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How To Unleash The Hidden Power Of Language To Attract Any Girl You Like!
Copyright Stephan Erdman | www.tooshytodate.com
www.pimpyourlingo.com
Hi...
Its Stephan here.
Do you know Dave?
Dave is a guy that has learned to speak like everyone else.
And when he meets people he talks to them as best as he can and hopes
that people will find whatever he says interesting and who knows...
...entertaining.
After all thats what it is about right?
In general that seems to be working fine for Dave. Because with most people
there isnt much at stake...
And all the while there that churning sensation in his stomach crushes his
lungs...
This really is a hot button for many men. Because nothing crushes our confidence more than feeling helpless.
And its ok to feel helpless about ballet or mathematics...but talking???
No way. We think we should be able to do it.
But then I remembered that over the years much of my growing confidence
and ability to attract and interact with girls came not just from working on my
body language and attitude...but much of my progress came when I was introduced to the amazing power of language, words, phrases, questions, answers and all the other aspects language contains.
And when I am talking about power I dont just mean their power to make
other people like me or not but also their power to influence me in a good or
bad way.
And of course our confidence, body language and even the way our voice
sounds (believe it or not) depends just as much on how comfortable we are
with what we are saying or how we are leading the conversation.
You see the truth is:
if speaking to girls scares the shit out of you because you are always
worried about running out of stuff to say,
if the whole subject of words is just a big blob with no distinctive features in your mind...
...then knowing this will ruin your confidence and sense of control, which in
turn will affect your body language and voice confidence.
Right.
One last thing: Before I let you in on the great principles and secret ninja
lingo techniques of great communicators (and evil dictators, hypnotists, politicians etc..) I need to ask you one big question that is slightly bigger
picture...but super important. Because it will underscore everything I will
share with you straight after.
Here is the Nr.1 Question Id like you to answer right now:
Connection Factors
Understanding and using these principles will make you a great
compelling communicator with ANYONE (MEN AND WOMEN) that
doesnt need to feel worried about freezing up ever again.
If you have never come across the term rapport before... wikipedia explains it like this:
Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of
unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being "in sync" with, or being "on the same wavelength" as the person
with whom you are talking.
When was the last time you noticed that a person was completely in sync
with you?
Look around you. Couples in love with each other often show all the signs
of rapport, which include body language matching, voice tone matching,
even a similarity of breathing rhythm, and true listening to each other and
picking up of words and phrases without any conscious awareness of it.
Knowing these techniques enables you to create a setting for all of these
factors to appear..
Of course you will need to get used to weaving them into your conversation as it makes sense. So I will teach you how to do this effortlessly and
elegantly.
70-30 Principle
Less is often more when it comes to talking. By Learning to stop trying to
impress girls by talking too much and instead aim for talking no more than
30% of the time. Its far better and easier to find out interesting things
about someone else than trying to make yourself sound interesting. And a
lot of other useful stuff happens too when you do this which you will find
out about...which I will reveal to you...
Softeners
Well..think of softeners as the oil that keeps the engine running smoothly
...if you dont mind the industrial metaphor. The thing is...softeners are
small phrases that you use as a preamble or a afterthought to your main
sentence. And I guess I should tell you...this enhances the flow of the
conversation, makes it possible to create intrigue when used right, and
frames your thoughts and questions elegantly as i am sure you have just
noticed when reading this paragraph...(you probably noticed already...I
just gave you a number of examples ;-))
Attraction Amplifiers
Attraction Amplifiers are specific principles that work especially with
women to...you guessed it...amplify attraction!
Messing with Rapport
Rapport is the solid foundation of any kind of effective communication with
anyone. But its important not to be a slave to it.
To amplify attraction it can be amazing when you learn to play with it,
mess with it, and break it up by playfully breaking it. There are many ways
of doing this for example ignoring a question, turning questions around,
confounding expectations, changing the subject, ignoring her temporarily...
