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04 06 08 09 10 12 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 22 24 25 26 28 30 31 33 34 Editors letter A look at 2011 Occupy & dominate 2012 The year Of dominion New look new life Tips for healthy eating this festive season How one night of passion can change a lifetime Basics about ARVs Celebrating Christmas Finish Strong Do you really need that car? Domestic Workers Employment Rights Tune your marriage Dealing with the pain Of death My first year of varsity How to choose a Career Raising steps part 2 HRM staff Entertaining your kids During the holidays Crazy about Jesus (Zahara) Help the three wise men to find Mary & Baby Jesus Church Calendar
Thank you for your support and commitment throughout the year. May God continue to bless you.
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The Mathebula Family wishes you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Join us for our Christmas Services Sunday, 25 December, 08:00 & 10:00
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EDITORS LETTER
EDITORIAL TEAM
Editor
Boitumelo Shilubana editor@hrm.org.za
Senior Pastors
SC & PM Mathebula
Contributors
Phumelele Ndumo Zakhele Thokwana Langi Malamba Khuls Mtetwa
hoo! It has been a while, only 3 months, but it feels like a lifetime since VOH Edition 10. I am both excited and anxious about this issue as is always the case with each edition. The Christmas spirit is in the air and we are all winding down and getting ready for a well deserved rest over the holidays. For most it will be time for family get togethers, Christmas lunches and travelling. To others like myself who will be working throughout the December holidays, embrace it and make the best of it. While most are in a joyous mood, others have had a difficult year ranging from failed ventures, to deaths in the family. We have articles that specifically deal with these issues and believe that they will be a source of encouragement to you. With the diversity of articles herein I am sure there will be something for everyone. Dig in and enjoy the read. I am one of the fortunate few to have grown up in an environment that was full of love and warmth. Though as a child I sometimes used to feel that my parents were too strict, now that I am an adult, I see that they were being cruel to be kind. Their
lessons have shaped the person I am today. I look back with a lot of gratitude both to God and my parents. On 7th November my parents, Mr & Mrs Rikhotso celebrated their 30th anniversary, and I take this time to honour them for the example they have set. I am grateful to God for the gift they are. You will notice that there is a R5 cost to this edition. It is a small contribution that will allow us to put Voice of Hope into the hands of those who are out of hope. The magazine will be available to a wider audience to spread the message of hope which is the editorial mandate of our magazine. We value your support at all times and appreciate getting messages from you. Please do write to me on editor@hrm.org.za and tell me what you would love to see more of.
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BUILDING A LEGACY
A LOOK AT 2011
BUILDING A LEGACY
2011 has been a great year and we thank God for bringing us thus far. Pastors Siphiwe and Phindi Mathebula, together with all the leadership of the church thanks you for always running with the vision and supporting the work of God. Let us take a journey from January to now and see some of the thing you have helped accomplish.
Through the Legacy Project, we also helped a church in Klipfontein complete their building. We donated bricks and windows.
BIBLE SCHOOL
Through partnership with Team Impact University, Hope Restoration Ministries started a Bible School. There are currently 38 students enrolled for the 1st level Certificate in Ministry qualification. If you are interested in studying Theology, please contact the Bible School on 011 024 3580/1 or email academy@hrm.org.za.
HOR
Hands of Restoration, previously known as Hands of Hope has now been registered as a Non Profit making Organization. This was done in order to better cater for the community needs in an efficient and more accountable manner.
AIR CONDITIONER
We managed to install air conditioners in the Auditorium and we thank you for making it possible.
LEGACY PROJECT
The legacy project is one that will continue long after 2011 has gone to bed. Building of houses is just but one of the elements of the Project. It seemed like a joke when Pastor Mathebula in the beginning of the year announced that we will be building houses for the elderly and destitute. The project kicked off later than planned due to municipal issues. We have since built one house from scratch, renovated 1 house and fenced another one. This project will continue on a bigger scale in the New Year. Sadly one of the recipients of a new house, Gogo Bless passed away on the 28th October. We are happy that she passed on having experienced owning her own home which was her dream. We thank you for making her dream possible.
COTN CONFERENCE
We had the great pleasure and honour of hosting Church of the Nations Conference in April this year, a body of churches under which we belong. The founder of Church of the Nations, Mr Tony Fitzgerald together with his wife Marilyn were also in attendance.
