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Dedication
This Ask and Receive manual is dedicated to the members of our amazing
Therapist Group who have inspired us. Their love, appreciation and total
support has made this process possible. They have been the guinea pigs
for every variation and nuance of its development.
We thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
For Tom, this group has been a dream come true.
For Sandi, the group represented a community of unconditional love and
support when she most needed it.
Our love and gratitude,
Sandi & Tom
Pictured: Tara, Bonnie, Marie, Barbara, Tom, Sandi, Pam & Ellen
Not pictured: Chris
Copyright 2009, ASK & RECEIVE, Altaffer & Radomski
www.askandreceive.org
Disclaimer
This manual is presented to healthcare providers for educational and
research purposes. It is not intended to replace medical care. There is no
guarantee that these treatments will perform as discussed. Negative side
effects of these treatments are not documented. However, there is no
assurance that there will be no negative side effects for your patients. Any
consequences of the use of these techniques are the responsibility of the
individual. The procedures presented are not intended to diagnose, treat
or prevent any disease.
Table of Contents
Stumbling into the Light ...............................................6
What is Ask & Receive? ..............................................8
How Does it Work? ......................................................8
What is Muscle Testing .............................................10
Muscle Testing Instructions .......................................14
Working With Another Person ...................................16
Mechanics of Self Muscle Testing..........................18
O-Ring Test
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Calibration Exercise 1 ............................................19
Calibration Exercise 2 ............................................20
Calibration Exercise 3 ............................................22
Muscle Testing Summary ......................................23
Ask & Receive: The Underlying Principles ................24
If you arent your personality who are you? ...........25
The A & R Process ....................................................26
Using A&R to treat Physical issues ...........................33
Using A&R to treat Neurological Issues .....................38
Using A&R to treat Psychological Issues. ..................40
God is all there is. Everything else is perceptual error ........46
Limiting Beliefs ...49
Ego Development ......................................................51
Some Facts about Ego Development ....................52
STAGE 1
53
STAGE 2
54
STAGE 3
54
STAGE 4
55
STAGE 5
55
STAGE 6
55
STAGE 7
55
Ego Development
STAGE 8 56
Concluding Thoughts .................................................64
Appendix A - Stages of Ego Development ..................... 66
Appendix B - A & R Process ........................................68
Appendix C - Learning the Lesson of Your Symptoms ...72
Appendix D - Positive Beliefs that Encourage Freedom . 73
Appendix E - Testimonials .........................................74
Products and Services 77
References. 80
extremely flexible. Our existential leap into the Ask & Receive procedure
grew out of a combination of Toms Higher States Therapy along with
Sandis Allergy Antidotes. Higher States helps to shift the client into very
high levels of consciousness from which they have access to information
not available in normal awareness. Allergy Antidotes uses muscle testing
to find and heal the bodys defensive reaction to the environment at levels
that are typically below the level of conscious awareness. Using both of
these approaches we were able to more fully develop A&R as well as
discover some important guiding principles of consciousness
development.
As we were excitedly showing A&R to our friends and co-workers we were
asked to share it with some families who had kids with autism. It was
pointed out that if it worked, this technique would be perfect for this difficult
population because of its ease of use and minimal dependence on
language. We have been gratified to see so many families embrace the
concept and use it to help their children. In return, we have been
privileged to be shown a window into a profoundly different experience of
reality (which we call autism) that has helped shed light on how all of us
create the worlds in which we live.
We have gone on to use A&R to treat physical issues such as allergies,
sensitivities, pain, and arthritis. We have used it to treat neurological
issues such as sensory perception, autoimmune discrimination, and
perceptions of threat or safety. And we have used it for psychological
issues such as trauma and limiting beliefs. A&R has taught us that we are
only limited by our own imagination and willingness to surrender our pain
and expectation. We do more harm by not asking for enough than by
asking too much.
Ask & Receive is truly an evolution and combination of various concepts.
It includes Energy Psychology protocols of holding a thought or substance
in our energy field. It incorporates muscle testing as a way to identify
problems & check for clearing. Higher States gives us access to answers
that are otherwise unavailable, and concepts of self development of self
help to utilize these techniques to effect changes in our behaviors. We
can see how early problems in development of self causes more obstacles
later. Getting off track at a very early age causes more disruption from
reality then later trauma.
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In Ask & Receive we are directly asking a part of our larger Being to do
the healing. Our Being refers to the expression of self which is bigger,
higher, with a broader perspective. It is based on the concept that our
Being is vastly greater and more powerful than we are aware. It is based
on the belief that the higher, broader part of yourself always has the
answer to your question. Ask & Receive looks beyond the ego or
personality for the solution. Beyond each man in a fashion continues with
him there exist a larger power which is friendly to him and to his ideals.
William James.
Ask & Receive is all about asking for what you want and then receiving it.
1.
