I
prefer to receive insights through meditation and dreams etc) Over
and over the Tarot warned me of the same thing I was shocked to
see that instead of this beautiful portfolio of photographs being
received from a place of unconditional love in which I intended, she
would call the authorities or somehow get the police or authorities
involved. I totally did not expect this so I consulted a few times
using different sources and got the same warning.
I had experienced painfully this type of behavior from another
narcissistic love interest 16 years ago, otherwise I would not have
believed what the cards told me was possible in this world. I now
realize love does not exist for narcissists. They have decided that
they will not love to the bitter end.
I can now see her without her mask (and what I see is very sad). I
cant believe I would let such a person in my bed, let alone my
heart.I feel lighter and happier now. As an aside, My trusted
spiritual advisor warned me that she was a cruel cold hearted human
being, but it did not register until moments ago.
I am going to use the portfolio instead to promote my photography
business/passion. I do not deserve to be hurt by this woman anymore.
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rene | August 20, 2015 at 8:33 AM
All about them, twisted minds,no one is good enough,childish
behaviour, plays jealousy games, puts you down,blames everyone else
for everything, has,no interest in how you are feeling, whether its
physical or emotional,never apologizes,has an attitude of i owe you
nothing. Thinks they are above the law, no one else can measure up
to him and women are to be used for his pleasure, hes a liar and a
cheat, yet at the same time he is very insecure.street thug
attitude, his loving making is just a form of masturbation doesnt
care who he has sex with, there is no intamacy he collects people
for his supply and cares for none of them,because he cant, as long
as he is pleased..lets on he is happy go lucky but he is phoney
agressive and abusive he has no heart hes shallow and pathetic i
believe they are SATAN.
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Tami | August 11, 2015 at 10:47 AM
14 yrs divorced and my ex husband continues his quest to destroy me.
I do not understand why he has targeted me as the object of his
frustration, Ive done nothing wrong. I dont know how much more of
this I can take. His anger escalates each time he takes his own
guilt out on me. He broke my neck already, police did nothing
because he is a hometown boy and knows all of them. Im quite certain
i will end up in a body bag next time.
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Girl, get out of that town (state)!
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Anonymous | September 9, 2015 at 8:55 PM
move away Tami run as fast as you can.
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Lucy <http://passengeroftheroad/> | August 9, 2015 at 2:47 PM
Trauma shock disbelief Valium after Rage 3
Escaped quietly without arousing any suspicion.
Visited my Doctor in a mess who asked me what on earth has happened
I couldnt explain other than I felt raped, exploited & a used so I
just said I cant explain.
Took the Valium and felt frightened for months. Still do, began
reading a lot Im still reading as it was surreal. I frightened
myself as I dated this charmer.
Found the book, released he wouldnt apologise ever, as he said when
I asked him what was wrong it was a throw away comment I made a
month prior so his behaviour was my fault.
Worked out Id been sleeping with a psychopath, questioned myself &
took the knock.
Blocked him as he was interrupting my recovery process. New phone etc.
then he found a new way to contact, he can only communicate via a 2D
format, he never called me directly coward. Im using the grey
rock now to bounce the kindly little messages back. He has a
girlfriend which Im not supposed to know about.
I know his grooming techniques and feel much more secure in evading
capture.
Never confront them, never show joy in front of them and if all of
their fake friends like you they will NOT be happy with that.
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Susan | August 8, 2015 at 6:52 AM
They will consume you emotionally, withhold love and affection to
argue about something totally unrelated to [the] relationship just
to feel power. All the causes that they chase are merely window
dressing to hide their true nature. Nothing is enough to fill their
void-of-a-soulno matter how many churches they join.
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Susan, I began going to church regularly first time in my life
recently at age 48 and could not believe the concentration of
people with narcissistic personality disorder there!
It is like a straight man having to dodge all the gay men at the
local sauna just to get health benefits of the sauna heat.
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wanda | November 22, 2015 at 7:28 AM
I know this so well. My N pulled away all forms of affection,
causing me to fell empty, unloved and isolated. He would get so
enraged if I mentioned/tried to have a conversation about the
confusion. Blaming me for being sex-crazed. Another form of
control and abuse.
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Abbie | August 6, 2015 at 9:54 PM
How do you recover from a narcissistic father. Loud and over bearing
his voice is in my head and still has the power to scare the crap
out of me. I cant get over how mean he was to us especially me.
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Bichette | August 4, 2015 at 2:50 AM
My N would do a lot of belittling, such as calling me shrimp. I am
small ad asked him not to call me that again, yet he kept teasing me
with it, so called lovingly. It unsetteled me. I know it sounds
like a detail but when i would not get or misunderstand what he
said, he would sometimes say, dont be so ridiculous woman, or you
idiot, laughingly. I didnt ike that ether so i tried a different
tactics, saying: if my relatives find you talking to me like that (i
hadnt introduced him yet as he was very wary of the impression he
would leave on them), they will not approve. He simply stated: of
course i will not talk to you like that in front of others! Im not
an idiot. Indicating that it was alright for him to talk to me like
that in private but would not ruin his reputation by doing so in public!
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Bichette, you are small and adorable. If any man you are with
does not say almost those words exactly, leave him.
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Amy | April 10, 2015 at 12:35 PM
My N who I left after about 6 months (but actually only was with him
about 10 times) was CHEAP with money. From the beginning, dates were
walks or small pizzas. Money means love to N so it makes sense
that if he didnt feel love and of course hes not able to love, he
wasnt going to spend money. My N never tried to sweep me off my
feet but definitely took advantage of me knowing that I liked him.
I finally realized that when he gave me some dumb excuse about why
he couldnt take me to a movie (FIRST DATE ever after 7 times with
him) I realized his response was NOT NORMAL and abusive. On purpose
on the phone I said you hurt meand I cried to test his reaction
and of course it was not there. I did research and sent him a link
to Narcissism which he read but never discussed or refuted with me.
Sex as another website said was of the android type.he almost
perseverated doing the same motions over and over again and his
goal was always to self pleasure. It was 100% off horrible.