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y heart bleeds when I look at the state of our nation today. It is a great concern to me that we lack proper leadership in the different spheres of life. Be it in our families, the political arena, our churches and communities. The world craves for great leadership, it depends on it. We are facing difficult challenges in our day including global warming, terrorism and the economic meltdown, to name just a few. God created us to dominate and subdue the earth (Gen 1:27-31). This is very strong in my Spirit that now is the time for us as children of the most High God to take our rightful positions and occupy the areas He has given unto us. There is a Spiritual shift and mandate that I believe God is bringing us into from 2012. He is changing our focus. This is the reason we are no longer going to keep the entire centre of attention in-house, but rather to a world out there that needs the right people in the right places to make a difference. It will start with our families and grow to our surroundings. Dominion has been programmed into our DNA. If things are not in order, we have been given authority as children of God to call for order.
Africa We believe that our vision is not confined to South Africa. In the New Year, we plan to have more outreaches and mission trips to our neighbouring African Countries. House Projects We will be continuing to build houses for the destitute and elderly. This is a project we will continue with for a long time.
Life
You dont choose how you are born, but you can choose how you end up. No matter how you started out in life, you can have the future you desire. People will disappoint you; understand that they are only human.
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new eating habits. I always have two litres of water with me that I sip throughout the day as sometimes we think we are hungry when in fact we are thirsty. So simply put, I cut out the junk food and ate more healthy options like snacking on fruit and raw nuts instead of sweets, chips or chocolates. I dont skip meals as it is important to eat all three meals and a snack in between, in order to improve my metabolism. I also encouraged myself through little or big rewards when I had achieved certain goals.
You had an operation in May this year, why and how do you feel?
Many of you know I had an unfortunate incident of having my vocal cords damaged due to a thyroid operation gone wrong. This resulted in me losing my voice for two years, between May 2009 and May 2011. In May this year I had a Thyroplasty surgery performed. It is a surgical technique designed to improve the voice by altering the cartilages of the larynx in order to change the position of the vocal cords. I am grateful to God that the procedure was a success and that my speaking has greatly improved. I am not able to sing as yet. Thats what I miss the most, but I trust God for full recovery. Overall my health has been great this year.
You preached for the first time in 2 years this year, what was that like?
It was overwhelming, just the favour of God that my voice was back and that I managed to finish without glitches. The fact that it had been so long without preaching to a crowd was nerve wrecking. I am still re-learning to do it all over again for His kingdom sake.
Whats next?
Well, I am completing my 2nd Degree in the next year and a half, my husband and I will celebrate our 15th anniversary next year, we are blessed to have a lovely home and church family and we are excited about where God is taking us hence forth. Im content with my life and I thank God for it all. VOH ISSUE 11 | 2011 11
Mamoruti Before...
NUTRITION
NUTRITION
Cut potatoes for roasting into larger chunks as theyll absorb less fat. Roast in a small amount of unsaturated (e.g. olive or Canola oil) oil for a healthier choice and serve without salt. Try other flavourings like fresh garlic, ginger, pepper or fresh herbs instead. Turkey meat is a lower fat choice for than the traditional lamb chops on the braai. If youre having sweet treats like sweets, cake and crisps, try having them in smaller amounts instead. Avoid the dips or rather serve a dip made with fat free cottage cheese and crudits (baby vegetables). During the party season, its easy to drink lots of sugary fizzy drinks but opt for water or diluted fruit juice when you can add a slice of lemon, lime, fresh strawberries or mint leaves to water for flavour. Swap the mayonnaise in your creamy salads with low fat Bulgarian yogurt. Eat slower and stop when you have had enough. Get active rather than slump on the sofa - take a brisk walk, play some games on the lawn, swim or maybe just crank up the music and dance away those calories. 2. boerewors and chicken, as long as it all fits on your hand palm. Keep to the recommended portion sizes for the different food groups; plate fruit and/or vegetables emphasis on vegetables. Fist-size slow releasing (low GI) starches (max. 250 m). Handpalm size piece of protein (90=120 g), and 1-2 fats per meal: cupped hand/ tip of thumb with regards to oils.
