Parents Know Best

'Parents know best where careers are concerned.' What do you think? Write a composition giving a
balanced point of view.
Most parents feel they have a right to help choose their children's careers. Many young people,
however, feel that this is a choice which affects the rest of their lives and, therefore, should be made on
their own.
Most parents feel that they have a right to get involved because they are paying for their children's
education. It is difficult to argue against this. It seems unreasonable not to allow parents to at least voice
their preferences. Whether or not the children agree with them is another matter.
Generally, all parents feel they have the experience and would be in a better position to give advice on
job opportunities and career prospects. Sometimes, however, young people do not base their choices
on facts but on feelings.
Many parents also feel that they know their children better than the children know themselves. Children
can be impulsive and may make wrong decisions. There are also some parents who want to control their
children's lives. They feel they must have a say in every decision their children make. These parents have
already made up their minds what they want their children to be, regardless of their talents and
interests.
Most children would agree that because their parents pay for their education, they have a right to offer
advice. However, parents do not have the right to force their children to do what they do not want to do.
Many parents, for example, want their children to be doctors or engineers just to impress their friends
and relatives. They forget that young people are capable of making wise decisions too.
In my opinion, young people should seek the advice of their parents and teachers when choosing their
careers. Some careers may appear glamorous, for example, singing or modeling, but the prospects may
not be good. However, I feel, in most cases, a person has to make up his own mind after talking to a
number of people, including his parents. It is wrong to totally disregard the opinions of our parents. On
the other hand, it is wrong to choose a career just to please them. Parents should not try to live their
lives through their children.

Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Parents and adult relatives should make
important decisions for older teenage children( age 15--18)...Use specific reasons and examples.
Many people hold the opion that parents or other relative adults should make important decisions for
their older teenage children, since they do not want their children to make any wrong decision or
mistake during the important life stage. While, I do not agree with them at all. Because age fifteen to
eighteen is such a crucial period for the teenage children to form their personality, to learn how to make
decisions and take responsibily of it, as well as to develop where their talent lie. No one can make the
important decisions for their life but themselves.
First, the age fiftteen to eighteen, accoding to many research, is the time for teenage children to form
thier personality. They need to make their own choices and follow their own hearts. If all the decisions
were made by their parents or adult relatives, we can not image where is the creative side, and where is
the distinguish side. The world will be lack in innovation.
In addition, it is also the age for the older teenage children to learn to be responsible for themselves. No
matter the child is a girl or a boy, most of the important decisions in thier life should be made by
themselves. On one hand, children will be dependent on their parents and adult relatives' decision
making and do not want to and feared to make their own decisions. How is their parents and adult
relatives who made the important decisions for them pass away? How can they make their own
decisions in their later life? They should have the ability to make their own decision even when they are
only teenage children. On the other hand, all the decisions could be ricky, who can take responsiblity to
the children if the decisions do not benefit? It is the child's own life, so, in order not to make anyone feel
guilty or regret for the results, it should be the child who make the decisions in his own life.
Furthermore, parents and adult relatives should not make the important decision for the children since
people are different from each other, no one knows the child better than the child himself. The child
knows on which field he can be really good at, and on which field he lacks talent in. During the age I was
eighteen, my parents make the decision for me to go to study Finance, but for me, Asian studies seems
much more attractive and I have strong will to study on that. Since they make the decision and I did not
obey their will, four years collge life on Finance make me feel really bad. And I even fell to pass two of
the courses since I have no interest in them. I feel so regret for the desicion, and it takes me more time
to achieve the success on Asian studies during graduate school. This is what a parents-making decision
will lead us to. On most circumstances they only follow their own will to choose for you but ignore
where your talent really lie.
Adimittedly, parents and adult relatives do all the things to make the children benefit the best and not
to make wrong decisions. But they fail to notice that it is their own life and the life should be choosen by
themselves. They are themselves and they should decide which direction to go but not follow their
parents or adult relatives' guide.

Topic: Currently more and more people respect elders and become convinced that older people should
live with their families, which is in contrast to the view that older people should live at a nursing home.
What is your opinion?

Some people claim that elderly care should be provided by nursing homes these days. In my opinion,
senior citizens are advised to live with their descendants by dint of their needs of emotional support as
well as the responsibility of younger family members.

To begin with, one reason for the elders to stay with their families is that they are likely to suffer
loneliness if they reside at nursing homes. While nursing homes are capable of supplying a variety of
professional service, they fail to provide a sense of community for their residents. In fact, senior people
have to integrate into an alienated environment unlike their formerly surrounding. Besides, various
people struggle to establish friendships with their roommates due to characteristic differences. Coupled
with living away from their family members and friends, it seems that their loneliness is potentially
fostered.

Additionally, it should be noted that younger members of the family are suggested to take responsibility
for their elders. Elderly people used to experience a hard time of raising their children and grandchildren.
Furthermore, they were responsible for teaching initial lessons for their descendants such as how to
speak and how to behave. By taking care of the elders, in turn, can the young generations express their
respect and gratitude towards their seniors. In most Asian countries, looking after the elderly people is
regarded as an obligatory duty of individuals. That is to say, from a moral perspective, it is essential that
older adults should stay with their families.

To sum up, I would have to reiterate the necessity of the elderly people living with their family members.
Not only do they feel a sense of interaction but also their descendants will have an opportunity to show
their filial piety.

