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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself
Posted on September 3, 2013
I read this post this morning and loved it! I dont often share the work of others on the blog but this post
was definitely share-worthy. Creating a bucket list lifestyle encompasses treating yourself right and learning from
your mistakes. This post is a great reflection of those lessons.
Is there one of these that you do often? Are there several? Lets let the good things catch up.
Written by marcandangel
30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself
When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and
make a new ending. Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation
you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
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1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the
happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, theyll make room for you. You shouldnt have to
fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And
remember, its not the people that stand by your side when youre at your best, but the ones who stand
beside you when youre at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. Face them head on. No, it wont be easy. There is no person in the
world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We arent supposed to be able to instantly
solve problems. Thats not how were made. In fact, were made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.
Because thats the whole purpose of living to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of
time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you cant lie to yourself. Our lives
improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with
ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process
of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too.
If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone youre not. One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world
thats trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter,
someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Dont change so people will like you. Be yourself
and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. You cant start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your
last one.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more
productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading
towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things,
but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are
right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your
mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your
future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to
come.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that
really satisfy us are totally free love, laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. If youre not happy with who you are on the inside,
you wont be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your
own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11. Stop being idle. Dont think too much or youll create a problem that wasnt even there in the first place.
Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making
progress involves risk. Period! You cant make it to second base with your foot on first.
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12. Stop thinking youre not ready. Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because
most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we wont feel totally
comfortable at first.
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships must be chosen wisely. Its
better to be alone than to be in bad company. Theres no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will
happen in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when youre ready, not
when youre lonely.
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didnt work. In life youll realize that there is a
purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most
importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. Dont worry about what others are doing better than
you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF
only.
16. Stop being jealous of others. Jealousy is the art of counting someone elses blessings instead of your
own. Ask yourself this: Whats something I have that everyone wants?
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Lifes curveballs are thrown for a reason to shift your
path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens,
and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. Youll often see
that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know
that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18. Stop holding grudges. Dont live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more
than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, What you did to me is okay. It is saying, Im not
going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever. Forgiveness is the answer let go, find peace,
liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, its for you too. If you must, forgive
yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate
those who refuse to raise theirs.
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. Your friends dont need it and your enemies wont
believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. The time to take a deep breath is
when you dont have time for it. If you keep doing what youre doing, youll keep getting what youre getting.
Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look
back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments
you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
23. Stop trying to make things perfect. The real world doesnt reward perfectionists, it rewards people who
get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
24. Stop following the path of least resistance. Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving
something worthwhile. Dont take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isnt. Its okay to fall apart for a little while. You dont always have
to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldnt
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be concerned with what other people are thinking either cry if you need to its healthy to shed your tears.
The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on
the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what youre going through,
you deny responsibility you give others power over that part of your life.
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But
making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your
focus.
28. Stop worrying so much. Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way
to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: Will this matter in one years time?
Three years? Five years? If not, then its not worth worrying about.
29. Stop focusing on what you dont want to happen. Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive
thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that
something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, youll often find that youre
right.
30. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.
Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what youre missing, try
thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
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suzie81
on September 3, 2013 at 5:01 am said:
I thought this was fabulous
lesleycarter
on September 3, 2013 at 7:45 am said:
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Me too! It made my day better just because I read it.
4africaorphans
on November 21, 2013 at 8:46 am said:
To much to value in one reading. I plan to make each point a
days way to review the ones above it and find a way to apply
the new one, finishing the concept in thirty days. I think thatll
change my whole perspective about what the holiday season is
(or should be) all about.
onthewaytowealthy
on December 14, 2013 at 5:28 pm said:
Absolutely love this Im totally inspired! Thank you
Marvell
on November 25, 2013 at 9:56 pm said:
It is fabulous just the matter is how much you can follow it
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aurescu
on September 3, 2013 at 5:02 am said:
Thats an amazing article. I just like it. Theres so much truth within it.
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Jade Reyner
on September 3, 2013 at 5:02 am said:
Thank you so much, a really worthwhile share!
aurescu
on September 3, 2013 at 5:04 am said:
Reblogged this on Sindromul Media and commented:
Ive just found this article. You, my friend, have a lot to learn from here.
