Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits

• Are you able to change important areas of your life?

• Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?
• Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
• How often do you feel bullied by others?
• Do you understand others ... and vice versa?
• What are your unique talents? Are they important?
• Does your life often feel “out of balance”?

• What does “success” mean to you?

(family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)
• What is required to obtain that success?

Darrell Velegol
Penn State University http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/d/x/dxv9/7Habits.ppt
velegol@psu.edu
started 21 Oct 1999
last edited 21 Jan 2003 1
 Are you willing to change course?

Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy
weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the
bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the
bridge keeping an eye on all activities.
Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the
starboard bow.”
“Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out.
Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course
with that ship.
The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course,
advise you to change course 20 degrees.”
Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.”
The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”
“I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”
By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course
20 degrees.”
Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.”
We changed course.

Will you crash against the principles ... or change course? 2

 The 7 Habits ... an overview.

7
Sharpen saw

Interdependence
Understand Synergize
5 PUBLIC 6
VICTORY
Think win-win
4

Independence

3
1 things 1st
st

PRIVATE
1 VICTORY 2
Be Proactive End in mind

Dependence
habit = knowledge
+ skill 3
+ desire
 Habit 1: Be proactive.

the gap = our choice proactive

(forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear)
I will read one book per month in my field.
I will exercise and attend Weight Watchers weekly.
I will cook dinners for my wife every Monday.

stimulus response circle of

no concern circle
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
of
influence

Not until you can say concern

I am what I am today
because of the choices I
made yesterday. reactive
(reverse acting, problem-bound, vague)
I am not as smart as others in this company.
... can you say People think I’m too heavy.
I choose otherwise. I wish our Monday evenings were better.

• Examples of your reactive statements ... and your “proactive” counterparts.

• What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”?
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• Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure?
 Risking failure ... a shining example!

Less than one year of formal education.

Ran for state legislature ... lost. Innovate or Die, Jack Matson
Bought a store to make a living ... ended up with a huge debt.
Interested in a girl ... she died. 1 outside of your circle of influence
Interested in another girl ... she dumped him. 2 failure of planning
Served four successive terms in the state general assembly. 3 failure of action
Became a lawyer.
Engaged to be married ... engagement broke ... eventually got married.
Had a son
... then another who died
... then another who died ...
then another.
Ran for Congress ... and lost ...
and again, and lost ...
and again, and lost ... more failures
... then elected
...but was too unpopular to be re-elected.
Became one of the leading lawyers in his state.
Ran for Senate .. and lost.
Ran for President ... and won. but more
Presided successfully over a war. successes!
Re-elected President.

• Write your “failure resume”.

• Did you risk time, energy, money, or reputation?
• Why did you fail (see reasons above)? 5
 Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.

The law of the farm: You reap what you sow.

translated “sacrifice”
vision = what you want to see
mission = immediate next step(s)
Both tend to focus priorities.

• Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for?
A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money?
• Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends?
• Any books or movies or models that guide you?
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 Darrell Velegol’s vision and mission

VISION

A “shining city on a hill” …

human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human.
hope and freedom. You can change the world.

MISSION
Inspiring Penn State students to change their world ...
and apprenticing them to champion their hope through

• character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage.

• ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity.
• risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity.
• engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly.

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 Buzzwords for a vision or mission

Chemical engineering ... and other passions What will you do with these?
chemical production animal rights acquire finance
cosmetics arts-movies-opera advance foster
electronics cancer appreciate inspire
energy child care and development apprentice launch
environment education build master
food environment communicate motivate
management faith construct nurture
medicine homeless and poor counsel organize
patent research-law law delight praise
petroleum national parks educate speak
pharmaceuticals Penn State University elect travel
regulation politics and government engineer venture
research rape victims enlighten volunteer
wastewater travel entertain write

http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm

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 Habit 3: Put first things first.

urgent not urgent

I: necessity II: opportunity
crises PC activities
important deadlines planning & prevention
“maintaining” commitment
(25 - 25) (65-15)

III IV
not important interruptions trivia
some meetings busy work
some reports time wasters
(5-55) (5-5)

• We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I.

• Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.

• Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ...
• How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?
• How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour? 9
 The P/PC balance

Aesop’s fable
“The Goose and the Golden Egg”
“A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess
a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky
though they were, they soon began to think they
were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the
bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill
it in order to secure the whole store of precious
metal at once.

But when they cut it open they found it was just like
any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at
once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the
daily addition to their wealth.”

Production (things you are “paid” for) Production Capability (no “pay”!)
designing a chemical process studying chemical engineering
wiring a home apprenticing as an electrician
doing a dance practicing dance
enjoying a healthy body exercising
having great kids preparing evening dinners, reading to kids 10
Habit 3 ... a demonstration.

