Block Busting 492004

Higher Awareness Block Busting Online Course
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Block Busting

A spiritual approach to healing lifes deeper problems

Never fear shadows. They simply mean theres a light
shining somewhere nearby. Ruth E. Renkel

Become conscious of the unconscious programs that bring you pain
Identify and move through the deeper fears that hold you back
Attain new levels of self-acceptance, self-esteem and personal responsibility
Let go of resistance, anxiety, stress and worry
Master the process of breaking through blocks that limit your growth
Open to greater faith and trust that this is a loving universe
Find more meaning, purpose and joy in life

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Table of Contents

1. INTRODUCTION...................................................................................................................... 3
1.1 What are blocks and why do we have them?........................................................................ 3
1.2 The Aim of our Block Busting Course................................................................................. 4
1.3 Our Philosophical Foundation.............................................................................................. 5
1.4 A few last pointers before we start: ...................................................................................... 7
2. A PROCESS FOR SPIRITUAL HEALING.............................................................................. 8
2.1 Step 1: Define your problem build a foundation............................................................... 9
2.2 Step 2: Feel your experience go beyond the mind and defenses..................................... 12
2.3 Step 3: Explore deeper meaning - connect with the cause.................................................. 15
2.4 Step 4: Take full responsibility for your situation.............................................................. 18
2.5 Step 5: Learn the soul lesson - What is the higher meaning of your block?....................... 20
2.6 Step 6: Heal yourself - through acceptance, forgiveness and surrender............................. 21
2.7 Step 7: Take action - Anchor your new learning and serve................................................ 27
APPENDICES.............................................................................................................................. 30
Appendix 1 - 100 Blocks to Growth......................................................................................... 31
Appendix 2 - 200 Emotions and Feelings................................................................................. 32
Appendix 3 - 50 Defenses......................................................................................................... 34
Appendix 4 - 100 Victim Statements........................................................................................ 36
Appendix 5 - Values, Qualities and Virtues............................................................................. 40
Appendix 6 - Daily Practices for Spiritual Living.................................................................... 41
Appendix 7 - Tracking Sheet for Block Busting...................................................................... 43
Bibliography............................................................................................................................. 44


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1. INTRODUCTION

1.1 What are blocks and why do we have them?

To begin our look at blocks and why we have them, we'd like to ask an even bigger question:
"Who am I?" If we are to get beneath the superficial symptoms to heal the deepest wounds that
give rise to our life challenges, we need to address this question.

So, who am I? Well, we're all human beings. In this course, we relate to two different aspects of
our human natures:

1. We have two parts to our minds: a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. Much of our
behavior is governed by our subconscious minds according to our beliefs and habitual
patterning and reactions. Unfortunately, we are generally unconscious of the beliefs that most
strongly influence our lives. And they are the ones that sabotage the best intentions of the
conscious mind. Our need is to make conscious what is now unconscious so we can deal with
it appropriately.

2. We also have both a personality governed by our ego and a higher mind or soul. At Higher
Awareness, we understand "soul" to be a unique expression of the divine. We see it as the
spiritual/material bridge between our individual physical being and the almighty power or
God or however you comprehend God. As human beings, we all have some understanding of
our personalities. Most of us, though, have a limited awareness of our souls.

The wisdom of the ages suggests that our challenge as human beings is to become conscious of
what is now unconscious in us. Our life journey is to explore those parts of our nature that are
presently hidden from us so we may express ourselves more genuinely. We need to become
acquainted with our shadow side, the dark and unknown parts of our psyche that we have not yet
owned. We also need to meet and own the divine side of our nature. Our ultimate aim is to
embrace the opposing forces within us, the "bad" and the "good," and bring them together in
wholeness. This is transformation.

So what are blocks? In this online course, we approach block busting from a spiritual
perspective. Blocks are challenges. Operating in the mental, emotional and physical realms, they
block the natural flow of energy through our being, creating stress and pain. They indicate that
something within us is out of alignment with the true nature of who we are.

Blocks signal that we have unfinished business, or that past and distorted programming is
repeating itself. They reflect the character shadows that reside in our subconscious. All blocks
hide our true nature, our essence, from us. Our blocks are very related to our character--who we
are--and the evolution of that character as it becomes more soul-like.

Our personality, our ego, sees blocks as problems, obstacles, limitations, difficulties and hurdles.
From the personality's viewpoint, blocks limit our ability to enjoy life, to be the best we can be.


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We want to get rid of them as quickly as possible. They annoy, infuriate and depress us, and
generally make our lives miserable.

From the spiritual perspective, blocks offer our best and perhaps our only path to growth.
Paradoxically, we can only get to the positive through the negative. Like it or not, pain gets our
attention. Pain also challenges the ego's perception that it is in complete control of life. If we
want to be rid of the pain, we must do the work that leads us to greater consciousness.

So there are great blessings in blocks; there is a soul quality inherent in every one. Our troubles
come to us for good reasons--to invite us to connect with our souls and to make the unconscious,
conscious. And if we deny the pain and strive to avoid it, our problems will grow until our
suffering becomes so great we're forced to learn the lesson it brings.

Why are we here on Earth? Perhaps breaking through blocks is the purpose of life. Perhaps it is
the human journey to evolve to greater consciousness. To experience the gifts of a physical form
that feels a wide range of sensations, emotions, thoughts and feelings. To experience the
opposing pulls of our world of duality on our way to embracing the unity of all. To open to soul
lessons. To push through fear to discover our spiritual, loving essence.

"unless we consciously address the task of personal spirituality, we will
remain forever in flight, or denial, or think of ourselves as victims, sour and
mean-spirited to ourselves and others." -- J ames Hollis

1.2 The Aim of our Block Busting Course

Author Andrew Schneider says, "Everyone on this planet is increasingly
experiencing the impact of Spirit in their lives, leading to the development
of soul consciousness. When this first begins, the effect is always negative.
It will continue to create negative effects until people learn the needed
lessons."

We want to help you build a more accepting and meaningful relationship with your life. In
particular, we want to give you a framework for comprehending and working with the negatives
that arise so you may more easily learn their lessons and let them go. From our experience, an
understanding of soul consciousness provides a much needed and appreciated context for daily
living.

We want to support you in becoming more aware, more conscious of the blocks and fears that
hide your true essence. We also want to help you open to the spiritual forces that shape our lives.
With this, your life will have more meaning and purpose. You'll also claim your power to move
through obstacles to realize the rewards they bring.

As we achieve greater awareness, we have more and clearer choices. In every moment, we are
faced with two options. We may choose stagnation or change, fear or love, resistance or
surrender to divine will. The cosmos is perpetually growing. We can participate willingly in this
force or we can resist. But resistance always brings suffering.


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Many of us long to realize movement in our lives. Yet most problem-solving methods available
today do not produce deeper and lasting change. When we grasp the process of spiritual
awakening and healing, we can move through problems and learn lessons more quickly and with
less stress. While we are not always able to free ourselves from pain, we can at least give our
pain meaning. As we become more conscious, we let go of our struggles, open to our
authenticity and become able to truly serve the life we more deeply appreciate.

We can't tell you how to break through your blocks. But we can offer you a process that you can
work with to draw out your own experiences, your own insights and lessons and strategies. We
also offer you a choice of different tools for discovery. This is your journey and no one can
direct it for you if you are to reap its bounty.

"... we approach something akin to joy by giving our all to problems that
beset us, whatever their outcome." -- Marsha Sinetar

1.3 Our Philosophical Foundation

Beforewe review the process for block busting through spiritual awakening and healing, there
are some general principles that serve as a foundation for our work. Please keep these
cornerstones in mind always when doing your inner work.

Also, we have chosen to use the word "Spirit" when referring to the ultimate force in existence.
We perceive this as a neutral term, and trust that it does not offend anyone. If this name doesn't
satisfy you, please replace it with your own as you review our materials. We also use the word
soul often. As we said earlier, it is the bridge between Spirit and our personality. It is our
higher self, our loving and unified individualized connection with the divine.

Our healing must address all levels of our being. Although it may seem that our problem
is primarily a physical, mental or emotional issue, we need to consider its connection with all
parts of ourselves. True healing of the cause of our distress occurs only with integration of
body, mind and soul. When all three aspects of us work together, we achieve successful
growth. Reason, feeling and higher principles complement each other. Without cooperation
between the three, we experience self-sabotage. So any program of healing must involve
tools that serve each of our physical, emotional and mental dimensions, to bring us to greater
awareness of our wholeness. In this course, we do not offer many physical exercises. Please
make the effort to engage in activities like exercise, nature walks, massage, body work, reiki,
etc. to ground your energy and keep you relaxed as you do the inner work.

Our healing must engage our subconscious. Block busting is not easy because the root of
what needs to be changed is most often unconscious. Whatever our challenges are, they
reflect beliefs and programs in the subconscious that no longer serve us. Changing programs
in the subconscious requires that we work on those programs in at least 4 - 6 different ways.
If we can maintain the right intention and take a variety of steps that support it, we will create
enough mental tension to force a shift in the subconscious. Only then will we be successful in
achieving the change we desire.