Yes, there were red flags from the beginning but I ignored them
because he came so highly recommended from wonderful people that we
both knew. So many lessons learnedmade me so much stronger in
trusting the reality of what type of man could be out thereLike
many responses here, I didnt know that a N existed as a serious
mental disorder.
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bldion | April 12, 2015 at 12:44 PM
I dont think there is anyone worse than a narcissist, but in
that same league I would include well-wishers. In other words,
well meaning people. They may indeed mean well, but their very
benignity is circumspect and should be taken lightly (if at
all). Listen to YOUand only YOU. Because you know yourself
better than anybody.
And what kind of arrogant person tries to tell you what would be
good for you? Simply state, Thanks, but you dont really know
meyou just think you do. And go on your merry way.
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Susan Leigh <http://www.facebook.com/1789555837> | March 29, 2015 at
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~^.^~
I Am Just Beginning ~
To Process ~
My Own Fears ~
And ~
My Own Abuse ~
I Understand ~
More Then ~
I Did Before ~
Part of Me ~
Wanted to Know ~
To Understand ~
My Children ~
What They Experienced
Part of Me ~
Needs to Talk ~
To Others ~
Who Have Experienced
Child Abuse ~
As a Mom ~
I Know ~
I Have to ~
Wear My Mask Again ~
Just Burn My Emotions ~
I Have to ~
Be Strong For My Kids ~
Part of Me ~
Died Last Night ~
~
When You Live ~
Only to Survive ~
And Protect ~
Your Family ~
You Dont Know ~
You Had Any ~
Choice ~
When You Are ~
Free And Safe ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able ~
To Make Choices ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able ~
To Speak ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able ~
To Write ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able ~
To Feel ~
Emotions ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able
To Feel ~
Your Fear ~
May Be Now ~
You Are Able ~
to Process ~
Everything ~
This is When ~
You Need ~
Someone Kind ~
To Just Listen ~
To You Talk ~
You Need ~
Someone Kind ~
To Give You ~
There Advise ~
You Need ~
Someone Kind ~
To Give You ~
A Hug ~
Someone to ~
Be Your Friend ~
Someone Kind ~
To Give You ~
There Love ~
You May ~
Find Out ~
From People ~
Who Experienced ~
Abuse ~
Why Your ~
Children
Became Who ~
They Are Today ~
Why Your ~
Children ~
Behave A ~
Certain Way ~
Why You ~
Became Who ~
You Are Today ~
Why You ~
Behave A ~
Certain Way ~
Dont Ever ~
Blame Yourself ~
For What ~
The Abuser ~
Did to Your Kids ~
Dont Ever ~
Blame Yourself ~
For What ~
The Abuser ~
Did to You ~
You Were ~
Not Educated ~
To See the ~
Signs of an ~
Abuser ~
You Were ~
Not Educated ~
To Know ~
You Were In ~
an Abusive ~
Relationship ~
Your Children ~
Were Not Educated ~
To Know ~
the Signs ~
Your Children ~
Were Not Educated ~
To Know What to Do ~
Dont Ever~
Blame Yourself ~
For Not Protecting ~
Your Children ~
You Did Not Know ~
What the Abuser ~
Was Doing to Them ~
Dont Ever ~
Blame Yourself ~
You Did Not Know ~
What the Abuser ~
Was Doing to You ~
You Just Did ~
What You Did ~
To Just Survive ~
Your Children ~
Just Did ~
What They Did ~
To Just Survive ~
The Sad Thing ~
About Experiencing ~
Abuse ~
No One Ever Had ~
Been Abused ~
The Same Way ~
No One Ever ~
Comes Out Of ~
Abuse ~
The Same Way ~
You Will Never ~
Be the Same ~
Person You Were ~
Before You Were Abused ~
It is Ok ~
To Now Feel ~
Your Emotions ~
It is Ok to Cry ~
It is Ok to Be Angry ~
It is Ok to Talk ~
It is Ok to Take ~
Off Your Mask ~
Always Remember ~
You Were Never ~
An Victim ~
Always Remember ~
You Were Strong ~
Always Remember ~
You Were Never Weak ~
Always Remember ~
The Life Lessons ~
You Learned ~
You Dont ~
Have to Remember ~
Who Taught You ~
This Life Lesson ~
Be Grateful ~
That Your Children
And heart emoticon
You Are Alive ~
~^.^~
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OnceBittenTwiceShy | March 6, 2015 at 4:17 PM
