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BEAUTY
9 Break out the
brights, girl!
Fluorescent eye shadows
perfect for party night
14 The trend:
metallic lips
Wear it and snap it!
15 #AskJuana
28 Box clever
A reader models
square silhouettes
30 Fashion forever
or fashion fling?
An investment piece
vs a wardrobe full
of must-haves
98 The shape of
things to come
Volume is big in
fashion right now
16 Crap, Im
late for work!
From PJs to polished
in 10 minutes flat
FUN FEARLESS
FASHION
21 Pop culture
Hip accessories
in primary colours
22 Art school
How to wear
brush-stroke prints
24 Camo appearance
Khaki made sexy
25 Fun times
An armful of watches?
Yes, please!
YOUNIVERSE
43 Own your quirks
46 How to help a
friend in trouble
Your BFF is going
through a tough time.
Heres what to do
58 I left my boyfriend
when he was
paralysed
A woman tells her story
LOVE LUST
& OTHER STUFF
61 11 signs its
#forrealsies
62 Youre not needy
(youre just with
the wrong guy)
Feeling insecure?
This could be why!
68 Manthropology
Your guide to the
male brain
BODY LOVE
115 Nail your
workout with these
gymming undies
LIFE HACKS
131 Winter homefrom-homes
for you and
your homies
132 Cosmotise
your month
Awesome stuff
for you to do,
see and buy
61
136 Confessions of
a series-oholic
FIANCE FILES
73 Heavy metal
74 Bling on it!
76 How far would
you go for your
engagement selfie?
78 The best way to
show off your bling
80 How to stop this
from splitting you up
82 How to throw
an awesome
engagement party
84 Which is better: the
very short or very
long engagement?
86 Will an ultimatum
send him packing?
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1 Dior Diorshow
Mono Eye Shadow
(R410) IT-Purple
2 Chanel Ombre
Essentielle So
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(R435) Exaltation
3 MAC Eye Shadow
Matte (R180) Orange
4 CK One Color
Powder Eyeshadow
Quad (R420) Amazon
5 MAC Eye Shadow
Matte (R180) Chrome
Yellow 6 MAC Eye
Shadow Satin (R180)
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Stephanie*, 27,
restaurant service
director
NAIL IT Make happy-face
yellow even more fun with
a white base, which makes
any colour more vibrant.
Draw the face shapes
with nail-art pens.
Hanna*, 22,
fashion assistant
NAIL IT Apply white
polish, leaving a semicircle of exposed nail
at the base. With a
striping brush, paint
random intersecting
lines with blue, yellow
and coral polish. Apply
a top coat and press a
star at the base of each
nail while still wet.
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Pia*, 26,
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INSTA-GLAM
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Whats better
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a lipstick? This
chubby pen coats
lips in colour while
keeping them
moisturised. Its a
handbag staple!
Rimmel
Lasting
Finish Colour
Rush Intense
Colour Balm
(R99,95 each)
All You Need
Is Pink and
Give Me
A Cuddle
Eylure Katy
Perry Lashes
(R89,95 each)
Oh, My! and
Oh, Honey!
IGNITE
THE SPARK...
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@chaneliman
THE TREND
Inglot Lipstick
(R169) 161
Inglot AMC
Pure Pigment
Eye Shadow
(R209) 23
Maybelline Color
Sensational Pearls
Lipstick (R110)
Golden Pearl
Revlon
Super Lustrous
Lip Gloss (R120)
Berry Allure
JOURDAN
DUNN
Metallic
Lips
@ocialjdunn
GEORGIA
MAY JAGGER
THE FILTER
Natural,
messy curls
are making
waves. Spritz
with sea-salt
spray for texture,
then add serum
for gloss.
@GeorgiaMayJagger
Colour draws
the eye and
is a great way
to distract from
aws so make
your best feature
the focal point
(red lips, deeply
smoky eyes).
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I N S TA G R A M/G E O R G I A M AY J A G G E R T E X T A L E X A N D E R W H I T I N G A N D J U A N A PA R AT H Y R A S P R I C E S
C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G TO P R E S S P R I C E S A R E R E C O M M E N D E D R E TA I L P R I C E S
MAC Frost
Lipstick
(R190)
Bronze
Shimmer
Dust highlighter
on high planes
of your face
(cheekbones,
browbones
and the bridge
of the nose)
to catch the
light and make
you glow.
Beauty | Q&A
#ASK
JUANA
Maybelline
The Colossal Go
Extreme! Volum
Mascara (R125)
Very Black
How do I make
my lashes longer
with mascara?
Im doing it
wrong. Help!
FEDI KATZIA
Gosh
Growth
Mascara
(R149)
Black
Garnier Fresh
Rening Toner
Shine Be
Gone! (R59,95)
Garnier
Refreshing
Toner Start
Afresh
(R59,95)
Garnier
Soening
Toner Goodbye
Dry (R59,95)
Clarins Extra-Comfort
Anti-Pollution
Cleansing
Cream (R365)
Thick, creamy
and very luxurious, it still
rinses o easily and nixes
all my makeup even the
mascara! Its great if you live
in the city because it actively
ghts o the damaging
eects of pollution.
Juana Parathyras,
COSMO beauty editor
When should
I start using antiageing products?
EMMA DEETLEFS
^Prevention is better
than cure! Choose
products that address
your skins needs
and invest in solid
sun protection
SPF30+ every day! _
Eucerin
Sun
Creme
Tinted
(R170)
Dove Nourishing
Oil Care Deep
Repair Treatment
Mask (R58,99)
This treatment mask
puts life back into the bleached parts
of my hair its silky and so, and
it has a great, polished shine.
Kelly Paitaki,
COSMO reader and
makeup artist
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Beauty | Hacks
Crap,
Im Late
for
ork!