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We must be willing to take full responsibility for our healing and our lives. Each of us is
the cause of whatever we think, feel and do. We cannot heal if we give away our power by
believing that other people and circumstances have control over our lives. We must
completely abandon any tendency to make excuses, to blame and to play the victim. Block
busting is inner work. If we have a problem outside, we must go inside to address it. If you
don't like what's happening now, then be accountable for choosing differently and for
changing your perspectives, your awareness and your life.

We need to accept the polarities of our lives. We live in a world of duality and the great
masters of the past have advised that we embrace it all. Healing comes not when we reject
the negative for the positive but when we integrate the two.

We work in the present with what's happening now. We learn from the past, and we can
be optimistic about the future, but we only capture power in the moment. Circumstances are
perfect right now to make changes. The new spirituality that's dawning requires us to
recognize the essence of Spirit in all things and all forms. Daily life--just as it is right now--is
our arena.

We are realistic about the change process. Often, we know what we need to do but the
challenge is to do it. We want miracles. We want the process to be smooth, easy, quick. But
there are no magic pills. Personal change requires self-honesty, courage, effort, time, support,
sacrifice and discipline. Success only comes when we do the work. Getting it all figured out
in our heads is not enough. True knowing only comes through experience.

We understand the role of time. Act now, but be patient. Change can take time or it can
happen in a moment. (Be clear, though, that if change happens in a flash, you've been
working up to it for some time, perhaps unconsciously.) Also be aware that we live life in
cycles. There are times of preparation, seeding, germination, growth, harvest and rest. Accept
the need to move through the different stages.

We understand transition. Whenever we change, we pass through a transition zone. This is
a time of discomfort, the in-between phase when the old patterns are dying away but new
ones are not yet in place. It can be scary because we feel the ground shifting beneath us. The
blessings of permanent change are worth temporarily suffering the stress of transition. It's
worth it to move to a new level of awareness, competence, maturity, satisfaction and inner
power.

At times, we need to surrender. While we accept our personal responsibility to make things
happen, there are also times when we must release our need to control. To admit that we do
not have the knowledge or power that's required for change. We need to open, accept,
forgive, and most of all, trust the higher forces at work in our lives. At times, we need to
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1.4 A few last pointers before we start:

The pot needs to stay on the stove for the water to boil. Eric Edelmann

Know that it has taken decades to get to where you are in your life at present. Throughout our
lives, we have built layer upon layer of defenses to protect ourselves from what we have
perceived as dangerous and threatening. We cannot remove this armor overnight--nor would
it be wise to do so. There are no magic bullets. We must engage in a continuous process of
peeling off layers of defenses. Once we learn the process, we can aim to peel off a layer or
two each time through.

You have done the best you could in your life to date with the awareness, character and
patterning you have had. Accept where you are now and be confident that your growing
awareness will enable you to move into a happier and more meaningful future, free from
some of the limiting programs and fears and wounds that have affected you. Know that all
has and is working according to a bigger plan.

It may seem like you are going around and around sometimes, but the process requires being
thorough. It requires that you really bring forward your conscious picture so you can more
easily unravel the deeper unconscious picture. It is our objective to help you bring more
clarity to your life challenges. You may have to seek other types of external support as well.

Block busting is not an easy fix. We recommend that you schedule at least hour per day to
do the exercises. Or you may want to protect one or two whole days in a mini-retreat at your
home or somewhere quiet to allow yourself to go through our process.

Please do not read ahead in the workbook. Proceed through it one step at a time.

Do you have a journal? If not, get a 3 ring binder or a scribbler to hold your working notes as
you explore moving through your block. Writing things down can quadruple your results.
Even if you already have a journal, you might want to create a book that deals specifically
with block busting so that all of your notes will be in one place. It's also great to have a
written record of how your consciousness shifts.

Use what works for you! We're all different. Take the information you are given and explore,
experiment, test it out with your own experience. Claim your inner authority. Trust your
inner knowing. This is your journey. The basic key is awareness. As you increasingly learn
to be present to what is happening around and within you, you will get the feedback you need
to move forward in your life.

This online course is designed to help basically healthy people become more aware of what
troubles them, gain meaning from their experiences and release their blocks for greater
freedom and contentment. This course is NOT intended for those struggling with serious
mental or physical illness. It cannot take the place of fully qualified professional help.

Enjoy the journey!


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2. A PROCESS FOR SPIRITUAL HEALING

The Fundamental Steps

Let's get a bird's eye view of the spiritual energies at work in our lives, and the stages we move
through to attain soul consciousness.

1. Unconscious love: When we are born, we exist as pure love but we are unconscious of our
love.
2. Unconscious fear: As we grow, our souls set the stage for our evolution. Unconscious fears
arise that draw experiences to us that wound us.
3. Conscious fear: The pain and suffering we experience as a result of our wounds lead us to
become conscious of our fears.
4. Conscious love: When we've suffered enough pain, and we long to experience its opposite,
we commit to change. We move through our fears to consciously experience the love that
supports all.

Our Spiritual Healing Process:

In this course, we will first help you build a broad foundation of understanding what challenges
you. To do this, we will invite you to explore your personality, weaknesses, problems and goals
and how they may interconnect. This will help you define the primary challenge you want to
address at this time.

Once you have a foundation, we will then show you how you can start to uncover unconscious
causes of what's bothering you. You will deepen your understanding and feelings of the
situation. With intention, persistence and openness, you will be able to penetrate the block and
touch and anchor within you the soul quality that awaits you on the other side.

If the approach in this course seems overpowering or scary to you, we recommend you first take
one of our other workbooks like Own Your Life or J ournaling. They will more gently set the
stage for your first ventures into self-exploration.

Here are the 7 steps in our process:

1. Define your problem build a foundation
2. Feel your experience go beyond the mind and defenses
3. Explore deeper meaning connect with the cause
4. Take full responsibility for your situation be accountable!
5. Learn the soul lesson what is the higher meaning and essence?
6. Heal yourself through acceptance, forgiveness and surrender
7. Take action anchor the new learning and serve


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2.1 Step 1: Define your problem build a foundation

We are going to ask you to spend a fair amount of time defining the situation, the problem, the
shadow, your life challenge. We are doing this for a few reasons:

1. Most people do not have clarity around their challenges.
2. Our own defense mechanisms can keep us unaware of our challenges.
3. We rarely go deep enough into our feelings to clearly identify the underlying problem.
4. As we look at a challenge, we find others that are connected to it and our understanding
of our situation improves.
5. We are going to ask you to put time and effort into busting this block so we want you to
be focusing on what's most important to you.
6. The solution and the soul energy that wants to be expressed is directly linked to the
problem. The more clearly we can define our problem, the more likely it is we will
experience the changes we are seeking.

Exercise 1-1: Commit to make the time and take the time

To fully define your blocks and put them in perspective is not a simple task. You may very well
have to explore this in stages and it could easily be a life-long project. Take as much time as
necessary to dig deeply into your experience and build a foundation for change. Mark on your
planner or calendar the hours or weekends you are going to commit to change your life. Use a
highlighter. Make it your highest priority as it will give you high returns.

Exercise 1-2: Identifying blocks

Answer the Smart Questions below on one sheet of paper. Create 3 equally spaced columns and
3 equally spaced rows on the one sheet. Number each box and answer one question in each box.

Work through this exercise quickly. This is an information gathering process. J ust put down the
key word or short version of the answers that come to you. You don't need to go into deep
analysis. Trust that what needs to be addressed will come through. If you get stuck on a question,
move on to the next. You are after quantity of blocks, not quality that comes later.

1. What blocks, problems, weaknesses and life challenges do you have?
2. What are your pet peeves? What pushes your buttons?
3. What really gets you stressed, upset and angry?
4. What is not working for you in your life?
5. What or who do you dislike or hate? Why?
6. What are you afraid of?
7. What do you feel down or sad or depressed about?
8. What is the worst thing that has ever happened to you in your life?
9. How do you feel your parents could have done better in raising you?


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As you consider your answers, please be open to the fact that what you see in others is really in
you. For example, if you get upset when someone is greedy, consider that greed is an
unconscious program within yourself. Especially look at how your partner, family and children
irritate and upset you. These incidents signal that YOU have issues to address.

Review your answers and circle the top 3 or 5 challenges you would like to heal. Write them
down on a new page.

Exercise 1-3: Recognizing more blocks

Often we are so close to our problems that we have difficulty identifying them. Also, we do not
have the vocabulary to really distinguish them. We can, however, recognize our problems when
we see them. In this exercise, we invite you to scan a list of blocks and a list of emotions in
Appendix 1 and 2.

Review the words quickly, without really thinking about each one. Allow your intuition to signal
which words may be an issue for you. Mark any words that catch your attention. When you've
completed the lists, carefully review the words you marked. Do they bring any insights? For
example, my attention was caught by the word "compromise." After thinking about it for a while,
I realized just how much I have compromised what matters to me. I saw that one of my blocks is
fear of authority. If any of these words spark awareness of new issues for you, add the issues to
your list of blocks.