YEARS AGO, it was a heavy rained night. A petrified boy was hiding himself in blanket. At the same
moment, his lovely mother was there lullubying him. Without knowing anything, he caught a scene
before the last blink to sleep. He witnessed his dad was bringing a huge luggage, forcing an old man to
get in a luxurious sedan, heading to an old folk home. Years after, the boy was grown up, appear as a
renowned professor. However, his parent were going nowhere, a rewrote history, they were sent to a
remote old folk home. This was no longer a dramatic story. In contrast, very sarcastically this scenario
start to be prevail itself prodigiously. Intriguingly, people were produced themselves a lot of reasons as
well as excuses to justify their act to send the elders to old folk home. Peak time has been reached for us
to petition the pros and cons for doing so. Should we let our elders to old folk home? Is that a right act?
No doubt, question are in the midst and people are arguing between the profound medical team,
requirement of the elders in conjunction with kinship and abandonment. What is the one and the only
one correct measure? It always worth to discuss.

IN FACT, aging process makes fool of our bodies. It starts annihilate our abilities as well our lifestyle.
Well, the most familiar illness that love to stick with our dearest is dimentia. By letting the elderly alone
at home while the family members are not around, is equivalent to placing a ticking bomb at home, it
might explode in any single minutes. Indeed, an act of jeopardising the elders. Lets imagine that without
anyone concern, the elder is caught by heart arrest at home. Maybe minutes ago you just got in time to
farewell with your dearest to fight for the family's meals; minutes after, the short farewell can become a
forever goodbye to your dearest. Without a medical team to back up, the effort to have a happy hour
with your elders undeniable faces an uphill battle. However, the medical team which susceptible to
various illness is always stand back at an old folk home for emergency. Please be reminded that just in a
single minute, an emergency case can summon one's precious life. It is always unconvincible without
any example: a renowned novelist in England was found dead in her condominium seven days after she
passed away. It was such a miserable fact, a pity lost of an intellect. It would not have happened if she
was provided first aid in the very prominent second. Hence, it is undeniable that the old folks will be
taken care with the specialise knowledge that we might not be provided to them once they step in old
folk home.

DOES NOT always think that old folks are group of people that lose ability to do anything or lacking
anything. We should throw away that kind of perception against the elderly. Just like us, they are also
human that can think wisely. Legally, they are categorised into the group of that can shoot out their
opinion and make their own decisions. We can imagine that facing a huge house without anybody inside,
how lonely is it. So did we spared our mind on behalf the elders? Are we understand their loneliness?
Maybe they are willing to stay in old folk home to spent their time. Nevertheless, just owing to their
unwillingness to pull off their "face" or burden their kids with the tag of "unfilial", they will refuse to stay
in old folk home. A survey conducted in China have shown that, there are still a big amount of elders are
willing to stay in old folk home but just due to the reason of dignity, they dare not do so. Retracing their
step into old folk home, they might remain lonely as if their children are always working outside until

very late or some, working abroad. Interestingly, isn't this a kind of abandonment? The prejudice against
old folk home should be discarded. Wherever your love towards your parent is, there are always a way
to repay the latter's kindness. It does not matter that where the elderly stay in, but your sincerety. If the
old folk home can bring your elders happy, why not let it be a choice? With the people who have similar
range, in contemporary, old folks are pioneered a great community, they will never feel lonely.

ON THE OTHER HAND, as mentioned previously, old folks have their own ability to think,too. How if
they found that they are not willing to stay in old folk home? Will you respect them? Statistic have
shown that elders who stay at old folk home own higher risk than old folk at home to have dimentia.
This is because the insistencies of nowadays people to sent the old folk to stay at old folk home without
communicating with them, just like the dad of the well-knowned professor that we saw before hence,
forcing the elders to spent their remained life in old folk home. Thousand of unwilling just due to their
love for the children. They want to stay with them, having happy hours with their dearest. People are
saying 'blood is thicker than water'. Thus, should we abandon the kinship that strongly bonded to us if
the elderly want to stick with us? Youth nowadays like to misunderstand and purposely translate
wrongly the love to arrogance. They rather to let the elders to stay in agony. They never think even once
how hard their parents were raising them up, their duty to look after the old folks when the latter are
incapable of taking care of themselves. The rational here is that the con of letting the elderly stay in old
folk home is indirectly propagandising the abandonment of elderly among the unfilial one. They grab the
chance to send their parent to old folk home without any concern afterwards. It is not the purpose of
existence of the old folk home - to subtitute the children to take care of the elderly while they are busy
of working. If the children are sincere to repay the elders' kindness, they will not leave the old folk in socalled-home without any concern after that. It is such a sin for doing so. Hence, again I strangthened my
view of that letting the elderly stay in the old folk home will develop the irresponsible act of
abandonment among the autorities.

Without a profound management, old folk home might also endanger the elders. Likewise, there has
been a case that a 78 years-old old folk was killed in a fighting with its peer. The incident have shock the
nation. People were stood aghast when listening the report of this incident. The root of the incident was
the lack of communication and understanding between old folks and the old folk home's authority. The
latter's negligence might jeopardise the former. Old folk who cannot accustom to the new environment
of old folk home is also one of the dilemmas.

AFTER ALL, in conclusion, I am in the opinion of letting the elderly stay in old folk home has its pros and
cons. It always depend on individual and situations. Indeed, if you may, take care of your elders by your
own instead of letting the latter stay in old folk home. Even you are hiring a professional nursing service
at home to take care of them, as long as you are staying with the elderly, it warm their heart up. Thus,
before you plan to let your parent to stay in old folk home, ensure you have communicated with them

before hence. If they insist to stay there, respect them and assure that they are always in best condition.
Perhaps, this issue has been reached a concensus of people that it is our duty to look after the elderly.