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How we fall in love may be the hardest human behavior to
explain. Scientists are seeking answers-and finding them
BY JEFFREY KLUGER
HE LAST TIME YOU HAD SEX, THERE WAS not to make much sense for a species like ours that
arguably not a thought in your head. relies on its wits. A savanna full ofpredators, after
O.K., if it was very familiar sex with a all, was not a place to get distracted. But the lure of
very familiar partner, the kind that- losing our faculties is one of the things that makes
truth be told-you probably have most sex thrilling-and one of the very things that
of the time, your mind may have wandered off keeps the species going. As far as your genes are
to such decidedly nonerotic matters as balancing concerned, your principal job while you're alive
your checkbook or planning your week. If it was is to conceive offspring, bring them to adulthood
the kind of sex you shouldn't have been having in and then obligingly die so you don't consume re-
the first place-the kind you were regretting even sources better spent on the young. Anything that
as it was taking place-you might have already encourages you to breed now and breed plenty gets
been flashing ahead to the likely consequences. But thatjob done.
if it was that lcind of sex that's the whole reason But mating andthe rituals surroundingitmake
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you took up having sex in the first place-the out- us come unhinged in other ways too, ones that are
f of-breath, out-of-body, can-you-believe-this-is-ac- harder to explain by the mere babymaking impera-
a tually-happening kind of sex-your rational side tive. There's the transcendent sense of tenderness
had probably taken a powder. you feel toward a person who sparks your interest.
Losing our faculties over a matter like sex ought There's the sublime feeling of relief and reward
THE SCIENCE OF ROMANCE
when that interest is returned. There are Nearly 30 years ago, psychologist Elaine expanding. The more scientists look, the
the flowers you buy and the poetry you Hatfield of the University of Hawaii and more they're able to tease romance apart
write and the impulsive trip you make to sociologist Susan Sprecher now oflllinois into its individual strands-the visual,
the other side of the world just so you can State University developed a r5-item ques- auditory, olfactory, tactile, neurochemi-
spend 48 hours in the presence of a lover tionnaire that ranks people along what the cal processes that make it possible. None
who's faraway. That's an awful lot ofbusy- researchers call the Passionate Love Scale. of those things may be necessary for
work just to get aspermto meet an egg-if Hatfield has administered the test in places simple procreation, but all of them ap-
merely getting a sperm to meet an egg is as varied as the U.S., Pacific islands, Rus- pear essential for something larger. What
really all that it's about. sia, Mexico, Pakistan and, most recently, that something is-and how we achieve
Human beings make a terrible fuss India and has found that no matter where it- is only now coming clear.
about a lot of things but none more than she looks, it's impossible to squash love. ..It
romance. Eating and drinking are just as seemed only people in the West were goofy The Love Hunt
important forkeepingthe species going- enough to marry for passionate love," she IF HUMAN REPRODUCTIVE BEHAVIOR IS A
more so actually, since a celibate person says. "But in all ofthe cultures I've studied, complicated thing, part of the reason is
can at least continue living but a starv- people love wildly." that it's designed to serve two clashing
ing person can't. Yet while we may build What scientists, not to mention the purposes. On the one hand, we're driven
whole institutions around the simple rest of us, want to know is, Whf What to mate a lot. On the other hand, we want
ritual of eating, it never turns us flat-out makes us go so loony over love? Why to mate well so that our offspring survive.
nuts. Romance does. would we bother with this elaborate ex- If you're a female, you get only Jfew rolls
"People compose poetry, novels, sit- ercise in fan dances and flirtations, wink- of the reproductive dice in a lifetime. If
coms for love," says Helen Fisher, an an- ing and signaling, joy and sorrow? "We you're a male, your freedom to conceive is
thropologist at Rutgers University and have only a very limited understanding limited only by the availability of willing
somethingof the Queen Mum of romance of what romance is in a scientific sensej-' partners, but the demands of providing for
research. "They live for love, die for love, admits fohn Bancroft, emeritus director too big a brood are a powerful incentive
kill for love. It can be stronger than the of the Kinsey Institute in Bloomington, to limit your pairings to the female who
drive to stay alive." Ind., a place where they know a thing or will give you just a few strong young. For
On its good days (and love has a lot of two about the way human beings pair that reason, no sooner do we reach sexual
them), all this seems to make perfect sense. up. But that limited understanding is maturity than we learn to look for signals
of good genes and reproductive fitness in
potential partners and, importantly, to
display them ourselves.
"Every livinghuman is a descendant of
a long line of successful maters," says Da-
vid Buss, an evolutionary psychologist at
the University of Texas at Austin. ,,We'ne
adapted to pick certain types ofmates and
to fulfili the desires of the opposite sex."
One of the most primal of those desires
is thatapossible partnersmells right. Good
smells and bad smells are fundamentally
no different from each other; both are mere-
ly volatile molecules wafting off an object
a-nd providing some clue as to the thing
that emitted them. Humans, like all ani-
mals, quicklylearn to assignvalues to those
scents, recognizing that, say, putrefying
flesh can carry disease and thus recoiling
fromits smell andthatwarm cookies carry
the promise ofvanilla, sugarandbutterand
MAN WOMAN thus being drawn to them. Other humans
,t$+'1,g4.r46r79,* h,.q1*trr.l"-.",qrrt-*r,r,,; carrytelltale smells of theirown, and those
f can affect us in equally powerful ways.
The best-known illustration of the in-
visible influence of scent is the way the
Liking l,tlhat We See and Hear menstrual cycles of womenwho live com-
munally tend to synchronize. In a state of
we're suckers for a pretty face-and a lot more. Men prefer women with
nature, this is a very good idea. It's not in
large breasts and a low waist-to-hip ratio, which are seen as
signs of a tribe's or community's interests for one
fertility. women like men with muscular shoulders, a broad ihest and olulating female to monopolize the repro-
a full beard. These are signs of strength and a hearthy flow of virility- ductive attention of too many males. Bet-
ter to have all the females become fertile at
inducing testosterone. Men with deepervoices are plrceived as having
once and allow the fittest potential mates
a high testosterone level and in one studywere shown to have
more to compete with one another for them.
children, suggesting that women respond to the way they sound. But how does one female signal the
rest? The answer is almost certainly
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smell. Pheromones-or scent-signaling
chemicals-are known to exist among
animals, and while scientists have had
a hard time unraveling the pheromonal
system in humans, they have isolated a
few of the compounds. One type, known
as driver pheromones, appears to affect
the endocrine systems of others. Since
the endocrine system plays a critical role
in the timing of menstruation, there is at
least a strong circumstantial case that the
two are linked. "It's thought that there is
a driver female who gives off something
that changes the onset of menstruation in
the other women," says chemist Charles
Wysocki of the Monell Chemical Senses
Center in Philadelphia.
It's not just women who respond to such
olfactory cues. One surprising study pub-
lished last October in the journal Evolution
and Human Behauiorshowed that strippers
who are ovulating average g7o in tips per
hour; those who are menstruating make
935; those who are not ovulating or men- The Lure of Smell 'r
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