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The Harmony Portal

(Due to feedback I receive, this document Ver: 20130210 is circulating) You are welcome to download this document via icon at bottom of the page. It is a "work in progress" so my apologies (up front) for any typo's, spelling or syntax errors or etc. You are welcome to send it to all your friends: musicians, wannabe muso's or not If interested you can also check out The Way to Happiness (click on the disk to the left with the golden road) Note: All opinion expressed below (or via links to this page) is personal. If you do not agree, or take offence please know that no offence is intended , and leave immediately. (rather it is an attempt to gain a better / more clear view and to see what IS!)
WHYTHISSECTION(ORWEBPORTAL)? Thissectionorwebportalishereforanyoneinterestedinlearningsomecoollifecopingskills.Theseskillscanhelpyouifyoufindyoudonot haveforwardmomentuminyourlife.ForvariousreasonsIspentanumberofyearsinthedoldrums.Inmycaseitwasundiagnosedsevere posttraumaticstressformanyyearsaftercompulsorymilitaryservicecompoundedwithotherproblems.Butforyouitcouldbeoneormanyof ahostofotherreasons:failureofabusiness,adebilitatingsickness,divorce,lossofalovedoneorgeneraloverwhelmbylifeduetosustained difficultiesandfailuresexperienced.Icallthisthetootiredtorunandtooscaredtostopsyndrome.Bottomlineisthatifyoufindyourself withoutwindinyoursails(eithermusicallyorspirituallyandthetwoareinfactverycloselylinked)thenhopefully,whatfollowsbelow,will helptogetyoursailsrustlingagain,fillingthemupwithwindandcausingyoutostarttomoveforwardmorepositivelyagaininyourlife.Using theadvicehereyouwillfindtheskillstoBeHappy,moreproductiveandtoberegularlyhigherUpTonewithinyourself,inallwalksofyourlife. (Iexplaintheconceptofemotionaltoneakeyconcepttoassistonetoattainhappinessingreatdetailbelow)
ULTIMATELYTHEHARMONYPORTALISABOUTRESPECT:Respectforothersandrespectforyour"self"basedon atheessenceofTao(andwiththehelpofotherknowledge/wisdom)tohelpyouseewhatisinordertogetaclear viewofrealityinordertocreateacontentexistence.

ImportantNote:FirstandforemostIlovephilosophy,amongstmanyotherinterests.Ihaveanopenmindandseemyselfasaninteresting blendofRightBrainandLeftBrain.
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AssuchIhavemyownspecificideasaboutlifeandhowtheworldworksandfromthismyownbeliefstructure.Iamsureyouhaveyourown. PleasebeassuredthatIhaveabsolutelynointerest,intentionoragendatoconvertanyoneintoanything. IfyoudonotagreewithwhatIsaythencool! ThisismyREALITYbasedonmypointofviewandmyexperiencesinlife. Ifyouwanttoleavethisportalnowthenpleasedo! Butifyouwanttocontinuethenalsobeassuredthatmanyoftheseinsightsandskillsarethe"realdeal"andtheywillhelpyou,ifyouneed help!Anditwillcostyouabsolutelynothingexceptyourtimespenttoreadthroughthem!Myadviceasstatedpreviouslyis,andthisis important,toneverobsessaboutthisinformationbeloworallowittooverwhelmyou!Bottomlineistoalwayskeepyourmindsetandattitude UpTone,positiveandtoseethisisfunandtohavefunworkingthroughit!Theminuteyoudonothavefunorfindthisinterestingthenyou shouldleave.Comebacklater,ifinterested,whenyouaremoreopenandreadsomemore.Ornot,asisBESTFORYOU! Ifyoudothenknowtheseskills"should"helpyouinyourendeavorsinlife,equippingyouwiththewindyouneedtofillyoursailsforyourlife longjourney!IfyouhaveanyinputormoreideasthenyouarewelcometoemailmeandIwillincludeallpositiveinputintotheharmony portal.Enjoy! Note(andIsaythisagainforemphasis):Abeliefsystemisverypersonalandprivate.Ihavemyownspecificbeliefs.Iamsureyouhaveyour own. WhileImaytouchonsomeesotericorreligioustopicstoaidinmydescriptionofthelifeskillshere,atnotimedoIespouseorpromoteany particularreligionorsystem,excepttosaythatitisbetterthatweall(maleandfemale)liveinharmony,getalong,mutuallynurtureandnothurt eachotherandindividuallyaspiretoflourish,prosperandbehappy. NotealsothatIdrawsomeoftheinformationbelow,fromaPhilosophycalledScientology. ThisdoesnotmeanthatIamaScientologistwhichIamnot.AllthatitmeansisthatIhaveanenquiringmindandassuchIaminterestedin differentideasi.e.frompsychology,philosophy,literature,science,religionandetc.,especiallyiftheseideascontainvalueandcangetlimp sailsflutteringagain!IhavefoundsomeneatsolutionswithintheScientologybodyofknowledgeandassuchgiveitcredencesimplyforthis. IhavepulledtheScientologyinformationofftheFreeZonewebsitewhichisabreakawaysiteforpeoplewhohavedistancedthemselvesfrom negativepresssurroundingScientology,andwhosimplywanttogetatandusethevaluableinformation(withregardtoempoweringlifeskills towardspositivity)foundwithinScientology. Irefertoknowledgefrommanyothersourcesasareadbelowwillelucidate. Therefore,pleasedonotreadintotheinformationbelow,anythingotherthanagenuinedesiretoofferassistanceyou"self's"/spiritsoutthere, whoareinterestedwithalittlebrainandsoulfood(I.e.wisdomIhavediscovered).Ifyouarenotinterestedthenitisasimplemattertoclick awayoutoftheHarmonyPortal. Ifyouhavesomethingpositivetoadd,andevenpositivecriticism,pleaseemailme. Weareallonajourneyandifyoucanassistmewithmorepositiveinsight(I.e.youhaveabetterview)thenIwillappreciateit. Hereisaninterestingthought.StretchoutyourarmstoyoursideswithyourfingerspointingawayfromyouasfarasyoucanstretchthemI.e. leftandright.Nowthinkaboutthistruth.Ifyoutakeanailfileandfileawayasmallsliverofnailoffyourmiddlefingerofoneofyourhands thenthisishowlongmankindhasbeenlivingonthisplanet.Therestofthedistancefromthatsliverofonehandtothetipofthelongestfinger onyourotherhandisthetimeonearththatlifehasexisted.I.e.fromthefirstmicrobes,tofish,tocreatureswhopulledthemselvesoutofthe seaandonwardstodinosaursandmammothsetc.andthentowardstheanimalsweknowtodayI.e.sharks,birds,ants,elephantsandhumans etc. Hereisanotherinterestingthought. AlvinTofflerinhisbook"The3rdWave"saidthatwavesofinnovationexistandhavecrashedovermankindatkeymomentsinourpast.And ateachtimethesewaveshaveleftaradicallychangedenvironmentintheirwake. ThefirstwastheAgriculturalWave,themovefromhuntergatherertoagriculture,husbandryandfarming. ThesecondwastheIndustrialWavewhichhappenedduringtheIndustrialRevolution. Andthe3rdwastheInformation(computer/internet)Wave. Eachwavehasbeenhigher(hadmoreimpact)andshorter(happenedfaster)thanthewaveprecedingit. Attheheightofthetechnologicalagewemanagedtoplacemenonthemoon. But,whattheyfound,outinthefrozenvacuumofspace,wasonlyadeadpieceofrock. Thensomethingincrediblehappened! Theylookedbackfromthemoon,towardshomeandsawthisamazingblueplanetcalledEarth. Andfelldeeplyinlovewithher.
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Asdidweallafterseeingthepicturestheysentback. The4thwave,isbelievedtobetheGAIAwave! GAIAwasthenamegiventothemotherTitanbytheancientGreeks. GAIAshouldbethenameofourbelovedhome,planetearth. GAIA,ifwesupporther,hopefullyrepresentsareturntonormalcyandsanityafteracrazydashintotechnologyandallitspro's(informationat one'sfingertips,coolstufftodothingsforusetc.)andcon'sofgreed,money,power,carelessnessandruthlessness! TheHarmonyPortalaimstobeaGAIAorientatedwebsite.Itishopedthatpeopleusingthiswebsitewillfindsomethingofvalueand hopefullydiscovernewpartsofthemselves,previouslyunknown,andstarttomoveUpToneandtowardstotalwellnessandabetter,more spiritual,qualityoflife. WHATISTHEKEYREASONFORTHEHARMONYPORTAL? Putsimply,apersonwhoiscenteredandfocused(I.e.UpToneaccordingtotheToneScaleIshowyoubelow)thentheywillbepositiveand proactiveeverysingledayoftheirlife,fortherestoftheirlife. Onewhoisnotwillnot! Weknowthatweneedtospendtimeworkingatourgoalsandpassionsinordertogetthemostoutofthemandourselves. Butifwearenotthenwhatiscausingthisandwhy? Answerstotheseandotherquestionsaboutlife,youmaynothaveaskedyet,canbefoundbelow! Socrates'guidingrulewas"KnowThyself" AndthegreatBardhaswritten: "Thisaboveall:tothineownselfbetrue. Anditmustfollow,asthenighttoday, Thoucanstnotthenbefalsetoanyman." WilliamShakespeare,poetanddramatist(15641616) OKLETSGETSTARTED: PHEW,BUTTHERESEEMSTOBEALOTOFSTUFFBELOW:DON'TYOUHAVEAQUICKFIXFORME? Infact,Ido!
CENTERYOURSELFNOW: Ifyouarebattlingtogetharmonyandfocusinyourlife(mostpeoplestrugglewiththis),thenpleaseseriouslyconsidervisitingmy FeelAttunedwebsite(situatedwithinUpGuitarHill,accessibleviatheMindMattersTAB)forthemeditationaudiotrackonoffer.Onthe homepageoffeelattunedisanintroductoryofferofoneofmyfavouritetracks.Tryitout!Youwillnotbedisappointed!Ilistentotheseaudio trackseachandeverydayandIhighlyrecommendthat,ifyougiveitachance,theywillreallyhelptocenterandfocusyou!Theaudio meditationtracktakesashortwhiletolistento(From10minutesto23minutesorlonger)andarebeneficialandtotallysafe(Theyaresimplya gentleselfhypnosismixofrelaxingsounds,positivecommentaryandaudio"offsetharmony"technology).Ifyousetasidetimeeachandevery day,withinamonthoflisteningtothisyouwillstarttofeelanincredibleimprovementinwellbeingthroughoutallareasofyourlife!Yourfocus andabilitywithyourguitarwillalsoradicallyimproveasaresult.YouwillalsobegintomoveuptheToneScaleandbecomemorehappyand productive.Themoreyouusetheseproductsthebettertheireffectonyou. Unlikeamonkorbuddhistwhohastospendmanyyearsinmediationtoachieveheightenedlevelsofinsight,calmnessandjoy,usingthis product,thetotalpositiverealignmentofyouwillhappenautomaticallyifyoukeepatitanddoitregularlyeachday! ULTIMATELYTHEHARMONYPORTALISABOUTRESPECT:RespectforothersandrespectforyourselfbasedonatheessenceofTao (andusingotherknowledge/wisdom)tohelpyouseewhatisinordertogetaclearviewofrealityinordertocreateacontentexistence.
THATOUTOFTHEWAY:LET'SGETSTARTEDWITHTHOSELIFESKILLSIHAVEPROMISEDYOU!
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Firstlet'slookagainontheToneScale,whichisourfoundationforeverythingthatistobesaidinthissection. Don'ttryandreadtoomuchintothisscale! Simplyseeforyourselfthatitisbettertobehigherupthescalethanlowerdownthescale. Bottomline:AllyouneedtodoisDON'TWORRY!BEHAPPY!(Remember,beforeyouclickaway,bookmarktheHarmonyPortalorusethe backbuttononyourwebbrowsertogetbackhere)
TheToneScaleisaphilosophicalscaleandshowsuswhatwealreadyknowthroughourownexperience:I.e.thefactthatouremotionaltone canriseorfall(rollercoastereithertemporarilyorpermanently),oritcanslowlyfalllowerandlowerandremainatalowtone,doeslead towardsanumberofkeyobservationsaboutlife.Thistonalityistiedcloselytoourabilitytosurvivewithinourselvesasspiritualandhuman beingsandIwillalludetothiscomplexphilosophicalnotionmoreandmoreaswedigdeeperbelow.Sufficetosaythatpowerfuland successfulpeople,wholookliketheyaresurvivingverywell,mayfindthemselvesverylowontheToneScale. NOTE:Andthisisimportant!Thetonescale(brokenupintotones[numberedsteps,orrungsonaladder]goingupordown)issimplya "rankingofpercievedemotions"andasaphilosophicalconceptmustbeseenasjustthat.I.e.aphilosophicalconstructormodeltowardtrying

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tounderstandhumansandtheiremotions! MostpeoplesimplyconsiderthemselvesasbeingHappyorbeingSadorWinningorLosingetc. Oftenlife'sknockswillcreateemotionalmoodsinus(tones)which,iftheyoccuragainandagain,asmemoriesthesecanberestimulatedifwe experiencesimilarconditionstothosewehaveexperiencedbefore.This,withassociatedoverturesfrommemories,willfurtherinfluenceand couldreinforceourtone(emotionalstate/mood).I.e.notonlydidyoudroptheballbutnowyoudroppedtheballagainandfeelbadnowand alsoasbadasyoudidthelasttimeyoulettheteamdownwhenyoudroppedtheballbefore. Thediagrambelowtriestoillustratethatitisimportantnottoobsessaboutexactlywhereyouareontheemotionaltonescale,butratherto simplyunderstandthatwearesubjectedtodifferenttonesanditisinhowwehandlethemthatwedecidetogivethempowerornot.Decideto BEUPTONEornot!OnewhoiscauseoverlifeissomeonewhohaslearnedhowtoBE,whatever! I.e.BEUNDERSTANDING,BEHAPPY,BEPRODUCTIVE,ANDJUSTBE,NOMATTERWHAT.WHY?BECAUSE!
Theobservationsbelowarepresentedtoyou,asifseenbyabird(possiblyaSeagulllikeJonathanLivingstonisagoodexampleforusto keepinmind),flyingquicklyoverthesubject,andfromfarabove. EachareaItouchonwillhavefarmoredetailandhigherdefinition,ifweflydown,alightonit,andtakeacloserlook. Butfornow,Ihope,youwillbecontentwiththequickflythroughandoverviewofferedhere! Rememberthatmanyofthepointsandtheoriesherearenotmine. Ihavesimplytriedtocompiletheminaformatthatmakessensetomeandhopefullytoyou. Youmaynotagreewithsomeoftheobservations. Thisisabsolutelyyourcall! Butifyoucangetsomethingofvalue,evensomethingsmall,fromthissection,thenitwouldhavebeenworthit. Pleaserealizethatviewpointsdependwhereyouareonagradientslopeofawareness(thinkoftheslopeasonamountainweareclimbing). Peoplewhohaveclimbedhigherupwillgenerallybeabletoseefurtherthanthosewhohavenot.I.e.havedeeperandfurtherinsight. Ifsomeonehigherupsaysthattheycanseeafarmsurroundedbyfieldsoforangetreesinthedistance,eachtreegroaningundertheweightof hundredsofplumpripejuicyorangesandyou,thirstyascanbe,canonlyseethedrydustyslopeinfrontofyouthenpossiblytheyhave reachedaintermediatesummitandcanseepastyourblockedoutlook. Asyouworkthroughtheinformation,Iamconfidentthatyouwillreachyourownunderstandingandreality,andthatitwillbebeneficial. Takeitslowlyandsystematically(likeourtrustytortoise)andifnecessarytakeabreakandcomebacklaterifyouneedto. Enjoy! Note:Ifyouareinterestedclickherefor4shortvideosthatneatlyexplaintheToneScale Ifyouwatchthesevideo'syouwillbeabletounderstandtheimportanceoftheimagedirectlybelow.
Observation1(TheessenceofBeingness)
FirstletusconsidertheconceptofBeingness,DoingnessandHavingness(orBE,DO,HAVE):
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HerefollowsasayingfromtheTAO,thatunderpinseverythingthatistobefoundlaterintheHarmonyPortal. Thecauseofallsufferingsiscraving. Desirethingsthatyoudonothaveandsufferingwillfollow. Realisethisandpeacewillbeyours. Sufferingwilldisappearandcontentmentwillremain. AndhereisaversefromChristianscripture:'"Noonecanservetwomasters.Eitherhewillhatetheoneandlovetheother,orhewillbe devotedtotheoneanddespisetheother.YoucannotservebothGodandMoney." MammonisaSyriacword,anamegiventoanidolworshippedasthegodofriches.IthasthesamemeaningasPlutusamongtheGreeks.Itis notknownthattheJewseverformallyworshippedthisidol,buttheyusedthewordtodenotewealth.Themeaningis,yecannotservethetrue God,andatthesametimebesupremelyengagedinobtainingtherichesofthisworld.Onemustinterferewiththeother.SeeLuke16:911. Theseideasarefoundinmanyreligion's.I.e.theneedtodenounceprideandvainglory,andadependenceontheacquisitionofmoneyover spiritualwellbeing(promotingkindness,beinghumbleandtheacceptanceandtheattainmentofloftyspiritualvaluesandthebettermentofthe selfovertheneedtoconstantlyhavetoacquiremoreandmorestuffasayardstickforsuccess). ThisisquitedeepandIwillleaveyoutodwellontheessentialimportanceinyourowntime. Fromenlightenedancients,tothoseofuswhoareenlightenedtoday,wehaveallcometorealizethattheessenceoflifeistoacceptwhatis andtoBE. Obviouslywewouldwanttosurviveandtoliveagoodlife.Butitisveryoftenthecasethatpeoplebegintochasesuccessandsurvivalona physicallevelandfromthepointofviewofhavingstuffoverandabovetheself.i.e.aswemovetowardssecurityandthenmoreandmore successonaphysicallevelweareinaveryrealdangerofdiluting,underminingandultimatelylosingourselves(ourspirituality)becausewe starttovaluesuccessintermsofthingsinsteadofbeingness.Ifourviewpointisflawedthenthegapbetweenwhatisandwhatwedesirewill quicklybecomediscontentmentandunhappiness! Fromthisstandpoint(thatofBeingness),ifweputthisconceptintothecontextofwhatwewanttosucceedat(I.e.beingaguitaristforexample) thenthefollowingisfoundtobetrue: Inordertobeaguitarist(whoisalsoessentiallyanartist)[orwhateveryourpassionis]forlife,spiritually,youneedtomoveintoaspiritual placeandBEaguitaristinyourheartandsoul,DOwhatisrequired,thenyouwillHAVEthejoyandbenefitswhichyouwillderivenaturally fromyourpassion!BE,DOandHavearecalledtheConditionsofExistenceandthisistheorderthattheyneedtooccurifyouwantto succeed.ManypeoplewanttoHAVEfirst,thenwillgrudginglyDOandthenthinkthattheyBElong.Butthisisnotanhonestorthecorrect waytoapproachlife. BE,DO,HAVEisatruthanditappliestoanythingyouarefocusedoninlife,thatyouaimtoexcelin.I.e.Thiscanbeanypassionyouhave, notnecessarilyjustthenylonstringguitar!
BEDOandHAVEmeansthatyouhaveinstalledyourself(BE)firmlyas"CauseOverLife."Italsomeansyouarefullyfocusedonyourgoal andwillnotletyourselfbedistractedfromyourgoal.
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Thisalsoimpliesfocus,controlandaction!
Letmetellyouasecret.DO'ingcanbringyouhappiness! Hereisadefinitionofhappiness: "Happinessistheattainmentofnotunknowngoals" Bystatingthewords"notunknown"wemeanthattheobjectiveisclearandknowntous. Thisisaveryimportanttruthandsomethingthatcanreallyassistyoutowardsachievingyourguitargoalsandinfactisapplicabletothe achievementofallgoalsinyourlife! Pleasedonotfretifyoudon'tgetthefullimpactofthisimmediately!Therealityandvitalimportanceofthissimplebutpowerfultruthwillbegin dawnonyouandbecomeselfevidentasyoumakeprogressandreadmorewithinthiswebsite.Fornowjustreadthroughthisfirstpointand letitwashoveryou Letmetrytoexplainthisdefinitionofhappinessinalittlemoredetail:ToreallyKNOWsomethingmayindicateoneknowsitcompletelyor knowsallaboutit.Thatsomethingis"notunknown"or"notunknowable"tomeindicatesacoupleofthingsfirst,thepersonovercomingthe obstaclesisawareofthem,notignorantofthem,andsecond,thepersoncancometoknowenoughaboutanobstaclethattheyareABLEto overcomeit.Thefirstconditionwouldcreateasenseofsatisfaction,sincethere'snovictoryinovercomingsomethingyoudidn'tevenknow wasthere.Thesecondcondition(abletolearnmore)createsevenmorepotentialforhappiness,asitmakesobstaclesmore"overcomable,"if youwill.Ifyoujumpinacarandgetaridetothetopofahilloramountain,nobigdeal.Thesteepnessoftheclimbandtheheightofthehill leavenoparticularimpressiononone.Youcould,toadegree,remainoblivioustothem.Theobstacleisnotreallyknowntoyou,andyoudid notpersonallybestit,sonoparticularsatisfactionorsenseofachievementcanreallyexist,andcertainlyno"happiness."Ifyouclimbitonyour own,theobstaclesareclear,youknowthem,youfeelthem,andyoumayarriveatthetopexultant.Further,ifyouhitaledgeyoucan'tinitially getover,buteventuallyfigureitout("theobstacleisnotunknowable"),there'ssomeREALsatisfactionandhappinessindoingthis. IamsureyouknowtheAesopFableoftheTortoiseandtheHare:Ifyoucanmoveforwardsystematicallyandwithsure"knowable"purpose towardsthesteadyachievementofyournextgoalyouwillfindimmensehappinessinwhateveryousetyourmindto.Beitwhateverpassion youhave.Butifyouarelikethehareandarevainandeasilydistracted,zippinghereandthere,thenyouwillnot,inthelongrun,getwhereyou arenotsureyouaretryingtogetto.Astheysay"Ifyoudonotknowwhereyouaregoing,anyroadwilltakeyouthere!"I.e.nowhere! Rememberthatthisdefinitionofhappinessisatruthandcanbeappliedtoanythingyoudoinlife.Ifyouachieveaknowngoalyouwillfind yourself,intheinstantyouachieveeachgoalyouset,"bang"atthetopoftheToneScale.Itmaybefleetingatfirst,likebeingteleportedtothe topofahighmountainseeingafantasticviewinaflash,andthenyouareteleportedawayagain.Butthemoreyouwinthemoreyouwillbe abletostayatthetopofthetonescaleandthemorehappyyouwillbe.PhewquiteesotericIhearyousay... Iagree.
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Letmegiveyouanotherthoughtthatisevenmoreesoteric. HaveyouseenthemovieREVOLVER? Wierd!?Howeverthismoviehasbeenthesourceofquitearevalationtomepersonally. IREALizedwhenwatchingthemoviethatI(ME)figurefigurefigurementallyALOT!I.e.I(ME)thebeingwithinthisbody,runningmymind (pressurizedbylife'schallengesoftenbecomelostinthefigurefigureworldIcreate(putoutthere)inmyeffortstosortoutpressure/find solutionsetc.WhenIbegantodigdeeperintothemoveREVOLVERandhadmycognition,asdidthepersoninthemove,Isuddenly snappedbackoutofmyfigurefigureworldandbecameME.I.e.IREALIzedthatIwastheonekeepingallthefigurefiguremachinesrunning andoften,becametrapped(fearetc.)withintheworldthatIhadcreated. Now,whenIfindmyselfspinningIsimplysayIREALizethatthisisnotrealandIsnapbackintome. ThereisquitealotontheinternetabouttheREVOLVER.Checkitoutandseeifyoucangetthemeaning. I.e.ifyouthinkabouttheaboveandstarttoconnecttoyou(BEYOU)youwillstarttoseehowprofoundthistruthis.Buthopefullyyouwillalso thenmovetothenextlogicalpointintheREALIzation.I.e.itisYOUthataremakingupalotofthetruthsaboutyourworldandareoften takingthroughtswithnobasisforrealityandmakingthemseemtotallyreal! Rememberthatanapproachtoachievementthatisfundamentallycreatedinunreality,isafigmentofyourimagination,isunfocused, unbalanced,emotional,illogical,convoluted,distractedanddishonest,isanaberratedandunrealisticapproachtosuccessand,assuch,is doomedtofailure.Thiswillcauseyoutobecomefrustratedandunhappy!
Whileitisacknowledgedthatlifecanbetoughandfullofdistractions,thistypeofapproachisfundamentallyflawedandcanbeeasilyknocked offtargetunlessyourealignyourself(BE)andyourmotives.Anapproachtosuccess(inanychosenfield)isonethatsetsadirectpathto follow,andthenfollowsthepathdirectly,inanunwaveringmanner,untilthegoalhasbeenachieved. Lifewillsenddistractionsandtrytothrowyouoffcourse.Thatisagiven(astheysay:"parforthecourse"). Thewinner,isonewhostaysthecourse,andifknockedofftrack(outofthesaddle),orissidetracked,jumpsrightbackintothesaddleorspurs themselvesonagain,inthecorrecteddirection,towardstheirgoal,keepingatit,doggedly,nomatterwhat! Thatsoundslikegoodcommonsense,Ihearyousay. Sowhatisstoppingustoachieveourgoals. StickwithmeandIwillshowyousomeofmyobservationsastothe"thingswithinusorwithout","situations","pitfalls"etc.thatmaycauseyou tobethrownorblownoffthecourseyouhavesetforyourself(orplaceyouintothatplacewherethewinddoesnotblowthedoldrums). Thesetruthswillapplyequallytoanyotherareainyourlife(goalsyouhavesetforyourself)thatyouwanttoachievefocusin! LetusconsidertheconceptofunderstandingandARC: UnderstandingviaCommunicationistheessenceoflife. Animalscanthinktoasmalldegree,butushumanshaveanincredibletalent.Wecanthinkaboutthefactthatwecanthinkwhichisquite amazing.Thisgivesustheintellectualabilitytouseourmindstoreason.I.e.thinkintellectuallyaboutourthoughts,formingandshapingthem towardsconclusionsthatarebeneficialtooursurvival. Improvedcommunicationissomethingweshouldallaspiretowards. Communicationisexpandedhere,toincludeamorefulldescriptionofcommunicationcalledtheARCTriangle(TheARCTriangleof Understanding).
The3pointsoftheARCtrianglestandfor:A=Affinity,R=RealityandC=Communication.
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Iwillexplaineachoftheseinmoredetailbelow. TheARCtriangle,showsthatinordertomoveourselves(andthoseweengageincommunicationwith)UpTone,all3pointsofthistriangle[A =Affinity(understanding,love,theglue[ornot]betweenpeopleandthings.Affinityisalsoclosenessornot.I.e.between._______.and.__. thesecondpairofdotsarecloserandtheyhavemoreaffinitywitheachotherthanthefirstpair),Reality=(your,andotherpeople'sviewofthe world),andC=Communication(verbally[+otherformsofcommunication]interactingwithpeopleandthingsintheworldandaroundyou)] mustbepulledoutwards.Orputanotherway,mustnotbeallowedtocollapseinwards.
IntheARCdiagramaboveyouwillseeatrianglewithinatriangle. TheinnertriangleistheonethatneedspositiveworkinordertoimproveARC.I.e.pulloutthepointsandenlargethetriangle! Let'sunderstandhowARCworkswithafewverysimpleexamples. Example1. Youstepintoanelevatorandfindsomeoneelsethere.Youhavetheoptiontoopenupacommunicationlineornot.Youdecidetostart communicatingwiththeperson.IntravellingjustafewfloorsyoufindoutthatthispersonalsolikestoplaytheguitarandwiththeC (Communication)pointoftheARCtriangleandR(Realitysharingyourandtheirworldviews)pointofthetrianglepulledoutwardsyoufind thatyouarenowmuchclosertothispersonbecausetheA(Affinity)pointhasalsobeenpulledoutwards.Fromthatpointonwardsyouhavea friendwithwhomyoucancommunicatedandonewhoalsosharesyourloveofguitar. Example2. Youstepintoanelevatorandfindsomeoneelsethere.Youhavetheoptiontoopenupacommunicationlineornot.Youdecidetostart communicatingwiththeperson.Youcommunicatebuttheyrefusetorespond.TheC(Communication)pointoftheARCtriangledoesnot budgeandyoufindoutnothingaboutthepersonsotheR(Realitysharingyourandtheirworldviews)pointofthetrianglealsodoesnot budge.AttheendoftherideintheelevatoryouandthispersonarenocloserthanwhenyousteppedintotheelevatorbecausetheA(Affinity) pointhasalsonotbudged.YoumayevenfeelmiffedattheattitudeshownbythepersonandyourA(Affinity)pointtowardsthispersonwill dropasaresult.R(Reality)andC(Communication)alsodropasthispersonisnowmovedintotherole(asfarasyouareconcerned)of enemy.I.e.conflictcouldresultbetweenthetwoofyou.Thankfullytheliftstopsandyoucangetoff.Butfortherestofthedayyouthinkabout thispersonandfeelirritationandanger. Example3. Thismaybeabitclichdbutitstillremainsagoodexample. Youreallylikeawoman(orman)thatyouseewalkingtheirdoginthepark. Youalsolikedogsanddecidetowalkyourownandtrytobumpintoher(him). Whenyoudoyouopenupcommunicationlinesandwithinashorttimeyoursharedloveofdogs(Realityaboutdogs,alongwiththeopenedup CommunicationpointoftheARCtrianglehascausedtheAffinitypointtoopenupaswell.Soonyouareclosefriendsandhopefullysoonafter thatyouarelovers!NowwithverylargeARC~) Example4. Yougoforajobinterviewandtrytoimpressthepersonyouarebeinginterviewedby. Youdonotseemtobemakingheadway. Youtrytotalkaboutyourcatthatyoulove,butunbeknowntoyouthispersonisallergictocatsandhatescats.Insteadofmakingprogressthe interviewsuddenlybecomesmuchmoredifficultandsoonthepersonshutsdownthemeetingandcoldlystatesthattheywillbeintouchwith you. Youknowthatyoudonotgetthejob. Whatwentwrong? TheR(Reality)point(cats)isnotsharedbetweenyouandorthepersonwhointerviewsyou. AsaresultofthistheR(Reality)pointoftheARCtrianglecollapsed. BecausethesearetiedtotheA(Affinity)pointandtheC(Communication)pointthesealsocollapsed. PossiblyyouneededtofindoutwhatmadethispersontickI.e.whattheirR(Reality)wasbeforeyouplungedintoadiscussionabout somethingthatwouldnotbesharedbetweenyou. Example5. Yougoforajobinterviewandtrytoimpressthepersonyouarebeinginterviewedby. Atfirstyoudonotseemtobemakingheadway. Butlookingaroundyouseethatherofficehastwopicturesofheryoungchildren. Youstarttotalkaboutyouryoungchildrenandimmediately,withcommunicationaboutasharedreality,theaffinitybetweenyouisalsopulled outandyoumakeagoodimpression. Theexamplesareendless! Iamsureyoucanthinkofmanymoreexamplesofyourown.