Overslept? Go from PJs
to polished in 10 minutes at
by doing the bare minimum
at home and adding a few
discreet touches at work
At Home: Prep
Optive Plus
Triple-Action
Solution (R81,16)
LOral Lumi
Magique
Light Infusing
Foundation
(R210) Beige
LOral
Professionel
Wild Stylers
by Tecni.Art
Crpage de
Chignon
(R279)
Le Blush
Crme
de Chanel
(R485)
Prsage
Relax!
It take
s
only a
produc few
ts to lo
ok
profes
sional
At Work: Polish
Batiste Dry
Shampoo
(R64,99)
Fruity &
Cheeky
Cherry
MAC
Strobe
Liquid
Lotion
(R335)
Lancme
Hypnse Star
Waterproof
Mascara
(R355)
Catrice
Smokey
Eyes Pencil
(R34,95) The
Black Earl
Fendi
LAcquarossa
(R1 180 for
50ml EDP)
Badger
Lip Tint &
Shimmer
(R89, 25)
Copper
& Opal
Shimmer
Lea Michele
The Glee actress awlessly demonstrates a great styling trick
to hide a fringe straighten hair, slick back the top section with
pomade, and pin in place. Spritz with hairspray to nish.
Margot Robbie
She received mixed reports
for heading over to the dark
side. We like it! Blonde girls
considering this change: tint
your brows in a complementary
hue so they dont get lost in the
overall look.
Chrissy Teigen
The model usually rocks a collarbone-grazing crop, though
she added fullness with extensions for a recent red-carpet
event. Adding length is easy: try clip-in extensions that are
the same colour as your hair.
Rihanna
She loves switching up her style and colour most recently
to striking pink. If youre going for this, make sure you keep
it edgy with choppy strands that frame your face.
Shailene Woodley
She bravely went from long,
to short, to even shorter (and
blonder) with this pixie crop.
Avoid it if you have a round
or oval face and if you get
bored easily, because it takes
a good year to grow out!
P H O TO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S , W I R E I M A G E/G A L LO I M A G E S
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Fun, Fearless
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3
POP
CULTURE
1 Clutch R799,
Mimco at
Woolworths
2 Sunglasses
R269, Topshop
3 Shoes
R559, Zara
4 Belt R1 199,
Tommy Hilger
5 Watch R900,
Swatch
6 Bag R479,
Topshop
7 Shoes
R999, Aldo
MOSCHINO
R759, Zara
R999, Tommy
Hilger
R585,
Ohoneone
Art
School
3D Works
Minimalist, bold
heels are the
go-to shoes.
R3 800,
Black Coee
R759, Zara
Remember to wash
your foundation and
concealer brushes at
least once a week.
R219, Zara
CLINE
R69,95,
Edgars
P H O T O G R A P H Y L E S T R O P, S B A S T I E N R O H N E R C O M P I L E D B Y P O P P Y E V A N S , B R O D I D E E R E
A N D TA R Y N A Z I Z P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G TO P R E S S S TO C K I S T S O N PA G E 141
R3 100, Kat
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R1 599,
Zara
R1 950,
Henriette
Botha
R3 099,
Diesel
Celeb
RIHANNA
Ap
R1 399,
Guess
R400,
Mango
R3 800,
Albertus
Swanepoel
SHAILENE WOODLEY
R1 200,
Mango
R350, Edgars
DELEVINGNE ON
FOLLOW CARA
GNE
CARADELEVIN
INSTAGRAM @
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R1 350,
Swatch
R3 299,
Marc
Jacobs at
American
Swiss
R1 499,
Fossil at
S Keren
Watch
Group
R700,
Swatch
at S Keren
Watch
Group
Sensai Rouge
Vibrant Cream
Colour Lipstick
(R515) Kurenai
Fashion | Top 10
Fashion Eds Tip
Stack a sporty
watch with
friendship bracelets
and beads for an
on-trend approach
to tribal luxe.
R999, Nixon
R10 895,
Victorinox at
Picot & Moss
Fun
Times
R900, Swatch
R1 250, Swatch
R449, Ne
at Boogaloos
R899, Adidas at
S Keren Watch Group
R1 450, Lacoste at
S Bacher & Company
R299, Ne
at Boogaloos
R1 199, Adidas at
S Keren Watch Group
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P H O TO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S , SB A S T I E N R O H N E R
C O M P I L E D B Y P O P P Y E VA N S , B R O D I D E E R E A N D TA R Y N A Z I Z P R I C E S
CORRECT AT TIME OF GOING TO PRESS STOCKISTS ON PAGE 141
R69,99, Mr Price
R359, Zara
R39,99,
Mr Price
R299,
Cotton On
er
Und00
R5
Black
and
White
These colours are
totally hot for each other
and at less than R500,
things just got sexier
R500, Edgars
Game Time
Give your look
a sexy, sporty
edge for a
fresh approach.
R349,
Sissy Boy
Tuxedyooupfranotms
take to night
d ay tlessly
effor
R499,
Woolworths
R399,
Foschini
R399,
Cotton On
R369,
Topshop
Can You
Feel It?
Play with
texture for
added luxury.
R339,
Topshop
Go beyond
Black and White
WEAR YOUR FAVOURITE
COLOUR WITH CONFIDENCE
Go on
Live Life In Full Colour!
VERVE DR113181405
Box
Clever
AGE 25
OCCUPATION DISTRIBUTOR
OF WEWOOD IN SOUTH AFRICA
What was your last fashion purchase?
A wallet from Call It Spring.
Who is your fashion crush?
I have so many but I would have to say Rihanna
she is so eortlessly gorgeous and everything
looks incredible on her.
What are your favourite blogs to follow?
Travelwithlamb.com for all my travelling thrills
and Daretoblair.co.za for everything fashion.
Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or Twitter
and why?
Has to be Facebook and Instagram Im
addicted. Twitter and Snapchat just arent
my cup of tea.
What is your favourite
foreign destination?
I recently went to Italy, Croatia, Greece and
Montenegro with my boyfriend, and I dont
think I could choose which ranked highest!