Identify what you want.
2.
Believe it is possible to have what you want.
3.
Realize you deserve to have what you want.
4.
Know that there is a part of your Being that knows
how to get it.
It is about having your dreams come true.
Before jumping right into the meat of the A&R process, it is important to
take a moment to acquaint you with some background on how and why
the process works.
A&R is based on a fairly complex understanding of the nature of
consciousness. Essentially, we are not singular personalities. Our
apparent self identity is based on an illusion composed of our attention,
habit, and the human tendency to personalize experience.
Instead, we are composed of many fragments, or parts, that exist in
relationship to each other within the Self. These parts exist at varying
levels of complexity. Some of these parts are accessible to consciousness
while others arent. Some of these parts have access to language while
others dont. Some of these are focused on physical functioning such as
maintaining heart rate or blood pressure while others are perceptual or
belief sets which structure and filter experience.
These parts exist in relationship to each other as well as in relationship
with the environment. They are often not conscious and largely invisible to
the individual who continues to believe he or she is a singular
personality.
Your Being is
vastly greater
and more
powerful than
you think.
These parts are often not integrated within the individual and
frequently in conflict, directing thoughts, emotions, and
behaviors in opposing ways. These parts can also be
perceived from various perspectives that provide differing
levels of complexity. Changing the perspective changes the
meaning of the perception. All this complexity results in a great deal of
confusion and bad communication within the individual. This leads us to
want one thing and do another, to hurt those we love and to engage in
out-of-control behavior.
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Arm Deltoid
Self Test
Traditional muscle testing requires two people: one subject and one tester.
The subject typically extends an arm out from his side while the tester
presses down "challenging" the muscle. In doing so the tester learns to
feel the difference in muscle tension between congruent and incongruent
states. Most testers describe a congruent state as "strong" or "resilient",
and an incongruent state as testing "weak" or "mushy". Most subjects
describe that it is easy to hold their arms against pressure in the
congruent state but difficult to impossible in the incongruent state.
Dr. Diamond discovered that many things can put someone in an
incongruent state. Exposure to allergens or toxins for example will make
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someone test "weak". This can be true even for very subtle toxins which
the person does not consciously notice such as fluorescent lighting or
pesticides on an apple. Other types of congruence vs. incongruence
include telling the truth vs. a lie, or thinking about a negative event or
emotion vs. thinking about a loved one or positive event.
Because of its broad applicability, ease of use, and portability, muscle
testing is fast becoming a preferred "projective measure" for many
psychotherapists. Psychotherapy has long sought such tools.
Psychoanalysis traditionally used dream interpretation and word
association. Gestalt therapy used another form of dream interpretation
and dissociative techniques. Hypnosis used ideomotor reflex, and the
field of psychology in general developed a range of "projective" tests such
as the Rorschach and Thematic Aspersion Test. The intention behind all
of these techniques and tests is to tap into information that is generally out
of consciousness.
Useful as all of these techniques can be to the trained practitioner, they
have all been criticized as being unreliable or reflecting the prejudice or
world view of the interpreter. Muscle testing is another projective test, and
like the others, it has also been accused of being unreliable or too easily
influenced by the wishes or expectations of the client or practitioner. In
experienced hands however, it can be a very useful tool, especially when
used in ways that can be independently validated. This tutorial will not only
teach you the mechanics of muscle testing but, how to use A & R to
quickly find and resolve your blocks to reliable testing. While the
mechanics are easy to learn, refining the process and becoming adept will
take time and a willingness to explore your own limiting beliefs.
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1. Have the person being tested put arm out to side parallel to the
floor with elbow straight.
2. Test on side of person with one hand on wrist and one hand on
shoulder.
3. Test with 2 fingers, 2 pounds of pressure for 2 seconds.
4. Use consistent, steady pressure.
5. Have an objective attitude keep mind clear of expectations
6. Explain this is not a fighting match it is a way to get information
that would otherwise be unavailable.
Strong
Weak
Think:
Think:
of something wonderful
of something terrible
Strong
Weak
Think:
Think:
Strong
Weak
Say:
Say:
yes
no
Strong
Weak
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During the Ask & Receive procedure if you begin to get unusual muscle
testing responses, merely return to the 4 questions to calibrate again.
This is the general approach to muscle testing. This will give you a
positive or negative (yes / no) response for anything you wish to ask the
body. As you are gaining experience with this process it is useful to work
with a subject (or with Self Muscle Testing) and work through the various
calibration exercises listed below.
Now that you have this basic understanding of Muscle Testing you may
choose to continue reading about how to muscle test yourself, or skip
forward to the calibration exercises.
In performing the calibration
exercises it may be necessary to use A & R to resolve limiting beliefs or
conflicts. If this happens, feel free to skip forward to the sections on the A
& R procedure.