I tried, but cant write what my narc boyfriend did to me because I
feel such shame, humiliation and embarrassment at being so easily
manipulated. Suffice to say, his behaviour was emotional torture
with a sense of entitlement and without remorse in fact, hes
angry at me for leaving.
Although Im very pleased to be out of that relationship, Im
finding it hard to trust men at face value. Ive tried dating over
the past 12 months but the moment a guy puts a foot wrong Im out of
there. My narc took away my trust in myself to judge others
accurately and he took away my ability to withstand any sort of
normal disagreement. He made me look stupid in front of people who
used to respect my intelligence and he stole the positive, trusting,
happy-go-lucky woman I was, leaving a scared, negative, suspicious
shell of a person.
My negative outlook on relationships isnt a conscious choice, it
seems to have happened naturally and out of fear of being trapped
again. If somebody else told me they felt these things Id tell them
to forget relationships for now: get out and live life, have
positive experiences, enjoy laughter again, be happy and the self
will naturally re-grow. But I honestly wonder if Ill ever believe
what I see in people or continue to wonder if a controlling
nastiness is lurking within them.
Fourteen months have gone by since I left my narco
best thing I did but will I ever be free of him?
emails accusing me of silly and untrue behaviours.
my phone and emails and I dont reply, so he wrote
about me to my daughter and threatened to write to
and it is the
He writes me
I blocked him on
the same rubbish
my friends. From
what I read narcs are not physically dangerous, I only have to wait
it out and he will stop. Right? And I will rebuild my sense of self
and trust in others right? Im 47 years old.
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anonymous | April 2, 2015 at 8:15 AM
I could have written everything you just did above. I am in a
relationship right now, and the slightest criticism, the
slightest disagreement makes me want to run for the hills. I
keep reminding me that NORMAL people are fallible, and they will
make mistakes, but I cant shake the feeling that I am going to
get sucked into this again.
After my narc ex (whom I was with for 6 years- oh the shame I
have for those many years, and regret for wasting so much of my
life. Only two good things came out of that relationship- my
twins) I went to counseling and it helped SO MUCH. However,
although it talked about healthy relationships, etc, it didnt
prepare me for my mistrust of almost anything with a penis-or a
heartbeat. I have been in 2 relationships like this, but my
recent ex being by far the worst. My first relationship like
this was when I was 19, and although he was super
abusive/controlling, his seems so light in comparison. HE was
very blatant about his abuse, whereas my recent ex was so subtle
about it.
he was a drug addict/criminal, who was a smooth talker,
charming, loving, put me on a pedestal, and made me feel
amazing. Then.he didnt. Then I was scum. I was never enough. I
love reading these and seeing people write the things I used to
say to him. ie. You are like Jekyll and Hyde, you are a life
sucking leech, you only ever take but never give. Looking back,
I think in the back of my mind I knew he was something else. I
just didnt want to believe in something so horrible, or that I
was a victim again. He also used his addiction as a way to
manipulate and keep me around. It was his addictions fault.
Although, you know, one day he said something to me years ago
that sent shivers down my spine. He said to me My heart is
wicked and evil. When I tried to console him, with those dead
eyes, he repeated it, but said trust me I wish I would have
listened.
Even his parents told me to run, although they are now on his
side and I am the evil doer. Meh. Cant take the blinders off of
parents.
He has a girlfriend now, and is trying to gain access to our

