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T here are a number of excellent books that are relevant to the service we of f er here at Survivors UK. Reading can be a very saf e and accessible way of getting inf ormation about what can be helpf ul in understanding and overcoming the ef f ects of sexual assault. Reading about other mens experiences can help relieve the sense of isolation and give hope and ideas f or personal recovery. Each book has a readers review (where possible). Each review is independently created or is a publishers comment and is not the view of Survivors UK. Books for men who have experienced sexual violation

Out of the Shadows: Help for Men Who Have Been Sexually Assaulted. Sarah Stott It will stimulate insights and f ree people to talk about their experiences and nightmares and help them understand and take a step f orward. An outstanding, vital book which I thoroughly recommend to anyone who has been abused and does not know where to start. Kilmarnock, Scotland

Victims no Longer: T he Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse (Second Edition) Mike Lew. I am a Survivor of sexual abuse, and have recovered my lif e through therapy, and some hard personal work. But the personal work was so much easier with this remarkable book Mike Lews understanding of our problems is second to none. London, England

Abused boys: T he Neglected victims of sexual abuse - Mic Hunter I read this book to help me gain perspective on my partners childhood. It clarif ied f or me the problems he is experiencing now, and why I couldnt get him to talk about what happened. Discussions of psychological theory are f ollowed up with case histories Calif ornia, USA

Broken Boys Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse. Stephen D.Grubman-Black T his book opened my eyes to my past that my mind had blocked out. Most of my lif e I was seeking an illusion now there is some reality in my lif e. I was robbed of more than my innocence I lost most of my lif e. I now know there is more hope than I ever thought there was. Washington, USA

Rescuing the Inner child: T herapy for adults sexually abused as children - Penny Parks As a f ormer victim of incest I read this book with real f ear that rapidly turned to hope and joy. Penny Parks gave me back my hope, my capacity f or joy, my lif e. Read this book; take the f irst step to being whole. Hampshire, England

T he courage to heal workbook: For women and men survivors of child sexual abuse - Laura Davis As a survivor I bought this book with a little bit of hope, but not much. I have been pleasantly surprised. T his is not patronising, is not f ull of irrelevant statistics and nor is it about wallowing in self pity and pain. T his book is becoming a source of a lot of change in my lif e. London, England

Beginning to heal: A first book for men and women who were sexually abused as children - Ellen Bass, Laura Davis It takes you through the key stages of the healing process, f rom crisis times to breaking the silence, grief , and anger, to resolution and moving on. Includes inspirational highlights, practical suggestions and compelling accounts of survivors pain, their strength, and triumphs. (Publisher Comment)

Beyond Betral: Taking charge of your life after boyhood sexual abuse Richard Gartner An important book on an important topic. Beyond Betrayal explores a once-taboo topic the sexual victimization of boys and young men by clergy, parents, relatives, caretakers, and other trusted adults. T he book includes their stories as well as practical ways a survivor can recover his sense of self and take charge of his sexuality, his f uture, and his self -esteem. T he book also includes advice f or the f amilies and loved ones of abused boys. (publisher comment).

Male on Male Rape: Michael Scarce T his book helped me to aknowledge my own abuse and lessen the shame I f elt f or a long time. I didnt think others had had the same kind things happen to them, and I began to f inally look at all that had happened to me. I f ound a lot of striking similarities in the various stories. I had no idea how prevalent sexual abuse really is. May all

abuse victims f ind solace and f ind a way through the pain and shame and derive some healing (Anonymous comment).

Books for partners and carers of men who have experienced sexual violation

Allies in Healing When the person you love was sexually abused as a child. Laura Davis T hough I loved my partner very much, I was of ten conf used and hurt in our relationship. Not sure why the distance and odd behaviors happened, and lacking the knowledge or words to discuss it, the roller coaster ride was of ten more than I could handle. T his book was a god send. It explained what was happening and why. San Francisco, USA Partners in Recovery How mates, lovers and other prosurvivors can learn to support and cope with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Beverly Engel. Child abuse expert Engel gently guides readers through seven stages of recovery, including what to expect f rom one another and how to live through dif f icult times. Separating myth f rom truth, Engel explains a three-part process that aids in understanding, Publisher Comment Ghosts in the bedroom: A guide for partners of incest survivors- Ken Graber T his was the f irst book I read on the subject I am a survivor. It quickly made me realise the enormity of the situation and my husband who is now reading it is become more aware daily of the ef f ects of incest abuse. Its length and clearly def ined topics Edinburgh, Scotland

How Long Does it Hurt?: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, T heir Friends, and T heir Families Cynthia L Mather T his book is a very understandable book f or all ages, especially adults who are recovering their memories. T his book is meant f or young adults and it is highly appreciated, f or there are not many books out f or teens and young adults. I like this book because it is meant f or guys and gals, one isnt singled out. T his book helps to explains things f or other f amily members and f riends to understand what their dear person is dealing with. I have recommended this book f or others and I hope they get really important f acts out of it too (Anonymous).