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CALIBRATION EXERCISE 1
Once you have a good sense of how much pressure to apply, begin by
asking yourself (or your subject) simple questions to which you already
know the answer, then testing. For example make the statement "My
name is (correct name)" and test, "My name is (incorrect name)" and test.
You should notice that your fingers remain strong on the correct statement
and break apart on the incorrect statement. Try this a few times and keep
track of your results.
Many people initially experience trouble with
this first stage of calibration. They find that
There are
they cannot discriminate the difference, or the
results are reversed (holding strong on the
parts of my
false statement and weak on the true one).
being that
Problems in discrimination can generally be
know how to
corrected by resolving limiting beliefs you hold
muscle test
about yourself or the process. Luckily at this
correctly
stage you do not need to know specifically
what they are, only that you have them. If you
are experiencing problems with discrimination,
focus your attention on the problem and target
it with A & R. You may need to repeat this treatment until discrimination
becomes easier
If your muscle testing appears to be reversed (you consistently test strong
on false statements and weak on true statements) it indicates that your
system is currently under stress from toxins. You can temporarily treat
yourself for this effect by focusing your attention on eliminating this
problem and performing A & R (see the steps for A&R in later sections).
You may need to do this several times until the problem is corrected.
Check regularly to see if this problem returns. If it, does re-treat.
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As you investigate this process, test yourself in many areas of your life in
which you already know the answer, such as:
Your address. "I live at 322 W. Acorn Dr." test, "I don't live at 322 W. Acorn Dr."
The State in which you live. "I live in New Jersey" test, "I don't live in New
Jersey"
The names of your children.
Anything else about which you already know the answer.
Keep track of your responses. Continue to check and treat as above until your
response rate is at or near 100%.
CALIBRATION EXERCISE 2
Now for the fun stuff. In order to be confident about your testing you now
need to begin testing yourself for things about which you do not know the
answer but which can be verified. This part of muscle testing can be hard
to learn and may require some perseverance. To begin this process take a
coin and toss it. Without looking at the coin, test whether it is heads or
tails. Do this by making statements and testing them: "the coin is a heads"
test, "the coin is a tails" test. Do these 10 times and write the results down
on a piece of paper. If your results were random you would have
approximately 5 correct and 5 incorrect tests. If you have dramatically
more or less correct you can begin to suspect some influence is being
reflected in your testing. Your testing will reflect either random results (4 to
6 correct), poor results (0 to 3 correct) or good results (7 to 10 correct).
This test can be repeated as often as you like in order to ensure the
results are reliable.
If the results you obtained were poor, remember that this is as unlikely as
getting good results. You are getting a reversed test about the results of
the coin flip. The reason for this is likely to be limiting beliefs you hold
about your ability to muscle test or the efficacy of muscle testing. The
same is true if your results appear random. There is a part of yourself
which is blocking a correct reading of the coin flip.
You can treat yourself for this with A & R: Muscle test yourself on the
following statements (and their opposites) in order to discover where the
blocks might lie.
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Positive Statement
I am competent at self muscle
testing.
I am able to test for coin flips
reliably.
It is possible to know information
which is not in my conscious mind.
It is OK to know this information.
I can do this consistently and
reliably.
I will do this consistently and
reliably.
Negative Statement
I am not competent at self muscle
testing
I am not able to test for coin flips
reliably.
It is not possible to know information
which is not in my conscious mind.
It is not OK to know this information.
I cannot do this consistently and
reliably.
I will not do this consistently and
reliably.
Whenever you test weak on the positive statement and/or strong on the
negative treat yourself with A & R until you test strong on the positive
statement and weak on the negative. Do this for the entire list, then do the
coin flipping exercise again and write down your results. Look for change.
Did it get worse, better or remain the same? If your testing is still poor to
average, test the following statements:
Positive Statement
I want to muscle test accurately on
myself every time I test for anything.
I will be able to learn this technique.
I am smart enough to do this.
I deserve such elegant help.
Muscle testing does work.
This is an effective means of testing.
This is not too weird for me
Negative Statement
I do not want to muscle test accurately
on myself every time I test for anything.
I will never be able to learn this
technique.
I am not smart enough to do this.
I don't deserve such elegant help.
Muscle testing does not work.
This is not an effective means of testing.
This is just too weird for me.
Whenever you test weak on the positive statement and strong on the
negative treat yourself with A & R until you test strong on the positive
statement and weak on the negative. Do this for the entire list, then do the
coin flipping exercise again and write down your results. Look for change.
Typically your testing should have improved significantly by this time so
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that you can reliably achieve 7 to 10 out of 10 correct. If not, there are
likely to be even deeper blocks for which you should enlist the aid of a
person who is trained in the A & R protocol.