It is that time of year again when everything is coming to a halt. Everywhere people are celebrating the end of another year and the upcoming Christmas holidays. As usual, celebrations go hand-in-hand with year-end functions, family gatherings, braais with friends and of course tables laden with a lot of deliciously rich foods. At the end of it all, it leaves one with feelings of guilt and self-remorse. Just why did I have that extra helping of the Christmas cake or that extra piece of lamb shank?
Here are some great ideas to keep the after-holiday blues at bay:
At parties, make food secondary to mingling; circle the room, not the buffet table. Instead of heading aimlessly into the holiday season, try to approach it well-armed with a specific plan in mind. Sit down with yourself and decide ahead of time what you will and will not eat. You might avoid the whipped cream with the pudding or the chips and dips. You can still have a helping of Christmas trifle, just not the whole bowl. Many people will skip meals in an effort to save calories this time of year. This could be your biggest downfall. Eat breakfast on Christmas day as this will fill you up and you will be less likely to snack on all the Christmas goodies. Skipping breakfast might backfire and increase your cravings during the rest of the day, which will lead to overeating. Be aware of your emotional state. The holidays bring a lot of emotions and many people will turn to food for comfort. Talk things through, rather than eating them through. Take time to see what is offered at the buffet table. Then choose the healthier options like fresh vegetables, fresh fruit, salad with low fat dressing and lean cuts of meat. This way you can have smaller samplings of the higherfatty foods like that delicious Christmas dessert. Put the food into perspective. The greatest gift at the holidays isnt the buffet table or the Christmas cake. It is the conversations and fellowship enjoyed with friends and family.
Dont despair; the key is to preserve the tradition and to avoid the binge. As Elizabeth Somer, a Registered Dietician nicely puts it; this is the season to splurge, not on endless trays of fudge and cookies, but rather on the real meaning of the holidays - enjoying the company of others. That means putting food in its place.
Serve Christmas lunch with heaps of vegetables for a balanced meal prepared in a healthy manner like steamed or roasted preserving more vitamins.
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HEALTH
In November 2010 with a CD4 count of less than 27, I was hospitalised due to extreme complications and opportunistic infections caused by the disease. In a motionless and unconscious state I was taken to the casualty ward on the Friday around 18:00 in the evening. Cat scans and numerous blood tests were conducted and after piecing all the results together, the doctors literally diagnosed me brain dead and gave me a maximum of 3 hours to live. Nurses were accordingly instructed to keep me in casualty pending my death. My family was duly informed to prepare for the worst as there was no gleam of hope for survival. Despite the credulous reality of the situation, somehow I knew that intense prayer, supplication and intercession were continuously in motion. During that state of mind, I also dreamt I was in a queue in heaven to receive a fresh set of white clothing and a crown. At around 12 midday the very next day I miraculous regained consciousness. Somehow contrary to popular belief and even with the odds against me, His love said not yet. I will admit that my road to recovery
was not without challenges but God being God I eventually recovered and I was discharged from hospital on Christmas Eve and taken home to spend time with family and loved ones. Being the cook at home I even managed to give instructions on how the turkey should be prepared. Every single day I thank God for His grace and gift of life; and in all this I am persuaded without a doubt that neither HIV, nor AIDS, nor death, nor sickness, nor principalities, no things threatening, nor things to come shall separate me from the love of God which is Christ Jesus. I also know for sure that my complete healing is simply delayed but NOT denied. In conclusion, every one of us should always be cognisant of the fact that no matter the circumstances we have to live with, God is with us and He loves us dearly. To all the people out there who may be HIV positive, you too can run to God and receive mercy. Let not the diagnosis of being positive drive you to suicide or addiction, rather to a God who knows how to take care of us better that we ever can. * Name has been changed to protect the subject and her family.
here are now medicines which can treat AIDS. They are called antiretrovirals or ARVs for short. ARVs do not cure HIV but can stop a person with HIV from dying of AIDS. ARVs only work if you use them properly and they do not work for everybody. They are already working well for many people. There is a lot of confusion about these medicines which fight AIDS. Some people say ARVs are dangerous poisons and that they will make you sicker and kill you quickly. It is true that ARVs can cause serious health problems if they are not used properly, but this is also true of many other medicines we use all the time. It is true that many people who were close to dying of AIDS are healthy again thanks to ARVs. In developed countries, HIV is no longer a disease that kills, but rather a health condition you can treat and live with, like diabetes or high blood pressure. This is because people with HIV in those countries have easy access to ARVs.