Family Fallout A handbook for families of adult sexual abuse survivors. Dorothy Landry T his book is a good f irst step when conf ronting parents or f amily members about childhood sexual abuse. It was helpf ul to have something that would help them understand what I had just told them. When parents live in denial you need a simple guide to help get through to them. I f ound this book to be such a tool. Sydney, Australia

Books for professionals Counselling Survivors of Childhood sexual abuse (counselling in practice series) Claire Burke Draucker Claire Burke Drauckers guide identif ies the healing processes vital to the achievement of recovery f rom childhood sexual abuse. T hese include: disclosing the abuse, f ocusing on the abuse experience, reinterpreting abuse f rom an adult perspective. (Publisher Synopsis)

Narrative approaches to working with Adult male Survivors of childhood sexual abuse; the clients, the counsellors and the researcher s story. Kim Etherington Presents f irst-hand accounts f rom two male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and f rom the counsellor who worked with them. T he two brothers suf f ered severe sexual abuse f rom their f ather and were each unaware of the others ordeal. T he author describes the counsellors perspective, and draws out the implications f or counselling practice. She discusses the client-counsellor relationship, the techniques and approaches she used and makes links with her other work. (Publisher comment.)

Healing Tasks Psychotherapy with Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse. James Kepner T his book explained the impact of the childhood abuse and neglect that I experienced and gave me a concrete set of ideas about how to heal. I recommend it to all those who are adult survivors as well as those who work at healing them. (Anonymous Comment)

Gay men and childhood sexual trauma: Integrating the shattered self. Ed James Cassese. Eye opening and extremely compellingof critical importance to every clinician who treats gay men. Michael Shernof f , Graduate School of Social Work, New York Excellentthought-provoking. T herapists who work with gay men will be gratef ul to have such a comprehensive resource. Rik Isensee, author of Reclaiming Your Lif e

Male Victims of Sexual Assault. Mezey/King. T his work reports on the f irst epidemiological study of male sexual victimization in Europe and challenges the stereotype of gay men as sexual predators. It discusses male rape in prisons, anthropological background, legislation and links between early sexual victimization and later perpetration. (Publisher comment).

T he Male Survivor: T he Impact of Sexual abuse Matthew Parynik Mendel T his book caref ully explicates the specif ic social and psychological issues f aced by men who were abused as children. Dr. Mendel has written a clinically usef ul volume, balancing research with case histories and psychological theory with social analysis. University of Southern Calif ornia School of Medicine, USA

Betrayed as boys: psychodynamic treatment of sexually abused men. Richard B Gartner Gartners work deconstructs sexuality in ways that a layman (like me) can understand. He then takes its components and explains how each of them is af f ected when a boy experiences sexual abuse. He shows us the myriad of possibilities a therapist might f ace in the adult who emerges f rom that abuse. And, bravely, he shows us the therapist as a human being who doubts, rejoices, struggles all while working in the (of ten highly charged) moment with the patient. (Anonymous comment)

T he Merry-go round of sexual abuse: Identifying and treating Survivors. William E Prendergrast. T he Merry-Go-Round of Sexual Abuse is a valuable guide to identif ying, treating, and breaking the cycle of sexual abuse. Based

on 30 years of prof essional experience in treating of f enders and survivors of sexual assault and sexual molestation, Dr. Prendergast provides step-by-step guidelines and specialized treatment techniques most ef f ective in producing change in this group of clients. Each technique is illustrated with pertinent case studies. T his is a much-needed guide f or prof essionals who of ten lack specif ic training in the identif ication and treatment of both of f enders and survivors of sexual abuse. (Publisher comment).

Psychodynamic Perspectives on Abuse: T he cost of fear. Una McClusky, Carol-Ann Hopper. Abuse is def ined broadly and considered as a widespread phenomenon with a variety of manif estations and contexts. Its consequences, and the responses it may provoke, are discussed in detail with ref erence to three areas. In the personal context, the impact of abuse on an individuals development, emotional lif e and ability to participate in society is addressed. In the workplace, where the f ocus is upon working relationships and organizational goals, abuse may cause stress, undermine ef f ectiveness and lead to legal redress: thus it involves a dif f erent set of problems and requires dif f erent treatment. In relation to society as a whole, the threat which abuse poses and the f actors which determine policy are evaluated. (Publisher comment).

From Pain to Violence: T he traumatic roots of destructiveness. Felicity du Z uluetta Violence is all around us; yet, despite its widespread prevalence, we remain unclear about its causes. In this book Felicity de Z uluetta begins by def ining violence as distinct f rom aggression, and then attempts to trace its origins, highlighting the polarization between those who believe mankind to be innately violent and those who see violence as the outcome of mans lif e experiences. As a result of her investigations, the author suggests that the current high level of violence may well be linked to the ef f ects of childhood and adult trauma which appear to be f ar more widespread than has hitherto been acknowledged. T hese f indings are relevant to understanding why normal people can become violent in certain conditions. T his is a second edition and has been f ully updated. A new chapter on terrorism has been added. (Publisher comment)

Male Rape the emergence of a social and legal issue. Noreen Abdullah-Khan. Although the topic of male rape is receiving increasing research interest in the f orensic, clinical and social psychological literature, there are currently very f ew academic texts relating to this issue. I applaud Dr. Abdullah-Kahn f or under-taking this timely and potentially very usef ul book. Dr. Michelle Davies, Senior Lecturer of Psychology, University of Central Lancashire, UK

Male Rape: Ritchie McMullen McMullen became aware of how hidden and unreported this crime

McMullen became aware of how hidden and unreported this crime was and how deeply scarred it lef t its victims. He realised that the taboo had to be brought out into the open and youth workers and counsellors needed to know how to respond to victims and help them move on f rom the self -loathing that of ten f ollowed an attack. T his book widely acknowledged as the f irst on its subject was the result. His research conf irmed the notion that rape is not about sex but about power. And f ar f rom being a straight nightmare about predatory homosexuals, it was most of ten a crime carried out by heterosexuals on gay men linked to bullying and to a violent masculinity that wanted to assert itself over what was seen as weak or ef f eminate. (T his book is out of print but it is possible to f ind it second hand).