RETAIL CHIC
Dress R999, Zara. Coat R2 000, Mango.
Necklace R599, Accessorize. Ring
R149 (per pack) and shoes R1 599,
all Aldo. Bag R649, Topshop
R350,
4Flavour
at YDE
PORTS 1961
R3 000, Ted
Baker at
Stuttafords
CHLO
R4 150,
Prada at
Luxottica
TOM FORD
R1 200,
A.Y.K
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E VA N S A N D TA R Y N A Z I Z H A I R A N D M A K E U P A L E X A N D R A B O T H A U S I N G D E R M A LO G I C A
PRICES CORRECT AT TIME OF GOING TO PRESS STOCKISTS ON PAGE 141
DESIGNER DIVA
CHANEL
CHANEL
Fashion
Forever
OR
Fashion
Fling?
Will you splash your
cash on one lust-worthy
investment piece or
spend your hard-earned
money on a wardrobes
worth of on-trend musthaves? Its up to you!
R4 699
Tommy Hilger
Fashion
Forever
Channel your inner Coco
Chanel in this classic,
supercute tweed jacket.
Fashion
Fling
R400
Cotton On
Want more
for your buck?
Youre in luck!
R175
Lovisa
R100
Cotton On
R450
Truworths
R450
Truworths
R580
Topshop
P H O T O G R A P H Y L E S T R O P, S B A S T I E N R O H N E R C O M P I L E D B Y P O P P Y E V A N S ,
B R O D I D E E R E A N D TA R Y N A Z I Z P R I C E S C O R R E C T AT T I M E O F G O I N G TO P R E S S
P R I C E S A R E R E C O M M E N D E D R E TA I L P R I C E S S TO C K I S T S O N PA G E 141
R560
Zara
R120
Mr Price
R1 700
Ted Baker
R80
Mr Price
Mavala Nail
Color Cream
(R68) Cuzco
Total price:
R4 683
31
Fashion | Inkspiration
R239,
Topshop
Wedding-Band
Tattoos
Show your love
with ink!
R149,
Accessorize
3 WAYS
TO DRESS
YOUR
UPPER
BACK
TATTOO
Showcase your
strategically placed ink
so its your best accessory
3
CARA DELEVINGNE
YES
LESLEY MARCHANT
I dont have tattoos but I admire women
who aunt their ink. Tats are not as taboo
as they used to be like the clothes we
wear, theyre a form of self-expression
and should be welcome in the workplace.
NO
P H O TO G R A P H Y R E X F E AT U R E S , R I A N A V O G E L , I N S TA G R A M/W E D D I N G S_B R I D E , I N S TA G R A M/
TA2D_H E A R T S , I N S TA G R A M / J S P R E L S T E X T J U A N A PA R AT H Y R A S , P O P P Y E VA N S A N D B R O D I
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R169,
Topshop
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secret
toThe
making a
relationship
last is being
in love..
areFriendships
based
on emotions.
Theyre private
atching up with
Lily Allen is mission
impossible. Because
when a singer makes
her breakthrough
with Myspace
when she is only
20, then at the age of 23 tells former
US president George W Bush to
go to hell by dedicating the song
Fuck You to him, and at 25 at the
height of her success retires from
show biz, but then four years later
is back with Sheezus (a completely
feminist and sassy album), and
sets off for a 60-date tour that
is going to take her to Australia,
Russia, Europe and the US in less
than six months Well, you can
just imagine what its like to try
to reach her on the phone.
The 29-year-old hasnt been
twiddling her thumbs over the past
few years. She opened a clothing store
with her sister Sarah Owen, and she
has been the face of Chanel. But its
her private life that has kept her the
busiest, for better or worse: rst she
had a miscarriage while she was
dating The Chemical Brothers Ed
Simons. Then she met her husband
(builder and decorator Sam Cooper),
and suffered a stillbirth at six months
during her next pregnancy. She
married Sam, moved to the English
countryside and eventually had
two daughters, Ethel and Marnie
(the second born a little more than
a year after the rst).
When she nally answers
the phone and we start chatting,
I can hear planes in the background:
shes off to Scotland for one of her
tour dates. Lily, you are always
on the move!
HOW DOES IT FEEL
TO BE BACK?
Im so glad to be back at work!
I really enjoyed myself over the
past few years I could spend
a lot of time with my daughters
but its good to be back in the game.
WHY DID YOU SAY FAREWELL
TO MUSIC? WERE YOU FED UP
WITH SHOW BIZ?
I just wanted to relax for a while,
understand where I was going,
take some time for myself.
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Fun, Fearless
Car
Trouble
LAW AND
DISORDER
My boyfriend and
I both live with
our parents, so
we decided to use
the car for personal
time. We parked
in what looked like
a dark, secluded
spot so we wouldnt
be interrupted
but, after a while,
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on the window
and the voice of a
policeman asking
me to wind down
the (steamed-up)
window. I opened
it a tiny bit (I was
naked), only to be
advised to nish
up somewhere
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the local community
centre and had
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members of an
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Centre stage
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You know how some people are not likeable
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but when it comes to
your life goals, dont risk
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into a comfort zone. Time
to kick ass with some healthy
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and they usually get them.
Theres science behind this. Our
bodies produce endorphins, chemicals
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research suggests our expectations
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and asked to perform scenes. When
they played angry characters, their
endorphin levels dropped but when
the scenes called for them to show
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Bottom line? What you ask for is
what you get, says Joburg life coach
Nia Maritz, MD of Corporate Mentor.
If you dont ask, you wont get even
from yourself. Stop saying I cant do X
or I suck at Y. Expect more of yourself
and life and you will make it happen.
To reach new heights you need to
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YOUniverse | Friendships
HOW TO
HELP
When a pal is going through something really tough,
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she needs. We spoke to some real BFFs whove
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IN
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I'm really
struggling
I 've got
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What would I do
without you?