1 Identify big rocks (q2).

2 Schedule these FIRST!
3 Surround with other.

What is the lesson? 11

 The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence

7
Sharpen saw

Interdependence
Understand Synergize
5 PUBLIC 6
VICTORY
Think win-win
4

Independence

3
1 things 1st
st

PRIVATE
1 VICTORY 2
Be Proactive End in mind

Dependence

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 Habit 4: Think win-win.

lose-win win-win or no deal

(you get hard (abundance mentality;

consideration

feelings) get P and PC)

lose-lose win-lose

(never pays) (other person gets hard

feeling)

courage

• Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?
• How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?
• What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”? 13
Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood.

win-win area = L x h

L = “be understood”
h = “understand”

4 tips for dealing with people

• Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.
• Express sincere appreciation.
• Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.
• Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in).
Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People
Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes

• What are some “stranglers” for emotional air?

• What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation?
• How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch?
• How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person? 14
 Habit 6: Synergize.

“Animal school”
Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something
heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized
a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of
running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to
administer, all animals took all the subjects.

In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he
couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t
run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the
tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best
overall and winning valedictorian.

• What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?
• What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?
• How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie) 15
 What is your “personality”?

David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

(similar to Myers-Briggs)
4 categories
I-E introvert (reserved) - extrovert (expressive) • no “ranking”
S-N sensory (observant) - intuitive (conceptual) • don’t feel “boxed in”!
T-F thinking - feeling • people are different
P-J perceiving (probing) - judging (critiquing)

ARTISANS (observant, probing) IDEALISTS (intuitive, feeling)

ESTP promoter (Roosevelt, Madonna) ENFJ teacher (Gorbachev, Billy Graham)
ISTP crafter (Bruce Lee, Earhart) INFJ counselor (Gandhi, E Roosevelt)
ESFP performer (Elvis, Reagan) ENFP champion
ISFP composer (Carson, Streisand) INFP healer (Albert Schweitzer)

GUARDIANS (observant, critiquing) RATIONALS (intuitive, thinking)

ESTJ supervisor (Colin Powell)
ISTJ inspector (Truman)
ESFJ provider (G Washington)
ISFJ protector (Mother Teresa)
ENTJ fieldmarshall (Gates, Greenspan)
INTJ mastermind (D Eisenhower, Rand)
ENTP inventor (Disney, Edison)
INTP architect (Einstein, Darwin)
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 The 7 Habits ... one more step

7
Sharpen saw

Interdependence
Understand Synergize
5 PUBLIC 6
VICTORY
Think win-win
4

Independence

3
1 things 1st
st

PRIVATE
1 VICTORY 2
Be Proactive End in mind

Dependence

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 Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.

Spiritual
battle of good versus evil
(atheism, Christianity, Hinduism,
Islam, Judaism)

Social Mental
family, friends, service reading, journaling, discussing,
(notes, phone calls, emails, visits) seminars, meetings

Physical
endurance, strength, flexibility,
sleep, eating

• When will YOU sharpen your saw?

• What measures will you use in each category? 18
 The homework …

Establish your “big rocks” – the important changes, not just the urgent.
1 Decide that you CAN in fact change your life.
2 Get away one weekend with a pen and pad of paper.
Write down what you HOPE for in life, and what you feel called towards (e.g., family, work, opera).
If you don’t know … talk with friends or family.
If you don’t know … try things! Athletics, service, camping, animal rights, politics, research.
If you don’t know … read biographies and newspapers.
If you don’t know … look at http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm.
If you don’t know … is finishing your ChE degree your current “end”?

Plan toward your vision.

3 Record how you spend a typical week … then decide how well it matches your vision.
Use a daily planner (e.g., a date book, a Palm) to plan by weeks, focusing on today.
If in a rut, find a small victory and win it.

Sharpen the saw.

mental: Learn a hobby (e.g., chess, golf, piano), or about people (Mars & Venus, Dale Carnegie)
physical: Exercise, eat right, sleep.
social: Find friends with whom you can share your deepest struggles, biggest triumphs,
most guarded weaknesses and fears.
spiritual: Good versus evil questions are the biggest you’ll face.

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 Announcement

“Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits!”

Professor Darrell Velegol will hold a workshop based on Stephen Covey’s best-selling book, 7
Habits of Highly Effective People. This interactive workshop will help you think about some
big questions in life …

• Are you able to change important areas of your life: work, relationships, balance?
• Are you just living day to day, or toward a vision? What does “success” mean to you?
• Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
• How often do you feel taken advantage of by others? Can you also be a “winner”?
• Do you know how to work well in teams? How to listen to others? How to be heard?
• What are your unique talents? Are they important?
• Does your life often feel “out of balance”?

Please join us in exploring these and other questions. YOU will be one of the leaders of
tomorrow – at work, in your community, in your home. Technical skills are critical, but not
enough! Whatever your level – sophomore, junior, senior, grad student – join us and learn
how to champion change around you.

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