children (the children he hasnt had a relationship with since
their birth, whom he walked away from over and over again). All
I can think about his girlfriend right now is- good luck. I feel
so bad for her. In the past, I would have been so angry and
jealous, but now I just have pity. I hope she learns faster than
I did.
You will get over this. I will get over this. We just have to
learn to give the benefit of the doubt, even though we did so
many times in the past and got burned so badly. I have realized
that I am not finished with counseling. I need more, and more in
depth counseling. I need to go all the way back to my childhood,
where my first encounter with a narc started- my mother.
We are going to make it! We are victorious!
Oh and please block him from EVERYTHING! Dont respond. Dont
answer calls. Dont even read them. Tell you daughter to do the
same. The only way to keep them away, is to make it hard for
them to get to you.
After I broke with with my ex, he tried to come back in. I kept
asserting myself and saying NO. I wouldnt feed into him trying
to suck me back in, and boy did he try! He finally gave up and
met this new girl. I am so happy he did, but at the same time,
so sad for her. She has no idea what she has gotten herself into.
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Anonymous | July 7, 2015 at 7:11 AM
My God! You are describing my life!!
I, too feel so damaged and cautious all of the time. I know that
I need help dealing with this, counseling and maybe support
groups? I moved 1050 miles away from him, yet the behavior still
reaches me because of the ability to find me through other
peoples FB accounts. The defamation of my character, his
abandonment issues, financial problems, all of our personal
problems simply aired out in the open to everyone! Im so
humiliated and ashamed! Im still his target! Its all my fault
and hes going to make me pay for it!! I feel defeated and
exhausted. Im truly in Hell!!
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keyz | November 22, 2015 at 2:47 PM
Not truethey can be very abusive.
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ologsinquito | January 15, 2015 at 6:38 AM
This sums it up so well. They are very dangerous, whether you are
romantically involved, or the narcissist is just your friend.
Youll suffer in the end. But please keep spreading the message that
there is happiness again, once you get back on your feet.
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sunkist123 | January 13, 2015 at 10:57 AM
This is an excellent post and I agree with everything you wrote.
From my experiences, the worst aspect of it is the individuals
Jekyll/Hyde abilities- the ability to make everyone believe he is
right/good/etc., while Im essentially the scum of the earth whos
wasting valuable space by existing. He does not show his true self
to anyone but his victims.
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Scott | January 11, 2015 at 9:28 AM
Yeah what she said, it is crazy that so much of what has been stated
applies. Cold, Grandiose x10, selfish, evil, diabolical & those are
her good qualities
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Jeff | January 10, 2015 at 1:47 PM
Can only say that I have only figured out the sickness in my
family in the last few years and it has been a painful journey. My
mother and brother are 2 of the sickest people I know and my dad
was a compliant doormat. My older brother molested and abused me
from the age of 5, he being 8 years older than me. After suppressing
the abuse for over 30 years I figured out that it was meant to steal
my soul at a young age by an older sibling who viewed me as a threat
to his superior existence. During my childhood my parents were
preoccupied after acquiring a property with an ocean view for their
