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The concept of assertion was simplified to saying no and getting your own way or
to standing up for your rights and getting where and what you want in bed, at work on the
social scene, and at home (Smith-1975)
Today assertion training is viewed by scientific and Professional comminities as a
powerful but limited techniqe that can be tremendous benefit to individuals when used by
well-trained clinicians who are coglisand of the complexities involved in helping people
achieve their behavior-chance goals.At is really a prototypical intervention fort he modern
world,vanded, while unneccesary in earlier times, dramatical the needs of people todays
technological chaotic, and unstablle environment.
Socrates argued that all voluntary acts were rational, in the sense that the person had
good reasons fort he action,and that it was impossible for a person to respond voluntarily in
ways antogonistic to good reasons.
2-WHAT IS ASSERTIVENESS?
Assertiveness is about self confidence which means having a positive attitude towards
yourself and others.It means being honest with yourself and others; and it is about respecting
yourself and others. When you are self confident and your behavior is assertive, you are open
to others and their views eventhough they may be different from your own.
Being assertive is essentially about respecting yourself and others. It is about having a basic
belief that your opinions, beliefs, thoughts and feelings are as important as anybody elses
and that this goes for other people to.It is about being in touch with your own needs and
wants but contrary to some misconceptions about assertive behaviour.It is not about going for
what you want at any cost.
Identify the areas in which you lack self esteem, and find techniques which suit you
which you can use to build yourself up
Be aware of negative messages you gie yourself and change them into posiive ones
Identify what you are good at, what skills you have, what your achievements are,your
qualities.Make a list.
Tell yourself you are unique individual and that you owe it to yourself to do what is
right for you
3-TYPES OF ASSERTIVENESS
Passive behaviour
The person who behaves non-assertively in a situation does not assert his/her basic rights,
instead he/she allows others to infringe upon them.
Assertive behaviour
The person who behaves assertively in a situation asserts his/her basic rights.He/she takes
responsibility for them whilst recognizing and respecting to other persons basic rights.
Aggresive behaviour
The person who behaves aggresively in a situation asserts his/her basic rights at the expense
of the other persons rights.He/she does not respect that other person has rights.
Manipulative behaviour
The person who behaves manipulatively has a negative opinion of himself/herself and of
others.His/her behaviour is self destructive and destructive towards others.The person is
usually depressed and demotivated.
I am not ok,you are ok-----non-assertive behaviour
I am ok,you are ok-----assertive behaviour
Iam ok,you are not ok------aggressive behaviour
I am not ok,you are not ok---manipulative behaviour.