‫ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻋﺎﺷﻘﻲ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﺑﻴﻦ ‪ 18‬ﻣﺎﻩ ﺗﺎ ﺳﻪ ﺳﺎﻝ‬

‫ﻫﻠﻦ ﻓﻴﺸﺮ )‪ ،(Helen fisher‬ﻣﺤﻘﻖ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﺷﻨﺎﺱ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﮕﺎﻩ ﺭﻭﺗﮕﺮ ﻧﻴﻮﺟﺮﺳﻲ‪ ،‬ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺳﺮﺷﻨﺎﺳﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﺤﻘﻘﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺳﻄﺢ ﺟﻬﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﻛﺘﺎﺑﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﺘﻌﺪﺩﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺑﻪ ﭼﺎپ ﺭﺳﻴﺪﻩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺟﻤﻠﻪ "ﺁﻧﺎﺗﻮﻣﻲ ﻋﺸﻖ" )‪ (1992‬ﻭ "ﺟﻨﺲ ﻗﻮﻱ"‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ" ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﻋﺸﻖ‪ ،‬ﺷﻜﺴﺖ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﭘﺮﺩﺍﺯﺩ‪ .‬ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺟﺪﻳﺪ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ "ﭼﺮﺍ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ‌‬
‫)‪ (1999‬ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻝ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﭘﺮﺩﺍﺯﺩ‬
‫ﻋﺸﻖ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﻧﻘﺶ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ‌‬

‫ﻣﺠﻠﻪ ﺍﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ ﻣﺼﺎﺣﺒﻪ ﺟﺎﻟﺒﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭘﺮﻓﺴﻮﺭ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﺍﺩﻩ‪:‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻃﺒﻖ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﻟﻲ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻ‬

‫ﻣﺠﻠﻪ ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺧﺎﻧﻢ ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ ،‬ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻭ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻱﻛﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﻗﻮﻝ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺗﺎ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﻣﺮگ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺍﻧﺠﺎﻣﺪ؟‬
‫ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ‪ 4‬ﺳﺎﻝ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻗﻮﻝ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺪﺍﻳﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻴﻤﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺟﺪﺍ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﻠﻪ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺪﺍﺭﻙ ﺟﻤﻊ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺯ ‪ 58‬ﻛﺸﻮﺭ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻡ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺟﺪﻳﺪ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻃﻮﻝ ‪ 4‬ﺳﺎﻝ ﺍﻭﻝ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ‌‬
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‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﻣﻲﻣﺎﻧﻴﻢ؟ " ‪ ٪97‬ﺍﺯ ﺟﺎﻧﻮﺍﺭﺍﻥ ﭘﺴﺘﺎﻧﺪﺍﺭ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﻭﺍﻗﻊ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ " :‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻣﺎ ﺍﺻﻮﻻ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ‌‬
‫ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺗﻴﻤﻬﺎﻱ ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮﻱ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻧﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﭘﺲ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ؟ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺴﺎﻟﻪ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻢ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻧﺎﻣﻴﻢ‪.‬‬
‫ﻭﻓﺎﺩﺍﺭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻳﻚ ﺣﺎﺩﺛﻪ ﺷﮕﻔﺖ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺩﻟﻴﻠﺶ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﺎﺫﺑﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺒﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻧﺮﺍ ﻋﺸﻖ ‌‬

‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ‌‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﭘﺪﻳﺪﻩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻖ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺳﻂ ﺩﺳﺘﮕﺎﻩ ‪ MRI‬ﻣﻌﺎﻳﻨﻪ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻳﻢ‪ ،‬ﺗﺎ‬
‫ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ‌‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻣﺎ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻭ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ‬
‫ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﻢ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺪﺍﻡ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻳﺎ ﻧﻪ؟‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻ ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﺣﺪﻭﺩ ‪ ٪ 95‬ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻛﺎﻓﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻢ ﺩﺭ ﻃﻮﻝ ﺭﻭﺯ ﭼﻪ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﺸﻮﻕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻭﻗﺖ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺏ ﭼﻮﻥ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﻣﺴﺦ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺧﺎﻟﺺ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﻤﺎﻳﻞ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﻮﺷﺶ‪ ،‬ﻫﺴﺘﻪ ﺍﺻﻠﻲ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﭘﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺩ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻦ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻗﻮﻳﺘﺮﻳﻦ‬
‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻋﺸﻖ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺳﺮﺳﺨﺖ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺪﺭﺕ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺨﺘﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺘﻞ ﺍﻭ ﻧﻤﻲ‬
