Bonus Report

Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Justin Dean

Say Goodbye To
Loneliness
How To Meet, Attract
and Keep Great Men

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Justin Dean

Say Goodbye To
Loneliness
How To Meet, Attract
and Keep Great Men

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Our eBooks are designed to provide information

about the subject matter covered. They are sold
with the understanding that the authors and the
publisher are not engaged in rendering legal,
accounting, or other professional services. If legal
advice or other professional assistance is required,
the services of a competent professional person
should be sought.
Every effort has been made to make our eBooks as
complete and accurate as possible. However, there
may be mistakes both typographical and in
content. Therefore, the texts should be used only
as general guides and not as the ultimate sources of
the subject matters covered.
The authors and the publisher shall have neither
liability nor responsibility to any person or entity
with respect to any loss or damage caused or
alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by the
information covered in the eBooks.

Copyright 2011.
All rights reserved worldwide.
No part of this eBook may be copied or sold.

Cover Design based on an image by Bazaardesigns.com

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Contents
Body Language Basics .......................................................... 5
Female Body Language .......................................................... 10
Male Body Language ................................................................ 13
Dismissive Body Language ............................................... 16

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Body Language
Basics

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Body Language
Basics

hen talking about communication between men and

women, the consistently most used method is via the
interpretation of body language. Body language is the

most universal of languages. Certain gestures or physical acts

communicate different things. Often times, these gestures are far
more telling and communicative than even the most direct of
words. Consider all the movies that we see every, single day and
anytime there is that recurring storyline involving two characters
who do not speak the same language. They always manage a way
through direct or indirect body language to communicate. It is
cliche and meant to be adorable, but it is also just a standard,
plain and simple way to communicate.
It is a subject of dispute as to exactly how much body language we
use, but researchers estimate more that 60% of all communication
is derived from non-verbal communication. This means that body
language is, in fact, more effective and more a part of
communicating than all the words we say. That's quite
Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

substantial, obviously. So perhaps it would not be a bad idea to

consider what areas of our lives are most impacted by body
language.

Somewhere between rarely

and never, I presume, unless we are avid poker players.
But perhaps we should consider how such a widely used tool of
communication is impacting us. Think about everyone you
communicate with in a day. There are people at work, people at
school, close friends, acquaintances, mothers, fathers, sisters,

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

brothers, children and significant others. All of these people are

experience a good portion of our interaction in the form of body
language. This can have quite an impact on the state of these
relationships. I have a very good friend who loves her mother very
much and spends a great deal of time visiting or traveling with
her. It is without a shadow of a doubt that at some point during
their adventures and time together, one of them will get mad at
the other based on a severe use of body language.
They are both very emotional and physical creatures. They speak
volumes with body language, but they are both ridiculously
overdramatic, so they are constantly misinterpreting each other.
They refer to each others' action as "huffy and childish"
constantly. It is only ever short lived once they utilize their verbal
communication skills to hash out that neither of them intended to
convey "huffiness," so it is a fairly minimal situation, but it is
amazing how easily they can miscommunicate simply with
actions.
This is in nearly complete opposition with my sister and I who are
very in tune with each other's body language and with a great
accuracy are quite capable of minimal speech in most situations
and can strictly operate on body language if necessary. Now these
are two extremes in the world of body language. There is the
blatantly wrong interpretation of body language and there is the
accurate interpretation. Unfortunately, both happen with nearly
even frequency.
Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

So if body language is being frequently misinterpreted, what does

this mean about our ability to communicate? Well, it means that a
good deal of our communication is miscommunication and that
some of the things you are saying with your body language are not
what you are meaning to say and some of the things you are
reading from other people's body language is not what they are
meaning to say. Consider those moments when someone offers
you something and you politely decline, but they get it for you
anyway because you seemed like you really wanted it... Yes, you
are now tied down with a useless item that you sincerely didn't
want because your well played manners were misunderstood. Or
the girl or guy that you like wants to be "just friends" because they
did not understand your real intensions. As you can see, the
matter of deciphering body language is quite tricky.
So, we understand that interpreting body language isn't as easy as
it seems.

It could be quite a bit.

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Female Body
Language

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

10

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Female Body
Language

et's start with the realm of flirting and figure out what
signs we generally give off. Both men and woman have a
lot of things we give off as a sign of interest. A glance or a

look of interest is the easiest. Women do cute things like circle the
rim of our wine glass, twirling a pen, touching our shoulder or
neck. They send up flares with any light touch of a man. Men will
focus on a women, stand close to her and maybe even gently
touch the small of her back to show that they are interested. For
women, hair is a great weapon in the art of body language. If a
woman is interested in a man, she will play with her hair, tuck it
behind her ears, play with her bangs and wraps strands around her
fingers in the most alluring fashion. Men use their stance and arm
movements to be alluring. No woman can resist a man who is
standing across the room with a confident and authoritative
stance.

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

11

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Both men and women will also use slightly more seductive
methods to draw attention to the mouth, perhaps playing with a
fork or spoon or by accentuating words as he or she is speaking.
Crossing of the arms or a similar stance draws unavoidable
attention to the chest area. Women are likely to show off their
cleavage while men focus on their strong pectoral muscles.
Crossing, uncrossing and re-crossing of the legs, draws attention...
well, you get the idea. This is true for both men and women.
Because humans are sexual creatures, it is inevitable to not draw
focus to the genital region when it is literally being "flashed" in
front of a person.
Playing with your
shoes implies you are
not planning an exit
any time soon. And,
last but certainly not
least, a great smile can
create a bat signal-like
affect on every man
or women within a
mile. The smile is one
of the most universal
features that the
opposite sex is
attracted to.