If you are achieving 7 to 9 out of 10 correct in your muscle testing you can
continue to work to improve this over time. Do this coin flipping exercise
regularly and when you do not get a correct test treat yourself immediately
with A & R
You now know the accuracy of your testing for coin flips. If you reliably get
7 out of 10 then your reliability is 70%. This is pretty good. There are few
other projective tests which can even begin to approach such a number.
The trouble is that your accuracy in testing for coins may not reflect your
accuracy in testing for other information.
CALIBRATION EXERCISE 3
Muscle testing's greatest utility is in giving us information which is in our
mind but not conscious. The problem is that this information is often not
overtly confirmable. Our ability to derive this information with muscle
testing is generally better than for information which is not in our
awareness at all (such as coin toss results) but should still be calibrated
for. This exercise may take some inventiveness on your part. Lets begin
by muscle testing for, and treating, possible obvious blocks.
Positive Statement
I am competent at self muscle testing
for unconscious issues.
I am able to test for unconscious issues
reliably.
It is possible to know information
which is not in my conscious mind.
It is OK for me to know this
information.
I can do this consistently and reliably.
I will do this consistently and reliably.
Treat where necessary with A & R
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Negative Statement
I am not competent at self muscle testing
for unconscious issues.
I am not able to test for unconscious
issues reliably.
It is not possible to know information
which is not in my conscious mind.
It is not OK for me to know this
information.
I cannot do this consistently and reliably.
I will not do this consistently and reliably.
Now find things which are in your unconscious but not in your conscious
mind and test about them. For example, "I left my keys in the living room",
"I didn't". "I left my keys in the bedroom", "I didn't". Or "I put the cheese on
the second shelf in the refrigerator", "I didn't". "I put the cheese on the
third shelf", "I didn't". You can then go and confirm this information easily.
If you are incorrect then focus on whatever might have caused the
incorrect testing (you do not need to know this consciously) and treat
yourself with A & R You will probably find that your testing is less accurate
for factual information like where you left your keys than for emotional
information like "I will feel happy when my wife comes home", "I will not".
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When you watch little children play one might do or say something
to make another angry. That child will then cry, yell, hit, or run
away which will make the other child upset. Each child will believe that
he is the victim of the other. Their perceptions are telling them different
information about the same events.
As we mature our ability to adopt broader perspectives, that include others
and systems, can develop but they are still fundamentally limited by our
perceptual apparatus. We are built to look out rather than in.
Once we understand that virtually all experience is the product of our
perceptions, we discover its inherent power. Rather than trying
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The more
we do the
more we
discover
needs
treatment.
We have
to be
willing
to
receive
.
2.
3.
4.
POST TEST
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PURPOSE OF STATEMENT
Contacting parts of my
Being that knows the
answer
Confirm willingness to
receive answer
Confirm receiving
information
D. Information transfer is
complete.
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illnesses have some hereditary contribution. Genetics loads the gun and
the environment pulls the trigger.
Trauma causes the immune system to create smaller holes in the filters in
order to reject more and more substances out of a fear reaction. Trauma
triggers the body to react defensively to substances that had been
previously associated with danger, upset, fear or other crisis. However,
those substances were only suffering guilt by association while there is
nothing inherently dangerous about them.
There are many effective allergy/sensitivity treatments that have already
been developed. Sandi Radomski is an expert in using these techniques,
and offers treatment and training as well as instruction manuals for those
who wish a more complete understanding than is possible here.
Most allergy treatment is based on muscle testing as a means of finding
substances that are congruent or incongruent with the bodys energy
system. Typically this is done while the patient is holding a piece of the
substance, vial of the substance or at least thinking about the substance
to be treated. Where these therapies differ is in the technique of treatment
in which the limitation is resolved. Most of these techniques involve
clearing disruptions on the bodys energy meridians in a variety of ways.
A&R simplifies this process by isolating the offending substance in ways
similar to older techniques, but then simply asking there are parts of my
being that know how to heal my allergy to ___ with grace and ease (step 2
of A&R). In our experience it is rare to get a negative response to this
statement. Then simply completing the A&R process can have the effect
of resolving that specific sensitivity. Of course there can be many different
sensitivities and it is often useful to move through a whole protocol to find
and heal as many as possible.
For more information about this please see Allergy Antidotes Basic
Manual, 2004 by Sandi Radomski. ( http://www.allergyantidotes.com)
Another way to find and treat allergies is by what they are communicating.
Any imbalance that we hold communicates itself through us. This is a
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2)
3)
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What must
I believe
for this to
be true of
me?
If you have a physical problem or a life event as a focus you will have
feedback about your success in healing as the issue resolves itself. This
can be almost instantaneous or can happen slowly as you resolve its
components piece by piece.
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Ask, ask,
ask and
receive.