‫ﻣﻴﻞ ﺟﻬﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻗﻮﻳﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻜﺲ‪ .‬ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺭﺧﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍﻧﺪﻩ ‌‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺭﺩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺘﻞ ﺭﺳﺎﻧﺪﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ ﺯﻳﺎﺩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﻳﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻫﺮ ﺳﻪ ﺯﻥ ﻣﻘﺘﻮﻝ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻣﺮﻳﻜﺎ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻮﻱ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺳﺎﺑﻖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺘﻞ ﺭﺳﻴﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺯﻧﻨﺪ؟‬
‫ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﻣﻘﺘﻮﻝ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺳﺎﺑﻖ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ‪ ٪4‬ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﺷﻜﺴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻧﻪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺳﻪ ﭼﻬﺎﺭﻡ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺳﺮﺧﻮﺭﺩﮔﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ‬
‫ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻱ ﺑﺎ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﺑﺤﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻧﺘﺎﻳﺞ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﻣﻌﻤﻮﻻ ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻥ ﻳﻚ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺧﺎﺹ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ‌‬
‫ﭘﺸﺘﻴﺒﺎﻧﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ..‬ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻣﻌﺎﻳﻨﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ‬
‫ﺧﻄﺮﻧﺎﻛﻲ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻫﻢ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ‌‬
‫ﺍﻡ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺣﺎﺿﺮﻧﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻤﻴﺮﻧﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻧﻪ‪ .‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﮔﺮﻭﻩ ﺳﻨﻲ ﺣﺪﻭﺩ ‪ 20‬ﺳﺎﻝ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‬
‫ﻓﻚ ‌‬
‫ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﭘﺎﺳﺦ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺩﺍﺩﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﺍﺩﻡ‪.‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻣﻘﻄﻊ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﭘﺎﺳﺦ ﺭﺍ ‌‬

‫ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ؟‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﺑﺪﻥ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻣﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺁﺯﻣﺎﻳﺶ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻴﻜﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺳﺘﮕﺎﻩ ‪ MRI‬ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻋﻜﺲ ﻣﻌﺸﻮﻕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻳﻚ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻭ ﻧﺎﺣﻴﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻐﺰ ﻛﻪ‬
‫ﻋﻜﺲ ﻏﺮﻳﺒﻪ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺩﻳﻢ ﻭ ﻋﻜﺴﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﻐﺰﻱ ﺁﻧﻪﺍ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻭ ﺣﺎﻟﺖ ﻣﻘﺎﻳﺴﻪ ﻛﺮﺩﻳﻢ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻝ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺷﻨﺎﺳﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﻳﻢ‪ .‬ﺍﺯ ﻋﻼﺋﻢ ﺑﺎﺭﺯ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ )‪ (Dopamin‬ﻭ‬
‫ﻧﻮﺭﺁﺩﺭﻧﺎﻟﻴﻦ )‪ (Noradrenalin‬ﻭ ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦ ﺁﻣﺪﻥ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺳﺮﻭﺗﻮﻧﻴﻦ )‪ (Serotonin‬ﺩﺭ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻧﺮژﻱ ﺟﻮﺷﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺗﺤﺮﻳﻜﺎﺕ‬
‫ﭘﺶ ﻗﻠﺐ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﻪ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻮپ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻧﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺷﺤﺎﻝ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺪ ﺭﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻠﺴﻪ‪ ،‬ﻋﺮﻕ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺯﻳﺎﺩ ﻭ ﺕ‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻫﻮﻣﺮ )‪ (Hommer‬ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﻪ ﺭﺳﻴﺪﻩ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ‪ ":‬ﻭ ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻋﺎﻗﻼﻥ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻋﻘﻠﺸﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ؟‬
‫ﺭﺑﻮﺩ"‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻩ ﻣﻪ ﺩﻳﻮﺍﻧﮕﻲ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﺎﻳﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻛﻪ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﺪﻥ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻦ ﻫﻢ ﻣﺪﺗﻬﺎ ﺗﺼﻮﺭ ﻣﻲ‌ﻛﺮﺩﻡ ﻛﻪ ﻃﺒﻴﻌﺖ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﻏﺮﺍﻕ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻻﻥ ﻭﻟﻲ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺁﻣﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﺎ )ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻮﻟﻴﺪ ﻣﺜﻞ( ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻳﻚ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻭ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺮژﻱ ﺗﻠﻒ ﻧﺸﻮﺩ‬
 ‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﻣﻲﻝ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﻧﺒﻮﺩ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﺤﺮﻳﻚ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻧﻪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻴﻞ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺷﺮﻳﻜﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﺘﻌﺪﺩﻱ ﺟﻠﺐ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ..‬ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺑﺎﻻﻱ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺷﺪﻳﺪﺗﺮ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺗﺴﺘﺴﺘﺮﻭﻥ ﻫﻢ ‌‬
‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻣﻌﺸﻮﻕ ‌‬
‫ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺩﻝﻳﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻋﺸﺎﻕ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺗﺮﻙ ﺍﻃﺎﻕ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻋﻠﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺷﺪﺕ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ؟ ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻄﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺘﺎﺑﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﺷﻬﺎﻱ ﺻﺤﺮﺍﻳﻲ ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺛﺎﻧﻴﻪ‬
