There is a subtle distinction regarding balls that is rarely mentioned, and a pa rtner privy to it will wield a more discerning

touch. Usually when people (even men, but particularly people without balls), think abo ut balls, they're just imagining the formless mass hanging under the penis, but anatomically, and sensually, that volume has two components: the testicles, and the scrotum. The scrotum is the "sack" *per se*. It is the hanging skin that envelops the tes ticles inside of it. The testicles, on the other hand, hang inside of the scrotu m. You can feel them as firmer oblate spheroids about the size and shape and fir mness/feeling of large grapes. The scrotum is a protective sensory layer, prodig iously enervated and actuated by a fascinating handful of muscles. Let's talk about pain first. Due to widespread representations in comedy and fro m emphatic recounts from wronged men who have had their testicles violated, many people believe that the balls (speaking broadly of the misconceived unitary mas s) are a wholesale "KEEP AWAY" zone capable only of causing their bearer debilit ating pain. This misconception exists for a good reason, however. The testicles are the seat of the male reproductive fluid. This is where the entire thrust of millions of years of evolution rests. The testicles (again, speaking specificall y of the grape-like bodies *inside* the *scrotum*) produce sperm and need to be kept safe. A teleologically-inclined biologist might argue that the whole male b ody is designed solely to convey these rarified orbs from place to place until s uch time as they can be used. It makes sense then that they should emit extreme pain at the slightest real risk to their integrity - and they do, by Bacchus do they. Any acute percussion or pressure on a testicle itself produces a swift, si nking pain that explodes throughout the nerves of the abdomen, causing a pin-sha rp anal contraction and a wash of nausea that finishes with a wave of pain that passes through the stomach all the way to the scalp, where it causes a sudden he adache and a feeling similar to your ears popping. All of this happens in under 2 seconds before dissipating slowly as a full-body ache, much like having been j ust electrocuted. But let's be clear, all that has to do with the testicles *themselves*. Do not d irectly hit or sharply "squish" one (Unless your guy has made it *really* clear he likes indescribable pain). The scrotum, despite its proximity, is a different beast entirely. It's job, ana tomically, is to keep the testicles cool and safe, so it's full of sensors and m uscle, with plenty of space inside for the cargo to shift. At room temperature i n the absence of (ahem) "other" stimuli, the scrotum will hang down from the bod y allowing air to flow around it, cooling the testicles inside to the optimal se men-producing temperature of 35-36 degrees Celsius (95-96.8 degrees Fahrenheit). It's similar to the heat sink in your computer or the radiator coils on the bac k of a refrigerator. Warm blood flows around the scrotum in a network of capilla ries, and a balance is reached between the temperature of the blood and the cool ing effect of the surrounding air. If the air is too cool, the scrotum will lift the testicles up closer to (or even up completely inside of) the body, keeping them warmer. If too warm, they'll hang low and the muscles will completely loose n to maximize the testicles' exposure to the surrounding air. The scrotum will a lso contract (astonishingly quickly) if there's pain. You can clearly feel the d ifference between the scrotum and testicles if you pinch the skin itself. Give i t a tug. Notice how it slides around the testicles inside without really disturb ing them. Notice also how you can move everything around as a unit by cupping it and pulling. That's the scrotum. For pleasure, the scrotum (not the testicles inside of it) is the key. In additi on to having its own sensory functions, it is actually a continuation of the per ineum, which has its own sponge of dense nerve fibers connected to the prostate

and anus. It's delightfully sensitive to temperature change and abrasion. Your t ongue is practically engineered to deliver these very sensations. Use it with im punity; *think* and *speak* with your mouth. To me sex in general is about knowl edge. The extent to which I feel sexually fulfilled is closely tied to the sense I get that my partner *knows* what I am feeling as I'm feeling it, and can guid e my thoughts, sensations, and feelings toward an end, and by a path, that she * knows* I will find novel, or challenging, or simply pleasant, just as she might cast words and tones in a conversation. You are telling a story about what you k now of your partner. There is a reason even the Bible, one the most sex-negative books ever written, gets [this](http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Gen esis+4&version=KJV) right. The scrotum is a vulnerable and intimate organ for yo u to play upon. Let there be music. But enough tripe. Let's get practical. You now know not to hit or smash his test es, but you can also appreciate the potential and sensitivity of the scrotum to heat and surface variety (abrasion). Here are some "moves": * A broad "[cow-toungue](http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/l/lu/lullabelle/315607_cow_stic king_out_tongue.jpg)" is a great way to warm things up and let him feel the text ure of your tongue move over and around the sensitive skin of his scrotum. His [ cremaster muscle](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cremaster_muscle) will tense up, intensifying the sensation for him. * When you're still working him up, see if you can induce a [cremaster reflex](h ttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cremasteric_reflex) with some light caresses and kis ses on his thigh or lower abdomen. This can have the perk of being amusing for y ou too as well. The first time you closely watch a cremaster reflex is like the first time you see a penis grow hard. It's that hillarious and fascinating. * Try giving him a long, firm, broad-tongued lick from the perineum up around th e front of the scrotum to the external base of his penis. After some abdominal c aressing and choice words, this much-anticipated sensation will top his cock off with a nice pint of hard and ready blood. After the proper build up, this move can carry with it an air of commitment or closure, a message that fells like "fu ck yes, she's really, *really* going to go for it now." * Lightly and swiftly lick and play upon the whole surface of the scrotum, flick ing your tongue in all directions (but not directly "impacting" a testicle). For a similar effect, lightly scrape or "tickle" the bottom of the scrotum with you r fingertips or nails. Great while kissing his shaft or sending him over the edg e right as he's about to come. I had a girlfriend once who, whenever we'd have s ex, could tell when I was going to come and somehow find my balls with her hand from seemingly any position. She'd give me this divine reach-around [contact-jug gle](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncGxiaI1W-A&t=0m14s) that set me bucking li ke an electrocuted stag - usually while pulsing her PC muscles and saying someth ing in that voice. Jesus. * Kissing balls is great. Simple kissing can make a smooth transitional move, or can be a good way to back off and tease him for a little while to delay and int ensify his orgasm - when you finally let him have it. Slow, sensual kisses of me dium firmness can also be a great way to bring him from "chubby" to "hard and bu cking." By looking into his eyes and sensually kissing his genitals, you assure him that you are comfortable with his body and know what you are going to do to him. This implicit promise will trigger a psychological explosion in his mind, g etting him rock hard in no time (if executed genuinely). * Try putting your mouth around some hemisphere of the scrotum and produce a ver y light suction, just enough to "anchor" your mouth to it. Now press your flat t oungue against his skin and massage this hemisphere. You may have heard people c omparing blowjobs to eating an ice cream cone and probably know that's bullshit.