Now go scan the list of blocks and emotions in Appendix 1 and 2.

Review your list of blocks and challenges from exercises 1-2 and 1-3 carefully and consider the
following:

Are some of your blocks connected to each other?
Can you group them according to a common theme?
Can you identify a root problem or fear that may be the source of a number of your blocks?

Study your list and redefine your blocks if necessary to clarify the areas you most want to focus
on and grow through at this time. Identify the top 3 issues you would like to address. Write a few
sentences about each of them.

Exercise 1-4: Watch for your defense mechanisms

In doing the above exercises, you may have identified some of your defense mechanisms as
blocks. They may come up to shield you from feeling the pain of your block. Part of your
personality may be actively resisting your decision to heal because the act of healing will take
you out of your comfort zone and into unknown territory.

You may find yourself saying something like I don't have to do this. These are stupid questions!
It's not my fault--it's my partner's/parent's/child's/boss's. Why waste my time? Why bother? It's


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not going to help anyway. My situation's hopeless. Your defenses will lead you to deny or avoid
the task of looking honestly at your problem.

If you find you are getting anxious, fearful, angry, frustrated, dismissive or unmotivated, then
take a few deep breaths and center your awareness in your body. When you are feeling grounded
and unemotional, make a list of the ways you may be trying to avoid addressing this task. In your
journal write out a list of My Defense Mechanisms. Do this before you read on.

Again our process is to have you do your own thinking and then we will show you a checklist so
you can see if there are other defenses you have missed. Check out our list of 50 Defense
Mechanisms in Appendix 3 and pick the ones you use to insulate yourself from going deeper into
your feelings. Once you are aware of defense mechanisms in action, you can consciously push
through them.

Now prioritize your defense mechanisms and for each ask this question and write down your
answers. What is this defense mechanism protecting me from? Answer this question for each
defense mechanism. We tend to protect and justify our own limitations too easily and
automatically. So if you have even the slightest sense that there is some truth to a new block,
write it down. Add your newfound blocks to your list.

Exercise 1-5: Going deeper Why? Why? Why?

This exercise requires some quality time and silence. Its purpose is to help you understand the
underlying causes of your challenges. Go through each of your top 3 blocks one at a time and ask
the following question: Why am I .? Listen closely for the answer that surfaces in your
mind. Write the new challenge or insight that comes up, and again ask yourself Why am I
.(new challenge)? Continue with this process until you believe you have reached the true
source of your problem.

The WHY question probes more deeply into our psyche. Here is an example around shyness.
Why am I shy? Because I am afraid. Why am I afraid? Because I might say something foolish.
Why am I afraid of saying something foolish? People will think I am stupid or ignorant. Why am
I afraid of looking stupid? They will not like me or love me. I now see how my fear of not being
loved creates my need for perfection and the shyness.

*** As a result of working through your top 3 blocks, identify the one block you most want to
work on at this time for the remaining exercises. Re-write a description of this one block, if
necessary, to clarify your focus. ***

Exercise 1-6: My motivators

With respect to the challenge you described as your highest priority for attention, ask yourself
the following questions and write down your answers:

1. What do you want less of?
2. What do you want more of?


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3. How would releasing this block make you feel?
4. What would you be, do and have if this block were gone?
5. Why do you want to change?
6. What would be different in your life if you released this block?
7. How will you know you have shifted?

From these answers, summarize your top 3 motivators--the top benefits--for releasing this block.

Exercise 1-7: Check-in

This is a check-in. Rate each question below on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being low and 10 high.

1. How satisfied are you that you have clearly defined the block you have chosen to work on? If
you answered less than 7, go back and work through the exercises again until you feel
confident that your focus is set. It's quite normal to be unsure on your first time through. J ust
redo the exercises and clarity will come. Once again, we encourage you to go as deeply as
you can in identifying your block. Maybe take a break for a few days and let it percolate and
integrate.

2. How motivated are you to clear this block and change your life?

3. How committed are you to spend 15 to 30 minutes per day or 3 to 4 hours once per week to
work on change?

If you aren't willing to commit time and effort to this process and your motivation is low, then
don't waste your time. Abandon it now.

2.2 Step 2: Feel your experience go beyond the mind and defenses

The next few exercises are very important. We are inviting you to truly experience your feelings
concerning your block. Although you may have struggled with this block for years or decades, it
may be the first time you truly connect with your emotions and feelings around it. Most of us
either live so much in our heads that we intellectualize our emotions or we live in our reactive
emotions that are part of our defense systems. Our defense mechanisms can be so strong and
entrenched that we rarely allow ourselves to really feel the source of our distress. For example,
we may feel the agony of depression or frustration without connecting to the source feelings of
hurt or anger. We are often afraid to feel, but if we allow ourselves to do so, we discover the
pathway to freedom.

Exercise 2-1: Feel your distress

Please read all of the instructions before you start the exercise so you will achieve the most
benefit from it.


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Be sure you have at least 20 minutes in a quiet spot where you won't be interrupted. Sitting
comfortably erect, begin to breathe deeply allowing your abdomen to expand with each
inhalation. Feel yourself relax and release tension with each out-breath. Exhale twice as long as
you inhale but don't force your breathing. Be aware of the spaces at the end of the exhalation and
inhalation. J ust focus your mind on your breathing, on relaxing and on letting go of tension.

When you feel relaxed, bring to mind a situation that represents being in your block. Let your
imagination make this experience real for you. Your task is to simply feel this experience in your
body. Stay with it instead of fleeing from it or fighting it or distracting yourself from it. The
following points are very important:

Get out of your head and into your body sensations. If you find yourself thinking or
analyzing, gently release your thoughts and move your attention down into your body.
Connect once again with your breathing.
You must completely banish your judge, your internal critic.
Do not reject, justify or condemn your thoughts or feelings.
Accept whatever feelings come up as your own reality. Everything is okay.
Accept yourself totally. You are okay just as you are.
Give yourself permission to feel and just be with the experience.
Allow the feelings to speak to you.
Honor the experience as an inner authentic communication of who you are.

If you feel like crying, then cry. If you feel like screaming, then scream. Clench your fists and
get angry if you need to. Allow your feelings to express themselves fully--providing you do not
endanger yourself or others. Don't judge yourself. Stay with your feelings by breathing into
them. Imagine that with every breath you are washing away any resistance to feeling more
deeply.

The purpose of this exercise is to invite you to explore and experience your emotions and
feelings, so we want your attention to be focused predominantly in your body. At the same time,
as you immerse yourself in sensations, a part of you will be watching the experience. This is not
your critic! This is an objective observer. Ask your watcher to note what it is that you are feeling.
It may be anger, sadness, jealousy, whatever--remember, no judgments! J ust have your watcher
note the experience. Do your feelings shift as you experience them? For example, what may start
out as anger may subtly shift into anxiety, fear, hurt or sadness. Don't get into mental analysis
here, but allow the watcher in you to be aware if you move to different levels of experience.

You will find that when you allow an experience to be fully felt, the feelings will then dissolve.
They simply need to be recognized and honored and then they will release. As you keep attention
on the tension, the tension melts and shows a deeper and more meaningful energy.
Understanding usually comes from simply being present.

So allow your feelings to be, without judgment. See them as your teacher. Know that you are
safe, that your soul is supervising this process. Go deeper into your pain. There is gold in your
shadow. Go through it. Learn to feel and honor your feelings at all times, though you may need
to exercise some judgment over when and how you express them.


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Again, be aware of defense mechanisms that stop you from fully feeling the pain of your
experience. When defenses are operating, they only allow the unconscious thought or feeling to
be expressed indirectly in a disguised form. And when defenses are operating, we have no
opportunity to recognize and release our true, deeper feelings.

When you have completed this exercise, write down your experience. It may take a few times to
hold the emotions and to be with them.

Exercise 2-2: Becoming aware of emotional distinctions

The aim of this next exercise is to bring greater awareness to your experience of your emotions
and feelings. The process will follow the exercise above, but from a different perspective.

First, study closely the pairs of qualities listed below. The first quality keeps you locked in your
block. The second opens the doorway to healing. There are a number of ways you can do this
exercise. One option is to take one of the pairs into your mind, then close your eyes and imagine
and experience the distress of your block. Gently become aware of which quality of the pair is
present. Bring your awareness to the second perspective. Repeat this process with the other pairs.

A second option is to get an overall sense of the qualities represented by the different pairs, and
bring that awareness to your experience of your distress. Or you can pick just a few of the pairs
and experience them one by one. If you find yourself experiencing the resistance represented by
the qualities on the left, can you imagine yourself feeling the release and openness represented
by those on the right? Can you shift your experience by shifting your perspective?
attachment, detachment
reaction, watchfulness
resistance, flow
rejection, acceptance
head, heart
victim mentality, responsibility
judgment, tolerance
push from it, embrace it
avoidance, endurance
fight it, surrender to it
superficial approach, go deeper into it
insecurity, security
express it, let it be
be the effects, see the cause
project it, own it
fear, love

The qualities that keep us blocked are qualities of the personality, the ego. The ones that release
us are aspects of our soul. When we give our full attention to our feelings, our body wisdom will
lead us to an understanding of what lies at the root of our pain. At the end of our journey through


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our feelings, we will uncover a deeper wound or event. The blessing is that we will now be
consciously aware of what the problem is. We can't solve a problem we haven't identified. We
can begin to solve something we now consciously understand.