LUCY I was 16 when my dad died. It hit the whole family very hard. My mom
was inconsolable and unable to be there for me or my sisters. I started avoiding
home because I couldnt bear to see her like that. I met an older guy who started
taking me out on the town, and before long my life became an endless round
of partying, drinking and drugs. I dont know how I managed to pass matric
and get into varsity, but for seven years I was almost permanently out of it.
Eventually, no-one wanted to be around me. That woke me up.
GCINA When I arrived in Cape Town to go to UCT, I shared a room with Lucy.
She was my rst and just about only friend. We got on very well and had a lot
of fun but I always knew she drank far too much and liked living on the edge.
By winter, I was very worried about her no-one was partying except for her,
and Id seen her out of control and passed out way too many times.
LUCY I knew I was in trouble but didnt know how to help myself. My old friends
had cut me off. The only people I saw, apart from Gcina, were those I partied
with and they were worse than me, so I kept telling myself I wasnt that bad.
GCINA I didnt want to make her defensive so I didnt lecture her about being
an addict and an alcoholic. I tried to get her to focus on how much she was good
at; her hopes, dreams and goals. I thought if she got red up about wanting
to accomplish stuff, shed be more ready to make the big changes.
LUCY On my 23rd birthday, I decided to clean up. I phoned my mom and told her
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else was, except for Gcina. When I came out, she was there to listen. Plus, she
barely drinks and doesnt touch drugs, so I feel totally comfortable hanging out
with her. I know shes always seen the real me and that she cares about me.
SOMEONE
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HER DIES
Katie Skocir, 26
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It' ll be okay,
you' ll see.
KATIE Over the next few
weeks, I sent Nicole funny
texts about things I knew
shed get a kick out of.
I wasnt afraid to joke with
her because I gured we
should both be ourselves.
I tried my best to keep our
normal friendship going.
NICOLE Some people
avoided me I guess they
didnt know what to say.
I wish they had just acted
normally. I had this weird
compulsion to tell everyone
I bumped into what had
happened so theyd know
I wasnt totally myself, but
it created awkwardness
I told a former colleague at
a bar, and she just didnt know what to say
KATIE I pulled Nicole into a corner, and we both
shed a tear and then shared a laugh and went
on with the evening. If we had to cry at bars,
then wed do it! That was okay with us.
NICOLE After the funeral, my family started a
scholarship foundation in Hollys name, and
friends pitched in to buy bracelets and even
plan fundraisers. It meant a lot to my family
and gave people something to do to help.
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and no means yes
BY LAURA TWIGGS
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The
HEALTHWORKER
Problem
Fact:
If ABORTION
were used as a
primary method
of BIRTH CONTROL,
a typical woman
would have at least
two or three
pregnancies
per year 30 or more
during her LIFETIME
Some of these couples had used
the method improperly; some had
forgotten or neglected to use it on
the particular occasion; and some
had used a contraceptive that failed.
No contraceptive method prevents
pregnancy 100% of the time. If
abortion were used as a primary
method of birth control, a typical
woman would have at least two
or three pregnancies per year
30 or more during her lifetime.
BANISH NEGATIVE
ATTITUDES
In her speech, Dlamini drew attention
to the concept of reproductive justice,
explaining that the legalisation of
abortion has caused a massive 91%
drop in abortion-related deaths. The
fact is that the recourse to abortion
is lower in countries where abortion
laws are less restrictive. But, she said,
we have some serious issues that we
need to address in relation to abortion.
The most dire issue is that
less than half of the designated
health facilities intended to provide
terminations are operational and
the still-prevailing negative attitudes
of health workers tend to stigmatise
women seeking legal abortions.
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Other
ABORTION MYTHS
Women who have abortions are selsh
and self-centred. (They may actually be
more responsible and know that they arent
able to provide adequate maternal care.)
Abortions cause pain for the fetus.
(Fetuses dont begin to feel pain until
some time during the third trimester
aer 99% of all abortions have
been performed.)
Abortion is a very dangerous
procedure. (Giving birth is more
dangerous than an abortion.)
If a woman doesnt want to have
a child, she should use contraception
or abstain. (More than half of women
seeking abortions have tried to prevent
pregnancy in the month of conception.)
Women are oen forced into having
abortions they do not really want.
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P H O TO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S
COSMOPOLITAN.CO.ZA
WHEN HE WAS
DISCHARGED
FROM HOSPITAL,
HIS PARENTS
INSISTED HE GO
TO THEM INSTEAD
OF COMING HOME.
I watched
Nick grow
darker by
the day, until
he was a
stranger
I ENROLLED IN A FOURMONTH
HOMECARE COURSE TO LEARN
ABOUT HOW TO DEAL WITH NICKS
SPECIFIC NEEDS, and during that
time I visited him as often as I could.
I had no social life and received
a written warning at work but it
didnt put me off because everyone
was treating me like a hero. And I felt
like one for a good ve months, which
was when reality hit me.
He got angry if
I suggested we
leave the at, and
wouldnt see visitors.
Hed interrogate me
whenever I received a
text or call. I dreaded
coming home. Worst
of all, he refused
to discuss therapy.
At the end, he was
telling me to f*ck off, to go to my
lovers and leave him alone; running
me down pretty much constantly.
Fun, Fearless
11 Signs
ITS
#FORREALSIES
P H O TO G R A P H Y Z O E Y G R O S S M A N T E X T L A U R A T W I G G S A N D A N I A R O K I TA
Relax
youre
not
a stag
e-five
clinge
r!
YOU RE
NOT
NEEDY
Adelle Waldmans bestselling
novel, The Love Affairs
Of Nathaniel P about
an independent heroine
who becomes insecure
because of a guys mixed
signals set book clubs
buzzing. Here, she shares the
experience that inspired it all
COSMOPOLITAN.CO.ZA
Love | Relationships
He said he hated to talk about
his feelings; I insisted one had to
sometimes. We went to bed angry.