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

12

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Male Body
Language

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

13

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Male Body
Language

o how do men flirt with body language? Blessedly, men are

much less complicated than women, so this should be easy
for women to understand if they would just pay attention.

Men are far more animal-like in their flirting. First of all, when a
man shows interest in a woman, his grooming habits instantly
improve. It may seem bizarre to women who adore grooming, but
for a man it is far less necessary in their minds. If a man is putting
the energy into looking nice, it is for a reason. Next, men who are
looking to flirt will attempt to impress by standing up straighter
or taller and sticking out there chest to look more impressive.
A man may also attempt to pull in his stomach and keep his
hands on his hips. When a man is interested in another woman,
he will tend to look at her for longer than what is considered
normal time frame. He will glance at the subject of his interest
frequently and may smile quite consistently. He will more likely
Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

14

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

than not make an attempt to touch the woman in whatever least

obvious fashion he can.

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

15

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Dismissive Body
Language

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

16

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

Dismissive Body
Language

ow we have gotten through the easy stuff to do. The

more difficult is what to avoid doing if you are genuinely
interested. Luckily, most of these are not gender specific,

but more of an international sign. Picking lint off of your clothes,

messing with your collar, checking your watch or inspecting
fingernails are all strong signs of boredom for both men and
women. With actions like that, you are telling the other person
that you would rather be doing these dull tasks than continuing
the conversation further. Placing the head in their hands is also a
sign of boredom.
Men and women should remember to keep their hands on the lap
or on the table in front of them if they are sitting; or comfortably
hanging by their side if they are not. Tapping of the nails or
fingers on things is also a big indicator of boredom, and is also
dreadfully annoying. Keep annoying habits still during
Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

17

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

conversation. Additionally, do not fidget with things laying

around as well. Whatever is sitting on the table or any other place
should remain there if not in use for some purpose other than
simply being tampered with to feed nervous habits.
Stroking the chin while looking at someone implies judgment.
Women are likely to be more in tune to this than men are. That
act of decision making also involves the narrowing of the eyes and
implies an act of dislike. It creates a scowl-like look and is a
universal look of anger. Some
people instinctively narrow
their eyes as a thinking
action, but that send the
wrong signal. Looking down
while you are around other
people is a strong indicator of
disinterest. Eye contact is the
key to relay the fact that you
are interested. Leaning away
from someone you like is also
a sign of boredom and
disinterest. This sends a
wrong message, particularly sitting around a table.
Whether you are a man or a woman, if you genuinely enjoy the
person you are sitting with, make an effort to remain in a close
proximity during conversation. But be leery of body language
Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

18

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

triggers that could send the wrong message. For example,

touching your face, particularly your nose, is an act indicating
deception. Covering your mouth is a common action for people
who are lying. Do your best to keep your hands away from the
mouth. Another lie-related action is faking a smile. This too is a
sign of deception. It's also quite noticeable. Don't make this
obvious mistake. It will not be perceived well.
Not directly facing the person you are speaking to also indicates a
lack of interest. It is also incredibly disrespectful. Face forward
during a conversation and engage with the person with whom you
are speaking.
Crossing your arms tightly and in a hostile manner is a sign of
defensive resistance. Now I know I said that draws attention to
your chest in a flirting capacity, but it is a much more delicate
action in that sense. Pulling your arms tightly is a defense
mechanism and quite uncomfortable for everyone. Scratching the
back of your head is a sign of doubt and uncertainty. It is also
sometimes interpreted as lying.
Try to keep your hands clear of your face and head during
conversation. Slouching your shoulders is an indicator of low selfesteem. This is not even remotely attractive. Keep your shoulders
perked up to show an attitude strong with self confidence.
Don't touch your genitals. This may seem obvious, but it is a
constantly-made error. Men tend to make this error more often

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

19

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

than women for some reason. First of all, resting your hands on,
grabbing, scratching, guarding or any other strange action will
lose you any self respect before you even have a chance to earn it.
This is also a strong sign of a guarded person or a person afraid to
be vulnerable. As if that is not enough, it is just plain disturbing.
Try to keep your hands to your side. Wiping your sweaty hands
onto your clothes is also disturbing, but a frantic and nervous
action as well. Do you best to relax and calm down until the other
person stops talking or engage a cocktail napkin in a very stealth
manner if possible.
A clear indicator of discomfort is sitting on the edge of your chair.
It easily causes others to become uncomfortable too. Keep your
tush firmly planted in the chair as the engineer intended it to be.
Repeatedly shifting body weight from foot to foot is also an

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

20

Bonus Report
Body Language Secrets That Instantly Turn A Man's Attraction Dial

indication of discomfort. This is a quick way to kill a

conversation. Keep your feet firmly planted only shifting feet ever
2 to 3 minutes at most to avoid driving your conversation partner
awkwardly and rapidly away.
- usually indicates stress, impatience or
boredom. Monitor your habits and practice keeping your limbs
at rest.
a pen, paper
ball, etc. This is another sign of anxiety. It can also be
interpreted as a lack of preparedness. It's always best to keep your
hands comfortably at rest when you're in the presence of others.
Now that you have some clear guidance as to what your body
language is really saying when you are interacting in a flirtatious
way, be sure to consider the next time you find a member of the
opposite sex you are interested in. Also, use this guide to be able
to better able to decipher the messages the other persons' body
language is sending. With this information, body language will no
longer be the secret and nearly impossible to decipher code that it
was before. You can enhance your communication, your
understanding and your level of attraction simply by engaging
them to your advantage.

Justin Dean Say Goodbye To Loneliness

21