With awareness and with acceptance of the reality of our situation, we can choose to change if
we wish. Awareness also allows us to open to the deeper loving soul energy that is trying to
come through. Our experience will shift from resistance and fear to more of awareness and
compassion.

After you have completed this exercise, write about your experiences in your journal. You may
also feel like drawing or painting representations of your feelings or memories that surfaced for
you.

Once again, you may have to do this process a few times to develop your new awareness and
sensitivity.

2.3 Step 3: Explore deeper meaning - connect with the cause

We trust that your work so far has given you some insights into the deeper nature of your block.
Now that you've honored and experienced your feelings, we invite you to bring your mind
actively back into the picture. In fact, in the next few exercises, you're going to use your
conscious mind to plumb the depths of your subconscious mind, to get more insights into the
deeper problems that plague you.

Exercise 3-1: Stream of Consciousness

J ulia Cameron in The Artists Way highly recommends the Stream of Consciousness journaling
tool. She calls it Morning Pages. Stream of Consciousness lets us do a mind dump. Getting
thoughts onto paper is like a release, like emptying our heads. It slows down the repetitive worry
routines in our minds. Once we have let out the chatter and predominant thinking and worries,
we get to see what is underneath. The subconscious mind sends up new thoughts, ideas, symbols
and messages. With the previous exercises, we have taken the lid off of the emotions and we
have stirred the pot. Now you have a tool to examine your emotions more deeply and possibly
make sense of them.

Call to mind your block and your experiences with the preceding steps. Using the Stream of
Consciousness tool, write whatever comes to mind around your experiences. "I hear, I
remember, I see." The important thing is to keep writing. If you blank out on thoughts
around your block, write down any other thoughts that come in. "Is the stove on? This is a stupid
exercise. I hope I am doing it right. What if I do not have a thought? My desk sure is messy.
You may even write and re-write a question focusing on your block until new information comes
through. Repetition is okay. It also helps to write more quickly than you normally do. After a
while you may find yourself asking questions and answering them. Whatever happens, just keep
writing! *** Whatever comes to mind, quickly write it down, even if you cannot make sense
of it. ***


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Once you complete a good 10-minute dump of your mind, review it. What do you notice about
your thoughts and self-talk? What common themes have surfaced? Any insights? Any surprises?
Did you get more deeply into your emotions? Make a few more notes in your journal. This may
bring up more topics for journaling. Write these new topics in your journal for future sessions.

Exercise 3-2: Journaling Dialogue

This is one of the most popular and powerful journaling tools. In a J ournaling Dialogue, you
carry on a conversation, making up both parts. Your dialogue partner can be any of the following
a person (living or dead), a family member, a problem, a body part, a thing (e.g. a car), an
event or incident, your soul or God anything. There may be an individual or an event that plays
a key role in your specific challenge, or you may choose to have your conscious mind engage
with your higher mind. Or you may talk directly with your challenge and ask it any questions
you want. The choice of a dialogue partner is yours.

Alternatively, you might invite your higher mind to pick your dialogue partner for you. If you
want to explore this, do a short entrance meditation before you start to journal. Relax and see
yourself walking up a beautiful path in nature. Take your time and connect with the beauty of
your surroundings. Then see your dialogue partner come towards you along the path. Trust that it
is the right partner. It may not be who or what you expect. Greet your partner and ask a question
and then, when you are ready, write out the conversation.

First write ME: and write your question for your dialogue partner. Then write down the name
of who or what you are conversing with and his/her/its response. Then ask another question. You
make up the response. You do both parts of the dialogue. Your partner can also ask you
questions. Trust the process. Use your imagination. Make it up.

As you get into the dialogue, ask questions like: Is there anything else? Is this the truth? Is
there more you can tell me, so I have full understanding? What is the meaning of this
situation? Why did this happen? What should I do next?

This is a good exercise to do for 10 to 30 minutes. When you have completed, read over the
dialogue and write a short summary.


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Exercise 3-3: Own and accept the underlying fear.

"If pain is to be meaningful it must serve some greater purpose. That
purpose is the liberation of the soul from the armor of self-protection that
is created out of fear." -- Andrew Schneider

You have probably discovered that the root of your block lies in a fear of some kind. This should
not surprise us. If we believe that we are a soul on a human journey, our aim will be to
experience/return to the unity underlying this world of duality. Love is the energy of attraction,
of unity, while its opposite--fear--is the energy of separation. With every wounding, with every
block, there is a fear.

Some fears lie at the root of all other fears:
1. Fear of death
2. Fear of pain
3. Fear of lack/loss (not enough, diminishment, decline)
4. Fear of separation (abandonment, rejection, isolation, loneliness, being unloved)
5. Fear of valuelessness (being ignorant, incapable, useless)
6. Fear of meaninglessness

Daphne Rose Kingma, in her book The Nine Types of Lovers, has identified the following deep
emotional wounds and the ways used by people to cope with those wounds:

Emotional Wound Coping Response
Profound lack of love need to do something to attain it or be worthy of it
Living in emotional chaos conscious or unconscious fears
Sorrow denial of emotions
Profound betrayal in love lack of trust (e.g. skeptic)
Abandonment keep moving to avoid feeling (e.g. workaholic)
Profound lack of safety become hyper-responsible (e.g. perfectionist)
Deception fantasizing
Undermined power controlling, aggression or passive-aggression
Deep sense of unworthiness acting to get approval and validation from others

Do any of the above fears or wounds speak strongly to you? Fear has been defined as False
Evidence Appearing Real. Our fears arise from belief systems in our subconscious that are out of
alignment with the truth. Our need is to discover the false beliefs that are bringing us suffering
and replace them with the truth.

J ournal on the following Smart Questions.
What fears do you relate to your block? Write about them.
How do you relate to the coping responses listed above for that fear or wound?
What beliefs and attitudes are operating that are giving rise to your fear(s)?


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Other tools you are encouraged to use:

Discussions with a counselor or trusted partner or friend.
Discussions with family members and friends about connections with your past.
Watch closely and record your dreams. Many new and vivid dreams are signs you are
stirring the unconscious mind.
Read books that focus on your particular challenge (e.g. anger, low self esteem,
depression, control, perfectionism), noting information that catches your attention.
J ournal on topics that seem relevant to you. If the books offer exercises, commit to doing
them--not just reading them--because they will be invaluable in helping you to reach new
levels of experience.
Use divination tools (e.g. pendulum, sacred cards, Transformation Game) for guidance.
Take care that your questions and/or intentions in using the tools are clear, unbiased and
well focused.

2.4 Step 4: Take full responsibility for your situation

Our very first step in block busting must be to acknowledge that our block exists and that it is
ours. We cannot hope to get free of a block or problem if we refuse to face it and take
responsibility for it. You will only succeed at block busting if you are accountable for your life
exactly as it is. Whatever the problem may be in your life, it is your own creation.

Taking responsibility means refusing to see yourself as a victim. Refuse to blame other people or
circumstances for your situation. Remember: our worlds mirror our beliefs back to us. Each of us
projects our unconscious fears, wounding and life challenges onto other people and things. If you
get angry at something outside of you, look inside for the source. Stay grounded. Stay aware.
Stay detached. Stay accountable. If you have problems with something on the outside, they are
YOUR problems, and you are the one who needs to resolve them.

Be willing to accept others as they are. They are doing the best they can. So release all
resentment. You need to know that you created who you are today by your past actions and
thoughts and feelings, and with that knowledge, claim your power.

Taking responsibility for your situation means that you are willing to do something about it.
Victims are passive, expecting something or someone outside of them to wield the power and
bring about change. With self-responsibility, you claim your own power through the choices you
make. You recognize that if you want something done, you have to set the wheels in motion.
Your approach is action-oriented; you actively seek solutions to your problems.

Exercise 4-1: How do you see yourself as a victim?

Where are you not taking responsibility in your life? Make a list of people or things you blame:
government, taxes, health, your boss, your company, parents, children, money, sex, pollution,
weather, accidents, dishonesty, disrespect, violence, nature, your looks, age, I.Q., schooling,
body shape, culture, skin color, sex, size of your nose, etc. Make a complete list.


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Now review your list and know that these are all energy leaks. This is where you give away your
power. Resolve to reclaim your power now. Consider that everything is okay just as it is. There
are no accidents. Accepting this will make a major difference in your life.

Exercise 4-2: Exploring victim positions from lists

Need help in recognizing when you are playing the victim? See our resource list of Victim
Statements in Appendix 4. Quickly scan the list and mark those that reflect your thinking.

Now go through your two victim lists. Do you see any common themes? What beliefs lie below
this behavior? Write about them in your journal. Now ACCEPT each situation face the reality
of what's happening in your life without judgment. Write a statement about each situation.