A lot of researchers believe the benefits of ARVs far outweigh the side effects. Important things to know about ARVs Taking ARVs is a lifetime commitment. Once you start taking them, you should never stop. Not all people with HIV need ARVs immediately. It is not good to start taking ARVs too soon. Start taking ARVs when... Your CD4 Count is lower than 200 and in certain cases 350, You show signs of having AIDS (always sick with many illnesses that dont get better), You feel ready to take ARV medicines forever, If in doubt, consult your nearest clinic or a general practitioner. This article was taken from the children in distress website
www.cindi.org.za.
Sometimes people taking ARVs cant get rid of lactic acid in the body. Too much lactic acid in the body is a serious problem, called Lactic Acidosis. Signs are nausea, vomiting, and stomach pain, feeling very tired, short of breath and losing weight. A blood test shows if Lactic Acidosis is the problem. The doctor will treat the Lactic Acidosis, and give you different ARV drugs. Some develop rashes. Usually the rash goes away by itself. If the person also gets sores inside the mouth, they must go to the doctor straight away. Sore feet; some people get a burning pain in their feet.
What do ARVs do? HIV grows in the blood, killing the important CD4 cells which help the body to fight sicknesses. ARVs are medicines which stop HIV killing CD4 cells and growing in the blood. This means the blood gets strong again and can fight off the infections that make people with
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FESTIVE SEASON
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Finish Strong
Zakhele Thokwana
Celebrating Christmas
Khuls Mtetwa
s we hit December and start the sprint towards Christmas, I am filled with disbelief. December! Already? It was August last time I looked. I love holidays, I get excited just thinking about them. They are a great time to just get away from everything and relax. For young people theres no school, no homework, and no getting up early. The festive season is loaded with expectations, isnt it? Christmas shopping, decorations, gift exchanges and entertaining. What is this season really all about? To me Christmas is not just an excuse to buy presents for friends and family and just have a good time. It is the celebration of the birth of our Saviour Jesus Christ. While the holidays can bring a lot of joy for us, it is also important that we remember people out there facing some not-so-great times in their lives. This season is an opportunity for us to be there for our friends, family and others who are facing difficult challenges like retrenchments, losing a loved one, and simple holiday stress. Prayers and support are essential in a time when we celebrate the birth of Christ. One of the good and bad things about holidays is that routine goes out the window. Bad because often some people feel like being a follower of Jesus also goes on holiday too. Some stop thinking about Him, talking to him or even worse, stop living the way that pleases Him. So, yes, every Christian should find the joy in the season while at the same time not forgetting who or whose they are. It is a time when we celebrate the foundation
of our faith. We should enjoy the spirit of giving and sharing with one another. Truly Jesus is the Reason for the Season! We celebrate Christmas in honor of His birth, the loving gift of God to humanity, the gift of His Son Jesus. 2 Corinthians 9:15 says Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift! God gave us the gift! of His Son, Jesus Christ. That gift is what Christmas is all about; it would be shame if we kept the gift to ourselves. Isaiah 9:6 declares For unto us a Child is born; unto us a Son is given, and the government will be upon His shoulders. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, and Prince of Peace.
