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The Whole-Self Hand-Dance or Balancing Introduction. This document explains the process for you to carry out, on completion of the Pre-Birth Analysis Matrix (P.A.M) , or Whole-Self Therapy. Before e continue ith this explanation, let me as! you if you ha"e e"er or!ed ith affirmations or positi"e thin!in# $ %f you ha"e , do you feel that they or!ed ell for you - all the time $ %f not let me as! you& When you experience life, do you 'ust experience life in your mental (ody (thou#ht) $ )es or *o $ When you experience life, do you 'ust experience life in your emotional (ody (feelin#s) $ )es or *o$ When you experience life, do you 'ust experience life in your physical (ody $ )es or *o $ When you experience life, do you 'ust experience life in your spiritual (ody $ )es or *o $ The ans er , of course is +*o+ to all four ,uestions. When you experience life, you experience life on all le"els , all at the same time. Since most affirmations are (asically mental exercises, they often do not achie"e all the positi"e effects hich you ould ish for. Another reason why affirmations often do not work as well as would be wished, is time. This is where studies in Behavioural Medicine can offer some assistance. These studies show that it requires twenty-one consecutive days to change a belief or a

behaviour. This is not my idea. Studies in Behavioural Medicine show that if the new attern or behaviour is encoded for twenty days and the last day is ski ed, the erson will sli back into the original attern. !ou will e" erience change in your reality atterns within a few days #ust because you are attuning yourself to a new , more roductive ways of thinking and becoming. $owever, to ensure a ermanent change you will need to make a commitment for a minimum of twenty-one days. %o not be discouraged. &ach time you start again you are strengthening yourself. To (e successful, your affirmations or positi"e thin!in# exercises must (e on all le"els, all at the same time. The follo in# , is a "ery easy and interestin# exercise hich allo s you to experience a total (alancin# and transmutation on all le"els all at the same time. Remember to experience maximum benefits, carr out the Hand-Dance ! Balancing for t"ent -one consecuti#e da s. The $rocess. -. Please ta!e a sheet of paper, and on it ma!e three columns startin# at the top of the pa#e and #oin# do n ard. .. /n the far left side of the pa#e, list all of the emotions and feelin#s hich ha"e (een identified durin# the session. *o some ords e call &nhancing ords (ecause they +lift+ the self. Where there is an enhancin# ord rite it a#ain on the same line in the centre column. /ther ords are called %iminishing ords (ecause they +lo er+ the self. Where there are diminishin# ords dra a line under each so that it stands out. Where there is a diminishin# ord, rite the farthest ( i.e. the most opposite) of that ord on the same line in the column on the ri#ht side of the pa#e.

Ho" to do it - %n &xample. /ur example ill (e the ord 'ear . 0irst e ta!e the most opposite ord, 1.#. (ourage, and rite these do n as detailed a(o"e. % then thin! a(out , and may e"en use a dictionary or Thesaurus to find a ord hich is half ay (et een 'ear and (ourage. 0or this example , % ill use self-confidence, and % rite do n this ord in the centre column. *ote& %n this model Thesis Anti-Thesis Synthesis. So no (y addin# in the line no loo!s li!e& Thesis Anti-Thesis Fear ord Self-3onfidence, the ori#inal sample Synthesis Self-Confidence Courage e title the three columns as2

*o % sit ,uietly ith my eyes closed, and thin! of the ord 0ear in my mind. % feel the ord 0ear emotionally. % may also express the ord 0ear ith a physical action (this can (e an in"oluntary action) such as contractin# the (ody. /nce % feel that % ha"e a #ood sense of the ord and emotion of 0ear, % no thin! of the ord 3oura#e. % thin! of the ord 3oura#e in my mind, % feel the ord 3oura#e emotionally. % may also express the ord 3oura#e ith a physical action, such as expandin# my chest and (rin#in# (ac! my shoulders. *o to acti"ate this process e"en more expressi"ely, sittin# in my chair, % ima#ine the idea of 0ear (elo me to my left or ri#ht (either side , it does not matter). With my open palm, % push

do n ard on 0ear. As % do % #et a sense of 0ear. Then % (rin# my hand up ard sli#htly to release my sense of 0ear. % do this se"eral times, each time % push do n on 0ear, % #et a stron#er sense of 0ear. *o , on the opposite side of my (ody, % ima#ine 3oura#e. % place it at arm4s len#th a(o"e my head and sli#htly out to the side. This places 3oura#e at an opposite extreme from my hand hich is pushin# do n on 0ear. % reach up for coura#e. As % do, % #et a sense of coura#e. Then , % (rin# my hand (ac! sli#htly to release my sense of 3oura#e. % do this se"eral times , and each time % reach up for 3oura#e, % #et a stron#er sense of 3oura#e. *o % alternate, my hands (et een 0ear and 3oura#e. As % push do n on 0ear and feel it , % release 3oura#e. When my other hand reaches for 3oura#e, % feel it. % release 0ear. % do this se"eral times sensin# t o extreme feelin#s. As my opposite hands and arms extend and contract, % am creatin# a !ind of +5and-6ance+ (as an /riental 6ancer does). The idea is to sense the extreme opposite feelin#s ith each mo"ement (extend and retract) of the opposite hands and arms.

% no thin! on the synthesis of the t o extremes, this is Self3onfidence2 % thin! Self-3onfidence in my mind. % feel the ord Self-3onfidence emotionally. % express the ord Self-3onfidence ith a physical action such as holdin# my (ody strai#ht (ut yet relaxed. % then anchor Self-3onfidence (y pressin# my clasped hands to my heart centre (sternum or (reast). *ot only am % anchorin# this ne thou#ht into my (ody, % am also recei"in# it into my heart. % repeat the 5and-6ancin# acti"ity for each of the my list. ords noted on

Hints. Before startin# the Whole-Self 5and-6ance 7 Balancin# exercise for the "ery first time, it can (e helpful to set aside a half hour or so ith a dictionary or thesaurus to explore and choose the ords that you ant to or! ith as accurately as possi(le. %t may also (e a #ood practice to carry out the 5and-6ance t ice a day. There are t o reasons, first if (y circumstance you miss your re#ular scheduled time, you ill ha"e a +(ac!-up+ time already as part of your commitment. 8ast (ut not least, you reinforce the intended chan#es and ne reality patterns. Some final ords from 9oethe to contemplate&

'ntil one is committed, there is hesitancy , the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. (oncerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary rule - the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and s lendid lans) that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then *rovidence moves too. All sorts of things occur to hel one that would never otherwise have occurred . A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one+s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. ,hatever you can do or dream you can begin it. Boldness has genius , ower, and magic in it. Begin it now.