later years while making me grow up in a gang and drug infested
neighborhood where I witnessed death for the first time at 15 with
many more to follow. I also became a heroin addict, now looking
back, as a way to emotionally cope with the sexual and emotional
abuse. They lived for many years with their ocean view together
until my fathers death on Christmas day a few weeks ago and now
my narcissus mother is using my fathers death as a way to
receive her narcissistic supply from everybody around her.
Just waiting for her to go drop dead and go to hell where she
belongsthere is a sizable estate and I just have to outlive the
demonic woman who gave birth to me. She is 85 and in poor health so
I pray it is soon so I can finally confront my brother who she
said I cannot confront while she is alive because if something
happened to me she would have nobody.
Guess that statement says it all.
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Hofman (@Gretige) <http://twitter.com/Gretige> | January 1, 2015 at
3:48 PM
I believe they are first selected, than manipulated.
Selection at the first generation, the next generations are being
observed an manipulated.
Once such behavior is known, they can be blackmailed and used for
agendas of treason by the enemies of the communities.
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Karen | December 18, 2014 at 6:47 PM
They live by the saying do as I say not as I do.
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freebird8790 <http://gravatar.com/freebird8790> | December 18, 2014
at 3:59 AM
To Nancy Robinson: Your story hurts my heart! When I was trying to
help a friend of mine with her divorce (after mine, from my ex-Nar
of 23 years), her husband wanted to do the same thing (stop the
divorce process) you & your lawyer could have filed a motion that
doesnt allow the process to stop if the other party tries to bail
out at the last minute. Im sorry your lawyer did not advise you of
that so that you could continue on with the divorce proceeding and
finally get it all over with. Im sorry youve had to deal with such
a horrid creature for so long. I hope Karma eventually shows up in
his world at what he has done to you.
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marrohop <http://marrohop.wordpress.com/> | December 17, 2014 at
10:32 AM
Evil Evil they have no compassion for anybody on the
face-of-the earth. Including their own children. Just greed and
compent for everyone. Blood-sucking leeches. May the devil take them.
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pooloftears | December 2, 2014 at 1:15 AM
If I may I would like to contribute another thought about arguing
with a narcissist (in response to one of the many quotes
characterizing their behavior): Id rather that you didnt surround
yourself with allies in a safe place to argue with a narcissist. If
the option is there at all, Id rather that you just DONT argue
with the narcissist, ever. The time and energy and money which most
of us spend pursuing loving relationships with the Divine, others,
and ourselves, careers with substance and meaning, good health, and
advancement in other pursuits that matter to us, the narcissist uses
to perfect his or her craft of manipulation and sabotage.
While life is a much bigger deal than any game, theres something to
be said for framing life, and especially conflicts and arguments
that way. You as a presumably normal-to-healthy person are playing a
game in which your objective is to stop a pattern of abuse thats
causing pain in your life, and you play by rules that involve logic
and morality. The trouble with this is that you will absolutely
never in a million years win this game, because the narcissist is
not playing with you, even if they are right there interacting with
you. The narcissist plays by infinitely changeable rules, and