Neurological
Emotional
Neck Pain
Sensitivity to sound
Fears
Knee Pain
Fear of bugs
Headaches
Emotional Regulation
Anxiety
Sinus Infections
Guilt
Allergies to Foods
Anger
Allergies to Animals
Grief
Ask & Receive can be used to attain goals in many areas of our life. One
way to proceed is to identify what we want in each of the following
categories:
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POSITIVE DESIRES
1. Health
_____________________________________________________
2. Relationships
_____________________________________________________
3. Family
_____________________________________________________
4. Finances
_____________________________________________________
5. Work/ Career
_____________________________________________________
6. Recreation /
Relaxation____________________________________________
7. Spiritual
_____________________________________________________
Once a person identifies his or her desires in each of these areas, Ask &
Receive can be used to create resonance with it. Muscle testing will give
us access to any traumas or limiting beliefs that are blocking alignment.
These traumas or limiting beliefs should be treated with Ask & Receive
before attempting to treat the original affirmation.
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Birth
Birth to 10
10 - 20
20 - 30, etc.
When a time period is identified, muscle test for the specific year. Then
discuss what was going on during that time period. It is usually easy to
identify a specific trauma that corresponded with that time period. I am
constantly amazed with how relevant these traumas are to the issue being
treated. My hypothesis is that this trauma set up a specific pattern of
responding to the future situations in ones life. For example, a trauma
might have provoked fear that later inhibits a persons willingness to take
risks. That trauma needs to be defused in order to allow the person to
move forward in her life.
Perhaps the person had the cord around her neck or was stuck in the birth
canal. If so, aliveness would be associated with trauma & might be
frightening to the person.
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Old
Pyramid
of Self
New
Pyramid
of Self
Spirit is what we are but it takes physical form through the bodys
biological mechanisms. More than just our cells, nerves, bones and
organs, our biological nature is who we are. Our biology largely
determines our perceptual and motor mechanisms, our level of energy,
our basic emotional states and our basic relationship to the environment.
These biological components are then assembled and integrated through
our neurology in order to derive meaning and function within our perceived
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Self as Psychology
Because we are built to look outside of ourselves rather than within, and to
prioritize psychology over the other building blocks of self, we perceive
personality everywhere. From other people, to animals to cars and
computers, we perceive personality as the driving force behind behavior. If
my car breaks down I believe it did so on purpose. If your child
misbehaves I believe it is because he is rude or bad. If you do poorly on a
test I think you must be stupid. Psychology and personality become ways
of objectifying both ourselves and others.
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LIMITING BELIEFSOur early biological insults cause us to develop filters that affect our
sensory perception.
Our
Limiting
Beliefs
Filter Our
Perception
of the
World.
All of us hold hosts of these limiting beliefs. With our focus on psychology
these limiting beliefs are what we perceive as who we are. Because we
adopt most of these beliefs in childhood, we become used to them and
they become invisible to us. We no longer even recognize these beliefs as
our own, but instead we act in ways to either fight against the belief or
confirm it. The problem is that neither fighting nor confirming does
anything toward eliminating the belief. This is an area where A&R can be
very useful.
As people
develop they
become more
effective less
controlled by
external forces
& happier.
least a part of yourself that holds the belief. Dont argue with it, treat it.
Check: there are parts of my being that know how to heal my belief that I
am an idiot. Or, there are parts of my being that know that I am attractive
to others.
We hold many limiting beliefs, even contradictory ones like I am helpless
and I am responsible for what other people do. As we begin to use A&R
to treat these beliefs our perspectives begin to change and we begin to
notice that our environment no longer confirms our limiting beliefs in the
way it once did. Our energy begins to rise and we notice ourselves being
different. This rising awareness is another function of A&R, allowing us to
achieve larger, more complex perspectives on ourselves and the world
around us. As we let go of our limiting beliefs and the fears associated
with them we are free to evolve.
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EGO DEVELOPMENT
The Ego as it is understood in A&R is a spiritual / biological / neurological /
psychological construct. It represents the perspective of consciousness
assumed by an individual. There are many different theories of ego
development, often reducing it to stages of gradually increasing
complexity. As such, Ego is not synonymous with personality and is not a
direct reflection of intelligence, experience or spirituality. We like to think of
ego in functional terms. It is our window on experience and as such it
affects all of who we are. As people develop typically they become more
effective, less controlled by external forces and happier. Much of what
psychologists define as psychological disorders actually have to do with
problems in ego development in which a person (usually as a result of
trauma) becomes fixated at one of the earlier stages. This fixation can
cause devastating problems for the individual as well as for those who
care for them.
In A&R we consider shifts in ego development as the result of treating
traumas and limiting beliefs to be an important intended side effect. It is
only through developing the ego into the higher stages that A&R becomes
fully comprehensible.
We wont spend a great deal of time discussing ego development here,
but a cursory understanding can be very helpful to understanding how and
why we perceive the worlds we do. If you wish more information on ego
development, please consult the references at the end of this book.