This will help you improve your personality, your ego and what youre
heading for.
Mud
on September 3, 2013 at 5:08 am said:
Something drew me back to my blog and the reader this morning and
now I see why. A great post! I could comment on all the points, but
stop being idle. hit me the most.gotta go now and live a little.
gridleyfires
on September 3, 2013 at 5:08 am said:
Great! Everyone should read and heed.
treyzguy
on September 3, 2013 at 5:15 am said:
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Then what will I do with the rest of my day? Loved it. Actually working
on most of that!
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on September 3, 2013 at 5:16 am said:
Good stuff thank for shaing!
Elle Knowles
on September 3, 2013 at 5:16 am said:
So much to think about and so very true! Shared on Facebook.
Sarina Gito
on September 3, 2013 at 5:19 am said:
so so very true !! thanks for sharing. definitely reblog worthy =)
Sarina Gito
on September 3, 2013 at 5:19 am said:
Reblogged this on My Blog and commented:
had to share this. so much truth in it =)
Sarina Gito
on September 3, 2013 at 5:20 am said:
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Reblogged this on .
wiredformusic
on September 3, 2013 at 5:25 am said:
Reblogged this on Wired For Music and commented:
Words to live by
lensandpensbysally
on September 3, 2013 at 5:27 am said:
Great set of incentives to see the positive.
Bob Aronson
on September 3, 2013 at 5:29 am said:
This is great. May I reblog?
dovelington
on September 3, 2013 at 5:40 am said:
Agreed
Wildflower Women
on September 3, 2013 at 5:40 am said:
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Good post and thank you because I can always grow and be more
positive and less judgmental of self and others and this is a good
reminder of the road to evolve.
Mishatsky
on September 3, 2013 at 5:43 am said:
Great post, thank you for sharing it! I believe that everything happens for
a reason, but sometimes its hard to stay on the right track. After
experiencing my first heartbreak ever well, I am down, but I am not
giving up on my dreams. Im about to start the new chapter and,
although everybody keeps telling me But well you know Its not
gonna be easy and you probably will fail this is what I want now. Maybe
I fail, maybe I dont, that will just be another step forward:)
lesleycarter
on September 3, 2013 at 5:52 am said:
What is your new chapter? I bet its not so unrealistic. Id love to
hear
Mishatsky
on September 3, 2013 at 9:38 am said:
It is totally realistic, its just not easy:) But things that are
too easy are just boring;) I am moving to Berlin to
prepare my portfolio and apply on Design Studies (after
three years of studying something completely different). I
guess the most important thing is I dont regret any of my
choices, everything that happens is what actually creates
me:)
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Rosie Baillie
on September 3, 2013 at 5:48 am said:
Thanks for reblogging this, love all of these points especially points 28
and 29 as Im a massive worrier.
imagesbytdashfield
on September 3, 2013 at 5:49 am said:
Fantastic and so on the mark!
jordantheheadcase
on September 3, 2013 at 5:50 am said:
Very good! Especially point number 30! Thanks for sharing.
sarahlaplante
on September 3, 2013 at 5:57 am said:
Reblogged this on Bee and Co. and commented:
What a list! Motivation and guidance to improving your life from within
yourself.
John
on September 3, 2013 at 5:59 am said:
Good solid stuff, but fairly basic. Best advice on the list? the part
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about reading The Road Less Traveled.
Ann "afriendforever54" Friend
on September 3, 2013 at 6:03 am said:
Reblogged this on afriendofJESUS2013Blog and commented:
Be blessed by 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself! Aint life grand
Ann "afriendforever54" Friend
on September 3, 2013 at 6:04 am said:
What a powerful post! Thank you! I reblog it! God bless you
Iam_JoeClark
on September 3, 2013 at 6:05 am said:
Thank you so much for this, it made my day. God Bless!
Michael Dooley
on September 3, 2013 at 6:06 am said:
You are your own advocate! I tell you what, this list is really well thought
out and incredibly insightful. Tell yourself these 30 things daily and you
should have the confidence of a true leader. Its amazing how many
outside influences there are these days to tear us away from our
dreams. I have always told others, OWN YOUR DEVELOPMENT!