‫ﺷﺎﻣﭙﺎﻧﺰﻩﻫﺎ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺩﻭﺍﻥ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﭼﻄﻮﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﻴﻠﻬﺎ ﻣﺪﺕ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺭﻭﺯ‪ .‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺟﻠﺐ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ‌‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻴﺮﻭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﺿﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺮگ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﺮ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺩﻭ ﭘﺎ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺩﺍﺩ‪ .‬ﺗﺎ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﻛﺎﻥ ﻣﺎ )ﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺘﻤﺎﻻ ﺷﺒﻴﻪ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻣﻦ ﺗﺼﻮﺭ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺳﺘﺎﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺁﺯﺍﺩ‬
‫ﺷﺎﻣﭙﺎﻧﺰﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﺑﻮﺩﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ( ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺩﻭ ﭘﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻴﺎﻣﻮﺯﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺎﺩﻩ‌ﻫﺎ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﭘﺸﺖ ﺣﻤﻞ ‌‬
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‫ﺑﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺣﻔﺎﻇﺖ ﻭ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻫﻲ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺣﺪﻭﺩ ‪ 6‬ﺗﺎ ‪ 7‬ﻣﻴﻠﻴﻮﻥ ﺳﺎﻝ ﻗﺒﻞ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ ﺗﺺﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ‬
‫ﻣﺎﺩﻩﻫﺎ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻐﻞ ‌‬
‫ﺭﻭﻱ ﺩﻭ ﭘﺎ ﻛﺮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺁﻏﺎﺯ ﺷﺪ‪ :‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻻ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﺑﺎ ﻳﻚ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﺁﺫﻭﻗﻪ ﺑﮕﺮﺩﻧﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﻓﺎﻉ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﭘﺲ ﺑﻪ‬
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‫ﻳﻚ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﺍﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ؟‬

‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻳﻚ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻬﺪﻩ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﻭﻇﻴﻔﻪ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈﺖ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﻢ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻧﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﺎﻧﺲ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﻩ ﻣﺎﻧﺪﻥ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ‌‬
‫ﻛﺎﺭ ﺳﺨﺘﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﭽﻪ ﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻮﻱ ﻳﻚ ﺟﻔﺖ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈﺖ ‌‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﺎﻧﺠﺎ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻃﻬﺎﻱ ﺳﻠﻮﻟﻬﺎﻱ ﻋﺼﺒﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﺣﺲ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺷﻜﻞ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻋﺎﺷﻘﻲ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺗﺮ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺸﻮﺩ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻋﺸﻘﻲ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻃﺒﻖ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻘﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻴﻦ ‪ 18‬ﻣﺎﻩ ﺗﺎ ﺳﻪ ﺳﺎﻝ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻮﺍﻧﻌﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﻼ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭ ﻛﺸﻮﺭ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻣﺘﺎﻫﻞ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺳﻴﺴﺖ ﺗﺮﺷﺤﻲ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ :‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﻣﻐﺰ "ﭘﺎﺩﺍﺷﻲ" ﺩﺭﻳﺎﻓﺖ ﻧﻜﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﺘﺮ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ‪...‬‬
‫ﻡ‬ ‫ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺎﺕ‬
 ‫ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ ...:‬ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻗﺎﺑﻠﻴﺖ ﺭﻧﺠﺒﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻻ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﻠﻪ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﺟﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﮕﻲ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺧﻮﺵ ﺷﺎﻧﺲ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺲ ﻋﺎﺷﻘﻲ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺵﺗﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻧﺪ‪ :‬ﺍﻭﻛﺴﻴﺘﻮﺳﻴﻦ )‪ (Oxytocin‬ﻭ ﻭﺍﺳﻮﭘﺮﺳﻴﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻧﻬﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﻛﺎﺭﮔﺮﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻬﺪﻩ ‌‬
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‫)‪ (Vasopressin‬ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺣﺲ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻜﻲ ﻭ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻧﻬﺎﻱ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﻭ ﺗﺴﺘﺴﺘﺮﻭﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻢ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ‬
‫ﻭﺍﻧﺪ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺷﺐ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺎﻕ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻣﻌﺸﻮﻕ ﺑﺪﻭﺩ !‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻧﻤﻲ ﺕ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺻﺎﺣﺐ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﻱ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻭﺟﻬﺎ ﺩﻗﻴﻘﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﻳﻚ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻣﺮﺗﺐ ﺳﻜﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﻱ ﻧﻜﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺎ ﺟﺎﻧﻮﺭﻱ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺮﺗﺐ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺁﻣﻴﺰﺵ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﻗﺒﻴﻠﻪ ﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﺍﻛﺜﺮﺍ ﺭﻭﺯﺍﻧﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺗﺴﺘﺴﺘﺮﻭﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻥ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﻫﻢ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻨﺎﺳﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺯﻭﺟﻬﺎﻱﻱ ﺭﺍ ‌‬
‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮﺍﺭﻱ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻛﻤﻚ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﻣﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺭﻣﺎﻧﺘﻴﻚ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻛﻪ ﻣﻴﻠﻲ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ ﻭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ..‬ﻛﻴﻔﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﻛﻤﻲ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻛﻢ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ‌‬
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‫ﻳﻚ ﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻳﻮﺍﻧﮕﻲ ﻛﻮﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﻭﻟﻲ ﻳﻚ ﺣﺲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺭﻧﮕﺎﺭﻧﮓ ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﻧﻘﺸﻬﺎﻱ ﻳﻚ ﻗﺎﻟﻲ ﺷﺮﻗﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻛﻪ‬
‫ﭘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺍﺣﺘﺮﺍﻡ‪ ،‬ﻃﻨﺰ ﻭ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﺍﺕ ﻣﺸﺘﺮﻙ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻢ ﺑﭙﺎﺷﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺍﻳﻨﻬﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﺗﻮﺿﻴﺢ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ‪ :‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭ ﻃﺒﻴﻌﺖ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺎ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺮﺩﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﺏ ﻭ ﮔﻞ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻣﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺯﻧﻬﺎﻱ ﻗﺒﻴﻠﻪ ﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺟﻨﻮﺏ ﺁﻓﺮﻳﻘﺎ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻬﺎﺭ ﺳﺎﻝ ﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺑﭽﻪ ﺩﺍﺭ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻲ‌ﺁﻳﺪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ ﻣﺪﺭﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺴﺎﻟﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﻃﻼﻕ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ‪ 4‬ﺳﺎﻝ ﺍﻭﻝ ﺷﻜﻞ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‬
‫ﻃﺒﻴﻌﺖ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺗﻲ ﺑﺮﻭﺩ‪ .‬ﻭ ﻣﻦ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺎ ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻧﻴﺎﻛﺎﻧﻤﺎﻥ ﺷﺒﻴﻪ ﺗﺮ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﭼﺮﺍ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ "ﺍﻗﺘﺼﺎﺩﻱ" ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻗﺒﻴﻠﻪ ﺍﻱ‪ ،‬ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ‪ ٪80‬ﺁﺫﻭﻗﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺎﻣﻴﻦ ‌‬
‫ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﻪ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯﻩ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺋﻴﺲ ﺑﺎﻧﻚ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻣﺜﺎﻝ‪ ،‬ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﺤﺼﻴﻼﺕ ﻳﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻣﺪﻱ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﺴﺮﺵ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺯﻧﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺗﺮﻙ ﻧﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ ﭼﻮﻥ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺍﻗﺘﺼﺎﺩﻱ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺟﻮﺍﻣﻊ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ‌‬
‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺍﺳﺘﻪ ﭘﺎﻳﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪...‬‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺗﻮﺍﻥﺍﻳﻲ ﺁﻧﺮﺍ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ‌‬
‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺻﺎﺣﺐ ﺍﺳﺘﻘﻼﻝ ﺍﻗﺘﺼﺎﺩﻱ ‌‬

‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻮﺍﺯﻱ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﻮﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻳﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻬﺶ ﺧﻴﺎﻧﺖ‬

‫‌‬ ‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻮﺍﺯﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ؟ )ﺗﻮﺿﻴﺢ ﺧﻮﺩﻡ‪ :‬ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻳﺎ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻣﻴﮕﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﺧﻼﻗﻴﺶ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻢ‪(.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻳﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ‬
‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻮﺍﺯﻱ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ‌‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻓﻴﺶ‪ :‬ﻧﻪ‪ ،‬ﻧﻪ ﺍﻟﺰﺍﻣﺎ‪ .‬ﺟﺎﻟﺐ ﺍﻳﻨﺠﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯﻩ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﮔﺬﺷﺘﻪ ﻛﻤﺘﺮ‬
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‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯﻱ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺘﻌﺪﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞ ﻛﻪ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻥ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻫﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻫﻢ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻩ ﺗﺮ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ؟ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺁﻣﺎﺭ ﻃﻼﻕ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮ ﻧﻴﺰ ‌‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﺮﻳﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ ﺍﺩﺍﻣﻪ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﻠﻪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺷﻚ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻡ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺷﻜﻠﻬﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳﺪ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺁﻣﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻣﺜﺎﻝ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻮﻉ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﺼﻮﺭﺕ ﺩﻭ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺗﻼﺵ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺣﻔﻆ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ‬
