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Correcting Unacceptable
Behaviors Reality Therapy
Children who fail to satisfy their needs Interviews with students in which following steps are
followed can be useful:
create problems at school.
1. Help students identify their inappropriate
Such students tend to be lonely, angry, behavior. Don’t accept excuses. Do not invite
frustrated and openly rebellious. excuses by asking students why they behave as
they do.
The teachers role is to help them learn a
2. Have students identify various consequences if
way to behave that better satisfies their their inappropriate behavior continues.
needs. 3. Have students make value judgments about their
Must help students to take responsibility for behaviour and its consequences.
4. Help students create plans to eliminate
their own behavior and for changing it as
inappropriate behavior.
necessary. 5. Help students stick to their plan or suffer the
A number of things can be done by consequences if they fail to do so.
teachers to help students act more
NB: For interviews to be successful teachers need already established good
responsibly relationships and a relationships of trust is essential in reality therapy
In this case Gordon try to excuse their Teachers can avoid such pitfalls by asking
behaviour by explaining that Owen them to state their own role in the difficulty.
started the fight also justifying that he This allows to avoid conflicts about “who
never shares. started it”.
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The questions asked must direct When questioned about lying children
students to state what they have done to often divert accusing of not trusting
cause the problem them.
They will resist to admitting fault and Discussions of trust usually weakens the
would lie. If they lie teachers must student-teacher relationship and fails to
ignore it. Ignoring lies will be difficult for help children act more responsibly
most adults
As children get used to being more
But, children would often have people responsible for their behaviour by having
focus on the lying than admit to to admit it, they are less likely to lie.
inappropriate behaviour
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Love Control
As human beings we need to love and All of us need sufficient power to regulate
be loved, we need to belong, we need our lives as we desire.
to be accepted by others as significant Unfortunately teachers usually deny
and important. children the opportunity to satisfy this need.
We need to believe that we are Children are considered too immature to
accepted by others for what we are make responsible choices.
and that this acceptance is When children assert themselves, teachers
unconditional. ordinarily increase their own control
Children usually try to satisfy their This increase in control only encourages
need for love and acceptance through greater rebellion
behavior designed to get attention
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What can teachers do? Sometimes the picture we have do not correspond
to the real world, and irrational behaviour is often
the result
We may at times choose to do self- We react to the environment but are not directly
destructive things, but we do not controlled by it (eg: hurrying to take someone to
hospital)
intend to destroy ourselves.
Therefore, even those who appear to be controlled
Our pictures make sense to us; are not being controlled in a strict sense
otherwise we would not have them.
They will only continue to follow others directions
only when it is satisfying for them too
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Strengths … Weaknesses
◦ Help students understand their needs and
how to satisfy these needs legitimately. ◦ Difficult for teachers to help students
satisfy their need for control without
◦ Help teachers avoid promoting rebellion. feeling threatened themselves.
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