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Bottomline:Focusinon(findareasofcommonality)inRealityandAffinityandthenviaCommunicationusethesetobringpeopleinto communicationwithyourself.Thiswillpromoteunderstandingbetweenpeople,improveemotionaltoneinpeopleandthisshouldmakethem happy! ARC,aswithTONE,andtheToneScaleabove,impliesthatwecaneitherhaveabigARCtriangleorwecanhaveasmalltriangle. WecaneitherbeUpToneandhaveabigpositivespiritorbeDownToneandhaveourspiritcompressed,smallandweak,thesameapplies toARC. ARCandtheTONESCALEareverycloselyconnected. Theabovestatementisreallyquiteimportant. Takeawhileandthinkcarefullyaboutit! Whileoperatingasindividualsand"mastersofourownuniverse",itcanbesaidthatitwillbeeasierforustomanagetheoutcomesofourown livesandtograspthegoalofmovingUpToneandremainingUpTone(beinghappyandcontent),andalsoinseizingsuccessinourearthly endeavors.But,inreality,wearenotsolitarybeingsandweshareourspaceandtimewithotherswhoalsoexist,andarealsotryingtosurvive asbesttheycan,intheenergychargedmaterialuniversethatweall(currently)findourselveslivingin. Thinkofalightbulbwhichisoperatedbyadimmerswitchthatwillallowittoglowbrightlyor,asyouturntheswitchdown,thelightglowsless andlessbrightlyuntildarknessoverwhelmsandthelightgoesoutcompletely. Nowthinkofthelightasyourspiritualenergy,yourelanvital(lifeforce)orsoul. Hereisanexampleofanchorpointsaroundus.I.e.beingUpTonewecreatepositivespiritualspacearoundourselves. StayingUpTonerequiresustokeepouranchorpointsout.
IfoneisnegativeorDownTonethenanchorpointscollapseinwards.
Thissoulenergy,istheessencethatisinvolvedinEMOTIONALTONEandARCandthesamethingthathappenswithTONE,alsohappens withARC,andWEcontrolthedimmerswitch! Thedimmerswitchthatcausesustoshinebrightlyordimlyisencompassedintwowords.VALIDATIONorINVALIDTION! Eitheryouvalidateyourselforyouinvalidateyourselfandyourowntone,abilitiesandpotential.Oryouarevalidatedorinvalidatedatthe handsofanother(andallowthis!).Oryouvalidateorinvalidateothersaroundyou. Hereisanexampleofsomeonewhohashadtheiranchorpointsdestabilised.
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Againandthisisveryimportant:Eitheryouvalidateyourselforyouinvalidateyourselfandyourowntone,abilitiesandpotential.Oryouare validatedorinvalidatedatthehandsofanother(andallowthis!).Oryouvalidateorinvalidateothersaroundyou! Hereisadefinitionforinvalidation:1.refutingordegradingordiscreditingordenyingsomethingsomeoneelseconsiderstobefact.2.any thought,emotionoreffort,orcounterthought,counteremotionorcountereffortwhichdeniesorsmothersthethought,emotionoreffortofthe individual.3.invalidationbywordsisthesymboliclevelofbeingstruck.4.basically,nonattention.Attentionitselfisquiteimportantfor attentionisnecessarybeforeaneffectcanbecreated.5.invalidationisforceapplied.Youapplyenoughforcetoanybodyandyouve invalidatedhim.
Howinvalidatedcanyouget? Dead!
Sovalidationandinvalidationisaboutourselfworthorthelackofselfworthwebelievewehave,orwebelieveweshouldhaveordon'thave. Itisalsooftenusedasaweaponbylowtonepeopletodiminishothersandcontrolthem.Itisthedifferencebetweenabrightlightandadim light(youcanalsothinkpositivespiritualenergyortoneornegativespiritualenergyI.e.operatingdowntone).Itisthedifferencebetween beingUpToneandDownTone.IfyouareinvalidatedyoucangoDownToneandthiscanmeanthatthatARCwillnotbeabletooperate properlyinourlife! Wecontroltheswitchthatallowsus(ourself,ourspirit)tobepositiveornegative,bigandbrightorsmallanddim,strongorweak! Imagine,asanexample,thatyouhaveafeelingoflowselfworthaboutyourbodyweight. Youhavenegativeemotionsandanegativeselfworthaboutyourweight. Eachtimeyouputonclothesyoufeeloverweightandyoufeelanxietyeachtimeyoulookinthemirror(oryouavoidmirrors). Whilethissituationexists,thinkhoweasyitwillbeforotherstopokeatthesefeelings(restimulatingyourreactivemind)withastickand,likea hornet'snest,causeallthenegativityinyourlifetoswarmupandoverwhelmandstingyou(NoteIexplainthereactivemind,howitworksand itsaffectonapersoningreatdetailbelow).Thiscouldbedonewithafewhurtfulwordsorevenacertaintypeofinvalidatinglook(supercilious movementofaneyebrow)givenattheright(orinyourcasewrong)time!Oryoucouldpokeatyourownreactivemind(yourownhornet'snest ofemotions)becauseyouimaginethatallpeoplearelookingatyouandthinkinghowfatyouare.Whichtheymayormaynotbedoing! Theoptionalandfreecommunicationcourse(atthebottomofthispage)isaboutunderstandinghowcommunicationworks(whereyour reactivemindisinvolved)andoffersanumberoftrainingroutinesthatcanbelearnedandused,amongstotherpositivelessonsinrespectof communication,tomanageandstopnegativecommunicationworkingagainstyouinthefuture. LetmenowfleshouttheconceptofcommunicationandARCexplainedaboveintoalittlemoredetail: Ourgoalistomovetowardsafullunderstandingofdifferentrealitiesandhowthereactivemindplaysapivotalrole. Whenweinteractwithotherpeopleorthingsaroundus,beingUpTone,andremainingUpTone,maybecomeaproblembecausethey,other beings,havedifferentrealitiestoourown.I.e.theymayseelifedifferentlytous.
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Rememberthatwealldo,andbecome,whatwehavetoinordertosurvive! Andweareallthesumtotalofourlifeexperiences,bothgoodandbad. Inthesecondpictureabove,theonepersonwiththedifferentreality(whoseestheblackcatwithteeth),mayhavebeenscratchedorbittenby acat(oranothertypeofanimal),heardsuperstitioustalkaboutacatoretc.and,assuch,maybescaredofcatsor(perhaps)allfurryanimals withclawsandsharpteeth. Hisrealitymaythereforenotbeduplicatingexactlywhatexistsinfrontofhim. Hisrealitywillbedifferenttohisfriend,forpersonalreasonsthatareparticulartohimandhislifeexperiences. But,whateverhisrealityitcanbesaidthatheisnotduplicatingcorrectlytheactualrealityofthe(nonfierce)catinfrontofhim. Theexampleinthepictureaboveshowsthatbecauseofanincidentinhispastthepersonismoreemotional(notbeinganalytical)andas suchisnowlowerdownontheToneScale(atthelevelofFEAR)thanhisfriend.Thecat,becauseofhisnegativeemotionsaboutcats,is havinganegativeeffectonhimandcausinghimtodropdowntoneandtobemoreeffectoflifeandlesscauseoverlifethanhecouldbe.He isalsoexhibitinganaberratedrealitythatisnotduplicatingWHATIS(whatactuallyexists)infrontofhimI.e.thenonfiercecat. Also,othersthatweengageinlifecanbeataTonethatmaybelowerthanourownandbyinteractingwiththemtheycanaffectus,forreasons wearenotfullyawareof,andcauseustostartto"resonate"atanapproximatetonetothem.I.e.wetrytotalktothemaboutacatandfeeltheir aberratedresponseandthenbecomeirritatedwiththembecauseourreality(thenonfiercecat)isnotconnectingwiththeirs.Thisharmonic resonanceissubtleandoftenoccursinlightningspeedleavingusatalowertonethanwewerebeforetheinteraction. Hereisanexampletotryandexplainwhatishappeningabove.Thinkofyourselfwithanopenemptybucketontopofyourhead.Someone (atalowtone)hasmovedintoyourspaceandthendumpedabunchofdirtyslopintoyourcleanemptybucket.Thisnowleavesyouwitha feelingofnegativity,uneasy,irritated,andcouldevenleaveyoudownrightpissedoffandangry! Ifyouhadcarriedthebucketupsidedownthentheslopwouldhavewashedoveryouwithoutanybeingcaught. OnestartstodropdowntheToneScaleifyoubecomeeffectoflife(andotherpeopleinlife),insteadofbeingcauseoverlife.Theyare dumpingintotheupturnedbucketyouarecarryingarondonyourhead. Pain(thescratchofacatasasimpleexample)ispartofourreactivemind(asopposedtoourunemotional/thinking,analyticalmind)anditis throughpainthatwe(ourbodies)arekickedintoflightorfightasasurvivalaid,ifourreactivemindbelievesitisneededtohelpusavoida threat.Whileoursurvivalmaynotbeneededasmuchforsurvivalasitwasafewthousandyearsago,thefactisthatthereactivemind remainswithusandisstillaspowerfulasiteverwas.Italsohasanamazinglypowerfulmemory. Thetrickistousetheanalyticalmindtocontrolthereactivemindand(asyouwouldtrainadog)keepitwellbehaved.I.e.thinkofawalkdown thestreet.Ifyourdogreactstoeverythingitseesandwantstobarkloudlyandbiteeverythingthatcomesintocontactwithitthenthewalkwill notbeapleasantone.Butifyoudogistrainednotto"react"toeverythingitsees,andwellbehaved,thenthingswillgomuchbetter.Igointo alotofdetailaboutthereactivemindinasectionjustbelowthisone. Ashumanbeingsweallhavedifferingrealities.Theserealitiesarethesometotalofoursuccessesandfailuresinlife.Thelowerpeopleare ontheToneScalethemoretheywillexhibitaberratedbehaviorandforcethisbehaviorontoothersastheythrasharoundtryingdesperatelyto swiminwhattheyseeistheroughseaoflife.I.e.tryingtosurvive.You(usingalifeguardasananalogy)needtobecarefulwhenrendering assistancetothesepeople(whoaredrowninginemotion),asoftenitisshownthatthelifeguard,onswimminguptothedrowningvictim,is attackedandevenclimbedupon(anddrownedthemselves)asthedrowningpersontriesdesperately(withoutthoughtorconsideration)to escapeandclimboutoftheirpredicament. Duetothis,beawarethatpeoplewhoareDownTone,becauseoftheircurrentemotionalsituation,maybemoreruthless,orunderhandas theyhaveamoreacutedrivebecausetheywilldesperatelywanttosurviveandwinatallcosts.Inthisregardyoucanthinkofhowacornered animalwouldbehave.
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People,withreactiveminds,canalsorollercoasteremotionally.BythisImeanthattheymaybefineonedayandthenforaparticularreasonto them(someonepokedtheirhornet'snest[reactivemind]insomeareatheyaresensitivein)theywillsuddenlydropDownTone(possiblyonly temporarily)andthenriseupagainanddropagain.Somepeopleyouknowmaybedoingthisonaregularbasisi.e.UpTone,Midtone,Down TonethenUpTonethenDownTownetc.,rollercoastingconstantlyUpandDown,daybyday.ThesepeoplebattletofindaconstantUpTone emotionallevelandcannotmaintainitiftheydo.
Wemustreallybequitecarefultostarttoclassifyeveryoneinthismannertheinstantthatwemeetthembecauselife,beingwhatitis,means weallhaveupsanddowns.Butitisimportanttorealizethatmanypeopleareridingtherollercoasterspermanentlyanditisdifficulttoknow wheretheywillbeI.e.atwhattoneandwhen.
Becausewemaynotwanttobecomenegativelyembroiledinthesepeople'sDownToneemotions(asitcandistractusfromourgoals),the trickhereistostarttoidentifythosepeoplewhoareoperatingatalowlevelonthetonescaleeithertemporarily,orwhoappeartocontinueto existatagivenlowtonepermanently,andremainingincontrol,decideonthebestwaytoengagethem(ornot).Thesepeople,forthereasons givenabove,needtobeengagedwithcarebecausetheirtonecanbedetrimentaltous,and(aswithresonance,whereacertainfrequencyof vibrationcancauseanotherobject[opentotheresonance]tostarttovibrateatasimilarfrequency)causeadropinourtoneifweengage them. RememberthatdroppingDownTonewillcauseyoutolosefocusonyourgoalsandbeingdowntoneyouwillexpendunnecessaryemotional energywhichwillspinyouawayfromyourgoal/target.WhileyouareDownToneitwillbeasifyouhadbeenthrownfromthesaddle[thinkof yourselfnavigatinganequestrianshowjumpingcoursewhereyouneedtogetyourhorse{yourbody}andyourself{youyourspirit}around thecourse,overjumpswithinacertainamountoftimeandtowardsthegoalofthefinishingline,butwithoutbumpingintoobstaclesorfalling intowatertraps].Thetrick,ifyouarethrown,istounderstandthatyouhavebeenthrownandtogetupimmediately,dustyourselfoff,jump backonthehorseandgallopawayfromthereasonyouwerethrownoffinthefirstplace,ASQUICKLYASPOSSIBLE,ifthisispossible!Ifnot thenyoushouldfindouthowtostayfirmlyinthesaddleandfocusedonyourgoalsinlifeasyousuccessfullynavigateandjumpoveroraway fromtheseobstacles. Whendealingwiththesetypesofpeople,disagreement,conflictandpowerstrugglesmaybeinevitableastheyenforcetheiraberratedsurvival methodsandwillonthosearoundthem! AtthelowerendoftheToneScaletherearelotsofaberratedemotionsandsurvivalgamesbeingplayed.Examplesarejealousy,envy, hatred,hostility,alackofethicsleadingtocriminaltypesofbehaviorliketheft,coverthostility,abuseetc. InfactalltypesofaberrationsareplayedoutastheDownToneperson,tryingtosurvive,willbemotivatedtoaggressivelyengageyouandwill bedeterminedtobebetterthanyouand"trump"youwiththeir(oftentwisted)"winninghand". WeallenjoyhealthycompetitionbutthemeansusedbytheseDownTownpeoplemayoftennotbejustorfair.
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ThesestrangeaberrationsthatwewitnessinotherscanoftenbepositivelyengagedifweuseARC! I.e.wecantrytounderstandwhytheyreactinacertainwayandeventrytobringthemmoreUpTone(iftheyarejustrollercoastingI.e. temporarilyDownTone)ifweareinterestedinhelping,andpreparedtotakethetime. Todothisyoutrytoseethetonetheyareoperatingatandthenengagethemwiththesameorslightlyhighertone.Thenslowlymoveyour toneupwardsandtrytotakethemwithyouashighastheycango.Sometimesthisworksbutoftenitdoesnot! Weareallindividualsandalldifferent. Itissaidthatopinionsarelikethenosesonourfaces,andweeachhaveadifferentone! Also,throughneed,thehumanraceishighlycompetitive.Justthinkofthemanywarswehaveembarkeduponthroughthecenturies. Becauseofcompetitionforscarceresourcesthenumberofwinnersislimited,andcompetitionisoftenfierce.Conflict(abyproductofstiff competition)canoftenresultinpersonalknocks,invalidationandfailure,whichcanalsoforceusDownTone,unlessweknowhowtomanage andoffsettheimpactonus. Anargument(disagreement,differenceofopinionetc.)thatyoumayhavewithsomeone,iscalledanARCbreak,andassuchthepointsofthe trianglewillhavecollapsedinonitself.
Thismoreaberratedbehaviorwilltypicallyremainthestatusquountilyou,ortheotherpersondosomethingpositive(findwhyyouandthe otherpersonhavedifferentrealities[worldviews],lovethemenoughandkeepcommunicatingwiththemenough)tofindawaytobringabouta mutualpushingoutofthepointsoftheARCtrianglethathavecollapsed.
Itisnotimperativethatpeoplesharethesamerealities,butitiseasier. Groupsformbecauseoftheneedtobesimilartoothers.Ifpeopleareintelligent,tolerantofeachother,bigenoughandconfidentenoughin themselvestoallowtheexistenceofdifferentrealitiesaroundthem,thendifferencesinopinioncanmakelifeinteresting.Alsoengagingwith otherpeople,whohavedifferentrealitiestoourowncanoftenteachusthingsaboutourselvesandlifethathadnotoccurredtous,orthatwe couldnothavelearnedanywhereelseexceptthroughthesepeople.Itisallaboutdevelopinganappreciationforthewonderfuldiversitythat existswithinthehumanrace. Rememberthataresolutiontoanargument,thatputsyouatalowerpositionontheToneScale,thanyouwerewhentheargumentstarted(I.e. whichdiminishesandinvalidatesyouasanUpTonebeing),isneveranacceptablesolution.Somepeoplehaveenormousego's(theyare narcissistic)andthey(narcissist'sarequitelowonthetonescale)arenotpreparedtostandbackforothers(donotwanttolettheSunshineon another'shead).Jealousyisacommontraitassociatedwiththesetypesofpeopleandtheywilltrytosurvivebydoingeverythingpossiblein theirpowertodiminishandinvalidateothersaroundthemthattheyperceivearesurvivingbetterthantheyare. Thenagain,thereareotherswhoaresopermanentlylowontheToneScalethattheyarepositivelydangeroustoengage.I.e.lifehastaught
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themtofightdirtyandwithoutcompassionorcareforothersandespeciallywithoutethics.Thesepeoplealsoexhibitamaliciousneedto controlandoftentohurtotherswhotheyfeelaresurvivingbetterthantheyare.Thesetypesofpeopledefinitelydonotacceptdiversityand haveveryrigidpointsofviewonalmostallsubjects(youcanthinkofasmallARCtrianglewithrigid,unmovablepoints)and,assuch,youmay notbeableto"negotiate"amutuallybeneficialsolutionthatwillbenefitbothyouandthemintothefuture. TherearealsocertaintypesofpeoplewhoaresolowonthetonescalewhomaygivetheappearancethattheyareUpTonebut,infact,may harboradeepercovertagendathattheyarenotsharingwithyou.Theircovertagendawillonlybecomeevidentwhentheyhaveyoutricked youortrappedyouintoacompromisedpositionandyouarenowfirmlyinvalidated,diminished,underminedandfullyundertheircontrol.This Tone(whichwesayisatpoint1.1ontheToneScale)iscalledCovertHostility.
Veryunethicalandspirituallysmallpeople,fromliar's,thieves,conartistsetc.attheoneextreme,acrossarangeofothertypesofpeoplewith similarDownTonecharacteristics,toanAdolfHitlerandhisgang,theNaziPartyontheotherextreme,areallexamplesofthisnarcissistic typeofperson/group,wholivefortotalpowerandcontroloverthelivesofothers,tosatisfytheirowntwisted,unethicalandevilends.These peoplethriveonpowerandwronglybelievethatpowerisstrength. Strengthwithvirtuewillwieldpowercarefully.Butpowerwieldedwithoutthecareandconsideration(derivedfromvirtuousstrength)isvery dangerousindeed.PowercorruptsandabsolutepowercorruptsabsolutelyandthiswasexemplifiedwhenHitlercametopowerin1933. Hitlerbelievedthathe(andcertainotherelite)weremembersoftheperfectAryanrace.Allotherswhodidnotfitthiselitistmoldwerefound unworthy,andsoonthefinalsolutionwasputintoeffectandmanyweregassedtodeathinNazigaschambers.Hitlerbelievedthathisreignin thenewGermany(TheThirdReich)wouldlastathousandyears.Infact,itlastedonlyforalittleover10years,andduringthistimemuch damage,bloodshedandmiserywascausedbythecollective,aberrated,andveryDownToneNaziorder(group)tocountlessnumbersof innocentandgoodpeople. Manypeoplebecometrappedinthepowerofthesepersonalitytypesandenduplivinginfear,whichcanbecomeapathy,andeven,ifthings arebadenough,death. Theseimagesbelowareexamplesofthedestructivecontrolgames(oftencovertandsubtle)playedbysomepeopleoperatingpermanentlyat theseLowToneLevels.
AnabusedpersonIknowsaidthatitfeltasiftheratpersonshehadlivedwithhadsystematicallydrivenher(mentally)intoadarkdeeptunnel andthenfinallyhadhertrappedwithnowayout.Inherwords:"Theywillworktheirpreyintoadeadendtunnelandsitinfrontofthem,waiting foranymovement,strikingatthepreytomakesurethatitstaysput."Ratpeople,whoarealsocontrolfreaks,oftenuseviolencetoenforcetheir dominance.
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IfyouhaveyouranchorpointsoutandareUpToneyoucanbeemotionallyattackedbypeoplewhodonotlikethefactthatyouaresurviving betterthenthem!I.e.theyseeyourUpTonenessandwidelyspacedanchorpointsandmoveintodestabiliseyouandpunchinyouranchor points.I.e.moveyouDownTonesomewhereatapointonthetonescalewhereyouwillbelessofathreattothem.i.e.wheretheiranchor pointsandtonearemoredominantthanyours. Rememberthatthiscanbeverysubtleandcovertor"inyourfaceovert!"Seeifyoucanfollowhowthisgameworks: 1.Apersonseemstobesurvivingwell.
2.Thismakessomeoneelsejealousandangry.
or 3.Thepressuretodominateanddrivethetargetpersondowntownandcollapsetheiranchorpointscontinues.Thiscanbeshortandsharpor somethingthatgoesonovermanydays/monthsandevenyearsi.e.wearingdownthetargetpersonuntiltheiranchorpointsstarttocollapse underthepressure.Thiscausesthetargetperson(Iftheyareapotentialtroublesource)tobecomeupset,introvertedandtomovedowntone. i.e.tryingtomanage,keepthepeace,calmdownandkeeponthegoodsideofMr.Angry.
4.Propitiationcanbeusedbythetargetpersonineffortstokeepthepeaceandbetterchancesofsurvivalinthefaceoftheattack.
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5.Sustainedpressurewilleventiallycausethepersontodropdowntone.Orthetargetpersoncanrollercoaster.i.e.plungedowntown, recover,plungedowntown,recoveretc.eachtimetheycomeunderattackandallowthemselvestobeeffecttothenegativecausationofthe aggressor.Assumingtheycanseetheattackthatis.
Ihavesaidthisabovebutwillsayitagain:
Howinvalidatedcanyouget? Dead!
Validationandinvalidationisaboutourselfworthorthelackofselfworthwebelievewehave,orwebelieveweshouldhaveordon'thave.It
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isalsooftenusedasaweaponbylowtonepeopletodiminishothersandcontrolthem.Itisthedifferencebetweenabrightlightandadim light(youcanalsothinkpositivespiritualenergyortoneornegativespiritualenergyI.e.operatingdowntone).Itisthedifferencebetween beingUpToneandDownTone.IfyouareinvalidatedyoucangoDownToneandthiscanmeanthatthatARCwillnotbeabletooperate properlyinourlife! Wecontroltheswitchthatallowsus(ourself,ourspirit)tobepositiveornegative,bigandbrightorsmallanddim,strongorweak! Note:deathmaynotbephysicaldeath,butcouldbeastateofsuchlowtoneanddeepapathythatthepersonhasceasedfunctioningasa positivebeingandnowexistsasacontrolledslaveoftheirabuserandashadowoftheirformerself.Insteadofbeingcauseoverlifetheyhave becomevictimsoflifeandeffecttolife!Theyhavealsobecomevictimsoftheirabuser. Manyabusedpeoplecomplainoffeelingssimilartotheseshownabove! Ifyouareavictimofabuse,afteryouhavetriedyourbesttoengagethepersonwhoisdoingthistoyou,inordertotrytomovetherelationship UpTone,itmaybebetterforyoutopermanentlyremoveyourselffromthesetoxicbeingsandmoveonwithyourlife.I.e.youmakethe decisionthatyouwillnolongercontinuetofurtherinteractwiththeseDownTone,controlling,possiblyalwaysangry(orifcoverttheycanbe verycharming),demeaning,abusiveandunethicalbeings(DownToneterminals).AsNancyRegan(thewifeoftheformerUnitedStates President,RonaldRegansaid,whenshewasaskedforheradvisefortheyoungpeopleofthenationwhoweredestroyingtheirlivesbecause theywerebeingentrappedandthenabusedbyruthlessdrugdealersacrosstheUnitedStates.Shesaid"Whenyouareoffereddrugsby thesepeople,whoevertheymaybe,PLEASE,PLEASE,JUSTSAYNO,JUSTSAYNO!" Anothersayinggoeslikethis:"Ifyouofferthedevilarideinyourcar,don'tbesurprised,ifverysoon,heisdrivingyourcar!" Somepeoplearesomanipulative,underhandanddevious(toxic)thatitseemsyoumayneedtowalkaroundwithaGeigercounterinorderto beabletopickupandmeasurethehiddentoxicityemanatingfromthem.
Atanytimeyougetahighreading,aswithhighlydangerousbutinvisibleRadioActivity,andothertoxicsubstancesRUNAWAY! Showeringvigorouslymayalsohelp. ANDTHENSTAYAWAY! Thesetypesofpeoplecannotchangeandwillbeextremelyhazardoustoyourhealth! PTSSP(PotentialTroubleSourceandSupressivePersonordealingwithTHEANTISOCIALPERSONALITY AnotherwaytolookattheaboveinformationistoidentifytheSPandseeifyouareaPTS. Thedestructivepersonalitytypedescribedaboveisoftencalledanantisocialpersonality. Reflectiveinman'searliestethicalcodesisaninnatesensethattherearethoseamongus about2andahalfpercentofthepopulationwhopossesscharacteristicsandmentalattitudesthatcausethemtoviolentlyopposeany bettermentactivityorgroup. Withinthiscategory,onefindstheAdolfHitler'sandtheGenghisKhans,theunrepentantmurderersandthedruglords. Althoughmostblatantlyantisocialtypesmaybeeasytospot,ifonlyfromthebodiestheyleaveintheirwake,othersarelessobviouslyseen. Enterprisesmayseemtocrumblefornoapparentreason,marriagesmaymysteriouslydisintegrateandathousandmoreillsmayaffectthose associatedwiththeantisocialpersonality.Infact,alltold,20percentoftheentirepopulationsuffers,inoneformoranother,fromaconnection withtheantisocialpersonality. Whileoneshouldnevereverconductawitchhuntoranunjustcondemnation,itisveryimportantforone'sselftounderstandwhenyouarein theenvironmentofthesetypesofpeople.Evenifitissimplytoensurethatyoustayoutoftheirwayanddonotfallundertheirdestructive influencesandcontrol. Theimportanceofdetectingtheantisocialpersonalitybecomeseminentlyclearwhenoneconsidershiseffectonthelivesofthosearoundhim. ForthereasonsabovetheantisocialpersonalitytypeisalsocalledaSuppressivePersonalityandtheirgoalisasfollows:
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Andfinally,becausesomeoftheworstSP'scankillyou,ifyouareunlucky(andIsaythiswiththedeepestirony!)youwillonlybesubjectedto: "personalitydeath"Thisisanexistancewaydownatthebottomofthetonescale.Thinkofthisasifsomeonewasstandingonyourheadand forcing/pushingyoufeetfirstviayourhead(destructivemindgames)deepdownintoaswampandnotlettingyouup.
Ithasbeenfoundthatapersonconnectedtoanantisocialpersonality(ThispersoniscalledapotentialtroublesourceorPTS)willsuffer greatlydecreasedsurvival,astheantisocialpersonalityimpedesthemandanyoneelsewhoisperceivedtobeabetterpersonortobe survivingbetterthantheSP,inallaspectsofthePTS'slife.Then,too,asthePTS'sconditionworsens,thePTS'sensuingtroubleswilltendto spilloverintothelivesofothers.THISISVERYIMPORTANT!I.e.oftenthepersonwhoseemstobeoutofcontrolisnotthecauseofthe problem.Oftenthesuppressiveisthepersonwhoappearsto"caredeeply"fortheoppressedPTSandwilltelleveryonewhowilllistenhow sads/heisaboutthecurrentconditionofthePTS! IfyouareaPTS'soryouknowofsomeonewhoexhibitsPTSsymptomsyoucanbeassuredthatthereisaSPoperatingsurreptitiouslyintheir midst.NOTE:Thisisnotacallforalltomoveinto"witchhuntmode!"Psychologyiscomplexandreasonsforwhypeoplebehaveincertain wayscannotalwaysbeexplainedbyasimpleanswer.However,itwouldbeagoodidea,whenfacedwiththeabovetotakeacarefullook around,especiallyatthosewhoappearnottobethecauseofthetrouble.Ifyoudoyoumaybesurprisedbywhatyoufind! ASMENTIONEDABOVEYOURBESTADVICEISTOMOVEANDTHENSTAYAWAY! Thesetypesofpeoplecannotchangeandtheirdestructivesurvivalmodeandsuppressivetacticswillultimatelyandalwaysbeextremely hazardoustoyourspiritualandphysicalhealth! Unfortunatelylifeisnotafairystory. Toillustrate,herearethreeshortstoriesaboutlife: Hereisthestoryofthescorpionandthefrog.WhenIfirstheardthisstoryIsimplycouldnotbelieveit.Now,yearslater,thisstory,tome,is oneoflife'sstrangetruths. Hereisashortpoem:"AStoryWetAsTears"thatillustratestheimportanceofARCinunderstandingcompatibilitybetweenpeople, especiallyduringtherosycourtshipphase! FinallyyoushouldreadthestoryabouttheSoundofThunder:ThisstoryiscalledDaDaDa! BOTTOMLINE: Ifyouwantyourlifetobeafairystorythendotwothings: 1.DonoteverallowyourselftobecomethePIGinsomeoneelse'sfairystory. 2.Turnyourselfintoaprinceorprincessinyourownfairystory!
