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Gently tipping the balance
By Dr Leow Chee Seng, Certified Stress Consultant Professional (US)
Risk indicators
Clues to suicide plans may be detected in overt
behaviour such as secretiveness, a sudden decision
to make a will or verbal statements. For example,
a suicidal individual may say, “I don’t want to go on
living” or “I want to end it all.”
Usually, these are situational in nature and have an In killing himself, he is taking back control, getting
escalating history that leads the individual to feel he in the last word. And, if the real life situation has left
has no other way out. In their minds, the situations the individual feeling totally helpless, the idea of
had reached breaking point and they see no other going out of control and teaching other people a
way out except death, or the threat of death. lesson in the process can be strangely appealing.
Biological causes
Internal causes of suicidal behaviour are much more
complex and harder for the average person to see
than external causes. The most common internal
causes of suicide or suicidal
behaviour include clinical depression, psychiatric
disorders or chemical imbalances.
Once the patient has agreed to weigh the pros have to go through another period of turmoil and
and cons of suicide, the therapist would elicit the prolong his plan.
“reasons for living” and “reasons for dying.” Although
patients might forget their reason for living, we Being alert
can guide them by asking them to think of happy When dealing with depression, hopelessness and
moments. fear, it is difficult to know where the bad feelings
end and the real risk begins. If your friend exhibits
The next step is to draw two columns on a sheet of two or more of these warning signs in a short period
paper. The therapist and patent can then list reasons of time, it is best that you try to help.
in favour of living that were valid in the past. The
therapist proceeds to ascertain which of the “past” This does not mean you should take the weight of
reasons for living are valid in the present or, at the their world upon your shoulders, but it does mean
very least, might be valid in the future. you should alert other people to the possible risk.
It is interesting to note that the suicidal patient has Go to your other friends, your at-risk-friend’s family, a
often nullified these positive factors in his life which trusted teacher or counselor. Just like your friend – who
he has either forgotten, ignored or discounted their does not have to go through a difficult time alone – you
value. do not need to try to save your friend on your own.
The therapist should also recognise that it may It is impossible to know for sure if a person who seems
be quite painful for the patient to reconsider his sad or who has changed for the worse is at a real risk
decision to kill himself. The patient may have of committing suicide. If you fear your friend may
undergone enormous turmoil before arriving at attempt suicide, you should get some outside help
his decision to terminate his suffering by suicide; and guidance from people who are better able to get
and reopening the question may mean that he will your friend the help he or she really needs. OH!