Exercise 4-3: Responsibility creed

Whenever you become aware of yourself thinking or talking like a victim, STOP and say, "I am
responsible for all aspects of my life." Better yet, create your own creed of responsibility. (The
personal coach emails contain a sample creed.) Affirm it to yourself whenever you find that
you've slipped into a victim mentality. Once you've completed your creed, share it with others
you trust. Email or mail it to others, or even better, read it to others. It's powerful to vocalize
your intentions. Make your stand. Hold your own power. Type your creed on a nice piece of
paper in a large font so it fills the page. Put it in plastic and put a few around the house. Be proud
of the new you.

Exercise 4-4: Sentence completion exercise on responsibility

In The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Branden offers wonderful sentence completion
exercises on self-responsibility. We have included some examples below. Every morning and
evening for the next five days, complete the following sentences in writing.

At the thought of being responsible for my own existence
If I accepted responsibility for my own existence, that would mean
When I avoid responsibility for my own existence
I make myself helpless when I
If my life belongs to me
If no one is coming to rescue me

Once you have completed the above sentences twice daily for five days, write 10 responses to
the summary statement, "If any of what I have written is true, it would be helpful if I ."

Exercise 4-5: Appreciation list

Still having a problem fully owning yourself and your situations in life? Here is a great way to
boost your sense of self-worth and inner power. Create a list of 25 things you like about yourself.
Do not stop writing until you have 25 things. Also ask a few people you know well to create lists


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of what they like and respect about you. Own the information on those lists. Whenever you feel
helpless and incompetent, pull out your list and focus on your strengths.

Exercise 4-6: Responsibility Smart Questions

Are you willing to let go of your drama?

"People never awaken until they tire of their drama." -- J ames Thornton

Do you really want to change? Some people are very attached to their suffering. It gives their life
meaning. And there's no need for us to judge this.

If you're not ready to let go of your personal drama--and that's okay--then admit this to yourself.
Recognize your love of your drama and enjoy it. But don't pretend that you want to resolve your
challenges. If you see yourself here, don't bother doing any more of the workbook because you
won't achieve any results. Own your decision to stay stuck--at least for the time being.

Answer these Smart Questions in your journal:

How is your identity tied into your suffering?
How do your suffering and defenses get you the attention and benefits you crave?
What or who could stop you from succeeding?
What are you willing to do to transform your block? How far will you go?

2.5 Step 5: Learn the soul lesson - What is the higher meaning of your block?

"It is the degree of contact with universality that releases us from
suffering. Universality is always some aspect of unity, beauty, truth or
goodness." -- Andrew Schneider

In this step, we want to discover how the block/wound serves us as a key to our growth. When
we can find meaning and purpose in a painful experience, it enables us to shift our perspective of
the experience and to open to and accept the gift of the challenge. Meaning is always related to
something greater.

J oyce Irvine, a gifted teacher and counselor, always taught that there is a blessing and a curse in
every situation. When we come to know the truth of this, it helps us accept life as it is, and to
stop labeling things "good" and "bad." When our minds let go of analyzing every situation, we
are more able to open to the beauty and spaciousness of the present moment. We can experience
the steady flow of the life force without getting bounced around in the turmoil brought on by
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Exercise 5-1: Identify the gold behind the shadow

Make a list of at least 7 qualities, virtues and values that you can experience as a result of
working through your block. What are your lessons? What are you to learn? Do not stop
until you have 7.
Now scan the list of 100 Values or Soul Qualities in Appendix 5, and note any that relate to
your block that were not on your original list. Add them to your list.
Examine the qualities closely and pick the ones you consider to be the most universal, loving
and spiritual.
Now pick your top three and prioritize them.
Look at the top quality you have identified. Do you think your soul may have brought this
block to you to invite you to learn more about this quality? How is it doing this? Write about
this in your journal.

Exercise 5-2: Soul energy Smart Questions

Answer these Smart Questions in your journal:

Why are the top soul qualities you have selected important to you?
How are you being asked to open your heart and mind in a new way?
Soul values can be grouped into three areas a trinity of love, will (power) and intelligence.
Does your block (and your lesson arising from it) relate to one or two of these areas? J ournal
on your insights.

2.6 Step 6: Heal yourself - through acceptance, forgiveness and surrender

Healing through acceptance:

"When we fight a block it grows stronger. When we acknowledge, experience, and
accept it, it begins to melt because its continued existence requires opposition."
-- Nathaniel Branden

And so, to break through your block, to heal, you must accept your situation. You must also
accept yourself in that situation. As Branden says, resistance just makes the block grow stronger.

In his book, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem, Nathaniel Branden clearly explains what is meant by
acceptance. Basically, it means we are willing to face and experience the reality of who we are
and of what's happening in our lives without self-judgment and guilt. He says, "It is our
willingness to experience rather than to disown whatever may be the facts of our being at a
particular moment--to think our thoughts, own our feelings, be present to the reality of our
behavior."

Please understand: acceptance does not mean that you necessarily like or approve of or
condone whatever the reality may be for you. It does mean that you acknowledge at a feeling


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level where you are now. You are then in a position to change that reality if you so choose. If
you deny the existence of a problem, you will never be able to change it. And Branden notes that
you must do more than think about your reality--you need to actively experience it.

We all have releasing to do, around parents, addictions, conflict, bankruptcy, divorce, death--
whatever. Let go of some of these chains that are holding you back.

Exercise 6-1: Accept your emotions

Build greater self-acceptance by being willing to fully experience emotions that you typically
seek to avoid, like anger, embarrassment, fear and insecurity. When emotions surface, give
yourself the space to really feel the experience. Allow the feeling to be there, and let go of
resistance by breathing into it. Affirm to yourself, "I am now feeling (the emotion) and I accept it
fully."

Make a list of emotions, fears, defences and events you have identified from the above exercises.
After each item write an acceptance statement in your own words.

Exercise 6-2: Shifting perspectives

Changing our perspective can totally shift our experience of pain in our lives. We can stand back
and be more objective, more detached from the pain and the memory. We can put meaning and
love and humour into the situation. We can feel better about who we are. You can stay stuck in a
memory or you can pull yourself free and watch your life rise to a new level.

In this exercise, you are going to consider your block from four different perspectives. This
exercise is very effective if you do it verbally with a trusted friend and have them write notes for
you as you talk. Alternatively, you can simply write the exercise in your journal. Do only one
exercise before reading the next. To begin, bring to mind a specific event that represents for you
the challenge or block in your life.

1. Describe (in writing or verbally) your personal experience of the details and the emotions
and pain of the event. Revisit the situation in depth from your perspective. Feel again the
emotions you felt at the time.
2. Now retell or rewrite the situation from the perspective of a neutral observer, another
person who was watching everything unfold. Write down only the facts of the event as a
reporter might have done.
3. Next, consider the situation from the perspective of God. What is the divine view? What
spiritual lessons were the participants being invited to learn? What spiritual qualities were
present?
4. Lastly, create a sit-com around this event. Put humour around it. Create a story you can
stand back and laugh at.

Once you have completed the four different perspectives, write a summary of your experience,
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Exercise 6-3: Clearing blocks using the language of the subconscious

If we are seeking to change negative programming in our subconscious, we need to use our
imagination. We must imagine what we want in order to change our old hardened, limiting
perspectives into more accepting, loving ones that open our lives to new possibilities.

The subconscious has its own language. It works well with senses and symbols. Take a few
minutes to relax and then bring to mind your challenge or block. Connect with any pain or
emotion that is still with you. Ask yourself these questions regarding your pain/block. Let your
imagination tell you the answers, then write them down. Pick the first image that comes to your
mind.

1. What color is your pain or block?
2. What shape is it?
3. What texture is it as you touch it?
4. What does it smell like?
5. What does it sound like?
6. What is its taste?
7. What emotion(s) do you sense?
8. What symbol represents it?

Now release your experience of your block and regain a feeling of being centered before doing
the next step. Bring to mind a solution to your challenge that you consider ideal. Connect with
this solution. Imagine yourself having it, in all its perfection. Now ask the above questions again
and write down your answers. Notice how much better you feel.

In the future, whenever you become upset by memories of this block, bring to mind the images
and senses that represent your ideal solution. See the old symbol merging into the new symbol.
This exercise can produce great results. Enjoy it.

"The soul never thinks without a picture." -- Aristotle

Healing through forgiveness:

"Forgiveness will never fail to free you." -- J errold Mundis

Where and how do you hold resentment in your life? Resentment is toxic to our physical,
emotional, mental and spiritual well-being because we carry it with us always. It's anger that
lives on and on and on, surfacing in our tendency to blame others, desire revenge or pity
ourselves. Although we direct our resentment towards another--the "guilty" party--the truth is
that the very act of resenting causes us harm. The negativity damages our systems and stops us
from feeling the good things in life like contentment, peace and joy.

And once we understand how projections work--how our own issues are reflected back to us
through others, we also understand that our resentment is misdirected. The problem actually lies


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with us, not the other. We keep a carbon copy of all of our judgments. The subconscious mind is
impersonal and therefore as you project onto another, you are projecting onto yourself.