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Andhereisatrick.Knowthatyoudonotneedtoliveinacastleorhavebluebloodtobehappy! Whowant'stoliveliketheRoyalsanyway.EachtimeIreadaboutthem(nomatterthenationality)itseemstometobeapitifullife,always houndedbythepress,accountabletoeveryone,allthetime,havingmoneyandfinancialabilitybutalwayshavingtoaskforitetc.Nothing everseemsgenuinewithinthesepeoplelives. HerearedefinitionstoreinforceyourunderstandingofthefewnewwordsthatIhaveusedthusfar. Definitionof"Propitiation":Astrangemanifestationofacontrolledindividualattemptingtobuyofftheimagineddangerbypropitiation. Definitionof"Terminal":Aterminalisacommunicationpoint(orreceiptpoint)thatyouhavecurrentlychosentoengagewith. Definitionof"DownTone":SomeonewhoisconsistentlylowontheToneScale. Definitionof"Unethical":Someonewhodoesnotacttowardsothersinanhonest,goodandethicalmanner.Anunethicalperson,whoisnot honestanddirectandtrustworthy,shouldberegardedasaberrated.Butanaberratedpersonmynotnecessarybeabadperson.Theymay havetakenalittletoomanyknocksorfailuresinlifearenowoperating,asasurvivalmode,outofEffecttolifeinsteadofCauseoverlife. Definitionof"Aberration": 1.adeparturefromrationalthoughtorbehavior.FromtheLatin,aberrare,towanderfromLatin,ab,away,errare,towander.Itmeansbasically toerr,tomakemistakes,ormorespecificallytohavefixedideaswhicharenottrue.Thewordisalsousedinitsscientificsense.Itmeans departurefromastraightline.IfalineshouldgofromAtoB,thenifitis"aberrated"itwouldgofromAtosomeotherpoint,tosomeotherpoint, tosomeotherpoint,tosomeotherpoint,tosomeotherpointandfinallyarriveatB.Takeninitsscientificsense,itwouldalsomeanthelackof straightnessortoseecrookedlyas,inexample,amanseesahorsebutthinksheseesanelephant. Asinourexampleabove,i.e.themanseesacutecatwhilethemannexttohim,withhisreactivemind,seesadangerousanimal. Aberratedconductwouldbewrongconduct,orconductnotsupportedbyreason.Whenapersonhaslotsofreactivemind,thesetendto deflectwhatwouldbehisnormalabilitytoperceivetruthandbringaboutanaberratedviewofsituationswhichthenwouldcausean aberratedreactiontothem.Aberrationisopposedtosanity,whichwouldbeitsopposite. 2.anaberratedpersonwandersfromhisselfdeterminedcourse.Henolongergoeswherehewantstogonow,butgoeswherehehas wantedtogointhepastorinarandomdirection.Hiscourseis,therefore,notrational,andheseemstogowherevertheenvironmentpushes him.Hehasasmanyaberrationsashehashiddencontrasurvivaldecisionsinhispast. 3.mentalderangement,anyirrationalcondition. 4.theaberreesreactionstoanddifficultieswithhiscurrentenvironment. andherearesomemorecomplexdefinitionstoaberration: 5.themanifestationofenergychargedcontrasurvivalmemorytracesinthereactivemind,andisseriousonlywhenitinfluencesthe competenceoftheindividualinhisenvironment. 6.thedegreeofresidualplusorminusrandomityaccumulatedbycompelling,inhibitingorunwarrantedassistingofeffortsonthepartofother organismsorthephysical(material)universe. WithregardtothedefinitionsofAberrationabove,don'tworryifyoudonotunderstandallofthesubdefinitions.Simplyseeaberratedbehavior asbehaviorthatisnottruetothepaththatwouldrationallybeset.I.e.acrookedlineasopposedtogoingdirectlyfromA(thesource)toB(the targetthathasbeenset). RememberthatARCisalsonotalwaysaboutpeople. Life,ifyouareunfortunate,canalsobringaboutARCbreaksinyou. Anexamplecouldbecausedbyadogthatsuddenlydecidedtobiteyou,whenyouwereachild. Possiblysomeotherchildpulleditstailwhileyouwerenotlooking,orthedogwasoldandconfusedandsimplymisunderstoodyouractionas athreatandreactedandbityoufornoapparentreason(toyou),oritwassimplyanastyolddogandjustwantedtobiteyoufornoreasonwhat soeveroranyotherreasoneitherlogicalorillogical.Fromthispointonyoucould(illogically)ARCbreakagainstalldogs.R=youdecide dogsaredangerousandunpredictable,A=youdon'tloveorevenlikedogsanymoreandC=youcertainlywillnotgouptoadogandpetitor allowittocomeuptoyou.Unlessyoudecidetochangeyournewlyderivedrealityandgobackintocommunicationwithdogs(understand them,reachouttothemandpetthemagainetc.)andrealizethatthiswassimplyanunfortunateincidentthatyouwereexposedto,andisnot typicalbehaviorofalldogs,youwillspendtherestofyourlifeharboringanillogicalfearofalldogsandavoidingdogs.Assuchyouwillnever beabletoexperiencethejoyofadog'sloveandhaveapetwho'sloyaltytoyouistotal. Theaboveisafinelinebecausetherearedangerousdogsoutthereanditiswisetobeonyourguardwhenitcomestoalldogs.But,infact, mostdogsareharmlessandwillnotsimplybiteyouwithoutagoodreason.Butonehastoalwaysbeonone'sguardbecausemostdogsis notalldogs! TherearemanyotherexamplesofARCandARCbreakswithotherlifeformsthanhumans. Thesamecanapplytoafallfromahorse. Orabeesting. Oretc.
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Theimportantthingtorememberisthatoutofallanimalsitisonlyhumanswhoarecapableofinflictingpainforpleasure. Animalsmayreacttoaperceivedthreatwithtoothandclaworfromfearorhungeretc.,butwillnotdosowithmaliciousintent. ARCandARCbreakscanalsoapplytoinanimateobjects. Abicycleaccidentcouldleaveyouwithanirrationalfearofcycling. Afailureofanewbusinessventurecouldleaveyoudepressedandparalyzedwithfeareventhoughthefailurewasprobablycausedbyfactors beyondyourcontrol.I.e.Aneconomicdownturn,changingmarketforceswhereacompetitorproductisbetterandcheaperthanyoursandyou donothavethemeanstocompeteetc. Anunreasonablytoughexam,andalowpointscore,couldalsoleaveyoudepressed,withareality(reactiveminddecision)thatyouarea failure.Assuch(illogically)youcouldloseallinterestinthesubjectandwalkawayfromthatareaofstudy,whichpreviouslyinterestedyou, andloseoutonthat(mathematical)potentialtoworkforyouandwithinyoufortherestofyourlife.Andthiscouldbesimplybecauseof circumstancesthatwereoutofyourcontrol.Ifyoudidnotstudyfortheexamandthenfaileditthenthissituationhasbeencausedbyyouand youshouldtakeownershipforthefailure.Butifnotthenyoushouldimmediatelygetbackintothesaddle,andtryagain.Andkeeptryinguntil youstarttosucceed.
Clickhereforthe5stagesofLossandGrief.Note:Peoplecanbecomestuckinastage(anemotionaltone)! Toomanyhardknocksfromlife,whereyoubecomeeffectinsteadofcause,canalsohaveyoulivinginfearandapathyanddriveyouDown Tone.Life(asinthepicturebelow)candefinitelygiveyoubodyblowsandabloodynose!Butletmeassureyouthatwithallthetrialsand tribulationsoflifeitisstillgreattolivelifetothefull.Andifyouhaveapassioninlife,likeplayingtheguitar,thenyouarefortunatebecause youwillhaveabiggerpicturetokeepstrivingforandameanstowinandwinandwinagain.Rememberthathappinessistheattainmentof notunknowngoalsandyoucandevelopthemindset:Meandmyguitar(orwhateveryourpassionis)forlife!Andbykeepingthisprimary goaltopmostinyourmindasyoutraveldownandarebumpedaroundinthewhitewaterrapidsoflife.
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Thetrickisnottoletothers,orlifegetontopofyou.Andnottobecometrappedinanunhappy&unproductivelife. Ifyoufalloutofthesaddlehowdoesthesonggo?"Yougottapickyourselfup,dustyourselfoff(climbbackup)andstartalloveragain!" But,youdoneedtothinkcarefullybeforeyougoatitagain,because,ifyouhavefailedatsomethingbefore,youmayhonestlyneedtorelook andthenchangetheconditionsthatcausedyourfailureinthepastinordertosucceedinthefuture!Simplyreusingabadrecipetomake breadwillstillcausethebreadnottoriseanditwillflopoverandover,untilyoustartusingabetterrecipe.

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Sometimes,thetruthisthatyousimplycannotsucceed,nomatterwhatyoudo.Possiblyyouareinamarriageandyouaretrulymismatched, incompatible,different,arestillnotreadyforcommitmentorsimplyupagainstaparticularlynastypersonorgroupthatrefusestoallowyouto succeed.Orthereareothercircumstancesthatarepitchedagainstyouandyoursuccess.Inthiscase,asanintelligentbeing,youoweitto yourselftoseriouslyconsiderthatitmaybeworthwhiletosimplymoveonandtrytohaveamoreconstructiveandlovingrelationshipwith someoneelse,ortrysomethingelse,orworkinadifferentjobetc. Itisyourhappinessandyouneedtoensurethat(YOU)remainhappyandintactasanUpTonespiritualbeing,atallcosts. Itisvitaltoneverletthisdecisionbetheresponsibilityofanyoneelsebutyou!ManyabusedpeoplearedominatedbyDownTonepeoplewho aremastersinmakingthemfeelincompetent,patheticanduseless.Thiscontrolgamewillbeusedoverandoveragainonyouuntilyou,ifyou areavictimofabuse,likeanalcoholicaffirmingthattheyhaveaproblem,faceupandrealizethatyouareavictimandthatyou(andonlyyou) cannowandneedtonowdosomethingpositiveaboutyoursituationandfreeyourselffrombondage. Ifyoubecometrappeditcantakeyearstodecadesofunhappinessbeforeyourealizeyourpredicamentorhavethestrengthandabilitytofree yourselfsothatyoucanstarttopursueyourowngoalsandnotbepartofanother'sabusivegame.Someunfortunatepeopledonothavethe strengthorawarenesstoseetheirpredicamentortheabilitytodothis. Don'tbeeffect,ratherBEcomeCAUSE! WHY?SIMPLE:BECAUSE!
Thetwopicturesabovesayitall.Inlifeyouareeitherwaitingforactiontocometoyou(youarethereceiveroflife'seffects),oryougooutand becomecauseoverlife. WhatistheReactiveMindandhowdoesitaffectme? IhavementionedthisbeforeintheUpGuitarHillwebsite.Butletmeusethissectiontoagainreiteratebecause,fullunderstandingofwhathas beendiscussedbeforeandwhatwillbediscussedafterthissection,musttakeintoaccounttheeffectofthereactivemind.Alsoinordertosee yourguitar(andlearningguitar)asaspiritualactivityandasanextensionofyou(youasyour"spiritualself"existinginyourbody),andto ensurethatyouunderstandhowyou,andyourguitargoalswillneedtoworkcloselytogetherintothefuturetoachieveforwardprogressand success,thehighlevelofexplanatorydetailaboutthereactivemindanditseffectsonusisrequired. OK,solet'sgetintoit... ThewordsatthetopoftheToneScale"Action,""Games"and"Postulates"simplymeansthatyouareabletoact,andhavebecomecause overlife.I.e.youareactivelyinvolvedinthegameoflifeandwanttosucceedandwin. [Butrememberwinningmustnotcomeatanegativecosttoyourowncharacterorstandardsofmoralityandpersonalethics!Inorderforyouto consistentlyreachthehighertones,yourethicalstandardswillneedtobemaintainedthroughoutyourlifeataconsistentlyhighlevel!] Atthesehighlevel'syouareabletopostulateapositiveoutcomeorgoal(i.e.constructamentalimageorstrategyandthenmakeitso)and strive/driveforit,overcomeobstaclesinyourwayandmakeyourgoalareality. SerenityofBeingness,atthetopofthetonescale,isastateofserenehappinessandcontentment.Thisisaspiritualstateoftranquilityand joy,andwecancatchglimpsesofit,fromtimetotime. Alloftheuppertones(uptoSerenityofBeingness)comesfromtheattainmentofnotunknowngoals.Thismeansessentiallythatweare activelysurvivinganddoingwell!ThisgivesusawonderfulfeelingofcontentmentandsuccessI.e.wearewinningatliving.Examples includethefeelingwehaveshortlyafterwehavedonewellinanexam,afterhavingstudiedhardforit.Orwehavejustmanagedtoplaya difficultsong(ormusicalpiece)perfectly,thatwehavebeenpracticingforawhile.Orwehavejustlistenedtoawonderful,upliftingpieceof music,seenabeautifulsunriseorsunset,beenhuggedsuddenlybyourspouseorwatchedourchildtaketheirfirststepsetc.Thelistis endless. Youdon'tneedtoreadtoomuchintothetonescaleabove,exceptthatyoushouldalwaysaimtobehappyandconstructiveinyourlifeand shouldstrivetowardstheattainmentofachievablegoals.Itsreallythatsimple. Youwillalsoneedtorejectallnegativitythatwillsapyourpositiveintentions,asthiswillbringyoudownthetonescale!Rememberthatyour spiritualstateneednotbetiedtootherpeopleoryourcurrentcircumstances.Believeitornot,ifyouareaspirituallyawareperson,thenitis actuallypossibletobehappyandcontenteveniflifeishardatthemomentordifficultorunfair.
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[Asaquickaside,theMaslow'sNeed'sHierarchy,statesthatyouneedtocaterforyourbasicneedsfirst,beforeyoucanconsiderthe philosophicalandesoteric.Iagreewiththistoapoint,butfeelthatinnertoneandhappinessneedstobeattainedfirstandshouldnot necessarilyhavetofollow,orbeattachedtotheattainmentof"stuff."OnecanseethisasBE,DOthenHAVEasopposedtowanttoHAVE, andthenDOtohaveinordertoBE.] Let'scontinue... Ifyouaredowntoneandangry,orfrustratedordepressed,youwillnotbeabletosucceedwellinlife,andespeciallywithyourguitar.i.e.you willnotbeinpossessionofthenecessaryemotionaltonerequiredtosucceedor,putanotherway(pertainingdirectlytolearningguitar),bein themoodtoplayyourguitarorenjoyplayingguitar,andyouwillcertainlynotbeinthemoodtopracticeyourguitarorbeabletomoveforward musically.Ifyouarepositiveandhappy,thenplayingyourguitarwillbeajoy!Itisreallythatsimple. Hereissomethingelseforyoutothinkabout.Thisextendstheideaabove,butwithsomemoreindepththoughtsonwhyitisthatwetendto slipdowntone.Thisinformationisoffereduptoyoutoacceptorrejectasyoufeelisright.I.e.onlyacceptitifyoucanseetheinherent wisdomandmeritintheargument.Rememberthatthisisaphilosophicaldiscussionandyoudon'thavetoacceptwhatIsayifyoudon'twant to.Andifyoudon'tfeellikeproceedingfurtherwiththissection(youmayalreadybeanuptoneperson,oryoumaynotreallybeinterested(i.e. youcouldbeatthetoneofdisinterestorboredomforexample)oryoumayalreadyhavedevelopedothercopingmechanisms[religion,yoga etc.]).IfsothenyoucanignoretherestofthediscussionandjustfocusoncontinuingtoBEuptoneandhappy,positivelyplayingyourguitar andmakingconstantforwardprogress! Thatsaid,let'sproceedfurther... RememberthatthedifferencebetweenhumansandanimalsisourabilitytoTHINKaboutwhatweTHINK!Thisiscalledanalysis. Humansessentiallyhavetwotypesofminds(i.e.brainactivitythatfacilitatesthinking): 1.TheAnalyticalMindorthinkingmind.Thisisapartofourmindthatallowsustobelogicalandtothinkoverproblemsandfindsolutionsto them.Withtheanalyticalmindweareabletonavigatethroughthegameoflifeandsolveproblemsbyfindingsolutions.Ifweareuptone, thenwecandothiswithoutallowingfailures(anddistractions)inlifetogetontopofusanddepressus/defeatusandsidetrackusfromour goals. Putanotherway:Weknowthatsometimeslifegivesuslemons,butbecauseweareintelligentandanalyticalwerefusetobebitter,andalso weknowhowtomakelemonade!i.e.weareabletobouncebackandcanturnnegativesintopositives. Knowthatweallfailattimesinourlife.Thesedifficulttimes,ifweareuptone,opentothemandallowthem,canteachusveryimportantlife lessons,andwillallowustogetbetteratwhatwedoandgrow.Rememberthatinordertolearnhowtowalkorrideabicycleetc.weneeded tofalldownafewtimes. 2.TheReactiveMindorsurvivalmind.Thisisadefensivebrainactivitythatcomesdownwithusfromourdistantpast.Thisbrainactivityisa flightorfightactivity.I.e.Itissupposedtokickinfasterthanouranalyticalbrainactivity(oftenoverridingit)anditspurposeistosaveourskin ifthereisasuddenthreattooursurvival.i.e.don'tthinknow...RUNorFIGHT,foryourlife! Thisreactivemindisverydifferentfromtheanalyticalmind.Itcanbecomparedtoaloyaldogthat,whileitlovesyoutotallyandisalwaysthere foryou,itisactuallyreallyquitethick.Infactitissothickthatwecouldhonestlysaythatitisasthickasabrickorevenabrush!
Ihaveshownyouthesepicturesonhowthereactivemindcaninvalidateyourintentionsbeforeyouhaveevenstarted,above,buttofullyto reinforcethistruth,heretheyareagain.
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Thereactivemindcanbefurtherexplainedbythefollowingexample:
Imaginethatyoupassahotplateonastove.Youseeitisredhot.Youranalyticalbrain,whichhopefullyknowsalittleaboutheat,says... beware!danger!don'tgonearthat! Butyourreactivemind,ifithashadsimilarexperienceswithburnsbefore,likeanalarmsystemgoingoffinyourbody,willcomealiveandstart warningyouateverylevelinyoursystemofthedanger.Fearandadrenalineisitsprimaryalarm,buttherearemanyothers,likeanxiety, restlessness,nervousness,agitation,trepidation,concernetc. Imaginenowthatyoudon'tseethehotplate(orpossiblyyouhaveneverseenahotplatebeforeinyourlifeanddon'tunderstandthedanger) andyouaccidentlyputyourhandonthehotplate.Yourreactivemindwillkickinimmediatelyandtrytosaveyoubyactivatingphysical responsesatlightningspeedtogetyououtoftrouble.Adrenaline,nerves,pain,fear,etc.willallcoursethroughyourbodyviayourcentral nervoussystemandbloodstreamandhityourbraincausingyoutojumpawayfromthehotplateandreactalmostwithoutthinking(without analysis)tothethreat.Hopefullybeforeyourhandistoobadlyburned! Apartfromswiftlyandwithoutdebate,gettingyououtoftrouble,thereactivemindwillalsorecordeveryvividdetailoftheunpleasantincident (inmicroseconds)withthesolepurposeofupdatingitssurveillanceprogram,whilealsolookingtoimplementupgradedwarningsystemsfor youintothefuture(hereyoucanthinkofchemicalreactionsinyourbody,whichcauseeffectsonyouviayourreactionsandemotionaltone andinanefforttocontrolyouandyourresponses). Thebestwarningsystem,andthisyourloyal"thickasabrick"reactivemindfirmlybelieves,isthatifthereisdanger,orsomethingseemstobe occurringthathascausedyoupainordangerbefore,thenitisAWAYSBESTtoavoiditandfindareasontostayfarawayfromthethreat! OK!Myloyal,yesandalso"thickasabrush",dogbrain,isnowwatchingoverme.Cool!Isn'tthatagoodthing?Ihearyousay! Well,Idonotfullyagreewiththisatall!Iwillexplainwhy,asweproceedfurtherwiththisdiscussion. Rememberthatthereactivemindissurvivalinstinctanditoverridestherelativelyslowerbrainprocessofyouranalyticalmind.Becausethe reactivemindhashighlightedareasinlifethatareathreat,everytimeyougoneartheseperceivedthreats,orsomethingsimilar,thereactive mindwillwakeupandstartwarning(irritating,agitating,complainingandnagging)youofthedanger,ifitfeelsthatithasarisenagain.Butthis issocool!Apermanentlyawakewatchdog!Myownlittleguardianangel!Isn'tit?Yousay. Notreally,Isay! Thereasoncanbeexplainedbythisshortstory.
Imagineafish(aSalmonforexample,andtheSalmoncanbeaheorher,butforourpurposesfornowtheSalmonisahe)isswimmingupa river.Whileitswimslazilyupstream,itsmindisconstantlytakinginthecolors,shades,watertemperature,thelieoftheriverbed,theshapeof theunderwaterfoliageetc.Itisconstantly(throughinputsfromitssenses)monitoringandrecordingwhatishappeninginitsimmediate environment!Thereactivemind,everloyalandfaithful,reportsbackperiodicallysaying"allisok,wearesafe,don'tworryboss.I'monguard!"

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Acknowledgingthisatasubconsciouslevel,thefishproceedswithitsswimupstream.
ThensuddenlytheSalmonisattackedbyabigger,moreferociousandveryhungryTigerfishwhichcomesatitoutofnowhere!Inthesudden flurryofactivity,thereisfranticmovementandrowsofteethareseenflashingandsnappingfortheSalmon.Thebiggerfishishellbenton makingtheSalmonitsdinner!ThenextthingtheSalmonknowsisthatthebiggerfishhasclampeddownontheSalmon'stailwithitsjawsand istryingtokillhim.PAIN!FEAR!TheSalmon'sreactivemindimmediatelykicksin:Thisismuchfasterthantheanalyticalmind.Infactthe reactivemindoverridestheanalyticalmindbecause,ifitdoesnot,theanalyticalmindcanslowthefish'sreactionsandbodydown.This definitelynotthetimeforintrospectionandanalysis,butratherthetimeforfightor(flight)butforaSalmonwithoutsharpteeththeonlyoptionis ...swimaway,NOW!!! Thereactivemind,inaflashofenergyandcommunication,followedbyburstofchemicalsreleasedintothesystemofthefish,saystothe Salmoninamicrosecond:youcan'twin,hereissomeadrenaline,nowdon'tthink,let'sjustGETAWAY!!!Quick!,thrash!,move!Jerkoutof thejawsonyourtailifyouwanttolive!etc.andbeforetheSalmonrealizesithehasmanagedtothrashandbreakfree,dashingforfreedom. LuckilytheSalmongetsawaythistimetoliveanotherday.Phewthatwasaclosecall!Andmytailhurts! Everyvividdetailoftheincidentandthepain(evendaysaftertheincidentwhilethefishrecovers)isrecordedbythereactivemind,anda mentalpackageabouttheattackisstoredinthereactivemindoftheSalmon(wecanthinkofitasalet'slearnfromthis,wesurvived,mental recording). ImaginethatintimetheSalmonrecoversfromitswounds. NowimaginetheSalmonafewyearslaterandheisgoingupasimilarriver,butthisriverisactuallyovera1000kilometersawayfromthe firstriver. TheSalmondoesnotknowit,butatthetopoftheriverisawonderfulclearpondwherehecouldbeveryhappyfortherestofhisdays.Atthis placetherearenonaturalpredators(orfishermenwithrods)andhecanlivesafely,findlotsoffoodandevenamatethatcanbring companionshipandafamilyetc. Butthereactivemind,whichstillcarries(inahugestoreroomofsurvivalmemories)avividmemoryfileofthepreviousattack,anddeepinthe subconsciousoftheSalmon(andlikeithappenedyesterday)thismemory(withallitshorrificpicturesandfeelings)suddenlystartstocome alive!Rememberthatthealarmsystemsofthereactivemindarealwaysfullyoperational.Theyarejustwaitingtokickinatanytimetowarn theSalmonifasimilarsituationhappensagain.Imeanoneriverisexactlythesameasanother1000kilometersaway,isn'tit? Alarmbellsaregoingoff.Forsomereasonthereactivemindbelievesthatitseeswaterplantsontheriverbedthatlooksimilartothoseof beforeandthewatertemperatureisalsoalmostthesame...isn'tit?Andtheshapeoftheriverbedseemssimilarandaren'tthoseshadows likebeforewhenwegotattacked!Theloyaldogbrainstartsbarking:"Woofwoof!Wakeupmaster!"Withjustafewthingssimilartothetime before,whentheSalmonnarrowlyescapedwithitslife,thereactivemindcomesfullyawakeandpoursallthehorriblememoriesandfeelings ofthepreviousattackbackintothemindandbodyoftheSalmon.Itsays...Areyousureit'ssafe?Becareful!Don'tgoupthereitsdangerous, andswim(run)awaynow!NOW!QUICKLYBEFOREIT'STOOLATEORELSEYOUCOULDDIE!!! Andfornologicalreasonwhatsoever,thattheSalmonfullyunderstands,thefishexperiencessuddenanxiety,fearandtrepidationand,without thinkingfurther,decidestoabandonthetripuptheriver.Itturnsaroundandswimsintheoppositedirection.AndtheSalmonlosesoutonall thewonderfulopportunitiesthatexistedhigheruptheriver. Why? Becausethereactivemindisverypowerful(andbasicinitsoperation)anditisexcellentatoverridingthelogicoftheanalyticalmind'sbest intentions,andforreasonsthatmaynotbetrueorlogical. Ifyouremember,Itoldyouthereactivemindwasloyal,butalsoreallystupid,andactuallyasthickasabrickorabrush!
