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Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah) is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta'leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa. He graduated as an Aalim from Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen in the year 1998. He thereafter decided to pursue the study of the science of Iftaa (issuing fataawa) under the tutorage of qualified scholars viz. Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah) (principal and head mufti of Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen, Isipingo Beach), Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Hafizahullah) (head of Darul Iftaa Mahmoodiyya) and Mufti Qaadhi Sayyid Abdul Jaleel (Hafizahullah). Mufti Saheb is also actively involved in the Ifta department as well as training students in the science of Iftaa (issuing Islamic rulings). This website was launched by Mufti Saheb primarily to impart the fataawa of his august Shaikh and respected ustadh Hadhrat Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah), as well as to answer the masaa’il and queries of the Ummah.
May Allah Ta’aala allow Mufti Zakaria Saheb to serve the Muslim Ummah for many more years and allow the entire ummah to benefit.
Taken from www.muftionline.co.za
Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah) is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta'leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa. He graduated as an Aalim from Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen in the year 1998. He thereafter decided to pursue the study of the science of Iftaa (issuing fataawa) under the tutorage of qualified scholars viz. Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah) (principal and head mufti of Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen, Isipingo Beach), Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Hafizahullah) (head of Darul Iftaa Mahmoodiyya) and Mufti Qaadhi Sayyid Abdul Jaleel (Hafizahullah). Mufti Saheb is also actively involved in the Ifta department as well as training students in the science of Iftaa (issuing Islamic rulings). This website was launched by Mufti Saheb primarily to impart the fataawa of his august Shaikh and respected ustadh Hadhrat Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah), as well as to answer the masaa’il and queries of the Ummah.
May Allah Ta’aala allow Mufti Zakaria Saheb to serve the Muslim Ummah for many more years and allow the entire ummah to benefit.
Taken from www.muftionline.co.za
Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah) is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta'leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa. He graduated as an Aalim from Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen in the year 1998. He thereafter decided to pursue the study of the science of Iftaa (issuing fataawa) under the tutorage of qualified scholars viz. Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah) (principal and head mufti of Darul Uloom Taleemuddeen, Isipingo Beach), Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Hafizahullah) (head of Darul Iftaa Mahmoodiyya) and Mufti Qaadhi Sayyid Abdul Jaleel (Hafizahullah). Mufti Saheb is also actively involved in the Ifta department as well as training students in the science of Iftaa (issuing Islamic rulings). This website was launched by Mufti Saheb primarily to impart the fataawa of his august Shaikh and respected ustadh Hadhrat Mufti Ebrahim Salajee (Hafizahullah), as well as to answer the masaa’il and queries of the Ummah.
May Allah Ta’aala allow Mufti Zakaria Saheb to serve the Muslim Ummah for many more years and allow the entire ummah to benefit.
Q: I am married and have kids. Throughout my marriage I had a lot of problems. I stayed because of my kids. The issues were mainly my husband going out with friends and returning home late at night and not showing us any attention. He spends a lot of his time watching porn and speaks freely to women. What must I do I only cry and feel helpless. I want to leave. What does !ufti advise me to do ": It is certainly sad to hear about the difficulties and hardships you are going through in your marriage. However as a believer# you need to ask the following two $uestions: %&' (Is there any hope for me in such a situation) %*'(If there is hope for me# then what does Islam command me to do at this crucial time What steps am I commanded to adopt in resolving the problem) The answer to the first $uestion is that there is always hope for a believer. "s long as one turns one+s heart towards "llah Ta+ala and improves one+s relationship with his,her creator# one is sure to find the divine help of "llah Ta+ala coming to one+s aid. "fter all# even the pious servants of "llah Ta+ala# the "mbiya# the -ahaabah and the "wliyaa faced great trials and tests from the side of "llah Ta+ala. .onsider the incident of Hazrat "asiya %/adiyallahu "nha'# the wife of 0iroun. "llah Ta+ala makes mention of her in the Holy Qur+an on account of her steadfastness in 1een. 1espite the tyranny of her husband 0iroun and all odds weighing heavily against her# she never gave up hope nor did she succumb to the fitna. Instead she remained steadfast upon Imaan and she fulfilled what "llah Ta+ala wanted from her till the end. Hence we see the honour and success that "llah Ta+ala granted her in the hereafter. The second $uestion is that how should you be conducting yourself in the face of such problems# and what steps are you commanded to adopt in resolving the problem The answer to this $uestion is that you should adhere to the following guidelines in order to resolve the problem. If you follow the following guidelines# we have hope that "llah Ta+ala2s divine help will come to you. &. 3ou should improve your relationship with "llah Ta+ala and lead a life of complete submission and obedience. If you adopt ta$wa throughout your life# follow the !ubaarak -unnah of /asulullah %-allallahu "layhi Wasallam' and refrain from all things that earn the displeasure of "llah Ta+ala# then the divine help of "llah Ta+ala will be with you. *. If you so desire that your husband be faithful to you and he does not betray you in your marital relationship# then you need to become faithful and loyal to "llah Ta+ala. 3ou will need to realise that if you are involved in sin and disobedience# then how can you e4pect the divine help of "llah Ta+ala to come to you and how can you e4pect "llah Ta+ala to turn the heart of your husband towards you 5. "fter your five daily -alaah you should turn to "llah Ta+ala and sincerely beg of Him to bless your husband with hidaayat. There is nothing beyond the power of "llah Ta+ala. The Hadith e4plains that the hearts of mankind are in the complete control of "llah Ta+ala. 6. 3ou should get to terms with realising that though your husband is not fulfilling his duties and responsibilities towards yourself and the children# however this does not warrant you to treat him in the same manner. If you continue to serve him with love# kindness and respect and fulfil his rights# perhaps you will win his heart and this will cause him to realise his wrongs and reform his ways. 7n the converse# if you lose yourself and act in an ignorant and irresponsible manner# this could only make matters worse and will not bring any solution to the problem. 8. 9enerally in an unstable home where the spouses neglect their marital responsibilities and obligations %or they are always fighting and $uarrelling with each other in the presence of the children'# this reflects badly on the children. The children are not given the correct type of upbringing and attention and are deprived on account of the parents+ marital problems. Hence the children grow up with a weak resolve and with little determination in life. "t times insecurity is perceivable in the child and at times the child loses hope and becomes a delin$uent in society. :. 3ou should bear in mind that though going through the present situation is difficult for you# however if you as a parent become more constructive and continue to fulfil your responsibilities towards your husband and children and you invest your time# effort and energies in giving them the correct direction in life# seeing to their Islamic upbringing and instilling Islamic values within them# then after a period of &8 to *; years# "llah Ta+ala will show you the fruits of your efforts and the success of your children. <. =ractise the following "+maal daily with your children: /ecite some portion of the Qur+an. .onduct ta+leem of 0azaa+il>e>-ada$aat# 0azaa+il>e>"+maal and ?ahishti @ewar for appro4imately &8 minutes in the mornings and evenings. 1o zikr of the kalimah# 1urood -hareef and istighfaar. !ake a collective du+aa at the end of each session# begging "llah TaAala for His special help# mercy and forgiveness for oneself and the rest of the ummah. If your husband does not want to participate in these "+maal# then do not force him. We make dua that "llah Ta+ala bless your husband with hidaayat and turn his heart towards you and the children.