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STAGE 2
Most infants quickly shift from here to the 2nd stage, that of All Self. All Self
begins with the emergence of the perceiver. Instead of being in
experience with no separation between self and other, perception begins
with this separation. Figure and ground, in and out come into being.
Attention begins with the abilty to selectively focus awareness.
Identification with the body begins.
The All Self stage is marked with recognition of duality. Good/bad,
hot/cold, etc. In this stage there are no shades of gray, no continuums. A
child in this stage either loves something or hates it. It is called All Self
because the child is not able to perceive anything other than self.
Thoughts, objects, and people are all self referential. In other words a
person is good if he does something the child likes and bad if he does
something the child dislikes. People, chairs and toys are owned and
valued depending on their perceived function or utility not because they
exist apriori.
Early in this stage language is unnecessary because the child cant grasp
the purpose of communicating since no one else exists. The children dont
feel responsible for their negative reactions because they dont
understand that others can have feelings. Because they are at such a
simplistic perspective, they are forced to try to understand all social
behavior as a complex of rules that seem to exist for no greater purpose.
The beginning of this stage is marked by people with autism and those
nearing the end of it by people with personality disorders. Normal children
typically move through this stage between 6 mos. to 3 years.
STAGE 3
The 3rd stage is marked by the gradual development of a concept of other
and the eventual ability to maintain a simultaneous sense of self and other
(often called 1st and 2nd person awareness). This ability to hold a sense of
self and other in awareness simultaneously allows for the arising of
compassion, and relationship which is not available in the lower stages.
No longer needing lists of rules to understand social convention, these
children can intuit correct social behavior in a dynamic fashion. Most
children have attained this stage by the time they start school, however
many on the autism spectrum (including ADHD and ADD) remain in stage
2 well into school.
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STAGE 4
The discovery of other allows for the arising of relationship. Stage 4 is
marked by the ability to observe ones own behavior and make changes.
This awareness is also called Witness position or 3 rd person awareness.
This ability to observe self is critical to emerging rational thought and
planning.
STAGE 5
Stage 5 is reached once the person is able to apply this 3 rd person
awareness across time into the past and future. This allows for functional
learning and planning. It is the highest conventional stage and the goal of
most contemporary societies.
STAGE 6
Stage 6 begins when the person starts to see the limitations of the stage 5
logic. In stage 5 the world is still extremely mechanistic with firm assumed
boundaries between the observer and the observed. Stage 6 is marked by
more relativistic understandings, that the observer has an influence on the
observed. This is a dynamic stage with a shift from a completely external
focus to a more internal one. It is in this stage and beyond that A&R
begins to make sense as the person learns to shift from external control to
internal understanding.
STAGE 7
Stage 7 is marked by the emergence of the Nth perspective. This is a nonego based perspective or understanding. The person becomes capable of
observing his or her own construct and discriminating his or her own ego.
At this stage boundaries between all things begin to break down as the
person understands that the sense of self is essentially arbitrary. The
dualistic nature which is so obvious in the earlier stages slide into
continuums and even continuums of continuums as all things become
relative. People at this stage are very free from the struggles of the earlier
stages, focusing largely on helping the planet and healing themselves of
left over trauma and limitations from their transition through the earlier
stages.
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STAGE 8
Stage 8 is the Unitive stage in which the person is able to return to the
experience of being in reality without ego. This stage is also called
enlightenment in some traditions. The person is ego informed but no
longer controlled by egoic perceptions. In many ways it is a return to the
expression of Being encountered in stage 1 but now it is informed by the
other perspectives, becoming a means to great personal freedom.
The importance of these stages to A&R is two fold. First, the stages allow
us to see how the level of a persons ego development informs their
biology, neurology and psychology to produce the life experience they
receive. Second it allows us to better understand where A&R fits in the
general evolution of self. The purpose of A&R is to help with both of these
areas. The action of using A&R has the effect of improving communication
between different parts, forcing us to realize that our being is much larger
and more powerful than we ever thought, that our ego is illusory and pain
producing, and that by treating traumas and limiting beliefs, our ties to
earlier stages is loosened. We are freed to move forward in our
development.
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ASK
1. (Tap side of hand, karate chop point, and say phrase 3 times)
There is a part of my being that knows how to ________.
2. (Tap inside of eyebrow points, 2 hands)
That part knows how to do this with ease & grace.
3. (Tap side of eyes points, 2 hands)
That part is willing to communicate this to the rest of me
right now, in the most gentle and loving way.
4. (Tap under eyes point, 2 hands)
My body, mind and spirit are receiving this information
now.
5. (Tap under nose point)
Visualize affirmation.
6. (Tap under chin point)
Visualize affirmation.
7. (Tap collarbone point, 2 hands)
Transfer of information is now complete, or soon will be.
8. (Tap thymus point, one or two hands)
And so I offer heartfelt thanks.