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Youcanthinkofthereactivemindasahugemessystorehouseofemotions.Orafieldfullofhiddenlandmines.Orevenanestofhornets. Often,ifwearefeelingtiredorirritableandemotional,whathashappenedisthatsomethinginourday,orinourthoughts,hastriggered (restimulated)astoredemotioninthereactivemindanditisthisthatmakesusemotional,tiredorfrustrated.Wehaveopenedthegateand walkedintothefieldandsteppedonortrippedanemotionalmineandithasgoneoff.Oryoucansayyouhavepokedanestofhornetsand theyarenowallflyingaround,angryandstingingyou.Youwillfindthatafteragoodsleepthestirredupemotionshavegoneawayagain. Thedustfromtheexplosionhassettledorthehornetshavecalmeddownandarenowsettledbackintheirnestagain.Youhavestopped restimulatingthereactivemindandgivenyourselftimetoletitseffectssettledownandstopaffectingyou. TheMeditationaudioprogramthatIofferintheUpGuitarHillwebsite,ifyouareinterested,canbeusedoverandoveragain,forashortperiod oftimedaily(fromjust10minutestolessthanahalfanhour)inahypnosis/restingenvironmenttoquicklygetyourreactivemindtosettle down,andgetyoubackuptoneandproductive. Thetruthisthatweareallconstantlybeingmicromanagedandcontrolled,toalesserorgreaterextent,byourreactivemind,andmostofthe timewedon'tevenrealizethatitishappening.Whilemyexamplesabovearepowerful,inrealitytheeffectsofthereactivemindmaybevery subtleandmayaffectusjustunderthesurfaceofourawareness.Atwingeofuncertainty,afeelingofuneaseAslightlackofconfidence.etc. Withourbestinterestsatheartandwithitsbestintentions,thereactivemind(likealoyalthickdog),worksagainstus,andinmanysubtleways, keepstrippingusup.Thiscanbecomeextremelydebilitatingifwedon'tunderstandwhatishappening,howitworksandthefactthatitisoften extremelyillogicalandmisplacedandthisiswhythiscanbesoverydetrimentaltousandfrustratingtoourachievementofourgoals. Hereareafewexamplesofwherethereactivemindcanreallyundermineus.Therearemanyexamplesinourlifeandmorearebeingcreated daybydayifweletourdogbrainrunwildandhaveitsway.Asyoureadthispossiblyyoucanthinkoftimesinyourlifewhenyouwere controlledandpulledofftargetbyyourreactivemind. Possiblywefailamath'stestatschoolandwefeelsoterribleanduselessthatthereactivemindcan'thelpbutkickinandstarttotryand protectus.I.e.itbelievesthatthispainwearefeelingisbadforus,andtheterribleexperienceneedstobeavoidedatallcostsintothefuture. Orwehavehadaverybadexperiencewithaboyfriendorgirlfriend,orhavebeenthroughatoughdivorce,andwehavebeenterriblylet down.Thispainoffailureanddisappointmentandheartacheissoterriblethatitmustbeavoidedatallcosts,ourreactiveminddecides.Or wetriedtolearnamusicalinstrumentbefore,andcouldnotdoitbecausewewerehonestlyattemptingtodosomethingthatwas,infact,farto advancedforusandwewerenotreallyready(sayyouwere8yearsofage)tohandlethecomplexityoftheinstrumentandatthesametime werenotreceivingtuitioninastepbystep,carefullyconstructedgradientmethodand,beingoutgradientwithoutmaturityorunderstanding, gaveupinfrustration. Theexamplesaremanyandvaried. Thereactivemindisgreatatoverridingtheanalyticalmindandexcuses(manufacturedbythereactivemind),astowhythegoalshouldnotbe reached,comeoutthickandfast.Iamstupid,Ican'tworkwithfigures,mymotherandfatherwerenotmathematicallyinclined.Iwasbornwith
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twoleftfeet,Idon'thavewhatittakes,IhaveADHD,Idon'thaveagoodmemory,Iamaklutzetc.Andtheseexcusesareallpartofthe complexmechanismthereactivemindhastokeepyouawayfromthedangeritfirmlybelievesliesinwaitifwecontinuetoproceedonthis painfulandstupidcourseofactionwehavedecidedupon. Becauseoftheillogicalinputswearereceivingfromthereactivemind,whicharereallynottiedtolifeanddeathdecisions,butareratherjust fromanoverzealous,loyal(butoftenverystupid)alarmsystem(thatisworkingjustthewayitdidthousandsofyearsago,butisnotreally needednowadays,asmuch),wearenowmadeitsunwittingvictimandkeepgettingtrippedupbyit. Toavoidfailuresandthefeelingsofemotionalpainthatthesecanbring,wesuddenlyfindwearenolongerpositivelyinvolvedoreven interestedinourmath'satschool.Wearenowevenfindingeverywaypossibletoavoidpayingattentioninclassordoingourpracticewhichis sodesperatelyneededtobecomebetteratmath's.Wefeeltired(andoverwhelmed)allthetime,andeachtimewegointothemath'sclasswe arefidgetyandcannotconcentrateanweyawnalot.Wearealsoexhaustedathomeeachtimeweopenthemath'stextbooksoeventhe homeworkisshoddilydone.Youreallyshouldnotbedoingthis,thereactivemindassertsconstantly.It'sdangerous,youknow!Eachtimewe trytostudyweyawnandfeelveryfatiguedanddistracted,whichisawellknownreactivemind(physical/chemical)outputtocontrolthebody, overridetheanalyticalmind,sothedogbraincangetitswayandgetyousafelyoutofdanger.Andallofthistoprotectyoufromamath's example...abunchofnumbersonapage...ridiculousisn'tit! And,astheysayintheclassics,thingsgoprogressivelyfrombadtoworse,becausebynotworkingsteadilytowardsourgoal,wefailmore testsandaviciouscycleisnowineffectandisconstantlyreinforcingitselfeachtimewearesidetrackedfromourgoal.Ourfeelingsoffailure andourreactivemindstoresofnegativeenergyaregettingbiggerandmorepowerfulandthesewilleventuallydriveussystematicallydown thetonescale,towardsfailureanddepression(orworse),ifwecontinuetoletourdogbrain(asthickasabrush)haveitsway. Inrelationshipsinsteadofactivelytryingtomakeanewrelationshipworkandbeingpositiveabouttheoutcome,we(controlledbythereactive mind)arenegative,trepidationsandalmostwillingthenewchanceatarelationshiptofailbeforewestart(rememberthatlogicallytwopeople areliketworivers,andarenotthesame!),orinsteadofenthusiasticallypracticingthenewinstrumentandpassionatelylearningeverythingwe canaboutit,wepracticehalfheartedorskipopportunitiestopracticeandwedon'tmakeprogress.Why,becausetheloyal(thickasabrick) reactivemindinustellsusoverandoverwecan'tdoitandshouldnotbedoingit. Usingalarmsandintricatesurveillanceprogramswearewarnedtostayaway,avoid,becareful,thisisreallynotcoolanddefinitelynotgood foryou,rememberthelasttimeyoudidthis,haveyouforgottenthefailure?Itwasverypainful!Thenegative,avoidancesignalsthatcometo usfromthereactivemindactuallymeddlewithouranalyticalmind,andmeddlewithourpositiveintentions.Ifweletthem,theywilldragus DownToneandcandoomourpositivityandconstructiveeffortsintofailure.Thatis,unlesswesee,understandandfightagainstthereactive mindanditsillogical,negativecontroloveruswhichwillultimatelyjeopardizeusinouranalyticallyconstructedgoalsandpositive(best) intentions. Thereactivemindissimplytryingtoprotectusanddoesnotknowthatitisbeingtotallyillogicalandstupid. Byrealizingthis,beingabletoseehowthedogbrainisnegativelyaffectingus,andbyworkingagainstitseffectandconstantlyrejectingits controlandpushingourselvesconstantlyUpTone,wecandefeatthereactivemindbyreprogrammingitwithoppositepositivethoughts, assertionsandactions.I.e.retrainthedog!Thisisreallyeasytodoandsimplyinvolvesloadsofpositivityandanintentiontokeepfocused onourgoals,andnotgetsidetracked,andtoalwaysstrivetobeandstayuptoneandnottogiveintoolddogbrain. Withinafewweeksofpositiveinput,whereyoureplaceanegativewithapositive,youcanfullyreprogramthereactivemind,anditwillstartto leaveyoualonetomakethemostofyourlife,insteadoftrippingyouupateveryturn. Rememberthesecretofavoidingatrapisknowingofitsexistence! Enoughsaid. Youhaveitinyourpowertomoveupthetonescaleandtowardspositivityandactionandsuccessinyourlife,ifyouallowyourself(viayour analyticalmind[notyourreactivemind])totakeyoutheresystematicallyandastepatatime!Thechoiceisyourstoopenthegateandstep intotheminefieldorpokethehornetsnest.Don'tgiveintopastfailuresorlistentoyourreactivemindtellingyou,onceagain,thatyoushould notgowhereyouneed,dowhatyoumusttoachieveyourgoals,ortrytoconvinceyouthatyoucannotachieveyougoals,oryoudon'thave whatittakes. YOUDO! TALENTCANBEGROWN! JUSTDOIT! TAKESMALLSTEPSINITIALLY,ANDKEEPINGATIT,ASTEPATATIME.DOINGTHISYOUMUSTANDWILLGETTHERE! BEGENTLEONYOURSELF.ROMEWASNOTBUILTINADAY. BUTALWAYSKEEPATIT! IFYOUGOATITSYSTEMATICALLY,ANDKEEPATIT,SOONYOUWILLBEAMAZEDWHATYOUHAVEACHIEVED. Areallycoolwaytogetridofnegativityandreducetheeffectsofthereactivemindcanbefoundinthemediationaudiosystemonthe UpGuitarHillwebsite,butonlyifyouareinterested. Remember: DON'TWORRY!BEHAPPY!
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ENJOYLIFE,ITSFLEETING! LISTENTOUPLIFTINGMUSIC! EMBRACEYOURGUITARANDPLAYITEVERYDAY. Why?Becauseplayingyournylonguitarisaswonderfulasitisgoodforyou!Thisdailyactivityanddisciplineispositiveandifyouinvestin yourselfyouwillreceivespiritualbountyandrewardinabundance,fortherestofyourlife.Thenyoucanpassonthisjoytoothers,byplaying forthem,orsimplybybeinggoodcompanybecauseyouarehappyandfullofjoy! Andfinallyhereisaquoteforyoutoremember:"IplaywhenIaminspired,andIseetoitthatIaminspiredbynineo'clockeverymorning"(or whateveryourpracticetimeis) Ifyouareinterestedclickhereforafewmoreconceptsthatrelatetothereactivemind.Note:ThesecomefromScientologyAuditingandare optionalforyoutolookintoornot.Hencethehyperlink.PersonallyIfindthemphilosophically,psychologicallyandintellectuallytantalizing. Yourcalltotallyifyouwanttocheckthemoutornot.RememberthatIdonotseemyselfasaScientologistanddonotcareifyouareorarenot. Iammerelyinterestedinsomeofthepartsthatmakeupthephilosophy.Possiblytheseconceptswillinterestyouaswell. WhataretheConditionsofChange? OK.Sowehavelookedatsomeofthetrapsthatexistandcantangleusupinlifeandmakeusineffectiveandbringusdowntone. YoucanusetheConditionsofChangeformulaandprocessestomoveyourselfsystematicallyuptoneandintocontrolofyourlife. AsthisisalittleinvolvedClickHeretojumptoafulldiscussionontheConditionsandHowtousethem. RememberthattheToneScaleabovetieslifeandlivingtoasurvivaltone.i.e.UpToneorDownTone. TheConditionsarealsobasedontheToneScaleinsofarasourgoalistomovefromalowTone(notsurvivingwell)toahigherTone (survivingbetter)andultimatelytosurvivingwell. Theessenceofchangeisverysimple:Itisjust3words... STARTCHANGESTOP CyclesofAction(StartChangeStop[SCS])thatwecontrolmayeitherresultinimprovementstoafocusareaortheymaynot. Ortheymayeven,unwittingly,causeanegativeeffect.I.e.adegradationinthefocusareathechangeisbeingappliedto. Onecansaythat,asaresultoftheaction,statistics(stats)beingmeasuredhaveeitherimproved(statsareup),stayedthesame(statsare unchanged)ortheyhaveworsenedordropped(statsaredown).
ContinuousImprovementimpliesacontinuousfocusonactionsthatbringaboutimprovementsinstats,takinguscloserandclosertooptimum qualitygoalswehavesetforourselves. Assoonasthestatsshowadeteriorationforafocusarea,andyouaresurethattightermanagement(atightlymanagedprojectforexample!) willnotimprovethesituation,thenpossiblyitistimetorethinkyourstrategy.Ifitisgoingtoberiskytocontinuethenpossiblyitwillbeprudent

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toreturntowhatworkedand,offtheknownbase,trysomeotherplanofaction,aimedat"gettingthestatsbackupagain." Itisalsoimportanttonotethatoftenamorecomplexgoalcanonlybeachievedinaseriesofsmaller(ingradient)steps,eachimprovingalittle ontheonebefore.Ifyougooutgradientyoumayhaveoverreachedyourself. Notethattheabovecomesfrommyhttp://www.PMWay.co.za/essence.htmlwebsiteifyouareinterestedinmoreinformationonproject planningandprojectmanagement.ThislinkfromPMWaygoesintotheartofstrategicplanning.http://www.PMWay.co.za/strategy.html FromtheConditionsofChangethisistheessence: Ifyoufeelyou(yourperformancestatistics)areslippingdown(Icallthisstatea"sloshing"stateI.e.thingsaresloshing,theprojectissloshing etc.)intotheconditionofEMERGENCYorDANGERthenimmediatelydothefollowingtogetyourstatsup!:

1.Findacommunicationline 2.Makeyourselfknown 3.Discoverwhatisneededorwanted 4.Do,produceand/orpresentit.
Don'tforgetthatDOispartofBE,DO,HAVE(thefirstpointatthetopoftheHarmonyPortal)andanessentialstartpointistoBEfirstbefore Doingandthenmovingtowardshavingness!Alsowhilehavingness(especiallystuff)isnicebewarewhatyouwishfor.I.e.havingstufffor stuff'ssakeisnotasurepathtospiritualhappiness! Whatisintroversionandextroversion? Manypeoplewhoareoverwhelmedbylifecanbecomeintroverted.
Whileothers,whoareUpToneandcauseoverlifearegenerallyregardedasextroverts.
Rememberthatifyouarenotsucceedinginlifethenthiscancauseyoutoreactivateyourreactivemindwhich,chargedupwillnowstart controllingyourbodyandyourmind. Whenyourreactivemindisrestimulated(andyoubecomeintroverted)thenyoumustfindtimeandaplacetobeatpeaceandtorelax.I.e.stop pokingthehornet'snest,orjumpingupanddownintheminefieldofyourreactivemindandallowyouremotionstocalmdown(thedustto settleintheminefieldorthehornetstoreturnbacktotheirnest)andcalmnessandsanitytoreturnandtoprevailinyourlife. ApartfromthemeditationaudiotracksImentionabove,anotherreallycoolthingtodoistosimplyfindtimeandgetoutandlookatstuffaround you. Thisforcesyoutoengagewithlifeandbydoingsothiswillbringyououtofyourself,yourmindandespeciallyyourreactivemind(I.e.ifyouare introvertthenyouareprobablymullingaboutthepastandworryingaboutthefuture)andgettingoutandlookingatnatureoryoursurroundings putsyouintoastatewhereyouareinpresenttime,confrontinglifeandbeingmorepositiveaboutlife.Remembertoalsotouchthingsyousee aroundyou.Thishelpstoconnectyouwithrealstuffexteriortoyou.I.e.notinteriortoyouandinyourmind. Anotherthingtodoonaregularbasisistositquietlyinacomfortablechairandshutyoureyes. Keepingyoureyesclosed,concentrateonsimplyrelaxingandjusttuneintoandlistentothesoundsaroundyou. Atfirstthismaybedifficultbecauseyouheadwillbuzzasyourthoughtsrusharoundconnectingwithideasandpicturesfromyourpast,dayto dayworriesandpressuresandthoughtsaboutthefuture. Then,ifyoujustkeepatitandcontinuetositquietlyandkeeprelaxing,whenyoustarttocalmdownyouwillsuddenlynoticethattheambient
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soundsaroundyou,willallofasuddenstarttosoundalittlelouder. ThishappenswhenyouPOPintopresenttime.I.e.youarenolongerthinking,thinking,thinkingandrushingupanddownyourmemorytrack andfiguring,figuring,figuringwhatyoushouldhave,couldhave,wouldhave,mustdo,willdoetc.RatheryouarenowjustsimplyBE'ingyou. Whenthishappensyouwillhavecomebackintopresenttimeandimmediatelyfeelrelief,calmnessandpeace. ThishappenswhenyoudisconnectfromyourpastandfuturethinkingnessandcomeintopresenttimeandareonceagainsimplyBEingyou. Atthistimeyouwilldisconnectfromyourreactivemindandstarttouseonlyyouranalyticalmind.Orbetterstillyouwillnotuseyourmindatall andwillbeinneutral!Fromthisvantagepointyouareanobserverandcanwatchtheriveroflifeflowpastyoubutdonotneedtotrytoswim aroundinit. IhaveapersonalexamplewhereIspentanumberofveryfrustratingyearsworkinginafamilycompany.Ikepttryingtoswimacrosstheriver, ashardasIcould,toreachapointontheothersidewhereIwastoldIwouldfinallyachieveacknowledgementandsuccessforallofmyhard work.ButwhatIcouldnotseethenwasthattheharderIswamthemoretheriverpushedagainstme(flowingharder)andfrustratingmefrom reachingthepointIwastryingtoswimto(I.e.duetopoliticalreasonsoutofmycontrol,andwhichIwasunawareof,certainpeopledidnot wantmetosucceedinthiscompany).Atapointoftotalexhaustion,andadivorcelater,afriendpointedouttomethatthisparticularriver(the familycompany)wasstructuredinsuchawaythatIcouldnevergettotheotherside.Headvisedmetostopswimmingandsimplypickupmy feetandlettherivertakemewhereIwassupposedtogo.Iaskedhimwherethiswasandhetoldmetotrustintheperfectprocessoflife.I tookhisadviceandLETITBE.SoonamazedandoverjoyedwhennewoptionsopenedupatotherpartsoftheriverdownstreamwhichIwas freetoengageandcouldsucceedin! ToBEisnottothinkmuchatall.I.e.youaresimplyexisting. Atthispoint,onceyouhavereturnedtothepresenttime,youcanopenyoureyesandenjoythefeelingofsimplybeing. Anothertricktotry,ifyoufeelirritatedandfatigued. Sitcomfortablyinachairandholdapenorpencilinyourhand. Usethearmofthechairtosupportyourhandandholdthepenorpencilcomfortablyinyourslightlyclosedhand. Thencloseyoureyesandrelax. Ifyouareopentothis(I.e.arewillingtoletitworkforyou)youwillfindthatyougointoaquickcatnapanddisconnectfromyourreactivemind. Thishappensreallyquickly. Theminuteyourelaxenough(disconnect)youwillknowitbecausesubconsciouslyyouwillrelaxandasyoudosoyouwillopenyouhand andthepencilwillslipoutofyourholdandwilldropontothefloor. This"catnap"hasdisconnectedyourreactivemindandrefreshedyou. Youshouldnowfeelmuchbetterandfarmorerelaxedandcenteredandyoucannowcarryonyourdayasnormal,exceptthatyouarenow energizedandpositiveasopposedtofrustratedandfatigued. WhatisaWithhold: Awithholdisadecisionthathasbeenmadebyonepersonaboutanotherperson(arealitywhichthispersonhascreatedandnowholdsin place[inexistence,intheirownreality]againsttheotherperson[whichmaybefalse]butisconsideredbythispersontobetotallytrue),that theyarenotsharingandcommunicatingtothatotherperson. Whenthepersonshouldbereachingandiswithdrawingthatsawithhold. Forexample,ifyouhearfromsomeoneelse,viathegrapevine,thatapersonsupposedlystolesomething,andyoudecidethatthepersonisa thief,thenyouareunfairlyandunethicallywithholdingagainstthem.I.e.youhavenotconfrontedthemabouttherumorandobtainedtheirside ofthestory,andyouhaveallowedthisalteredreality(whichmayormaynotbefalse)tointerferewithyournormalhonestunderstandingand thefullfunctioningofARCwiththatperson.R=Reality,A=AffinityandC=Communicationareallnegativelyaffectedandcreatedintoa withhold! To"pullawithhold"istheactoffindingoutwhatisbeingwithheldandbringingitoutintotheopen.I.e.exposingorclearingoutthewithhold andputtingtherelationshipbackonafirmfootingwithgoodARC.ASIS'ingthewithholdwillmakeitdisappear! Athirdpartywhohasahiddenagendaandwantstomanipulateordestroyarelationshipwilloftenuseandspreaduntruthsaboutoneofthe peopleintherelationshipandthensharethesewiththeotherpersonintherelationship.Whatoccurs,iftheotherpersonintherelationship believesthe3rdparty,isthatawithholdhasbeencreatedbytheonepersonintherelationshiptowardstheother. Conflictwithinarelationshiporfriendshipcanbeminimizedifweknowhowtocommunicateeffectively(ARC)andifweuseanunderstanding ofhowawithholdworkstoclearupmisunderstandingsanddestroywithholdswhenandwherewefindthem. Inamarriage(arelationshipbetweentwopeoplewholoveeachother)averyimportantskillistobeabletocommunicate.Thisway,the minuteaconditionexistsinthemarriagethatequatestoawithholditisthedutyofthepersonwhoiswithholdingtoimmediatelyapproachtheir partnerandgointocommunication,inordertoclearupmisunderstandingsanddestroythewithhold.ViaARCunderstandingisobtainedand withholds,likefishoutofwater,cannotsurviveinthefreshclearair. Whatis3rdPartyLaw: Thisisaverypowerfullawanditgoeslikethis:A3rdpartyisalmostalwayspresentandunknownineveryquarrelforaconflicttoexist.If thereisconflictinarelationship,takeawhileandtrytoidentifywhoelseisinthemixandisoperatingbehindthescenestowardsdisturbing theequilibriumofthepreviouslystablerelationship.Inmaritalconflictforexample,the3rdpartycouldbeaperson(newlover)whoistryingto moveinonthemarriage,etc. TheplaybyWilliamShakespearecalledOthellodealsspecificallywiththedestructionthatcanbecausedbya3rdparty.Ihaveincludeda
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synopsisoftheplayforyoutoreadifyouhavenotreadorseentheplay.Toreadthesynopsisclickhere.Tryalsotoseethefulldramain filmsaboutthisplay,or,ifyouareableseetheplayenacted,oreventrytoreadtheplay.Itisamazingstuff!3rdparties,throughcovert hostility,areverydangeroustoarelationshipifyoucannotspotthem.Butifyouspotthemtheirpowerisimmediatelyreducedand neutralized.Switchingonthelightandexposingthemwillquicklyhavethesecovertcockroachesscramblingawayandsanityshouldagain prevailwhentheyarebanished. Husbandsandwife'swoulddowelltounderstandthislaw.ByensuringgoodARCbetweenspouses(orbetweenanyfriends)3rdpartieswill beunabletooperateandsowseedsofdissention. Withregardto3rdPartyLawandprettymuchalloftheaboveliveskillswehavebeendiscussing,averyimportantdefinitionisprovidedhere: Thisdefinitioniscalled"ASIS'ness"ToASISsomethingistoviewitexactlyasitiswithoutanydistortionsorlies,atwhichmomentit(its negativeeffectonyou,ifyouhaveaberrationspertainingtothisobject)willvanishandceasetoexist.IfoneASIS'ssomethingthenyouseeit forwhatitis.Inthecaseof3rdpartylaw,ASISingthe3rdpartymeansyouseethedestructivegamebeingplayedbythe3rdpartyandwhen youASISthe3rdpartytheireffectonyouandabilitytoconyouanddeludeyou(orothers)vanishes.ASIS'nessistheactofseeing somethingasitisandwithoutbeingdeluded,eitherbyyourselfandyourownaberrationsorbyanother(others)andtheiraberrationsand delusions.Rememberthatifyourlifeisanethicallife,andyoutravelalongthemoresurestraightandnarrowpath,thenyoustandless chanceofbeingsubvertedanddamagedbylifeorunderminedbyothers(whoarelessethical)thanyouareinyourownethics.ASIS'ingyour ownactionsandthoseofothersmustbemeasuredagainstthestandardofunaberratedbehavior.ThePathtoHappinessisoneexampleof anethicalroadmapthatpromotesunaberratedbehaviorandoffersitselfasastandardofgoodbehavior,buttherearemanyothersin existence. Intheexample(giveninthe3rdPartyLawsectionabove),ASIS'ingthecovertactionsofIAGOinShakespeare'sOthellomeansthatOthello hasfinallyunmaskedIAGOandthedestructivegamesareseenforwhattheyareandarefinallyexposed.ItisatthismomentofASIS'ness thatthepowerofIAGOtodeceiveandthecovertactionsofIAGO,whichhavebeenabletoexistandflourish,vanish.Obviouslyusinga standardofgoodbehaviormeansthataberratedbehaviorwillshowupasunethicalbehaviorwhichsimplymustnotbeacceptedandif unmaskedmustbeimmediatelyrejected.I.e.itisalwaysbetternottoletahungryfoxintoyourhenhouseratherthantobelaxandafterthe damagehasbeendone,trytogethimoutagain.Learntoseefoxesforwhattheyare.I.e.beawareandASISthefoxsothatitcannotgetin andcannottheneatyourchickens!Orbeawareandsee"ASIS'ing"aconmanbeforeyouareseducedintotheirtrap.EthicsandKnowledge ofunethicalbehavior(knowgoodfrombad)areyoursurvivaltoolshere. Amorepracticalexamplecouldbetheconstructivecognitionthatastudentwhohatesmath'sreceiveswhentheysuddenlyrealizethattheir hatredofmath'sistheresultoftheirownaberrationandthatmath'sisessentiallyanunaberratedsubjectandonethatcanbeunderstoodand mastered.I.e.viaARCASIS'nessisreturnedtomath's.Anaberratedattitudetomath'scouldhavebeencausedbymassivenegative pressurereceivedfromparentswhenthestudentwasyoung.Duetopressureexertedbeforetheywerereadyandmaturetoacceptthemath's challenge,andtounderstandmath'sandbesuccessfulatmath's,theirinitialattemptswerederailed. OrthiscouldhavebeenasaresultofaninabilitytocommittothestudythroughanARCbreak(oftenmisunderstoodaslaziness)I.e.they refusedtoengagethemath'sandthroughnonengagement(practiceofmath's)theycreateanARCbreakwiththesubjectandfellbehind.And thefurthertheyfallbehindthemoretheyARCbreakandthemorelazytheyareaccusedofbeing. Ortheyreceivedbadteachingwhereakeymathematicalprincipalwasnottaughtcorrectlyandthiscausedablockaboutmath's,ortheywere immature,oranynumberofotherreasons(ofwhichtheycanalsobedisinterestorlaziness!). Allofthereasonsabovewouldhavecreatedanaberrationinthestudenttowardsmath's(anegativeandpainfulreactivemindmemorytrace). WhatwasrequiredwasanASIS'ness,toseemath'sforthelogicalandrationalbodyofknowledgethatitis,andthenforthestudenttowrap theirheadaroundthesubjectandgettogripswithitandsystematicallymovetogetontopofit. Abarrierissomethingthathasbeenconstructedorexistsandcaneitherassistusoritcanconfoundusandourintentions. Aglassofwaterisanexampleofabarrierthatcanassistus. Withouttheglassthewaterwouldnotbecontainedandwouldbealloverthefloorortabletop. Awaterpipecontainsandcontrolswateranddirectsittoafaucetsowecanuseit. Abarrierisalsosomethingwecanconstructtobetterdefineourlivesandalsotokeepourselvesontrack. I.e.itisconstructedtoensurethatwedonotallowourselvestolapseintotoomuchfreedomandthendonothing. Barriersandgoalsallowustodefineboundariesandapointinthefuture(ourgoal)andthenworktowardsit. Aprojectplan,forexample,attemptstoputcontrolsintoplace(barrierstoinhibittoomuchfreedom)sothattaskscanbecompletedina systematicmanner,ontimeandwithinbudgetandqualityconstraintstowardsaclearlydefinedobjective. Barrierscanalsobecreatedtothwartintentions. Asecurityfenceisabarrierthatisconstructedtobarentryintoanarea. AbankvaultwillnormallyhavealockedsafedoorthatwillthwartentryintothevaultbypeoplewhodonothavetherighttoenterI.e.the correctcombinationtothelock. Aborderguardatafencedinborderpostisabarrierthatisusedtodefinebarriersbetweencountries. Barrierscanalsobenonmaterial. YoutrytoconvinceyourselfthatyouareuselessatMathematicsandbydoingsoyouhavebuiltawallbetweenyourselfandMathematics. Acommunicationbarrierisawallthathasbeenerectedbyoneorbothpartiesthathindersordefiescommunication. Thewallcouldhavebeenerectedbecauseofmanyreasons,butprobablyisinplaceduetoadifferenceinrealityandtheresultantARC Break.
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IfwelookatthephysicaluniverseanacronymMESTcanbeusedtodescribethisphysicaluniverse.I.e.Matter,Energy,SpaceandTime. Butyoucanalsothinkofbarriersasmaterialbutinaspiritualsense.I.e.Apersonhasputawallaroundtheirheartforexample. Hereisanexampleofanothertypeofbarrier.I.e.soandsoissodistantwithme.Icannotunderstandwhy./Orthissubjectisreallyesoteric andIcannotseemtoconnectwithit.
Iwillleaveituptoyoutothinkofothertypesofbarriers,bothphysicalandmetaphysicalorexistinginourmindsI.e.analyticalorspiritualin nature. Ifyoucanstarttovisualizedifferentbarriers,youcanthenstarttodefinethebarriersthatexistinlife.Ifyoucandothisthenyouarewellon yourwaytowardsidentifyingbarriersinyourownlifewhichhavebeenerectedbyyouorothersandwhicharestoppingyoufrommoving forwardandbecomingcauseoverlife.Ifyoucandothisthenitwillbeeasytostarttolookatwaystotakedownthebarriers(dismantlethem) orfindwaysaroundthem.Obviouslyyourintentionswhenengagingbarriers,mustatalltime,beethical. Rape,ortheft,forexampleisthebypassingofbarrierswithoutrespectforortheconsentofthosewhohaveerectedthem. Asyouwilllearninthenextsection,inordertobeethicalyourintentions(withregardtoaparticularcourseofaction)needtocausethe greatestgoodtothegreatestnumberofdynamics.Orputanotherway,yourintentionsneedtocausetheleastharmtotheleastnumberof dynamics. NowletusconsiderFREEDOMS,BARRIERSANDGOALS: Ourchoicesinlifeandhowweliveourlifearegovernedby3things. Thesethreethingsarecalled:FREEDOMS,BARRIERSandGOALS. Livinglifesuccessfullyisaboutunderstandingthesethreeconditionsandbeingabletorecognizethemandworkingwithinthem. Whenyouwereababyyouhadnobarriers.InPsychologywewouldsaythatyouhadnoegoboundaries. Whenyouwerehungry,youcriedandyouwerefed. Whenyouwerecold,youcriedandwerewrappedupinawarmblanket. Whenyouwerewet,youcriedandwerechangedandcuddledandeverythingwasmadewarmandrightagain. Asyougrewuplifestartedtobumpintoyouandstartedtopushyouregoboundariesbackintoplace. Youregoboundariessnappedbackfroma(fantasy)positionwhereyouthoughttherewerenobarriersatall(justcastmymagicwandand poof...),toamorerealisticplacewhichisalignedwiththerealworld.Thisplaceisnotaboutfantasyoftotalfreedom,butratherrealfreedoms earnedwithinbarriers. I.e.Thetransitionoftotalfreedomtofreedomwithinbarrierswaslearned(startedtohappentoyou)when,forexample,youstartedtowalkasa babyandthenbumpedintoatableandfeltpain.Oops...somethingpainfulstoppingmeandisinmyway! Oryouhadatempertantrumanddemandedsomethingthatyourparentssuddenlydidnotgiveyou. Orsomeoneatjuniorschoolhityoubecauseyoutooktheirtoyawayfromthem. etc.