The year is almost over. Another Christmas approaches, and before we know it, the next year will be looking at us with high expectations. With this in mind your stomach starts to tie a knot because while considering the next year, you start realising that not all your objectives of this year are met. In fact, while other objectives are dragging, in some cases you may have been completely unsuccessful. So maybe you might not be in a good space right now. Perhaps youre wondering how can I do things differently next year? Allow me to introduce you to how Gideon, one of the most successful army commanders did it, perhaps we can learn a thing or two. Lets check out his story in the book of Judges Chapters 6 and 7. As you may already know, Gideon went on to conquer the armies of the Midianites and Amalekites. Lets carefully inspect how this victory came about: 1. Success is drawn from the Word of God Gideon first had to believe what God had declared about him: 6 v 12 The Lord is with thee, mighty warrior. We must always believe what God says about us, not what the situation indicates, or what the past shows. Most often we are overwhelmed by projects because we start reasoning out situations and occurrences that may or may not even happen and lose sight of the word of God. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God! Success regardless of background Gideon, as far as backgrounds are concerned, had the worst: 6 v 15 My clan is weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family. Sounds familiar? Can you relate? Then you know now that being born in the right or wrong family has nothing to do with your success. God says I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you, not to harm you, to bring you a
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Here are a few ways you could hang with Jesus these holidays;
Use your free time to visit an orphanage home Act of kindness (Gift). Visit an old age home Honouring old people. Catch up with friends and ask them what they are learning about Jesus Witnessing
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future and hope. He also declares: Before I (not mommy and daddy) formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born I set you apart.Jeremiah 29:11 It doesnt even matter how you were conceived; rape, mistake, whatsoever. God has always been and still remains in charge. Success is not by mans strength but Gods 7 v 2 You have too many men. I cannot deliver Midian into their hands, or Israel will boast against me, My own strength has saved me. God does not need our assistance in accomplishing what He has set out to do. We just need to be available and keep to the instructions. Most believers find themselves exhausted and fatigued. This happens because we want to carry Gods portion of the weight with human shoulders. We revert to doing practical and realistic things, often because faith is difficult. Believe God and trust His plan. Success requires you to keep to your post 7 v 21While each man held his position around camp, all the Midianites ran, crying out as they fled. Hold your position. Wait patiently for God. Do not go ahead of him, or drag your feet behind Him. Be spiritually responsive. Make quiet time for God. Honour your time to fast and pray. Remove obstacles to spending time with God. Gideon, like you and me, was human and had his doubts. But you and me, like Gideon, need to start giving God the chance to turn our scars into starts, to change our mess into a message of Hope. You need not worry about how bad this year might have been. Purpose it in your heart to surrender all to God. Victory is assured to the faithful: He leads us in a triumphal procession in Christ. 2 Corinthians 2:14 VOH ISSUE 11 | 2011 17
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LEGAL
Employment Details
Place/s of work Date of employment Working hours and days of work
Notice/Contract Period
Period of notice required Period of contract
Payment Details
Salary or wage, or the rate and method of calculating wages Rate for overtime Any other cash payments Any payments in kind and their value Frequency of payment Any deductions Value and payment for any food or accommodation.
Make sure that the document is updated every time any one of these details change and remember that an employer must keep a copy of this document while the worker is employed, and for 3 years thereafter. If a worker is unable to understand the contract, the employer is to explain the information in a way that the domestic worker understands. This is just a basic guideline, for more information visit the Department of Labours website
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Get Phumelele Ndumos new book From Debt to riches to read more about this.
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An out of tune radio is able to receive two radio stations at the same time, in many instances, this is coupled with some hazy noise that makes it difficult to hear just what one is listening to. When this happens, we normally fiddle with the tuner and/or adjust the aerial until a good reception of the radio station is reached. I am yet to hear of someone who threw away a radio or smashed it up just because it was out of tune. Just like a radio, there are times when marriage is out of tune and receives two faint signals at the same time. It is sad that when out of tune happens in marriage, many are quick to want to throw away or smash up their marriage. For some Christian couples, the idea of tuning their marriage towards good reception seems to be far-off. This article seeks to look into the process of tuning up your marriage towards a crystal clear reception to the right signal. As the bible encourages us in Romans 14:19, couples must make every effort to do what leads to peace and mutual edification. I believe it is possible for any marital relationship to be tuned back to good reception of each other. How the radio works I am told that a radio converts signals through the aerial into a usable form. It uses electronic filters to separate a wanted radio frequency signal from all other signals. The electronic amplifier increases