‫ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺟﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺧﺎﺻﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻟﻐﻮ ‌‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻫﻤﭽﻨﺎﻥ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ‪-‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﻭ ﺳﻪ ﺑﺎﺭﻩ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﺎﻱ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯﻱ ﺍﻣﻴﺪ ﺑﺮ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻣﺎ ﻫﻤﭽﻨﺎﻥ ﺗﻼﺵ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﻢ ﻛﺮﺩ‪-‬ﺗﻘﺼﻴﺮ ﺑﻪ ﮔﺮﺩﻥ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﻋﺼﺒﻲ ﻭ ﻫﻮﺭﻣﻮﻧﻲ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ !‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﻣﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻘﺪﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺑﻲ ﺍﺭﺍﺩﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ؟ ﺗﺎ ﭼﻪ ﺣﺪ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻱ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ؟‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻣﺎ ﺣﺪﺍﻗﻞ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﻠﻮ ﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪.‬‬
‫ﺗﺼﻮﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﺻﺎﺣﺐ ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪﻱ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻋﻴﻦ ﺣﺎﻝ ﺷﺨﺼﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺤﻞ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ‪":‬ﻧﻪ‪،‬ﻣﻦ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺖ ﻫﺴﺘﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺷﺨﺺ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻣﺘﺎﻫﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻣﺎ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﻓﻖ‬
‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺟﺬﺍﺏ ‌‬
‫ﻧﺨﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ"‪ .‬ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺻﺮﻑ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻧﻲ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺻﺮﻑ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺯ ﺳﻜﺲ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ ﺗﺮ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎﻳﻞ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺁﺧﺮ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻣﺎ ﻣﺮﺗﺐ ﺑﺎ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺮﺧﻮﺭﺩ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻓﺸﺎﺭﻳﻢ‪.‬‬
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‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﻣﻮﺍﺯﻱ ﻫﻢ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻗﺎﻋﺪﺗﺎ ﺑﻠﻪ‪ .‬ﻗﺴﻤﺘﻬﺎ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﻣﻐﺰ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻝ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻋﺸﻖ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻭ ﻫﻮﺱ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪‌ ،‬‬
‫ﻣﺎ ﺣﺘﻲ ﻗﺎﺩﺭﻳﻢ ﺑﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻋﻴﻦ ﺣﺎﻝ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺗﺌﻮﺭﻱ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻫﻢ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺳﻮ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺩﺭﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺛﺒﺎﺕ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ‬
‫ﺗﻮﺿﻴﺢ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺍﺳﺘﺮﺍﺗﮋﻱ ﺩﻭﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﭘﺎﺭﺕ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻥ ﺍﻧﺘﻘﺎﻝ ژﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺴﻞ ﺑﻌﺪﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻧﺮ‬
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‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪.‬‬
‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻮﻓﻖ ﻧﻴﺰ‪ ،‬ﻣﺎ ﺷﺒﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺗﺨﺖ ﺧﻮﺍﺑﻴﺪﻩ ﺍﻳﻢ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ‌‬
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‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻱ ﺗﺨﺮﻳﺐ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﻣﻐﺰ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ‪....‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻱ ﺗﺨﺮﻳﺐ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺟﺪﺍﻳﻲ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭﺩ ﺁﻥ ﺟﺪﺍﻳﻲ ﺗﻘﺮﻳﺒﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﺷﺪﺕ ﺷﺎﺩﺍﺑﻲ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ‬
‫ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺷﺨﺎﺹ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﻳﺪ؟ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﺸﺎﻫﺪﺍﺗﻲ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻴﺪ؟‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺷﺨﺎﺹ ﺩﻭ ﺣﺲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﻳﺪﻩ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ‪ :‬ﺧﺸﻢ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺍﻣﻴﺪﻱ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻭ ﻓﺎﺯ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﻴﺎﻭﺭﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ :‬ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺟﺪﺍﻳﻲ ﺍﺑﺘﺪﺍ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺧﺸﻢ ﻳﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﺮﺍﺽ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺷﺨﺺ ﺳﻌﻲ ‌‬
‫ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﻓﺮﺩ ‌‬