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AnexampleofthisbehaviorcouldbeanolderchildthatisneverdisciplinedandcandowhateveritwantsI.e.thechildisgrowingupandis notbeingtaughttheimportanceofboundaries. Orateenagerwhohasnotmovedoutoftheunrealisticmindsetoftotalfreedomandwhoisextremelylazyandwhowantstoliveaconstantlife offreedomI.e.withoutbarriers. Adrugaddictisanothermoreextremeexampleofthistypeofpersonwhowantstotalfreedomallthetimeandactuallywantstoescapetotally fromtherigorsoflife. Theword"NO"isawordthatputsboundariesbackintoplaceandteachesushowtolivewithconstraintswhileinteractingwitheachotherand ingroups. Theword"Respect"isawordthatshowsthatyouhaveanunderstandingofandrespectfortheboundariesofothers.I.e.Theirprivacyetc. Ifthiswereautopianworld,andwecouldallgeteverythingwewanted,thentheseunrealisticexpectationswouldnotbeaproblem. Butthefactisthatweallliveinaworldwherethereisfiercecompetitionforsuccessfullucrativepositionsandresources. Economistsrefertothisashavinga"multiplicityofwants"andtryingtosatisfythesewantswith"scarceresources". ResourcesarebroadlycategorizedintoLand(physicalresources/oil,minerals,steel,landthatcanbeusedtogrowcropsetc.),Labor(which istheworkforce)andCapital(whichisbuyingpowerI.e.credit,money,savingsetc.).Butthereisalsothefourthandmostimportantresource whichistheEntrepreneur.TheEntrepreneuristhepersonwiththetraining,intellect,couragetotakerisks,andsavvytopullalltheother resourcestogethertomakeasuccessfulmarketofferingandultimatelyasuccessinbusiness.Entrepreneursareaveryscarceresourceandit isnoteasytobeasuccessfulEntrepreneur.ItistheEntrepreneurwhoseesthegoalandisabletonavigatearoundthebarriersandhitit. Socialists(andcommunists)wouldhaveyoubelievethattherearesufficientresourcesforall. I.e.letsgivefreedomstoall! Idonotbelievethatthisistrue. Butmoreimportantly,withveryfewmotivatedEntrepreneursavailable,thegalvanizingforceisoftenabsentsoevenifwecouldcreate excessessothatallcouldgetsome,withoutEntrepreneurswewouldnotbeabletokeeponcreatingtheseexcesses. Thisisquiteironic.I.e.thatthroughcompetitionitistheEntrepreneursthatareablestriveandriseupandmeetthechallenge. ButinaUtopianworld,wheretherewasenoughforall,thechemistry(orconditionrequired)tocreateEntrepreneurswouldbelacking/ missing! HistoryhasshownthatasocialistorcommunistsocietyisripefortheoverthrowofUpToneindividualsasthoseofLowTonemoveinandtake overcontrolofthestate. Miseryistheresult. AninterestinglittlebookwrittenbyGeorgeOrwellisAnimalFarm. Thisbookillustrateswhathappenswhentheanimalstrytotakeoverafarm. ThepigsaredefinitelyquitelowontheToneScale. StalininRussia(andhisgang)aboutwhichthisbookisanallegory,wasresponsibleforthedeathsofmorethan20millionpeopleandaswith theanimalsonthefarm,theywerenobetteroffwiththePigsintheFarmhousethanwiththeFarmerandhiswife! Theoldstoryremainstrueofthegoldengoosewhichlayasinglegoldeneggeachday. Beinggreedytherecipientofthegoldeneggdecidesthatitwouldbebetterittheheadofthegooseischoppedofftofindalloftheeggsat once,andwiththiscomesthedemiseofthegooseandnomoreeggsarelaid! Theexistenceoftoomanybarrierscanalsobeaproblemandsomeonewhoworksallthetimeandhasnotimefortheirspouseorfamilyis someonewhoistoorigidandhassurroundedthemselveswithtoomanybarriersI.e.hasfewfreedoms.Whatsometimeshappenswiththis typeofpersonisthattheysuddenlymeetsomeoneatworkandhaveawonderfulaffair(theiregoboundariescollapseandtheybecomelike childrenagainwithnocaresorresponsibilities)butthenwakeuplater,astheiregoboundariessnapbackintoplaceandrealizethedisastrous consequencesoftheiractionastheirfamilydisintegratesintodevastationanddivorce. Apersonwhohastoomanygoalsbutdoesnotchaseeachonedowneffectivelyisanotherexampleofoneoftheconditionsbeingoutofkilter withtherest.ThisisthetypicalJackofalltradesandmasterofnone. Onecouldarguethatachievinggoalsisgoodandifyouworkhardatitthen,surelythismustalsobegood. Butabalancemustbemaintainedbetweenenoughworktoachievethegoalandagoalthatwillcosttoomuchtoachieve.I.e.youeventually achieveyourgoal,butattheexpenseofyourrelationshipwithyourchildren,youwifeandhealthetc. Balanceinlifeisaboutunderstandingthese3conditionsandtheimpacttheyhaveonyouandthenworkingwithintheminarationalmanner towardssuccess. I.e.youcannotletonegettoomuchattentionattheexpenseoftheothers. EfficiencyandEffectiveness. Thinkabouttheseexamples. Youareawoodcutterandyouhavebeenemployedtocutapaththroughawoodfromonesideofawidevalleytotheother. Butwhathappensisthiswhileyouchop,chop,chopandfocusbusilyonbeingveryefficientincuttingdowntrees,unfortunatelyyouarenot gettingacrosstotheothersidenomatterhowhardorfastorefficientlyyouwork.Thebestthingtodonowistostopandaskyourselfwhy? Byclimbinguponeofthetallesttreesandseeingthelayofthelandyoumaynoticesomethinginteresting. Ifyoulookdownfromhereyouwillprobablyseethaninyourefficiencyyouhavenotbeeneffective. I.e.youhavebeenchoppingandchoppingandchoppingefficiently(well),butnotgettinganyclosertoyourgoal(theothersideofthevalley) asyouhavebeengoingaroundincirclesandtherefore,whileyouarebeingveryefficientyouareinfactnotbeingveryeffective!
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Anotherexampleisthatofafiremanwhoisextremelyefficientatrunningawateringhoseupaladder. Butthiswouldbeofnousewhatsoeveriftheladderwasupagainstthewrongwall. Hereisanotherexample: Youareinanoffroadrally.Youdesperatelywanttowinandhaveyourfootdownhardonthepetrol. Butwhatistheuseofhavingyourfootflatonthepetrolifyouaremiredinthemudandjustspinningyourwheels. Itcouldbeabetterideatotakeyourfootoffthepetrol,climboutofthecar,putsticksandstonesinandaroundthewheelsfortraction. Thengetintothecarandgentlypressthepetroluntilyouslowlygetoutoftrouble. Thengomadwiththepetrolagainwhenyouarebackontheroad! EfficiencyandEffectivenessworkcloselytogetherandbothneedtobeconsideredinordertoachieveexcellence. Whatisagradientscaleandwhatisbeingoutgradient? Thesetwopicturessayitall.
Whenyoutrytodotoomuchtooquickly(andyouarenotcopingI.e.youstarttogointooverwhelm)youwillbeoutgradient. Takethestudyofmath's. Youstartyourstudiesandthenhitadifficultpatch. Youtrytobluffyourselfandtojumppastthispartinsteadofspendingmoretimetounderstandwhatyouarenotunderstandingandtopractice ituntilyougetitright. EverythingafterthisinitialdifficultpatchwillbeastrugglebecauseyouhavenowgoneoutgradientandwillARCbrokenfromthispoint onwardsandanythingyouattemptfurtheralongthecoursewillbeastruggleuntilyougobacktojustbeforeyoustartedtostruggleandthen clearthisupandgetyourARCupfirst,beforeproceedingagain.Youhavegoneoutgradient! ThisappliestoeverythingthatyouaretryingtobuildARCabout.I.e.thatyouaretryingtoachieveanunderstandingof. Ifyoufindyourselfstartingtoyawnwhenyoureadatextbook,orfeeldizzyorlistlessetc.thisisasuresignthatyouarehittingstuffthatisata gradienttoohighforyourcurrentlevelofabilityorknowledgeandyouareARCbreakingagainstthesubject. Thebestwaytostopthisfromhappeningisnottogofast.I.e.takeyourstudies(orguitarlessonsetc.)slowlyand(likethetortoisefrom Aesop'sFabletheTortoiseandtheHare,workmethodically,astepatatime,andconstantlymonitoryourselftoseethatyoudonotARC break.Whenyoudo,thenbacktracktojustbeforeyoustartedtoloseit.Makesureyouunderstandeverything,includingthemeaningsof difficultwordsinyourtext.Everything,notfullyunderstoodwillARCbreakyou! Anotherwaytoprotectyourselfwhenyoustudyistouseastudykit: Manypeoplewilllaughwhentheyreadthisandsaywhowillgotothistroubleanddothis. ButIassureyouthatthisisanincredibleaidtostudywhichalsoaddsmasstowhatisnormallyaverycerebral(inthemind)activity. Hereishowyouuseastudykit. GetasmallboxandfullitwithallsortsofthingsI.e.smallcoins,springs,batteries,smallplasticanimals,playdoughorplayputtyetc. PutalabelontheboxandcallitMyStudyKit. Usetheitemsinthiskittobuildorcreatein3Dallthedifficultconceptsthatyouneedtounderstandasyoulearn. Itdoesnothavetobeanexactmatch.Anythingthatyoucreatethatsuccessfullyshowsyou(evenusingtheitemssymbolically)whatyouare tryingtounderstandandhelpsyoutounderstandandexplaintheconceptisok.Youcanuseyourparentorbrotherorsisterorspouseetc.and runyourcreationbythem,askingthemiftheyalsounderstandwhatyouaretryingdoshowthem. Thiswillhelptofurtherreinforcetheconceptandensurethatyoubuilditwellenoughtoassistyourownunderstandingandtheirs! Thisprocessiscalledduplicating.I.e.youareduplicatingatheoreticalconceptinto3D(clay,coins,springsetc.).Bydoingthisyouwill"get it"I.e.youwillbeabletoduplicatebetweenthedifficultwishywashytheory(whichmaybewishywashyandvaguebecauseyoudonothave itfullyunderstood)inabookandthenecessaryenergyneededwithinyourbraintocognizeandcometoknowandunderstandit.Ifyoucan duplicateaconceptthroughastudykityouwillhavesucceededinknowingandunderstandingit! Bybuildingitin3Dusingobjectsyougivetheoreticalconcepts"physicalmass"andbydoingthisyoulockthemdowninyourunderstanding andpromoteARC.I.e.makethemrealtoyou. ThisconceptyouaretryingtoillustrateandunderstandviayourStudyKitcouldalsobethedefinitionofawordinyourcoursethatiscausing youtoARCbreak. YouwillbeamazedhowmanypeopleARCbreaksimplybecausetheyhavetriedtopushpastawordthattheydidnotunderstand. Builda3Dmodelofthedifficultword(orconcept)sothatyouare100%sureyouunderstandwhatitisyouareworkingwithbeforeyouproceed andyouwillensurethatyoudonotARCbreakandcankeepstudying(movingforwardwithenergyandfocus)withoutthefatigueofanARC
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breakandthedizzinessofgoingoutgradient. Obviouslyyouneednottakethistooseriously!Ifyouarestudyingandyoufeelokthenyouaredoingok. Ifyousuddenlyfeeltireditcouldsimplybethatyouneedtotakeregularbreaks. ButmostofthetimetirednessanddizzinessisanindicationofanARCbreakandyouarenowoutgradientoryoudonothaveenoughmassin yourstudy(I.e.youaretoocerebralanddeepinthebook). Somonitoryourselfregularlyandstaywithinyourowngradienttoachievesuccess! Withthissimpletechnologytheskyisthelimitandyoucanstarttostudytowardsanythingthatyousetyourmindto. [ClickHereforanexcellentStudyCoursebyClearbirdthatexpandsinthedetailrequiredonwhathasbeentouchedonabove] Anddon'tforgetthatgradientappliestootherthingsaswell.I.e.preparingforalongrace,makingfriends,learningguitaretc. Nowletusconsiderafewideasonconflictresolution:
Conflictcancomeaboutforthemostridiculousreasons. Conflictcanhappenbetweenpeople,groupsandalsonations,oftenwithdisastrousconsequences. Herearethreeideastowardsconflictresolution.
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Thebestwaytoresolveaconflictistogetbackintocommunicationwiththepersoninvolved,andtoattempttorestoreandthenincreaseARC.
Note:Thismaynotalwaysbepossible! NowletusconsidertheconditionofBalanceorEquilibrium: Inordertoprotectyourselffromlife'sknocksyouneedtolearnhowtokeepyourbalanceandmaintainyourequilibrium.I.e.stayfocusedand firmlyinthesaddle! Ifyouunderstandaboutequilibriumyouwillstarttounderstandhowtoreturntoyourownequilibriumifyouaredistractedfromyourcourseor receiveaknock,pushingyouroffcourse. Thinkofamarbleinaglassbowl. Themarbleatthebottomofthisglassbowlisregardedasbeinginastableequilibrium.
Ifyouknockthebowlthemarblewillmovearoundbutwillcomebacktorestwhereitstarted.
Ifyougetknockedoffyourcenter. Youshouldhavethecertaintyinyourselfandclarityaboutyourobjectivesandgoalstoimmediatelystabilize,center,focusandpushforward againonthesamepathyouhavechosenandachieveyourgoals. Orbetteryet.Stayfocusedonwhoyouare,whatyoustandforandwhatyourgoalsareandbecomeknockproof! Nowimaginethatyouturntheglassbowlupsidedownandthencarefullybalancethemarbleonitstop. Themarbleinthissituationisregardedasbeinginanunstableequilibrium.
Ifthebowltakesaknockthemarblewillquicklyfalloffbecauseitisunstable. Themarblewillthenrollawayfromitsoriginalpositionandwillhavegreatdifficultyinreturningtoitscenterandoriginalstableposition. Thisiswhathappenstomanypeople. Withoutastablecenterthesepeopleareveryunstableandanyknockordistractionwillknockthemoffbalanceandspinthemoffinanother

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direction. UpGuitarHillstudentsunderstandaboutinternalequilibriumandremaincentered,unflappableandfocused!
Ifyoulackstabilitythenyouareunfocusedandwillfindgreatdifficultyinstayingacourseyouhaveset,oraccomplishingyourgoalsorhittinga simpletargetasabove!
Thisisaboutamindsetyoueitherhaveordon'thave. Withtheskillsshownhereyoucanstrengthenyourmindsetandresolveanddeveloptheabilitytostayontrackandtobeabletokeeppushing forwardforsuccess. Themoreyouworkatitthemoreyouwillbeabletodependonyourowncenterofequilibriumand,fromthisbase,thestrongeryourfocusand resolvewillbecome!Alsothemoreyouwillbeabletohitthetargetsyouaimat! WhatisMonkeyManagement?
Inawonderfullittlebookcalledthe"OneMinuteManager"theconceptofmonkeymanagementwasborn. Essentiallyamonkeyisthe"nextstep"inaseriesofstepstowardsagoal! The"nextstep"iseitheryourresponsibilityortheresponsibilitytomoveforwardbelongstosomeoneelse. Ifthe"nextstep"isnotattendedtoorachievedontimethentheachievementofthegoalcanbedelayed,frustratedorthegoalwillnotbe achieved. Inlifeweallhavetaskstodo.Thesetasks(jobs)arenormallydefinedinourjobdescriptionorinourrole. Thesejobsortasksareourmonkeys. Itisforustomanagethesemonkeys.I.e.Weneedtomanagethemandcontrolthem(asthoughtheywereoutveryownpetsI.e.lookafter them,cleanthemandfeedthem)etc. Butmanypeopleoftendonotliketheirownmonkeysbecausetheycanbedifficulttotakecareofandarehardwork. Sotheydevelopexcellentskillsinpassingtheirmonkeysoffontootherpeople.Especiallybosses!
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Nextsteps(monkeys)areeitherwellfedandmanagedortheyarenot.Peoplewhoyoudelegatetaskstoareeithergoodworkersand responsibleandtheywillkeepmonkeyswelllookedafter.Ortheywillbebadworkers,lazyandirresponsibleandwillwanttogetridoftheir monkeyassoonaspossible.Andinsomecasesmonkeysareawasteoftimeandsimplynotworththetrouble.Inthesecasesthese monkeysshouldbeshot! Let'sseehowmonkeymanagementworksinpractice: Imagineyouareamanagerandyourstaffmemberstopsyouinthepassage,whileyouareonyourwaytoameetingandsays"Ihavetotalkto you.Now!Please,itsurgent!" Andbeforeyouknowityourmemberofstaffhasyoupinnedupagainstthesideofthecorridorandwhentheyarefinishedtheywalkoffhappily (withabounceintheirstep)andyoulookaroundandyouseethestaffmember'smonkeysittinghappilyonyourshoulder. Aneffectivemanagerensuresthatmonkeysstayontheshouldersofthestaffmemberstheyhaveemployed(andtowhomtheyhave delegated)tocareforthesemonkeys.Aneffectivemanagerdoesnotallowastaffmembertooffloadmonkeysonotherstaffmembersoronto himorherself.IfastaffmemberhasdifficultieswithamonkeythenamanagermusthelpthestaffmemberbutNEVERtakeoverthemonkeyor allowittojumpontohisorherownshoulders. Rolesinamarriagecanalsobeseenasmonkeys.I.e.awifewhohatestocookisalwaysinsistingthatherhusbandtakethemouttoeatand thereforewastesfamilymoney.Orahusbandwhowillnotmanagehismonkeyoftakingoutthetrashandwhenthewifecomesintothe kitchentheresitshismonkeychatteringatheronthetrashbinstilloverflowingwithtrash! Childrenarealsoexpertatgettingtheirparentstotakeovertheirmonkeys. Partofthetrainingforlifeofachildisgettingthemtolearntomanagetheirownmonkeysandnottooffloadresponsibilitiesontoothers. Ifyoucanmanage"yourownmonkeys"wellthenyouwillalwaysbeassuredofajob. Managerslovestaffwhoareabletomanagetheirownmonkeys! Andhereisatrick! Toeffectivelymanageyourownmonkeysalwaysdealwiththemostnasty,unpredictableandpotentiallydangerousonesfirst!
Inthemorningwhenyoulookatthemanythingsyouhaveonyour"ToDo"list,putthetwomostdangerousmonkeysonthedeskinfrontof youanddealwiththemfirstandimmediately!ItsabsolutelyOKtoprocrastinatewiththeothermonkeysonyourlistI.e.thelessnastyand dangerousones.Youcangettothemlaterwhenyouhavehandledthetwomostdangerousonesfirst! Afteryouhavesummonedupthecourageandhandledthefirsttwothenchoosethenextinthelistfrommostdangeroustoleastdangerous. AcooltrickistoputacircleontherightoftheTODOitemsinyourdiary.Thenputatickinthecirclewhenyouhave"dusted"theaction.Ifyou don'tgettimethensimplycarrytheitemforwardofdeleteit.Youcanalsoputteethinthecirclesthataredangerous!Thisremindsyoutotick themquickly! Youwillbeamazedhowwonderfulyouwillfeelwhenyouhaveahandleonyourmonkeys. Tryitnow!Youwillnotbesorry! Whatiscontrol? Goodcontrolisexcellenceatmanagingkeyareasinyourlife. I.e.controloveramotorcartodriveitcarefully. Orasportsman(likeasurfer)whoisincontrolofhissportandwhocanrideahighwaveandmaintainhisbalanceonasurfboard. Ofhavingasuccessfulmarriage.
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etc. Controlatitsbasiclevelis:StartChangeStop. Inordertocompleteanactioncycle.I.e.anhourofstudywork,ahalfanhourguitarpracticesession,anurgentreportforwork,agymsession oranynumberofactioncyclesyouhavetodecidewhenyouaregoingtoStart,thenyouneedtodowhatisrequiredduringthistimeandbring aboutthenecessaryChange,thenyoumustStop.AnxietyinstudyisoftencausedbyadelayinstartingtoworkandthenaninabilitytoStart, ChangeStop.I.e.youremainobsessedbychangeandwanttotrytodotoomuchovertoolongaperiodoftimewithoutabreak.Remember thatStopisjustasimportantasStart. Hereisadefinitionofhappiness:Happinessistheachievementofnotunknowngoals. Butgoalscanonlybeachievedinsmallsteps(startchangestop,startchangestop,startchangestopetc.)takensystematicallytowardsyour goal! WhatisobsessivecontrolandOCB? Sometimes,tiedtooururgetosurvive(thereactivemind),webecomeobsessiveaboutcontrollingourselvesandourenvironmenttoachieve ourgoal.Many,especiallyinthedogeatdogwesternworld,aretrainedfrombirthtosucceedatallcostsandgoatagoalashardastheycan andtonevergiveup.Bethebestisdrummedintotheirheadsbythemedia,parents,theirpartneretc. Thisisgoodadvicebutonlyuptoapoint. Unfortunatelythetruthisthatyoucanonlydosomuchtocontrolthingsaroundyourselftowardsyourgoals.i.e.youcanonlydoyourbest. Andsometimesnomatterwhatyoudoyoucannotachievesuccess. Whentheurgetosurviveissostrongthatitbecomesanobsessivecompulsionandyoumovedowntoneasaresultthentheseurgesare beingdrivencompulsivelybythereactivemindandnottheanalyticalmindthenitistimetopullback.Sometimesonemayevenneed psychologicalormedicalhelptoprizethefootofftheaccelerator! Igivetheexampleoftheriver.i.e.youhavesetagoaltogettotheothersidebutitseemsthatnomatterhowhardyouswimtheriverkeeps pushingyouawayfromyourgoal.Determinedyoukeepatitandswimharderandharder.Butallthathappensisthatyougonowhereand becomemoreandmoreexhaustedandstarttodrownyourself! Thiscouldbehappeningatworkwherehiddenpoliticsisfrustratingyouorinarelationshipwhereyourpartnerisnotbeinghonest.Manyother examplescanbefound. Itisatthistimethatyouneedtobelogicalandthinkwithyouranalyticalmind.Possiblythemountainistoohighorthetimeisnotrightoryou maynothavewhatisrequiredwhileothersdoetc. Rather,assumingaZENmindset,pickupyourarmsandlettherivertakeyouwhereitmay. AsthesongbyDorisDaysaysitall: WhenIwasjustalittlegirl Iaskedmymother,whatwillIbe WillIbepretty,willIberich Here'swhatshesaidtome. QueSera,Sera, Whateverwillbe,willbe Thefuture'snotours,tosee QueSera,Sera Whatwillbe,willbe. WhenIwasyoung,Ifellinlove Iaskedmysweetheartwhatliesahead Willwehaverainbows,dayafterday Here'swhatmysweetheartsaid. QueSera,Sera, Whateverwillbe,willbe Thefuture'snotours,tosee QueSera,Sera Whatwillbe,willbe. NowIhavechildrenofmyown Theyasktheirmother,whatwillIbe WillIbehandsome,willIberich Itellthemtenderly. QueSera,Sera, Whateverwillbe,willbe Thefuture'snotours,tosee QueSera,Sera
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Whatwillbe,willbe. Nowletusconsiderthe7DeadlySins. Inthe500yearsafterthebirthofChristfollowersofChristianitysatdownanddevisedthelistoftheDeadlySins.TheSevenDeadlySinsare reallyattitudesthatunderliesins,whethermortalorvenial,firstidentifiedbySt.JohnCassian(360435)inhisConferencesandrefinedby PopeSt.GregorytheGreat(540604)withtheoriginallistofEightDeadlySinsbeingreducedtoSevenDeadlySins.Theyprovidekeysto understandingourfaultsandtheactionsthatresult,andaframeworkforselfknowledge. RememberthatChrist,andhisteachingsembodykindness,gentleness,andforgiveness. "LordforgivememytrespassesasIforgivethosewhotrespassagainstme" Thesinsare: Lusttohaveanintensedesireorneed:"ButItellyouthatanyonewholooksatawomanlustfullyhasalreadycommittedadulterywithherin hisheart"(Matthew5:28). Gluttonyexcessineatinganddrinking:"fordrunkardsandgluttonsbecomepoor,anddrowsinessclothestheminrags"(Proverbs23:21). Greedexcessiveorreprehensibleacquisitiveness:"Havinglostallsensitivity,theyhavegiventhemselvesovertosensualitysoastoindulge ineverykindofimpurity,withacontinuallustformore"(Ephesians4:19). Lazinessdisinclinedtoactivityorexertion:notenergeticorvigorous:"Thewayofthesluggardisblockedwiththorns,butthepathofthe uprightisahighway"(Proverbs15:19). Wrathstrongvengefulangerorindignation:"Agentleanswerturnsawaywrath,butaharshwordstirsupanger"(Proverbs15:1) Envypainfulorresentfulawarenessofanadvantageenjoyedbyanotherjoinedwithadesiretopossessthesameadvantage:"Therefore,rid yourselvesofallmaliceandalldeceit,hypocrisy,envy,andslanderofeverykind.Likenewbornbabies,cravepurespiritualmilk,sothatbyit youmaygrowupinyoursalvation"(1Peter2:12). Pridequalityorstateofbeingproudinordinateselfesteem:"Pridegoesbeforedestruction,ahaughtyspiritbeforeafall"(Proverbs16:18). Thepointthatneedstobemadeisthis:Originallytherewereeightsins.PopeSt.GregorytheGreat(540604)tookVainglory(theEightSin) offthelist. PrideisdefinedabovebutVainglorywasaselflove(narcissisticselflove)whereyouplaceyourselfandyourneedsanddesiresaboveothers andespeciallytheGodhead.i.e.youdonotseethatyouneedtobeaccountabletoanyotherpersonoranyspirituallydefinedGodorcodeof ethics.Itisinterestingtonotethatserialkillersalsoseethemselvesinthislight.i.e.theytakewhattheywant,withoutrespectandwithout conscience! This,especiallyintheCapitalisticWesternWorld,hasresultedinacompetitivemindsetwherepersonalwellbeingandpersonalgainisput aboveallelse.IntheHindureligionrespectforothers,aboveone'sself,isplacedonhigh.Karmaisthenegative"cosmic"resultofcausing harmtoothers.AccordingtotheearlychurchPrideandVainglorywerethemostseriousofsins(TheMotherandFatherofallsins)astheseput thepersonaboveGodandwithoutPrideandVaingloryitisunlikelythatanyoftheothersinswillbecommitted! ItismyopinionthatPopeSt.GregorytheGreat(540604)didagreatdisservicebyeliminatingVainglory.IfyouthinkofwheretheCatholic Churchwasmovingtoatthetime,especiallyasthenextgreatpowerinEuropeaftertheRomans,accumulatingmassivewealthandpower, thenyoucanunderstandtheneedtoallowtheclergy(atthetop)toenjoythefruitsandrichesoftheirnewpower.i.e.tobesupremelyreligious "invanity". Nowletusconsiderthe8DynamicsofLife. Weneedtoalignourselvestowardsthegreatestgoodacrossthegreatestnumberofdynamics. Ortocausetheleastharmtotheleastnumberofdynamics. These8dynamicsarecalled: THESELFDYNAMIC: Thefirstdynamicistheurgetowardexistenceasonesself.Itistheefforttosurviveasanindividual,tobeanindividual,toattainthehighest levelofsurvivalforthelongestpossibletimeforself.Herewehaveindividualityexpressedfully.Muchofwhathasbeensaidabove(within thisHarmonyPortal)appliestothisdynamicandshowsonehowtobestsurvivewithinthefirstdynamic!
THEFAMILYDYNAMIC:
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Theseconddynamicistheurgetowardexistenceasafuturegeneration.Ithastwocompartments:sexandthefamilyunit,includingthe rearingofchildren
Thetruthneedstobestatedupfront! IfyouarenotreadyforchildrenortheresponsibilityofthesecondDynamicthen: Bewise,condomize! Whenyouarereadyforafamily,andyouarewiththerightpartner,thenchildrenareanabsoluteblessing! Unfortunately,thetruthisthatthereisnothingthatcanthrowyoumoreofftargetthanbeingforcedtodontheheavymantle(andoftenthe burden)ofresponsibilityforanewfamily.Childrenareabigresponsibilityandareveryexpensivetoraise.Theycanalsobehardworknotto mentionthelengthoftimeittakestobringthemintofullmaturity.Thiscanbefarworseifitiswithapersonyouhardlyknow,arenotreadyto havechildrenwithandarenotcompatiblewith! Rememberthatprocreation(thedrivetohavechildren)isheavilyengrainedwithintheveryfiberandnatureofourbeing.Itliesdeepinour subconsciousanddrivesourphysicalurges.It(thesexdrivetowardsprocreation)doesnotcareaboutyou!Itonlycaresaboutoffspringto ensuresurvivalofthespeciesandtosafeguardthenextgeneration!Inthewonderfulpassionofsex,asthemalerespondstothefemale,the bloodreallydoesflowdowntothelittleheadand,deprivedofbloodflow,indesperation,thebigheadwillagreetoanythingandeverything askedofitduringthistime.Sensesareenhances,surroundingsandeachotherlook(hypedupwithhormones)amazingandthefuturelooks fantastic.Thisisexactlywhatmothernatureintends!SheisfarmoreWileythanyouwilleverbelieve!Andthen,astheysayintheclassics, andafterallthebloodhasrushedbacktothebighead,IFYOUARENOTTRUETOEACHOTHERANDREADY,realitydawns...The bottomlineisthatyouneedtotakethispartofyourlife(towardsprocreation)veryslowlyandensurethatyouhaveapartnerwhoyouloveand bringsyoujoyfirst.Butalsowhoiscapableandmatureandintelligentandsomeonethatyoucantrustandwhotreatsyouwithrespectandis loyal.Thiswillberequiredifyouaretoworktogetheroptimallybeforeyoustarttoconsiderextendingthefamily.Dah...Iknowthat,Ihearyou say... Really...areyousure...Isay... Andthentheproblemwithinterferingthirdparties: Iwillnotmentionthirdpartiesintheformofpeopleoutsidethefamilydynamicasthishasbeendiscussedabove.RatherIwilllookatthe extendedfamilyandanalyzetheiraffectonthemarriageunit. Whilemostfamiliesarenormallyverylovingtowardseachotherandcloselyknit,ithasbeennotedthatinrecenttimes(Asshownthrough statisticsinAmericaandinotherpartsoftheWorld)thatseverebreakdownsinfamilybondsareoccurringandtheseareoccurringmore frequently,andtherifts,whentheyoccur,oftencannotbemended. Thereasonshavetodomainlywith(butnotlimitedto)alackofrespect,failuretodefineandrespectboundariesandfailuretounderstandthe dynamicsof"parent,childandadult." FromtheOldTestamentoftheBible,asanexample,wearetoldtohonorandobeyourparents.Butnowhereisitclearlystatedthatanew familyunit,likeanewlyplantedfruittree,mustberespected,honored,nurturedandprotectedinitsownrightfirstinorderforittogrowand becomeaproductiveunit.Thereasonforthisisthattheword"family,"asacomplexterm,isnotadequatelydefined.Afamilycaneitherbe yourownfamilydynamic,whereyouandapartneraretheparentsofyourchildren,butcanalsomeantheextendedfamilywhichisconnected throughbloodties. TheFamilyDynamic(TheSecondDynamic)describedaboveisthereforethatofafamilyunitcomprisedonlyofahusband,wife(twounited andlovingparents)andtheirchildren. TosucceedthisFamilyDynamic,firstandforemost,hastohaveandoperateoffitsownautonomy. DefinitionofAutonomy: 1.Theconditionorqualityofbeingautonomousindependence. Autonomyalsomeansthatoneisfreefromexternalcontrolandconstraint. (otherexamplesofautonomy,expandingitsdefinition,followbelow) 2.a.Selfgovernmentortherightofselfgovernmentselfdetermination. b.Selfgovernmentwithrespecttolocalorinternalaffairs:grantedautonomytoanationalminority. 3.Aselfgoverningstate,community,orgroup. InWesternmarriagevowswesometimeshearthefollowing:"WhatGodhasjoinedletnomancomebetween."Thisvowaimstoinvokea
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respectforthenewfamilyunitandespouseswhatitneedsandmuststandfor.Oftenextendedfamilymembers(parents,sistersandbrothers, cousinsetc.withintheirownFamilyDynamics)havelittletonorespect(asa3rdpartywould)ofthefledglingfamilyunitandinsteadof supportingit,they(possiblywithhiddenulteriormotivesoragenda's)cansometimesexertsubstantialnegativepressureonthenewfamilyand this,ifextremeenough,cancauseittoruptureandbreakapart. Thisisoftenthecasewhenyouhaveanoldergeneration(Grandparentsforexample)whowieldlotsofpowerthroughmoney.Ifthereisno unconditionallove,respect,understandingorlimitedethicsthentheywillseektousetheirmoneyandpowertogaincontrolofthenewfamily unitandbendandtwistittowardstheirownends.Therearecarelesspeopleintheworldandiftheyhavelotsofmoneyandpower,their carelessnessandruthlesscanoftenincreasetodangerouslevels.Anexcellentbooktoreadthathasthisasacentralthemeis"TheGreat GatsbybytheAmericanauthorF.ScottFitzgerald. Tounderstandhowthiscanundermineanewfamilywecanthinkofastrongfamilyunit(TheSecondDynamicabove)asexistinginacircle. Butonethatisweak(orinvalidatedfromoutside)takesontheformofatriangle(theinherentstrengthofthecirclehasbeencompromised) wheretheoutsideinfluencer(Grandparentoretc.operatingasathirdparty)haspositionedthemselvesasathirdpointofthetriangle.Theyare influencing(via3rdPartyLaw)eitheroneorbothoftheparents(i.e.theothertwopoints).Theseotherpoints(points1and2)arethenew parents(orthenextgeneration)andtheintrusiveGrandparent(thirdpointofthetriangle)istryingtopryaparttheunityofthenewparentsand gainaccessandcontroloverthenewthefamilyunit(typicallybecauseofaneedtocontroltheirownchildrenandalsobecauseofaneedto gaindominanceoveroffspringoftheirchildrenI.e.thechildrenoftheirchildren). Thistypeofpowergameisnormallyplayedbyaparentorparentswhoareusedtodominationandare(usingacolloquialterm)controlfreaks. HereyoushouldrefertothesectiononParentAdultandChildbelowtounderstandwhythisoccurs. Afterthedamagehasbeencaused,andtheparentsdivorced,theunethicalGrandparentwillbequitecontentbecausenowtheyhavegained controlofthegrandchildrenandcancontinuetomanipulate,whereaccesstothechildrenisgainedbybribingthecustodialparent.Inthis modelyouhavetheGrandparentpointofthetriangledirectlyabovethechildren/custodialparentpoint(inasubmissiveandabusivepower game)andtheotherparent"pointofthetriangle"ismarginalizedandtotheside.ButessentiallybothparentsandthechildrenintheSecond Dynamichavelostasthestrengthofthefamilyunit(thecircle)hasbeenviolatedanddestroyed!Whiletheaboveisanextremeexample,itis importanttonotethatunsolicitedinvolvement(ifnotagreedbybothparents)canonlybringserioustroubletothenewfamilyunit. Anexcellentbook(byBantam)thatiswellworthareadonthissubjectis"ToxicParentsovercomingtheirHurtfulLegacyandReclaiming YourLifebySusanForwardPh.D. Onthebackcoverofthisbookarethefollowingpoints: AREYOUACHILDOFTOXICPARENTS? WHENYOUWEREACHILD... Didyourparentstellyouwerebadorworthless? Didtheytellyouoftenthatyouhadfailed? Didyouparentsusephysicalpaintodisciplineyou? Didyouhavetotakecareofyourparentsbecauseoftheirproblems? Whereyouoftenfrightenedofyourparents? Didyourparentsdoanythingtoyouthathadtobekeptsecret? NOWTHATYOU'REANADULT... Doyourparentsstilltreatyouasifyouwereachild? Doyouhaveintenseemotionalorphysicalreactionsafterspendingtimewithyourparents? Doyourparentscontrolyouwiththreatsofguilt? Dotheymanipulateyouwithmoney? Doyoufeelthatnomatterwhatyoudo,it'snevergoodenoughforyourparents? Inthisremarkableselfhelpguide,SusanForward,Ph.D.,drawsoncasehistoriesandthereallifevoicesofadultchildrenoftoxicparentsto helpyoufreeyourselffromthefrustratingpatternsofyourrelationshipwithyourparentsanddiscoveranewworldofselfconfidence,inner strengthandemotionalindependence. KhalilGibranusestheexampleofthebowmantoshowhowparentsneedtobehaveasastrategytowardsbringinguptheirchildren.This alsoexplainswhynegativeandcontrollinginterferencefromparentsintothenextandevensubsequentgenerationsisrejectedfromanethical pointofview.
