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Book Review of Social Intelligence The New Science of Human Relationships by Daniel Goleman
About the Author
Daniel Goleman is an internationally known psychologist who lectures frequently to professional groups, business audiences, and on college campuses. As a science journalist Goleman reported on the brain and behavioral sciences for The New York Times for many years. His 1995 book, Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half, with more than 5,000,000 copies in print worldwide in 40 languages, and has been a best seller in many countries. Apart from his books on emotional intelligence, Goleman has written books on topics including self-deception, creativity, transparency, meditation, social and emotional learning, eco-literacy and the ecological crisis (taken from the authors website).
Introduction
This book deals with the social aspects of intelligence, i.e. how our brains work when we are in groups. The social brain refers to the neural mechanisms that coordinate our interactions as well as thoughts and feelings about people and our relationships. The social brain is the only biological system in our bodies that continually influences and in turn becomes influenced by the internal state of the people we are with. All other biological systems mainly regulate their activity in response to signals emerging from within our body. Social intelligence deals with the interpersonalthat fascinating array of interactions with others that affects how we feel mentally, emotionally, and even physically. It also affects how teachers are able to motivate students, employers, and workers, how marriages can be sources of nurturance and mutual support and how to raise children in a family.
Social awareness includes: 1) 2) 3) 4) Primal empathy: Feeling with others, sensing emotional signals. Attunement: Listening with full receptivity Empathic accuracy: Understanding another persons thoughts, feelings and intentions Social cognition: Knowing how the social world works.
Social facility includes: 1) 2) 3) 4) Synchrony: Interacting smoothly at the verbal level Self-presentation: Presenting ourselves effectively Influence: Shaping the outcome of social interactions Concern: Caring about others needs and acting accordingly.
Name: Abhishek Agrawal PRN: 12020941031 Separation is the source of all anxiety, said Erich Fromm, and Goleman concurs. We are anxious when separation or rejection loomsperhaps a remnant of the primitive brain, which knew that acceptance by others meant survivalbut even though we do not need each other as desperately as we did in primitive times, we still need each other and separation or rejection hurts, badly, almost physically.
Name: Abhishek Agrawal PRN: 12020941031 happiness well-being and sense of humanity (optimal human existence), by tapping on the social brain. Social intelligence and social epigenetics, is in fact an issue of survival. We must love one another, or die our primal empathy being natures mechanism for group survival.
Conclusion:
Life becomes truly worth living only when we have happiness and fulfilment. Good quality relationships are one of the strongest sources of such feelings. Resonant relationships are like emotional vitamins. Nourishing relationships are considered the single most universally agreed upon feature of the good life. By developing social intelligence we can interact with people around us more effectively. That calls for greater awareness about ourselves and control over our emotions. The book is absolutely packed with anecdotes and stories that illustrate the points Goleman is making, which makes for a very engaging read. However, the question I never really got an answer to is so what? The book is really good explanation, in laymans terms, of what neuroscientists have been working on for some years. It does attempt to answer the so what question in short sections with titles such as healing relationships, the socially intelligent leader and the marital battleground. However, while each of these sections could probably justify a book in their own right, Goleman devotes most of the space to yet more stories and anecdotes, many of which seem to become rather familiar and repetitious. Overall it is a book that I enjoyed reading, but which I found too long given the points it was seeking to make. If you enjoyed Golemans Emotional Intelligence, I am sure you will enjoy this book just as much. However it is a book that I would only recommend to people who are particularly interested in the subject and who love anecdotes.