9. Continue tapping thymus point and say initial affirmation, 3 times.
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SUPPORTING RESEARCH
The following are various studies that support our Ask & Receive
techniques. Since Ask & Receive uses muscle testing extensively, it is
important to see it as a valid tool to gather information. Secondly we have
documentation of the effectiveness of prayer since Ask & Receive can be
considered structural prayer. Thirdly brain research documents our
contention that early trauma changes the development of the brain which
in turn changes perception.
These studies also show that prayer is non-local and that it functions at a
distance. These research findings document our findings that Ask &
Receive is effective for both face to face interaction and also on behalf of
another even at a distance.
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CONCLUDING THOUGHTS
Sandi and I feel excited, grateful and inspired by your interest in Ask and
Receive. There will always be people who will look at this process and
decide that it is not rational, overly simplistic and mumbo jumbo. In fact,
not so many years ago Sandi and I would have been among them. No one
sets out to be thought alternative but if like us you care about your
clients, about yourself and about change you wont let a little thing like that
stop you. This doesnt mean that we want you to let go of rationality, we
just want you to decide for yourself. These techniques and concepts are
easily testable in yourself and those around you. Try it on something, but
try it with respect for the latent power within you. Dont start by treating
your sexual abuse or your auto accident or war trauma. Start small until
you develop comfort and confidence in the process and your body
acclimatizes to the process. We have not seen any negative
consequences from using A&R but that doesnt mean there arent any yet
to be discovered. We have tried to design in a safeguard by asking that
each healing be done with grace and ease, but be respectful and careful.
We only wish good things for you!
Please feel free to contact us with thoughts, suggestions or testimonials at
our website at: http://www.allergyantidotes.com.
The name Ask & Receive grew out of our realization that this process
resembled the biblical quote Whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing,
ye shall receive. Matthew 21:22. Many other quotes from the bible
instruct us to merely ask for what we want. In the Sermon on the Mount,
Jesus says Ask and it will be given you, seek and you will find and knock
and it will be opened to you. If you do not have, you do not ask James
4:2.
Ask & Receive offers you an easy, concise, structured way to ask for what
you want clearly and directly. We have found that the main problem with
Ask & Receive is that we do not ask for enough. For Example, one
person who was tortured with insomnia, asked for being able to sleep 5
hours a night. Once achieved, he wondered why he had not asked for 7
hours of sleep a night. Another person asked to reduce pain in her
shoulder when in fact she really wanted to eliminate the pain entirely.
Again, Ask & Receive is a simple, yet profound process. It is a simple,
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easy fast way to reset the perceptual filters or our limiting beliefs that keep
us stuck in lower developmental levels.
Limiting beliefs are created from trauma in a similar way that allergies are
created. The body is protecting us but is using misguided information.
The truth of our wholeness, oneness and love is pushed away in the face
of trauma, fear and perceived danger to the organism. The body then
lives in alert mode, ever cognizant of the negative substance or statement,
criticism, or feared danger lurking. People with allergies can smell odors
that no one else can because of their over-vigilance. In turn, people with
limiting beliefs hear criticism, danger, harassment, rejection more than
others. In both instances, the body is finely tuned to guard for the invasion
of substances or insult. The reactions are fear based and keep people
stuck emotionally, physically and developmentally.
Ask & Receive is so simple and easy often people are not aware that it
rapidly removes limiting beliefs that have cut off your full perception of the
world. As the limiting beliefs melt away, we are free to move forward
developmentally to higher states of more joy, contentment and grace.
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APPENDIX B
PRE TEST
a. My body knows how to ___ (state what you want) or
b. Touch place of problem
Test :
1.
There are parts of my being that already know how to ____ with
grace and ease.
Test: If strong, go to 2.
If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.
2.
3.
4.
If strong, go to Post-Test.
If weak, investigate time to completion.
POST TEST
a. My body knows how to (state what you want).
or
b. Touch the place of the problem.
Test: If strong, you are complete.
If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.
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A part of my Being:
We often interchange parts of my being with there is a part of my being. Some
people respond better to one or the other.
There is a part of my Being that know how to ______ with grace and ease.
That part of my Being is will to inform the rest of me now.
My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.
Information transfer is complete.
A part of Being:
We have also conceptualized that there is a part of the larger Being that we are
all a part of that has the answers for us.
There is a part of Being that knows how to _______ with grace and ease.
That part of Being is willing to inform the rest of me now.
My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.
Information transfer is complete.
cont..
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APPENDIX C
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APPENDIX E
TESTIMONIALS
SURPRISING TESTIMONIAL FROM AUTISTIC TEEN
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Dear Sandi,
Ive never written a testimonial before not even sure of the spelling.
Four months ago I was diagnosed with stage three neck cancer which
started on my tonsils. I prepared for the worst. I wasnt afraid but
wasnt optimistic.