OnChildren
KhalilGibran Yourchildrenarenotyourchildren. TheyarethesonsanddaughtersofLife'slongingforitself. Theycomethroughyoubutnotfromyou, Andthoughtheyarewithyouyettheybelongnottoyou. Youmaygivethemyourlovebutnotyourthoughts, Fortheyhavetheirownthoughts. Youmayhousetheirbodiesbutnottheirsouls, Fortheirsoulsdwellinthehouseoftomorrow, whichyoucannotvisit,noteveninyourdreams. Youmaystrivetobelikethem,
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butseeknottomakethemlikeyou. Forlifegoesnotbackwardnortarrieswithyesterday. Youarethebowsfromwhichyourchildren aslivingarrowsaresentforth. Thearcherseesthemarkuponthepathoftheinfinite, andHebendsyouwithHismight thatHisarrowsmaygoswiftandfar. Letyourbendinginthearcher'shandbeforgladness ForevenasHelovesthearrowthatflies, soHelovesalsothebowthatisstable. Theconditionalloveofaparentisalwaysdangerousandshouldberejectedoutofhand.Genuineloveshouldalwaysbeunconditional! Itisthereforevitalforanewfamilyunit(TheFamilyDynamicdescribedabove)todefineitsownparameters(asyouwouldwithacastle)and thenenforceautonomyanddemandrespectfromallwhofalloutsideitswalls,inorderthatitcanbecomestrongandselfreliant.Thismustbe donefirstbeforeonecanconsiderengagingtheFamilyDynamicsofothersi.e.parents,brothers,sisters,cousinsetc. Obviouslyunconditionalassistanceandguidanceofferedbyparentsandotherextendedfamilymemberswillalwaysbewelcomeaslongasit iscoupledwithhighlevelsofrespectfortheintegrityandunityofthenewfamily. RespectandgoodARCarethemeanstobuildstronglinksbetweendifferentFamilyUnitstowardsapositiveanduptoneFamilyDynamic whichisnowmoreafamilygrouporcommunityoffamilies. Divorce:Whileitwouldbenicetothinkthatallindividualsareintelligent,matureanduptone,infact,peoplearealldifferentandoperateat differentlevelsofintelligence,emotionalmaturity,differinglevelsofkindnessandspiritualwisdometc. Individualswhobecomemarriedmoveintoamindsetthatstartstodenytheirindividuality(theirexistenceattheFirstDynamic)astheystriveto meldintotheexpected"blissful"stateofmarriage.Unfortunatelyasuccessfulmarriageisnotachievedthroughthedeletingofanindividual butratheracomingtogetheroftwomatureindividualstoformamarriageunit(basedonrespectforandbyeachoftheindividuals[fortheir partner]whocomprisethenewunit).Whentwopeople,whoaremarriedstarttohaveARCbreaksandthesemoveintorecurringARCbreaks andcontinualconflictetc.thenthiscanleadtoabreakdownofthemarriageandultimatelydivorce.Anunderstandingofeverythingsaidabove shouldassistahusbandandwifeiftheyareseriousaboutsortingouttheirmarriageproblems.Butifdivorceisinevitablethenherearesome ideasonthesubjectfromDrPhil. Divorceisamajorlifechangethatcanleaveapersonreeling.Suddenlybeingonyourowntodealwithissuessuchasmoney,children, careerchangesanddownsizingthefamilyhomecanseemoverwhelming.Dr.PhilandLibbyGill,authorofthebookTravelingHopefully:How toLoseYourFamilyBaggageandJumpstartYourLifeofferadviceonhowtobegintolivelifeafterdivorce. Ifyou'rehavingtroublelettinggo: Thereislifeafterthismarriage Ashardasitistobelieverightnow,onedaythismarriagewilljustbesomethingyoudidonce.You'llgoonandyou'llhavewhatyoucreate. Getoutofdenial Askyourself:Doyoureallywantthismarriage,orareyouhangingontoitoutoffear?Ifbeingaloneisascarierthoughtthanstayinginabroken marriage,you'relettingfearmakeyourdecisions.Areyoumourningthelossofwhatyourmarriagewas,orwhatyouthoughtmarriagewould be? Don'tburndaylight Grievingdoesn'thaveatimeframeonit,butlifedoes.Whetheryourealizeitornot,lifeismarchingon.Therecomesatimewhenyouhaveto acceptthefactandsay,"I'vegottogetonwithmylife,I'vegottogetonwithraisingmychildren,I'vegottogetonwithputtingthingstogether whereIcanbeahappy,meaningful,productivememberofsociety."Findawaytoputonefootinfrontoftheotherandmoveforward. Takethecatastrophiclanguageoutofyourmind "Mylifeisover,""I'velosteverything,"and"Thingsarehorrible"arelabelsthatcanhaveapowerfulimpactonhowyoufeel.Recognizethatit's factuallynottrue.Yourlifeisn'tover,it'sjustanewbeginningforyou.Changingthenegativetapesthatruninyourheadcanchangehowyou physicallyfeel. Don'twastetimewithregret Atsomepointyouhavetosay,"Itiswhatitis."Youcan'tdoanythingaboutwhatyoudidbeforebutyoucandoalotaboutwhatyou'redoing now. Beanexampleforyourchildren Whatkindofmomdoyouthinkyourkidsareexperiencingwhenyou'resittingaroundandcryingandlookingoveryourshoulderatwhatwas insteadofwhatis? You'veacceptedit.Nowit'stimetojumpstartyourlife! Defineanewrelationshipwithyourexforyourchildren Youroldrelationshipwashusbandandwife,yournewrelationshipisascommonalliesofyourchildren. Talktoyourkids Divorcecancreateemotionalwoundsinchildren.Talktothemaboutwhat'sgoingon,whatthey'refeeling,andhowthingswillgetbetter.
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Involvethem.Iftheyknowtherearethingstheycandotohelpthistransition,itwillgivethemafeelingofpower. Makeaplan Assessyoursituationfinancially,lookatyourresourcestoseewhatyouroptionsareintermsofhousing,jobandfinances. Createasupportsquad Askforhelp.Peopleappreciatebeingaskedforhelp.It'sagifttothemtoallowthemtobethereforyou.Createasupportsquadofyourclosest friendswhowon'tmindprovidingyouwithemotionalsupport,professionalguidanceandongoinginspiration.Realizethatyou'renotthefirst persontogothroughthis. Getyourresourcesandassetsaroundyou Doeverythingyoucantoprogramyourselfforsuccess.Findoutwhatyourstrengthsandskillsareandfocusonthemtohelpmoveyouina newandpositivedirection.EverybodyhasapersonaltruthI.e.whatyoubelieveaboutyourselfwhennobody'swatching.Rememberthatyou willcreatetheresultsinlifethatyoubelieveyoudeserve. Maketimeforyourself Makeaprioritytobealittleselfishanddosomethingjustforyourself.Themostimportantgiftyoucangiveyourchildrenistotakecareoftheir parents.Tryanewclass,startexercising,orreconnectwithanoldhobbyyou'veforgottenabout. Makeyourdreamhome It'snottheendoftheworldifyouhavetochangehouses.Knowthatyouandyourkidsaregoingtocreatememoriesthereandthat'swhat makesitadreamhome. Findyourauthenticself Althoughyoumaynolongerbeonehalfofacouple,youarestill100percentthepersonwhoyouare.Findthatpersonagain. Findyourpassion Whatisitthatwillmakeyouexcitedtogetoutofbedeveryday?Makealistofwhatyoucandotoreachyourgoals. Havesomejoywithyourkids Choosetolivewithsomefuninyournewlife.Createnewmemorieswithyourchildrenthatwillcarrythemintothefuturewithselfesteem, confidenceandhappiness. Protectyourselfinthefuture It'simportanttoalwayslookatarelationshipandaskyourself,"What'sitcostingmetobeinthisrelationship?"Ifyoutotallyloseyourselfinit, thenthecostistoohigh. Shouldonetryagainwiththesamepartnerafteradivorce. NO!Veryfewpeoplehavewhatittakes(theintelligence,wisdom,maturityandstrengthofcharacteretc.)tochange!Andifonegetsitright whatarethechancesthattheotherhasalsoarrivedatthesameplace.Rememberthegoldenrules:Aleoparddoesnotchangeitsspots. Thescorpionwillstingyouagain!Why?Noreason!Simplybecauseitisinitsnaturetodothis! Gettingbacktogetheragainafteradivorcecouldbeseeninasimilarlighttodecidingtoputafaultyorgan(adiseasedkidneyforexample) backintoyourbodyafteryouhavehadtohaveitremoved.Whywouldyouwanttodothat!?Moveforwardandonwithyourlives! ButifbothpartiesunderstandallthathasbeensaidintheHarmonyPortal,andespecially3rdPartyLawandtheARCtriangleabovewhichis keyforsuccessfulcommunication(andtheimportanceofinculcatingahealthyrespectfortheseconddynamicandwhatitstandsfor)thenI believetheremaybeanaveragetogoodchancethatthe"letstryitagain"relationshipcanwork.Ifnotthenpleasereadtheparagraphfrom "NO!"aboveagain! WhatIsParentalAlienation(Inthecontextofdivorceandchildren)? Parentalalienationoccursanytimethataparent,relativeorfriendspeaksbadlyaboutanotherparentsothatachildcanhearwhatisbeing said.Alienatingbehaviormaybemild,moderateorsevere.Allparentsarelikelyto"loseit"andbeinappropriatewiththeirwordsaround children,however,whenthereisapredominanceofnegativemessagesbeingcommunicatedtoachild,thesemessagescanseriouslyerode thechild'spsychologicalwellbeing.Inseverecasesofparentalalienation,childrenaremanipulatedandbrainwashed(programmed)intosuch statesofconfusionthattheirperceptionofeventsandpeoplearoundthemareseverelydistorted. Parentalalienationinitsmostsevereformisaheinousformofchildabuseandneglect.Itisadangerousmanipulationofchildren'smindsto altertheirperceptionofrealityaboutanotherparent.Thepurposeofmarginalizingthisparentisthatheorshehasnomeanstobeaneffective parentortocutthatparentoutofachild'slifeentirely,calledaparentectomy. TheTragicResult Severecasesofparentalalienationhavethecharacteristicsofbeingcomplicatedintwoways.Combativeparentsduelwithconflictingstories of"hesaid/shesaid,"andmakeitverydifficulttodeterminewhoistellingthetruth.Brainwashedchildrenoftensupportthesideofthe offendingparentwithdramaticstoriesofhowtheyhavebeenabusedbythetargetparent.Astargetparentsarguetheirposition,theyoften seemdefensiveevenwhentheyaretellingthetruth.Programmedchildrenlosetheirownsenseofreasonandtheirabilitytoexpresstheirown choiceinthematter.Ifthealienatorisnotcontained,thesemanipulationsofthechild'smindbecometheincubatoroftheirownfuture psychologicalproblems.Thesechildrenhaveanalteredperceptionofrealitythatisnotintheirbestinterestorinthebestinterestofsociety. Unfortunately,inmanycases,fullycapableparentsandtheirextendedfamilyandfriendswholovethechildandwouldprovideanurturingand
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healthyfamilylifeareeliminated.Oncethecuttingoutofaparenthasoccurredthechildisleftunderthefullcareofthemostdisturbedand dysfunctionalparent.Thesetragediesareplayedoutinourfamilylawcourtsdaily. Targetparentsfindthatnormalmethodsofhandlingparentalconflictsuchasmediationandtherapydonotwork.Theyareforcedtoappealtoa judgetomakeadecisionthatwillenablethemtocontinuetoseetheirchildren.Thisisoftenanexpensiveandperilouspaththatrarelyresults inasatisfyingoutcomeasfewpeople,includingjudges,attorneysandtherapistsunderstandthenatureoftheproblem. IfyouareafatherinSouthAfricawhohasbeenfrustratedbythebiasedandunjustlegalsystem/arecurrentlybeingfrustratedinyourclearly definedrightsofaccesstoseeyourchildrenthenyouwillfindthiswebsiteofmystruggleinSouthAfricawithinjusticetobeofinterest.Click heretoentertheInjusticeWeb. AndmysituationisevenmorecomplicatedasIhaverichparentswhohaveusedtheirmoneyandpowertobuymychildrenwhileperpetuating acultureofdisrespectthathasdiminishedandinvalidatedmyroleasfather.Thisisafascinatingsituationofextremeaberationaspeople (whohavelivedafulllifewithchildrenoftheirown)withtheirfinancialmeanshaveorchestratedasituationwheretheyareabletobuyoff ("control")theparentalalienatorandcannowparadewithanextgenerationfather'sfeathers!Thekarmadebthereishuge,buthavingdone thebestIcantoavertthespiritualdisaster,thoroughlystonewalledbytotalinjusticeinSouthAfrica,andsmallbutpowerfulpeopleabusing theirpower,allIcandonowismoveon. Theinterestingquestion,nowansweredformethroughtheintrospectionthatisthisweb,isthatmychildrenareactuallyblackmailpawnsused bytheparentalalienatortoobtainrightsthatdonotbelongtoher.Aclassicbypassandhighlyinvaladatinganddispicablebutanexpected strategybypeopleforwhommoneyistheirgod!Unfortunatelywhatdamagetothechildrencaughtinthisgame. Goddoesnotsleep! Andfinallyathoughtforyou: Donotrushintomarriage!Ultimatelywearebornaloneandwilldiealone,donotbefooled(hormonallyorthroughsocietalpressure)thatyou needtobemarriedandhavechildrentobehappy.Ratherseektobetruetoyourselffirstandforemostandonlythencanyoureallybetrue toadeservinglifepartner.TheabovesaidIamblessedasInowhaveanamazingwifewholovesmeforwhoIamandisloyaltomeandfor this,eachday,IthanktheLord. Andaquote: "Hypocrisyistheartofaffectingqualitiesforthepurposeofpretendingtoanundeservedvirtue. Becauseindividualsandinstitutionsandsocietiesmostoftenlivedowntothesuspicionsaboutthem,hypocrisyanditsaccompanying equivocationsunderpintheconductoflife.Imaginehowfrightfultruthunvarnishedwouldbe."[BenjaminF.Martin,"Francein1938,"2005] THEGROUPDYNAMIC: Thethirddynamicistheurgetosurviveaspartofagroup,withtheindividualhimselffurnishingthismotivation.Anygroup,temporaryor permanent,politicalorsocial,ispartofthethirddynamic,andeachoneisathirddynamic.
THEHUMANITYDYNAMIC: Thefourthdynamicissurvivalthroughmanasaspecies.Whereasthewhiteracewouldbeconsideredathirddynamic,alltheracesofman togetherwouldbeconsideredthefourthdynamic.
THEANIMAL(OTHERLIFEFORM)DYNAMIC Thefifthdynamicistheurgetosurviveforanyandeveryformoflife.Thesewouldincludealllivingthings,whetheranimalorvegetable, anythingdirectlyandintimatelymotivatedbylife.Itistheindividualsefforttosurvivetomakelifesurvive.
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THEMESTDYNAMIC: Thesixthdynamicistheurgetowardexistenceasthephysicaluniverse.Itisthedriveoftheindividualtoenhancethesurvivalofallmatter, energy,spaceandtimethecomponentpartsofthephysicaluniversewhichwecallMEST.Theindividualactuallyhasathrustforthe survivalofthematerialuniverse.
THESPIRITUALDYNAMIC: Theseventhdynamicistheurgetowardexistenceasorofspirits.Anythingspiritual,withorwithoutidentity,wouldcomeundertheheadingof theseventhdynamic.Thisisseparatefromthephysicaluniverseandisthesourceoflifeitself.Thusthereisaneffortforthesurvivaloflife source.
THEDIVINE(ORGODHEAD)DYNAMIC:theeighthdynamicistheurgetowardexistenceasinfinity.ThisisalsoidentifiedastheSupreme Being.ThiscanbecalledtheinfinityorGoddynamic.
ItisimportanttounderstandourrolewithregardtotheEightDynamicsandtheneedtoengageallinapositive,balancedandUpTone manner,ifpossible. Ourgoalshouldbetotrytoliveourlivespositively(UpTone),effecting(creatinggood)acrossallofthedynamics,tothebestofourabilityand atalltimes.
YourengagementwiththelasttwoDynamicsisverypersonal.Itshouldbeuptoyoutodecidehowyouwillengagethesedynamics.I.e.Are youanatheist,aBuddhist,aChristian,aMuslim,anagnosticetc.
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ThelasttwoDynamicsareveryemotiveandcontentiousdynamics. Overthelastmillenniamuchbloodhasbeenspilledduetoignoranceandintolerancebypeoplewithregardtotheengagementofthesetwo dynamics. Peopleshouldtrytoalwaysremainopenmindedandnottoallowthemselvestobeentrenchedinanarroworfixedpositionorperspectivein affairsofreligion. TheDalaiLama,asanexampleofanenlightenedbeing,hasmanyteachingswherehetellsusthatweallemanatefromthesamespiritual source. Heteachescompassion,religioustolerance,harmonyandthemiddleway. Theteachingsfrommostotherreligionsallteachsimilartruths. ButifoneisdealingwithaDownToneindividual(orgroup)thentheseteachingscanquicklybecomewarpedasbeings,lowontheTone Scale,entrenchthemselvesintofixedpositionsandthenobleteachings(oftheDalaiLamaandotherReligions)arerejectedoroverthrownor twistedtosuitetheaberratedcontrollingendsoftheseDownToneindividuals. Thehorrificexamplethatisoftenquoted(anditisnotthefirstashistoryislitteredwithsimilarhorrificacts)iswhathappenedinGermanyunder AdolfHitler. AstheGermanJewishpoetHeinrichHeinewrotealmosttwocenturiesago,"Thosewhobeginbyburningbookswillendbyburningpeople." 100yearslater,shortlyafterthemassivebookburningthattookplaceinBerlinin1933,theNaziswentontoburnpeopleinextermination campssoonafter. ItwasVictorFrankl,asurvivoroftheNazideathcampswhoobservedtheruthlessunfeelingcrueltyof"Tone1.1"guardswhocommitted unthinkableatrocitiesonfellowhumanbeings,butwouldgohomeeachday,andwithoutfurtherthoughtpettheirdogsortucktheirchildren intobed. Weseesimilarbehavioraltraitsfrompsychopathsandserialkillerswho,itisnowknown,havenocompassionorempathyfortheirfellow humanbeingsanddefinitelynoabilitytodifferentiaterightandwrongi.e.theyaredevoidofconscience. VictorFrankl,forcedintocruelsubjugationbytheNazis,foundoutaveryimportanttruth.Heoutlinesthistruthwiththeseveryimportant words:"Everythingcanbetakenfromamanorawomanbutonething:thelastofhumanfreedomswhichwehavewhichcanneverbetaken awayistheabilitytochooseourattitudeinanygivensetofcircumstances,tochooseone'sownway."VictorFranklsaidthateventhrough youfallvictimtoapersonwhoisstuckinlowtonesandespeciallyatTone1.1orbelow,itisyourattitudethatwilldifferentiateyou,asyou ensureyoucontinuetoremaintruetoyourself,asanUpTonebeing.Ifyoucangetawayfromthesepeoplebeforetheycrippleordestroyyou spiritually,mentallyorphysicallythendosonow!Run! Whileitisdifficulttoimaginetheeffectsoflongterminhumanetreatmentandtorture,VictorFranklshowsushowourattitude(maintaininga positiveattitude,eveninthefaceofcruelty,lossandcertaindeathwhenincaptivity)canmakethedifferencebetweenavictimandasurvivor. Hisbook"Man'ssearchforMeaning"isamasterpiece,andshowsus,inthefaceofthemostterriblebrutalityandcruelty,thatwealonehave thepoweroverourpositiveattitudeandnotourcaptors. OtherquotesfromFrankl:"Lifecanbepulledbygoalsjustassurelyasitcanbepushedbydrives." "Liveasifyouwerelivingasecondtime,andasthoughyouhadactedwronglythefirsttime.Betweenstimulusandresponsethereisaspace. Inthatspaceisourpowertochooseourresponse.Inourresponseliesourgrowthandourfreedom. Fromtheaboveitisclearthatgoodsense,wisdomandknowledgemustbeprotectedatallcostsbyallgoodthinkingpeopleworldwide.Itisa truththatthereisalottobelearnedinlife.Andmuchcanbelearnedfromotherswhoyoudrawtoyourselfbecausetheyareabletooffer somethingtoyou. Oryouareabletooffersomethingtothem.Thismaybeatanintuitiveandspirituallevel.WeareallconnectedaccordingtotheDalaiLama! Thereforekeepandopenmindanbecarefulwhoyoupushaway,becausetheyhaveprobablybeensenttobumpintoyoutohelpyou. Justwhenyouthinkyouwillnotbesurprised,someone,whoyouleastexpect,engagesyouandteachesyousomethingamazing! Thishashappenedtomemanytimes. Essentiallytreatotherswithrespectandlivebythissimplerule:Dountoothersasyouwoulddesirethemtodountoyou!Andifpossible considertheeffectofyouractionsacrossallofthedynamics,beforeyouact. Matthew7.1214 12Ineverythingdotoothersasyouwouldhavethemdotoyouforthissumsupthelawandtheprophets. 13Enterthroughthenarrowgateforthegateiswideandtheroadiseasythatleadstodestruction,andtherearemanywhotakeit. 14Forthegateisnarrowandtheroadishardthatleadstolife,andtherearefewwhofindit. Whatstationareyou(orothers)tunedinto. WearealltunedintoWIIFM Thisradiostationiscalled"What'sInItForMe!" ThebottomlineisthateachoneofusseeslifefromthepointofviewofwhatisinitformeandhowcanIbenefit. Thisistiedtoeachofourneedtosurvive! Itisanimportantskilltotrytotuneintoanother,andtrytofindoutwhattheywantandwhattheybelieveI.e.seelifefromtheirperspective. Ifyouareintosellingthenthisisawonderfulwaytobesuccessfulbecauseyousimplysellyourproductsothatitmeetsthetargetperson's needs. Ifyouaresellingyourselfthentrytotuneintowhattheyholdinhighregardandwhattheywouldwant.
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Thisisnotbeingunethicalordishonestifyourattitudeishonestandethical. Whatweareaimingforhereiscalledintersubjectivity.Thiswordmeansthatyouareabletoputyourselfintoanother'sshoesandcanseelife fromtheirpointofview. Thereisasayingthatgoeslikethis""Don'tJudgeamanuntilyouhavewalkedamileinhismoccasins". InordertoimproveARCbeingabletotuneintoanotherandtobeintersubjectiveisanexcellentskilltodevelop. Thisskillisheightenedifyouareabletolisteneffectively. Theimportanceoflistening: Inthesemoderntimesweareallverybusy.Wehavemultipledistractions. Distractionssuchascellphones,computers,Ipodsand24/7television.Weareconstantlytalking.Evenwhenwearelisteningweare continuallychatteringinourbrain.Formulatingananswer,orreactingtowhatisbeingsaid.Weallwanttotalk,butsofewwishtolisten.We hearwhatisbeingsaidbutarewereallylistening? Whatislistening? Togointothisquestionwecanbeginwithwhatitisnot.Maybefromtherewecandiscoveritsquality. Listeningisnotareaction. Listeningisnottalking. Listeningisnotthinking. Listeningisnotwhatsomeonetellsyouitis. WhatImeanbythisis.YouandIcoulddescribeit,butthatisnotlistening,thatismerelyitsdescription.Icoulddescribewatertoyou, howeverthedescriptionofwaterwillnotquenchyourthirst. Whenapersonislisteningtherearenoreactions. Thereisnothinking. Thereisnotalking. Listeningisnotjudging. Listeningshouldbeaveryhumblequality. Thereshouldbenome. ThereshouldbenowhatIwanttosay. Listeningisveryrevealing. Listeningtoyourownthoughtsorwhatotherssaycanbeveryinformative. Thesedayswelaysomuchemphasisontheintellectthatwecloseourheartsandremovethebeatingmomenttomomentoflife,becausewe arenolongerlistening. Wehavefilledourliveswithknowledge,beliefs,opinions,whichallleadtoprejudgmentsandprejudice. Theimportanceoflisteningisthis. Whenyouarenotlisteningyouarenotlearning. Whenyouarenotlisteningyouarepreventingopportunity. Thefactthatyoudonotlistenrevealstherealitythatyourmindisclosed. Whenyouarenotlisteningyouarepreventingintelligence. Whenyouarenotlisteningthereisnothingnew,thereareonlyyourreactions. Ifyouwishtolivelifetoitsfullest,thenlisteningisvital! DaleCarnegieinhisbook,HowtoWinFriendsandInfluencePeoplesays,"Beagoodlistener.Encourageotherstotalkaboutthemselves." Bylisteningyou'lldiscoverwhatmotivatesyourclienttobuyyourproductorservice.Bylistening,youwilldiscoverwhat'sreallybotheringyour spouseoryourchildren.Bylisteningyouwilldiscoverthattherearealotofveryinterestingpeopleintheworldaroundyou.Listeningisthe catalystthatfostersmutualunderstandingandprovidesuswithaninsightintopeople'sneedsanddesiressowecanconnectwiththem. ListeningisthespringboardofARC! ParentAdultChildandtransactionalanalysis. Clickthelinkandreadashortdescriptionofthiscommunicationtheory. EssentiallymanypeoplefallintotheegorolesofeitherParentorChild. Examplesofhowthisworkaretheparent(husband,father)whotalksdowntohischild(wife,child)wheresheisassumingtheroleofthe naughtychildinfrontofherfather.Orthehusband,likeanaughtychild,isreprimandedbyhismommybecausehehascomehomelate. Whatshouldhappenisthatbothadultsshouldengageeachotherasadults. Awarenessthatconflictwilloftencomeaboutwhenrolesbecomecrossedisimportant. I.e.ParenttoChildorChildtoParent. KnowingthatAdulttoAdultisalwaysthebestandonlyroletoadopt,isthekeytotransactionalanalysis! PaceYourself.TimingisEverything! Alongdistancerunnerknowsthis.Youcannotgoatsomethingflatoutallthetimeandexpecttowin. Youhavetopaceyourself.I.e.conserveyourenergyandthengiveitallyouhaveatexactlytherighttimesinordertowintherace.