We can free ourselves from resentment and guilt through forgiveness. Our greatest challenge is
to forgive ourselves. Once we have truly done that, forgiving others becomes easy.

*** Make forgiveness a daily process. *** It's nearly impossible to be completely free of
judgment, blame and guilt. Release that load daily. With regular attention to forgiveness (which
is an aspect of love) you will see a new accountable and accepting you emerge.

Exercise 6-4: Unsent Release Letter

If your challenge is directly connected with another individual, you can hand-write a letter to
release the souls and subconscious minds of both you and the other party. You do not have to
dwell on the situation in depth in the letter. *** Do not send this letter. ***

A Sample Release Letter:

Address
Date

Dear Soul of ,

I request the release of (fear, anger, pain, frustration, etc) regarding.

I give my subconscious mind and my soul permission to carry out the release of the above
misunderstandings and emotions whether they reside in my conscious mind or my
subconscious mind.

Thank you for the experiences. I have gained understanding from them and now I let them
go for positive transformation.

I forgive (name) and I release him/her to his/her highest good.

I forgive myself and I free myself to realize my highest good, freedom, fulfillment of inner
dreams, clarity, love, peace, joy, expression and prosperity.

Thank you.
Sincerely with love,

Name and signature

Remember: do not send this letter.


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Exercise 6-5: Evening ritual

If your grievance with an individual or a block of any kind is deep, you may want to engage in a
longer-term practice that accomplishes the same goal as the release letter. J errold Mundis offers
two powerful ways to achieve forgiveness through bedtime rituals.

Here's the first. Every night, before going to sleep, relax and become calm. Then, using the name
of who or whatever you feel resentment towards, say silently to yourself, with as much sincerity
as you can:

"[Name], I fully and freely forgive you. I completely let you go. I do not wish to
hurt you. I wish you no harm. So far as I am concerned, this trouble between us
is over forever. You are free, and I am free, and all is well again between us."

For Mundis's second exercise, again relax fully after you get into bed for the night. When your
mind is quiet, picture the face of the person you want to forgive, and imagine yourself giving
them everything that you would like for yourself.

These may not be easy exercises for you to do, if your anger is well anchored. But muster as
much sincerity as you can each night. Your heart will gradually open and you will be freed.

Exercise 6-6: Heart connection meditation

This is a guided meditation. Protect a 10-minute period. Get into a relaxed state and bring to
mind a person you want to forgive or relate to with more love. In your mind, see both of you
standing about 5 feet apart. Now visualize a beam of light connecting your heart to their heart.
Notice the connection, but do not react to it. J ust be with it. Then see a miniature version of
yourself walking out of your heart onto the beam of light to meet a miniature of the other person
who has emerged from their heart. Have these two little people talk to each other. Listen to their
conversation--you will be making it up. When the conversation is complete, have the little people
return to their hearts and dissolve the beam of light connection. Thank the other person and let
them go. Then write some notes in your journal.

Healing through surrender:

We have spoken at length of the need to assume responsibility for our lives. We need to be
proactive in owning our thoughts, our feelings and our behavior. At the same time, healing
requires faith and trust. It requires a knowing with the heart that an all-wise and all-loving power
lies within all reality and serves our highest good. With faith and trust we can release resistance.
We can be receptive and open to there being a purpose for our pain and our lives.

"Suffering ought to take us to a point of not knowing, or ignorance, where we
say truthfully, 'I don't know.' This admission is then an opening in the
personality to reach out to soul in a heartfelt aspiration to fill that ignorance
with the next step toward truth." -- Andrew Schneider


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There are times, then, when we need to let go of our efforts to create change. Times when we
need to surrender to the divine force to lead us on the next step on our journey.

Exercise 6-7: Control and trust questions

Consider your need to control. You control when you do not trust, when you do not love. When
we trust enough to give up our need to control, we can open to love. We are happier and more
fulfilled.

Write answers in your journal to the following Smart Questions:

What do you try to control in your life and how do you do it?
Who do you trust?
What do you trust?
How do you trust in yourself?
How do you not trust in yourself?
How is the world, the universe a friendly place?
How is the world, the universe an unfriendly place?
How do you trust in yourself to make you happy? (No one but ourselves can make us
happy.)
What do you feel you must control to be able to function well?
When you are caught in struggle of any kind, where is your faith?

Write a summary statement or two from the above exercise.

Exercise 6-8: Meditate on the bigger picture

Healing always involves a transformation from what has been to what can be, from limitation to
greater wholeness. We exchange the narrow-minded vision of the personality for an expanded
view of the soul that is more universal. In a meditative state, view your situation from a greater
perspective. Expand your consciousness by contemplating the spectrum that ties together the
soul qualities you identified in Step 5 with the negative characteristics associated with your
block. See how they are all part of the whole, that one is meaningless without the other. See a
bigger picture of your life. See you fitting in perfectly. Recognize the hand of Spirit in
everything.

Embrace the paradox that the soul quality and the negative quality can exist together. This opens
the door for creativity, mystery, grace and integration. This honors the opposites. Moving from
contradictory opposites to the spiritual oneness of paradox creates shifts in consciousness.


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Other things you can do:

Regular, reverent use of divination tools helps build faith, as we continually see higher
wisdom reflected back to us through the tools in answer to our questions.
Share experiences with others on the path. In particular, discuss "surrender" with
someone.
Read inspirational books.

"Ultimately, we must learn to trust ourselves. When we do this intimately and
intelligently, the world opens full of meaning before us. We find that we ourselves are the
doorway to a fathomless understanding of the source of life itself. We need only to learn
to walk through it." -- J ames Thornton

2.7 Step 7: Take action - Anchor your new learning and serve

"There is nothing mysterious about what opens the heart. Acceptance does.
There is nothing mysterious about what closes the heart. J udgment does."
-- Paul Ferrini

We trust that in working through the previous steps, you have understood your challenge in
terms of the spiritual quality that wants to be realized in you. In this last step, we accept and
anchor that quality more deeply.

The actions that will finally release your block and integrate your healing necessarily involve
both giving and receiving. With our awakened soul perspective, we shift from the self-centered
demands of the personality based on a perception of separation, to an awareness of the
interconnectedness of all things, of unity. With our faith, our trust, our gratitude, we can
surrender, glimpsing the truth that everything is okay as it is. Peace, happiness and joy come
with accepting whatever comes up as grist for the mill.

If you want to open your heart, be willing to serve your world. The greatest gift you can give
another is to be truly present to them, to be with them in non-judgment and appreciation. To
offer support without any expectations of receiving anything in return. And if we wish to give,
we need also to be willing to receive. It's all about openness and flow.

Exercise 7-1: Breathing and giving

Practice focusing your attention on exhaling, which corresponds to giving. Learn to exhale with
ease and from the deepest levels of your being. Practice breathing consciously every day.

Here is a great 4-minute meditation that is very powerful for focusing and sharing. Sit in a quiet
place and take a few deep breaths and relax. You are going to offer a 4-minute outflow of love
and energy and intention to all around you and to as far as you can project it. No thoughts of self
at all. J ust giving for four concentrated minutes.


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Start with seeing yourself as whole and complete and energized. See yourself as an infinite
source of light and love and energy and intention. Then see this light going out from you to your
house, family, to the needy, community, city, county, state/province, country, continent, planet,
solar system, galaxy, to infinity, God.... Progressively see your intention and energy going out,
giving, loving, healing, sharing, touching and expanding the lives of everyone and everything.
Send out only. This 4 minutes of concentration is powerful. You are unlimited in your inner
power. How far can you spread your energy? Be aware of this. Know that you are an infinite
force and put out the intent to infinity if you can.

Once the four minutes is complete, just be with yourself and experience yourself. Write a few
notes in your journal. Do this exercise a few times each week.

Exercise 7-2: Contemplation

Meditate on the spiritual quality that has arisen within you. Let your meditation go wherever this
quality takes you. Surrender to the guidance of higher unifying forces. Open to truth, beauty,
goodness and unity.

At the end of the meditation, ask to receive a symbol that will represent this newfound quality
now at home in your nature. Record the insights you received in this meditation in your journal.

Make copies of this symbol and place them as reminders around your home and place of work.
When fear or symptoms of your block arise, call to mind your symbol and focus on it intently, to
invite your soul to be present. Where soul exists, fear cannot.

Exercise 7-3: Ways I can serve

The Soul is:
"- Source of one's greatest contribution in service - one's true vocation
- Source of one's selflessness and altruism
- Source of one's true conscience
- Source of one's most joyous activity
- Source of one's greatest sense of meaningfulness
- Source of one's sense of the sacred
- Source of one's 'heart's desire.' " -- Michael Robbins

The soul is naturally giving and serving and loving. Make a list of ways you can serve others.
How can you give more? How can you show your love more?

Your body brings the energy needed for moving forward. Energy comes when we're attracted to
something. Set goals with passion, vision and heart that will inspire you, and you will inspire
others. Move into action that reflects your new understanding. Also, be aware that if you set an
intention to do something, you need to honor it. Our words have great power. Use them wisely.