I left early the next day to catch
a plane, and he didnt speak to
me the whole week I was away.
THE DOWNWARD
SPIRAL OF SHAME
My friend Missy told me this was a
douche move on Lewiss part. Missys
boyfriend echoed the words. The guy
sounds like bad news,
he said. I agreed, ready
to write Lewis off. But
as soon as I headed
home, Lewis called.
He apologised. I caved.
I decided the situation
was less black-and-white
than I thought. Maybe I had
been too pushy, too girlie in
my insistence on discussing
things. After all, most men
dont like relationship talks.
As Lewiss behaviour
grew more manipulative
and cruel, I made excuses
for putting up with him. I thought if
I just rode out this rocky period, hed
forgive me and things would go back
to how theyd been. Id tiptoe around,
timid where Id once felt condent.
I began to feel grateful for any time
we spent together because only when
he was next to me did I feel secure
(and even then only sometimes).
I could see that I was acting like
a different person from the one hed
fallen for and, more importantly, from
the person I thought I was. Id become
needy, insecure, downright pathetic.
This phenomenon, in which an
otherwise-together woman turns into
a sad, excuse-making doormat, is one
my friend Vanessa calls the downward
spiral of shame. The worse you feel
about it, the more dependent you
become on the relationship thats
the source of your unhappiness.
You become increasingly desperate
to save it no matter what the cost
to your self-respect. It doesnt matter
how smart you are. We can all do it.
Vanessa went into that spiral with a
guy who wasnt even a real boyfriend.
Now she wishes shed walked away
as soon as things began to deteriorate.
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I WAS
MORE
UPSET
AT THE
PERSON
ID
BECOME
THAN
I WAS
ABOUT
LOSING STRONG WOMEN MADE WEAK
years later, when I sat down to write The
HIM Several
Love Affairs Of Nathaniel P, I wanted to write about
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Love | Relationships
MIXED MESSAGES
Since the book was published
Ive heard from many women who
say theyve dated a guy like Nate,
whose mixed signals drove them crazy.
These guys behaved in ways that were
hurtful but they never quite crossed
the line so youd break up with them.
Like Lewis, they tended to apologise
after theyd ruined your holiday but
before you could say they were totally
irredeemable. Or they were like Tom,
whose behaviour could be seen as
either selsh or honest. Or as the
ctional Nate does when Hannah tells
him how she feels, they beg for another
chance and promise to do better. These
guys were just jerkish enough to make
us unhappy but nice enough to give
us qualms about breaking things off.
But many of the women I heard
from had a hard time sympathising
with Hannah. She becomes so weak,
one journalist said. She reminds me
of the part of myself that I hate. An
outspoken 23-year-old named Rachel
came to a reading to ask me why
Hannah didnt kick Nate to the curb.
I found her very hard to like, she said.
I never want to be like her.
P H O T O G R A P H Y C U LT U R A / I M A G E S O U R C E / G A L L E R Y S T O C K
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BUT WERE
GOING THERE
S GOT A
UGE
PENIS
THE TREATMENT
If hes too thick (think bratwurst),
get on top to control the speed and
lean forwards to limit depth. Also:
lube. If hes too long (translation:
anaconda), have him wrap his hand
around the base of his penis before
entering you, which allows only part
of him in. Avoid doggy style (which
leads to deep penetration).
BY TRACY CLARKFLORY
Actual size
THE ISSUE
HES GOT A
tiny PENIS
THE TREATMENT
A baby gherkin in his pants is no
small problem but engine size
doesnt matter if you know how
to drive. Have him try thrusting
in a circular motion with his hips
the circling creates a fuller feeling
than classic in-and-out thrusting.
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Lust | SexRx
THE ISSUE
HES A JACK
HAMMERER
THE TREATMENT
Slow down power-tool pumping
by getting on top, slowly circling
your hips and showing him how
its done. Oer Mr Hammer a few
pointers I love it when you give
it to me slowly. If the pounding
happens only towards the end
of sex, he might need additional
stimulation. In order to orgasm,
men require a combo of friction
and pressure on the penis. Try
quickly stroking or sucking
the tip for the grand nale.
THE ISSUE
SEX IS A
snooze
z
z
z
Ouch!
THE TREATMENT
Routines can be a sex buzzkill, so
think outside the bed. You cant rely
on missionary (again) when youre
doing it in the car or in the bathroom
at your birthday party. Send him
a text and meet for a quickie at
a prearranged spot. If you usually
do it at night, a pre-date romp will
make for a very happy meal. And
dont forget some You kiss your
mother with that mouth? dirty talk.
Its hard to feel meh when youre
telling him how turned on you are.
THE ISSUE
HE FINISHES
TOO FAST
P H O TO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S ,
JON PATERSON/STUDIO D * NAME HAS BEEN CHANGED
THE TREATMENT
When you fall in lust fast, things
can happen fast think Leonardo
DiCaprios one-pump hump in
The Wolf Of Wall Street. To take
the pressure o, engage in a heavy
dose of foreplay. It slows things
down for him but fast-tracks you
to orgasm before sex. Break out
a bullet vibe on your clitoris
when youre fooling around,
or have the quick hitter go
down on you prior to doing
the deed. Being able to
pleasure you through
oral will calm his nerves
about the main event.
Oops!
THE ISSUE
Sex HURTS
THE TREATMENT
Anxiety, hormone imbalances
and infections such as UTIs can
cause painful sex. Oen, though,
a lack of lubrication is to blame
because youre either not aroused
enough or youre taking prescription
medication that carries that side
eect. (Some antidepressants
and hormonal birth-control pills
can do this.) A water-based lube
may reduce friction and tearing,
and ease the ouch. If not and
especially if you have bleeding
(which could signal a cervical
polyp), or a discharge or sores
(either of which might signal
an infection) its time to get
to a gynaecologist.