the level suitable for sound, and finally recovers the desired information through demodulation and decoding. Aerial Being able to connect with your spouse is a very important part of a healthy marital life. Many a problem that exists in marriage stems from couples losing touch with each other in some form or other. It is during this time that couples have to adjust the aerial in order to receive one another without distortion. The aerial helps couples to connect. The ability to talk and connect with your spouse, during the good and bad times, is the life force of a happy relationship. As it is said elsewhere, as long as there is communication there is hope. Filters We are told that a radio uses filters to separate a wanted radio frequency signal from all other signals. It is thus important to note that not every signal is the right signal no matter how clear it might be. Find your partners signal in the midst of the noise. You always have to block out the noise as it makes it difficult to hear each other. This noise can be a multitude of voices that reside within you, fighting for your attention. Some of the noise belong to your fears, past experiences, family, friends and so forth. When you receive one another, you open room to address issues in a good manner without giving in to your
fears, anger, and disappointments. Amplifier/speaker Once you have the right station, it is then important that you are able to hear and be heard. For this to happen, you need to have good speakers. This ensures that the right sounds come out of your marital relationship, the bible encourages mutual submission during this time (Eph 5:21). Desired information As part of tuning your marriage, also submit yourselves to God. When you tune your marriage, believe God is able to direct your heart into Gods love and Christs perseverance, (2 Thess 3:5) thereby working towards desired results. Conclusion Lastly, train yourself to know the right channel. Stop worrying about the past or future as it bends your aerial. You need to keep your awareness in the now moment and work through issues of today. Despite the difficulty that may be faced at the time, marital harmony can exist when we learn to tune our marriage towards crystal clear reception of values that both spouses consider to be important and fulfilling for their lives together. This means working on your marriage till you are in tune.
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HOPE STORIES
HOPE STORIES
Sanelisiwe Mbhele Losing a sibling (brother) Mpho Ngobeni Losing a partner (Wife)
How he passed on
My brother was killed in a hijacking incident in Joubert Park in the early hours of the morning. Being the only family member in Gauteng I was called to the scene to identify the corpse. Telephonically I was only informed that he was badly injured. So driving to the scene I was sure he was still alive.
Asking why
he festive season is around the corner and as most people will be enjoying Christmas lunches with their families, for many this season becomes a painful reminder of yet another year without their loved ones. Most of us can relate to losing a loved one at some point or the other. We have lost parents, partners, siblings, relatives and friends. Despite death being a common phenomenon, it is still a painful experience to come to terms with. Thandazile Mtetwa, a Psychologist with the Department of Health says people deal with death in different ways and take different duration of time to be able to finally let go. Here are some ways she suggests we can deal with the paid of
any bitterness, anger or unresolved issues you may have towards them. Instead of concentrating on the fact that they are gone, celebrate the time you spent with them.
The immediate thought was to lock myself in my room and commit suicide or run away and never come back. Everything looked bleak. I would ask myself nonstop questions; why me, why us, why her? When i saw all the relatives crying, I felt lost and angry at God and the world. I dint understand why God would do this to us, why He would take her away from us so soon.
How I felt
Upon arrival at the scene, I saw a body covered in plastic and my heart started beating faster. From inside the car I recognised his feet and there was not need to check the face. My heart almost stopped beating and I just started crying but quickly collected myself as I needed to think about how to deal with the situation. How was I going to tell the parents? I had to be strong, that was clear in my mind!
Memories
I miss her a great deal, I miss hearing her voice, her singing, and her outfits; she loved dressing up. We had been married only a year and a half and she was 4 months pregnant when she passed on. The only memory Im left with is our baby boy, Divine who turned one on 15th October. I thought death would come later when we are at our old age and married 30 or 40 years. Sometimes it feels like a very bad dream and someone will come and say it was a big mistake, she is alive.
Finding healing
After the funeral I thought I was ok, but deep down I wasnt. Later in the year when I was involved in a car accident, I broke down. I was then referred to a psychologist and admitted to a stress management unit for a week. Seeing and listening to what other people are facing out there is what healed me; mine became a non-issue. I knew then (remembered) that I had other family members to love and share my life with.
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t is almost a year since the Tembisa born Phumzile Lekgoathi received the amazing results of her hard earned work when she obtained 6 distinctions in her 2010 matric examinations. She chatted to Itumeleng Sibiya about her first year at varsity. 6 distinctions?
is all your responsibility. Distinctions are a great achievement in high school because they paved a good way for me. They also were a result of hard work which came with a lot of discipline that you definitely need in University, but after that they dont really matter. In university you meet your match, as we were all the cream of the crop in our respective schools.