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Exercise 7-4: Give yourself a gift

You have shown courage and persistence in working through this block busting process.
Applaud your efforts and reward yourself with a tangible gift to yourself that has true meaning
for you. Your heart will know what you want. Make it special. And don't neglect this step. It's
important for anchoring your learning.

Exercise 7-5: Immerse yourself in your own divinity

More each day, start living within the higher principles of Spirit. Appendix 6 has tips on daily
spiritual practices. Enjoy them.

Congratulations! You're done, for now

Block busting can never be a "one shot deal." J ust when we think we have one problem solved,
another will surface, or we will find ourselves facing deeper layers of our original struggle. We
hope you will return to this process again and again as new issues arise for you.

Our real challenge, then, is to give up the dream of living a problem-free life. For liberation, we
need not change our circumstances at all, just our perspective. As we said in the Introduction,
blocks are gifts for our spiritual evolution. Every moment of every day offers an opportunity to
become more connected with our souls.

In Appendix 7, we have included a tracking sheet so you can keep an eye on the bigger picture as
your life unfolds. Each time through this online course, make a summary on the tracking sheet
and watch yourself grow in spiritual awareness.

Remember the steps to spiritual healing:

1. Define your problem build a foundation
2. Feel your experience go beyond the mind and defenses
3. Explore deeper meaning connect with the cause
4. Take full responsibility for your situation be accountable!
5. Learn the soul lesson what is the higher meaning and essence?
6. Heal yourself - through acceptance, forgiveness and surrender
7. Take action anchor your new learning and serve

Sincerely,
J ohn and Patrice Robson
http://www.higherawareness.com


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APPENDICES

1. 100 Blocks (wounds, fears, challenges, problems)
2. 200 Emotions and Feelings
3. 50 Defense Mechanisms
4. 100 Victim Statements
5. 100 Values, Qualities and Virtues
6. Daily Practices for Spiritual Living
7. Tracking Sheet for Block Busting

Bibliography


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Appendix 1 - 100 Blocks to Growth
Resource lists are intuitive tools to help us get feedback from the subconscious about what is
important for us. Scan the list below quickly, noting which blocks catch your attention. From the
items you checked off, pick the top five and explore these in your journaling.
addictions
aggression
anger
anxiety
arrogance
attachment
being judgmental
being opinionated
being reactive
being scattered
being too emotional
being too intellectual
being ungrounded
blind devotion
boredom
carelessness
complaining
compromising
compulsion
conflict
confusion
cowardice
criticism
cruelty
defensiveness
denial
dependence
depression
dishonesty
disorder
dominance
doubt
egotism
envy
fear
feeling needy
frustration
futility
future thinking
greed
guilt
hate
hopelessness
humorlessness
ignorance
illusion
impatience
impulsiveness
indecision
indifference
inertia
insecurity
insensitivity
intolerance
isolation
jealousy
lack of confidence
lack of creativity
lack of discipline
lack of purpose
lack of trust
laziness
living in the past
loneliness
low energy
malnutrition
manipulation
materialism
mediocrity
moodiness
needing to please others
negativity
no fun
obsessions
pain
perfectionism
poor health
poor self-esteem
possessiveness
poverty mentality
prejudice
pride
procrastination
rationalization
repression
resentment
resistance
ridicule
self pity
self sabotage
selfishness
shame
shyness
stress
stubbornness
suffering
timidity
unexpressed emotions
vanity
withdrawal


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Appendix 2 - 200 Emotions and Feelings

How well can you identify your emotions, your feelings? Go through this list and
underline what best describes how you feel now. If you like, you can then highlight the
qualities to which you aspire. If you do not know the definition of a word, look it up so
you will gain new awareness of the possibilities open to you.

How/what do you feel?
aborted,
absorbed
abusive
accepting
accommodating
accomplished
adaptable
adversarial
aggressive
agreeable
alert
altruistic
analytical
angry
annoyed
antagonistic
anxious
approved of
arrogant
ashamed
authentic
balanced
beautiful
battered,
belligerent
bereft
bitter
bored
brave
broken down
bullied
calm
chaotic
cheerful
bushed
careworn
cold
commanding
compassionate
competitive
complaining
conceited
condemned
confident
conflicted
confused
conservative
content
controlled
controlling
cooperative
courageous
cowardly
creative
critical
cruel
curious
defeated
debilitated
deluded
demanding
dependent
depressed
desperate
destitute
destructive
detached
dignified
disconnected
discouraged
disgusted
disempowered,
disrespected,
dominated
dominating
eccentric
ecstatic
egocentric
egotistical
empathy
empowered
enervated
enraged,
envious
erratic
excited
expressive
extroverted
fair
faithful
fearful
frightened
frustrated
glad
good
grateful
exhausted
fatigued
furious,
greedy
grief
guilt
happy
harmonizing
hatred
helpful
helpless
hesitant
hopeless
idealistic
heart broken,
ignorant
impatient
important
impoverished
impulsive


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in service
interested
intolerant
introspective
invulnerable
irresponsible
irritated
indifferent
individualistic
inert
insecure
insensitive
inspired
invigorated

isolated
jealous
joyful
jaded
judged
judgmental
lazy
likable
lively
lonely
lost
loved
loving
mad
manipulated
manipulative
mediating
miserable
mistrusting
moody
moral
negative
noble
obsessed
open
panicked
NEW ONES
optimistic
paranoid
passionate
passive
peaceful
perfectionism
pitiful
pleased
poor
pessimistic
possessive
powerful
practical
preoccupied
procrastination
proud
punished
punishing
purposeful
rage
reactionary
reclusive
rejected
rejoicing
repressed
putdown,
resentful
resigned
resistant
responsible
ridiculous
righteous
ruthless
sad
sadistic
secretive
selfish
self-accepting
self-condemning
self-defeating
self-destructive
self-hatred
self-obsessed
self-pity
self-sabotaging
sensitive
serene
shamed
shut-down
shy
sorry
stable
stimulated
stricken
strung-out
stubborn
superior
tantrums
timid
tolerant
unconcerned
understanding
unforgiving
unhappy
unresponsive
untrusting
vane
vengeance
smashed,
tortured,
unnurtured,
unappreciated,
unsupported,
vicious
victimized
violent
visionary
well-meaning
wise
withdrawn
worthy


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Appendix 3 - 50 Defenses

Defense strategies hide from us how we really feel. While they reduce our anxiety, they
also distort our perception of reality. We lose touch with our own authenticity, and that
blocks our pathway to soul consciousness.

Resource lists are intuitive tools to help us get feedback from the subconscious about our
own issues. Scan the list below quickly, noting which entries catch your attention. From
the items you checked off, pick the top five and explore these in your journaling.

accusing
acting out - giving expression to forbidden desires without concern for negative
consequences.
aggression
arguing
analysing - a belief that since we understand and can interpret defense strategies, we have
cleared our repressed feelings and do not need to work through them.
arguing
assertion
avoidance
blaming
challenging
cockiness
compensation - hiding a weakness in one area by excelling or being rewarded in another.
compliance
complaining
compromise
confusion
control
criticism
deception
defiance
denial - refusing to acknowledge the thought or feeling
devaluation
discounting
displacement - channelling thoughts or feelings to a neutral or weaker person or object..
dissociation
distrust
emotional insulation - withdrawing into inaction so one doesn't get hurt.
explaining
externalisation - pinpointing outside forces as the cause of one's behavior so one doesn't
have to accept personal responsibility for their actions.
fantasizing - not paying attention or using daydreams to escape an uncomfortable
situation.
humour


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identification - identifying oneself with a prestigious individual or institution to build
one's sense of self-worth.
intellectualisation - coming up with highly intellectual reasons or convincing arguments
to justify the situation and keep attention away from feelings.
introjection - adopting external values and standards as one's own to ensure those
standards are not used against him/her.
isolation - separating feelings and thoughts that are connected
isolation of affect - "thinking" feelings rather than actually experiencing them
judging
justifying
laughing it off
lying
manipulation
minimizing - writing off problematic events and behaviors as being too minor to worry
about.
passive aggression - indirect and unassertive expression of aggression towards another.
projection - perceiving that another has our thoughts or feelings so we don't have to own
them.
rationalization - thinking up reasons to justify what's happening while ignoring one's
feelings.
reaction formation - unconsciously thinking, feeling and acting in ways that are opposite
to how we really think and feel.
regression - slipping back into old, often immature, ways of behaving to release the
feelings.
repression - burying thoughts and feelings in our unconscious so we no longer have
memory of them.
ridicule
seeking approval
self-deception
shouting
silence
smiling
sublimation - channelling socially unacceptable feelings into a socially productive
activity.
suppression - some awareness of a thought or feeling, but we try to hide it.
threatening
undoing - doing the opposite of how one feels to try to negate the feelings.
violence
withdrawing


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Appendix 4 - 100 Victim Statements

Resource lists are intuitive tools to help us get feedback from the subconscious about
what is important for us. Scan the list below quickly, noting which statements catch your
attention. From the items you checked off, pick the top five and explore these in your
journaling.