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MANhTHROhPOLhOhGY
Y
BR & S
CO S
THE
STARTUP
TECHIE
PROS
HES TOTALLY TRENDING
Hollywood It girls are snatching up Web entrepreneurs like theyre the latest
iPhone upgrade. Is he the right update or will you force-quit this e-bag?
CONS
Hes a Mathlete
Sure, this dude can gure
out a 15% dinner tip sans
calculator but its not charming
when he gets into a comicbook debate with your waiter.
Peter Parker: totally bangable.
Sheldon Cooper: not so much.
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NICE GUYS
CLASSIC LINES
DECODED
LETS NOT
USE LABELS.
GUY TO WATCH
DOUGLAS
BOOTH
P H O TO G R A P H Y D O N P E N N Y/S T U D I O D , G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S
T E X T J A C Q U I M E D D I N G S , L A U R E N PA N A R I E L LO A N D L E R ATO B O K A K O
IF I CHEAT ON
YOU AND YOURE
MY GIRLFRIEND,
IM A JERK. BUT
IF YOURE JUST
SOMEONE IM
SEEING, AM
I REALLY SUCH
A BAD GUY? HARD
TO SAY. I PREFER TO
GIVE MYSELF THE
BENEFIT OF THE
DOUBT OH, SORRY,
I MUST TAKE THIS
CALL FROM MY
I MEAN, THIS GIRL
I SEE SOMETIMES.
I JUST
CANT BE A
BOYFRIEND
RIGHT
NOW.
WHAT CAN
I BE RIGHT
NOW? THE
GUY WHOS
BLOWING
YOU OFF.
IS THIS ABOUT
YOUR EX?
THIS COULDNT
POSSIBLY BE ABOUT
ME BECAUSE IM A
NICE GUY. SO, YEAH,
ITS PROBABLY
YOUR FAULT.
I dont want to
hold you back.
I dont want to hold you at all.
In fact, youre holding me
back. From being happy. But
Id sound like such a jerk if I said
that. Which is why I didnt.
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Round brilliant-cut
diamond 1,123ct with
two baguette diamonds
0,61ct in 18ct yellow gold
R144 900, Shimansky
Morganite with
diamonds 0,09ct
in 9ct yellow
gold R8 999,
American Swiss
Protea diamond in
18ct rose gold from
R31 995, Browns
The Diamond Store
Tanzanite 2,76ct
in 18ct yellow gold
R66 300, Shimansky
BLING
ON IT!
Brilliant-cut emeralds in
9ct yellow gold R1 100 with
matching 9ct yellow-gold
band R3 900, both Dear Rae
Round brilliant-cut
diamonds 0,75ct in
18ct gold R47 900,
Shimansky
Champagne diamond
0,2ct with white
diamonds in 9ct
rose gold R15 999,
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Who Could
Say No?
COSMO READERS
PROPOSAL STORIES
SEARCH PROPOSALS
AT COSMOPOLITAN.CO.ZA
Id dozed o lying on the
sand while Rob swam.
When I heard him calling
me, I sat up he was
behind me on his knees,
confessing his love and
asking me to marry him.
I said yes and he showed
me the ring three blades
of grass he had plaited
together. The moment felt
right so he used it the
real ring was at home!
Natalie Whitehead, 31,
Cape Town
I was on a small propeller
plane with Tzvi, blindfolded.
We landed on snowcovered ground and
I found myself in the
Arctic. We rode reindeer,
saw the northern lights
and took a Husky sled
to an ice hotel. When he
proposed I cried, and my
tears froze on my face!
Amy Shishler, 29, Jo'burg
Cushion-cut pink
tourmaline 2,05ct
with 20 brilliantcut diamonds 0,19ct
in 18ct yellow gold
R23 995, Olga
COSMOFiance Files
Engagement
Selfie?
What it is
Rollers with ne
surgical needles are
rolled over the skin in
a crisscross motion.
What it does
Does it hurt?
A numbing cream is
applied to sensitive
areas (such as your
face) before needling
but the procedure
should be painless.
Your skin will feel and
look mildly sunburnt
for about 24 hours
and you should see
results (smoother,
tighter skin) within a
week. A course of two
to four sessions (with
eight weeks between
treatments) is best
for long-term results.
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o engagement announcement
comes without a photo of the
ring sometimes up to ve
pics. A day. And as anyone
whos ever snapped a mani knows, our hands
dont always hold up under ash, no matter
the lter. So its not surprising that the close
scrutiny of those Instagrams has led to an
explosion of hand-lifts among the newly
yessed. And South Africans arent immune.
Soon-to-be brides have specic concerns
about their face and hands as those areas will
be the focus of photos, says Dr Maureen Allem,
founder and medical director of Skin, Body &
Health Renewal and Oasis Spas. They dont
want their hands to look bony in the close-ups,
she says. Where there has been volume loss,
we use dermal llers to put the volume back.
The result is instant and lasts six to eight
months. The llers are made of hyaluronic acid,
which is 100% naturally occurring in the body,
so were not introducing foreign substances
that are in any way harmful to the skin.
IF YOU SAID NO
TO HANDLIFTS
BUT WOULD LIKE
TO REJUVENATE
YOUR HANDS, TRY
SKIN NEEDLING
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WHITE GOLD WORTH R66 500,
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Show
Off
Your Bling
Because hands and nails that
havent been cared for will take
the shine o your sparkler
Party
Polish
Art Class
Chi Chi designed these two cute manis for our COSMO
brides-to-be. You want your ring to be the focus, so you
dont want nails that are too busy, she says.
2 COLOUR SCHEME
Shades that match or are
slightly darker or lighter will
be the most attering. Think
lilac nails with your violet
engagement-party dress.
3 CLASSIC NUDES Neutrals
are always a safe, classy choice
nudes and light pinks look
gorgeous on long, oval nails.