What they should have told you is that the balls *are* like an ice cream cone. Uncannily so. * Here is a technique which will probably vary more between partners, but I real ly like it. You probably know the penis extends down past the balls, and that it s real "base" is below them around the perineum. If you place your finger and th umb on either side of his shaft and move your "pinch" down, following the hard c ylindrical shape as far down as it will go, while pressing into his body slightl y, you'll feel the full length of his penis extending back behind the balls and continuing down almost all the way to his anus. You will in fact be able to feel the shaft of his penis through his scrotum, with his testicles resting on eithe r side of the shaft. Once you've got a feel for how that's layed out, try the fo llowing. With a sharply-pointed, hard tongue, place the tip at the bottom of his balls, just above where the perineum begins. Press in and up "through" his scro tum, in between his testicles, until you can feel the interior base of his shaft through the skin. With pressure, so that your tongue is always touching the sha ft through the skin, lick the shaft up and down, side to side, in circles, withi n the small area on that part of the scrotum. For an insane finish, if you're wo rking his shaft with a hand, do this tongue move, but rhythmically "flick" the b ase, similar to how you would flick a paper football or piece of lint with your middle finger and thumb. That is, press in and build up pressure at an angle, an d then let the tip of your tongue pop off the surface, releasing the built-up fo rce. Be careful not to hit a testicle, which might hurt. When this is done as de scribed, the percussion simulates the deep internal pulsing sensation of an orga sm. If you're already at the edge of finishing him off with your hand, this will probably be the final blow. It seems similar to putting someone's hand in warm milk: when one component of the experience is present, the mind expects the othe rs to follow suit, and produces them itself. * A more mild mouth technique, appropriate for some stages of fellatio, I call t he "fish kiss," or maybe "the kiss of the carp." Similar to the loving leach, pl ace your mouth over a hemisphere of his scrotum (this will work best if his scro tum is in either "golf-ball" or "meringue" mode), so that it makes a large, circ ular seal over the surface. Now softly close your lips so they lightly slide ove r the surface as they go from the shape of a large, open circle to a smaller cir cle, and then into a pursed kiss. If you've got a pretty big jaw, you can try th is move with the whole package if you want. Open you mouth wide so that your lip s rest on the surface of his balls with the entire bundle inside your mouth. Now slide your mouth slowly off of them. For a nice sensation, softly rest your bro ad tongue on them as you do, mirroring the carress of your lips. * The baker's wife: For this one you'll really need to have a good feel for the difference between the scrotum and the testicles. You're going to basically "kne ad" the skin of the scrotum between your lips, tongue, and teeth. Pinch the skin of the scrotum between your lips, like you might do with one of someone's lips while making out with them. Take this little ridge of dough into your mouth, and knead it between your lips; run your tongue along and over it while it's held i nside your mouth - just generally play with it. Give it small bites. Drag it thr ough your lips or lightly through your teeth. The idea is to produce a highly va ried and localized sensation. Think of this as a game of expectation similar to making out with someone. I admit that this motion is somewhat hard to describe, so here is a link to a smutty home movie of someone doing it pretty well. In thi s video, the virtuous young lady is lying on her back in a sort of "teabagging" position, which is certainly an option, but by no means necessary to use this mo ve. We haven't mentioned many hand techniques, so let's do a few of those too. * As is often recommended, simply cupping the balls in your hand (underhanded), supporting them with one hand while your mouth and other hand are busy elsewhere

, feels really nice. Being held this way just feels intimate and warm. Subtly li fting them and then letting them down slowly also feels dark and nice. You can a lso experiment with holding them more or less tightly. * A similar "holding" feeling can be accomplished with an overhand grip. It's al so a good position for "massaging" it with your fingertips or the heel of your h and (if you have his penis laid against his stomach or standing straight up so t he scrotum is fully exposed. Works well in "golf ball" or "cream-puff" mode). Pr essing the whole package against his body in a subtle circlular motion also feel s good. If you sort of slide it toward his head, letting just the weight of your hand rest over the balls, it produces a pleasant "pull" on the underside of the scrotum (which might be a good place to kis or lick while performing this hand move). I hope some of these were helpful or new ideas for some. Obviously none of these "moves" are valuable in isolation. Human sexual response is a mutli-faceted pro cess with several stages that unfold in a different order and intensity dependin g on the psychological context of a sexual encounter. The sensations one can cre ate with these techniques should be chosen to fulfill an emotional intent conson ant with the relevant stage of your partner's response cycle. At best, they can be combined with each other and with other sensations in such a way that they co mmunicate your knowing and attentive companionship in the unfolding process of i ntimate fulfillment.