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Constellations
Patzia González Baz
Gestalt Therapist, D-CEP
“Sexual relations create a deep and binding bond. When a man takes a
woman as his woman; and a woman takes a man as her man, sexual
consummation creates a deep, unbreakable tie that affects the soul. This tie is
stronger than that of parent and child and makes it hard to leave the relationship
without feeling guilty.”
Break-ups hurt; love pain is one of the worst pains we will ever feel. When
the relationship is over, we tend to forget that once we were happy, passionate, in
love we forget we chose to be with that person. We ached to see him / her, talk to
him, and go out with her. And suddenly we become enemies, with passionate
anger, resentment and hurt pride.
We hire attorneys to help us get back, get even, get everything from our former
beloved, and many times our children are pawns to this unfortunate game. We long
to be right, have our complaints addressed and be avenged through the legal
system. At some point, it’s important to remember several key points:
2. Many times custody is awarded to one parent, limiting the other parent’s
access to his or her children. So it’s crucial to remember that both parents
keep all their rights and all their obligations.
3. Children cannot take sides against one parent without part of their soul
being affected. They need to know that whatever is happening is being
experienced between adults. They need to know that even if you now dislike
your ex-spouse, you are happy that your soon to be ex-spouse is the child’s
other parent.
4. The children need to know that you will both continue to be their parents,
and that in him (or her) you honour your ex-spouse.
5. Children are not their parent’s confidants. Even grown children should never
be put in this position… please find a therapist, a support group or friends
with whom you can share your grief, your anger and your resentment.
7. Saying “You’re just like your mother/father” should be heavenly praise for a
child, not an insult.
Children also go through a grief process and need a lot of support, empathy,
and understanding. It may be hard for a grieving parent to be able to be there for
them, therapy can help. Usually children feel responsible for their parent’s break-up
and feel very guilty about it. When we can respect our ex-spouse in the children we
will help ease their pain.
Counselling and Energy Psychology can greatly assist in the process of rebuilding
your life when your relationship ends; and as a support during the legal process of
ending your marriage.
Patzia Gonzalez-Baz, B. Sc. Clinical Member, OSP; D-CEP; EFT-Adv; has a Psychotherapy
practice in Newmarket, ON and facilitates EFT and TAT sessions in person and on teleconferences.
Patzia specializes in empowering individuals by helping them release their blocks and
inhibitions, followed by facilitating positive belief patterns, that allows the individual to
step into their own power and bring back their sense of aliveness. Patzia also
integrates spiritual awareness and healing, along with many other approaches in her
practice, matching the therapy to the individual needs of the client. For more
information visit Patzia's website at: http://www.HealingHeartsCentre.com