Gosh Nail
Lacquer (R79)
Silk with CK
One Long Wear
+ Shine Nail
Colour (R145)
Point Blanc
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COSMOFiance Files
How
TO STOP
This
FROM
Splitting
YOU UP
One ring and four words can
either take your relationship to
the next stage or end it forever.
By Natalie Blenford
WARNING
SIGN #1
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Six months later, she nally admitted
her anc wasnt the one she wanted
to spend her life with. My decision to
say yes had been based on logic wed
been dating for ages and my parents
loved him, so I felt like I should. She
soon split from him for good. Looking
back, I knew when he proposed that
he wasnt the one, but I was attered
and I found myself agreeing to it.
WARNING
SIGN #2
Im so over you
But I do like this
picture of myself!
P H O TO G R A P H Y G E T T Y I M A G E S/G A L LO I M A G E S * N A M E H A S B E E N C H A N G E D
WARNING
SIGN #3
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How
to Keep a
on It
COMMUNICATE
Make sure youre on the same page about why
youre getting married. If he wont talk about
the wedding and youre worried, say something
casual but to the point, such as, Its really funny
every time I talk about cupcakes, you switch
o. Are you bored of cupcakes or the idea of
marrying me? Perhaps the problem is the
wedding, not you he might want to elope
instead of tying the knot in front of 200 people.
Keep the communication going and hopefully
you can work those niggling doubts out.
DO A VALUE CHECK
Sometimes people have sex, fall in love, start a
relationship and, before you know it, its been six
years. But you havent stopped to admit, I hate
the way he fritters money away. These issues
will come into sharp focus once youre planning
a future. Keep an eye on your anger levels and
talk to him if your views dont seem aligned.
WARNING
SIGN #4
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HOW TO
Throw an
Party
ent
Personalise It!
Theme it
Pin it
Philippa Stewart of
The Perfect Proposal in
Cape Town advises hiring
a photographer but if the
budget is tight, create a
hashtag and ask guests to
share their pics on social
media. Theres also the
Wedding Party app your
mates can upload pics and
leave messages, which you
can download aerwards.
Deliriously
appy
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So Were Clear
to have a registry
Q Islistitfortackyan engagement
party?
party gives more opportunity to celebrate who you and your guy are. Try these:
Keep it
Give it
Eat it
Getting married
is expensive, so
dont blow the
entire budget on
the engagement
party, says
Stewart. Work
out a realistic
budget before
you decide what
kind of party
you want. The
size and style of
the celebration
will be dictated
by the budget.
Need help? Let
a party planner
take care of the
details while you
focus on popping
the bubbly they
can make sure
that you get the
most zz for
your nance.
WIN!
Bywordofmouth.co.za and
Theperfectproposal.co.za.
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on wood
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FASHION ASSISTANTS
BRODI DEERE AND TARYN AZIZ
FASHION INTERN SARIN DREW
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HAIR KEVIN EPSTEIN
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cape with leggings
to elongate and show
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Jersey R299, Truworths.
Cape R1 000, Oaktree at
Stuttafords. Leggings R275,
Blue Bay. Earrings R60, Mr
Price. Shoes R1 650, Castelo
THE
CROPPED
TOP
Showing a little
bit of skin can
be irty but still
sophisticated.
Plus, pairing
a neo-sculpted
cropped top
with a highwaisted skirt
will magically
cinch your waist.
Top R599, Zara.
Skirt R829, Topshop.
Earrings R60, Mr Price.
Watch R3 299, Marc
Jacobs at American
Swiss. Gloves R189,
Aldo. Socks R49,99,
Woolworths. Shoes
R499, Truworths
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COAT
Wear it boxy or
belted, day or night,
patterned or solid.
This piece will add
a luxe factor.
Dress R1 000, Mink
Pink at Stuttafords.
Coat R1 500, Sel.
Earrings R60, Mr Price.
Belt R499, Blue Bay
THE WIDE
LEGGED
TROUSERS
The shape may be wide
but it will denitely
make your legs look
longer and leaner.
Top R439, Zara. Trousers
R2 500, Klk/CGDT.
Earrings R60, Mr Price.
Boots R799, Zoom
THE
COCOON
DRESS
With its sculpted
shoulder shape,
the cocoon dress
is a chic way to
rock a erce
runway look.
Dress R680, Sel.
Earrings R60, Mr
Price. Bangles R85
each and cu R1 750,
all Lulu Belle. Shoes
R1 650, Castelo
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DOUBLE
BREASTED
BLAZER
The double-breasted
blazer is a great addition
to any modern capsule
wardrobe. Worn with
an abstract-print mini
or tailored trousers,
it will take your look
to the next level.
Dress R759, Zara. Blazer
R850, Mango. Earrings
R60, Mr Price. Watch
R2 899, Marc Jacobs
at American Swiss
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SKIRT
Power to the pleat!
Whether youre going
mini, midi or maxi, this
retro style will add a
modern twist to your
working-girl wardrobe.
Top R620, Sel. Skirt R1 300,
Pringle at Stuttafords. Earrings
R60, Mr Price. Bag R1 700,
Pauls Boutique at Stuttafords.
Shoes R1 650, Castelo
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THE
CULOTTES
Culottes are ocially
the new must-have
pants. Wear with
heels for a look
that is sophisticated
and fashion-forward.
White shirt R79, Jet.
Striped top R350, Sissy
Boy. Earrings R60, Mr
Price. Necklaces R500
each, Pichulik. Belt R400,
Mari And Me. Socks R59,
Topshop. Shoes R1 499,
Nine West
Help!
Rehab!
Some everyday things you do
could be doing you a lot of damage.
This is your fix-and-recharge plan!
BY MARTA TOPRAN
Beauty | Fixes
So you havent had eight
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So you
heat-styled the
hell out of your hair
Every time you hit hair with heat
(from a blow-dryer, curling iron,
straightener or set of hot rollers)
and especially if you do it more
than once a day you suck
moisture out of the strands and
deplete their protein structure
and supply. Todays tools can
get very hot, so dryness and
damage are common, says
celebrity stylist Theodore Leaf.