Lets explore these questions further: What abilities do I have? Your abilities are those things which you are good at, for example, you can speak well or work well with your hands. You should choose a career that you know you can do. If you struggle with Maths, it may not be a good idea to choose a career where you have to work with numbers. Your school subjects should give you an idea of the things that you can do more easily than others. For example, if you did well in Biology you may be good in a job where you have to work with plants or animals. Write down the two subjects in which you do best and write down at least five careers in which these subjects are important. What interests do I have? Your interests are those things that you like to do. Read through some of these activities below mark one or two activities that you like to do most Working with people (teaching, etc.) Homemaking (knitting, cooking, sewing, etc.) Working with science and technology Drawing plans Artistic & creative work (painting, acting, dancing, writing etc.) Working in an office Working with numbers (doing sums, selling etc.) Working with your hands (using tools,
I was kind of shocked. My friends had called me to say I got 2 distinctions, so I said to myself, ok I passed, I guess two is fine. It was when i saw the 6 distinctions from a neighbours newspaper that I thought wow, this is so cool.
Read through the characteristics you have marked. They will give you an idea of the type of person you are. It may also help if you talk to your family and friends to find out what sort of person they think you are. After having carefully considered the type of person you are, write down five careers that you think will suit your personality. Keep in mind that they should also suit your interests and abilities (in other words, you must like doing them, and you must be good at doing them). Lastly, it is important to gain as much knowledge as possible about the careers you are considering. So, take the career(s) that you identified and find out the following: What am I going to do in this career? What training do I need? Where can I work? Where can I find more information? Remember to visit SABC Educations Career Info section for details on many, many careers. If you find that you still have unanswered questions, talk to your guidance teacher (or any other teacher), or visit your library or the internet.
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in this childs life. Do the right thing Remember that each child is born with four tanks that require the adults to fill until they overflow. They are:
PARENTING
grows. Assess whether keeping the child is in your family or relationships best interest. Will the child be better off with his/her biological parents or grandparents? Discuss maintenance options. Do you start a competition where you indulge your own children over his or her own kids so that both of you can be square?
LOVE
ACCEPTANCE
RECOGNITION
SECURITY
Your role in doing the right thing is to love the child as you would your own and help them grow to be confident knowing they are being loved on both sides of the family. We must remember at all times that when a child comes out of a broken relationship, they are emotionally bruised, their self esteem is shattered, and often believe it is their fault the parents separated. COMMON TANTRUMS TO MANAGE Emotional blackmail: I will run away, I will kill myself, I will tell my mother or you are not my mother etc. Pitting you against your partner: My daddy promised me this and that or my mom allows me to do 1,2,3, you are not cool, I hate you, you dont love me because you are not my biological mother etc... When tantrums surfaces, you may want to explore the following if it will help the situation; Discuss it with your partner and find a joint strategy to arrest the problem before it
How to deal with a situation where you feel undermined Make your partner aware of your observations and mention how the situation is affecting you. Assess the values you both embrace and review. If you are the aggrieved party, you have addressed your concerns and there is no change from your partner when it comes to his interactions with his/her chid, and you choose to stay still because he/she says the issue with the child has nothing to do with you, Hmmm..... it is a difficult one. You may have to do the following; stay out of all involvement with the child until you are invited to do so. I would not advise this situation because it is unhealthy.
Please note that the advice contained herein is not gospel, it is based on my own life experiences in my personal and professional capacity. Everyone is entitled to tap into other knowledge systems around them to find wisdom on how certain complex situations were resolved. Read Proverbs 3: 5-6 and is 30:21
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HRM STAFF
HRM STAFF
PROUD HRMERS
Many of us see the clean immaculate building, excellent administration and impeccable running of events and only few know the people and the work that goes on behind the scenes. VOH introduces you to the staff members of Hope Restoration Ministries.