-Michael Dooley
Leaderdevelopmentblog.com
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bluesage63
on September 3, 2013 at 6:07 am said:
wonderful advice, for anyone at any age, thank you!
claireyface
on September 3, 2013 at 6:10 am said:
Fantastic post! It was nice to read through and thinkoh, well, I dont
do thatand then realize that I do, and I should stop lying to myself!. I
just try to be happy, be nice, and be thankful!
PigLove
on September 3, 2013 at 6:17 am said:
These are spot on! Thank you so much for posting this. Im printing it for
mommy to read when she gets home from the worky place. XOXO
Bacon
Jon M
on September 3, 2013 at 6:19 am said:
Excellent post!!
Pamela Beckford
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on September 3, 2013 at 6:19 am said:
Reblogged this on Year 'Round Thanksgiving Project and commented:
Great list what can you stop doing?
kaseyskritterkeepers
on September 3, 2013 at 6:27 am said:
This is an awesome list! Thank you so much for sharing!
Lori
on September 3, 2013 at 6:27 am said:
Thank you so much for sharing this. I found my head bobbing assent
through the whole thing!
miraclecharlie
on September 3, 2013 at 6:35 am said:
Reblogged this on herewearegoing and commented:
Interesting things about which to think, indeed.
kmtcapecod
on September 3, 2013 at 6:39 am said:
A friend in their 50!s died suddenly yesterday. The news was
devastating. It doesnt make sense to any of us. What I do know is that I
am alive and well. I must remember that No matter how good or bad
you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone
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somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Thank you for sharing.
I am going to reblog at http://bellabargains.wordpress.com/
lesleycarter
on September 3, 2013 at 6:42 am said:
I was so inclined to share because I recently lost someone too. It
has taken its toll on me and this post was a reminder to be
thankful for my life. Im sorry to hear about the loss of your
friend; I hope you cherish the lasting memories youve created
together.
kmtcapecod
on September 3, 2013 at 7:02 am said:
Its never easy losing someone from death. When it
happens I truly believe I am one of the lucky ones. Lucky
that I was able to be in that persons life. Even luckier
knowing my memories will last a lifetime. Death and
sickness are constant reminders that sometimes when
we think we are having a bad it really isnt bad after all.
kmtcapecod
on September 3, 2013 at 7:03 am said:
I am also sorry to hear about your loss.
bluesage63
on September 3, 2013 at 6:55 am said:
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an excellent post, I just shared it on FB so worth reading ..thank you
buyahomeatl
on September 3, 2013 at 7:05 am said:
Loved your post. Thank you for the encouraging and truthful words. Had
to share on Facebook.
Heartafire
on September 3, 2013 at 7:08 am said:
excellent!
irishsignora
on September 3, 2013 at 7:16 am said:
Oh, good grief I think I need to tattoo that on the insides of my eyelids!
Thanks! Kelly
mysending
on September 3, 2013 at 7:22 am said:
Reblogging this one, too! Thank you for helping us get our priorities
straight!
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mysending
on September 3, 2013 at 7:23 am said:
Reblogged this on But Mostly Hers and commented:
Just right for before Rosh Hashanah!
Awkward Al
on September 3, 2013 at 7:31 am said:
Reblogged this on Monsters Of My Mind and commented:
Exactly what I tweeted about a few days back.
Its probably time to stop living for others but do what I enjoy doing.
stephanieschatzz
on September 3, 2013 at 7:33 am said:
Reblogged this on Following Stephanie.. and commented:
Had to share this. A great read and great advice. We are probably all
guilty of at least some of these things follow this lead and life will be
much more worthwhile
Jennifer
on September 3, 2013 at 7:34 am said:
I needed that!
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Tanveer Rauf
on September 3, 2013 at 7:36 am said:
Thank you for reminding all these very important points. God bless you
Let's CUT the Crap!
on September 3, 2013 at 7:38 am said:
This is as complete a list as I can think of. Fantastic compilation.
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