his/her objective is to come out on top. Youre playing checkers and
the narcissist is playing make-the-other-person-crazy. You may win
the game thats sitting there on the table, but the narcissist is
going to be playing a whole other game the whole time, maybe dozens
of them, and they WILL win. They wont stop.
If they cant or dont want to beat you at checkers, they might play
stomp-on-the-opponents-foot-under-the-table.
If that doesnt work, they might play
harp-on-the-opponents-ugly-outfit-until-they-snap.
If that doesnt work, theyll make up one game after another until
they find one in which they win and you lose.
Same thing with an argument. They will probably never admit youre
right, and you can be quite certain that if they do, they will find
some way to establish themselves as *more* right. The only way to
win against a narcissist is to get as far away as you can.
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Betsy | December 1, 2014 at 6:40 AM
Its my mother and her 5 other children and grandchildren. Its
gaslighting and humiliating activity. Its lying to others outside
the family. Its bullying through email and text messages. Its
psychological games to make me break down in ruin and self doubt.
Its deep fear for myself and my children both for mental and
physical anguish. Its pure evil.
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Desiree Pretorius <http://narcissistic/> | December 1, 2014 at 1:16
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My self worth my life my kids im a broken person.

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You will mend, you need to educate your children softly about
their expectations from others to fortify their self esteem.
I have family narcs and grew up to accept rage as being normal
if the person loves you.
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Vanda <http://facebook/> | November 30, 2014 at 6:47 PM
The worse is the loneliness you feel after or if ever you get away.
If you dont respond they use the ones you love to get to you. No
one believed me, they more blamed me and turned away , told me to
get over it and lose the anger. Shut down the creatures ability to
create havoc in my soul. They see me as unstable and paranoid and I
lost faith in human kind because of it. I had two encounters with
two different narcs at almost the same time. Both relatives and both
I loved. Because they were family losing them was impossible. I got
to see and feel everyday the carnage they created in my life. It is
still the same. My mom just passed and what the creature caused in
that hospital while she suffered was criminal. But the creature got
her show. At my mom s expense. I need help . I need to get away.
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movingliquid <http://movingliquid.wordpress.com/> | November 30,
2014 at 6:24 PM
The saddest part is we only find out about narcissists when we have
suffered one. By then its too late.
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Agree, they are covert fakes, appear to be wonderful with plenty
of close friends. They humiliate you in full view, then more in
private. My experience was me being a sobbing mess at a party,
he most likely blamed PMT or some other womans issue.
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Nancy Robinson | November 30, 2014 at 2:56 PM
Try getting divorced from a Narcissist! In the above great article,
the paragraph that particularly struck me was the one titled Non
identity=Non accountability. My N husband and I have been legally
separated for 6 years, and living apart for more than 7 years. All
of a sudden, in this past April 2014, he decided to change the Legal
Separation Agreement to a divorce. This necessitated my retaining a
lawyer. I had no money, and an anonymous person gave me $5000.00 to
fight for my rights in this weird, sci-fi battle. Five months of
ugliness, thousands of dollars spent on each side, and guess what!!!
The morning of the day we were to go to our final court date to sign
the divorce papers, HE told his lawyer to drop the whole thing. Two
hours later, I got an email from m lawyer saying the divorce filing
had been dropped y the court. My lawyer and I had fought hard with
HIS lawyer, and gained some things that would have helped me. All
gone! My N husband felt no accountability even to his own lawyer and
the court system,and in the end, capriciously left me back in
limbo-land.with business as usual. I was so stunned, I spent much
of the next two months sleeping on the sofa with a blanket over my
head. He is 75 and i am 72..too old for this kind of nonsense. I
dont know why he dropped the divorce.. There must have
been.something financially advantageous to him i doing so.
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After Narcissistic Abuse

Why Are Narcissists Are So Dangerous?

/Perfect Image /Anyone who thinks that perfection is obtainable and

Arguments surrounding the same issues over and over

Kaye: Cunning, insidious, remorseless, selfish, abusive, liar, phoney,

Dorie: Sneaky and calculating

Zero Insight Zero Empathy, not a good combo

Rowena: Con artists x

Others should know

From MY Book: From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between

his lines of crap, he blames my good friend for being so pathetic to

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call zero discard just a rage.

goal was always to self pleasure. It was 100% off horrible.

He has a girlfriend now, and is trying to gain access to our

you. The narcissist plays by infinitely changeable rules, and

My self worth my life my kids im a broken person.

or moving on and in love again!

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