Keyword twisting also makes any interaction fun and truly amps up attraction. (more on that below)
Values/Belief elicitation questions..if you do this well girls will melt and
feel like they have got to know YOU well(despite the fact that you just got to
know them on a deep level)
Sensoric Language
We become alive when our senses are stimulated. If you can use words
that stimulate someones senses of vision, sound, feeling, smell or taste
they will connect with you easily and feel more alive without being consciously aware of why that is. But they know it is with you that they feel
these things.
Words women feel
There are words (especially verbs) that can be described as physical
because they are dynamic and when we hear them (especially women of
course) we can get a sensation of them in our bodies. Learn to use such
words instead of your everyday common words and make a girl feel what
you say.
Leaving gaps
Learn about the psychological principles of missing information. This technique is used widely in marketing and advertising because it works on everyone. Leaving gaps in a story is a great way of building intrigue, interest
and anticipation... Many guys are telling all in one go and dont give the girl
anything to do. This is boring and compliant. And a big mistake.
Twisted Softeners
These are softeners as mentioned before but with a twist. So how could
you use softeners as a way to tease, flirt, amplify attraction? All will be
revealed...
You can see how I cant explain all the principles in detail in a report you
are meant to be able to read in half an hour...but I want you to be able to
get going right now so here is a great great technique to turn any conversation into a bonding exercise.
Here is how to do Keyword Backtracking:
When you talk to a girl or to anyone start noticing what the keywords are
in their sentence. There will usually be a word in a sentence that is
slightly more important. (To be honest once you have played around with
this for a while..you will not need any effort to look for the keyword. Youll
just feel it. Also bear in mind...you can pick up any word you want and
weave it into your response...using the keyword is simply an added bonus)
Listening to a girl and picking up the keyword or even another word and
quoting it back is a great way of making her feel that you are listening and
truly picking up what she is saying. You may ask: Why should I have to
make her feel that I am listening if I am listening anyway?
The problem is this: Often people listen to something someone else
says..but because they dont pick anything up or refer to it when they chip
in the other person doesnt think that they listened. Honestly it matters. A
lot. People like to feel that other people listen to them. Women LOVE to
feel that you are listening to them. (This is also great because this technique actually keeps you from getting nervous because it draws your focus on what she is saying, cool or what?)
You can use it to be playful and have fun with her...here is an example of
picking up different parts of the sentence:
Her: ... So I kicked him in the balls and that was that..he wont be back
knocking at my door soon
You: Knocking? Breaking it down is more likely. With the police behind
him!
or Kicked him in the balls?!
or That was that?? So everyone the postman brings you a love letter from
an ex you assault him?!
or whatever. Playfulness is huge when talking with girls.
By the way:
When you have fun with a woman she is likely to be having a good time. (I
know this sounds BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS but how many times do you see
guys working visibly HARD to make a girl have a good time and achieving the opposite?)
The other way of using this principle in a way that it amplifies attraction
even more is:
The point is to listen, notice what word that sticks out that you want to
pick up or twist ideally the keyword of the sentence (which is the one
she stressed) and then use it to do something with it with the keyword
backtracking to deepen rapport, move conversation on and make her feel
understood and listened to and with the keyword twisting to amplify the attraction through teasing, playful picking up of stuff she says.
Ok Start TODAY.
Start listening to which words people put a stress on. Which they point up.
And play around with picking them up and either feed them back, or twist
them to playfully move the conversation forward.
Start practising on Instant Messengers with friends. This is a great playground to try out new stuff.
You will notice how much more people will react and tell you...because
they hear YOU use THEIR words...and people just feel you know them
well.
Do this with people at your supermarket. Checkout Girls usually almost fall
off their chair because they are not used to people actually listening to
them and quoting something back or picking something up they said.
Experiment and have fun..with anyone!
Once you get a feel for it and you have started to do it intuitively make it a
part of your new pimped Communication skills.
Watch out for my next email where I will explain another key concept to
you in detail so that you can start using it the same day to get dates and
dazzle women with your effortless smooth style.
You can become a master of language!
And you have just taken the first step..
Enjoy the process,
Stephan
PS: I recommend you print this report and read it several times to really take in the principles I have shared!