Counseling Teenage Rebellion

Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2001 All Rights Reserved

Melvin W. Wong, Ph.D.

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

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 Philippians 2:15
(NIV)

so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe

How Well Do you Know your Kids

Barbara Kantrowitz & Pat Wingert, 38-39

Almost half of youths today lived through their parents divorce 63% of youths live in households where parents work outside of the home 25% say their mothers were home when they return from school 98% teens spent 11 hour/week watching TV Teenagers spend 3.5 hrs. alone daily

The Disconnected Generation

Saving Our Youth from Self-Destruction
(McDowell, Josh. Project 911.) by Josh McDowell

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The Disconnected Generation Saving Our Youth From Self-Destruction

The real battle is not in the amoral and immoral influences of our culture, but in the hearts of our kids. Today's young people are losing hope because they feel isolated and alienated from their parents. They are the disconnected generation.

Biblical Principle for Parents

Stewardship -Reward
Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

127:3

Biblical Principle for Parents

Training - Guidance
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22:6

22:6

Josh McDowell's Handbook on Counseling Youth

A Comprehensive Guide for Equipping Youth Workers, Pastors, Teachers, and Parents
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Asian-American Discipline Trap

Rules without a Relationship will lead to Rebellion

either outright disobedience or, as so often happens, Passive rebellion or Indifference.

Basic Counseling Issues (Traps)

Denial of Problems: Blame; No Ownership IP Identified Patient Concept

IP is the Carrier of Family Problems IP: Barometer of Real Patient-System Problem

Family System Issues

Fix parts to fix the whole Fixing only a part, but missing the whole
Recurrent-Chronic Problems

Forest & Trees Issues

Need for Comprehensive Understanding

Counseling Essentials
Key Issue: Parental Relationship Problems Teenage Problems: Anger Derivatives

Destructiveness: Acting-Out: Authority Issues Depression: Acting-In: Truancy-Poor Grades

Systemic Dynamics: Family-Marital-Child

Identified Patient

Systemic Changes: Family Treatment

Avoid One-Sided Information Collection

 Colossians 3:20-21
NIV

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

IP Identified Patient Concept

What is Identified Patient? Why? System Theory of Family Counseling One part of a problem: Reflects System problem Who is your client? (Your loyalty?)

The IP (child)? The Parents? The System?

Teenage Psychological Symptoms

Behavioral Manifestations
Anger: Destructiveness Truancy: School Problems Substance Abuse: Emotional Pain Talking-Back: Oppositional Promiscuity: Intimacy at all costs Masked Depression: Anger, Truancy, Diurnal Shifts, Social Isolation, Low Grades

 Malachi 4:5-6
NIV

"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse."

How to Make a Referral?

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Thoughtfulness makes Referral Succeed

You are too messed up so I cant help you Problem is Chronic & You Ran out of Solutions

After the Referral: Your Care Continues

How did the week go? Counseling Helpful? Learned Anything?

Establish Link with Professional

Working with a Professional

Issue of Confidentiality: Trust & Disclosure Issue of Fees: Worth & the market place Issue of Dual-Relationships: Destructive List of Three Names: What is Christian?

Expect Doctor shopping & Blaming

Making a Very Good Match:

Similarities: Spiritual-Cultural-Language Gender-Matching: Case-by-Case