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Therearemanyexamplesofpeoplewhotrytointroducechangeintoanareathatisnotreadyforit. Theyenduptotallyfrustratedastheybounceoffthewallsofrejection. Thenlater,whentheenvironmenthasmatured(orpossiblynewenlightenedmanagementhasbeenappointed,orawarenesshasmatured throughthemediaorvianewteachingsinbusinessschoolsetc.),thechangeiseasilyaccepted. Learntoreadthesigns.Ifyouarebouncingoffawallandnotgettingthroughthenpossiblyyouhavenottimedyourselfcorrectly. Orifyouareexpendinghugeamountsofenergybutnotgettinganywhere,possiblyyouneedtoputtheenergyintootherareasandbideyour timeuntilyoucanmakemoreofanimpact. Oryoushouldrealizethatyoucannotmakeadifferencenomatterandthenitwouldbebesttowalkaway. Thereissuchathingasaprofitinhisownland!I.e.onewhospeakssoothbuthasnotcredibilitywithinthecurrentstatusquo. UnderstandingCheeseandwhattodoifyoursgetsmoved. Clickthelink"cheese"aboveandreadasynopsisofanamazinglittlebookwrittenbyDrSpencerJohnson.Itisquiteamazingandtotally changedmylife.Giveitawhirl.Youwillnotregretit. AtthebottomoftheHarmonyPortalisalinkto50wisesayingsdeliveredthroughTAO'istphilosophy. Herearetwo(associatedwithourcravingforthings)thatIparticularlylikeasithelpsustoaspiretowardsunhookingourselvesfromthechains andcagesassociatedwithhavingtoownthings. "Thecauseofallsufferingsiscraving. Desirethingsthatyoudonothaveandsufferingwillfollow. Realizethisandpeacewillbeyours. Sufferingwilldisappearandcontentmentwillremain" "Eachdayaccepteverythingwhichcomestoyouasagift. Atnightmentallygiveitallback. Inthiswayyoubecomefree. Noonecanevertakeanythingfromyoufornothingisyours". Andfinally,thetwoenvelopes: Iamnotsureifyouhavereadaboutthetwoenvelopes. Ifnotclickthetwoenvelopesimagebelow.
Thechoiceabouthowyouwillliveyourlifeisyourstomake. Youdecidewhatenvelopetoopenandwhichstandpointinyourlifeyouwillpush. ThiswilleithertakeyouUpToneorDownTone. Thechoiceisyourswhatyoumakeofyourlife,andyoursalone!
InConclusion:
Bydecidingtocommunicate,andactivelystrivingtoestablishgoodARCwithinallaspectsofyourlife,youcanbringaboutachangeforthe betterforyourselfandwiththepersonorpeople(terminals)youareengaging.BEastablecommunicationterminalforothersandacentered andfocusedpointofviewforyourselfinallareasyouhavechosenforyourself,andespeciallyasanylonstringguitarist.
And,pertainingtoyourgoaltoplaythenylonstringguitar: NotplayingyourguitareachdayisalsotheresultofanARCbreakofsomekind. Ifyoupracticeandenjoyplayingyournylonstringguitareachandeveryday,forexample,itcanbesaidthatyouhaveexcellentARCwithyour guitar! Playingyourguitarregularlyisapositiverealityaboutthenylonstringguitarandwillresultinyoulovingtheinstrumentandregularlyfinding

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timetoenjoythecompanyofyourguitarandwillinglycommunicatingwithitonanongoingbasis!Imaginethisscenario.Imaginethatyou haveputin30goodyearsofdailyARCwithyourguitar.Imaginehowwellyouwillplayandallthewonderfulpiecesyouwillhaveatyour command.Nowimaginethatyouareinyour70'sandallyourgoodfriendshavepassedonandpossiblyevenyourspousehasrecentlydied. Won'titbeacomfortandajoytoknowthatyoustillhaveyourguitarforsolaceandcompanyandthatitwillbewithyourtotheveryendofyour lifewhenyourwheelsfinallydofalloff.~)
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Where,onEarth,arewe...?!
Theabovepictureisofourgalaxy,theMilkyWay.Thearrowpointstowhereourearthcanbefoundinspace. TheMilkyWayalone,hasmorethan100billionstars,ofwhichoursunisbutone.Itisestimatedthatthereare100millionhabitableplanetsin ourgalaxyalone.i.e.planetsthathavesimilarconditionstoearthandcanfacilitatelife.I.e.Justfarenoughawayfromtheheatofthesunbut notthatfarthattheextremecoldofspacewillrenderlifeimpossible.ThisiscalledtheGoldilocksCondition.I.e.Nottoocoldandnottoohot. Butjustright. Let'stakealookbacktoancienttimesandconsiderhowourunderstandingoftheuniversehaschangedovertime. ItwillbeshownthatthehistoryofCosmologyistherelentlessretreatofearthfromcenterstage! InancienttimesAstrologyusedtheHeavenstotryandshowushowwewillbeaffectedintoourfuture.Weusedtowatchtheskytotryand divinefate.I.e.ameteorcouldportendamilitaryvictory.Anewstarcouldmeananewking.Theskieswerealsousedtohelpusknowwhen toplant,harvest,prepareforwinteretc. Thefirstmistaketheancientsmadewasthattheysawtheearthfixedandtheearthasthecenterofuniversewiththestarsspinningaroundus. TheAncientGreeksusedmathematicstocalculatethesizeoftheearthanditsdistancetotheSun. Theysaw7planetswhichtheynamedaftertheirGods.TheRomans,whocameafter,tookovertheGreekGodsandgavethemtheirown uniqueRomannames.WenowknowtheseplanetsbythenameswhichtheynamedtheirRomanGods. ArhymetolearnthenamesofjusttheplanetsthatrotatearoundourSunis: IthinkthatIshallneversee AplanetfastasMercury. ThecloudsaresothickonVenus Thepeopletherehaveneverseenus. IstandupontheplanetEarth, Placeofmybirth,forwhatit'sworth. ThesurfaceofreddishMars Ismuchmorecoldanddrythanours. ThelargestplanetbyfarisJupiter Knowingthat,Ifeelslightlylessstupider. Icyringsmakealovelypattern CirclingtheplanetSaturn. ThefiercewindsofUranus Arestrongerthanhurricanes. NASA'sVoyager2flewpastNeptune Theywon'tbesendinganotherprobesoon. ItriedtothinkofarhymeforPluto, Butit'snolongerconsideredaplanet,youknow?
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GreekphilosopherAristotle'suniversewasfiniteinthe4thCenturyBC.I.e.Itwasafixedsizeinspace. TotheancientstheEarthwasthecenterandtheplanets,includingtheSunspunaroundusinperfectorbitingrings. PtolemyClaudiusPtolemaeus(Greek:AD90to168),improveduponthethinkingbyaccuratelytracingthepathsofplanets. Herealizedthattheorbitswerenotperfect.I.e.theyhadmanysmallerloopsinorbitcalledepicycles. Butbyobservationandusingmathematics,hecouldreliablypredictthefuturebehavioroftheplanets.ThePtolemaicsystemwasbeautiful!It wasatourdeforceofmathematicalunderstanding!I.e.itcouldpredictplanetsinthefutureorinthepastbutwasbasedonapremise,with earthatthecenter,thatwasfundamentallywrong! AfterthecollapseofRomein476AD,WesternastronomylostgroundtotheEasternCulturesasweslippedintothesocalled"DarkAges". TheMedievalworldview,basedontheChristianfaith,cameintobeinganddominatedmuchofthethinkingduringtheDarkAgesfromaround 500ADto1600AD. Thiswasagainanextremelyidealisticandsimplisticview,ascanbeseenfromtheshortdescriptionbelow. TheChurchdominatedthinkingduringthistimeandtheworldviewuptothetimeoftheReignoftheElizabethans(15581603)wasthatthe HeavenswereabovewiththeLordGodsittingonhisthroneonhighandwithourLordJesusathisright.Theywereinturnsurroundedby throngsofArcAngels,Angels,Seraphimetc.allarrangedindivineorder,accordingtotheirimportanceandposition.Then,lowerdownonthe hierarchicalladder,werethepeopleonearth(whohadfallenfromHeaven)andweweresimilarlyarrayed,asthehierarchyofHeaven,withthe KindandQueenatthetopofthepyramidofearthlypower(appointedbyGod).Aroundtheseroyalrulers,wererankedtheLordsandLadies, DukesandDuchesses,BaronandBaronessetc.alsoinastricthierarchicalorder(seeinyourmind'seyetheconnectedrungsoraladderor linksofachain)movingdownthroughtothecommonman.Thenasmanbecamemoreandmorebase(asanimalswithoutintelligencewere), healso(ifhedidnotcarefullyfollowthedivinewritingsinthebible)becamedebasedandcorrupt.Totheselowerrungsclungthecriminals andmurderersandothervilenessoftheearth.ThenfurtherbelowwerethosewhohadfallensolowthattheyhadgiventheirfaithtoLucifer whowasthefallenangelandlordofhell.Theselostoneswereevilhumans,thewitchesandwarlocks,whohadsoldtheirsoletoLuciferfor morepoweronEarth.Theywerethoughttobesurroundedbyconjuredevilspiritsanddemonichelpers.Thendeepunderthegroundandinto hellwefindthelowrarchyofdevilsanddemonsandfinallyLuciferwhositsonhisthroneandisthekingoftheunderworld. Thisworldviewwasseenasacosmicchainorladderwherecreationwasaseriesofbeingsstretchingfromtheinhabitantsofhellandthe lowestofinanimateobjectsuptothearchangelsnearesttothethroneofGod.Aconstantspiritualbattlewasseentoberagingbetweenthe twosides(Heavenandhell)andtheearthwasthebattlefieldwiththehumansouleitherlostforeveranddoomedtoliveeternallyinhell(as describedinthefantasticalworkofDante'sInferno)orthosefoundworthyandcanthenbesavedandgiventhegiftofeverlastinglifein Heaven. Thenfromabout1500AD,withtheadventofscience,westarttobreakawayfromtheDarkAgesandtheElizabethanWorldViewwithits chainofexistenceasrationalityandfactsentercarefullyuponthestage. Duringthistime,withscientificstudy,cameknowledgeandenlightenment.ThemotionintheHeavensabovebegantobebackedupbyfacts thatwereobservedthroughtheeyeofthenewestinvention,thetelescope.Findingsstartedtopointirrevocablyanduncontestablytothe notionofaSuncentereduniverse. NicolasCopernicus:ThefactthatwehaveaSuncentereduniversewaschampionedbyNicolasCopernicus(bornFebruary19th1473).Itis referredtoasHelioCentrism. ScientificfindingscontradictedtotallywiththeteachingsofthechurchwhichpreachedthattheEarthhadbeencreatedbyGodandwasthe centeroftheuniverse.IronicallyNicolasCopernicus,theChampionoftheSuncenteredtheory,wasalsoaChurchdeacon.Hewasbornin PolandandworkedfortheChurchasaCathedraladministrator&parttimeastronomer. HewaspuzzledbytheworkofPtolemy,butsolvedtheproblemshefoundtoexistwithPtolemy'suniverse,byputtingtheSunatitscenterand withalltheplanets,includingtheEarthorbitingtheSun.Hiscluetothiswasthesizeoftheorbitsandtheirperiods.Mercurytook3monthsto orbittheSun,sowasobviouslyclosesttoit.Saturntook30yearstoorbittheSunandthereforemustatanouteredge.Copernicusalso insistedthattheearthwasrotatingonitsownaxis.I.e.spunarounditselfevery24hours.TheancientsthoughttheStarswerechasingaround Eartheachnight,butitwasanillusiontheycouldnotdecifer.I.e.infactitwasusspinningaroundourownearthlyaxis. TheamazingdiscoveryforthistimewasthatthePlanetsdidn'tjustmovearoundus.Infactmovementwasprimarilybecausetheearthmoved i.e.wemovedonaspinningearthrelativetoauniverse(planetsandstarsetc.)thatmovedaroundus. Hereisashortasideonthephilosophicalconceptcalledastabledatum:Imagineavastconfusionofparticlesallinmotion(thiscouldbe foundinspacearoundusi.e.ourcosmosorareasofconfusionoccurringwithinourlives).Inordertoresolveanysuchproblemorconfusion,it isonlynecessarytobeabletopredictitscomponentparts.Ifwecansaywhereanygivenparticlewillbeatanygiventime,thatparticleisno longeraconfusionorproblembutratherisorderedandpredictable.Topredictthemotionofparticlesweneedtopickareferencepoint,apoint ofstabilityfromwhichtoviewtheotherpointsandaroundwhichtoorderthem.Thispointisthestabledatum. Inoursolarsystem,weviewthesunasthestationaryobjectorstabledatumandtheplanetsasthemovingparticleswhichareconsideredto revolveandarehenceorientedaroundthesun.Weareabletopredicttheorbitsoftheplanetsaroundthesunandaresoabletopredicttheir relationshipstoeachother.Theybecomeorderedandpredictable,arenotinconfusionandthus,arenotaproblem.Atonetime,however,the earthwasthestabledatumratherthanthesun.Astronomerstriedtopredicttheorbitsofplanetsandthesunandtheothercelestialbodiesby usingthishypothesisthattheearthwasstaticandeverythingelsewasrevolvingaroundit.Foratimethestabledatumworked,but observationsoccurredtothecontrary.Atfirst,manyrejectedrealityandtriedtoclingtothestabledatumofauthorityatthattime,which happenedtobetheCatholicChurch.Eventually,thisconfusingobservationbecamesowellexplainedbynewtheoriesandstabledatathatthe sunwasfinallyacceptedbyallasthecentreofthisplanetarysystem. Usingtheaboveasanexampleofstabledatum,Considerthis:Fewofushavecompletelyachievedallofourgoalsandperhapsevenclearly
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seenourpotentialgoals.Thisisoftenduetoanindividual'sattempttouseinadequatestabledatawhichcanoftenonlyaddmoreconfusion ratherthanreducetheoriginalconfusion.Likethereluctantastronomersofold,wesometimesfinditdifficulttogiveupourpetideasand theories(uponwhichwehavebuiltourlives)eveninthefactofcontraryevidence.Mencanoftenbeobservedtorationalisetofantasticlengths tokeepintactabeliefwhichtheysomehowthinkwillprotectthemfromconfusion.Sometimessogreatistheneedforprotectionfromhighly threateningproblemsorconfusions,apersoncannottakearationalapproachtotheproblembutratherattemptstoholdontotheshattered driftwood,thefewremainsofadefectivestabledatumcrushedbythetidalwaveoffactandexperience.Thedrowningmanfearstoletgoofhis sticksandswimtoland. Aninadequatestabledatum,beingapoorpredictorofreality,isaliability,abarrierratherthananaidtosurvival.Itwillproducemoreconfusion ratherthanmorepredictability. ItwasthoughtpreviouslythatplanetarymotionwassomehowpoweredmysteriouslybytheallpowerfulhandofGod.Atypeofperfectspiritual machineworkingwithinvisiblecogsandsprints,likeahugecelestialclock,theinventor,overseerandregularwinderofwhich,wastheLord GodinHeaven. FearingchurchreprisalsCopernicuswithheldpublicationofhisbook'ConcerningtheRevolutionsofCelestialOrbs'untilonhisdeathbedin 1543. JohannesKepler:ThispavedwayforJohannesKepler(bornDecember271571)whoisregardedastheChampionofobservatoryscience. Hetooksciencetotheworld. HehadatroveofdatafromyearsofwatchingSunandthePlanetsmovinginellipses.HealsonoticedthatPlanetstraveledfasteraroundthe Sunandslowerthefurtherawaytheywere.I.e.Hisvariablespeedmodelisbestexplainedbywhatweseefromearthanditwasa phenomenal,mythexplodingpieceofwork!DogmaandScienceclashed! GalileoGalilei:(born15thFebruary1564)usedthetelescopetoproveKeplerandCopernicusright.Insteadofusingthetelescopetolookat shipscomingintoharborinVenice,thealternateusewasrealisedtotiltthetelescopeupandlookintothenightsky.Thetelescopewasseen bytheChurchofthetimeasablasphemousandseditiousrevolutionaryobject.I.e.Ineffectitwastwogroundglasslensesinatubethat helpedfreeusfromtherigors,andclosedmindednessofthenarrowthinkingbutallpowerfulChurchofthistime.Becausethetelescopewas easytomake,manymanagedtoobtainedtheinstrument,andsoonanyonewhowasinterestedcouldseethetruthsforthemselves. Inashorttime,thefactsandnewknowledgeaboutourHeavensmoved,alongwiththetelescope,wentoutintotheworld.In1609Galileo improvedonitsdesignwithhisowngrounddownlenseswhichcreatedamagnificationof30timeswhatwasbefore.HesawVenusgo throughphasessimilartoourmoon.ThiswasclearevidencethatVenusorbitedtheSun.Galileowithhistelescopepushedearthfromcenter ofuniverse,andforthefirsttimesaidthatwearenotthecenteroftheuniversebutsimplyoneplanetamongstothers.WhatCopernicus assumedforaestheticreasons&whatKeplerdeducedfrommeasurement&mathematics,GalileosawandGalileoproved.I.e.theChurchwas scientificallyprovedwrong. ThiswasextremelydangerousforGalileoatthetime.In1610Galileopublishedhisbook'TheStarryMessenger'. CardinalBeroniusquotedthebiblestatingthat"thegoodbooktellsushowtogotoHeavennothowtheHeavensgo".StAugustanisreputed tohavesaid:"lfyoufoundaninterpretationofscripturethatcontradictedwellestablishedknowledgethenitiswisetoreconsiderthat interpretationofscripture".TheChurchcouldnotconcedebiblicalinterpretationtoGalileo.In1633,afteranewbookchampioningtheSun centereduniversewasreleasedbyhim,thePopesummonedGalileotostandtrialforheresy.Hewastoldtogiveuphisideasorhewould facedeath.InthefaceofintensepressurefromtheChurch,Galileowasforcedtosaythathewaswrongandhewasputunderhousearrest. But,insecret,heheldfasttohisideas. Galileoisregardedasthefirstmodernscientist.I.e.hedaredtochallengeexistingideasanddogma.Beforehisdeathhestumbledonaclue tosolveJohannesKeplar's(December27,1571)problem.EssentiallyKeplarobservedthattheclosertotheSunaplanettraveledthefasterit travelled.Buthecouldnotunderstandwhythishappened.Galileohadworkedwithfallingbodies.Hefoundthatnomatterthedifferencein themassofthebodiestheyalwaysdroppedatthesamespeedandacceleratedatsamerate.Thiswasthecluetotheexistenceofgravity! SirIsaacNewton:(whowasborninLincolnshirein1643)camenext.Newtonisatoweringintellect.Heshowedusthatmathematicswasthe languageoftheCosmos.I.e.TheSunwaslikemagnetand,inasense,planetswerefallingtowardsthesun.Hesawgravityasthetetherthat keepsplanetsfromshootingoutintospace.Newton'slawsofmotion,whicharepublishedinhisgreatbook'ThePrincipia'explainsgravity andthefactthatitisgravitythatgivestheuniverseitsorder.I.e.allobjectspullon,andexertattractionon,allotherobjects.Thecloserthey aretogetherandthelargerthesebodiesare,themorepowerfulthepulltheyexertoneachother.ThiswasthecluetosolvingtheKeplar problem! Newtonknewwhatgravitydidbutcouldnotexplainexactlywhatitwas. IttookAlbertEinstein:(bornMarch14,1879)todothis.BorninGermany,inthecityofBerne,Einsteinwasaveryintrospectivechildanddid nottalkuntilage3.Hecouldnotgetateachingjobevenafteryearsofstudyingatschool.Assuchhewasforcedtotakeworkatapatent office.Whiletherehehadlotsoftimetothink.Hewasfascinatedbyspace&time.Hewasthemasterofthethoughtexperiment.1905he publishedhis'TheoryofSpecialRelativity'.ThisexploredthelinkbetweenSpace&time.Hesaidthattheywerenotseparate.Notspace& timebutrather,theuniversewasSpacetime.I.e.afabricweavedtogetherofspace&time.In1915hepublishedhis'TheoryofGeneral Relativity'whichadvancedtheworkdoneinhisfirstbookbutnowlookedatSpacetime(specialrelativity)withtheeffectsofgravityincluded. ThetwopublicationsbyEinsteinweregroundbreakingintheirimportance! Theexamplethatisoftenusedtodescribethesetwoworksistoimagineatrampolinewithaheavycanonballinthemiddleofit.Youwill noticethatthefabricofthetrampolineisstretcheddownwardsduetotheweightofthelargecannonball.Ifyourolllighterballspastthelarger cannonballtheywillmovetowardsit,andalsotravelfasterwhentheygopast!Spacetimeisthetrampolinewhichbendsduetotheforcesof theballs(planetsandstarsetc.)rollingaboutonit.GeneraltheoryofrelativitysaysgravityworksbecauseSpacetimeiscurvedinthe presenceofmatter.Spacetimecanalsoresponddynamicallytoforcesactingwithinit.I.e.spacecanexpand&contractinpresenceof
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matter.Gravitywasnotaforcebutratherafabric.I.e.thereareshapesofSpacetimeandwemovealongcurvesoftheseshapes.This movementisnotastraightlinebutrathermanyorbitsandtrajectoriesthroughthecosmosallactinguponeachotherandwiththeforcesof gravityasthebindingcomponent.Notevenlightcanescapetheeffectsofgravity. ArthurEddington:ProofofEinstein'stheorywasfoundinthe1919solareclipsewhereArthurEddington(bornDecember281882)managed tophotographstarsdirectlybehindourSun. ThiscouldonlybedonebecauselighthadbentaroundtheSunduetotheeffectsofgravity.ArthurEddingtonreceivedtheNobelprizein Physicsforthisgroundbreakingworkin1921. Theproblemnowwasthattheuniversesimplycannotbeinequilibriumandatrest.I.e.itmustbeeitherexpandingorcontractingbecauseof allthemassinitandtheforcesthatareconstantlybeingexertedonallobjects,byallobjects,withintheuniverse.Thelogicalreasoningwas thattheuniversemustbeshrinkingbecausetheconstantpulling(attractingbetweenobjectsinspace)mustdrawobjectstowardseachother. Einstein,whodidnotbelievethis,postulatedaforceequaltoandoppositetogravitywhichwouldoverridethepulltowardsthecenter. I.e.Einsteinlookedforabalancingconstant(anin=outforce).But,whileEinsteinwasthepublisheroftheTheoryorRelativity,andabrilliant mind,hecouldnotgraspthefactthathistheory,infact,pointedtoanexpandinguniverse. IttookGeorgesLematre:(bornJuly171894)tomoveusalongtotakethenextlogicalstep.ABelgian,GeorgesLematrewasalsoan ordainedCatholicpriest.Lematresaidtheuniversewasexpanding.Thismustmeanthattheuniversewasborn(musthavebeencreated). I.e.ifweruntheprojectorbackwards(imaginewehadphotographedcreationwithaprojector),thensurelywemustbeableseetheuniverse shrinkingtoapointinspaceandtime.Ifwerunprojectorbackwardsallthewaythentheuniversewillshrinkdowntosizeofanatom.Einstein categoricallyrejectedhisidea.Einsteinrefusedtoacknowledgethattheuniversewasexpandingorcontracting.HesaiditwasinstatusI.e. hadfiniterealmsandwasbeingheldinstatusbyopposingforces.Buteverythinginhistheorywasscreamingoutagainstthisincorrectfact. Lematrepostulatedahotdenseprimevalatomwhichexplodedina"bigbang"asthesourceofouruniverseandthisexplosion,withits outwardrush,wasstillgoingontodaycausingtheuniversetoexpand. EdwinHubble:(bornNovember201889)madethenextstartlingobservation.EdwinHubblesawanothergalaxybeyondtheMilkyWay galaxy!Upuntilthenwethoughtthatourgalaxy(theMilkyWay)wasalltherewas.EdwinHubble,duringhiscareer,foundedthe measurementforthestandardcandle.I.e.AStar'sbrightnessisatacertainstrengthwhichisequaltoastandardcandle.Fromherehesaidif youknowhowbrightastarisyoucansayhowfarawayitis.Whileworkingonthishediscoveredthattherewasanothergalaxynexttous calledtheAndromedaNebulabecausehesuddenlyrealizedthatthelightthatcamefromthesedistantstarswasdifferenttothatwhich emanatedfromtheMilkyWarstars.AllthetimewehadthoughtthattheMilkywaywasthesumtotaloftheuniverse,butwithhisenquiringand openmind,ashefocusedhisastronomicaltelescopeonwhatwasthoughtpreviouslytobeawispofstardustinMilkyWay,hediscoveredthat thesestarsweremuchfurtherawayandthatthiswasanothergalaxywhichhecalledtheAndromedaNebulagalaxy.Thisnewgalaxycanbe seenatthebottomofthepicturebelow,butatadistanceof100millionlightyearsaway,separatingitfromtheMilkyWay!
Thisdiscovery,onthe6thofOctober1923,wasseenbymanyasaEurekamoment.I.e.TheMilkyWaywasfoundtobesimplyanislandina seaofgalaxies.Asopposedtous(TheMilkyWay)being,aswehadpreviouslythought,aloneandaonegalaxytownwenowrealisedthat wewerepartofamuchlargerUniverse!TheHubbleSpaceTelescope(HST)siteestimatestodaythattherearehundredsofbillionsofother galaxies(inadditiontotheMilkyWay)intheuniverse!ArecentGermansupercomputersimulationestimatedthatthenumberofgalaxiesin theuniversemaybeashighas500billion!Somegalaxiesaresmaller,whileotherareverymuchbiggerthantheMilkyWay.Hereare picturesofafewmoregalaxiesinouruniverseasseenbytheHubbletelescope.
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InConclusion.
Philosophershavestruggledwiththequestionaboutwhyweareinexistenceformanycenturies. Manytheoriesexist.Hereisanexampleofjustonesuchphilosophicalpaperonthesubject. Ifwedon'tknowwherewecamefromthenwecan'tknowwhoweare. Moreimportantly,ifwearenotconvincedofourownplaceinthecosmosthenwemakeiteasierforotherstotryandhoodwinkusthatthey knowtheanswers,whichtheydonot. CoulditbethatintheBeginningmanhascreatedGod. AndhavingasoulandputtingitintoacertainstateofperfectiontoBEiswhatmakeslifemeaningful,evenifwecannotprovethatGoddoes exist.Thereisastrongbeliefthattheworshipofaperfectentity"God"givesusmeaningandcanactasastabledatuminthechaosof existance.I.e.theybelievethatacertainrelationshipswithGodandtheexistanceofasoularejointlynecessaryandsufficientforasignificant existence.Tomethismeansthatweshouldstrivetolivewithvirtue. But,inthenameofGod,howmanyliveshavebeenlostduetoreligeousinfighting.UsingtheCrusadesasaprimaryexample,howmany peoplediedunnecessarilyandinvain?Unlessmartyrdom,andbloodonyourhands,isaworthygoalthatjustifiesthelossoflife. Butwhat"badblood"betweenEastandWesttheresult!Withinthiscontextwhatvengencecouldbeplottedbythefanatic?Whatwouldbe theresultifanuclarweaponfellintothewronghandsandwasdetonatedtoproveapointofrevengeforpercievedwrong? Forthousandsofyearstheoriginofuniversewasamatterforreligiousscholarsandnotscientists Scienceaskshowarethingshappening?Religionaskswhy? Istherepurpose? ReligionandSciencehaveformanyhundredsofyearsbeenuneasycompanionsbut,infact,botharemotivatedbysamequestfortruth. Thetruthisthatitisour"willtosurvive"thatisthekeydrivingforceofexistance.Philosophershavesearchedlongandhardforthis description(inawaysimilartothesearchfortheholygrailorthephilosophersstone)anditisthisthatgovernsallouractionsrightorwrong.
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Butthetonescalerevealstousthatonewillsurvivebetterifyouoperateathigherlevels,ratherthanlower. Thenexttruthsurelymustbethatalllifeisextremelyrareandveryprecious! Ourbeautifulearthisadelicateandincredibleflukeofnatureandourownexistancemustbeviewedinasimilarlight,alongwithher. Itisshewhogiveslifeanditiswewhoshouldbethankfulforthiswonderfulchanceatexistance! LetsallpraiseourrespectiveGods(real,symbolicorinabsence)andfindharmonyandpeaceandjoyandwithrespectallgetalongtogether! Forourlife,likethestartofthisUniversefromasingularity(ortheuniverseeventuallyimplodinginonitself),willbeoverinaflash.Untilitis rebornagain.
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Whatisouruniversecomprisedof? Asimpleansweris:Matter,Energy,SpaceandTime. AnacronymforthisisMEST. Thesearethebuildingblocksfortheuniverse. OnthePeriodicTable(thisisaScientificTableofallknownelementsthatwehavediscovered)everythingafterhelium(2ndelementonthe toprightoftheperiodictable)ismadeinstars.I.e.Hydrogen(1stelementandtopleft)thenHelium(topright)onPeriodicTablehasalways beeninexistence,itissurmised.
