LAPUZ, Ma. Concepcion N.

FAMIPOP C31

Reflection Paper #1

1. How would you describe the family depicted in the film in terms of structure, residence, type, and its peculiarity? It discusses things happening in a family and depicts the other definition of what makes a family. Moreover, in the film, the family illustrates a single parent type in which the mother was the only one living with her children and her ex- partner who was living with his new wife. The children also live in their own places because of their academics and her oldest daughters fianc was treated as a family member. It can also be inferred that it was a nuclear family because the father was still close to his first family. 2. How will the issues and realities depicted in the film challenge the traditional definition of the family? The issues and realities depicted in the film have challenged the traditional definition of a family in a way that it is saying that one does not need to have two parents to call it a family and a partner need not to have an intimate relationship, common residence and reproduction with his/her partner. 3. What were the issues, problems or challenges raised in the film in relation to marriage and family and its functions? The film is changing peoples views on what a family looks like wherein it presents issues and realities happening in it such as having only 1 parent in the house, a father who has a family but also has another family, a family comprising of a child whom it is not a son of the father, etc. Moreover, the problem was the ex-partners were having an affair which seems right because in the first place they were the original couple but in reality it was wrong because the man was married to another woman and the woman was starting to have an intimate relationship with another man. This situation affected their relationship with their current partners and somehow almost ruined it. It also reached out to their children who were still wanting to have their parents back together in live the way it was years ago but got disappointed when it did not happen. However, it is a way of closure, it made their ties stronger and allowed the mother to explain her side to her children, which is for me is a must for them to know what their mum has been going through for the past years. In this way, theyd get to treasure and care more for their parents. 4. Describe the mechanism of control of behavior in the family (if there is any) (e.g., parenting). Furthermore, the mother used permissive parenting wherein her response to her childrens behavior was very warm at the same time undemanding. For an instance, when they got into the hotel and suddenly her son said that he together with his siblings wont be with her because they would be having a party, then, the mother appealed to her son that they should all be together but then when the son explained, she right away permitted her children and gave her credit card. She frees her children from what doing what they want in life. 5. What do you think about divorce and its impacts on the family? I think divorce can be something to get when things cant be fixed anymore between husband and wife. Catholics and other people say that it should not happen because this will affect negatively their children, but for me it is a way that would benefit the whole family. I am from a broken family, my mum and dad are not legally separated but they are separated. When they were living together, I know that there was something wrong in their relationship. They fought everyday, my dads not always in our house and my mum always cry. But then, when they decided from living apart, my mum finally gets to rest and have a peace of mind and my dad gets to do whatever he wants. However, there were consequences which me and my sister got to suffer. Some of it were we felt that we were unsafe, we were not loved by my father, we became more materialistic, I became more uncomfortable speaking with men and my sister always disobeys my mum, no authority in the house. Divorce or even separation can cause emotional or behavior problems but this does not mean that should be prevented. Proper guidance and overwhelming love and care from the parents is enough to make the children feel that they still have family, people/place whom/where they can freely go to.