PART TIME STAFF
Qinisani Nimohola Teacher Kgothatso Mogale Media
OFFICE STAFF
MAINTENANCE STAFF
Nthabiseng Seleke Training Assistant Thuli Msweli Church Secretary Gloria Mashalane Training Administrator Glenda Nyathi Housekeeping Jane Ngubeni Housekeeping Lebohang Dathini Crche Assistant Babra Mwapaura Crche Assistant
Nomoya Skosana Crche Assistant Sonto Khubeka Housekeeping Nthabiseng Khumalo David Hlophe Maintenance Sam Meyers Maintenance Adam Maluleke Security NEW MEMBERS TO JOIN THE FAMILY IN 2012 Lerumo Cain Matloko Bible School Principal Lerumo Matloko will be heading the Hope Restoration Bible School. Solomon Matumba Head of Counseling Mr Matumba joins HRM to set up a Counslling department within the church. Before joining HRM he was a Lecturer at the University of Johannesburg.
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ENTERTAINMENT
CELEBRITY
again Christian, how and when did you meet Jesus? It is a decision I made while I was young. I grew up in a Christian family, my father being an elder in church. I took part in Sunday school, youth groups and choirs so from a early age we learned to know the Lord and all His workings. What has been your journey into the industry? It was not easy because I did demos before and there was no response. I think God was still preparing me for the right time.
Entrance fee: R65 Adults, R45 Kids under 12 Address: Telephone: +27 (0) 16 982-8000 Hours: Open daily from 09h00 to 18h00 CINDERELLA SHOW
How do you deal with pressures in your industry? Well before even now Ive been looking up to people that know the industry very well and now that I am with TS Records, they help me a lot. My family upbringing has had a great influence on me as well. Please tell us a bit more about your famous song Loliwe, Loliwe means a train. I was trying to show people that there is still hope, one needs to just hang in there. Your time, your moment will come. So loliwe coming could perhaps be carrying your blessings this time around. A message to the youth looking up to you Id say to them, follow your dream. If you believe in it and trust in God, your time will come never give up.
Though not exactly an upmarket venue, the Bunny Park is a fun experience for young children from ages 3 - 10 as it is one of the few places that allow visitors to feed the animals. So, pack up the kids and take a blanket and a picnic basket (take carrots and lettuce for the animals) and take a trip to the Bunny Park. Entrance fee: Free Entrance, but please call first Address: Pretoria Road, Benoni, Telephone: +27 (0)11 422-3651 Hours: Open daily from 07h00 to l7h00. HECTOR PIETERSON MUSEUM (SOWETO)
Hector Pieterson, age 13, was one the first students to be killed during the 1976 Student Uprising in Soweto. He has since become a symbol of youth resistance to apartheid. Take your kids there to learn about their history. Entrance fee: Under 13s Free, students 13+ & pensioners R5, Adults R25 Address: Corner Khumalo and Peta Street, Orlando West, Soweto, Telephone: 011 536 2253 Hours: Weekdays: 10h00 17h00, weekends: 10h00 16h00. AQUADOME AT EMERALD RESORT (VANDERBIJLPARK)
Cinderella is coming to the Irene Village Theatre this December for both young and old! Brace yourselves for witty scenes and acting that will leave you crying with laughter and your kids dancing in the aisles! Book early to avoid disappointment, Dates: Thursday, 1 Saturday, 17 December 2011 Entrance fee: R55 R75 Address: Irene Village Theatre (1 Pioneer RoadIrene Centurion) Telephone: 084 249 9292 / 0848040490 / 079 1924360 Hours: 10am, 3pm, 7pm
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Shopping Malls usually have a lot of fun-filled activities for kids over the holidays. Check your mall posters and local newspapers for activities in your area. Play games at home with your children to strengthen the family bonds and have quality time and its free.
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Who is Zahara?
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My real name is Bulelwa Mkutukana and I hail from Phumulani Village, out of East London in the Eastern Cape. Zahara is my stage name which is Hebrew for blooming flower We understand you are a born
3 things we dont know about Zahara I like making jokes I enjoy cooking I also play the piano
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CALENDER
UPCOMING
DECEMBER 01 - 04 Dec 25 Dec 31 Dec JANUARY 2012 09 - 13 Jan 21 Jan 28 Jan Prayer and fasting week Church council Career build training 11th Year Celebration Membership class New year eve service braai (20:00 till late)
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Festive Seasons
CHURCH SERVICES
Sunday | Worship Service 08 :00 | 10:30 | 18:00 Visit Monday | Mens & Womens Prayer 18:30 Wednesday | Home Cell Groups 18:30 Friday | Youth & young adults 18:00 Saturday | Intercession 07:00
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