Look what you made me do.
You hurt my feelings.
Its not my fault.
Can you believe what she did to me?
If you straightened up your act, we could get along.
I want an apology.
I want her to acknowledge that what she did to me was wrong.
I am sick and tired of .
I dont appreciate that.
I dont have enough time.
When you do that, it just drives me nuts.
I cant help it--its just the way I am.
If only he/she would/wouldnt
Its all his/her fault.
I was just minding my own business when.
I am always so busy. I never have time for myself.
Im that way because of my terrible childhood.
I dont love myself enough yet, and, until I do.
Can you believe it? That man/woman cut right in front of me.
I was late because I hit every red light; I was behind the school bus; etc.
We always have to do what you want to do.
I have told you a thousand times that I dont like that.
And after all that I have done for him/her
If they cared about me, they wouldnt do that.
I do all the giving around here and get nothing in return.
I have been abused by people all my life.
I am just not going to put up with that anymore.
I have worked hard for all I have and look what you did.
I have worked two jobs just to support you.
My boss doesnt respect me.
My kids dont appreciate all that I do for them.
It is because of you that I have this headache.
You just dont know the misery that you have caused me.
If it werent for me you would be a nobody.
I dont ask much from you. Why cant you do this for me?
You have hurt me for the last time.
Why does this always have to happen to me?
You make me so mad, frustrated, angry, etc.


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I dont have time to deal with his/her foolishness.
If they would/would not do that, I could do my part better.
If it werent for these children, I could do more.
He/she made me do this, I dont want to, but
Why should I do this when he/she does that.
What about me?
The schools are ruining my children.
My ex-spouse is ruining my children.
People just dont care anymore. They take advantage every chance they get.
I am just so busy, I just dont have time to do anything I like.
He/she/they made me...
I cant help it.
I cant...
Ill try (versus I will)
Why dont you.
He/she/they should.
Life is really difficult for me.
If you cant do your part, Im not going to do mine!
Do you really love me?
If you are willing to help, thats great. If not, then Ill struggle through myself.
You screwed me all up.
They need to be taught a lesson.
I want to be sure that they wont do this to someone else.
Its the system.
You dont know how Ive suffered.
I suffer more (so I deserve more).
I want a piece of the pie.
Life is like that; thats life.
If its not one thing its another.
A womans work is never done.
You cant win for losing.
Im doing the best I can.
I only want whats fair.
It wasnt my idea, so you cant blame me.
Boy, are they going to miss me when Im gone.
Nobody loves me.
My life will never be the same.
Isn't it awful?
If youd been through what I have been through.
Hope your children dont treat you that way.
They've done me wrong.
After all I did for them, this is what I get.
What did I do to deserve this?
They showed me no respect. They treated me like dirt.
My job is driving me crazy.
You have no idea what I do all day.


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Nobody else works as hard as I do.
If you want me to treat you nice, treat me nice.
Ugh! I cant eat that! It looks awful!
My parents dont understand me.
The doctors made a mess of me.
Some people have all the luck.
Someone has to suffer for what happened to me.
I always got the worst teachers and bosses.
Anyone in my situation would be as angry as I am.
Im not responsible for how I react.
I just cant live like this anymore.
All I do is pick up after you.
I couldnt help it.
Youll be sorry.
I wont forget this.
Nobody understands me.
Im so busy, I dont have time to do anything I like.
I cant believe you did that!
They just dont listen to what I say.
That makes me so mad I could spit.
I have been traumatized all my life.
Hey, look, I am the victim in all this!!!
Its too late. The damage is done.
That makes me so mad I could spit!!
Experience counts for nothing around here.
The dog ate my homework.
You dont know what the day has been like.
I never do it right.
Its so hard for me.
Ill probably get this wrong again. Im not doing enough.
Im not giving/caring enough.
Others dont notice how nice I am.
I tend to mess things up; I dont get it right.
They really dont want me around. I just get in the way.
Im not pulling my own weight.
Im not contributing enough.
Im not doing as well as others.
Things always go wrong for me.
This always happens to me.
Its so hard for me.
My life is such a struggle.
Why me? Why does this happen to me?
If I cant do it right, I just wont do it.
I cant really trust others.
Ill just go off by myself and do my own thing.
People dont understand me, and I dont understand why.


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Im overwhelmed.
You just dont understand.
If only you had...
I had bad parenting.
Ill change when they change.
I deserve some relief from this terrible day.
You would have thought theyd have...
Why am I not surprised?

Provided by TRP Enterprises, Inc. and Human Service Alliance, 1998TRP Enterprises,
Inc., 3978 Old Greensboro Road, Winston-Salem, NC 27101, Tel.336-777-1947, Fax:
336-722-8616

Written by: John and Patrice Robson


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Appendix 5 - Values, Qualities and Virtues

Abundance
Acceptance
Achievement
Adventure
Aesthetics
Appreciation
Authenticity
Balance
Beauty
Bliss
Caring
Cheerfulness
Clarity
Commitment
Communication
Compassion
Co-operation
Confidence
Connection
Contentment
Courage
Courtesy
Creativity
Daring
Dedication
Detachment
Determination
Devotion
Diligence
Discipline
Discernment
Discrimination
Empathy
Empowerment
Energy
Enthusiasm
Excellence
Faith
Flexibility
Forgiveness
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Generosity
Gentleness
Good will
Grace
Gratitude
Growth
Harmlessness
Harmony
Healing
Health
Honesty
Hope
Humanitarianism
Humility
Humour
Idealism
Inclusiveness
Insight
Integrity
Intelligence
Intimacy
Introspection
Intuition
J oy
J ustice
Kindness
Knowledge
Leadership
Love
Loyalty
Maturity
Mercy
Moderation
Openness
Order
Passion
Patience
Peace
Perseverance
Positive outlook
Power
Prosperity
Purity
Purpose
Recognition
Respect
Responsibility
Reverence
Righteousness
Sacrifice
Self Confidence
Serenity
Service
Sharing
Silence
Spirituality
Spontaneity
Strength
Support
Surrender
Tolerance
Trust
Trustworthiness
Truth
Understanding
Union
Unity
Wisdom
Wonder


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Appendix 6 - Daily Practices for Spiritual Living

Here are some basic practices for spiritual living. Immerse yourself in your own divinity.
Participate in the bigger picture of life.

Meditation - All spiritual practices recommend using meditation, prayer or quiet time
daily. Meditation helps us to progressively connect with our senses, calm the mind,
detach from our emotions and harmonize our whole being. As we practice regularly,
we can begin to contemplate abstract qualities--to consciously move into experience
of the universal. Meditation also strengthens our ability to use intuition to connect
with the divine. There are many different approaches to meditation and prayer, and
lots of wonderful resources available to guide you in learning the art of going into
silence.

Cultivate an ongoing appreciation for everything that comes up in your life.
Appreciation, gratitude and reverence are all aspects of love. As they connect us with
the joy that lives in our souls, they help us release the pain that can only be felt by our
personalities. Practice conscious appreciation, which brings an open heart and
acceptance of others and ourselves. Simplify your life. Begin to focus more on all that
you have rather than what you don't have. We can counteract the intensity of our
suffering with intensity of awe, of wonder, of the experience of beauty. Keep a
gratitude journal by recording at the close of each day at least five reasons for being
grateful.

Breathing Take 10 deep, long breaths, consciously, daily.

Pay attention to your thinking. Thoughts are powerful. It's been estimated we have
over 50,000 thoughts every day. How many of those thoughts serve you? Learning to
develop more awareness of our thinking, to replace negative thoughts with positive
ones and to actively use intention to bring focus to our activities pays off royally in
our experience of quality of life.

Truly feel your emotions. With awareness, we can learn to free ourselves from
automatic emotional reactions. We need to honor our feelings and explore them for
insights. Become more authentic.

Honor your body and the natural laws that govern our physical form. Not only is
health essential to quality of life, but our bodies are the seat of our energy, power,
motivation, enthusiasm, inspiration, playfulness, spontaneity and joy. If we dishonor
our bodies, we cut ourselves off from all that makes life rich.

Completely release judgment. The spiritual path is not a competitive event. No one on
it is better, or further ahead than another. We are all where we are meant to be,
learning lessons that need to be learned. Choose to focus on acceptance, for what may


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appear to be negative to you, and therefore to be avoided, may be just what you or
another needs to learn something important. Ask for forgiveness daily, to release the
judgments you have made.

Ask questions of your subconscious and your higher mind, then wait and watch for
the answers. There is tremendous power in asking questions. We just need to
remember to do it and to listen for the response.

Talk with your Higher Power, by whatever name. This does not just mean prayer. It
means maintaining an awareness of what's going on around you and carrying on a
mental conversation about it with your Higher Power just as you would with a
physical companion. And always remember to say thank you for the richness of life.


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Appendix 7 - Tracking Sheet for Block Busting
Date Block Feeling Meaning Healing Tools Action


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