REHAB PLAN Every Sunday for ve
tools
canHairstyling
get very hot, so
So you
live in heels
The two main gripes from
killer kicks: soreness on the
balls of the feet (where weight
tends to concentrate), and
calluses caused by too-tight
straps and ill-tting shoes.
REHAB PLAN Relieve soreness
by soaking feet in an Epsomsalts bath for 10 minutes, then
massaging them, says Tracylee.
Soften rough spots by moisturising
before bed.
Eucerin Intensive Foot Cream (R115)
Beauty | Fixes
So you got sunburnt on
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109
Look Hot
with a Hangover
These tricks from Tim Quinn, makeup artist at Giorgio Armani Beauty, are
even better the morning aer than a bacon-egg-and-cheese toastie. For real!
BY LONI ALBERT
1
2
3
4
To start
Next up
Almost done!
POST-RAGER ERASERS
1 Refresh Apply a chilled, hydrating paper
mask theyre more concentrated than
regular masks. Try Skin Republic CoQ10
+ Caviar Face Mask (R36,99).
2 Reduce red Use eye drops; close eyes
for 30 seconds to let the formula absorb.
Our fave: Similasan Dry Eye Relief Eye
Drops (R91,90 at Healthcart.co.za).
3 Conceal Neutralise undereye shadows
with a pink-based concealer along
undereye bones, and blend upwards
towards the lash line.
4 Brighten Trace the lower inner rims
of the eyes with nude eyeliner.
REFRESH
REDUCE RED
CONCEAL
BRIGHTEN
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BRIGHT IDEA
Orange crush
Flirty fuchsia
Red hot
B
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Apply lipstick,
blot and repeat for
colour that lasts
all day.
Finishing touches
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MANI
FIQUE!
Keen to nd out
everything about the
latest manis and pedis,
excited readers joined
COSMOs Polished
workshops, sponsored
by Revlon, at the Protea
Hotel Fire & Ice Melrose
Arch and African Pride
15 on Orange hotel in
Cape Town. Aer a fab
champagne breakfast,
leading nail artist Chi
Chi introduced the girls
to three of this seasons
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VISIT
TO SEE ALL
THE PICS!
CLOCKWISE
FROM TOP LEFT
Gina Bolani and Akhona Tsube;
delicious treats at the Chic
Sugar candy station; the COSMO
mani cam; nail art in progress;
nail guru Chi Chi demonstrates
the techniques on a reader;
amazing Revlon goodie bags;
Diana Kekana and Pamela Nyoni
COSMOPOLITAN.
CO.ZA
Fun, Fearless
Nail Your
Workout
with These
Gymming Undies
Because the wrong ones
can be pure torture
WE HEART HIPSTERS
Superso, stretch-cotton Brazilians sit low
on the legs, oering mid-cheek coverage.
Their best feature is the at, elastic edging
that prevents them riding up and digging
into your skin. (R160, Triumph)
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BIKINI HEROES
These mid-rise bikini briefs are made
of 95% cotton and ve percent elastine,
and sit low on the hips. No-one will know
youre wearing them! (R89, Cotton On)
SHORTS ROCK
These short briefs are made from an ultracomfortable, seam-free fabric, and have a
100%-cotton gusset lining. The light fabric
ensures you stay cool and dry during your
workout. (R160, Triumph)
Yeah, no,
dont put me down
for cardio
Finding
Peace
Obsessing about weight is so
common, it feels normal. But
how much better would your
life be if you werent beating
yourself up about not being
a size 34? By Susan Hayden
COSMOPOLITAN.CO.ZA
hen Zola
Mlalazi, a
24-year-old
Cape Town
ne-arts
student, wakes up, her rst
thought is not what time her
lecture starts or whether or not
shell be seeing her boyfriend
later. Its what she ate the day
before. If it was a good day
and she stuck to lean protein
and salad, shes happy, and
looks forward to getting on the
scale and being reassured that
her weight is under control. But
if it was a bad day she went
home for supper and couldnt
resist a second helping of
her moms lamb stew with
pot bread, and accepted the
chocolate that was doing
the rounds her hand goes
directly to her thighs, where
shes convinced the extra
kilojoules are already showing.
To the outside world, this talented,
introspective and extremely pretty
young woman has a beautiful body
with curves in all the right places.
For Mlalazi, that body is the focus of
an intense, emotionally exhausting
battle she wages daily, as she ghts
the genes that dictate that, while she
can be strong and well-proportioned,
shell never be skinny.
Sometimes I think if I took all the
energy I use on trying to be thin and
focused it on my art or a good cause,
I could achieve so much more, she
says. But I cant. I cant let go of the
notion that I have to be thinner than
I am. Sometimes I get there and Im
happy, even though Im hungry. Then
I put the weight back on and I hate
myself. Like now.
Body-loathing is rife
COSMOPOLITAN.CO.ZA
We hang on to the
erroneous belief
that thin equals
happy but thin
equals nothing.
Its just thin
Imagine how much more fun life
would be if, instead of living in
constant dissatisfaction, we could
celebrate the sexiness of a rounded
tummy and the beautifully feminine
curves of womanly hips and a goodsized bum. And how liberating it
would be if, when invited to a special
event, we didnt immediately start
plotting how to drop three kilos,
and feel hungry and deprived so
wed look perfect on the night
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Voluptuous is sexy
PHOTOGRAPHY INPRA
8 REASONS
TO PUT YOUR
EGGS ON ICE
A baby may be the last thing on your
mind right now but heres why you
should freeze your eggs soon
Even though youre more in career-girl or
party mode, heres what you need to know
if you ever want to be a yummy mummy.
1 Age matters
Eggs in a basket
Perfect doesnt
just fall into place
5 Mathematics
7 Reality check
the
8 Beat
biological clock
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