Hubblewentonestepfurtherafterhisdiscoveryofanothergalaxy. Bymeasuringstarbrightnesshefoundhecouldmeasureandshowthatgalaxiesweremovingawayfromusandalsofromeachother. Healsofoundawaytocalculatethespeedofmovementawayandworkingbackwardswasabletocalculatetheageofouruniverse! Thiscontradictedanotherastronomer,Hoyle'ssteadystatetheorywhichchampionedaconstantuniverse. Iftheuniverseisgettingbigger&biggerthentheuniversemustbegettingthinner&thinner.I.e.dilutingitself. Here,forthesakeofinterest,ispartofaScientificdescriptionofthebirthofouruniverseasweunderstanditcurrently: Itisinitalicbecausethissectionmaybeprettyheavygoingforthelayman.Iurgeyoutoreaditasitisveryinteresting! Approximately13.7billionyearsago,theentiretyofouruniversewascompressedintotheconfinesofanatomicnucleus.Knownasa singularity,thisisthemomentbeforecreationwhenspaceandtimedidnotexist.Accordingtotheprevailingcosmologicalmodelsthatexplain ouruniverse,anineffableexplosion,trillionsofdegreesintemperatureonanymeasurementscale,thatwasinfinitelydense,creatednotonly fundamentalsubatomicparticlesandthusmatterandenergybutspaceandtimeitself.Cosmologytheoristscombinedwiththeobservationsof theirastronomycolleagueshavebeenabletoreconstructtheprimordialchronologyofeventsknownasthebigbang.Quantumtheory suggeststhatmomentsaftertheexplosionat1043second,thefourforcesofnaturestrongnuclear,weaknuclear,electromagneticand gravitywerecombinedasasingle"superforce".Elementaryparticlesknownasquarksbegintobondintrios,formingphotons,positronsand netrinosandwerecreatedalongwiththeirantiparticles.Thereareminusculeamountsofprotonsandneutronsatthisstageapproximately1 foreveryonebillionphotons,neutrinosorelectrons.Thedensityoftheuniverseinitsfirstmomentoflifeisthoughttohavebeen1094g/cm3 withthemajorityofthisbeingradiation.Foreachbillionpairsoftheseheavyparticles(hadrons)thatwerecreated,onewasspared annihilationduetoparticleantiparticlecollisions.Theremainingparticlesconstitutethemajorityofouruniversetoday.Duringthiscreationand annihilationofparticlestheuniversewasundergoingarateofexpansionmanytimesthespeedoflight.Knownastheinflationaryepoch,the universeinlessthanonethousandthofaseconddoubledinsizeatleastonehundredtimes,fromanatomicnucleusto1035metersinwidth. Anisotropicinflationofouruniverseendsat1035secondthatwasalmostperfectlysmooth.Ifitwerenotforaslightfluctuationinthedensity distributionofmatter,theoristscontend,galaxieswouldhavebeenunabletoform. Theuniverseatthispointwasanionizedplasmawherematterandradiationwereinseparable.Additionallytherewereequalamountsof particlesandantiparticles.Theratioofneutronsandprotonsalbeitsmallisequal.Whentheuniverseagedtoonehundredthofasecondold neutronsbegintodecayonamassivescale.Thisallowsforfreeelectronsandprotonstocombinewithotherparticles.Eventuallythe remainingneutronscombinewithprotonstoformheavyhydrogen(deuterium).Thesedeuteriumnucleicombineinpairsandformhelium nuclei.Theformationofmatterfromenergyismadepossiblebyphotonsmaterializingintobaryonsandantibaryonswiththeirsubsequent annihilationstransformingthemintopureenergy.Becauseofthesecollisionsandannihilationsmatterwasunabletoremainviableformore
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thanafewnanosecondsbeforeabombardmentofelectronswouldscatterthesephotons.Likewatertrappedinsideasponge,radiationisso dense(1014g/cm3)thatnolightisvisible.Knownasthe"EpochofLastScattering"thetemperaturehasnowdroppedtoamere1013Kwith theStrongNuclear,WeakNuclearandElectromagneticinteractionsnowabletoexerttheirforce.Asthegascloudexpandsonefullsecond aftertheinitialexplosionandthetemperatureofouruniversehasdroppedtotenbilliondegrees,photonsnolongerhavetheenergytodisrupt thecreationofmatteraswellastransformenergyintomatter.Afterthreeminutesandatemperatureofonebilliondegrees,protonsand neutronswereslowingdownenoughinordertoallownucleosynthesistotakeplace.Atomicnucleiofheliumwasproducedastwoprotons andneutronseachbonded.Foreveryheliumnucleiformedtherewereabouttenprotonsleftoverallowingfortwentyfivepercentofthe universetobecomprisedofhelium.Thenextimportantphaseoftheexpansionoccurredaroundthirtyminuteslaterwhenthecreationof photonsincreasedthroughtheannihilationofelectronpositronpairs.Thefactthattheuniversebeganwithslightlymoreelectronsthan positronshasinsuredthatouruniversewasabletoformthewayithas. Whatisreallyinterestingforusnovicesisthatthissuddenandmassiveexplosion(thebigbang)hasleftanelectromagneticresidueinspace and,likeasmokinggun,thecosmoswaswhisperingitsoriginsbacktousandallwehadtodowashearit. Nowreadthisarticlewhichwaswrittenonthe17thofMay2005. Fortyyearsago,twoastronomersinNewJerseyheardnoiseonaradiotelescopethatbolsteredtheideathattheuniversebeganwitha massiveexplosion13billionor14billionyearsearlier.CommentatorRalphSchoensteinvisitsthe"hornantenna"whereArnoPenziasand RobertWilsonfirstheardthecosmicbackgroundradiationbackingthebigbangtheory.
BellLabs,NationalParkService RobertWilson,left,andArnoPenziasstandinfrontoftheBellLabshornradioantennainCrawfordHill,N.J., wheretheydiscoveredcosmicbackgroundradiationconfirmingtheBigBang.(1975photo)
TheBellLabsantennainCrawfordHill,innortheasternNewJersey,wasdesignedtotracesignalsbouncedoffsatellites.ButPenziasand WilsonusedittostudyradioemissionsfromtheMilkyWay.Theyneededquiet.Instead,theyfoundnoise'astrange,maddeninghum. "Wecallitnoisebecauseit'scompletelyunstructured,it'srandomsignals,"Wilsonsays. Atfirst,theycouldn'tfigureoutwherethenoisewascomingfrom.Theyruledoutmilitarytesting.Andthen,insidethehornofthebigantenna, theyfounddroppingsfrompigeonsthatwerenestingthere.Thescientiststriedtotrapthebirdsandreleasethem30milesaway,buttheykept flyingback.Penziassaystheteamhadnochoicebuttokillthepigeons."Itseemedliketheonlywayoutofourdilemma,"hesays. Thepigeonsweregone,butthenoiseremained.Anditwascomingfromeverydirection. Thegreatsearchmighthaveendedrightthere,butPenziaslearnedthatPrincetonprofessorRobertDickehadbeenpredictingthattheresidue ofthebigbangwouldbelowlevelbackgroundradiationthroughouttheuniverse.PenziascalledhimandlearnedthatDickeandphysicist DaveWilkinsonwereabouttobuildadevicetohuntforcosmicbackgroundradiation. Althoughtheteamsbothpublishedpapers,itwasPenziasandWilsonwhoin1978wontheNobelPrizeforphysicsforwhathasbeencalled themostimportantscientificfindofthe20thcentury. Articleends.
InSummary:
Ourstar,theSunwascreatedbyamassiveexplosionandgeneratesheatandlightduetoamassiveandongoingthermonuclearconflagration thatburnsat5000degreescentigradeandconverts700milliontonsofhydrogento695milliontonsofheliumeverysecond. Theearth(whichissiliconandoxygenbased),andtheotherplanetsinoursolarsystemwereformed,probablyduringthetimeofthebirthof theSunandourplanets(whicharespinningaroundoursun)areheldinitsgravity.WeareallslowlybeingpulledintotheSun.I.e.witheach revolutiontheearthtakesaroundtheSunweknowthatweareslowlyspiralingintotheSun. TheSun,asitburns,isalsoexpanding,andasitagesandwilleventuallyexpandtoapointwhereitwillconsumeupearth. Alllifeonearthwillendlongbeforethishappens. OurSolarSystemspinswhileflyingthroughspaceat134milespersecond.BillionsofotherSolarSystemsarealsooutthereanditis estimatedthatsome(manymillions)mayeven,duetotheGoldilocksCondition,besuitableforlife.Stars,likegalaxies,areexplodingintolife allthetime,andthenslowlydyingandcompactingintothemselves,eventuallycreatingnewexplosionsasthecyclecontinues. Weknowthattheuniverseisexpandingbecausewehavebeenabletomeasurethestarsmovingawayfromus.Wealsoknowthatthe universeresultedoriginallyfromamassiveexplosionreferredtoasthe"bigbang"whichbroughtouruniverseintoexistence.Andweareable tohearthisnoise,theresidueofcreationallarounduswhichprovesthisfact. Thistypeofexplosionisreferredtoasasingularity.Whentheuniversecompletesitsoutwardrush(alongtimefromnow),itwillstarttofall backinonitselfandwillslowlycompactandpressurize,untilitagainbecomesverydenseandminutelysmall(muchsmallerthatapinhead).
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Duetotheconcentrationofextremeforcesthatareinvolvedinthiscompaction,anothersingularitywilloccur,explodingandrecreatingthe universe,asthewholeprocessrepeatsalloveragain. Ourknowledgetodayisvastlydifferenttothatknownahundredorevenathousandyearsago. Itismindboggling,andwehavebarelybeguntoscratchthesurfaceofthedeepwellofsecretsthatformthebasisofouruniverseandour existence.
Observation4:
Arethereotheruniverses? Theremaybeotherparalleluniversesinexistencebutwehavenoknowledgeofthematthistime.Possibly,aswithEdwinHubblessudden discoveryofthehiddenAndromedaNebula,wewillsuddenlydiscovertheexistanceofanotheruniversenexttoours.Wecansurmisethat,like galaxies,therecouldbecountlessotherparalleluniversesinexistence.Possiblyeachuniverseisatadifferentstageinitslife,andiseither expandingorcontracting(beingborn,expanding,contractingandthenbeingreborn)andallaremaintainedinastrangemotiononthedance floorofsomeotherdimensionwhichwecanonlycomprehendinourimagination.Becausewehavenoideawhatthesewouldlooklike(ifwe couldevencomprehendthem)hereattwoartisticimpressionsofwhattheymaylooklike.
Ifthebubblesareuniverses,thencouldthesenotallexistinaHeavenlyBathtub,thathasbeendrawnbyZeusforhisbeautifulwife,the GoddessHera.
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Ijest! Butyoumustadmitthatourmindfindsithardtofullycomprehendtheenormityofcreation! Withtheoriginalsimplisticattemptsatunderstandingcreation,whatwecanmarvelatnowisatitsvastness,howincredibleandaweinspiring andtotallyoverwhelmingitisandtheincomprehensiblemightwearefacedwithwhenwetrytogettogripswiththeorigins,powerandsecrets ofcreation. RememberthataverysolidargumentfortheexistenceofGodisthatwithallthiswonderfulcreation,surelytheremustbeaCreator!
Observation5:
Andiftheaboveisn'tmindbogglingenough,whatthenistobemadeofthisthingcalledlife? Weknowthatourbodiesarecarbonoxygenmachinesthatarepoweredbytheenergyweconsume. WecouldnotexistwithoutthesupplyofenergybeingconstantlyreplenishedbyourSun. Weknowthatwearesentientandaware. Whileanimalsandotherlifeformsareawareatalowerlevelthanourself.We,unlikeanimals,appeartohavethemoreadvancedabilityto thinkaboutthefactthatwethink. Thisthinkingnessallowsus,ifweareabletotakeadvantageofthisskill,toberational,logicalandanalytical. Usingourthoughtsthenwhatisthiselanvitaloflifeforce? Islifeatypeofcombustionenergyliketheflameofacandle?
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Orisitatypeofelectricalenergy?
OrisitsomethingelseentirelyandnotapartoftheMESTuniverseatall.Possiblyasoulthatlookslikeus(resemblesourphysicalform)butis comprisedofanothertypeofenergythatwedonotyetunderstand.Aspiritualenergythattranscendstheuniversebutcanpermeatethroughit intotheMatter,Energy,SpaceandTimethatcomprisesthephysicaluniverse,andcananimatematter.
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Orisourlifeenergyandformsomethingelseentirely,andinaspectruminvisibletothenakedeye.
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Coulditbethatthisspiritualenergywrapsaroundthemultiverse,feedingitlikeourseaswraparoundthefishestherein,ortheairaroundour planetwhichfeedsandsustainsthelifeinus.
TheclassicphilosophicalargumentaboutlifeisthatwearetheresultofsuccessfulevolutionandourMindissimplyanextensionofourBody. Takentogetherwearejustacomplexmachinethatcanthinkforitself.Whenourbodydieswewillalsoextinguishandsimplygooutlikethe blownoutflameofacandle.Wecanonlyliveoninthethoughtsandactionsofouroffspring. ThereligiousargumentisthatweareSpirit,MindandBody.Spiritisaforcethatcomesfromanotherplaceabove,orinanotherdimension removedfromthephysicalMESTuniverseandthisplaceiscalledmanydifferentnames,bydifferentreligionsi.e.Heaven,Nirvanaetc. AftercountlessphilosophicaldebatesandpapersontheMind/Bodyproblem,onethingatthistimeseemstobeagiven:Theonlywaytobe

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deadcertainaboutlifeafterdeathistobedead! Butdoesanextinguishedfilimentofalightswitchedoffevenrememberitwaseveron? Thenagain,thinkoftheincredibleknowledgeandinsightwehavegainedinjust3000yearsofthought. Coulditbethatanotherincredibleinsightisjustaroundthecornerwhichwillturneverythingwenowtakeasknownupsidedown.Possibly clearerproofandfullerunderstandingofwhatcomprisesusandourelanvitalisjustaroundthecorner,wrappedupinanewphilosophy,ora visitationfromanotherplanet,oranincrediblediscovery.Similar,asitwhere,tothediscoveryofthenewworldwhichwasjustoverthehorizon andsimplyneededtobereachedbyonewhowasdaringenoughtochallengetheconceptofaflatworld!
Observation6:
The"game"oflife. Coulditbethatwe(spirits)havecreatedthephysicaluniverseinordertohaveaplacetoplay.Acosmicplaypen/sandpitifyoulike. ImaginethegodssittingaroundonmountOlympus.
Theyareallpowerfulandomniscient.I.e.theycandowhatevertheychooseandknoweverythingthereistoknow.Woulditnotbeveryboring formetoplayagameofchesswithyouifwewerebothoneofthesesupremebeings? "HiZeus!Howaboutaquickgameofchess?""Why?" "BecauseitwouldbefunandIamsoooooooooveryboredwithallthis'notimenot'goingpast" "Ok,butholdit.Ialreadyknowwhatyoufirstmovewillbeandwhowillwin?""AndIknowthattoo,aboutyou." "Ok,wellforgetitthen,badidea! Theonlywaytoplayagameistodothisinaplacewhereallknowingnessisnotpossible.Likeauniverseforexample. Coolidea!Andwhatwouldthenameofthisgamebecalled? Thegameofsurvival!TowinistoSurvivewellandtoloseistoSuccumb.Ultimatefailureisdeath.
Ok.Thatsoundsinteresting.Idefinitelywanttoplaythatgame!AndifIdie? Ohnoproblem.Yousimplypopbackhereandtakeabreatherforashortwhile,onthesideline. Thenpoprightbackinagainwhenyouareready. Andtherulesofthegame?

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CanIdoanythingIwantorarethererules? Therearerules.Ifyoucauseharmtootherbeings(thesameappliesanimalsaswell)then,becauseweareallconnected,thisharmwill reverberatearoundtheCosmos(increasinginpowersomesay7fold)andthiswilleventuallyfinditswaystraightbackatyou,knockingyou anddraggingatyouuntilyouarebroughtdown,lowerandlower,slidingintothehellishregionsoflowspiritualtone.Averynasty,hellish placeindeed! Youthinkyouarecleverenoughtocockasnootandcheatthisrule? Youthinkyoucanescapetheconsequencesofbreakingthisrule? Trustmeyoucannot! Butdon'ttakemywordforit. Goahead,breaktherulesandfindoutforyourself.Likemanybeforeyou,youmayhavetolearn,THEHARDWAY! Ohandyouwillhavetocomebackandthenbackagainandagainuntilyoulearnhowthegameisplayed. Coolgamedon'tyouthink. Havefun! Ifyouareuptoitcheckoutthisgamespeopleplaymanual.Complicatedbutamazingstuff!
Observation7:
Orcoulditbethatwearefallenintoatrap. Rememberthatthesecretofavoidingatrap,isknowingofitsexistence! Hereisashortstorytoillustrate.Imaginethatyouareaveryawareadvancedlifeform(theadvancedlifeformcanalsobesupplementedin thestoryforasupremebeingorforahumanbeingthemoral,asyouwillsee,appliestousall).Youhavereallycoolpowers.Forexample youcanusetelekinesiswhilesittinginyourlivingroom,onthecomfortofyourantigravitycouchandyoucanmakethefridgedoorinthe kitchenpopopenjustbythinkingaboutit.Then,byconcentrating,youcanmakeacoldbeerfloatupoffoneoftheshelvesinthefridgeand throughtheair,roombyroomuntilfinallyitfloatsintothelivingroomandcomesfinallytorestgentlyinyouropenhand. Nowimagineyourselfthenextday,asyoupreparetogotowork.Youjumpintoyourspaceshuttleandzoomoffintospacetoanearbyplanet whereyourofficeissituated.Ontheway,unfortunately,anothershuttlecutsacrossyourpathandnearlycausesyoutocrashintoit. "Inconsideratespacehog.Ihopeyouloosecontrolofthatheapofjunkandflyintoaplanet"youthinktoyourself. Thenlaterinthedayyouhearanewsbulletinaboutthefatalcrashofashuttlewhichlostcontrolandflewintoanearbyplanet.Youdonot maketheconnectionanddonotrealizethatyouhaveactuallywilledtheaccidentwithyourthoughts.Thinkingnothingmoreaboutthenews reportyougohometoyourlivingroom,settleyourselfdowninthecomfortofyourantigravitycouchandsummonacoldbeer. Nothinghappens! Youtryagainandstillnothinghappens.Youtryandtryandpanicandtryharderandpanicsomemoreandtryevenharder.Stillnothing happens!Slowlyyoucometotherealizationthatyourpowershaveleftyou. Thiscouldbeexactlywhathappenedtoabunchofspiritswhowereplayingintheuniverse. Possiblytheygotstuckhereandforgothowtogetbackout. This(selfinvalidationandtrappingprocess)iscapturedinascalecalledtheKnowtoNothingnessScale.Itgoeslikethis: __________________
Know NotKnow(wesubconsciouslyinvalidateourselvesandwhatweareandknowi.e.weinvalidateourspiritualbeingness)

Forget(fearofforgettingwhatweknowcausesustodoubtwhatweknow) Remember(panicatnotbeingabletorememberwhatweknew) Occlude(hidingthetruthaway,orhidingourselvesawayfromthetruthofwhatweknew) Nothing(don'tevenknowthatwedon'tknow)

Note:YouwillseearesemblancebetweentheKnowtoNothingnessScaleandtheToneScale. Botharetheworkofabeing(knowinglyorunknowingly)diminishinghisorhertruepotential! __________________
Observation8:
DrivingLessons. Aswithadriver,whoisconstantlyreceivingfeedbackfromcontrolsinamotorcardashboard,webeings,livinginourbody,useourbrainsas electricalshockcushionstoconstantlyprocessournervoussystem,whichinturnenablesustodriveourbodiescarefullythroughlife[Towards
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survival].Sowe,viatheshockcushionsofourbrain,driveourbodiesaroundearth,respondingtoandreactingtosensoryinputs(eyes, hearingetc.).Wearealsoabletouseouranalyticalmindtothinkaboutandprocessinformationwereceive.Andwealsohaveasurvival mind(thereactivemind)thatmayormaynothelpusoutoftrouble. Thereactivemind,asabyproductofourancient"survivalinstinct",isfullydiscussedabove Bottomlineisthatifyoutakesomedrivinglessons(someofwhicharegiveninObservation1.)thenthereisagoodchancethatyouwilllearn howtodriveyourselfthroughlifeandnotbreakdownorhaveanaccident. Usingthissameanalogy,shouldyoudrinkanddrive? Patentlytheuseofanyformofdrugorintoxicantwhiledrivingisextremelyunwise. Itmaycollapsethereactivemindanddull(ortemporarykill)paininthebrainandbodybutthesurethingisthattheminutetheartificial intoxicanteffectwearsoffyouwillberightbackwhereyouwerebeforeyoutookit.I.e.facingexactlythesameproblems,frustrationandpains oflife.Butthistimetheywillbeworse. Usemedicationcarefullyandstayawayfromanythingthatwillinterferewithyourabilitytodrivesafely!
Observation9:
MylifeisamovieandIamthesumtotalofallmypictures. Whatifthemindislikeavideocamerathatcancaptureallaspectsofourlife,storingitas3dvideo(withaudioandalltheothersensesas well),whichwecan,ifweareawareenough,orifwereceiveassistance,accessatwill.Whatagreatwaytogetatproblemsthataredeep withinoursubconsciousand,byreplayingthemindetail,sortthemout.Somesaythatitisnotthemindatallbutratherthespirit(soul)that recordsourlifebytakingsensoryinformationoffourbrain(theshockcushion)andstoringitinaverydetailedspirituallybasedmemorytrack thatisindestructible.
ThisformsthebasisformuchofthecounselingworkthatyouwilllearnaboutintheCommunicationCourse. Forexample,thereactivemindiscomposedoflocksandchainsofevents.Abad(contrasurvival)thinghappenstoyouandisrecordedinthe reactivemind.Itisnotdealtwithandcausesanothersimilarthingtohappen.Whichmeansmorereactivemind.Thisiscalledachainandit canhavemanylinks(linkedevents)thatincreasethestrengthofthereactivemindanditsdebilitatingcontrolontheindividual,constantly weakeningthem.Thelockisthefirstincidentwhichsetthisoff.Ifthelock(theoriginalincident)canbethoroughlyseenforwhatitisand understoodforwhatitisthentheincidentwillceasetohaveaneffectontheindividualandthechainwillbeshatteredandwillbreak.Butifyou dealwithoneofthelinksinthechainandnotthesourceincidentthenyouwillnotseemuchimprovement.Thisisbecausethelockremains shuttight. Whatifwearecapableofrememberingeverythingthathasoccurredtousinourlife,evenbackintothewomb? Whatifwecouldrecallmemories,evenfurtherbackintime,evenintopastlives? Aninterestingaccountofpastlivesthatyoumaybeinterestedinreadingcanbefoundhere. Dothesepastlivesnecessarilyhavetobeonthisplanet,inthisgalaxyoreveninthisuniverse? IfthetimetrackisindestructiblethencanwenotbetiedintoeventsthathappenedinplacesfarremovedfromusacrosstheMESTUniverse. i.e.adifferenttime,place,etc.OrevenwithknowledgeofplacesindimensionsthatexistaboveandbeyondtheMESTuniverse!
Observation10:
Becarefulwhatyouwishfor. Ifwecouldknowallthereasonsfor,andanswersabout,thetruthofourbeingnessonearth,wouldthatnotshockusinstantlyintoastateof "Know"fromastateof"Occlude"and"Nothing".Dowewantthissuddenandincredibleawareness,ifwearesimplytryingtoenjoyourlife? Couldwehandleit!?Whatifwesuddenlyseeeverything,includingtherealityofpastlives,andwiththiswealsoexperiencetheknowledgeof ourinvolvementinpastevilacts,orthepainofpastlosses,oreventhetraumalockedupinpastdeaths(causedorexperienced).Dowewant
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tohandlethis? OR Shouldwesimplyfocusontryingtoenjoyourlifeandgetthemostoutofit,daybyday.ByaspiringtobeanUpTone,goodandethicalperson (andfocusingratheronplayingyournylonstringguitareachandeveryday[orwhateveryouchosenpassionis]).Wearetoldbyallthe scripturesthatallwillberevealedtousintime.So,becausethisissuchaverybigandoverwhelminguniverse,itwouldbebetterinmy opiniontolivebythissimplephilosophy...
Don'tWorry...BeHappy!
InConclusion:
Observation1.abovecontainssomecoollifeskills.Gothroughthemoftenandtrytoapplythem.Youwillstarttoliveyourlifebetterandas youmoveUpToneyourenjoymentoflifewillcontinuetoincrease.Bydoingthisyouwillpositivelyeffectotherpeopleandhopefullybring themUpTone. TheCommunicationCourse(Linksatthebottomofthispage)isagoodplacetostartasitisaboutgettingARC,inallaspectsofyourlife,back upandworkingforyouagain. Thelinksherealsoreferyoutoanumberofexcellentdocumentsthatyoucandelveintowhenyouhavethetime. IfyoudothisyouwillhelptomoveyousystematicallyUpToneandhelpyoutoremainUpTone. IwouldstronglyurgeyoutocombinethiswiththeMeditationaudioproductsfoundonUpGutiarHill.com. TheseproductsareamazingandwillmoveyousystematicallyUpToneovertime. Asaresultofdoingthesesimplethingsyouwillfindthatyoustarttoliveyourlifemoreproductivelyandplayingguitareachandeverydaywill becomeapieceofcake!
Herearesomebonusthoughtsforyou: Lifeisshort.CarpeDiem! StrivetoBEHAPPY! DOyourpassion HAVEyourrewards(whichdoesnotnecessarilyhavetobeloadsofstuff) Isn'titstrangehowsomanypeople,whoseemtohavesomanythings,stillseemsounhappy! Weconsumethingsatanamazingratebutisthejoywereceivereallyallitiscutouttobe. Iknowapersonwhohas30suitsforworkand20differentwatchesand15topoftherangemotorcars.Heisactuallynotareallyniceperson andwhenhecheatedonhiswifeshecutuphissuites,smashedhiswatchesandpouredpaintontohiscars.Gofigurehowconfusedthese twospiritsare!? Butitdoesseemasifthegameis:Hewhodieswiththemosttoyswins! Whatandincrediblewasteofenergyandpreciousresourcesand...hello...youcan'ttakethemwithyou! Isn'toneofeachenough!?Isn'tallthisneedingnessandhavingnessatypeofpsychosisthatwehavewherewearetryingtowrapallthese thingsaroundustoshowthatwearesurvivingwell?Possiblyallthisplumagedoesattractawonderfulmate.Butfartoooftenwehearofthe catcheatingupthelure,hook,sinker,line,rodandthenfinallythepoorsodholdingallthisstuffdesignedtocatchthecatchinthefirstplace! BertrandRussell,aphilosopher,mathematician,authorandNobelLaureate(18721970)hadthistosayabout"stuff".""Tobewithoutsome ofthethingsyouwantisanindispensablepartofhappiness". Useyourpreciousenergyandtimewisely. Trythis:Trytojuggletwoballs.Nowtrytojugglethreeballs.Thenfouretc.Soonyouwilldropallofthemontothefloor. Thisjugglingofballsisexactlywhatwedoinourlife.Wejugglemanythingsatonceandkeeppilingonmoreandmore. Focusonwhatyoucandoproperlyandthenperfectthat.Don'toverreachyourselfwithunrealisticgoals. Itiseasytobeajackofalltrades,butoftenyoumayendupbeingtotallystresssssedout,andamasterofnone. Weoftenheartalksfrompeopleaskingyoutocleanoutyourjunk. Ifyoudon'tuseit,orhaven'tuseditin3monthsthenyouwillprobablyneveruseit. Assuch,giveitawaytosomeone,probablylessfortunatethanyou,whocanreallyuseit. Keepitsimpleinyourlife. ThinkKISS!Keepitsweetandsimple! Thereisincrediblerelieftobefoundindeclutteringourlives!
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Tryitandsee! AtonestageIhadanelectricguitar(+amps,wires,audiomixingboardetal),asteelstringguitar,anumberofboxguitars,a12stringguitar,a classical10stringguitar,alute,azitherandanumberofothermusicalinstruments(electrickeyboard,piano,harmonicaandetc.).Thestyles andtypesofmusicthatcanbeplayedoneachwasquitedifferent(evenbetweenguitarswhichismypassion)anditwasadailystruggleto jugglealltheinstrumentalballsintheair.ThedayIdecidedtogivetherestawayandtofocusprimarilyonmytrustynylon6string(a wonderfulhandmadedoubletopbyContreras),wasagreatdayforme!Ihaveneverlookedback. ThepeopleIgavemy"other"instrumentstowerealsoveryhappywhichmademehappy,whichmeantIwasmoreproductiveandUpTone andthismeantIcouldputmoreintomyguitarwhichmadememorehappyandIwasabletofindouthowtomakeotherpeoplemorehappy whichmadememorehappy...thewheelisturningpositivelyforme.... Ithinkyoushouldbegettingitbynow! HereitisfromtheTAO Thecauseofallsufferingsiscraving. Desirethingsthatyoudonothaveandsufferingwillfollow. Realisethisandpeacewillbeyours. Sufferingwilldisappearandcontentmentwillremain. Icountmytruefriendsonthefingersofonehand. Myfewsoulmates,andmynylonstringguitararemyonlytruecompanionsIneedonthiswindingroadoflife. ItrytolivelifeinsuchawaythatIsleepwelleachandeverynight. Idon'tminddying,Ijustdon'twanttobetherewhenithappens! But,Iamprepared,becausethelasttimeIwaspulledawayquiteunexpectedly! Bendlikeareedinthewind. AndsomewordsfromasongbytheEagles. "takeiteasy,takeiteasy...don'tletthewheelsinyourownminddriveyoucrazy! Andanother:Don'tletthebastardsgrindyoudown! AndasafinalwordofPrayeroneofmyfavorite:
ThePrayerofSaintFrancis
"OLord,makemeaninstrumentofThyPeace! Wherethereishatred,letmesowlove Wherethereisinjury,pardon Wherethereisdiscord,harmony Wherethereisdoubt,faith Wherethereisdespair,hope Wherethereisdarkness,light,and Wherethereissorrow,joy. OhDivineMaster,grantthatImaynot somuchseektobeconsoledastoconsole tobeunderstoodastounderstandtobeloved astoloveforitisingivingthatwereceive Itisinpardoningthatwearepardoned anditisindyingthatweareborntoEternalLife. butifyouaredealingwithcarelesspeoplewhocannotbetouched,withdrawandprotectyourself!
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Note:SomewordsusedintheCommunicationCourseandtheotherdocumentsthatIlinkto,mayseemstrange. ThisisbecausetheyhavebeendefinedtomoreaccuratelydescribewhatisrequiredinorderforyoutoundertaketheCommunicationCourse andgainthemostbenefits.IntheEnglishLanguagewewouldrefertospecificwords,thatareusedinaspecificdisciplinei.e.scienceorart, asthediscipline's"nomenclature".
DefinitionofNOMENCLATURE
1:name,designation 2:theactorprocessoraninstanceofnaming 3:a:asystemorsetoftermsorsymbolsespeciallyinaparticularscience,discipline,orart b:aninternationalsystemofstandardizednewLatinnamesusedinbiologyforkindsandgroupsofkindsofanimalsandplants Synonyms:appellation,appellative,cognomen,compellation,denomination,denotation,designation,handle,moniker(alsomonicker),name, title Theword"Auditor",forexample,thatyoufindatthetopoftheCommunicationCourse,issomeonewhohastheability,andisalsowillingto takethetime,tolistentoothers. FormoredefinitionsofwordsusedinthiscoursegototheCourseIndexatthebottomofeachpageoftheCommunicationCourseandfrom hereyouwillfindtheGlossary.
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