‫ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺗﺮﺷﺤﻲ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ‪ ،‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻓﻌﺎﻝ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ‪،‬ﭼﻮﻥ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻫﻢ "ﭘﺎﺩﺍﺷﻲ" ﺩﺭﻳﺎﻓﺖ ﻧﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻧﺮژﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺻﺮﻑ‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﺮﺩﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺘﻲ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺣﺲ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻫﻢ ﻗﻮﻳﺘﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﺑﺴﻲﺍﺭ ﺯﻳﺎﺩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺳﺎﺑﻖ ﻣﺤﻮﺭ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ‌‬
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‫ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺲ ﻧﻔﺮﺕ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺸﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪...:‬ﺣﺲ ﻧﻔﺮﺕ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﺩﻥ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﻛﻤﻲ ﻋﺠﻴﺐ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ! ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺍﻗﻊ ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺁﺧﺮﻳﻦ ﺗﻼﺵ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻨﺠﺎ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺑﺮ ﺳﺮ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ ژﻧﻬﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺒﺎﺭﺯﻩ ‌‬
‫ﺭﻭﺵ ﻛﺎﺭﺳﺎﺯ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻫﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺩﻭ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺮﻣﻲ ﮔﺮﺩﻧﺪ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻓﺸﺎﺭ ﺳﺨﺖ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﻲ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﻼ ﺗﻬﺪﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻃﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﺮ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺷﻮﺩ ﺗﺎ ﻛﻲ ﺍﺩﺍﻣﻪ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻛﻤﻜﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﺪﺍ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﻭ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺧﺸﻢ ﻭ ﻧﻔﺮﺕ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻛﺴﻲ ﺯﻧﮓ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺯﻧﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺧﺎﻛﺴﺘﺮﻱ ‌‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﭘﺎﺭﻧﺘﺮ ﺟﺪﻳﺪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻓﺎﺯ ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﺳﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﻭ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺩﭼﺎﺭ ﺩﭘﺮﺳﻴﻮﻥ ‌‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻃﺒﻴﻌﺖ ﺟﺪﺍﻳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻘﺪﺭ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ؟ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﻧﺒﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﺘﺮ ﺑﺎ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺮژﻱ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﺸﺘﻴﻢ؟‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﭼﺮﺍ‬
‫ﻙ ﺗﺮﻙ ‌‬
‫ﻓﺎﻳﺪﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩﺵ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﻛﺴﻲ ﻩ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ ﻫﻢ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻣﻦ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ‪،‬‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺍﻭ ﻳﻜﺒﺎﺭﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻟﺒﺎﻥ ﺧﻨﺪﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺧﻮﺍﺳﺘﻦ ‌‬
‫ﺯﻳﺎﺩ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ ﻳﻚ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺳﻂ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ﺗﺮ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺿﻤﻦ‪ ،‬ﻱﻙ ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ ﺧﻔﻴﻒ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺭﺍﻫﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﺘﺮ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ؟‬
‫ﻳﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﻢ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﻧﺎﻣﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺏ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﺰﺭﮔﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺍﻭ ‌‬
‫ﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﻋﻜﺴﻬﺎ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭﺗﻬﺎ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻭ ﺗﻠﻔﻦ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﻢ‪...‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﭘﺲ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﻳﻚ ﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﺨﺪﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﺮﻙ ﺍﻋﺘﻴﺎﺩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺷﺒﻴﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺮﻙ ﻛﻮﻛﺎﺋﻴﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪:‬‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﻗﻴﻘﺎ‪ ،‬ﭘﺲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﺮﻙ ﺍﻋﺘﻴﺎﺩ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺩﻭﺭﻱ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺶ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺎﻟﻴﺨﻮﻟﻴﺎ‪ ،‬ﺧﺴﺘﮕﻲ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺭﻭﺣﻲ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺗﻔﺎﻭﺗﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻫﻢ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻮﻛﺎﺋﻴﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻴﻜﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺳﻴﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻛﺜﺮﺍ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﻣﻌﺘﺎﺩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺶ ﺭﻭﺯ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ‌‬