The first doctor I saw said I would need seven weeks of radiation
concurrent with three heavy doses of chemo. The second doctor at
closer inspection said it was more advanced and I would need an
additional three heavy doses of chemo at 21 day intervals before
starting the normal protocol and that I had only a 50% cure rate as
things stood and a lot of nasty side affects some permanent if I
survived.
I left the office like a dead man walking. A lot of friends and family
members began coming around with all sorts of advice. Herb
remedies wheatgrass emanas, volcanic water, baking soda and maple
syrup. I tried a bunch. One friend from Philly said I have a friend
who knows this woman that can cure you through EFT and magnetic
responses or something. I was not convinced but this friend said he
believed if his wife, who died of cancer recently had seen this woman
she would still be alive. They were talking about the strong emotional
component in cancer course and cure.
I totally got that because in examining my situation I realized that
something inside me had developed a pretty negative outlook over the
last few years and I also had some other issues over twenty years ago
that I still couldnt find a way to let go of. I made an appointment to
see this woman but she was way down in South Jersey and the whole
trip with the session would have taken something like seven hours
there and back and I didnt feel I had the energy.
We got in touch to talk with her about it and she said she could do the
whole thing over the phone. Really! I found it surprising. We kept
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the same appointment time but now everything was going to be over
the phone. Some of her technique I understood requires physical
evaluation as well as actual body work but she said she could
somehow do this from her office. This would be interesting. I called
and the session began. From the beginning I was in tears in fact I just
tear up remembering that feeling. The details are a bit murky now but
it had to do with me making statements and her somehow measuring
inner alignment of belief in what I was saying. Something like I
dont feel guilty about surviving the death of my dearest friend. She
would say that is weak try it again. At this point I would burst into
tears and when I could control my sobbing I would try again repeating
the statement. She would say it was still weak and I would cry some
more with her encouragement to forgive myself or something and at
some point she would say now its strong. I dont know what she was
doing at her end but she always seemed to know and my crying would
come down and subside.
This process went on right through the hour appointment into a
second hour. It got very intimate in the sense that I began to strip bare
emotionally and Sandi was right there comforting and encouraging as
more and more stuff poured out. We had to stop several times when I
couldnt speak through the tears. Then she would say now youre
strong on that and wed move on.
Toward the end of the second hour things started coming down. She
said you have been choked up about these things for years and you
can release and let them go and I noticed that all the discomfort and
stiffness in my neck was gone. The emotional component of my
illness was being healed. It felt very fresh and newborn, a clich but
true. I felt we both felt wed really been through something it was
deep & intimate I really opened myself and she opened no barriers on
either side.
I called Sandi a couple of days ago to say that after five weeks of what
was supposed to be a preliminary treatment of chemo and some on
drugs I was cancer free. Everybody was very surprised. The doctors
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are looking at my throat saying things like amazing with big smiles
on their faces.
When I was told my P.T. scan showed no cancer anywhere in the
body I began calling people and right after immediate friends and
family I thought of Sandi and when I had contacted for two and a half
months ago.
After our session Sandi said This is interesting What I said, I dont
know if I should say this I said go ahead well I am getting some
indicators that your cancer will be gone in two weeks, I took a little
longer than two weeks but even so!
I spoke with my cancer guide, the one who does research and protocol
with treatment and doctors, after we got the results of my cancer
negative P.T. scan and I talked about Sandi and the emotional side of
cancer treatment. My doctors have been great such caring and
supportive people.
But I want to acknowledge the importance of emotional therapy in the
treatment of cancer, its the other side of the equation.
Its so important also in why peoples cancer sometimes comes back
and kills them. That may have a lot to do with underlying unresolved
emotional issue.
In closing I just want to thank Sandi, again and again for her
compassion and insight in working with me.
I cant recommend her enough to anyone facing cancer or illness
because there truly is a mind body connection to these things.
Thank you again Sandi,
With much love and gratitude
Danny
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Dear Sandi,
Im the one you treated for allergy to water at Geelong Conference
Centre. Even though I was feeling good about being at the conference, I
was obviously pretty tired as within 10 minutes of you treating me I had
the most amazing surge of energy like a gerbra (a bright coloured proud
daisy-like flower - which I love) transforming from a weak soggystemmed, sad, faded & wilting lonely flower in a vase of stale water to a
strong-stemmed proud, happy & colourful specimen in bright light. I felt so
strong in myself, I did not have need for my walking stick for the rest of the
day.
I resorted to my walking stick the next day, but the free strong feeling
lasted for a week. Commitments & the pain of arthritis has depleted my
energy a bit, but I must admit, my deep joy has remained & will continue.
I am amazed at the number of people who have told me I look so well &
fresh - no matter how tired I might be. I can only put it down to your
complete healing of that water allergy & the resultant freedom of
spirit. Thanks again so much Sandi.
Rosie
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