‫ﻣﺪﺗﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺶ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪.‬‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺗﺠﻮﻳﺰ ﻗﺮﺹ ﺭﺍ ﻧﻴﺰ ﭘﻴﺸﻨﻬﺎﺩ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﺸﻮﺩ؟ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺑﺎ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺍﺭﻭ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﺜﻼ ﺟﻠﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩﻛﺸﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺳﺮ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺮﻓﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻣﻦ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﻧﺨﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻳﻚ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺠﺎﺕ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺍﺭﻭﻫﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﺸﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺍﺭﻭﻫﺎ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﻭ ﺳﺮﻭﺗﻮﻧﻴﻦ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻢ‬
‫ﺍﺧﻄﺎﺭ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺑﻪ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ) ﺟﺪﻳﺪ( ﻭ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ‌‬
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‫ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺭﻓﺖ؟ ﻣﺜﻼ ﻣﻲ‌ﺗﻮﺍﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﺎ ﺣﺪ‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺍﺭﻭ ﺗﺎ ﻛﺠﺎ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻧﺪ )ﺑﻪ ﺍﺻﻄﻼﺡ‪ :‬ﺍﺳﺘﺎﻛﺮ ‪ (Stalker‬ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﻗﺮﺹ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺠﻮﻳﺰ ﻛﺮﺩ؟‬
‫ﻣﺰﺍﺣﻤﺖ ﭘﻴﺶ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻪ؟ ﺍﻱﻧﻜﻪ ﻣﻮﺍﺩ ﺷﻴﻤﻴﺎﻳﻲ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﻲ‌ﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﺁﺑﺠﻮ ﻫﻢ ﺧﻮﺭﺩﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪‌ ،‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ..‬ﻣﻦ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﺮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺍﺳﺘﺎﻛﺮ ﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﺍﺧﺘﻼﻻﺕ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺴﺎﻟﻪ ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻪ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺵ ﺑﺮﻭﺩ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﻧﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ ﭼﻮﻥ ﻳﺎﺩ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻧﺒﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻜﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﻟﺶ ‌‬
‫ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﺳﺘﺎﻛﺮﻫﺎ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺸﺶ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺪﺗﻬﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲ ﻋﻠﻢ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ ﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺩﺍﺭﻭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺟﻨﺴﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﺪﻳﺪ ‌‬
‫ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﺑﺮﻗﺮﺍﺭﻱ ﻳﺎ ﺗﺸﺪﻳﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ؟‬
‫ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻴﺸﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﺘﺮ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻛﻞ ﻣﻦ ﺍﺣﺘﻤﺎﻝ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺩﻫﻢ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ‬ ‫‪LSD‬‬ ‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻓﺮﻣﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻﻲ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻪ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ .‬ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﭘﺎﺭﺍﻣﺘﺮﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻲ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻫﻢ ﺟﻤﻊ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺨﺼﻲ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ :‬ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﻭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﻱ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻪ‬
‫ﺗﺤﺮﻳﻜﺎﺕ ﺣﺴﻲ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻲ ﻛﻪ ﭘﺎﺳﺦ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻛﻲ ﻣﺎ ﺷﻜﻞ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻣﻦ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﻭ ﻧﻮﺭﺁﺩﺭﻧﺎﻟﻴﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﮔﻲ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﺎﻻ‬
‫ﺑﺒﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﺳﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻐﺰ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻭ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﮔﻴﺮﺩ؟‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‪ :‬ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ‌‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺑﻠﻪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺟﻮﺍﻧﺎﻧﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻟﺸﺎﻥ ‌‬
‫ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﺳﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻐﺰ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮ ﭘﺎﻳﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺤﺮﻙ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻭﺭﺩﻥ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻓﻜﺮ ‌‬
‫ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺗﺮﺵﺣﻲ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﻣﻦ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ‬
‫ﺟﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻬﻴﺞ ﻭ ﺣﺘﻲ ﺧﻄﺮﻧﺎﻙ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻜﻲ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺗﺮﺷﺢ ﺩﻭﭘﺎﻣﻴﻦ ﻭ ﺗﺴﺘﺴﺘﺮﻭﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻻ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﻢ ﺑﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺧﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ ﻧﺮﻭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺧﻮﺷﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺁﻳﺪ‪،‬ﭼﻮﻥ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻋﺎﺷﻘﺶ ﺑﺸﻮﻳﺪ !‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﺠﻮﻳﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ‌‬

‫ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ؟‬
‫ﺣﻘﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺑﻪ ﺫﻫﻨﺘﺎﻥ ‌‬
‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺁﻳﺎ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻄﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ‪ Baudelaire‬ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪" :‬ﻣﺎ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺒﻪ ﺗﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ"‪ ،‬ﻣﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ‌‬
‫ﻋﻼﻗﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺸﺒﻴﻨﻲ ﻭ ﺍﺭﺿﺎ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻄﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻛﻪ ﻛﻤﻲ ﻣﺮﻣﻮﺯ ﺑﺎﻗﻲ ﺑﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﻛﻼ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻮﺛﺮﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﻫﻴﭻ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﻩ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻫﻔﺘﻪ ﺍﻭﻝ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻴﻞ ﺑﻪ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻫﻴﭻ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻦ !‪ ...‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﻣﻐﺰﻱ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻭﺭﺍﻥ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻔﺎﻭﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ‪،‬‬
‫ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﻩ ﺁﻥ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻮﺗﺒﺎﻝ ﺗﻤﺎﺷﺎ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻓﻌﺎﻝ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﻗﺴﻤﺘﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻐﺰ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺮﺑﻮﻁ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺤﺮﻳﻜﺎﺕ ﺑﻴﻨﺎﻳﻲ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﻌﺠﺐ ﺁﻭﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻗﺎﺑﻠﻴﺖ ﺯﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺿﻤﻴﻨﻪ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺟﺎﻟﺐ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺎﻧﻲ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ‌‬
‫ﺑﭽﻪﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺑﺮ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﻦ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺖ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺍﺯ ﭘﺲ ﻧﮕﻬﺪﺍﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ‌‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﭘﺎﺭﻧﺘﺮ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ‌‬
‫ﺍﻭ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻨﻜﺎﺭ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺮﺍﺗﺐ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺗﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺣﺎﻓﻈﻪ ﺍﻱ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﻣﺮﺗﺐ ﺑﺎ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ ﭼﻪ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﭼﻜﺎﺭ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ ﺁﻥ‬
‫ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ‌‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻐﺰ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺮﺑﻮﻁ ﺑﻪ ﺣﻔﻆ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﺍﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻓﻌﺎﻝ ‌‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﺍﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺁﺗﺶ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﻧﮕﻪ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﻧﻪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺩﺍﺋﻤﻲ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪ ﻫﺴﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ؟‬

‫ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬
‫‌‬ ‫ﻣﻲﮔﻔﺘﻢ ﺳﺎﻟﻲ ﻳﻚ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﺪﺍ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﺻﻞ ﺍﻻﻥ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ‌‬
‫ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭﻝ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ !‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺪﻱ ﻧﻤﻲ ﮔﻮﻱﻳﺪ !‬

‫ﻓﻴﺸﺮ‪ :‬ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻪ‪ .‬ﻣﺴﻠﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎ ﺍﻳﻨﻄﻮﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺗﻮﺻﻴﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻳﻨﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭﻝ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﺨﺼﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻳﺘﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﺍﺯ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺟﺎﻟﺐ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺧﺎﺹ ﺧﻮﺩﺵ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﻃﺮﻑ ﭘﺎﺭﺗﻨﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺮﻓﻬﺎﻳﺶ ﮔﻮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺳﻮﺍﻝ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺟﺬﺍﺏ ﺑﺎﻗﻲ ﺑﻤﺎﻧﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺟﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻴﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺍﻳﻨﻬﺎ ﺗﻀﻤﻴﻨﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺘﺎﺳﻔﺎﻧﻪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺍﻳﻨﺴﺖ‪ :‬ﻣﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺖ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻮﻟﻴﺪ ﻣﺜﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ!‬

‫ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ :‬ﺍﺯ ﺷﻢﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺼﺎﺣﺒﻪ ﻣﺘﺸﻜﺮﻡ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﻣﺠﻠﻪ ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎﺭﻩ ‪ 9‬ﻓﻮﺭﻳﻪ ‪2009‬‬

‫ﻳﻮﺳﻒ‪ :‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺷﻤﺎﺭﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺷﭙﻴﮕﻞ ﺭﻭ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻡ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻄﻠﺐ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﻭ ﺑﺎﻫﺎﺵ ﻣﻄﺎﺑﻖﻩ ﻛﻨﻢ‪ .‬ﻣﺜﻞ ﺭﻭﺯ ﻫﻢ ﺍﻟﺒﺘﻪ ﺭﻭﺷﻨﻪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲ‌ﺗﻮﻧﻴﺪ ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﺓ‬
‫ﻩ‪ ‬ﻝِﻥ ﻓﻴﺶِﺭ ﺍﺯ ﻭﻳﻜﻲ‌ﭘﺪﻳﺎ ﻛﻠّﻲ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ‪ .‬ﺧﺎﻧﻢ ﻓﻴﺸﺮ ﻭﺑﮕﺎﻫﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻄﻞﺏ‌ﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻬﻲ ﻣﻲ‌ﺗﻮﻧﻴﺪ ﺗﻮﺵ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪ .‬ﭼﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ‬
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